If you want your ex boyfriend to miss you (after your breakup) then you definitely came to the right place. Now, I know that’s a bit of a shocking statement to make especially when you consider the state of the “get your back niche” these days. That everyone who comes to the site to read, watch, or comment should be helped and attended to. Now, throughout this article you may notice that a few of our team members chime in and offer little tidbits of advice on top of the advice that I am dishing out.
You are still learning from me, Chris Seiter, it’s just that I always think five heads are better than one. So, since you are inquiring about how you can make your ex miss you this page is going to be focused solely on that. So, lets do a little role playing here and assume that you end up taking the advice I teach on this page to heart and successfully make your ex boyfriend miss you.
Don’t get me wrong, you will absolutely have to make your ex miss you if you want any chance of winning him back but it isn’t going to be enough alone. However, simply getting your ex boyfriend to miss you is essentially like trying to put a puzzle together with just one piece.
But you are probably getting bored of hearing me talk about Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO aren’t you?
One of the things that I have always found fascinating when it comes to researching breakups is the scientific data that I come across. And perhaps that’s a little strange for the profession that I have chosen since a lot of getting an ex back is all about believing in an outcome that hasn’t occurred yet. Nevertheless, I think it would be wrong of me to try to teach you something without having proof it works which is why I find the scientific research done on breakups so fascinating. In 2005, psychologist Art Aron, neurologist Lucy Brown, and anthropologist Helen Fisher all teamed up to do an interesting study on individuals who had just recently gone through a breakup.
They decided to have the individuals put a brain imaging tool on and then showed them pictures of their ex. The scientists were trying to determine what was happening in the brain of the people who just went through the breakup. The part of the brain that lit up was the same part of the brain that is commonly present in drug addicts who are going through withdrawal. Facebook Creeping = Spying on an exes Facebook profile after a breakup to see what they are up to. Well, it means that there is a nearly 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is going to come strolling by your Facebook profile assuming you are still friends there.
But again, I still feel this incredible need to provide you with overwhelming statistics before I specifically talk about the advantage you have. Now, does that necessarily mean that if your ex falls into the 71% category that he is going to be missing you?
No, remember, this statistic is basically just saying that 71% of people think about their exes too much. But it gets even better, 60% of people who are married or dating say that their ex is on their mind too much. Well, I think the important distinction that has to be made is if they are thinking about their ex TOO MUCH or just a little bit. Hell, I am sure even my own wife has had this happen from time to time but it’s not like she can turn her mind off. But there is a definite difference between having your mind take a small trip down memory lane and thinking about an ex all day every day. So, if your ex is thinking about you too much then you can ultimately use that to your advantage, right?
Well, there is still one more thing that I think we need to cover before I can give you the strategy you should implement and this is something that is going to be important for you to understand because it’s going to directly affect your chances for making him miss you. Without a doubt the number one factor that determines whether a man will miss you or not is always going to be your past relationship with him.
Now, I am not like those other relationship experts out there that will tell you what you want to hear 100% of the time.
If you had a horrible relationship with your ex your chances of having him miss you is going to be lower. Ok, one more thing to talk about before we can start getting down to the actual strategy of making an ex boyfriend miss you. Did you know that you have a “secret advantage” if you were actually the one to initiate the breakup with your ex? We have already established above that you have an advantage in the fact that most people say that they still think about their ex too much but when you add in the fact that you initiated the breakup your advantage is going to be a little more distinct. When I get to talking about the no contact rule (really soon) I am going to talk about psychological reactance. Psychological reactance theory basically states that when you take away someones options to do something their attraction to gain their freedom to get that option back increases. Well, now that, Ricky’s freedom to have that toy has been taken away what does he want more than anything?
So, by breaking up with your ex you actually increase the chances that he will miss you because his freedom to have you has been taken away.
Easy, it’s hard because I am the one that has to come up with the game plan for putting a “cheating couple” back together. So, like I said above, you probably aren’t going to have this secret advantage if you broke up with your ex if he cheated on you.
No, Esther Perel, has dedicated pretty much her whole life to studying infidelity and she has found that oftentimes men and women who cheat are still in love with their partner.
I am going to take it as if there is a fundamental problem with your relationship because in my mind a man who is fully satisfied with his relationship will be excited and engaged in his sex life with his partner.
Nevertheless, if you broke up with your ex because he cheated then you aren’t going to have this small little advantage that I am talking about. And to be honest I can’t think of situation that screams “taking a mans freedom to have you away” more than this one. If you broke up with your ex boyfriend when he didn’t want you to break up with him then you have definitely left him with the impression that you are a very rare commodity. You will find that the more scarce you are the more attractive you will be to men in general.
I mean, something tells me that you wouldn’t find a diamond so attractive if you go buy it for a dollar at the dollar store. Because a portion of the success stories that I had recorded didn’t give me much information. Not really deep enough for me to determine what that particular person did to succeed in getting their ex back, huh?
So, if you were to ask my opinion on how many of the successes used the no contact rule I would put the number closer to 90%. You are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook or Google your ex for a specific period of time. Hell, all you have to do is visit one of my “no contact rule” pages to see just how many women are struggling with it. No, you care about the psychology behind why the no contact rule can make an ex boyfriend miss you, right? The question = Chris, what is the number one mistake you see people making after a breakup. I mean, put yourself in your ex boyfriends shoes for a second assuming that you were bugging the hell out of him after a breakup with you. Would you find it attractive if someone you didn’t have feelings for anymore was bugging you every five seconds trying to convince you to do something you didn’t want to do? Truthfully, I watch the movie at least once a year and you know what causes me to watch it? By not giving your ex a chance to miss you, via the no contact rule, you are shooting yourself in the foot.
With psychological reactance in play, your Ex is secretly thinking, “I want what you say I can’t have.
I have this theory that the harder you make it for him to get you back the more he will appreciate you when he has you. The harder you make it for him to get you back the more he is going to appreciate you once he gets you back. And the no contact rule can provide that difficulty for him to succeed in getting you back.
Now, if you are confused as to what this is let me give you a quick history of social media.
So, if you don’t know my wife she is in charge of our YouTube channel and our marketing experts. Well, one day she decided that we should be featured on “Ted Talks” so she started trying to network with some of the people over at “Ted Talks” and she managed to locate one of the person’s Facebook profiles.
So, rather than asking me to reach out directly she decided that since this person was a man it would be better if she reached out since she knows she is a very beautiful woman. Anyways, what do you think happened to her after she changed her profile picture on Facebook from our child to a sexy looking picture of her.
I am going to teach you my two best methods for catching a mans attention via social media.
Now, even though this picture isn’t bad it isn’t earth shatteringly amazing which is what I should be going for. This is the kind of picture that I want you to be posting to your social media profile as your profile picture. So, I guess what I am saying is that you should hire a professional photographer to take your picture. Often times it’s the things that make us step outside our comfort zone that yield the best results. But when I would spy on her Facebook profile and see that she wasn’t depressed it would drive me nuts. Anyways, one trend that I began to notice with a lot of my success stories was the fact that the women who ended up succeeding were actually completely moved on from the break up and living successful lives.


Anyways, I kept seeing this phenomenon pop up again and again so when I did an audit of my success stories last month I learned that a lot of women who had actually completely moved on from their exes were able to get him back. In this section we are going to look at a number of things that you can specifically do to make him miss you while in the midst of the Frank Sinatra Effect. When it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back you have to accept the fact that there are a certain amount of factors that are completely out of your control.
I explained that she didn’t look like that back when I knew her but now that I saw this new and improved version I wanted her immediately.
During the day of the date I had reached out to her to ask if we were still on (BIG MISTAKE) and got no response…. It was starting to become clear that I was going to get stood up if I went to the restaurant but I figured I would give it one more try. If you were to ask me what I thought one of the biggest mistakes that I see women engaging in are I would definitely have to say that becoming to obsessed with their ex is at the top of the list.
In order to truly “move on, without moving on” you can’t be too worried about what your ex is doing. I haven’t talked a lot about this yet because maybe I am trying to save something for my book. If you really want to make the most of the Frank Sinatra effect I am going to teach you an amazing strategy.
Basically if you want to utilize the Frank Sinatra effect to the fullest I recommend that you try to maximize these three areas of your life. What you are trying to do here is find a perfect balance between your health, wealth and relationships. I am a guy and let me tell you that I do not find it attractive when someone, who after a breakup, sits on the couch all day and eats ice cream. Here is the kicker though, a few days later when I logged on Facebook I found that she wasn’t quite as devastated as I thought. It probably won’t go over too well if he checks on your Facebook profile and sees you making out with three different guys. In this example I am going to show you a specific text message that is meant to make your ex a little jealous.
The question how to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want to Kiss You has been asked 1012 times by our users. After a break up we’ve all had that insecure question floating in our mind: does my ex miss having me around and miss being with me? I know I’ve asked myself this question after the end of many relationships, whether I wanted to get back together with the guy or not. A good rule of thumb though would be, if you have no intention of wanting this person back in your life, it’s best to just let it go and put your efforts to better use elsewhere. There’s a tactful way of bringing up old memories that will make your ex miss you without going over the top and rehashing all the major events of your relationship. Nothing is less sexy than desperation, and when it comes to relationships no one misses having someone around who can’t seem to stand on their own two feet. Don’t beg to spend time together or come across that you have nothing else going on in your life. Going along with not being desperate, staying positive and projecting a positive and happy image of yourself into the world will remind your ex what he or she originally fell in love with. Rather, post pictures of you looking happy and put up posts that show you are living your life regardless of your current relationship status. At some point in your relationship, the time you spent together went from something you looked forward to doing and became an obligation; it changed from something you missed and looked forward to, and became something that was expected and a chore to get a night off from. Before you even attempt to make your ex jealous lets talk a little about what you want your ultimate goal to be.
What I am going to do now is give you a brief overview of how to properly use jealousy and then I will talk about each aspect in-depth. The No Contact Rule- You are not allowed to contact your ex in any way after the breakup for a minimum of 30 days.
Alright, now that you have an idea of what the no contact rule is I am going to talk a little bit about the things you can do during the no contact period that can will your ex jealous. I get a lot of emails every single day (random fact- I have 9 unanswered emails in my inbox just from today) and one of the most common mistakes I see from women is the fact that they don’t do anything at all during the no contact period.
Look, if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous I seriously want you to spend those 30 days NOT thinking about him. Disclaimer: Some of the things on this list WILL make you uncomfortable but I am not in the business of being nice for the sake of being nice I am trying to give you advice that will help make your ex jealous and hopefully put you in a position to where you can get him back.
If you are an avid reader of this site then you may be aware that I am very much in favor of going out on a date with someone new during the no contact period. Now, I am aware that you are looking for an exact step by step method for what you need to say to your ex but I am not going to get into that here because this page is supposed to only be about the ways you can make your ex jealous (I actually put together a guide about how you can use texting to get your ex back already.) What I will do is give you a few ground rules that you need to follow when contacting your ex. Showing that you have control of the conversation is very important for a number of reasons.
Well, luckily for you I have been on the receiving end of quite a few ungettable girls so I can tell you some of the tactics that they were able to use on me that proved to be pretty effective. There is a lot more to the story but as you can see she dominated the very first conversation we had. Bowing Out Of The Conversations By Not Responding- This is a pretty effective way to establish control. Since we are on the subject of texting lets talk a little about the most important type of text if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous, the jealousy texts.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
Inspite of being in the same team we managed to have a complete no contact for about 1 and a half months. After that i called him once to tell him that people are noticing it and we should at least be cordial.
My ex-boyfriend and I of six months broke up yesterday due to him cheating on me and lying about it the whole time.
Hello dear Chris ,you have helped me so much during my breakup, i used the no contact rule after my ex dumped me admitting he has no feeling for me anymore .after one exact month of no contact rule i unblocked him on whats-app ,he started messaging me straight away he said he misses me a lot and he felt my love during this absence thus he wants us back together , he also showed his jealousy though he is not been the jealous kind of men ,whenever he sees me online on whats-app he keeps asking me who are talking to ,are you seeing someone else, how could you move on like i don`t matter to you . We are long distance which complicates things but we had a long talk the other night and agreed it’s best that we part ways. Been reading your advice since day 1 of the of a two year relationship break up 3 months ago. Slideshare uses cookies to improve functionality and performance, and to provide you with relevant advertising. You will find that my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery is a lot different than the rest of my peers.
I mean, just the other day I was doing research on a forum and I saw hundreds of women NOT getting answered. Don’t be alarmed by that.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
So, without further ado, I give you the method in which you should employ to make your ex miss you. Oh, and one thing we are really good about here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is answering people’s questions. Just ask Veronika Lukacs who conducted the study as part of her Media Studies Masters thesis, in which she looked at how many people have admitted to “Facebook Creeping” on an ex.
So, this basically tells us that even if you are married you may still think about your ex too much.
He Can Break Up With You- Where your ex boyfriend actually is the one to initiate the break up.
You Can Break Up With Him- Where YOU actually are the one to initiate the break up with him.
And for a man to cheat on you generally means that the wasn’t fully satisfied with the relationship.
The no contact rule is without a doubt one of the most successful strategies for getting an ex back. If during that “period of time” you are contacted by your ex you are not allowed to respond.
Behavioral freedoms vary in importance, with some being highly important because they deal with critical survival.
In other words, the probability that your ex boyfriend is going to peek at your profile at some point post breakup is high. In other words, if we want to get featured anywhere popular she is in charge of making that happen.
You can potentially make your ex boyfriend one of those men and show him what he is missing out on by posting strategic pictures on your social media profiles. Here is my general rule of thumb, any picture that makes you look like you belong in a magazine is definitely the one you should have as your profile picture.
Now, for those of you who don’t want to step outside the comfort zone and hire a photographer I have one piece of advice to you.
I want this exact thing to unfold for you when your ex boyfriend snoops around your profile.
To me, teaching people to get back with their exes is my passion and in order for me to give people advice I need to understand the trends. However, when it comes to making him miss you there are a lot of things you can do that will improve your chances. The plan was that we were going to meet there and we would probably go for a walk after that. During your no contact period (which is when you should probably be in the Frank Sinatra mindset) make sure you don’t focus on your ex too much.
It is important to remember that the two of you broke up and while you may want him back you need to understand that rome was not built in a day and you won’t get him back in a day. She had posted pictures of her having fun with friends and basically having a really fun social life. Notice how in the example below you didn’t specify if your movie date was with a male or a female.


It’s human nature to want to know the affect you leave on people in your life, so it’s okay to want the person you care for to miss you, especially if you’re missing them.
It’s important to reach out every now and then and touch base with them to see how they are doing and update them on the happenings of your own life. Let them know you’re out there, and that you are there for them if they need or want you to be.
For example, send a text that lets them know you just saw their favorite movie is on TV so it made you think of them, or if you run into each other tell a funny story about somewhere you went that reminded you of something the two of you did together. By showing that you are independent and confident, spending time with you again will be more desirable to your ex, and they will start to miss you. Daily quotes of despair and posts that cry for attention are not the way to get your ex to miss you.
These positive attributes are attractive to the opposite sex and will make your ex miss your love for life and the fun times you had together before things turned sour. One reason relationships are so wonderful in the beginning is because we allow ourselves to miss each other by not spending every waking hour together. Sure, you were having stimulating conversations, laughed at each others jokes, had amazing sex, and worked hard to be the best version of yourself, but a key factor was that you didn’t spend every single night and day together. While it sounds harsh, this is a reality of a lot of relationships, and whether currently dating or trying to get back in your ex’s life, allowing yourself some distance from one another to let the feeling of wanting to be together again fester will help ignite the passion you felt early on. Particularly the ones you complained to, who consoled you, or who said bad things about your ex to help you get over them. Now, I can’t guarantee that the tactics on this page will make him jealous because lets be honest, your boyfriend is a human being and most human beings are impossible to control. BUT I do feel it is important to mention that if you came here looking for a way to get your ex boyfriend back you aren’t going to find it.
A married friend of mine once told me a little about the psychology behind a mans thinking and I happen to agree with him. If you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous for the sake of making him jealous then I don’t think this is the page for you. I want you to go down the checklist I am about to provide and address all of the things on it. In college, I began to notice a pattern between the girls I liked and the girls I didn’t like anymore. She basically has so much confidence that she reduces a guy into thinking that he can’t get her which really turns 85% of guys on. Remember, I am just going through my phone in the last six months and pulling out conversations with girls who I really really really liked.
The girl he was cheating with didn’t know i was his girlfriend because he told her that I was his ex.
He was very genuine the whole time and did say that the cheating was an extremely drunken hook up (basically blackout) and he thought he could just leave it be and move past it, but it started to eat him alive when he found out my sister had gotten cheated on. It wasn’t the easiest relationship, we fought quite a bit due to his drinking and I have a habit of trying to make him jealous so I feel wanted.
I said to him if he was him the guy in a certain place the day before that I had seen and that he looked good. My boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago and I have not had any contact with him, but I work with his mom and she and I last talked about him three nights ago (I don’t know if she repeated anything to him or not). Our chemistry is something else though and being with him feels so right but I don’t want to make bad decisions and not sure how to act now. So, that puts you in a pretty good place because many of you will find that it’s not going to take too much to get him to miss you. A few weeks ago I compiled all of my recorded success stories to try to determine any correlations that I could find between what the people who had actually won their exes back were doing that the people who were failing weren’t. Stephen Worchel (2004) suggested that these freedoms help define the individual’s self-identity. But lets take a trip to fantasy land (your favorite place in the world) and say that you successfully get your ex back. I am saying that this tactic (getting in shape) will be beneficial to you in not only making your ex boyfriend miss you but it will be beneficial in helping you with future relationships (if you have them.) How effective is this tactic? You basically leave it up to your ex to assume if you went to see a romantic movie with a guy or a girl. When bringing up old memories it’s crucial to stay away from anything that has a negative association to fights or conflicts in your relationship, otherwise they won’t miss you, instead they’ll end up remembering why the two of you didn’t work out. With that being said, I have seen many of the tactics outlined on this page work for many of the women I communicate with. It goes like this, most men forget how good they have it when they have been dating or married for an extended period of time.
I don’t want to go into too much detail here about it because I have done multiple in-depth posts about it already like this one. I want you to take a moment and imagine how you have felt when, in your previous relationships you caught wind that your ex went out on a date with a new girl. Now, this tactic was risky and only really worked on me because I clearly had feelings for the girl. A couple of things to note: this girl was probably the most attractive girl I have ever met.
I always felt like I wasn’t good enough and she would simply bow out of the conversations whenever she would like. So, many people have the opinion that cheating is cheating and is unforgivable, however now after talking to him I see he genuinely is hurt because he cried to me saying he missed his bestfriend, and he could not throw away our time together. He said to me that the guy was so good that he wasn’t him and that he was at home the day before.
Do you think I should start the no contact rule as of three nights ago in case he heard that I am still upset?
It gives both of you a “cool off period” to calm down from the breakup, it gives you the opportunity to improve yourself during the “cool off period” and it raises the chances that he will miss you.
Her active social life made me realize what I was missing out on and made me a little jealous and angry that she wasn’t as devastated. Of course, if you are going to use jealousy on your ex boyfriend it has to be done a specific way.
I was reading a relationship article about jealousy the other day from a pretty well known relationship coach.
So, if you want to make him jealous to bring out his protective and romantic side then this is the right page for that.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? I am actually talking about it in this section because I believe that going out on a date (even if you have no intention of actually dating the person) is best to do during the no contact period. Nevertheless, I was the one putting more effort into the conversation which meant she was in control. Every time i expressed it, it turned into a fight because every time i expressed myself, he would use that opportunity to bring up something he dislikes about me and it would eventually turn into a blame game and we would trace back to about 4-5 fights. Last week we had to see each other and ended up having a really fun time together and hooking up a few times, we both enjoyed our time together and I can tell he misses me, as I do him. His article basically went on to say that you should never use jealousy to try to get your ex back. IF you are looking for in-depth details and step by step guides to getting an ex boyfriend or husband back I would like to point you towards Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-Book.
Here is the kicker though, if a couple like the one I am describing (a man who is comfortable and not tending to his woman’s needs) go out to a bar and the woman starts flirting with other guys the dynamic will completely change.
Sure, he will be angry and sad but I promise you at the end of the day he is going to question why he ever let you go. However, if she doesn’t challenge me, intellectually or emotionally, I will lose interest. Anyways, she dominated the conversation so much that I literally felt like I had no chance so I just gave up even though I really liked her. Also, not that I think this is going to happen, but what if he contacts me before the NC period is up?
The truth of the matter is that the amount of free information that actually works is a rare commodity but I think I have done a pretty good job of leading the way in that regard. I have found that the rules I am about to describe are the most effective at making your ex a little jealous. All is fair, so I knew he had started to talk to other girls and I did the same by testing the waters with other guys. It worked because a week later he started messaging me telling me he made a stupid drunken mistake again and that this isn’t what he wanted. Anyways, this girl had a very pretty face but I am not afraid to say that she was a little… chubby and for me it took away from her looks.
If you use jealousy in a smart way it is almost guaranteed to bring up previous romantic feelings that your ex had for you. I still love my ex and want to be with him but I think he’s conflicted with his feelings. He says he still loves me but in a way it has changed because when he looks at me he sees all the hurt he has caused me and the mistake he made and he doesn’t know if he can forgive himself.
However, after agreeing to be friends, he found out other guys had been approaching me and he continued to get jealous and started yelling and saying mean things to me out of anger, saying I didn’t consider his feelings.
I said things for the sole purpose of just trying to make him jealous and I took it one step too far and he snapped. I just want to know if I have a chance at getting him back, and if so how do I go about it?
I would like to be with him again at some point as crazy as that sounds, and want to give the NC method a try.



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