Feminism no doubt has brought about the kind of prosperity and freedom of choice that many women, myself including, are enjoying. However, its excess is quite detrimental to relationships and the preservation of traditional family values. If asked what is feminine energy, their definition of a feminine woman is not distinct enough from the widely accepted definition of masculinity. So modern women have been trying to inject their own feminist values of equality in relationship and it has worked to some extent at least in the way how political correctness colors every discourse on this very subject. Sadly, the concept of feminine energy is often misunderstood as subjugation or being a doormat. Feminine energy is about being, acceptance and receiving while masculine energy is about doing, go getting, goal seeking and giving. And being agreeable is based on love because you know what really matters in relationship at the end of the day: not about being right, but being happy. They are suspicious of male energy in men and try to keep up (compete) with that by tapping into their own male energy themselves.
We see on sitcoms men are being portrayed as bumbling idiots with their smarter, wiser, over-achieving wives whom they so adore. And don’t fool yourself by saying you are a feminine woman just because you love to look pretty and sexy. A lot of women want very masculine guys whom they can control or who will not be so masculine (controlling) when they want them to be. They can all be masculine on their own (like me) but these guys surely expect them to be all woman when they are home with them.
It may not what you or many women want but they want what they want and they’re entitled to have it just as much as you are entitled to what you want.
To summarize this already long rambling, you can only know if things work by seeing your own life. I’m going to have a 3-week workshop on feminine mystique and leaning back starting soon and how it actually works and why. Please share this with the buttons below and I’d like to hear your comments as well (and don’t forget to subscribe to this blog for more insight into the mind of men on the right side bar so you’ll get notified for each new post).
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NextHow To Be Feminine When Your Masculine Energy Gets You Everything In Life…Except Men! Note: this article is based on Morinosuke Kawaguchi’s lead article for Nikkei Electronics’ June 11, 2012 edition.
As companies are looking for the future of engineering, one of the trends that has emerged is frugal engineering, a term that is best reflected in India’s national strategy where Tata reduced the Nano car to its minimum to make it available to the large share of Indians who could otherwise not afford an automobile. Morinosuke Kawaguchi finds the opposite movement of frugal, one much more fitted to cater to the needs of the industrialized markets, in what he calls gentle or yasashii engineering. The modern world, characterized by Kawaguchi by urbanization, high population density, financial well-being and the supremacy of the service sector over the agricultural and industrial, is basically about preservation of its status quo in a largely peaceful manner.
Herbivore behavior means non-aggressive, gentle, considerate; a personality characterized by what might traditionally be regarded as female qualities and is a social phenomenon that is especially prominent in Japan where the term “herbivore man” or Soshoku-kei danshi has caused much controversy. A study by the University of Aberdeen’s Faceresearch Lab shows that women in prosperous, industrialized societies with a good healthcare system tended to find men with softer, slightly more feminine facial features most attractive. Three face alterations from the Face Research Laboratory study to evaluate women’s preferences.
If a society aims for prosperity, herbivorization is a natural consequence, says Kawaguchi. As illustrated in Kawaguchi’s chart, the “hungry” generation will approach products for their practical use, like e.g.


As frontiers of gender roles and responsibilities are blurring in the herbivore socities, it is then that new market opportunities appear. Yasashii design and engineering caters to the herbivore market, to the market of what he calls the “luxurious weak”. But the world is noticing this trend, too, and Japanese companies are slow in recognizing the potential at their hands to occupy the market of the herbivore. That’s why a lot of them have a problem with a concept of submissive, docile, demure women who are okay being led.
And if there are women like that who are naturally submissive, they will be a great match to him. Yet they will still appreciate that masculine side every now and then so long it’s not a main trait. It works for me wonderfully after operating on masculine energy throughout my younger years. Gentle engineering is crystallized in the world of the herbivore male, and its keyword is sustainability. Striving for a harmonious relation, not just towards earth and nature, but within your near-field environment, has become a mindset especially with the younger generation that has been brought up in prosperity. In the modernized world as described, with its relative physical and personal safety, carnivore traits are disappearing – and may not even be wanted!
They were not looking for the warrior anymore who protects them in a world where one must fight for survival. The image on the left has more masculine features like thicker eyebrows and a wider jaw, while the one of the right has softer features.
As China and Korea blame Japan and the West for having a “decadent” influence on their youth, Kawaguchi believes that herbivorization is a rather logical consequence of the four traits of modernization. With a generation of herbivores that opposes war ans strives for win-win situations for all, the only other solution to live in an overpopulated works is sustainability and its herbivore mentality of preservation rather than conquest.
The implicit term “yasashii” can become a buzz word, maybe even stronger than Japan’s much more famous term “kawaii”, and according to Morinosuke Kawaguchi, the gentleness is directed towards everything: Gentleness towards yourself, towards your skin, towards your near field environment, towards the people on the other side of the globe (just think of young people’s Facebook solidarity movements in recent years).
I love my martial arts (which in the past has been something men have disliked to the point of making me stop attending classes!!).
And if we think being feminine is a disease, and something that is not desirable, no surprise men flee in droves and find their women else where. Because they equate them with weaknesses which is again why many American men look for their women elsewhere. And if both of them are happy, who are we to judge and tell them what kind of relationship they should have? My mother assumes the more submissive role and they are still happily married to this day (46 years). If a woman is too masculine, a masculine guy won’t find enough magnetic draw toward her. My boyfriend crazily cherishes me because I allow him to be a man by me being happy being a woman. She gets alpha men who respect her as an alpha female and that’s the ONLY way it should be!
Ones who are appreciative and who don’t think that women are slaves to their emotions. The surface phenomenon of sustainability is still ecology, but at the heart of lies a mentality change. They chose the guy whose face signaled social skills and the role of the caretaker and partner rather than the provider and soldier.
As prosperity is reached the tough, carnivore spirit that was needed to attain it dissolves in the next generation.


In India there is a perfect phenomenon to reflect the mentality of an Upstart generation, the generation of beginning prosperity that feels the need to show off as they are climbing up the social ladder. If a man has to lead a relationship and many women do want a man like that, it means she has to be agreeable. But when you are leaning forward and operate from masculine energy of assertiveness when you are with him, a guy doesn’t feel connected to you. But, then I feel weird, being asked out by men, 35-40… when I have to think about the Future, when we were Older, and don't want him to want to go find, someone Younger than me! This is the reason why air conditioners in India is making a lot of noise: you want your neighbor to acknowledge you own one.
A provocative example occurred in Thailand, where a public school decided to install a third toilet category for boys who would rather be girls and consider themselves transgender (a noticeable 10-20% of the male pupils).
I can help you to be more in touch with your feminine side as I have been doing with hundreds of women. The term metrosexual has been flying around for quite some time, the groomed male who takes care of himself not necessarily to attract women, but to feel good about himself.
Kawaguchi, being pragmatic about this rather extreme example, advises it is this kind of hint that should be considered. There are always degrees to it (I won’t like being with a 100% masculine guy either) but bottom line is if you want a masculine guy, you need to be his polar opposite or be happy with a more feminine energy guy.
While we have all the rights to equality in the workplace (imagine, how wonderful that is!), it’s wise to go back to our feminine side when we are with our man so he can be a man we want him to be. I don't go Out anywhere, to meet guys, cuz I don't have a Lot of friends, since my last marriage, when I gave them up, to be with Him!
The male grooming market is growing rapidly, and cosmetics companies are doing all in their marketing power to ease the transition from carnivore to herbivore by advertising skincare products by utilizing tough male icons, symbols and celebrities just to say: It’s okay, don’t feel less of a man for using deodorants, shaving your armpits or applying skin lotion. And I think it’s wrong to try and change for a man as it just leaves you feeling very unhappy in yourself. Again, people tend to always assume the extreme positions in discussion like this when in real life flexibility abounds but the general idea still holds: that a man is not attracted to a woman who is just like him whether or not women want to protest that or concoct all kinds of negative words to negate or undermine that predisposition in men. At the same time, it enters not only personal spaces but also the deeper layered lifestyles. But then again, Japanese present-oriented subculture and its heroes in anime and manga strike a chord within the young generation worldwide. Cultures that have experienced a prolonged period of peace and prosperity have all given birth to herbivore trends and mannerisms.
Japan’s Edo period saw the emergence of the “Kabukimono”, young males with an eccentric sense of fashion and behavior. Even the tough, masculine blockbuster superheroes are portrait with a much softer streak; they have more doubts, show consideration and talk about feelings!
I want and need the masculine guy to be more powerful than me, yet it often does clashes as I will stand my ground.
It is in these periods that products address deeper, complex mentalities and functional aspects fade into the background in terms of perception. Kawaguchi names Japan’s philosophical aesthetic concept of Wabi-Sabi as an example to reflect the needs of the inward-oriented 3rd generation.



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