Welcome to the ultimate guide to using text messages to get back together with your ex girlfriend. Naturally, I got curious to see if such a guide existed online right now and I was shocked to learn that one hadn’t been created yet.
Look, I am going to get bold here and say that never before has a guide this in-depth been created (and given out for free on the internet) for men wanting to understand exactly what to text to their ex girlfriends. With that guide not only will you gain more insight into what you should text your ex to get her back but it will show you everything that you need to do in order to win her back. Not to mention that it has over 250 example texts that you can use!Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back?
You can spam your ex girlfriend with text messages and leave her thinking that you are a psycho.
You can send a bunch of really hateful messages to your ex girlfriend and hurt your chances of getting her back. So, explain to me your reasoning behind sending someone, who you desperately want back, really mean messages that could potentially drive them away? In other words, the more your ex girlfriend associates bad feelings with you the less likely she will come back to you. Look, with this guide I am going to teach you to do something so much more powerful than begging. I am going to be teaching you how to influence your ex to take you back so she thinks it was her idea when the fact was that it was your influence that got her to get back with you.
The No Contact Rule- A set period of time where you don’t talk, text or call your girlfriend at all.
The advantage of using a no contact rule before you text your ex is the fact that you can kind of get her on the ropes a little bit. For the next few hours she is constantly checking her phone waiting for a response except you are doing the 21 day NC which means a response won’t come.
Of course, since you didn’t respond to her emotional message she is hurt and promises to never text you again for the rest of her life which she articulates to you in a text ?? . While this page is dedicated to text messages it is important to remember that the overall goal you are trying to achieve here is not to just learn how to text your ex girlfriend it’s to actually get her back.
While it is not impossible to get your ex girlfriend back through text messages it is highly unlikely.
Getting an ex girlfriend back is probably not going to be done strictly through text messages. In my massive 12,000 word guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back I talk a lot about having a game plan.
After the no contact rule you will use texts to build attraction which should eventually lead to a phone call where you will build attraction and by then you will have built up enough attraction to earn yourself a date. While rebuilding attraction is essential for getting your ex girlfriend back it isn’t the main goal you are trying to accomplish here.
It just so happens that building attraction through texting is how you advance to the next level of the game plan.
Again, you should really check out that massive guide I put together because it will explain things better than I can in the short amount of space I dedicated to it here. Before I can start getting into the tactics that you can use to help move the reconnection process along there are a few things I need to teach you about text messages. My point here is that word count and how interested a person is in what you have to say can have a direct correlation most of the time.
It’s interesting to me that no one really ever talks about the importance of response time when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. In this section I am going to teach you everything that you will need to know about response time when it comes to using text messages. Now, before I really get started here I do want to say that not everything I say in this section will hold true to you. It is best to look at response time as a gauge of how interested the other party is in what you are saying (just like word count.) For example, in my book, I give an example where I was texting a girl and I responded to her texts every few hours. Sure, she may have texted her friends a lot but during the high point of your relationship you were probably priority number one to her.
Don’t worry, that is what this entire guide is for and I will be giving you the step by step plan on texting her a little later. There is a way in which you can do this through the use of a text message to get a quick response and ironically it all has to do with your own response time. Well, putting it into practice can be really tough because there are two battles that you are going to be fighting. What you will have successfully done if you pull this off is that you just made her realize how much she wants to hear from you and her response time should be quicker from that point on. You wait for what seems like an eternity (5 minutes) and you constantly check your phone waiting for that text message to hit but it never does. Essentially, if you are put in this position where you desperately want a text response you are left wanting more. You know, the part where I go on and on about how you desperately want a person to text you back but they won’t.
No, I am afraid I am going to have to give credit to pretty much every girl that has ever rejected me because every single one has successfully been able to do this to me. If you end a texting conversation with your ex girlfriend and you successfully leave her wanting more here is what will happen.
Second – When you do decide to message her again (either later in the day or the next day) she will respond very quickly to your text message. As you can see there are a lot of advantages to ending a conversation where she wants more.
Let me start off by saying that in order to leave your ex girlfriend wanting more she is going to have to be invested in a texting conversation. Lets pretend that the string of text messages that have all three characteristics but are a bit negative (again, this is something you have to feel out.) Do you think you should end the conversation there?
The four responses is something I covered in the how to get your ex girlfriend back guide pretty intensely. Well, since the four responses directly relates to texting it only makes sense that I talk about them again within this guide. Every single time you get a positive response to a text message you are slowly inching closer to your goal of getting your ex girlfriend back.
The challenge that you are going to face is that you are going to have to decipher if the message you got was a neutral response or just a fake neutral response. However, when you are starting a conversation and you get a neutral response then you need to pay attention because that means you probably shouldn’t engage her for a while. If you are getting a response like that from your ex then you have some serious work to do. In my experience, negative responses (when dealing with exes) usually always revolve around how bad the breakup was. If there was a lot of yelling, name calling, things thrown and mental warfare from both sides then I think you had yourself a pretty bad breakup. Don’t worry, you will text her eventually but it is going to have to be later down the road when her emotions have settled in a bit. What you really need to watch out for is the NR when you reach out to start a conversation.
Coincidentally that is what the next section is all about, the first text after no contact.
Assuming you have followed my instructions (by implementing a no contact rule) the first type of communication you are going to have with your ex girlfriend after the no contact rule is going to be done through a text message.
Generally speaking a text message will yield a higher response rate and also a phone call after a no contact rule may seem out of place.
Hey, I am a huge fan of surprises but when it comes to this stuff surprises are never a good thing. Oh, and in case you forgot the main goal of this entire guide is to use text messages so you can advance to a phone call or a date.
This leads us back to the first text message you send after the no contact rule has been completed. When it comes to first text messages your main goal is to get a positive response from your girlfriend. In other words, your text message has to be so intriguing that she can’t not respond to it. Basically the way it works is that you say that a TV show that you and your girlfriend used to watch reminded you of her.
That means you need to slip back into no contact for 7 days (EVEN if she gets back to you on day 5 of that no contact.) After the 7 days is up it is time to send something that should yield a response 95% of the time.
Now, I don’t know about you but if someone texted this to me I would respond immediately fearing the worst. If your ex girlfriend receives this text then it will only be natural for her mind to be racing with possibilities.
However, if you really want my opinion I think you should end the conversation immediately.
Rapport is something that you have to earn and you earn it with a slow ascent of text messages that build trust.
The situation you find yourself in now is that a breakup occurred between you and your ex girlfriend and that can cause some awkwardness when it comes to texting. I want to give you a brief overview of what you should do to rebuild the rapport with your ex. You send your first initial text after the no contact rule and ended the conversation very quickly. Your next text message should be sent about 1-3 days after the first initial text message after no contact. After that conversion ends I want you to wait a day before you start up another conversation. I want to take a moment and give you some examples of the most interesting type of texts I have come across. I am sure if you think hard enough you can think of some bizarre stories in your life to share.
Talking about your previous relationship with your ex girlfriend can be pretty tricky because it is bound to bring up old memories and not all of those old memories are going to be very good. I would first like to turn our attention to how you should approach talking to your girlfriend about your previous relationship. In fact, there is one particular exercise that I want you to take advantage of during your no contact period. Since we are specifically focusing on your ex here I want you to be prepared when your old relationship comes up. You know how successful musical artists have a “greatest hits collection” right? Rule 3: None of these memories can be about sex they have to be more about emotional connection type things.
You see, you should be talking about how cuddling made you feel and the specific things you liked about. Yes, I get that there are going to be some guys that read this and think it is the lamest thing ever.
Ideally, what we hope happens is that you do such a good job texting that your ex girlfriend will want to talk to you on the phone naturally.
One of the biggest concerns that most men have when they are about to call a woman is the fact that they are worried that she may be busy or preoccupied. Well, what if I told you that I had discovered a way in which you can transition from a text message to a phone call seamlessly and have a super high success rate. When I was researching ideas on how to transition from texting to phone calls I came across this book that actually recommended that you call your ex during the day (when she could be potentially busy at work.) That is officially the dumbest idea ever.
Assuming you want this phone call with your girlfriend to go well you want her to be alone in her room or something like that.


Ok, now that you know when to set up a phone call with your ex girlfriend lets talk about how you actually set one up. I have always been of the mindset that you should give a girl a warning before you call her.
Lets say that I am in your shoes and I send the text above to an ex girlfriend I am trying to get back.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back.
If I gradually begin contacting my ex via Text after NC and she generally responds positively, but is not ever the one initiating contact, should I continue to reach out, or at a certain point should I go back to NC? It happened all of a sudden and no matter what I try to do, she has turned into a complete rock. She gets irritated by my name and she gets blown out if someone takes my name in front of her. The only way that I can justify giving you my help is if you have a legitimate reason for getting back together with your ex. Here is the deal, before you try to get your ex boyfriend back (if he cheated on you) I am going to ask you to do something that may be a little unorthodox. You are in a very unique situation so I am going to ask you implement the no contact rule for an entirely different reason. If after that amount of time you still want to get your ex back then I say you should go right ahead. Since we are dealing with someone who cheated on you the thing you really need to figure out is if he is the type of person that will cheat on a moments notice. The time has come, you have waited, hopefully 45 days, and it is finally time to try and start getting your ex boyfriend back.
Alright, now that I have that out of the way lets dive in to how you should contact your ex boyfriend after 45 days. What is going to happen is that when you finally do decide to contact them they are going to be filled with joy.
Before I move on I am going to take a few moments to go through each of the choices and explain why texting is the way to go.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. But if I did want him back would asking him to leave ruin my chances of getting him back or make him miss his comfort of his previous living arrangements with me (increasing the chances of him coming back)? Me and my boyfriend been dating for only 4 months now but during this time we argue and fight about one thing all the time which is his ex. Probably is, I begged and constantly messaged and texted him non stop and he told me he wouldn’t read any of my emails and going to change his number. My ex cheated on me and I knew about the other woman but he insisted there was nothing going on.
However, with that being said there is a flaw with this guide, that’s all that it covers. While knowing what to say to her via text messages is an important part of the process there is a lot more to winning her back then that.
When you go through a breakup do you honestly think that at that moment you are thinking logically?
However, you start bordering on the pathetic when you send your ex 20 text messages back to back to back. In other words, this is the go to guide for teaching you exactly what to say through text messages to start the overall process out. If you are consistently getting a one word text message response from her THEN you have a right to be worried. Look, your ex girlfriend is a human being and human beings are notoriously hard to predict. Since you dated this girl we can assume that at one point you were her top priority when it came to texting. Obviously if the breakup was really bad then she may not want to talk to you and you will have to earn the right to get those quick responses from her again. The fastest way to get a quick response from a girl is to build up the anticipation through text messages so that she is constantly waiting for your response to her text. The first battle is going to be the most obvious one in that you have to get her connected in a conversation with you.
This is a concept that I want you to wrap your head around because it is so important when it comes to ending texting conversations with your ex girlfriend. In other words, if she is responding quickly with rather long messages it still might not mean she is emotionally engaged in the conversation. Generally, if you are responding emotionally to her messages then she is probably responding emotionally to yours.
Once you find it then that is when you should end the conversation on a high note because that is how you leave someone wanting more.
Of course, I am going to be going a lot more in-depth on them and I will also teach you exactly what you are supposed to do when you get each response. You send a text message to your ex girlfriend and instead of responding positively she responds in a neutral type of way.
The mistake I see most men making is the fact that they are unable to remain classy when they get a negative response.
It basically means that you send a text message and your ex girlfriend doesn’t respond to it.
Remember, this is not meant to be a process where you accomplish everything you want to accomplish in a matter of hours. Now, I have thought about how best to explain this to you and finally I settled on this statement.
Seriously, don’t underestimate the negative impact that a breakup can have on text messaging. However, to a woman having a man remind her of something that she would genuinely appreciate being reminded of means that, that particular man cares enough to look out for her.
The more details that you can bring to the table about how you felt, how she felt and about what happened the better.
Let me go through a few examples with you so I can show you how to properly use a relationship text. While it’s not anything HUGE about your relationship it is an aspect that filled both of you up with good feelings. I mean, I am sure if a girl I really liked told me that she loved cuddling with me I would be over the moon but the truth is that this text could be so much better. However, it is my experience that most women wait for men to make the first move and that is not a problem because I know exactly what you can do to get your ex talking on the phone in no time.
Not in a stalkerish kind of way I just mean you have to be aware of when she will be at work, out with friends or basically any time that it is not socially acceptable to take a phone call.
However, in my experience when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back surprises are your enemy. Ive done all the work on myself and I want to start dating my ex again because I feel I am better person today than I was a few months ago. My ex just dropped me a message that we have different expectation and hence she is breaking off.
In this section I am going to give you some insight into the male psyche so you can understand why a man will cheat on you. As stated above, you are going to have to decide if you want to take your ex boyfriend back.
Now, before I go into some long explanation about each step you should take I do feel it is important to mention that I have put together a HUGE resource on how to get your ex back here. They have waited all this time to hear from you and when that moment finally comes they are going to be so excited that they will probably run up and down the stairs and do all the things that guys do when they are happy. As I have said multiple times throughout this site, you have to earn the right to call your ex or in this case, your ex has to earn the right to call you.
Can you imagine getting a letter after 45 days of no contact from someone that you thought didn’t want to talk to you?
I had been dating this guy for 6 months and everything has been pretty good for the most part. We’ve been in a long distance relationship but seeing each other once or twice every month and using Skype to communicate every day in between.
We are not living together, we just see each other at school, in our dates, and in family occasions.
And by seeing, do you mean they’re togerher for sure or he’s just talking to her?
I guess its not so effective coz im still somewhere around… He still lives here coz of contract for apt.
Finally I ended our 5 year relationship one day when she called his cell phone when we were together and he tried to lower the volume and act like it was someone else.
Just be consistent and be clear with yourself with what you want and what you can’t control. If you would like the actual step by step method that you should employ to get her back I suggest you take a good hard look at a guide called, The Texting Bible.
For example, if you send a text message to your ex girlfriend that is about 25 words and she responds with a 1 word answer that might be a little troubling.
However, just figuring out what type of text messages to send is not going to help you understand the entire situation. What I will be talking about in this section should give you insight into your ex but in the end every single man reading this will be in a different position because every girl out there is unique and what is talked about in this section is a generalization of women.
However, if I was texting a girl that I was very interested in and I responded to her texts every few minutes then I am definitely engaged in what she is saying. However, I would say that in most cases she will be willing to talk to you and respond pretty quickly if the breakup wasn’t horrible.
This text message has to be sent from her and it has to be one where she opens up emotionally or really wants an answer from you about something. Now, imagine if you could do that to your ex girlfriend so she is literally anticipating your text. Simple, if you leave her wanting more then that means to her YOU are the only want who can satisfy her emotional hunger.
The key to leaving her wanting more is finding the high point of the emotional conversation.
Eventually I get to a point in the conversation where I find a string of text messages that satisfy all of the three characteristics I just talked about. The idea is to end the conversation on a positive note because then she will associate the good feelings she has gotten throughout the conversation with you.
For the past month you have essentially ignored her and then all of a sudden she gets a phone call.
While it may cause her extreme anxiety for a while it will also make her realize how much she cares about you and that is what you want. Essentially, you have followed the plans I have laid out here to a T and they worked for you perfectly.
Rather, you accomplish it in a matter of weeks or months but trust me when I say if you are patient the strategies outlined on this page can be extremely effective. Re-building rapport with your ex when it comes to texting is almost the same as re-building trust. At the beginning you would only talk once every three days and towards the end you were talking every day. Now, lets pretend for a moment that you were able to think of something like 15 memories that you could use. If you are going to be talking about an aspect of your old relationship with your ex girlfriend I want you to pay attention to the details and that is something that this text lacks. Now, tell me, what is a bigger surprise to a girl than an ex boyfriend calling her up out of the blue with no warning at all?


I have found that a lot of the women who I have worked with who have been cheated on decide not to get their ex boyfriends back because they feel a lot better about themselves after they read the process on this page.
If that is really what you are looking for then I urge you to check out the Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO system that I am always going on and on about.
Obviously, there are a lot of different reasons that a man will ultimately decide to cheat on his girlfriend but I would have to say that the most common reason would be because he is just plain horny. You clearly came here because you want your ex boyfriend back and I want to help you do that but above all I want to help YOU. If you are familiar with my site then you know I am a really big believer in the no contact rule.
You may find that after 45 days you just don’t have the same desire you did to get him back when you first started the NC period.
I can go days, sometimes months without checking certain emails (I have multiple.) Secondly, there is no way that you can get an instant response.
He has never introduced me to his family but talks about them all the time as he is really close to them. We are just any other couple, we have some fights but i know we are happy until one day everything changes.
Then it seems everything was getting better but when I asked him if its fine with us, he replied not really. I’m devastated we are both madly in love with each other and our 1st loves I just don’t understand how u can leave the love of your life for someone u just met !
I asked whether he still like her and want to be with her or not he said no they just friend.
Either you continue doing this until you get fed up, or muster up the courage to respect and love yourself..
He said after the fact that he felt all the constant talking and texting we did felt forced and obligated. Now, I do realize that logically you may realize that this is the case but when you are actually in a situation that you have so much invested in it is hard to take a step back and think logically. Sure, maybe she was busy when you sent that text and she didn’t have time to write a proper response but imagine if this trend was consistent throughout the history of your conversations as of late. In other words, you need to keep an eye out for a text message that satisfy all three characteristics.
It is at this point that I should end the conversation because that girl would be left wanting more. If you do get a negative response apologize for the inconvenience you caused and then do not text her back. First things first, in the event that she completely ignores your text message wait about a week before you try anything else. It isn’t going to happen overnight but if you slowly advance things you can see some fantastic results. Any girlfriend I have had is always there to remind me when important stuff is about to come up. Of course, I still want you to read this page because it contains valuable information on understanding the mind of a cheating boyfriend and how to approach the situation you are in.
While I think it says a lot about the advancement of humans that we have slowly developed into a race that seeks out a significant other we weren’t originally intended to do so. Which leads us to the next section.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Now, the whole point of the no contact rule was to NOT contact your ex so you aren’t exactly allowed to respond to them after they contact you during the initial 45 day period. You have to say just the right thing at just the right time for things to work out the way you want them to. He has also never met my family but in my culture it’s improper unless marriage is around the corner.
Three weeks ago, just before we even had our 8 month celebration, i’ve found out that she has another girlfriend, they have been in relationship for a month.
How to say in a best way I don’t like the situation we are at at the moment without giving him ultimatum?
He says he has a better connection with her than me and that I should move on and start a new relationship. But to me and everyone else they more like they in a long distance relationships more than a friend ?? I want to break up and end everything with my boyfriend but I can’t i keep going back and forgove him. I can understand that because ldr is hard, and it was easy to be with her while I was far away. She may be busy at that particular moment or you may not have built up enough attraction yet. You deserve someone who respects you and appreciates you for who you really are, not the condition you are in.
I called her up and she started behaving in a happy way, talking about random topics and stuffs. If you are new to my site then just a warning, every single page I write goes far more in-depth than my peers. That means you can’t text, email, facebook, google plus or talk to your ex on the phone.
However, the biggest disadvantage for calling an ex is the fact that you could potentially get angry, raise your voice and start a fight if something is said that you don’t like. He said that he wants to be with me,but he doesn’t know about the love thing because he recently got his break up. I have been to his house a couple times, but since he travels a lot for work, I usually just travel with him or he comes to my state to visit me. The girl was into him and I felt a bit threatened… Fortunately the girl left the country and our relationship were back to good sweet days.
Is it just sign of feeling guilty or he has strong feelings for me and still wants to take care of me?
We haven’t talked for a month, barely seen each other coz I made myself extremely busy! Every page draws upon in-depth research (from experts), stories from women who have had success and my own personal experience.
He seems to be moving further away from me day by day, which means getting more involved with that girl.
Just like any normal girlfriend I harras him by text message begging him to take me back and all I did was get ignored. But he was very absent there, didn’t even keep an eye contact with me, seems to be a totally different person. So, rather than write more filler content I would prefer to talk about the stuff that can actually do something for you! In fact, there is a time and a place to use calling as a way to contact your ex but only after your ex earns the right for you to call them.
Problem is this is the 2nd time (first time was after the first year) I acknowledge that I may have driven him to think about cheating.
When I went to his house he was still at the office (unbeknownst to me) and another girl answered the door and proceeded to tell me she was his girlfriend. It’s a bit awkward to txt him, because I can just talk to him if I want since we still live in the same apartment.
I feel I do a good job of explaining when the proper time to call is in the link I provided at the beginning of this section. I prevent breaking up saying I do not believe in all of this and that he is confused now and I wait for him to be back to his old self. Each time it happened after I had pushed every possible button I could, simply because I felt I was not getting enough attention & then I even resorted to flirting subtlely on fb with someone in a mutual group. I exchanged numbers with her and left as I was in a rush to get out and she kept asking me questions. I acknowledge I have a problem & I need to work on that but I love him so very much but unsure of what to do. There are few more factors as well, he recently graduate and didn’t get a job he dreams about. Is it because he somehow miss me or used to know about every of my step, or just checking out of curiosity. He wants me to beg for him back and said I have tall orders to ask for anything for myself right now since he is still deciding on rather or not he wants a relationship with me. Should I wait a bit more before I reveal I know about everything and hope that newest and excitement factor wear of and he will give up on her?
Someone please give me some guidance or motivation he is the love of my life and I’m so crushed that he’s left me for a girl he just met !
When i asked him as to why he did that, he said that he came to a point where he got confused, he questioned his self if this is still what he wants, if we are really for each other.
Or tell straight away and tell him he has to make up his mind what he wants to do with his life? She had been living with him since after we had started dating, and apparently I had been the other girl at the time.
Should I still confront him about the other girl or just leave it and wait if he comes up with breaking up? I’m going to continue NC mostly to help me with my problem but should I forgive the cheating & try once more? Meaning, he was sleeping with the both of us up until the time the two of us became official. All the fights we had because of school, the pressure to graduate, the moments we didn’t have time for each other because of our situation, and the lost in communication.
Then it transitioned and he tried to break it off with the ‘original girl’ and had even stopped sleeping with her (this was confirmed by her as well).
I blame myself because i didn’t saw what he is going through before, but i still think it is not right that he cheated on me. He was basically living with a girl who was his ex in his eyes, but she still wanted him even though they weren’t having sex after he and I became official and he asked her to leave multiple times (this was also confirmed by her). Unfortunately I told him he means all to me, and I’m willing to work on our relationship to get it back on the track (probably another mistake).
We were about to move back to his home town together and that would be a huge change for me. Oh and I should mention, 2 days after I left from driving to surprise him, he finally made her move out since she lives in a whole other country. I personally want to forgive him, i still love him, and i want us to have our second chance but i want it to come from him coz he is the one that caused this.
Since he didn’t initiated anything for us, i just want to be distant, to show him that im strong. I think he got scared of us getting too serious since he is not ready for getting married yet and he is thinking this is the think I really want now or I will want if I move in with him to his hometown(which means moving the country). We are still in our last year in college, we are thesis partners and we are required to do it together, see each other every now and then.. Especially since they were among a list of things I told him men usually do to apologize since he wasn’t doing anything but explaining or more defending himself (which was the most annoying). He was living a double life, and had even given the girl one of his cars (a Benz) thinking she would leave more easily.
Sorry for the rant, next question: how do I know he’s sorry?… I don’t feel he’s working hard to get me back.
Before I forget, even though they weren’t intimate, he admitted they had been sleeping in the same bed the whole time even though there are four other bed rooms in the house.



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