If you find yourself wondering why you can’t find a good man, I’m here to tell you, it’s most likely your own darn fault.
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The last thing a single mother and her children needs is another heartbreak, or worse, another divorce. If you are looking for a man to help you raise your amazing children, the ultimate gifts that God can ever give you, than why would waste your precious time and babysitting budget spending time with a man who can’t even be a dad to his own kids? As I spend more time in this era of single motherhood I may add some more NEW rules to dating for single moms. If you are a year out of your divorce or end to your relationship, and you’re ready to date, and commit to following these NEW rules. God’s word tells men to “love their wives as Christ loves the church.” I think there’s a subtle, but significant difference to the “respect” addressd here. If I’m to do as God commands, then I must be willing to sacrifice all that I am – as Christ did in his time on Earth – for her. This may be a subtle difference in some minds, but I was talking to a friend of mine about this and he quickly had the same thoughts I did. That’s not to say you can’t look for a gentleman who will treat you well, open doors for you, offer to help in an appropriate way and keep his hands to himself – you have every right to seek that behavior. Ascribing to all men the same qualities as some of the examples cited here is probably not helpful to the cause of finding “Mr. I think her examples are just a guideline to give women an idea of what to look for and not necessarily the exact same things. If that man doesn’t figure to open the door for you without you telling him, he’s not worth your time as a single mom! I won’t mention how many years you have steadily made a very positive impact in my life, but I can say that you were still married and I was fresh off of a divorce and already burned out on the rampant Bull Crap that came along with dating. My daughter that was just 3 when we divorced has 1 year of High School left, so I’m sort of pre-prepping for life without a child in the house which may or may not mean getting back in the dating scene. Sorry for the long winded comment, but I now read your posts as a father that plans to use your shared wisdom to properly empower his daughter. Other than church talk to us at the gym, sitting on the bleachers of our kids games alone, sitting alone at school functions, we are at costco, the carpool line, chick-fil-a… we like to be acknowledged!
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Honestly, I cannot imagine any woman (single mothers or just single women) would want to date any of the above.
The question I keep asking myself is this – What happened to the real people on this planet? Of course, I do realise that just because I have not had a pleasant experience with dating (or marriage), it doesn’t mean it is all that bad for everyone else out there. No, we will not date guys who just throw money at us and think that we can be bought like everything else he has acquired in his life. As independent single mothers have been doing it on their own for so long, the last thing they would do is become clingy. Many people gripe about how marriage is a sham because they have lost faith in the concept of marriage, and the high divorce rates do not help either. Personally, I still believe in marriage but I do not believe that marriage is the only way for two people to be together.
High divorce rates or low marriage rates should not imply that marriage is an outdated concept. At my age (and after all that I have experienced), I want something more fulfilling than casual flings, trivial dates and meaningless fucks. Everyone loves waking up next to the person they care about, and knowing that this is the same person who would stand by them no matter. Despite fears, doubts and reservations, there will be a time and place when the broken pieces of one’s life can shaped into a masterpiece. Basically, its a challenge, of putting up with each other’s weaknesses and virtues, some outweighing the other.
The only way not to make the same mistake is to test the depth with one leg only.and leave all options open.
Now it’s time for me to take my own advice, and be courageous enough to write an honest blog about dating as a single mom. This all started while I was sitting on a plane listening to music trying to figure out what my next blog topic will be and “Better Man” from Pearl Jam comes on my playlist. We have allowed dudes to mistreat us, use us, spit us out, and even come back when they are lonely. We have become so needy in our Cinderella complex that we are willing to accept dishonest behavior if we think the dude can financially support us.
It was a revolutionary book designed to get us the most treasured possession that all single women want… THE RING! These rules are designed to get us the NEW most treasured possession that all single women want… RESPECT! I know that life is busy, and texting is convenient, but if you truly want respect from a man do not say “yes” to a text that says, “hey want to meet up after work tonight?” Really? Unfortunately, I have come to realize that men are surprised when a woman waits for him to open the door. Isaac was going about his everyday, ordinary life…walking through the fields and MEDITATING (Genesis 24). I am committed to follow the NEW rules for my own sake, the sake of my children, for the man God has for me, and most importantly for my first love, Jesus!
I’m not speaking for all of us, just those of us who don’t like being painted with the same broad brush that others who share our gender can rightfully be colored with. If you actually look at the passage in Ephesians, “respect” is commanded of wives for their husbands, not the other way around.

There is a large sense that ladies can, as you suggest, do it to themselves by worshipping the ring they’re chasing instead of building an attractive character within themselves. Speaking for myself, treating me like an uncivilized dolt and “expecting” me to act in a certain way is unattractive and belittling. The thing about blog posts to remember is that even when they are establishing a set of rules, they are still little snapshots of a time and place that has already passed. I decided to stop dating and spend that energy and time serving God through the gifts I’ve been given (mostly musical talent). God placing your blog post in my path at that exact moment was nothing short of divine intervention.
Chivalry is alive, it’s just been squashed by a culture that portrays women as strong, independent and self-sufficient.
Of all the women in a church setting how does a single guy who’s not a player, regularly attends church, has tried the Internet thing and yet doesn’t have the big circle of friends go about meeting women like yourself who are looking to date? Get that lonely feeling you mentioned, I have met hundreds of wonderful Christ centered women, they are more like sisters than potential partners, but all of those dark moments from before I was active in ministry are like long lost memories.
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People will drift apart when they do not do anything to salvage their relationship, or what’s left of it.
At this day and age, there are many ways for two people to design their own relationship and marriage. But I do not believe that love is some whimsical chemically induced euphoria that strikes a person at first glance. Because I know exactly how I would feel when I’ve opened up myself to someone and given myself to him, but he turns out to be a**hole. After this last relationship of mine, I learned a lot about myself and what I’m willing to accept and not accept. The bed of thorns can only be converted to a bed of roses based on understanding, mutual respect, give and take, love and keeping the romance on going ( not easy over time). Only when reasonably sure (not 100%), one should make that BOLD move and make every effort to make the relationship work. However, after finding the one you want to be with – a whole new set of challenges do arise. Sometimes, they need to see or hear the actual words such as you really like them and want to be with them. This is not a watered down blog with sweet advice to make your online dating profile get lots of hits.
Then, after that maybe we’ll get the second most treasured possession, that ring in a blue box with a white bow. Half of women admit to being abused in their lifetime, and those are the ones that admit to it. It’s a regular occurrence to be “propositioned” and it’s not just at establishments where we don’t belong, you know the ones. No matter how well you cook for him, no matter how great your kids are together, no matter how much you give of yourself to him.
If we band together, we will teach these dudes pretty quick what it takes to be with our fabulous selves.
We already belong to someone, and He has to come first in all areas of life especially relationships. I will choose to act chivalrous because it’s part of my character, not because someone is tapping her foot on the floor waiting for me to act accordingly. I read the blog and thought that yes, you should not accept less than the respect that you deserve, but to sit there and wait until the guy figures out that he is supposed to open the door for you???
And I have to tell you, I never saw that advisor after he gave me that advice, but looking around now and thinking back, I got a tremendous boat, that parks often in some tremendous marinas and there’s always great music, strong community and lots and lots of lives being enriched and being brought to and back to living for Christ all because I decided to not worry about dating and re-focused those efforts to music ministry time.
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He should not be surprised when it happens, because he has sealed his fate by his own actions. Even today, many women or men stay in their loveless marriage for the sake of their children.
Most of all, we as a society should allow individuals to define their own terms of marriage, love and dating. I know I’ll be the one crying in the shower, scrubbing myself raw to cleanse myself from every stain of him. One learns to accept each other as a spouse, as though it is written in the heavens, one learns to love, learns to be a parent and learns to accept weaknesses. That said, when one is young and does not understand the full meaning or value of love, how can one love that deeply? That said, I’ve done a lot of dating since my divorce, and I found it generally a very positive experience (with only a few hiccups here and there!). I think in any relationship – be it married or not, as long as two people have decided to be together, they should not stop dating and courting one another. A lot of people, men and women, should value themselves more and respect themselves first so they can make wiser dating decisions. I stayed up in prayer, making a game plan for my babies (if 11 and 4 are considered babies, well, in my book forever my babies they’ll be) and myself, and reading several more of your letters to single mothers.
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All self-respecting independent single mothers celebrate the fact that they are no longer dependent on a man for anything – especially, money. However, in the past – there were not as many distractions and the options available were not really a second chance at life. However, I’d never really get to know the calibre of the chef or get deep and personal with one particular dish.
This is what we women do, because we’d feel totally violated by our own stupid mistake.
I enjoyed meeting a variety of good women, increased in my personal confidence, and learned a lot about women and about myself in the process. Last time I checked fairy tales were just that, make believe, and there’s no such thing as the Fairy God Mother to wave her magic wand, say a little “bippity boppity boo”, and whisk us off to the castle to meet Prince Charming.
If you allow yourself to be an object, used, and cast away, then they will think they can treat all women that way, and we will all get our heart broken.

I recently had a long conversation with a trusted male friend of mine about this phenomenon. I want to focus less on finding a man who will follow my rules and more on finding a man who is loving and giving naturally, out of the goodness of his heart.
Glad to get insight from both sides and have to believe there are more men out there in this world with G-d on their side and the character that Yeshua commanded. The first step in our adult leader date is very simple – are with the Internet, and you automatically will be connected with sex tonight partnership. I remembered the day I knew in my heart that it was all over for my ex-husband and myself when we stopped being there for one another during the hard times. Its over time that one starts to see weaknesses in one another, Yes the greater portion of the iceberg that was hidden.Over time, things can turn sour. Actually finding someone you want to be with, though, is a bit more challenging, I think it can take a lot of time, patience, and even luck.
Glad you are one of those guys who cherish his wife, marriage and who is willing to work at making your marriage a happy one.
I admit to being hit by someone I was dating, and I am embarrassed to tell you, I allowed the relationship to continue. I was asking him if I somehow looked like the kind of woman that would say yes to this scenario. A NEW rule follower makes plans with your girlfriends no later than Wednesday for your weekend.   That way, you can say “no I have plans, and I prefer you personally invite me on a date.” Make that dude make a plan in advance, over the phone!
If you are that particular about gentlemanly behaviors in a potential mate, then be a respectful grown woman about it and tell them upfront.
But I will not be remarrying for a long time… until I know he is the one God has chosen for me to be with. The next step is just as simply however a small little more of your time and effort take becomes. No free bird would deliberately put herself back into a cage, no matter how gilded and bling-out that cage may be. If you need your TV hung up in one of those wall mounts, and this dude steps up, brings over his tool set, and volunteers to do it for you, don’t you get all strong independent woman on him. I mean, I have been out and the rain come down like a bucket was pouring water over us, the date will walk with me to my side, open my door first. I know it’s not easy for you to open up and share your weaknesses or moments that you are so vulnerable with the world, but know without a doubt that God is using your story to change the stories of so many around you. Yeah i’m almost 41 and I too have been praying for God to bring me someone special, so I support you in your stand.
I like to know what made them the way they are today, without them feeling the need to hide. Somehow they did manage and the guy eventually moved out to live with her, as she has kids and he didn’t. It’s tempting to see “what else is out there”, but girl if you have a man committed to you, stay off those sites. I fell madly in love too soon after my divorce with a man that had no interest in ever getting married. It’s time to be a little vulnerable and allow him to show you the kind of helpful loving man that he is.
She would rather turn in her grave than have her wings clipped, stuffed and hung like a trophy over some fire-place.
If someone cannot be there for you during the tough times, that in itself is a telling sign.
My friend explained it’s normal for him to go out in the single world and be propositioned by women. He is the one that will be the example in your home around your sons or daughters on how to treat a woman. I do not want to waste precious time in shallow, superficial B.S, only to later find out that he is not what I imagined him to be. Deep in my heart, I know that with the right person, the world does seem brighter and extra special.
He said that women in their 30s and 40s are the most aggressive, and explained they even get angry when he says, “no”He went on to say, that men in their 30s and 40s now don’t know what to do when women aren’t offering themselves to them on a silver platter, so they end up asking for it in inappropriate ways. Don’t you want them to see you treated like a lady?  A NEW rule follower expects to be courted, properly. If I can’t respect the man, I am not with him, so if I am with him, I do respect him. Eventually, he took himself out of our marriage as well by not being there with me, or for me.
He touches you and it hurts, it’s O-V-E-R, and hopefully it ends with a knock on the door from the police. When I had the opportunity to move his response, “I’m not ready for you in my backyard.” Done. I know the answers, I have told myself all of the things stated in this blog entry, yet, I stubbornly continued down the path of self-destruction. It is a fact that if a woman never tells a man anything he will use her and treat her like property. Stop allowing yourself to be used as a toy instead of respected like the amazing woman that you are.
Women just guide the men a little to let them know we are strong, know what we want and how to get it. I seriously damaged my healing from my divorce by allowing myself to be in a relationship that had no future. Time to break these modern chains and return to the era where a man was a man if he first loved the Lord and then his wife, then and only then can he be the man that God designed for me.
So, until the day that God sees fit to send his perfectly designed-for-me man with a servants heart for Him, I will patiently wait.
I will seek Him daily, put my energy into the callings he has placed on my life, and raise my children to seek Him first and I know He will provide for us exactly what He sees fit. Thank you again for this piece, God knew that two years after you wrote it that this particular single mom of two amazing kids would need to read exactly this at this exact moment, so thank you for following His calling for you and sharing this.

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