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Before I go into the details of her situation I do want to say that often times I have no idea on whose question I am going to answer for the podcast. Other times I listen to each one very carefully one by one and pick out the situation that I think people would want to hear about the most. There was a lot of emotion in it and you could tell, just by listening that she wanted her ex boyfriend back.
Welcome to the ex-boyfriend recovery podcast where we help you get your ex back and have the fairy tale ending you deserve!
I asked him originally if when he got home, if I can have a month or so to work it out and not to give up on us. Hey, I wanted to take a moment and thank you Morgan for having the courage to tell your story. Today’s episode features a woman named Morgan who has a bit of a problem with her ex.
But, so basically what this men could do to get their exes back as soon as possible and kind of the game plan I came up with, shortened the strategy that I teach on both website significantly but still the shortest strategy was 30 days. Even as great as my advice may be and as many success stories as I have had over the last several years that I’ve been running these websites, even I can’t guarantee. Now, with that being said, if you’re willing to take a long approach, if you’re willing to accept, “Okay, I’m probably not going to get him back by 6 pm today but it doesn’t mean I’m out of the game. Now, that post a serious issue because one, she would never take me seriously as a suitor because I live in Texas and Pennsylvania is pretty much like 1700 miles away. So, I pretty much would be there alone the entire time and all we had was a desk with my computer on it to work and a TV and I remember literally just staring at the clock hoping it would be 5 pm or 6 pm and she would come home because it was sort of like being in jail for a little bit because I just didn’t know what to do with myself. I think just maybe, at his age, because he’s a lot younger than I was, I think maybe 5 or 6 years younger total of when I’ve ended up moving. No contact rule is going to be essential for you but that’s pretty much essential for everyone but after that really everything follows the same strategy.
Then the next step is building attraction through text messages and then next step is to build attraction  through phone calls or Skype or Facetime or video chats and then the third step is the in person dates. Well, if you don’t have a lot of money, you probably work at a job that doesn’t pay a lot and probably works you like a dog. Now, if you knew a month ahead of time that you were going to meet you ex up at this certain date then the flights become a little bit more inexpensive which is kind of the strategy I would recommend for you to approach.
Now, let me tell you a little bit more about my personal experience with this method because I have actually done this method with my wife. Maybe you can try to set up kind of a critical mass of attraction through text messages and phone calls where you kind of have this unspoken agreement where you’re not going to talk to other people when you set up this date maybe a month in advance or something.
I had my wife’s family which now they are my real family because I married her but at that time it’s such a drastic difference because I didn’t have any friends besides my wife.
So, getting the human element, hearing people talk about their exes and how much they want them back and how hurt they are by the break up.
We hear from a woman who wishes to remain anonymous who has found herself in a bit of a pickle. There’s—I think something like four free giveaways of content and pdf and I do the success story report where I took a lot of my successes and figured out exactly what made them successful. I just want to take a moment and thank you for having the courage to put your situation out there.
I can maybe buy into the thinking that he doesn’t know what he wants to do with his career.
So, make sure when you implement the things I’m going to tell you about that you don’t do anything stupid like this because I’m not going to lie to you. That could be a contributing reason for the breakup but you hurt yourself when you told him that you slept with someone else because going forward now, he’s going to question everything you say. So, they know exactly what they have to do to get their ex back in their situation and I was writing I think what was like a hundred pages and I was super excited about this. So, approaching this situation, basically if you’re going to deliver bad news to your ex boyfriend or if you’re going to bring up something negative, do it when he’s in a good mood.
Sometimes when people mess up on the no contact rule, they go back to square negative one because the no contact rule losses its effectiveness but you, since you really didn’t do the no contact rule that much, it’s not going to lose much effectiveness. Well, I mentioned that he’s going to be questioning you every single time you tell him something now because in the back of his mind, he’s still going to wonder if you slept with someone. Let things unfold naturally because you’ve already proven that he wants you back and I really think you have a great shot at getting him back. Not to put yourself in a position where he can look at you say, “She’s not trustworthy.” And that sometimes means not going out to a club or something with your friends if they’re going to take pictures, post it on Facebook. Alrighty… It’s time for another episode of “The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast!” Awesome, right?
I am currently in the process of writing a massive guide about going on dates with an ex boyfriend when I stumbled across this question from a woman who wants to remain anonymous. Anonymous and her boyfriend have been broken up for a few months and she has done a phenomenal job of sticking to my advice. Her ex boyfriend is currently in possession of a record that she wants back and her ex actually called her to set up a day where they can meet up and he can give it back. Welcome to the ex boyfriend recovery podcast where we help you get your ex back and have the fairy tale ending you deserve.
Now, you may be asking yourself, “Well, how can this book be specific to my situation?” Because without a doubt, that was the number 1 complaint. And I am structuring the book in a certain way where it creates a game plan for you to follow and then based on your situation, it’s going to teach you how to alter that game plan to fit your needs perfectly-- long distance relationships for example. And I am structuring the book in a certain way where it creates a game plan for you to follow and then based on your situation, it’s going to teach you how to alter that game plan to fit your needs perfectly– long distance relationships for example. We’re trying to create this family atmosphere where we help everyone, where we get and respond to everyone but enough about that.
You know I was taking notes and my wife she was sitting right next to me and she stopped everything she was doing and she was listening as well which is kind of rare for her and then after you were done talking, she literally turns to me and goes, “I really like her voice. So, that’s when I knew for sure that I definitely had to feature your question on the podcast but anyways, you have done a pretty good job at advancing to the point you’re at currently. I’m of the mind of the value chain where you have to start off slow and kind of slowly build up the attraction into a point where it boils over and he just can’t not be in a relationship with you.
I’m actually writing a really good article coming up about this very kind of question that you asked, which is another reason why I picked your question because I’m literally writing an article about it and when you were asking about how to handle the date or what you do during a date, I just thought it was a perfect match for what I was already currently working on. But it seems to me like you’ve already advanced to where you’ve locked down a date with your ex boyfriend. So, when it comes to dating you shouldn’t operate under the assumption that it’s going to take one date to get your ex-boyfriend to agree to be back in a relationship with you. So, one of your big questions was should you ask him to hang out because you say he’s operating under the assumption that he’s just going to give you your record back and then that’s going to be it.
I’ve talked about this a lot throughout ex-boyfriend recovery and it’s sort of ending the conversation at the high point.
My wife the other day, she sent me this really interesting email and specifically, she’s in charge of Youtube and she wanted to do a Youtube video on make up and dressing up clothes and everything like that.
It’s funny… I am currently in the process of writing a massive guide about going on dates with an ex boyfriend when I stumbled across this question from a woman who wants to remain anonymous.
It’s quite dated to consider text messaging a low-grade form of communication when articulation by way of smart phone has effectively become the modern day equivalent of a love letter. If he responds to your text without another question, don’t respond to his statement. He probably just wants to watch TV and leave the non-existent buttons on his phone unpressed. Your mom leaves out vowels in her text messages, meanwhile my mom is over here sending me a million different smiley faces in each text message. The only topic I believe inappropriately averted was the essence of proper text response timing. I had a boss once who was addicted to her iphone and would insist on texting as our main form of communication. Sometimes I think I am with the zeitgeist when it comes to communication, and other times, I think the world’s gone crazy. I would also add that it’s good to wait a few minutes to write back, if the other person is as well.
As a foreigner from a middle-to-eastern European country (Poland, to be precise) I can tell ya (!): it gets only more complicated!
I’m from the netherlands and used to use lot of english phrases as well, whilst talking and whilst texting but after spending half a year abroad (where I spoke english all the time and eventually started thinking in english) I came back to the netherlands longing to speak my mothertongue again. When I was a teenager I downloaded all my text messages from my phone to my computer, and I’m glad that I did it.
It is highly unlikely that you are going to be able to get your ex girlfriend back by just using Facebook.
A lot of men out there don’t really have any idea what the correct protocol is for Facebook when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back.
Lets pretend that the process of getting a girlfriend back is equivalent to putting a puzzle together. If you are looking for something more comprehensive then I suggest you take a look at my book,Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back?
However, if you really want to know the strict guidelines you should follow when it comes to Facebook after a breakup in order to win your girlfriend back then you came to the right place. One of the biggest questions I get on Ex Girlfriend Recovery is whether or not men should unfriend their girlfriends after a breakup. Statistics have shown us that 88% of people are spying on their exes social profiles online after a breakup (according to the Toronto Star.) So, why not take advantage of this, since we know your ex girlfriend is probably going to spy on you via Facebook and put your best foot forward to present yourself in a light that will make your ex girlfriend want you back.
I guess the question you are wondering is if you should try to friend your ex girlfriend back?
Lets flip the script back to those men who are still friends with their exes and talk a little bit about the relationship status protocol. You see, one camp believes that it is better to wait out your ex girlfriend and do it after she does it. When that moment finally comes for her spy on your profile post breakup she is going to feel some sting when she sees that status change. Now, I am not one for making people suffer but sometimes letting her feel that sting is good because it forces her to realize how much you really meant to her.
Generally speaking if you end up dating someone and it is getting serious the two of you are going to end up taking pictures together. What I would like to talk about now is what you should do with the pictures that you and your ex took together that are posted on your profile. For example, lets say that on your Facebook profile you have a total of 20 pictures of you and your ex girlfriend together. We have already established that it is pretty much inevitable that your ex girlfriend is going to come snooping around your profile eventually so she is definitely going to notice that most of the pictures of the two of you are gone but then she is also going to notice that you kept two.
I can’t tell you how many women have messaged me on my other website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery wondering why their ex boyfriends still have some of their pictures up.
They are literally drawn more into their exes because they can’t quite solve the riddle and that is exactly what we want from your ex girlfriend.
We want her to be so drawn to figuring you out that she gives you more attention then any ex should probably deserve. In this section I am going to give you some perfect guidelines on how you should be approaching status updates if you want to re attract your ex girlfriend. Oh, and how could I forget one of my favorite type of updates (sarcasm obviously,) song lyrics. Yes, there are some men out there that will post the lyrics to a certain song that describes exactly how they are feeling. For example, if you are about to go on a vacation to Hawaii or something make sure you post an update about that. Now, you have to be careful about being too fine because then it will look like you are trying too hard.
If you guessed the people who feel the need to post multiple status updates every single day then you guessed correctly. Essentially what you are admitting to the world if you are posting 10 updates on Facebook every single day is that you have no life at all or that your life simply revolves around finding things to update the world on. Nevertheless, as I said above updates can be a powerful weapon when it comes to winning back your girlfriend. I don’t think you should post an update on Facebook every day because if that annoys me then that is going to annoy everyone else on your friends list including your ex. Again, this suffers from the same problem in that you need to post more updates than just one every single month.
Is it a good idea to go out of your way to add new friends (who are women) on your Facebook profile after a breakup? Well, in order to answer that properly I feel we have to take a trip into the mind of a woman. The two of you just broke up and all of a sudden you start adding a bunch of girls on Facebook.
The first thing you need to be aware of is the frequency of which you are adding new friends. For example, if you are adding a crazy amount of friends every day it is going to look like you are trying too hard to prove a point to your ex girlfriend.
Of course, adding friends on Facebook won’t be very natural if you are simply just adding all women.
So, instead of her opening up your Facebook and seeing you adding ten women she is going to see that you have an even split of five men and five women. Now, I understand that you may be a little hesitant to add men since men aren’t going to really make her jealous. Pretty much every action that your significant other does on Facebook is carefully watched and dissected. I suppose the best way to start this section off is by explaining why making your ex girlfriend a little jealous is beneficial to you in getting her back. Because it technically means that she would be ok with you hanging out with other women or cheating on her which the last time I checked is NOT an ok thing to do. So, that means that if you can make her a little jealous through Facebook then that means that she looks at you in a light where she still very much cares about you. One way that you can bring out some feelings of jealousy within your ex girlfriend is to like another girls status on Facebook.
Now, I am already assuming that your ex is keeping a close eye on your Facebook habits with this one so that means that you liking someone else’s status is probably going to show up on her Facebook feed so she is going to be made aware of it. For example, if you go on a liking spree and just like everything in sight then the chances are pretty high that you are going to project an image that you are trying to make your ex jealous and that is not what we want, her to think you are trying to make her jealous. What I would recommend you do is pick out a friend of yours that is quite attractive and like her status. This is essentially the same concept as liking another girls status except instead of pressing the like button you are going to actually think of something to say to one of your more attractive friends and write it on her wall. Emotional women are quick to jump to wrong conclusions because they can sometimes let their minds run wild with all kinds of crazy possibilities.
If I was you I would stay away from anything too flirty because this can backfire on you in two different ways. On the one hand if you really want to make your ex girlfriend jealous then this is definitely going to do the trick.
Before you do anything like this I want you to be aware of the consequences that go along with it.
It is entirely possible that you posting a picture on Facebook with another girl can make your ex so upset that she doesn’t want you back anymore.
Now, before I move on I do want to point out that there are a few rules that you are going to have to abide by if you are going to attempt this. The type of photo that you should be posting is one that clearly states that you and the girl are just friends. Notice how the two people in the photo aren’t touching each other in any way shape or form. Remember though, there could be consequences so make sure you think a lot about this before you try it. I told you at the beginning of this guide that Facebook is only one small puzzle piece to a much larger puzzle. Now, I imagine you came to this website to find a way to get your ex girlfriend back and not just to pimp out your Facebook profile.
If you are looking for an actual step by step guide that tells you everything you need to know about getting your girlfriend back I suggest you take a look at this guide as it will take you through the entire ex recovery process from start to finish. I would also recommend taking a look at some of the other articles I have written on this site as they will give you insight into how to successfully pull of the challenging task of winning an ex girlfriend back. Oh, and I am actively updating this site pretty much every day so if you ever have any questions you can simply ask me in the comments section below. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back.
My almost fiance broke up with me when she met a guy she says she has a connection with him. For now I’m poised on sitting back, even a couple of months; but should I lose the notion of worrying and caring about her too? So after that I didn’t talk to her for a few days, then I texted her and tried to open up the lines of communication.
I would wait until you rebuild some rapport with her through texts before you add her back on Facebook. I noticed the other day that I am no longer blocked from my ex girlfriend’s personal fb page. We are both doing the fitness show this weekend so that will be tough for me to have to see her.
People who obtain cardiovascular broken go back to think of their life what seriously came about that triggered the separation. However, what if there is a likelihood which you plus your ex can patch points up and acquire back together? It would seem that no communication would backfire you but it actually makes perfect sense. Most people will discover that if you take a break, you do have a possibility to think about your relationship. Did you know that showing affection now may be the worst reaction you can have especially right after a break up? This entry was posted in how to get your ex back boyfriend and tagged ex back books, ex back club boyfriend, get ex back advice, get my ex back, get ur ex back, get your ex back, how to get your ex back boyfriend, text your ex back on June 1, 2014 by wutkor6. The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast is one of the most popular self help and sexuality podcasts found on the market today. First he agreed but then changed his mind in things that we cannot be fixed because there was nothing wrong with our relationship. It just means I’m going to take a much different approach.” If you’re willing to accept that, I think I may have a game plan for you where you can be successful. So, my mindset at that time was a little bit more mature even though like I said, I was little naive and thought the move would be easy. It could be millions of different reasons but what I personally think from drawing upon my own personal experience is he felt maybe a little uncomfortable in this new area and didn’t really quite have the guts to stick it out and set his roots his down and kind of normalize and it certainly takes some time to get there but you will get there eventually if you stick it out. And I like to teach these three date method where you go on a smaller date then a medium date then on a romantic date but that’s where the long distance relationship strategy kind of alters a bit because getting a date with an ex who’s states away isn’t easy.
Build up a critical mass of attraction in the texting phase and phone call phase and then when you have the critical mass built, I want you both to set a date and stick to the date where you go out and get plane tickets maybe a month away until where the plane tickets are affordable and you’re not paying—dropping $700 to a $1000 on a plane ticket for a weekend where you see your ex, where you’re not even guaranteed to get them back. Ultimately getting him back is going to be contingent on getting either together in the same state or working out some sort of commitment where you have a deeper commitment like marriage or something but no matter how you slice or dice it, you’re going to have to get back on the same state so, maybe that means you have to be willing to move to him.
I didn’t really know anyone again besides my wife and her family and I didn’t really have a support system to kind of fall back onto.
I really tried to provide as much personal experience in everything as I could to your situation but if you’re asking my professional opinion as a relationship consultant.
I wanted to thank you for taking the time to listen to me ramble on Morgan and all of you who are listening and listening to ramble on with Morgan, thank you so, so very much. It’s good for me to help me understand you better and as a result, hopefully I can just continue to give good advice to everyone who wants it.
We have had a lot going on lately and I kind of neglected getting new content out there but I am going to work really hard to stay on schedule of posting one of these episodes a week.
If this is your first serious boyfriend, I’m assuming you are his first serious girlfriend and at that age, if you’ve only experienced one person or you’ve only been in a relationship with one person.
That can be kind of a tough thing because society has kind of painted men into a corner where men are the providers. You had him in your hands, I don’t know what you were thinking with regards to trying to make him jealous or make him upset by telling him that you slept with someone else. I know I’ve been kind of getting onto you and telling you what you did was not a smart way to approach it. I think for him to even ask that question of you in the first place means he’s worried about it. Thus, she is wondering how to turn a meet up that's supposed to be about a record into a date where they can hang out. I kind of took a break last week, mostly focused on Youtube and creating videos because I really--I guess it’s fun to be on camera. I am actually in the process of rewriting my most popular book- Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro and this thing is going to be a behemoth. You know like, “The book created this nice little template for me to work in but it doesn’t speak directly to my situation.” I’m glad you asked that.


So, yeah, I’m super pump about it, you know we just finished writing a new book-- The No Contact Rule Book.
Thus, she is wondering how to turn a meet up that’s supposed to be about a record into a date where they can hang out. I kind of took a break last week, mostly focused on Youtube and creating videos because I really–I guess it’s fun to be on camera. So, yeah, I’m super pump about it, you know we just finished writing a new book– The No Contact Rule Book. When I am choosing questions to feature on the podcast, often times my wife whose desk is sitting right next to mind, listens to me listen to all voice mails and you’re particular question, when I was playing it, listening to it, I was interested in it. To me it looks like, you’re maybe rushing a little too fast but I’m not saying you shouldn’t go get your record or anything like that.
So, congratulations for that and I’m going to do everything in my power right now to help you on the date. So, I think a lot of my effort or focus is on helping those people at the beginning of the strategy but that doesn’t mean we should leave out the people who are the end of the strategy– dating.
You know you go on what I like to call kind of a small date, the medium date and then large date or the romantic date and he still hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend again.
I think if– I would always let my wife dress me because that’s how bad I am at dressing up.
She sent me this really interesting email about what the clothing says about you and what the color of the clothing says about you.
This one is rather usual considering the character restraint in #1 but according to another friend, restricting the use of acronyms in early messages may help catapult later messages. You can send a nipple and you can send your face, but you can never send them in the same message. Your text message is not a social media tool and as such, the journalistic rule of thumb remains in tact and mandates that you get but three exclamation points over the course of your career (budding romance).
Finally, be weary of text-message bombing (which is considerably different than photo bombing). In fulfilling the guidelines of this monologue, you break almost every rule in some capacity, display your inability to countdown (eight and a half comes before eight,) and perhaps most dangerously: allude to emotional illness. I’m also married, though, which implies that occasionally, being who you are is rather endearing. I’ve probably broken each and every one of these rules, during both long and very, VERY, short term relationships.
Can we get a post about how to go about at least attempting a normal phone conversation without dramatic pauses that leave the person on the other end wondering if you have, in fact, died? Am I weird to think that texting can convey so much that gets lost in awkward phone conversations? Some people (me included) use English phrases while texting sometimes, like: miss you, wtf, and so on.
I had a good laugh at some of them and cringed thinking that people actually do some of these.
Well, this advanced guide is going to answer every possible question you could have about using Facebook to get your ex girlfriend back.
Well, using this analogy Facebook would be looked at as one small piece to a much larger puzzle.
You see, a lot of men are of the mindset that they have to punish their exes by cutting them out of their life completely which means unfriending them on Facebook. What about those men who have already unfriended their exes and are reading this for the first time?
Look, I know it may be looked at as a bit of a weak sign but in the grand scheme of things no one is going to remember who friended who first. Of course, I have been dealing with broken relationships for years and I can tell you that the truth is that it is highly unlikely that you are going to be able to patch things up with her that quickly.
I mean, if you were to do that and say something mean or hurtful it could harm your chances when you end up trying to win your ex girlfriend back. It drives them nuts because they can’t figure out whether or not their ex still has feelings for them or if he is just keeping the pictures for sentimental reasons. Again, these songs usually have a common theme, life sucks now but its going to get better. Instead of posting about how you are feeling I challenge you to post about what you are doing. In real life they are lovely people but maybe their constant need to seek attention through updates annoys me.
While it is nowhere near as bad as posting an update every day some people can still get a little annoyed at every other day updates. It isn’t too much but rather just enough and that is exactly what we are looking for here. Lets say that after your breakup with your ex you decide to pimp out your Facebook profile by doing everything that this page recommends. Of course, as I explained in my jealousy article you have to be extremely careful about not going overboard with it.
It’s unfortunate because it creates a lot of insecurity in relationships but we are getting off topic here. If your ex girlfriend never got jealous during your relationship it probably means she didn’t care enough to get jealous and that is a very bad thing. Something like that is always interesting but mainstream enough to not be viewed as flirty. On the other hand, seeing you take a picture with another girl and posting it on Facebook may tick off your ex so much that she doesn’t want you back. Well, as much as I would love to tell you what to do right here I feel it isn’t an efficient use of my time as I have already slaved away on a game plan for getting a girlfriend back. She was texting her ex and what I saw in those text were pretty much cheating to me and she was putting me down.
She is very depressed and doesn’t even know what she wants in her life she is not sure if this guy is right for her either but she thinks she found out that I am not right for her because she might want something more than me treating her like a princess. Basically I find her limited activity odd, but I want to know if it’s eating at her or if I simply blew it in the first two weeks. So my ex girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me a week ago with and immediately blocked me on facebook so I started no contact. I had traveled to her city to work for two months and rented an appartment so we could be together. And now she got into town and we met as she was asking me questions about my relationships stats etc.. Ever since you changed the format of your website I can’t seem to post on the comments section. Some would desire to get again with their ex but they have no idea the way to make this happen. This can help you to definitely look at the experience you’d with these and also the reasons why you may want to get back together.
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If you could please give me any kind of advice before 6 o’ clock, that would be amazing but if that’s not. And we’re going to do everything we possibly can here in the ex recovery family to help you.
So, I understand that this is may be hard for you to hear because I think everyone who can listen to this and everyone who can you know, hear your voice knows that you’re in a really emotional spot right now and I can just tell you really want him back. I’m just sort of the medium or the bridge between your mind and his mind and to what he may be thinking. So, the only way that we could make our relationship work is if I move to Pennsylvania and that’s what I ended up doing.
I think I read somewhere that I don’t know, it takes like a year and a half to—maybe even like 3 years I read one time, to like settle down when you are in a new place. And you know, my wife and I we weren’t married at that time but then we got married and we had a baby and our life turned out really, really incredible but it wasn’t easy that move. Well, to be honest with you, I’ll just approach this like a long distance relationship breakup.
The in person meet ups are a much bigger deal when it comes to long distance relationships. You need to focus a lot of your time and effort into building attractions through those methods and then after you feel like you have built this critical mass of attraction, that’s when you push to meet up in either a neutral state or neutral place or you visit him or he visits you. If you have a job, you have to be willing to maybe take a vacation day or if you don’t have a job that’s great but that brings up to the next point, you need money.
We obviously were trying to meet up because we were in a relationship maybe 6 months before I moved in with her.
You know, set up a date where you visit each other and you know—with a normal break up I often say well, the best way to do is there’s got to be three dates, the small date, the medium date and the romantic date. If he’s comfortable and you think you can undergo the physical and emotional stress of moving such a long distance and not knowing anyone and being alone in a certain extent, you’re going to have to try to take some of ‘those risks perhaps or you know it’s sort of a talk that you and your ex have to have when you get to that point but don’t ever talk about that until maybe you see him in person or you got him in the best possible mood you can possible get in and you’re far down the road in the ex recovery process. I think that’s a complete mistake because ultimatums never work and you are self imposing an ultimatum on you. Got a little busy, we recently released a quiz on ex boyfriend recovery.  Basically, that defines what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back. I know a lot of women are scared to do that but I think the women who do end up having the courage and the women who are lucky enough to have their question picked on the podcast, get a lot of value out of what I say because I spend basically 20 minutes talking about that situation. You believe he’s going through a quarter life crises which I’m not quite sure I buy it all. I know not necessarily anymore that women’s rights have done a lot for equality and things like that but if you look at the numbers men still earn more than women. I mean I can understand why you did it because maybe you’re upset that he broke up with and you wanted to hurt him that way that he hurts you.
I was telling people on the emails, I was telling people on the comments, I was telling people on Youtube, I was telling my wife about it, I was telling my dad about it. Specifically if you should do the no contact rule in your situation and you seem like you’re really well read. Now, the biggest misconception about the no contact rule, that I found to be lately is a lot of people just use it to focus on their ex boyfriend but that’s not what it’s for. And there’s a lot of more interesting things going on but the podcast is still near and dear to my heart. Today’s question comes from someone who wanted to remain anonymous but she has a real interesting question that I don’t think I’ve ever covered on the podcast before.
I’m going to give you certainly tips on what to do during the date but I would say, after the date, focus on building more attraction before you see him again in person.
You did the no contact rule which is phenomenal but where I think you fell down a little bit was the attraction building through texting and then after texting you have to transition to phone calls.
So, when it comes to dating your ex, if I were to pick out one of the weakest parts about ex  boyfriend recovery, it’s the fact that we feature a ton of advice on the first parts of my overall strategy for getting an ex back, for parts like the no contact rule, parts like text messaging, parts like talking on the phone but we don’t really talk about dating a lot and what to do during the date. This process will take time which is why I like to teach what I like to call the three date method. Well, you just have to interest him, you’re right about being chill and not bringing up really bad memories or super emotional stuff. Especially if there was cheating involved, you should definitely not talk about that but talk about something that’s going to interest them.
If it was up to me, I would probably go everywhere in tennis clothes because they’re so comfortable but obviously, I can’t do that. I’m sure you’ve seen this when it comes to like sales and advertising and how like yellow—you know like McDonald’s has red-yellow or something because it catches your eye and it makes you want to go in but when it comes to relationships, it’s really interesting in what the colors mean.
So, if you want him to look at you in a passionate way or you want him to be super into you, red is definitely what you want to wear. According to the author of this quote, (her name is Amelia and she loves horses in the literal sense not to the large genital sense,) in the first phases of conversation, shorter is always sweeter. This suggestion comes from a friend of mine who has more or less been out of the dating game a full decade. Now, are there any specific do’s and don’ts not listed here that you subscribe to? Between not re-reading and not giving a shit, you couldn’t understand anything that she said. And it is usually something along a quotation, we are pretending to be Americans, we watch English-language TV shows in the original, oh aren’t we cool!
In other words, if you are expecting this guide to show you step by step how to construct the overall puzzle then you are going to be disappointed because this guide is going to be focusing specifically on just the one puzzle piece, Facebook. Oh, and to take things a step further there is also a right way about how you approach the amount of updates you post and a wrong way to approach it. Of course, when it comes to adding women friends on Facebook there is another thing you have to take into account. So I’ve been NC for two weeks, during which I took the time to focus on myself (go to the gym, focus on school, hang out with friends). Her depression is bad and has no desire in anything she is confused about her life goals and she is kind of obsessed with this guy wich he is completely opposit as me and he has a lot of things she normally hates on guys.
3 days later she unblocked and messeged me to see what I was doing but I didn’t respond. I graduated from my college, I found another job for a while and now I ‘m trying to get another diploma. I don’t see her wavering, shes pretty stubborn, and apparently gets over relationships quickly. We are getting through a male person here so when much as I would want to be able to only make him return with you I don’t hold the mind control powers that a great number of others in this particular “how to get him or her boyfriend and girlfriend back fast” community have.
I will be allowing you to in on some secrets on how you can have him or her again from a split up. What you will quickly realize is that when you combine this with a idea on which to state to acquire your boyfriend or girlfriend back, you can actually make a lasting impression that creates him would love you again.
We’re going to be talking about what to do if you find your ex boyfriend has become distant all of sudden. If that’s too much notice, I understand but any help you could offer me would be so much appreciated.
So, I guess, this is going to be kind of a unique episode because I’m going to be bringing a lot of my own personal experience to it because I feel like I can relate to your ex boyfriend on some levels but first things first, let’s talk about the 6 o’clock deadline. You really care for him and like I said, we’re going to do everything we can to help you but the first thing that I want to try to encourage you to do is not rush this process. So, for your own peace of mind, just accept right now that he’s going to move back but that doesn’t mean that you’re helpless and that you can’t do anything about it. Now, I was maybe a little bit young and naive when I moved because I had just started to come into some success with the websites. So, what I’m thinking could have happened with your ex boyfriend is that he moved from Missouri, is what you said I believe, to Kansas and the transition was tough for him and maybe you were the one positive part of that move because it takes a while for a human being to kind of sit down under a roof and feel comfortable right? My wife is the only reason I probably got through it but your boyfriend on the other hand, maybe he just got scared a little bit. You can just text them up and say, “Hey, you want a cup of coffee?”, “Sure, let’s go get a cup of coffee.” Well, you can’t really do that if you’re ex is a state away. Now, this poses a problem for a lot of people because I think a lot of the people, a lot of the women specifically who come to ex boyfriend recovery don’t exactly have a lot of money. I just felt like I was—just had my wife and that was it and it takes a while to build that stuff back up. I would say try to get him back, take the long game—if you’re trying to get him back, sorry. I really appreciate what you’ve done for my websites because without you these websites wouldn’t exist.
Maybe you wanted to get some sort of validation from him that he cared for you in a deep level and you certainly got that but it really didn’t do anything to help  you with getting him back. Telling him or hurting him like this served no purpose for you other than just getting that validation but the fact that he was on a date with you, the fact that it only took a week of ignoring him to get on this date should have been validation enough that he’s still had feelings for you. Even if you tell him that you lied, even if you explained your reasons for lying, in the back of his mind, he’s not going to believe you. I was really excited about this thing because I really thought it was going to be revolutionary but back to the story, the particular day I was cleaning up my desktop and I happened to put the book that I was writing, the book that I spent a month and a half working on into the trash bin and then I clicked on the trash bin and then I erased it.
You lied to him about sleeping with someone else, why you did this, I think my personal belief is you were trying to find some sort of validation that he’s still loved you and maybe you thought this was the best way to bring it out, maybe you were just trying to hurt him.
So, what I think you need to do before you enter the no contact rule is let him know that you were lying.
Yes, it is for making an ex miss you, it’s for healing an ex’s feelings emotionally, it’s for leveling you out emotionally and that’s—it’s really a two pronged approach in the fact that, yes, you are using it for your ex but you’re also using it for yourself. So, here I am again for another week and another episode of the ex boyfriend recovery podcast. I really took a lot of the people who complained about what the book didn’t have or what the book lacked in the past.
I don’t know when it’s going to be completed because I want to do a really good job for you but basically what’s going to happens is I have compiled a huge list of all the situations I’ve ever encountered through ex boyfriend recovery. So, anyways– two year relationship, ended basically in the “Girl’s-a-crazy-this-guy’s-a dumb” paradox thing. I’m not trying to say anything mean to you or put you down or anything like that but if I were to pick on something that maybe you didn’t do as well and you weren’t as descriptive as maybe you could have been but if there is one thing that I can kind of pick at that maybe you could have done a little bit better not relating to a date. As far as what to say, I think this podcast episode is too short to tell you exactly what to say on a date. Now, if you listen to my strategies or read anything on my website, you know that I’m a big fan of slowly building up attraction and the same applies with dating.
It just depends on—I know some men out there get really keyed up and they show up a lot earlier.
A tv show is an example there that I just used but maybe he has a movie, maybe—I know Game of Thrones is coming out soon which is we’re super pumped for. But anyways, here’s some interesting things that I’ve learned and also that my wife can help you out because now my wife is working full time with the ex-recovery team and she’s specifically really good at things like make up and dressing things up. So, according to this, there are three types of colors that you want to wear on your first date.
The second one is perfect if there was cheating involved, specifically if you cheating and, that’s Blue.
You can thoughtfully consider what will go into crafting the perfect message and in some instances, wholly create that immaculate vision. She suggests that even though she does not agree with the following dramatization, it is likely a fantastic way to disengage the other end of your message. This is probs due to the fact that I actually use these in my everyday vocab, as in I dont just type and read them, I say them as well.
She is moving out of my place and now she is with her parents due to her depression she is a little distinction all right now, I haven’t contact her in one week but she has texted me about bills and money stuff, I have replied very short and straight to the point. I also changed my status to single but she still has in a relationship with our anniversary date. During this time, you need to think of some type of indisputable fact that can assist you get your ex back. We’re going to be hearing from a woman name Morgan, who finds herself in a really interesting situation.
I thought that was a great idea but when he got to Missouri, he started acting weird and distant.
I don’t know what to do and I have until 6 o’clock tonight to find a way to influence him to not just leave and then at least hear me out. I know this podcast is geared towards women and women specifically on ex boyfriend recovery but ex boyfriend recovery isn’t the only website I own.
I know it’s hard but trying to get him back in 2 hours and convince him to stop his entire plan of moving back from Kansas to Missouri is going to be extremely difficult if not impossible. So, maybe he latched onto you and you made him feel comfortable and then he went back to visit his parents and he felt their love and what it was like to be back home and you know he was thinking, “Man, this feels so great.” I don’t think it’s anything against you either Morgan. You know, the answer is—the reason I think he may have potentially pulled something like this is because of the uncomfortableness of moving this big life change blah blah blah… We already got all that.
My wife and I just took a trip out to Florida to look for a house to buy and the trip to Florida was not inexpensive. It took me a good maybe two years before I felt like, “Okay, I feel like I’m kind of getting more at home here.” So, if you’re willing to take that kind of risk then I think you should maybe go full steam ahead with what I just tried to explain to you.
I would say long distance relationships have the worst chance at success rates than some of the more general breakups just because of the distance can provide so many extra roadblocks to overcome. One of the things I liked about Morgan’s message was the fact that she kind of got choked up there at the end. Not only is it a really cool quiz but you’re going to get so much value after you sign up for it. But I don’t want to get into any political debates on what men earn versus what women earn. I could definitely buy into the fact that he was struggling with this career or trying to figure out his life path or what he should do for a career.
Believe it or not, even though what you did was stupid, I think it can serve a purpose for getting him back which I’ll cover in a second.
You saw what I said about the no contact rule but how every time you do it after the first time it losses some effectiveness and that is certainly going to hold true but the good news for you is you really didn’t do it. Understand everything I teach about the value chain, about how you want to go from the no contact rule, to texting, to after you build attraction through texting, you move up to the phone calls then after you build attraction through the phone calls, you move up to the dates.
I jotted those notes down and basically everything that anyone ever complained about is going to be going in the book.


So, I don’t forget but yeah, we’re really excited to add more products to fray and I have to say, thank you guys for being so accepting of the newest additions to the ex boyfriend recovery team. Build attraction with your ex through text messages and then of course build attraction through your ex through phone calls and eventually, once enough attraction has been build, the date should be easiest.
Of course I write about it in my products and everything like that but for whatever reason, I’ve just never covered that as much.
I will give you a few pointers a little bit later but let’s talk about what kind of a template to work in because I always think people look better when they have an overall strategy.
Imagine that you were about to go on a blind date with someone you’ve never met before and then on the blind date, that person asks you to marry him. Repeat it to where it’s every single date you go on from this point on after that third date is romantic and puts him in the mindset of wanting to ask you to be his girlfriend again but we’re getting way ahead. Baby blue in particular—I know from my sales experience that Baby Blue is the most trusted color but Blue in general shows that you’re trustworthy and that you’re secure essentially. They force uncomfortable conversational fodder and an inevitable dialogue about the weather.
You are definitely not rolling on the floor and your ass has definitely not dispatched from your body due to my highly advanced sense of hilarity.
Besides the physical benefits, there’s nothing greater about having a serious boyfriend than being able to rest all doubt on whether my next text will be the breaking point on our relationship.
While it is ok with friends and such, its gets really difficult to read while a flirt goes on. We were making plans to live together in two months and start our lives at her city, under one roof. I blocked her before we broke up and in the last week of us dating (8 out of 9 months we spent living together) she refused to re-accept my request.
Emotions are still there however, you don?t discover how to express them since your outlet has been removed from you.
If you give your ex some cooling off time without talking to them (if it is rude to never talk to them, then talk with them), then odds are it is likely you can function your path back into their lives. Now, he is telling me that he is not sure that he is in love with me anymore and he is returning to Kansas solely to get his stuff.
Now, if you don’t want to take the long game, I completely understand but that’s what I’m going to encourage you to do. I thought I would move maybe from my parent’s house to an apartment, to a house and you know but all within Texas. I remember when we first moved into our apartment in Pennsylvania, we had no furniture and you know I worked from home and my wife at the time worked for an enterprise, a rental car company. You may have been the perfect girlfriend but still like I said moving that long of a distance or moving and going through this drastic life changes can be really difficult on any human being not just your boyfriend or not just men in general. That doesn’t necessarily apply when you’re talking about long distance relationships because and often times, especially if you’re states away, you almost get only one chance, one shot at goal. That long distance way of getting your ex back Morgan but if you’re asking my personal opinion, I think if you can’t handle the fact that you’ll probably end up having to be the one to move to him in the end, I think maybe it might be time to just let him go and not think about it anymore. Not that I’m like kind of a dick about it like I like seeing people cry, I don’t but it makes me realize how serious people are about getting their exes back because sometimes I get a little removed from that.
Basically by through hearing other people’s situations and figuring out what advice that I give to them that you can use for your situations. I would think, “Ok, we’ll she’s telling me that and I can understand why she did that but what if she’s just lying about this as well?” I mean this is the kind of headwind that you’re going to have to overcome if you’re going to try to get this particular ex boyfriend back. You did it for  a week and then basically got him back and then fumbled it up before you really got him back. What kind of hobbies can you pick up?  What kind of things have you always wanted to do but you never did?
Well, he’s already going to be very insecure about you or you telling him and lying to him about sleeping with someone else. Just sort of, kind of, if you imagine a graph, it’s sort of like the graph is constantly going up if the graph were to represent attraction of course. I think that’s partly due to my laziness but it’s also partly due to no one really wants to hear about it because where people mostly struggle is in the first parts of the strategy with the no contact rule. Where I would have a date set up and I would show up maybe 30 minutes early because I was just nervous about it but my point here is you’re trying to go on small date and the goal of this date is to interest him and make him want another date with you. Because when you have him on that hook, when you have him hooked and you leave, you are putting yourself in a position where he’s going to want to see you again. So, if you cheated or there was cheating involved, blue is definitely the color that you want to wear. You will always get really good and insightful information from my podcast specifically about ex’s or just relationships in general and also please if you haven’t, write a review. Sometimes my ear will begin to hurt and when that happens I will have to surmise that I have probably contracted brain cancer.
No matter what you think you have to say, how witty, charming, convivial it will be, there’s always tomorrow morning (and a pretty profound headache) to make up for short term radio silence. If he uses an English ‘miss you’ instead our own native language, does it mean he means it less?
She has liked things on my Facebook… My question is, is the reset still in play here or did I ruin that with conversations in the first couple of weeks?
Suddenly she told me she couldn’t wait any longer and that he reached her limits so she broke up with me.
3 years is a long time for a long distance relationship, usually you should make plans to move in with your partner within a year to make a long distance relationship work.
Then we broke up for good, and I admit I was being a huge GNAT for the first 10 days, whereas she was employing her own NC. There are two rational solutions: cut off all power (emotions) or try to find the outlet to help you express those emotions again. We want to get this episode out as soon as possible for Morgan, so she can get the advice that she needs to get her ex boyfriend back. I mean, I think on average this process can take between 45-60 days to get your ex back and for those who are listening who are just generally trying to get an ex back or just trying to get, I guess a boyfriend back in any situation you could think of. She was like a manager there and so she would go to work, probably like at 6 am every single day and then get back at 6 pm or 7 pm. So, if you’re looking for reasons for why he may have broke up with you and why he maybe thinks you guys want different things out of life, it could be that he just doesn’t feel comfortable.
He is moving back to Missouri and you’re in Kansas, so you are basically, if you are going to try and get him back, it’s going to be like kind of a long distance relationship and as far as what to do with the long distance relationship. Well, I try to see her at least once every single month but that required planning on both our parts. You have to make your time with your ex as romantic as possible and you have to do a lot of things like leave him wanting more which is kind of a cool thing about long distance relationships. You said you wanted to know about what the appropriate time was to hash things out with him.
So, technically I think it’s going to lose a little bit of the effectiveness for your situation but not much.
Seriously, you should go back into no contact rule and to the no contact rule even if you didn’t contact your ex but you didn’t make any personal strides, you should go back to the no contact rule. The first date should be real light, not threatening, but interesting enough to hold his attention to make him think about you. So, I went out and got someone who knows a lot about it, enough to get me to marry her, my wife. And then finally, if you feel like you want to look slimmer or you feel that like Red looks terrible on you, –these are my wife’s words, I’m just summarizing from the email here I have pulled up in front of me.
I believe us non-english speakers need to get creative with our own languages before we forget just how rich they are! Then yesterday I noticed that she liked the event, which is weird because I was wondering why she would do that? Its been about 3 weeks since she moved out, and 2 weeks since I stopped texting and gave all her stuff back.
So, on my other website, I actually ended up writing this really interesting article where I took kind of a mock situation where I was thinking, “Well, I’m constantly getting this questions about people who want to get their exes back as soon as possible.” And they rush through the entire process and more often than not, they fall flat on their faces. We needed to make sure that she could get time off and that you know, I guess I had the money to do it. I guess one of the biggest positives is a lot of the time that you get together in person is super romantic.
I’m not going to say it’s a great shot because I think him moving back to Kansas for you is not as likely and I don’t know how you feel about moving to Missouri and I feel like that’s a decision that you should come to on your own without any kind of prods or pushes from me. Not that my wife and I ever broke up but the long distance relationship itself is so difficult to manage that it feels like you’re going insane sometimes.
I’m thinking about, “Ok, if you do this, this and this it’s going to equal this.” But sometimes it’s good to get the human element.
I wouldn't call it necessarily a newsletter but we completely revamped the emails that you get when you sign up for exboyfriend recovery. I wouldn’t call it necessarily a newsletter but we completely revamped the emails that you get when you sign up for exboyfriend recovery.
We were kind of talking a while after the breakup and then I finally started no contact and within a week of us not speaking, he reached out to me asking if we could talk. You mentioned something about a quarter life crisis because he doesn’t know what he wants to do in a career which I’m not sure I buy a quarter life crisis thing. To be honest the appropriate time is when he’s in an incredible mood, when he is in such a good mood that you can basically tell him that you murdered someone and he won’t get upset with you. So, I was feeling really good about myself and I think my wife, she took the baby to her parent’s house to give me some kind of space to work and some peace and quiet to work basically. Usually I’m very secure about the projects I work on or in a specific area of my desktop where I don’t touch them or they sat there and everything. The second date should take things up a notch and on the third date of course should take things up a notch and then ideally by that third date enough attraction has been built through both where he’s re-evaluating whether or not he wants you to be his girlfriend and he’ll ask you. We’re using Starbucks as an example because I’ve been to Starbucks and I’d know exactly how this can work. You’ll find he’ll text you more, he’ll think about you more, he’ll say nice things to you, he’ll say maybe I miss you and then you can go about setting up that second date; the medium date which I’m actually not going to talk about because I want to talk a little bit about what you should wear. I encourage you to write a review on Itunes for my podcast and that it’s going to do it for this week’s podcast of the exboyfriend recovery podcast episode.
Then the next morning I notice that the like is gone, so I go to her profile and low and behold, she unfriended me and at the same time posted a picture of her and her best friend drinking beers. She has to comeback to get all her stuff out and figure out where she is going, also she is still talking to this guy and pretty obbssesed with him. She looks at my phone one day and sees someone has been texting me so she asks and I panicked and I said idk because I had deleted previous messages (I don’t like clutter in my phone). We were fighting A LOT towards the end of it, so I think I should go with 30 days of NC, though I’d prefer 21, I think 30 would be more concrete. So, I took this mock situation to try to figure out what someone could do to get their ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back, particularly their ex girlfriend since this was for the ex girlfriend recovery website. It takes time and commitment on your part and even then you’re not guaranteed to get an ex back because no one can guarantee you that.
It was actually extremely difficult to move and a lot of times, I wasn’t as happy as I wouldn’t have been, if I hadn’t have moved.
So, yeah I think maybe that could have potentially be what’s going on here and why he’s wanting to move back home. So, if you—I guess what I’m trying to say is building this critical mass of attraction is essential but you know, if your ex is states away, then you’re going to have to catch  a last minute flight when you’re trying to ask for this date and last minute flights are typically notorious for being expensive. So, it wasn’t as much of an issue for me but she also had to come visit me and visit my parents. I’m just trying to tell you what I think and what I think is, I think in the future if you are to get him back, I think you would have to be the one to move to him.
I’m trying to give you a look at every single aspect of this situation and part of that is just me giving you my personal opinion on your chances. When you do this quiz, you basically get this set of emails that basically defines to your situation what kind of chance you have. And since we’re trying to create this—basically this community where we help people who are trying to get their ex back.
You told him that you slept with someone else to hurt him which obviously it did and you find yourself back at square one. I mean I know they have midlife crises but just to put this to perspective, he’s 26 and I’m 26. I mean there’s nothing scarier than living life without a plan or without a financial plan to back you up.
And I did just that, I started working and I started particularly cleaning up my desktop.  I own an iMac and it’s really cluttered.
But here’s the thing, I was in a great mood that day, so even though, it was a horrible loss which I have since started rewriting the book and that I think it’s even better now than it was but even though it was a horrible loss, I didn’t really feel that upset inside because I was in such a good mood. So, I really think you really have a great chance of almost—even though you’re at square one. For you to make a major mistake like telling him that you slept with someone just proves that you are not ready to get him back. Let’s say, it’s not a date, it’s just a hang out with one of your guy friends, Dave and you post a picture on Facebook and he comes across this.
Light texting after no contact, although he is very reserved but responding and when our last conversation went right, I asked if he has still had my old records that I lent him and he does and he agreed to meet up and give it back but yeah. So, once you get there early, go inside of Starbucks and then order a coffee or whatever the heck you want to order there, Frappucino, whatever. My wife and I last night, we had an interesting discussion about the bachelor of all things and how the bachelor almost glorifies cheating and how it’s socially acceptable for the bachelor or even the bachelorette to cheat and how it’s such a way of process.
Two simple words in damn English, not even a sentence, and I go off overthinking for an hour! She did send a photo of us together 2 days ages saying she thought it was a great pic and she wanted to share I again answer very shortly saying it is a great pic thanks for sharing. Since then, I’ve gone on a couple dates, hung out with friends, found some temporary work, gotten into way better shape, competed in my sport and even won some medals. So, she had to have the money to do that and the time to do that but before we even met before, we met online through Facebook through friends. So, maybe he can be in his comfort zone but at the same time there’s drawbacks to that because you leave your friends and family.
So, he’s essentially your high school sweetheart and I could factor into all of this in a second but first let me get to your situation.
So, you’re big basic questions here are should you do the no contact rule again and what’s the appropriate time for you to hash things out regarding the issues in your previous relationship and what caused the breakup and things of that nature.
So, I think I have a lot of great insight into what he’s thinking or he’s mindset and at 26 years old, I have not had a quarter life crisis though. And men really take that seriously, so I can buy into the fact that he feels a lot of stress about that but it’s not a quarter life crisis.
So, just going forward, if I’m going to help you out, I need to know that you cannot do this again. That’s how important it is to focus on yourself and a lot of women obsess about the no contact rule.
So, a lot of women think, “Ok, will getting my ex back, I have to wait ‘til he’s ready.” But that’s not always the case, sometimes he can be ready and you’re not ready.
Well, all you’re going to be doing with that picture or that act is you’re going to be upsetting him to the point where he’s not going to want to be with you because he doesn’t feel like he can trust you. So: I am quite tolerant when it comes to texting, yes, I even learned to like the ?? or xD, you can use caps lock on me all you want.
Of course I would have to find a job as soon as I moved there but suddenly this became a problem for her, although we have discussed it thoroughly. Part of the reason that I ended up not following the same suit as your boyfriend is that I really had a very deep commitment to my wife.
So, we met online through Facebook through friends and we set up a day about two months in advance where we would meet and it was in Florida at her parent’s house and two months is pretty risky for someone you’ve never met but it’s sort of—it was that critical mass of attraction I was talking about.
I’m looking for all sort of lovey dovey adjectives I can think of but—critical mass of attraction maybe the best one. You leave your support system and you’re in this new strange place where you don’t really know anyone. Everything that I’m trying to do is to help you obviously but sometimes I feel a little over robotic in the way that I think now. I can’t guarantee we do in 24 hours but usually within 2 days, we get to you and you get a response.
I put all of my work, all the pictures I do and any book I’m writing is on this desktop and  a few months ago I started rewriting ex boyfriend recovery pro which is kind of the flag ship product.
I think maybe, we’re ready to get him back but you weren’t ready maturely wise to get him back. The name of game here is getting him back but at the same time, showing him that you are the most trustworthy person alive.
Sit down at a Starbucks where there’s an open chair near you and then when he shows up, he will come inside Starbucks and then he will see you and then he’ll V-Line towards you and then you’re both sitting, he’ll give you your stuff and rather than asking, “Hey, let’s hang out after this.” You’ve already put him in this position where he’s going to hang out with you. In fact, I think we were engaged maybe within a month of moving in and I was just committed head over heels for this woman. Enough attraction had been built to where we were willing to want to see each other and we set a date to see each other and stuck with the date and I kind of felt like we were dating before we met because we were both kind of committed to not hurting the other person’s feelings like I wouldn’t talk to any other girls at all while I was talking to her because I didn’t want to scare her off and she didn’t want to talk to any other men when she was talking to me because she, one,  didn’t want to scare me off and two, I was the one who had to buy the plane tickets to come see her and she would feel bad if she, I guess flirted or met someone else. I hate to use that one again but it builds a huge critical mass of attraction on both parties and then all of a sudden one of the people has to go home or both of the people have to go home. Maybe you do know his family but it’s still not the same as having your family there or having your own support systems or network of friends which is something that I learned myself. We’ve had the limits for some of our responses because I think over the Easter holiday, we had something like 400 unanswered emails.
And within two weeks, I kind of prematurely agree to meet with him and we did and it went well. I mean if you’ve ever gone to sleep deprivation with a new baby, you know what I’m talking about. You need to approach a situation where you bring up your previous relationship when he’s in an incredible mood. Now, those are the three top recommended choices for what I think you should wear on the first date. Because you want him to look at you in that passionate way again but if you want to maybe be more creative, wear Purple. I believe while being depressed all her emotions and decisions are going crazy and she is confused. We broke up for a few hours then got back together because I drove back home to be with her. Should I say anything when I re-add her, or proceed with the texting to build attraction phase? So, I felt like we were kind of in this relationship without being in a relationship yet when we were talking and I feel like that is maybe the best strategy for you Morgan.
So, we fell a bit behind which is why I actually came in and started helping out my—some of the other members of the ex-recovery staff in answering some of the emails. However, we’ve been—he then asked me if I have been with anyone else since the breakup and I lied and I said yes, just to hurt him and it did. People are going to be more accepting of bad news when they’re in a good mood as opposed to bad news when they’re in a bad mood. I took a lot of the complaints I got from people who bought the book and I’m working them in to make sure their complaints get covered and no one ever has an issue. I supported her a lot for a few days after our breakup then she went home and I started the NC rule Saturday last week. I don’t want to give you false hope because like I said, your chances, it can be as great as some other people’s chances perhaps but I will say, if you were you willing to put everything you have into this, you can get him back for sure. All you had to do was just build up an attraction and get him back but now that you made this mistake, you had the added headwind of making him trust you because even though you didn’t sleep with someone, if he truly believes that which is like I said, he’s going to question everything, you still lied to him. Don’t obsess about anything relating to your situation and I promise things will go better for you.
Do I ask if we hang out for a little bit or you know, I’m definitely going to be very chill and nice and positive when I see him, not bring up any heavy memories. I know you say it’s less effective the more times you do it and also when is the appropriate time to kind of hash things out and talk about the issues that cause the breakup in the first place? It does and it makes people not trust others.  So, kind of the big thing that you’re going to have to accomplish here is getting him to trust you again and the best way to do that is not to put yourself in a position where you’re around other guys. Talk about something that you know will interest him and then end the date prematurely on purpose.
I will admit that I was getting lazy in the relationship because I felt comfortable in the relationship.
Make it to where—it’s not getting back into ways—I mean a lot of women try to get their exes back—the biggest mistake I see a lot of women trying to get their ex back too soon. What does all of this mean and do you think I can still get her back because I really do love her and she said she still loves me and cares about me and I can see myself spending the rest of my life with her even though I’m only 20 and she is about to be 20.
That you really didn’t sleep with someone and then after you’ve given that apology, you go into the no contact rule.



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