Parents who subscribe to Attachment Parenting (AP) commonly co-sleep with their infants either in the same bed or at least in the same room.
Proponents of co-sleeping claim it leads to more independent, confident or outgoing children, or that sleep sharing somehow leads to a child with higher self-esteem.
More Bonding Time – Sleeping together allows for extra time spent enjoying and building a close relationship with your baby. Simple Soothing  – Co-sleeping makes it easier to respond to babies, so they may fall asleep faster when they wake during the night and cry less. Decrease Risk of SIDS – Studies show that less Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is reported for babies who co-sleep.
Less Rest – Sharing a bed with an infant can take time to get used to, and parents may not sleep as well when bed-sharing with baby. More Challenging Intimacy – Co-sleeping forces parents to compromise in terms of their love-making in bed. Sleeping, waking, and often feeding at the same time to establish a routine that works with your baby’s own biological clock while not confusing day and night.
A quiet, safe, separate sleep environment for babies that provides a comforting atmosphere without distraction. Following a nightly, pre-sleep routine, such as a warm bath, some quiet time spent together and feeding before bed time.
Teaching baby to fall asleep on her own with minimal distress and without being nursed, rocked, or bounced to sleep. Critics of baby sleep training believe that leaving a baby to cry herself to sleep is not only cruel and heartless, but also detrimental to babies’ emotional development and may cause unnecessary or even harmful physical distress. Proponents believe that baby sleep training is the swiftest way to teach good sleep habits as well as providing a healthy, restful environment for the whole family. More Sleep – Once a sleep routine is established, the whole family sleeps for longer stretches uninterrupted.
Good separation = good connection – Parenting requires constant attention and connection to your child.
Front Loaded Effort – During the early days of establishing a routine (when a new mother is already exhausted and overwhelmed from birth, breastfeeding, and adjusting to a new baby), mama may get less sleep and feel more stressed as she must wake at night to go to baby for feedings. Less Flexibility – Scheduled babies are best kept to their routine on a regular basis.
Anecdotally, I don’t find this (what Dan said about co-sleepers being more self-confident and independent) to be true among lots of people with small children that I know. Do you think the co sleeping helped your baby be comforted enough to sleep on her own later? I think Elizabeth Pantley’s No Cry Sleep Solution does have a section on older babies. We have been using this night-weaning method with some success (link below) for our almost 2 year old co-sleeping little boy. I wanted to add that I do believe that some babies just have a REALLY hard time sleeping and need to cry to learn to sleep. So the night he turned 6 months we started cry-it-out sleep training, and there was a lot of crying. Newborns to 2.5 month old babies are overwhelmed by their emotions- according to research- so sleep training at that time is not a good idea.
Just objectively, everything else was tried and she waited until her baby was 6 months old to sleep train. As a side note, before I got pregnant and til my son turned 12 months, I had no clue what “Attachment Parenting” was.
The good news about sleep training is that HOW you help your child learn to fall asleep independently is up to you. One of the easiest and gentlest ways to help your child sleep is to create a strong pre-sleep routine. Once you are actually ready to have your child work on falling asleep independently in his sleep space, you can use the PUPD method. Gentle sleep training can be tough and exhausting….but our team of consultants can help!
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The key points of the method are a loving pre-bedtime routine, putting the child to bed while he’s awake, and leaving him to soothe himself for long stretches of time, broken up by check-ins.
Inside, you’ll discover 22 simple sleep training techniques that are guaranteed to have your baby sleeping through the night, without using harsh cry it out methods. Now I’m worried, my 7 week old has slept well through the night since week 1 or so… Is it common for babies to sleep well in the beginning of life and then have trouble later?
These ideas fly in the face of the modern attachment research that has emerged in the last 15 years.
I can go into great detail about the myriad of problems with attachment parenting (including, but not limited to, co-sleeping, brain development issues from broken sleep patterns and lack of multi-cycle REM sleep, marital struggles from alienation of affection, co-dependency in older children, inability of older children (2-12years) to be separated from parents for even short periods of time without tremendous distress, etc.).
It would interesting to learn more about the scientific research and conclusions that back up these claims. It says above that the Ferber method teaches your child that you are closeby and attending to them.
My baby is 7 months , when he was 5 months i applyed The Ferber Method for him to sleep, the first day cryed for 3 hours , then the days after started less hours cry, but my problem now , my baby is crying every time before sleeping(for nap or night)it became habit for him to cry for 10 minutes , i am really stressed i tryed evry things for him , some time i am out for walk he will cry for 10 minutes or more before sleeping in baggy , please i need your help ? I had exactly the same experience as Sabrina – baby sleeping through at 4 months then waking several times during the night. If the child is 22 months old and sleeping in a Dora toddler bed from Toys R Us, is it still considered the Ferber Method? Being a mom with twin boys I found early on that holding and feedings were important for brain development. My baby is 11 months and still wakes few times a night, he once cried on and off mainly on for almost two hours? My heart hurts when I think of all the precious babies out there whose young parents choose to use the Ferber method. Before criticizing the Ferber Method, or before trying it on your baby, please read the book. With our strategy guide, we can assist you with your sleep preparation, so you and your new baby one can sleep better. From family beds to cry-it-out, sleep methods are a highly controversial topic among parents and professionals alike.
As with more mainstream sleep strategies, there are pros and cons, myths and realities to co-sleeping and AP methods.

While it remains to be seen if co-sleeping will influence your baby’s personality, the bonding experience that may occur for mom and dad may boost their own self-esteem as parents.
Additionally, transitioning from co-sleeping to solitary sleeping is usually difficult and may lead to bed-sharing when it no longer works for everyone involved.
Though it’s possible to get creative, the demands of having a baby tend to overshadow inventive sex.
Sleep-trained babies typically sleep in their own room in their own crib, although co-sleeping families can utilize routines as well. Older babies (especially beyond 6 months) may require a bit more crying before they give up their co-sleeping habits, but the transition can usually occur within 3 consecutive nights of a new routine. Allowing a baby that is not hungry, sick, stuck in a dirty diaper or otherwise in need of physical care to cry a bit while learning to soothe herself to sleep is normal and not torture.
Having the ability to unplug and recharge allows for better bonding and connection during the waking hours.
It may be frustrating and seem like baby will never catch on for the first several weeks of trying. This may not work for parents who prefer to take the baby along to social engagements on a regular basis or are just not good with sticking to a schedule.
As the parent to your child, it is up to you to pay attention to what feels right regarding sleeping arrangements (and all other decisions). Both the co-sleepers and the sleep trainers seem to have quite healthy, well-attached kiddos, all with phases of clinginess or dependence. I was able to just scoop my daughter in one arm and slide her over to me to nurse in the middle of the night and we often just fell asleep like this unless I was somehow able to stay alert enough through the nursing to return her to her own sleeping space. My point is, it’s hard for ALL parents when it comes to not getting enough sleep and all parents go through it. Again at 4-5.5 months babies enter the time in their lives when they start to interact with their parents-smiling, giggling and tickling games begin to click or work with a baby and in order for that to happen there is something called an expected response that needs to occur. Nothing Janna did was wrong or cruel in any way, she just presented her particularly difficult situation and how she handled it to a forum of moms who are supposed to help one another. Sometimes it’s impossible to tell what that reason is but I noticed he became a better sleeper without me having to “sleep train” him. I read a bunch of breastfeeding books and basically, followed my instincts for the first year. And over the years, we’ve come to learn that while many of our readers are generally interested in sleep training, they are specifically interested in gentle sleep training.
Additionally, some co-sleeping families want gentle methods that allow for continued bed sharing. There are so many ways to approach this process, and many of them can be customized and tailored to be incredibly gentle.
That said, there are some sleep training methods and approaches that produce results without much (if any) fussing. Both your bedtime routine and your nap time routines should help to relax and calm your child, and to signal that it’s time to fall asleep.
Simply put, PUPD means you lay your child down awake in his sleeping area, but then pick him up and offer comfort when he fusses.
Be advised, however, that gentle methods require lots of patience, as they can take awhile to actually produce meaningful results.
Our experts have tons of experience in helping families sleep train gently and effectively. He was sleepin thru the just up to eat once and now he wakes up to eat goes bak to sleep but wakes up a few times after that. She still wakes at night and wants to be held and given some warm milk…This is my fault for this routein. The Ferber method works in intervals, beginning with 5 minutes long, to teach your child new associations with falling asleep. Once she turned 6 months I stopped swaddling her and she started waking up in the middle of the night and having a very hard time going to bed. He wakes up 5 plus times a night when his soother is not in his mouth, so we rush in to replace it. All articles, opinions, recordings and other content distributed on this site are for educational purposes only.
The parents who provided testimonials and endorsements on this page may have received compensation in the form of free products. Below is a lovely infographic about 5 strategies assisting you with sleep training your baby.
As long as you and your partner do not smoke or over-use alcohol or drugs and your mattress is firm, your baby should be safe in your bed.
You will also need a baby monitor to listen for baby’s cries from your room at night and black-out curtains to simulate night during nap times. What I realized as she was growing was that it was becoming harder for her to fall back asleep because she could see me and wanted to play in the middle of the night.
I am reading these posts of parents who care enough to talk about this, and I am so touched. The parent responds to their baby’s actions which in turn leads to a stronger bond between the baby and parent. One of my 3 was a high needs baby and if I didn’t catch his sleepy cues in time and get him to bed, I had a choice to either hold him and try to nurse him while he arched and screamed, or swaddle him and put him in his quiet dark crib where he would cry for a few minutes and fall asleep. I say that because my son would only really nurse well once or twice per night (10 – 15 minutes) the rest of the time he would suckle for 5-10 seconds and fall back asleep. It will be interesting to see if he’ll finally start sleeping consistently through the night without my interference to “sleep train” him.
Some parents view gentle sleep training as sleep training that involves almost zero tears, while other parents consider Ferberizing (check and console) methods gentle because they allow for periodic comforting. So, for the purposes of this article, we’ll call gentle sleep training an approach that minimizes crying and allows for lots of parental involvement and closeness. While there are no hard-and-fast rules as to what make a great bedtime or nap time routine, as a general rule, keep routines short for young babies and longer for toddlers and preschoolers, and be sure that you have a definitive ending to your routine.
For instance, if your child prefers to be nursed to sleep, you may choose to swap in rocking to sleep. If you nurse to sleep, for instance, you would gradually work towards getting to the point where you nurse until your child is drowsy, but not fully asleep. However, while gentler methods may take weeks of work before you see signs of real improvement, the process is often more enjoyable for everyone! We have to start this tonight with my 9 month old son and am really not looking forward to it. He was sick for a couple of weeks and waking every hour and being a single mum was so exhausted from the constant wake ups and let him sleep with me so we could both get some rest. I was never a fan of the soother but the hospital was the one who gave it to him in the nursery.I have read Richard Ferbers book front to back and feel like its worth a try.
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This may be die-hard attachment parenting, conventional baby sleep training, or somewhere in between. We detached the co-sleeper from the bed and dropped the bottom so it was more like a playpen and that seemed to solve the problem for about a month.
Of course, then he is waking up to nurse every 45-90 minutes after that, and after almost 2 years I’m really feeling a need to change things.
I personally wanted my baby to know that when he cried I would respond by being there for him. Most women these days are making choices that are, yes, best for THEM not best for their CHILDREN. I feel relieved that I finally found a style of parenting that was more in line with what I have been doing. So be aware that the spectrum of gentle sleep training is large, and will vary from one family to the next. A child who can fall asleep independently is a child who can fall BACK to sleep when she wakes between sleep cycles at night, or during a nap, and who sleeps through the night and takes long, consistent, restorative naps.
Or if you are fading out rocking, you may work to get to the point where your child falls asleep in your arms, but without the rocking movement. Provided you are committed to your sleep training plan and are willing to put in the time and energy needed to reach your goals, gentle sleep training can be an effective and low-fuss way to finally get your baby or toddler sleeping through the night. This method suggests going in at intervals and soothing the child so that they know you are still there…not just laying them down and letting them cry for an hour. She would hold my hand close to her face and close her eyes like she was so happy that I was there to protect her.
We went in at increasing intervals and just rubbed his belly and let him know we were there. Just because the techniques worked for these parents does not necessarily mean they will work for you. And then she started sleeping so lightly that every night when I crept into the room to go to sleep, she would wake and, therefore, need to be nursed and taken to the potty (this was around 7 months and we practice part-time EC). Furthermore, since he sleeps some nights better than other nights this suggests that he only needs comfort when he wakes up frequently.
So this morning we were awake still until he got sleepy, I fed him and then put him in his crib sleepy with calming music. Her room is basically a safe space with the exceptions of a few things that I will remove today now that she’s figured out climbing.
I co sleep with him from about 4 am to 9 so that I can sleep soundly, this usually the first or second time he was woke up, fed, then put back to sleep. You may try all of the strategies we recommend and still be unable to achieve longer sleep times for your child. My husband and I decided to sleep in another room one night to see how long she would sleep if we weren’t in there disturbing her and she slept 10 hours straight for the first time! Gordon’s plan seems gentle in that you do not leave your child alone- but they DO cry when they realize they are not going to get to go to sleep their usual way. If your baby is doing well with sleep training and that’s what works for the family- great. The idea here is that it’s easier (and gentler) to wean away from a weaker, less habitual sleep association (in this case, rocking) than it is from a stronger, more preferred sleep association (in this case, nursing). That was about a month ago and now I am on my way to the pediatrician so he gives me the Ok to start the Ferber method.
Every post that i have read talks about the difficulty parents have with the ferber method. If you are not satisfied with any of our products for any reason, contact us within 60 days of purchase to receive a full refund with no questions asked. The nights during which he mostly sleeps he must have felt content because he did not wake up.
My father always told me, if you can’t decide the route to take in life, and there are two paths, the one that hurts the most now is usually the best in the long run, because it is usually hardest to do the right thing. I am a full time working student with two kids and a husband that works two jobs so he is not home to really help. I really think that it is what will help me becuase I tried many other things and none of them have shown a single improvement. I highly recommend reading the book because it helps explain a lot of stuff about sleep and why it is so important. But at this age she knows how to stall by asking for things, and her tantrums are more physical i.e. Ever occured to you that the reason for this is that we are intstinctively wired to respond to our infant’s cries,that is what causes the distress. I can not and will not dispute people who have tried the ferber method and it worked, but every child is diferent! The first time I set her down for a nap in her new bed and surroundings, she cried in protest for about 15 minutes and fell asleep but didn’t cry at all when I set her in there for the night.
Then we went on vacation and disrupted the routine and he is up once, which isn’t bad, except I let him fall asleep in my arms (as not to wake up my 7 year old who has to get up for school and my husband who has to go to work) and then as I am laying him down in his crib he wakes up and will not go back to sleep. It helped me feel less guilty about letting my baby cry for a bit (which she didn’t even do much of)! She sleeps much better now and I can even sometimes hear her just babbling and playing in the mornings instead of flat-out crying because she sees me and I haven’t quite woken up to come to her.
The first night, she cried for about 10 minutes, the second night about 5 minutes and by the third night she only made a couple of sounds in her crib, not even crying and I didn’t have to even get out of bed. We maintain an evening routine of dinner, bath, a few books and then we put her into her crib after hugs and kisses. It does not work for him, i tried it for a week and now he gets sad if I even put him down sleepy in his crib where we practiced the method. But for his nap time today I put him in his crib still awake and let him cry for a little bit. My motherly instinct combined with his obvious dislike for this approach has made me against ferberizing my child. I just wanted to post this for any parents who might be undecided about their approach on this part of child-rearing and let you know that even if you have a plan in mind, sometimes you need to just go with the flow.
Once they are emotionally satisfied, they will behave better and sleep better on their own.
But don’t turn it into a crusade for those who can not or will not based off of their beliefs and experiences.
Being consistent with a bedtime routine and setting comfortable limits will insure everyone gets enough sleep. He is highly emotionally intelligent and able to talk about his feelings, knows how emotions feel in his body and is able to express himself.

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