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Believe it or not but there are actually a lot of different ways to discover why your ex boyfriend may be ignoring you.
In this article I am going to be helping you understand why your ex boyfriend is ignoring your numerous attempts to reach out and contact him.
If you have read my site then you would know I am a big fan of texting to get an ex boyfriend back. The main problem here is that if you are sending that many messages without any responses it makes you look totally desperate.
I want you to really notice here that in this example the other person is actually engaged in the messaging and that means it is ok to keep messaging them without seeming desperate or needy. The second really unattractive quality that women can display when texting too much is the fact that there is no chase involved. I hope you read the section above because this one is almost exactly the same except you are dealing with calling instead of texting. I used to think I was alone in this but I soon learned that other guys are exactly like me. Generally speaking, someone who is calling you a lot (back to back to back.) Has two types of news. Since you are an ex girlfriend of his I am betting that your call is going to be filled with emotion and bad news. Sadly I have personal experience with a girl calling too much and I can tell you there is nothing more unattractive and annoying.
Part of the problem that men have with women calling too much is that they know if they pick up the phone they are going to have to talk to a really emotional human being and while some men will get off on it most of us despise it.
Again, the one thing that all of this stuff (texting, calling, letters, emails) have in common is the fact that they are all actions taken out of desperation and que the Jaws music! Unfortunately, I don’t have much personal experience with ex girlfriends writing me too many letters or sending too many emails.
In the section above I talked about some of the main reasons that an ex boyfriend would ignore his girlfriend (desperation, neediness that whole thing.) I am not going to lie to you, in 85% of the cases everything I discussed above is the main reason that he would want to ignore you.
When men start ignoring you on purpose it is coming from a place of rage just because they know it will punish you. It is not something I am very proud of and I would handle that situation completely differently now but I wanted to prove to you that deep down all men are capable of something like that so it could be a reason that he is ignoring you. All I can tell you is that it is highly unlikely (but still likely) that your ex is ignoring you for this reason.
It might be possible that your ex boyfriend wants nothing to do with you anymore which is why he is ignoring you.
Anyways, the real warning sign that you can use to figure out if this is the reason your ex is ignoring you is to think back to your relationship and figure out the ways in which you wronged him. Realistically, the only way I would NOT talk to an ex girlfriend is if she wronged me in a horrible way.
I can honestly say that in all my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I have never encountered a situation where an ex boyfriend never talks to an ex girlfriend again. When your ex finally does contact you he can contact you the good way, the bad way or the ugly way (see what I did there ?? .) I am going to take a moment to explore each one. The first step to getting your ex boyfriend to respond to you in a positive manner is to implement the no contact rule. The first thing I want you to realize is that the general texts that you are used to sending aren’t good enough. Actually, to be honest, I have never talked about this text before so this is the first time I have ever made it live. Take notice how I included an innocent but pleasant memory from a past relationship in this example. Now, once he does respond positively you have accomplished your mission and he isn’t ignoring you anymore!
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. In the end of February , he decided to breakup with me saying that he wasnt sure and that he couldnt see any future on our relationship.I did the NC for 2 weeks , after that time, I texted him asking how he was and he replied after a day . I had been in a bumpy long distance relationship for about 3 years and a half, and last December I ask him to decide whether or not he wanted to continue our relationship. I’ve seen him each Thursday at a group event, when everyone leaves him and I have stayed in the parking lot for another 2 hours talking until 930pm. Later i realized that my friends were having fights over my situation, almost all the circle became tense without me knowing what is going on!!! If you want this to work then you better have a legitimate reason for wanting to get back together with your ex. As I am sure you have already figured out, men are quite complicated when it comes to relationships. They did not find you physically or emotionally attractive but cared enough about your feelings to not tell you to your face.
I will say that out of all the reasons I listed on this page this one gave me the most trouble.
A very popular topic here on our site except usually people ask about it if they were the ones who were cheated on.
Getting your ex boyfriend back is a very complicated subject that few are willing to dive into, luckily, I am one of those few. The next day he sent an neutral apology text but it was only after I told his mom abt it who said she had a word with him last night.
Right after that revelation he said he was sorry that He made me feel like that and we hugged.
I guess now, is it right for me to continue being cordial and also inviting him (not too much, but every now and then) out to do new things to build some new positive memories?
I guess I’m trying to give us both a positive aftertaste of the relationship between us.
Any advice for a somewhat unstable time because there is a big possibility that he’s hot this one moment and will be cold in a little bit. Thank you for replying ?? I wish there was an expanded section on what to do if you live with your ex.
From my last post, I initiate contact every now and then because I believe he still thinks it’s what he wants (that i need to do something for him to look at me). So, I’m not sure if NC is worth going back into at this point as it gives in to more damage?
It’s very hard with the flip flop, I was thankful that the talk we had yielded something positive like him telling me to stay longer and not move out. Well, to me it was too fast but not to blame him, he himself started everything so fast – he knew he liked me just after a few days talking, he fell in love with me before we were in an official relationship and he said that he loved me first after around a month in a relationship.
My ex and I have had a roller coster relationship for the last two years and have broken up numerous times.
But each time I talk about meeting so that we can talk about the problems because they were affecting our relationship, but he kept refusing and making up some excuse. I just wanted to show him that I’ve had enough of his treatment and I wanted him to treat me better (which I said in the breakup text).
In today’s episode we discuss exactly what you have to do if you want to increase the chances of getting your ex boyfriend back through social media.
Social media is one of the most effective weapons at creating interest within your ex boyfriend during the no contact rule so it is important that you don’t unfriend your ex boyfriend. The important thing to realize when you’re dealing with social media is the fact that it’s impossible to fully get your ex-boyfriend back with social media. The first thing I’m going to do, not just for you Ashe, but for everyone listening is to throw out the statistics. You say, “Hey, can I check out his profile?” She’s your best friend so she’s going to say yes.
I always hear those situations where a girl comes to my website and says, “My ex keeps posting these really morbid or depressing lyrics.
When I was reading this study, she said that one guy admitted to hacking into his ex’s Facebook account. If you flip the script and understand that, “There is a 90% chance that my ex is looking at my social media profile,” you can use social media as a weapon to get your ex back. The moment he pulled his mouse over the picture and clicked the like button, he knew that a notification was going to go to you and you would know that he liked your picture.
We’re going to talk a little bit about what you can do to increase your odds of influencing your ex to want to take you back through social media.
The first thing I want you to understand about influencing your ex on Facebook, or other social media, is that pictures are vitally important. You display that your ex can’t have you, that you’re having the time of your life without him. Did you know that 45% of the traffic that comes to Ex-Boyfriend Recovery are return visitors? If I was in your ex’s position, we broke up and I saw you making out with some other guy, the first thing I’m going to think is, “What a slut.” I will never want to talk to you again.
Everything that I’m talking about here is meant to get your ex to continually come to your Facebook profile.
Like I said, there is a 90% chance that your ex will look you up or check you out on Facebook.
I think everyone who has a Facebook account and is engaged in it logs on multiple times a day.
In my opinion, that’s the best way to use social media to your advantage when you’re trying to get your ex-boyfriend back. Also, he blocked me on FB, so that means he is still stalking my profile through someone else right? Either way probably means I don’t have a good chance of getting him back since he blocked my Facebook page,right?
So my ex has a private twitter profile, he unfriended me on fb, he had blocked me on snap chat but recently unblocked me which caused an unfortunate first contact since the NC rule.
I let him know that in order for me to get over him I need to delete all social media – Facebook, Snapchat, and unfollow on Instagram.
But if I ‘flipflop’ back and add him on snapchat am I going to look crazy and unstable? You have to unfriend those guys and wait basically, just be silent until your ex unblocks you. Long story short… my ex and I were dating for about two years but have known each other for about seven. Is it possible to get an ex boyfriend back if he has a high ego and would probably never ever ask to get back together again? I met a guy (32 years old) in Feb 2015… we had an amazing physical connection and went on several dates and were passionately intimate. A few month or so before the break up he posted a photo on Instagram of us looking very in love. I am on day 12 of NC… I have been posting natural looking pictures that show that I am happy and going out and doing things (hikes, spending time with my family, going to church, dinner with girl friends, pumpkin patch, even a pumpkin patch picture with a single boy who is my friend). I want to talk about a worse case scenario situation and what you should do if you are faced with it. For many visitors to this website being blocked by an ex is the absolute worst thing that can happen.
The truth is that I have seen hundreds of women be blocked by their exes and I never quite know what to say to them. Many of you who are avid readers of my site understand that the main purpose of this site is to help you get your ex boyfriend back. Well, winning an ex back is a very complex process (especially if you were blocked.) Of course, in an effort to bring you more value I put together an E-Book that you can follow step by step to achieve this goal.
However, the issue that you are running into is that he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons. Ok, a woman who visits this site and reads about the no contact rule will probably want her ex boyfriend back. The challenge that you are going to faced with is to determine if he is worth the effort required to turn his bad feelings into good feelings but more on that later. For now I would like to dive a little deeper into the mindset of a man who has blocked you. My point here is that what I talk about on this page may be hard to hear but it is going to prepare you and maybe get some light bulbs to go off. If you are wondering about my particular situation I wasn’t actually officially dating the girl I blocked. Here is the main point I am trying to make about your ex boyfriend blocking you in this instance. It hurts because every time he does his feelings for you surface and maybe your relationship was very painful to him. No matter what there are always going to be those ex boyfriends out there that will hold things against you and look for revenge. One thing that we already know is that a man who blocks you to get back at you or to hurt you is not being mature about the situation.
If an ex boyfriend blocks you to get revenge or to hurt you then one thing you already know right off the bat is that he is being very immature about the breakup. This first thing I want you to get through your mind is that USUALLY not all of the blame goes on him for wanting revenge. Of course, most men are dumb and they fail to realize that they aren’t the only ones with eyes. Hmm… perhaps I should be role playing here because this may be a little complicated to explain without the proper context.
While most women may not mean it when they say it, I know you well enough to know that you are serious about it. The second thought that I will have relates to what I was talking about above (with you being pretty, liking the attention and flirting with other guys.) You see, all throughout our relationship I hated that you flirted with other guys. This is one of those very rare occasions where actions don’t match up with the truth of how a man would be feeling about the situation. If your ex boyfriend were to block your phone number and you went crazy on Facebook trying to contact him the fact that you want to be in touch with him so badly will feel good to him because it means you want him. Remember above when I was talking about how I was actually glad that I was immature in my first relationship because it forced me to evolve and become a more mature human being and I could bring more to the table in the future?
Well, it could be entirely possible that your ex boyfriend hasn’t gone through this evolution yet. Where him blocking you because it hurts to talk to you has a lot to do with the emotions he has towards you and him blocking you to cause you pain is done from a place of anger, him blocking you because he never wants anything to do with you again is done from a place where you have pushed him to the point of no return.
In other words, him blocking you because he never wants to talk to you again is the worst case scenario for pretty much everyone reading this page.
Speaking from personal experience there have been times where I have become so angry that I threw logic out of the window completely. About four years ago I was dating a girl and we got into a fight (like couples tend to do.) It was four years ago so there are a few things that you need to understand.
Look, while I may have thought those horrible things in my head if you were to go deep inside my mind at the time I really didn’t mean any of them. No matter how you slice it a breakup is a highly emotional situation and it is almost a guarantee that things are going to be said (from both sides) that neither person means.
So, lets say that your ex boyfriend said this to you after your breakup and a day or two down the road you realized that your number has been blocked on his phone.
You remember that whole “when emotions run high, logic runs low” speech I gave you at the beginning of this section right?
Well, the thing about emotions running high and logic running low is that eventually logic does return to run the show.
The infographic above is actually kind of cool because you can see the progression from anger back to logic.
What I am going to do now is go through the entire progression in the picture so you can understand exactly what is happening in his mind. I said that in about 60% of the cases an ex boyfriend will end up getting back in touch with you after he blocks you.
For every women reading this page having this happen is the worst possible outcome that they can think of. It is at this point that I would like to admit that I have actually blocked people from my life that I was serious about never talking to again and to this day I haven’t ever talked to them.
Lets start with the ex girlfriend first since I am sure that she is the one that you really want to hear about.
The thing you have to understand about this girl was the fact that the two of us just weren’t a good match for each other.
After we broke up I made a decision to block her so I wouldn’t even be tempted to get back into that situation ever again. Maybe me blocking her was done from a mindset of emotion as opposed to logic but in all honesty I am glad I did it because there was no way that I could have been happy with her.
So, basically I decided to block my ex because I determined that there was no way that she could improve my life.
My second story of blocking someone was completely different but just as important because it can give you some important insight into how men think.
However, this friend who had feelings for me pushed me to that point very quickly when she started harassing me. Every time I would tell her in a very nice way that I think she should move on she would harass me. Once I told her this she settled down for a little while until I didn’t text her back immediately and then the harassment resumed. Now that you have a better understanding of why an ex boyfriend may block you I would like to turn your attention to HOW an ex can block you.
As always, I am going to go in great detail into each of these methods so you can fully understand the situation you have found yourself in. I would say that an ex blocking you from his phone is the most common thing that I hear about when I talk to women on this site.
Well, getting blocked is never a good thing but I will tell you that if you get blocked from his phone don’t think the world is over. Now, I don’t know your situation specifically but what I do know is that if your ex blocks you through Facebook it is not a good thing. When you block someone from your phone (at least on the iPhone) it isn’t really that hard to unblock them. In my view these are all the same as text messaging (with the exception of Snapchat.) What you need to keep an eye out for is if you are being blocked from his regular phone and from these little applications. Still though, an ex boyfriend who blocks a girl is usually doing so through a highly emotional state. Usually they communicate through talking on the phone, through Facebook or other social media outlets. Essentially, this is where your ex boyfriend blocks you from his phone, through Facebook, through applications and through his email.
It doesn’t take a genius to realize that some forms of blocking are worse than others. Once you learn that you have been blocked by your ex boyfriend it is your job to figure out in how many ways you have been blocked. Of course, I still haven’t told you what to do if you are faced with the worse case scenario of a full out blockage. I am going to say something that I have been putting off for a while now because it is going to be very hard for you to hear and you will probably hate me for it but it needs to be said.
In other words, you are in the worst possible position because you are at his mercy completely. You are going to want to get in touch with him as soon as possible in any way you can possibly think of.
I am not going to take the time explain what the no contact rule is since I talk about it so much on this site. Throughout this entire page I have thrown around a pretty interesting statistic relating to women who have been blocked. I have found, when talking to the women who have been blocked, that in 60% of cases their exes end up getting back in touch with them. The no contact rule will force you to be patient and it will also prevent you from being tagged as that psycho ex girlfriend I talked about above.
Right now you are conditioned to think about your ex boyfriend as opposed to thinking of yourself. Make the necessary changes in your life to become incredible and make sure you let the world know about it on social media.
This may be an embarrassing thing for me to admit but for years after I broke up with my ex girlfriend I would check up on her Facebook profile. Here is the interesting thing though, two years after the breakup occurred between us I didn’t have any feelings for her at all. Your in a better position than I was because the breakup between you and your ex boyfriend is probably still fresh which means both of you probably still have feelings for each other. You see, her mind was in the right place with the mutual friends but she didn’t really use the mutual friends in the right way.
If you are betting against a message being sent like this then I think you owe me some money ?? . I would actually say that you want this message to be sent because it is going to force your ex to think about you. In fact, I would say only ask about him once and then move on to talking about something else. Well, after the no contact rule is complete would be a great time to initiate a conversation. Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I am sad to say that I see a lot of this (ex boyfriends ignoring their ex girlfriends) thus it would be an understatement to say that I am experienced at diving in to the male mind and dissecting it. In the movie John Williams composed a score for Steven Spielberg that has gone on to become a classic. Anyways, any time women call, text or show up unannounced to their ex boyfriends house I picture that music playing. I really want you to understand this section so I am going to define common desperate actions that ex girlfriends take and look at them from a males perspective. A girl who has to message someone that much is displaying two qualities that are a turnoff to every human being on this planet. It is like they hand you a cheat code and you lose all your interest after a certain amount of time.
So, the other big mistake that women make that can cause their ex boyfriend to want to ignore them is spamming his phone with calls. Not only will it creep me out on a level I have never known before but I am really not going to pick up a phone now.
You can tell all of that over the phone (and with a text you would have no clue.) I wanted to point this element out because I feel it adds to the fact that he may be ignoring you. I think back and those experiences and just cringe because that is how uncomfortable they made me. He didn’t laugh to her face, he laughed behind her back and even showed me the letter making fun of some of the heartfelt words that she had said.
If they don’t get their way in a relationship (or even after one) they will find ways to manipulate you emotionally.


It was in my very first relationship ever and as you can imagine, that version of me was not a great guy.
Women who wind up in situations like this have typically wronged their ex in horrific ways. Of course, I said that above but I failed to go into the actual ways in which women can wrong men. It is highly unlikely that your ex is going to drop off the face of the earth and never contact you again. An ugly response isn’t one where he just dismisses you it is one where he also disses you. What if I told you that I have found a way that allows you to accomplish that while remaining in control? The experts will tell you that you have to send interesting texts that will capture his attention. This is important because it will bring up nostalgic feelings in your ex and he can’t help but want to respond positively!
Just a little information: in October last year he joined the military and we were unable to communicate until December when he had two weeks off for Christmas. The first month was amazing, spent tons of time together talked about a lot of life wants, goals, great chemistry.
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago because he said he just didn’t feel the same way he did when we first started going out.
I wrote an entire page covering them here: Legitimate Reasons To Get Back With Your Ex Boyfriend. It is entirely possible that he just got really bored with the relationship and wanted to move on. Take out a sheet of paper and list all the real reasons that you can come up with that would make him break up with you. Here is the deal, if you were constantly nagging your ex or criticizing him there will eventually be a point where he can’t take it anymore.
The only thing I can think of, if your ex gives you this reason, is that he is really angry about something that he refuses to talk about it. In this case, we are flipping the coin and looking at how you can recover if YOU were the one who cheated on them.
However, I want to ask you to consult the list of legitimate reasons before you go through with anything.
Here is the deal though, I am not going to give you the exact steps to getting your ex back on this page. He’s hurt and wants to work on his career and his life because he blames the relationship for not being able to perform (another story for next time, but I find hay hard to believe because I was always supportive of both his career and him and his friends). It went somewhat okay, until I told him that it may be better for me to leave the apt because I didn’t want to hold him back.
I still want to work on myself at the same time, just being happier at the same time, not waste opportunities with him. I think it’s the one with the most opportunity to do something but also the most volatile situation because too much can be done and too little may not be enough. I think what was missing from the post was more about the flip-flopping of emotions from the ex-bf. We went to the movies the other day and he enjoyed it, but the next day went back to his routine of ignoring me. He joked one time at dinner that this is why I should stay…because we would have good times like this at dinner. We spent all days messaging each other, and it seemed awesome, but he didn’t really want to meet with me. I’m sorry that this is going to be long, I just want to give as many details I can to explain my situation. We were living together for about 6 years and now have 3 cats together which we both call our children. For the first week I’ve tried to talk to him and convince him to come back, he said he made his decision and I need to respect it.
First time he texted me to let me know he will come to pick his stuff so I will know not to be at home (even though he knows I’m at work at that time).
On one hand he says he doesn’t love me anymore on the other hand he is the one sending texts. My bf of 4 months broke up with me 3 weeks ago and I had no contact with him for already 17 days now (when we had contact, I didn’t beg or plea whatsoever — we just discussed about the reason he broke up with me).
He started ignoring me and my messages because he was having problems in all areas of his life. Of course, if you did unfriend him or he unfriended you there is still a good shot that he will look at your profile down the road. Pictures Are ImportantWant to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
Make sure you listen to the entire episode for a full run down of how you can use jealousy because if you don’t use it correctly you could completely ruin your chances. From these statistics, we’re going to make certain assumptions on how you should approach getting your ex-boyfriend back. Women ask me, “Why does this social media stuff matter?” when I mention it on my site or in my book. She looks like she’s having the time of her life.” Why isn’t she distraught over losing me? It’s because the content I write is so good and in depth that people just keep coming back to the website. You want him to keep coming back to your profile, checking to see if there are any updates. While he may not be ready to admit that he’s missing you or that he loves you still, he keeps coming back to your profile over and over again. Every time your ex logs onto Facebook, it’s another opportunity that he has to look at your profile.
He congrats ne on my success stories which I shared 2 days ago and didn’t respond to him.
Then posted a pic for the first time since we started dating ( that is 1yr plus) and when we were dating he once sent me that pic tagged as specially for me. So much ego that even if I were to become the ungettable girl, I don’t think he would even care. He broke up with me over the phone which resulted in a heated argument on my behalf, which I don’t feel bad about as he had very little respect for me for doing it over the phone! I am trying to be strong and not go on social media (facebook) while I am in this emotional period, as I feel it would make me worse if I see something I don’t want to see.
Only do 21 days of no contact and then reach out though him through text with a really sweet text.
Since 90% of the visitors to Ex Boyfriend Recovery want their ex boyfriends back I want to stay with that line of thinking. In fact, upon research it seems that no one online knows what to do when faced with this situation. While I can’t guarantee your success 100% of the time I can tell you that many women (who have been blocked) have used my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO to win back their exes. I guess if there was ever going to be a positive reason for an ex boyfriend to block you this would be it. So painful that he doesn’t want to remember it right now so he chooses to block you out of his life. So, while this is probably the best outlook for being blocked it is still never a good thing.
I know that is an absolutely horrible thing for me to say but I am actually not ashamed about it. Nevertheless, the immature idiot that I once was, was important because it taught me how to evolve into a more mature man. Like I said above, at one point in my life I went through a phase where I would have had no problem doing this. However, what I would like to do is give you some insight into what factors caused him to have these feelings of vengeance. Sure, there are cases where your ex boyfriend is just a psycho and will want revenge because he is crazy. They will latch on to everything you did wrong in the relationship as a reason for revenge. There are a few silver linings that I think are important to understand if an ex blocks you in this instance. While blocking an ex girlfriend is a bold action stating (GO AWAY) the ultimate truth could be that the man is just doing it so he can feel wanted by you… WAIT, WHAT? I did just that (said the most hurtful things possible.) I thought of every hurtful subject I could to twist the knife a little deeper. The only reason I verbalized any of those thoughts was because I got angry and was looking for a way to hurt my girlfriend. Emotions reign is only temporary and logic is usually left to clean up the mess that emotion made. Remember, the way this usually works is that your ex boyfriend will start off thinking with logic. We fought constantly, we didn’t agree on a lot of serious issues and by the end the relationship was so toxic that I literally went to bed at night dreading the next day. Now, prior to this point I had only ever blocked one person in my entire life (that ex girlfriend I talked about above.) So, blocking someone from my life is very rare for me.
She had pushed me to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore so I blocked her from everything and never talked to her again.
If he does block you through both the applications and the big phone it is not a good sign. I have even heard some cases where he can block your mutual friends for a while so he doesn’t have to see you in person. If your ex boyfriend blocks you from his smartphone but he doesn’t block you from Facebook then technically you can still get back in touch with him through Facebook when you want.
If you are faced with a situation where you are blocked by your ex in every way then your options are very limited. While there are a few things you can do to influence his decision there isn’t really anything you can say to change his mind. Your ex blocks you (a strong statement from him saying that he doesn’t want to talk to you) and you decide that, that means you should try harder and confront him in person? However, what I can do for you is give you a link to a new guide I wrote that really goes in-depth on my new view of the no contact rule. These women didn’t have to do anything for their ex to get in touch it just happened all on its own.
That tells me that your world doesn’t revolve around a guy and it also says that you have a lot of self confidence. So, rather than sit in your room and cry about your situation I say you be proactive with the knowledge that he will be keeping an eye on you through Facebook. The two of us weren’t Facebook friends but her wall was semi public to where I could see the major events of her life. Curiosity is a powerful motivator and he will probably come snooping around in the near future to see how you are.
So, what she decided to do was use her ex boyfriend and her’s mutual friends to pass a long letter to him. Once you are in his head curiosity will take hold and he may start spying on your Facebook profile or grilling your mutual friends on how you are doing. Enough time should have passed for him to calm down a little bit so if you play your cards right you could get a response.
But it’s not always been bad, we moved out of his parents house and got an apartment and everything.
Oh, and it also helps that I am a male myself so I kind of know what I am talking about ;). I want to give you a few steps going forward that you can implement to improve your chances of getting him to speak to you.
Men can sense desperation and your desperate activities are the equivalent to blood in the water for a shark. Given a choice between someone texting too much vs someone calling too much I would always choose texting too much. Now, if she had tried a different approach she would have had him on his hands and knees begging for her back (I know my buddy, trust me it is possible.) However, she tried the desperate approach and this is what happens when you go full on desperate, you get laughed at behind your back. Anyways, I didn’t like the way the relationship was going so I ended up ignoring my girlfriend for an entire day. Essentially how this works is that your ex boyfriend is using the no contact rule on you on purpose. I have a buddy whose wife actually cheated on him eight different times with eight different men.
If a woman did any of the following things to me I would seriously consider cutting her out of my life. First off, remember way back when I talked about how desperate women are the number one turnoff that makes men ignore their exes?
By essentially implementing a no contact rule you can get him to scramble for your approval instead. If you have successfully completed the no contact rule for thirty days then you are going to go on the offensive again but this time you are going to do it my way. Initially, when you send this text message out you aren’t going to get a positive response right off the bat.
If he does respond then you are going to take out a stopwatch or phone and wait between 30-60 minutes.
It is the equivalent to having an audience on the edge of their seat waiting to find out what happens next.
The second month he became a little distant and shared he was afraid he was falling into the same pattern and wasn’t ready for a serious relationship.
We met about a year ago when we started working together and I liked pretty much from the first time we talked and I’m thinking it was the same for him. Back in January, we stopped talking for a month which was the longest we hadn’t talked in two years.
I do not know what to do, I want to talk to him but at the same time the whole situation I’m lost.
I became messed up and finally my bf , after having a nice and quiet day staying in, and spending time with me, left the house and in 2 hours texted me and broke up!!! I want you to have a healthy and long relationship so that is why I am preaching this so much. First off, most of the time they are lying to you about the real reason why they wanted to breakup. Here is the good news, the fact that your ex cared enough to lie to you, to spare your feelings, is not a negative thing, it’s actually a positive. I will admit, this reason is really tough to deal with because your ex boyfriend isn’t communicating with you at all.
Cheating is kind of tricky, there is a lot to go into but I don’t think this is the page is the proper place to do so, I can tell you that usually women cheat for emotional reasons.
If you consult the list and decide you still want your ex boyfriend back just realize that it is not going to be easy.
We had a great time together but I don’t know if I should just let it go and maybe try again in a while. Then the next night, he acts as if nothing happened and insisted that I get the strangers number (ie confront him and not call building security) so ex can have it.
Issues like this I thought were necessary to bring up to the ex because it was a safety issue. Next night, we had dinner and he said I shouldn’t move out yet because we would miss out on nice things like this (having dinner at one of our fave spots and just enjoying conversation). I did go on no-contact for a couple of weeks (minimal talk etc) as recommended for those living together. But also, I don’t see myself changing from being a relative introvert to the extrovert he wants me to be.
He asked me out for the first time after 2 weeks of everyday messaging and after that we saw each other after a month(though we saw each other a little at work). The reason he gave for not wanting to meet me more often was, that he doesn’t want a relationship right now, but if I give him time it could be different. He said I deserve someone who will want to marry me and will want to be at home with me (he was barely at home – working a lot and going out with friends). If he wants me out of his life why not to take care of everything there is regarding the apartment and just disappear?
We knew each other for 6 months and we were on LDR, but everything went so fast because he and I were having a good feeling about us. I posted a cute pic of me and my girlfriends last week on FB and he consequently deleted me off his friends. We had been in a serious relationship for about 9 months and in December last year, he proposed. I tried to be understanding and gave him space on the matter because he said that we would talk about it when we meet again. Last week, he told me that he’s going to settle in another country and wants me to go stay with him after about 4 months. This episode is going to be focusing specifically on social media and how to use it when you go through a breakup.
I’m going to expand the reach, not just to Instagram, but to all forms of social media such as Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram. It takes more than that to get a man to be convinced to get back into a relationship with you.
Even if you’re being unfriended by your ex or you have unfriended your ex, there is still a high likelihood that your ex will still stalk your profile.
For example, if your ex-boyfriend posted on Facebook and you saw it, you are going to overanalyze it. This is important because, if you flip the script here, that means your ex-boyfriend is probably going to do the same thing to you. These statistics are that 90% of people checking up on former girlfriends and boyfriends on Facebook, 70% use their friends to keep track of their exes and 64% overanalyze wall posts and messages from their ex, 50% deleted pictures, 33% quoted a song about their ex and 31% posted a picture in an attempt to make an ex jealous. Before I start talking about how you need to use social media to your advantage, I want to answer Ashe’s question specifically about the like. You do want to go out to a bar or hang out with your friends, but you don’t want to have captions for the picture.
It’s akin to you going out with your ex to a dance club and then dancing the night away with some other guy while your ex stands there. It’s hurtful when a woman goes to her Facebook profile and sees her boyfriend taking a picture with another guy. If you have not already gone to my iTunes page and left a review for this podcast, please do so.
We’ve been broken up for about three weeks but have only talked twice over that time. Short version, Two and a half dates were awesome (best ever actually), second half of third was awkward because he claims I wasn’t giving any signs of interest, so things ended on a giant miscommunication (probably my fault). I am trying to use the time to better myself, see friends, start going to exercise classes etc. Basically we’ve been on and off for over a year now and we argue a lot, he never apologises after arguments and will just ignore me for the rest of the day or even for a day+ where as I’ll apologise most of the time regardless and I hate being ignored, especially by him, and then when he does speak to me he just acts normal again or sometimes he’ll say things like ‘going to be a normal gf or still an angry troll’ I admit when we argue at times I can say some really horrible and unforgivable things, but so has he.
Every time a woman comes to this site and decides to implement the no contact rule she is technically obssessed with her ex boyfriend. Sure, maybe there were some really bad fights and the relationship wasn’t as strong as she thought but if she is willing to try the no contact rule then deep down she really wants things to work and probably still loves her boyfriend.
Some of the women I blocked were exes and some of them were just friends that pushed me to the point where I couldn’t deal with them anymore. Essentially how this works is that every time your ex talks to you on the phone or through text messaging it hurts him.
Maybe he is obsessed with you for the right reasons but it simply hurts too much to talk to you. Look, the thing you have to understand about men is that it is rare for us to be mature about our first few relationships. I looked back and was disappointed with how I acted and I actively worked to make sure I didn’t repeat those mistakes ever again in my future relationships.
However, I am playing the role of an idiot boyfriend here so I don’t look at it that way. There are two things that will go through my mind when I decide to make the decision to block for this specific reason. This anger signifies when the logic switch is turned off and when the emotion switch is turned on.
While logic is slowly retaking the battlefield some of the good emotions are starting to kick in.
In fact, it means that 40% of exes could be serious about blocking you and may never want to talk to you again.
First though, lets take a look at all the ways that an ex boyfriend can block you from his life.
Most people don’t just hand out their numbers and they sure as heck put some thought into who they are blocking from their phones. As I said above, around 60% of exes do end up getting back in touch after they block their significant other.
While there is still a 60% chance that he will unblock you down the road he may be more serious about the blocking if he takes the time to block you on all these little applications as well. Knowing what options you have is important because those options are going to determine how you play the game. Look, I am a fan of letters but the only time that they ever mean something to me is when I am dating someone. I want you to remember this attitude because it is going to be extremely important for you to have for what I say next. Of course, the world isn’t over so you decide to hang out with a few mutual friends that you and your ex boyfriend have. The one day he got the courage to tell me he needs a break or whatever and that he would still let me stay at home so I could have a home because I have no friends and barely any family and none I could stay with. Essentially, this is a person who texts multiple times, even though they don’t get a response.
However, when I get too much attention from them (in the form of texting) it becomes a complete turnoff.
I understand that women are emotional by nature but when you show that much desperation, guys begin to get really scary thoughts.
Unfortunately, a lot of times what happens is when you get a girl who sends a lot of unanswered texts that leads to her calling way too much.
One way that exes know they can get under your skin is to simply ignore you for a couple of days.
I didn’t do it because I needed a break or a refresh, which I think would be ok, I did it from a place of anger to punish my girlfriend.


It is one of those rare cases where you kind of want him back and he kind of wants you back.
So, this is one case where I am the exception to the rule and my insight kind of suffers because of it.
I like to tell my visitors that any text you send him has to be so interesting that it would be impossible for him to ignore it. I was always honnest with him saying that I wanted a serious relayionship and that I wanted to have children.
A few days later I texted asking him again how he was and since then he never replied , it has been nearly 4 weeks . He had a girlfriend at the time but after about 3 months of knowing each other, he kissed me.
Before that happened I was always complaining about him not having enough time for me for months because of his job. This page is going to focus on what steps you can take to get your ex boyfriend back if he broke up with you.
What I am going to do for you is take the most common reasons that men use for a break up and tell you what they really mean. Secondly, they weren’t specific about anything that you did that caused the breakup essentially leaving you in limbo land to wonder what went wrong.
In fact, nothing is a bigger turnoff to a man than a woman pointing out everything he is doing wrong. You hurt this person and you are going to have to work extremely hard to gain back their trust. And I’ve been trying to make things better ever since because I knew I did it when I was mad and high on emotion, zero logic. This made me burst into tears and walk back in my room (sleeping separately now) and just cry. Then, we had a discussion and he immediately pointed out that i did nothing (because i did NC) to show him anything worth coming back to. Heal first and start to do things that can help you be more emotionally stable before trying to talk to him.. I had tough time dealing with it, but agreed, cause I really liked him a lot, and he said he likes me too, but doesn’t want to force it.
Than a week later he texted me we need to arrange internet payments, I said I can’t deal with that emotionally right now and that he can do whatever he wants about it.
I want him back because I think what we had was great and we could have a great future together. But I told him that I needed to know everything that was going on and why he wanted to live in another country thousands of miles away.
Today’s question is from Ashe, who is wondering how she can use social media to get her ex back, specifically what it means when her ex-boyfriend likes certain pictures on Instagram. A Canadian university student did an interesting master’s thesis on exes, breakups and Facebook. She found that 88% of people that go through breakups check up on former boyfriends and girlfriends on Facebook. Let’s say that you break up with your boyfriend and you are very curious about what your boyfriend is up to. There is a high chance that your ex will log on to your Facebook account and check you out if the temptation is there.
You can still use all the information here because there is a high chance that your ex is still checking up on you.
A lot of you are always wondering why I attach these funny memes to the in depth articles that I write about ex-boyfriends, situations and what it means.
You don’t want it to be you at the club with your girlfriends, you have drinks in your hands and the caption on the picture is, “Having the time of my life.” No. Just like it’s hurtful when a boyfriend goes to Facebook and sees his girlfriend taking a picture with another guy.
Can you help me out?” The guy friend will be willing to do that, especially if you return the favor and help him pick up a girl. This is especially effective during the no contact rule when you’re not allowed to have contact with your ex.
However after 10 weeks of no contact I finally caved in and felt it was stupid to ignore him any longer.
He’s said many times over the past months that he doesn’t love me and hasn’t wanted to be with me for months now. He is on her mind the second she wakes up for the day, the second she gets in her car to go to work and the second she closes her eyes to go to sleep. As a guy let me tell you it is a very humbling feeling when one moment you are on top of the world because you think a pretty girl is falling for you and then BAM!! In other words, being immature at first was essential for me to evolve into a more mature and classy human being. Of course, I am all about turning negatives into positives so the thing that you have to understand is that very rarely do men communicate with their girlfriends through email. At first I was calm but then I started freaking out, I really love this man to death and I know he loves me too it’s just that my anger towards him was taking a toll.
I took the liberty of locating a text gnat for you so you can better understand what I am talking about here.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? However, if someone were to give me all the cheat codes to the game it no longer becomes as fun. Now, I do want to point out that this is essentially the same thing I recommend doing with the no contact rule. In the end, I think he was just confused about what he wanted and he stuck with his girlfriend. I broke the ice sending him a picture of something i knew he liked and telling him i thought he might like it. During the past year we were on the rocks for almost like 40percent of time; and we lived in the same house. Now, I want to give you a little notice here, I am not one of those people that is going to fill your head up with all sorts of lies saying that the methods talked about on this page are guaranteed to have him crawling back to you.
Now, I do feel it is important to mention that even though some of these reasons may be hard to face, it doesn’t mean all hope is lost, in fact, I think you will be fired up and ready to get him back after I break these down for you. Whatever the case, think really hard about if you want to get back with a person that literally numbed you enough that you cheated on them. What could the ex-gf like me do to quell the situation (when he takes stabs at me) and make things work to my advantage? How does the ex-gf manage in the situation overall so they don’t get burned in the next steps?
So it went on with the two of us talking all the time, being exclusive with each other, but during the 1,5 month we only met 3 times. I just hate the idea, that one day he’s going to be ready to be in a relationship and he will date someone else.
I’ll say again that everytime I get a text is after I post a happy picture of myself on FB and Instagram.
Worst thing that i do really love him and i dont understand how he made this decision, if he ever regret about it and if there is a chance to have him back??? But at the same time I also want to honor his request not to have contact and heal our own wounds for the time being.
We’re going to leverage these statistics and hopefully formulate a game plan to help you get your ex back.
I know that Facebook isn’t Twitter or Instagram, but never before has a study been done like this that looks specifically at what happens when exes go through breakups on social media. That doesn’t mean that, if you and your ex are big proponents of Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest, the information I’m telling you here can be applied through those mediums. They’re expecting new podcast episodes, a new article, more comments and answers to their comments. You want your ex to come to your profile and think, “Who’s that guy?” She’s dating someone. If he’s coming back to your profile constantly looking for an update on your life, it means he’s obsessed with you. Would reaching out and trying to follow him on any other media like snapchat or twitter be a good or a bad idea?
It’s mostly him who breaks up with me, I’ve only ever broken up with him I’ve but I didn’t mean it.
However, I did mention above that if an ex blocks you it probably means that a part of him is obsessed with you.
We are all human beings after all and the thing about human beings is that none of us are perfect.
I wasn’t always angry either just once in a while but when I was I was mean to him despite everything he has done for me. Sure, it may be a little fun at first but eventually when the cheat codes make it that easy to complete I will lose interest. If you acted desperate your ex would have gotten into the routine of ignoring you because you were desperate. He helped me with a fundraiser I was putting on and was so helpful and supportive, over the summer we’d see each other or text every week. I tried not to be needy and I did good for a while but he never gives me answers to any of my questions and he rarely replies to me. The once a week call would nor even reach 1 hour because he’s tired and had to work overtime. So after we have been apart for three months due to some administrative paper work that he needed to take care of, he came back to me so awkwardly, full of complexes and saying stuff from here and ther.. All I will say is this, if you follow the advice on this page your chances of getting him back will increase dramatically.
Every time you nag or criticize him (to a great extent) you are hurting your mans confidence and lowering your value in his eyes. I have found that a lot of times women who cheated on their boyfriends and then wanted them back do so because they didn’t realize how good they had it with their ex boyfriend until they see how bad the relationship is with their new boyfriend.
I gained almost 100 pounds during my pregnancy and when I finally had my son I got postpartum. We tried working on things but everytime we hit a milestone something happens than sets him back and makes him hesitant to work on it.
Further interaction included me asking him to fix the door to make sure no one comes in the house. I was not vedy happy about the situation, and told him I feel like he just doesn’t want a relationship with me in particular, which he denied.
The fact that social media exists now means that you can indirectly influence your ex and improve your chances of getting your ex back. Since Facebook is the biggest social media platform currently, I’m going to gear the information I’m teaching here towards that. If you are posting a picture of you making out with another guy on Facebook, that’s a big no-no.
Any idea on why he likes everything and all that but doesn’t even try and talk to me? He did always look at my snapchat stories and then often put one up himself to make me jealous or just to show what he was up to. He’s also said that he’s only taken me back because I made him or wouldn’t leave him alone. He saved me from homeless ness and brought me to his parents home as a stranger one year ago from May 3rd, 2016. If I am in that kind of mood then trust me, you aren’t going to get me to talk on the phone. When you do something like the no contact rule you really don’t want to ignore your ex boyfriend, you want to give him time to calm down and also improve yourself in the process. So, when you stop acting desperate he is going to perk his head up and try to sniff out the reason why you stopped being desperate. The end of summer he dropped away and when I reached out he didn’t respond then at an event he ignored me all day. We started talking again and then slowly started flirting again (really, the attraction has always been mutual and there) and became pretty close. Last week I ended up losing it and sent too many texts which led him to say that I’m cut off but I called 5 days later and he answered. I saw him a couple of weeks ago (by accident) and we exchanged a couple of words and he seemed friendly and interested in my life. The good news in this case is that this is something you can fix since you control what you say. I was being overwhelming before the break up but at that moment, I just talk to him, I listen we agreed to be friends and i said that I understand he is frustrated with things so that I didn’t want to be another reason for him to get stressed.
I pushed everyone out of my life including my future husband and hide in the baby’s room.
Twice it happened and a lot of the times it was in his mind that he’s convinced to not try anymore for us.
He also had issues with me not going out with him and his friends – which I started doing on weekends since I realised it was important to him.
Right on the day when he left, he asked for a time off because he felt something wrong about the relationship. I’m going to talk about what you have to do in these mediums to increase your chances of getting your ex-boyfriend back. You contact him and say, “What’s that about?” He can always fall back to the position of saying, “What are you talking about?
The more you can get him hooked on going to your Facebook page, the more likely he is to have those feelings for you again. If your friend that you want to take a picture with has a girlfriend, don’t take this picture with him. Now last week we had a huge fight on Sunday and things got so bad and again he said were over and that he doesn’t love me anymore and that once I leave his house I won’t be setting foot in there ever again.
We don’t follow each other anymore so I know he had to have searched for me to get to my page. I reached out One last time and he said he was leaving town for a month and to have a good rest of summer.
I called once everyday for three days and on the third day he just didn’t seem interested in calling so I lost it again and called many times.
The day after I texted him again just to see how he was and I was getting pretty neutral responses. That situation made me texted him and asked him if it could be possible to meet to catch up and he answered he is out of town and when he comes back he’ll be busy. He turn to his only friend in the city who just happened to be female and I thought he was cheating on me.
A week after that (during which we met again, this time it was fun, and not awkward and during which he talked to me much less than before) he texting me in night, a little drunk I would say, that he can’t be a guy for me and I deserve someone better. Although I was so sad about that, I agreed and let him alone (so basically we haven’t really talk for 1 month other than about the break up itself).
There is a 90% chance that your ex-boyfriend is taking a look at your pictures and profile. But when you’re dealing with exes and relationships, there is significance every time someone does something like that. I will introduce you to one of my friends.” If you do that, the guy is going to be willing to work with you. I started snapchatting him and sometimes he brings up cute and funny old memories or mentions things that I would always say that would make him laugh.
Things got broken and he got angry and pushed me but I replaced the broken things and got them sent to his house. He told me he didn’t have an answer yet, and he said he would be able to talk to me in a month or so when he has a weekend off. Fall came around and I needed closure so I wrote him an email sharing my thoughts and how I had feelings that whole time. I asked him if everything was okay with us and he told me that yes and that hes good but that he texted me on this day and never got a response so he wasn’t sure. He has things in his life he needs to deal with and doesn’t want me to be part of it. He contacted me after around a week off, and the reason of him breaking up with me was because he got this gut feeling that it won’t work out between us. However I don’t want to look over clingy so I tend to open the snap chats a while after he sends them or take my time replying. He text me 3 days after the break up saying he got the items but he can’t accept them knowing how he feels about us and that he sees no future for us and doesn’t see us ever working. Every time he thinks about you he is not filled with good feelings he is filled with annoyance. I asked me what situation we were in, and he said I wanted to take a break, so we were taking a break.
A couple of days after I accidentally found out that he has a facebook account without my knowledge when I installed facebook messenger but when I asked him about it, he simply changed his account name and privacy setting. I kept listening and he confessed that he was worried and it is time for me to consider my future options to settle down, cuz of my age, and he is not ready to do so ( i never ever mentioned getting serrious even in future). I tried to convince him, that it doesn’t matter, and asked him if he thinks there is no chance we could ever be together, and he said no. He also mentioned that it was so intense when we were together but he didn’t really give me a hard explanation on his decision. I tried to do no contact but failed on day 3 ?? and text him back saying ‘Hey, I was just thinking about the first time we went to the cinema together to see Jurassic World, it was so good.
He’s a very mature man and he IS NOT like most men, he cries and shows his feelings a lot and is compassionate. A month passed by and he didn’t contact me, so I emailed him saying that I was done waiting for his answer that never came. We talked for maybe half the day but I feel like I was the one trying to keep the conversation alive.
After than conversation, where he said he was not seeing any one else, he started being distant.
The break up was rather amicable, we both cried and said thanks and sorry and wished each other good luck in life. Ashe, in your case, I’m going to recommend not to friend your ex until after you use the no contact rule and build up some rapport with your ex. I am glad we did that.’ But because he didn’t reply I turned into a text gnat and then said ‘could we talk please?
Oh, I did that because he was constantly posting things on Facebook, so I knew he had free time. We were even supposed to meet, but he cancelled, and the next day texted me it’s really over and I should forget about him.
He made everything seem ok and that we had made up after he told me he might want a break but then the next day I drive him to work in a shared car that he took with him and I got to his parents house to talk to his sister, and then I go hang out with him on his lunch break and we are pizza that he bought for us and after he kisses me and tells me that he loves me.
Then I said sorry and brought up the facebook thing saying that he must be hiding something from me. It’s not been almost 3 days I haven’t heard from him and I’m absolutely terrified of losing him.
He got extremely upset when he found out she had a new boyfriend so I thought I should back off a little.
And two weeks after I sent him a message about something that remind me of him, and I asked him if this is really what he wanted.
I broke it after 2 weeks and texted him I’m sorry for pushing him to relationship and being clingy when he ended it, wished him all good in life and to meet someone who will make him happy, because it is obviuosly not me, when he let me to so easy. He was worried I would hurt myself because I always said that (wrong of me) or hurt him physically or whatever (which I would NEVER DO) anyways his sister and mom drives me to work at 10pm overnight shift and sister hugs me. Then after 2 months he started to get so close to his girl best friend which is a close friend of mine, and she is 33!! Do you think the Nc rule will get him to speak to me or even give us a chance of ever getting back together? They say they’ll be there for me in the morning to pick me up but then during my shift I kind of lost it telling the sister through text and him that I wanted to die and stuff so she called the ambulance on me.
He said that I didn’t make an effort and I never made a move on any of the hints he was giving me. Today he was fishing for me to tell him that his son and I still need him and I stupidly fell for it. He replied to that message 3 days later, saying thank you for the wish, and wish you all the best. I did the NC rule once before and it got him back and about two weeks later he said he missed me, but do you think it’ll work a second time? But once i brought the issue to my friend to help me realizing the situation by giving some time to me and take one step back so that i can understand my feelings for the whole situation( i have been under deppression for arround 6 months), i wanted to prevent complications by missjudging the stuff. So then in the morning I get discharged from the hospital nobody is answering their phones and I live at least 45 minutes from the hospital. The mom and his sister had said everything would be okay and that I could still talk to his sister and his mom.
I was so worried about how he was feeling and giving him space that I never thought about voicing what I wanted.
He kept telling me he likes me, and there’s nothing wrong with me, how awesome I am, yet he broke it off and never really let me in, or spend much time with me. And one last thing, a gf of 1,5 year broke up with him about 2 months before we met..were I a rebound? Nothing crazy, just the kind of upset you’d be when you find out someone you really wanted to be with is with someone else because you were too afraid to make a move. I guess my question is do you think he is lying about seeing a future with us together again?
After all this HIS aunt answers and she lets me come stay for a few days till I can get a ride home. He told me that if I thought it was unfair that I should’ve done something about it and that I needed to be an adult and accept it.
I just want to end this but I’m not sure if writing a break up letter would be the best thing to do.
We laughed a lot just like a day before all this and we have a lot of inside jokes always always even the last time we saw eachother told eachother that we love eachother and kissed eachother affection Was not lacking. I’ve went by work a couple of times and just tried to have a casual conversation and it was the worst. I haven’t contacted him now for like 4 to 5 days out of like 7 or 8 days of break up.
I helped him through a lot, was there listening to his problems, helped him get someone to talk to. I think maybe part of it is that he still has feelings for me, that doesn’t go away after two weeks.



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