I know that’s a strange statement for me to put out there but if you really think about it there is truth to it. Girl moves on.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
For most of the women who visit Ex Boyfriend Recovery this is the story they are currently experiencing and this story frightens the living daylights out of them.
I want you to take a wild guess at which story we are going to be focusing on throughout this page? There is only one purpose of this page, to teach you what makes an ex want to come back after a breakup.
Of course, becoming someone that he will want back is only one step in a very complex process. Now, before you roll your eyes and click the back button on your browser or phone I want to make you aware that I have already created a guide that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back, STEP BY STEP.
In this section I am going to go over every possible reason I can think of that would make an ex boyfriend want to come back to you after a breakup.
This section is going to cover every single positive reason I can possibly think of that would make an ex boyfriend want to get back together with you. In this section we are only going to be focusing on the positive reasons that an ex boyfriend wants to come back. Of course, I have also seen a lot of couples that get back together break up again and when I ask for the details on why I always seem to determine that the overall mindset of the man when he re-enters the relationship is extremely important. All of the reasons below are positive because they will give you the best chance for sustaining a long relationship with your boyfriend. One day we got to talking about his history with relationships and he said something that struck me as fascinating.
Sometimes an ex has to go out into the world and experience new relationships for himself before he can come to the realization that you were the best girlfriend he ever had. Of course, there are some men out there that are completely aware that you are the best girlfriend they will ever have. According to the Huffington Post, the average age that a man starts looking to settle down has been on the rise.
Ideally, what you want to do is set the bar so high that no one will be able to compete with you in the relationship. With all that experience in the dating game there is only one girl that he constantly thinks about.
Have you ever been so angry at someone that you said a bunch of things that you didn’t mean?
In the end my anger took over and I blurted out a bunch of insults that deep down I really didn’t mean. After I was done with my little outburst the look on her face pretty much said it all as I came to reality and realized that I had hurt her on a very deep level.
Now, what I want to do with this section is take this same concept, the immature outburst, and apply it to your situation to see if your boyfriend had one right before he broke up with you. The thing I have always found fascinating about relationships is the fact that they have the ability to make you magnify every little thing that the person you are dating does. However, a large portion of men aren’t very mature in how they handle the magnification. Lets say that you harmlessly take a picture with one of your guy friends during a birthday party that his girlfriend set up. Now, since we already know that everything is going to be magnified for your boyfriend it is pretty much a given that he could freak out if he sees the picture which can lead to an argument which can lead to a fight which can lead to him saying things he doesn’t mean. Lets make another leap here and say that this little incident with the picture was what caused your relationship to end. He is going to see the situation from a more logical perspective and realize that you are a gem and he is a fool for letting you go.
This is really the ultimate position to be in because you control the entire game at this point.
However, if you are asking my opinion on whether or not to take a boyfriend back in this exact situation (with the picture fight, etc, etc) I would have one piece of simple advice.
Yes, this is a positive reason for him wanting you back but if this reason causes you to continually break up and get back together then there may have a deeper problem. Have you ever noticed that when you date someone there is a certain routine that you get into? For example, the first thing that you may do when you wake up is check your phone to see if your boyfriend texted you.
My point is simple, this is the routine of your relationship and I have found that people like routines. It could be entirely possible that the drastic change of a breakup is very hard on your boyfriend because all of a sudden he is ripped away from the routine that he has gotten so used to. So, why is it a good sign if your ex boyfriend comes back to you because he misses the routine? So, if your ex boyfriend begins missing the routine of your relationship it is really like saying he is missing you.
In fact, I didn’t think it was possible to have as many fights in a relationship as I did with this person. Think of it this way, if I had gone back to her when I missed her right after the breakup would I have been giving the relationship the best chance in the long run? Now, I know that pretty much every woman prowling this site would sell a small piece of their soul to get back with their exes. If there is anyone you should listen to when it comes to the topic of exes it should be me. Well, if you get back with a boyfriend because of any of the reasons below then the chances of your relationships succeeding long term aren’t going to be very high.
Lets say that you and I dated for about a year and I broke up with you citing some ridiculous reason about my feelings not being the same. Of course, we are talking about me here and I can be stubborn sometimes so rather than crawling back to you with my tail between my legs I decide to see if I can get away with making you my booty call and I do… for a while. He became extremely jealous of the fact that I had this video game system and he didn’t. A common trend I see here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is that women who try to get their ex boyfriends back end up failing but rather than letting that failure make them miserable they decide to pick up the pieces and move on. Of course, the initial ex that they were trying to get back in the first place is watching all of this and begins to grow jealous. A few months ago you literally prayed every night for this to happen but now that you have moved on you are filled with confusion on whether or not to give it a try with the new man or go back to the old one who broke your heart.
46How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Thinks You Cheated But You Didn’t1973How To Know If Your Ex Boyfriend Is In A Rebound Relationship. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
He also had done many things to make it seem like he loved me and didn’t know how to admit it.
I don’t know if he is my ex really since we dated for a very short time but we have known each other and been intimate for the past 3 years(no strings attached). Anyways it was very drastic and very sudden but I had a feeling it was coming the second he had shared with me that she had slept with so and so guy. I found this page and went into no contact in the middle of Jan, and broke it about 3 weeks ago.
Kori Ellis is an editor and writer based in San Antonio, TX, where she lives with her husband and four children. If he's receptive the next time you see him, apologize for the things that you did wrong in your relationship and express your regret. You don't have to blurt out, "I love you and can't live without you" -- but do let him know that you are interested in more than just friendship.
If he makes it clear that he's not interested in getting back together, accept the breakup with grace.
Allowing your ex some time off from you is one of the best things you can do following a breakup. By slowing down and taking things day by day, you can avoid feeling overwhelmed by the fact that your boyfriend broke up with you. The point here is this: getting that initial magic back is a great big part of the reconciliation process. One of the biggest tricks to ex boyfriend contact involve creating an atmosphere in which he needs to know what you're doing.
If you're tired of trying to unsuccessfully reopen the lines of communication between you and your ex boyfriend, it's probably because you've been going about things all wrong. And for ideas on how to accelerate the process of winning him back, check out this list of things you can do to Win Your Ex Back Fast.
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My name is Kevin, and I am here to help you through this painful breakup and hopefully get your ex back.
I have seen people make these mistakes over and over again (in my two years three years of experience helping people with breakups).
I am glad you asked because the first part of this guide is precisely about these mistakes. Similarly, your instincts will also make you believe that if you just show your ex that you can’t live without them, they will take you back. Your instincts will tell you that if you just agree to everything your ex wants, they will come back. Your instincts tell you that if your ex just realizes how much you love them and how much you care about them, they will come back. The truth is, they already know that you love them, how much you adore them and how much you care about them.
If I don’t do anything right now, they’ll fall in love with this new person and forget about me forever. If you didn’t realize it by now, your instincts and your mind go into panic mode when you find out your ex is dating someone new.
The truth is, your ex is most probably in a rebound relationship (Read: Is Your Ex In a Rebound Relationship? The most important thing for you to do while your ex is in a rebound relationship is be cool about it.
If you’ve been searching about breakups and getting your ex back online, you’d know that there is a thing called no contact rule. Basically, the no contact period should be as long as it takes you to get yourself together and feel great about your life without your ex.
However, if your ex is currently calling you everyday or texting you everyday, then yes you should let them know that you don’t want them to contact you for a short period of time. If you and your ex were in any type of serious relationship, then they will not be able to move on so quickly. So, you want to give your ex a couple days break from your avalanche of texts and then bombard them again after a couple of days? It takes time for people to remove negative association after a breakup and start missing their ex. Being a happy and confident person is probably the most important thing when it comes to getting your ex back. Instead of sitting at home eating ice cream and watching TV, go out and do something to make yourself feel better.
For example, even if your relationship with your ex was abusive, you might want to rekindle it just because you are missing. If you think with your heart, you will just hear that you love your ex and you want them back.
You should actually bring a positive change in your life and become a confident, happy and attractive person. If you have been following this guide till now, then you know how to go about the first point.
Before you contact your ex, here is a checklist of things you need to make sure you’ve done. You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness. A hand written letter is a great way to contact your ex right after you’ve finished no contact.
Text messages should ideally be used after sending the hand written letter to build up attraction. It doesn’t matter where they are, your text will reach them and they will be excited to get a text from you. If you’ve done your homework correctly, you will be oozing confidence and attractiveness out of every inch of your body.
OK, even though this guide is quite long and covers most of what you need to know on this subject, there are a lot of topics that are not covered here.
Since trying to get your ex back takes time and going through the no contact period is an everyday struggle, I’ve designed Part 5 of this guide to be an email series. More importantly, I reveal a lot of secret tactics and tricks that are not mentioned in this guide. So last week on Wednesday we decided to have a family day, just to spend it with our daughter and take her out. There was a moment when a guy came up to me and then left and then my ex came up to me and said be careful with that guy he’s weird.
I did notice he was on his phone a lot like texting with someone but all I got to see was the area code he didn’t have the number saved. He had also mentioned to me earlier that day when he first picked us up that he wanted to take our daughter to Disneyland and I said he should that she would love it and then he said he had already asked his neighbor to get us tickets to go. I know he’s not lying about it because my friend (the girl) told me my ex told her bf about it.
Like 2 days later my friend told me that my ex told him that same day we had the family day like just out of no where that his gf was stalking me on facebook.
But what if, i uploaded a pic to insta yesterday and wrote that i’m going to get a new tattoo soon, which is true!
If you are unsure, you can just tell him clearly that you don’t want to speak to him for a while and you need space and time.
Kevin should i tell him to don’t talk to me for awhile or should i ignore and keep doing NC? Next day after we spoke she send an emoticon in facebook and said that was a mistake,my response was ok ,happens.The next day she removed our pictures. Do you think she still has feelings.Why did she even call in first place.Why did she remove the pictures now? It just makes me so sad to think that he stopped caring so quickly and here I am still wanting him in my life.
One of my friend’s told me” You know what sucks is that I know he loves you but he knows you love him and your willing to stick around and that’s why I feel he isn’t scared to lose you” and its true I’m sure he thinks that, that’s why he’s not scared but he doesn’t want to see guys talking to me either. I also feel like the major issue here is that frankly I don’t want to move on and that I believe it was a really good relationship when we were together and letting it go is a mistake. In your case, this tiny little flaw is that you couldn’t make it work with long distance. I know there’s a big difference between a drinking problem and not moving on from a long distance breakup. So if he is not willing to fix the problem that’s causing you distress, shouldn’t you move on? Sorry word is used on that time when we do some wrong and we are feeling guilty on our behavior or hurt to anyone with our attitude or words so that’s why we say sorry to remove misunderstanding and problems that creates among us. When your words hurt the anyone and he angry to you then we say sorry to him for remove his anger and remove the misunderstanding that create among us and we say sorry to realize to other that i  feel sorry on my attitude. Every single article that has ever been written for this site has centered on an area of the overall ex recovery process.
In fact, not only is it a bit old but I know a lot more about getting exes back than I did in the early stages of last year. What would happen if I wrote another large guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back that completely updated my philosophy? If you aren’t already aware I would like to tell you that I have written two books on ex boyfriends. Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO – A step by step guide that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
The Texting Bible – A guide about how to text your ex boyfriend in any situation you can think of. If you really want to have everything you could ever want when it comes to getting your ex back those are probably the two best resources available right now. As you learn in my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO getting your ex boyfriend back is not an exact science. Well, something I was shocked to learn was the fact that most women fail to get their exes back because they are undisciplined.
If you look at the list above and find that you have done one or more of the things there you may be freaking out. The first step to weighing your chances is asking yourself if a happy ending is in sight for you and your ex. If things like cheating, emotional abuse, BAD fighting have occurred then your chances of success will not be as high. It has been about a year since I last put my original game plan for getting an ex boyfriend back into writing. While this new game plan is very similar to the old one found on my very first guide on getting an ex boyfriend back there are a few major differences. In my infinite wisdom ?? I have learned that the best way to get your ex back is to slowly build attraction.
However, the mistake that most women make is the fact that they just want the pain they are feeling (the lonliness, depression, etc) to stop as soon as possible and they rush the ex recovery process. There is a certain way that you need to send a text message after the no contact rule has been completed. Once you establish a texting conversation with your ex it is your goal to build attraction in that conversation to make him want you. If you have built enough attraction through texts and phone calls it is only inevitable that you will get a date.
The No Contact Rule – This article is basically an introduction into the no contact rule. The Male Mind During No Contact – This one basically talks about everything that is going on inside your exes mind once you perform the no contact rule on him.
The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you aren’t allowed to respond to phone calls, texts, facebooks, snap chats, emails or anything else from your ex. However, now that I have seen so many people try the no contact rule I have decided that in some cases a shorter no contact period may be best. Lets pretend that you decide that you want to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend.
Believe it or not this is the type of message that I have seen multiple women get during the no contact rule.
Actually no, it meas that your ex boyfriend wants to talk to you more than anything and that is a good thing. When your ex boyfriend threatens you in this way I view him, and this may be a little extreme, but I view him as a terrorist and we don’t negotiate with terrorists.
I already know this is going to confuse the heck out of people so I really want you to pay attention to what I say here.
If this happens then you should feel proud of yourself because that means that I desperately want you to talk to me. A lot of people don’t realize this but the no contact rule is meant to work in two different ways.
The first way that no contact is supposed to work is that it’s supposed to have an affect on your ex boyfriend. The key to a successful no contact rule is combining the two which is something that I am going to talk about right now. Self improvement during the no contact rule is all about starting at point A to get to point Z (point Z obviously being your ex.) It always irks me when women come to this site, read about the no contact rule and then completely disregard the fact that self improvement is a part of it.
The ungettable girl is a concept that I came up with to describe a girl that can pretty much make any man crazy. I think the first thing that you have to understand is that every man out there loves the chase.
Ok, I guess that is more than a few “aspects” but you want to do this right, right? Now, if you are sitting here reading this and you feel a little overweight then consider this your wake up call. Let me tell you a little story and trust me when I say that everything I talk about below really happened to me. I have debated telling this story for months because the truth is I am not fond of telling personal stories that talk about other people but this one so clearly illustrates the point I am making here that I can’t resist. Slowly but surely I started to get to know the real her and I learned that her personality was very unstable. Well, the book is basically about this tree that loves this little boy with all it’s heart.
Essentially, the boy had taken so much from the tree that the tree had nothing left to give.
The point was that eventually I stopped being friends with her because I learned she treated everyone like this. Well, after I learned about her personality every time I looked at her picture on Facebook I no longer found her attractive.
The two will always be linked and the key to an ungettable girl is that she has high marks in both looks and personality. If I had to take a guess I would say that right now your confidence is pretty much down in the dumps.


Even more important, there is no way in he** you are going to become an ungettable girl without confidence. Some are the perfect amount of confidence and some are way too confident that it is off-putting. I once knew this woman who would always tell me that she was the most confident person ever. The point is that someone who is truly confident doesn’t need to say that they are confident they just are.
If you can master these two things then don’t worry, you are well on your way to becoming confident. Well, it is an idea that I picked up from probably the strangest community ever, pickup artists. Well, I don’t think it is any coincidence that every single ungettable girl out there is well liked by all of her friends and is extremely popular. I recommend that you use this no contact period as a time to socialize and have amazing experiences your friends.
So, while you are working on self improvement the no contact rule should simultaneously be having an effect on your ex boyfriend.
Now, before I start getting into specifics someone in the comments section of this website made me aware of a big flaw with the no contact rule. That means if you and your ex had a major fight you would be going into the no contact rule for 30 days on the heels of that major fight. Anyways, this concept basically says that the things that people remember the most when it comes to relationships are the beginnings and endings of that relationship. I have been on this planet for quite a while and have dealt with my fair share of women who aren’t classy.
While that text message may look like an apology it really isn’t if you read it carefully.
There is only one way I know how to describe this bond but it is going to require some role playing from you and I. I know we have gone over a lot so take a moment and catch your breath because we still have a lot to cover. If you have picked up my book, The Texting Bible then you may have seen me mention that text messaging is non threatening.
However, one of the things I have learned through helping thousands of women is that you should really only have two goals when it comes to text messaging after the no contact rule. Your entire game plan when it comes to text messaging is going to revolve around two goals.
Often times the best way to get an ex boyfriend on the phone is to build attraction with him and if you happen to be very successful in building that attraction you may luck out and he could ask you on a date. One thing I do want to say is that many women make the mistake of skipping goal one and going straight to goal two before building attraction.
If you follow that simple structure during your texting phase then I guarantee you are going to have some nice success.
When it comes to building attraction (or in your case re-building attraction) you can’t be overeager. The number one mistake I see from women when it comes to this phase of my philosophy is that they are too eager to see an end result. I guess the point I am trying to make here is that if you follow my advice in this section you should be able to re-build attraction with your ex boyfriend.
You have essentially ignored your ex for 30 days (or 21 days depending on some situations.) How in the world are you supposed to approach this situation? Seriously, I roll my eyes and put my phone down for a few moments whenever I receive responses like these. I don’t recommend you copy my doppelganger story word for word but you can use it as an idea of the type of interesting thing that should get your ex to bite.
When I originally came up with the idea for a first contact text message I advised people to end the conversation immediately. Rather than immediately ending the conversation I think it is a good idea to go a little deeper into the conversation. Before you can start getting into the more emotional type of text messages you are going to have to get on friendly terms with your ex boyfriend again. Lets say that you are ready to talk about your old relationship but you are unsure if your ex is.
Ok, the one thing we already know is that you can’t jump into an emotional topic (like your old relationship with your ex) right off the bat.
The way you do that is by starting off very slowly and then casually upping the intensity of the type of messages that you send. The other day I happened to stumble across a picture that is meant to be funny (but I actually found it to be true.) It is on how people view success.
A meme text message is perfect to start off your priming because it isn’t meant to be serious at all. This type of a text message was something that I came up with after a friend of mine continually sent me memes. There is a lot to balance when it comes to the initial stages of priming isn’t there? The moment of realization came that I was in the women’s bathroom when I heard two women voices approaching and I quickly ran to hide in the stall until they went away. I had no choice but to open the stall door, reveal that I was in the wrong bathroom and then of course I ran for my life!
Do you see how that story was both intriguing and funny (all of it true by the way.) These are the types of stories that keep a persons interest. If your ex boyfriend responds pretty positively to that then you can advance to the next section. If you have properly primed your ex boyfriend then you can move on to the emotional messages. Now, the thing you have to remember when you text your ex boyfriend is that your main goal is to use the attraction you build with him to get him on the phone with you. This is your ex boyfriend we are talking about here so there is no doubt that he is going to have some negative memories. I want him to know that you are thinking of him that way and I want him to feel good about it. How To Make Your Ex Call You – A guide that will teach you what you need to do to make an ex call you or pick up the phone.
What To Do On A Date With Your Ex – I created this guide to teach women what they should do on a date with their ex. Ideally, what you want to have happen is that you build up so much attraction from the text messages that your ex just calls you.
Seriously, I hate calling first because I never know if the girl is going to be busy or if she will just blow me off.
The sexiest woman in the world is one who has the guts to cut through all this nonsense and call herself. If you have built up enough attraction through text messages and phone calls then you should be able to get a date relatively easily. Our goal is to help you by delivering amazing quotes to bring inspiration, personal growth, love and happiness to your everyday life. The reason you found this page is probably because you want to better understand your ex boyfriend. Specifically, I want to focus on what goes through a mans head that makes him want to go back with his ex girlfriend or you in this case. What I am hoping happens is that you will use the knowledge I give you to become someone that your boyfriend will want to come back to. My E-Book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO will take you through every step of the reconnection process and show you everything you will need to do to get your ex back. In other words, if you do everything that book says then you will become exponentially more attractive to your ex boyfriend. If you can successfully get your ex boyfriend to want you back for these reasons then you could be well on your way to a long lasting relationship. Can you and your ex boyfriend have a happy and healthy relationship going forward if you were to get back together? Out of all of the women he has dated in his life there is one that stands out above all the rest.
He talked about how beautiful she was, how his heart would beat uncontrollably at the sight of her and how if he could go back in time he would do everything in his power to keep her. Ironically, by the time he actually realizes that it’s too late you will have already moved on. This is important to keep in mind because it can actually explain why your ex may have broken up with you in the first place. At 15 years old I was absolutely thrilled that I got a member of the opposite sex to like me.
For example, before you dated your now ex boyfriend I bet you that you really didn’t care as much if he took a picture with another girl. All of a sudden, you care very much on whether or not he takes a picture with another girl. The picture is completely harmless meaning that you aren’t sitting in this guys lap, kissing him on the cheek, having your hands on him or anything that can be considered controversial. If your entire relationship has been like this with him overreacting, causing a huge fight and never having any empathy then you might want to think twice before getting yourself into another situation where you let history repeat itself. Heck, it can even be argued that the routine and your relationship are closely intertwined.
Every time I think back to that relationship it literally hurts my stomach because of how much stress it gave me.
After a few hours of reading the material here she decided that the smartest thing to do going forward was to implement the no contact rule. Essentially what your ex is saying here is that there is no one else around so you are the best option that they know they can get. Pretty soon you start to develop those inevitable feelings and demand that we become an item again. I was so excited to play with it that I would literally invite all of my friends over and all we did during Christmas break was play on this thing. So, he went home and threw a temper tantrum until he got his parents to buy the same video game system that my parents had gotten me for Christmas. We had been together for about 5 years and had already broken up before for about 3 months. All this time he had a girlfriend and also had a kid with her which I never knew about because tbh I did not care to know what his romantic life was like as I had no interest other than sex. He was clearly jealous about it but he gave me other reasons which could possibly be a factor but it was def not the main reason. I’ve had an on-off relationship with my ex for about a year and a half before he called it quits last December. Things have been going okay, we talk now more than ever, but I do have moments where I turn into an obsessive freak. You were sure you were going to spend the rest of your lives together -- but you broke up, and now you want him back. If you haven't talked to him since the breakup, however, then you'll have to make some effort. I have done so because this way you have a step by step plan that you can follow to get your ex back. In fact,  every time you call or text your ex, you are showing them you are a needy person and you are miserable without them. This neediness is unattractive and pushes your ex further away. Your instincts will tell you that your needs, your values, your desires, your goals don’t matter. You just need to make them believe that no one in the world will ever love them the way you do.
Don’t worry, even the wisest monks in the Himalayas and masters of psychology from Harvard usually end up making these mistakes after a breakup. Your ex needs some space and time to remove all the negative associations from the breakup and start missing you. In fact, no contact is only going to make them miss you more and remember the good things about you. No contact will be of no use unless you try to make a positive change in your life during this time. You don’t want to make any physical changes right now that you might regret for the rest of your life (like getting a tattoo of a broken heart).
You need to realize that happiness and confidence is something that you can get by working on yourself.
And the only way you can do it is by realizing your purpose and your goals in life and pursuing them.
They thought of you as a needy, clingy and desperate person with little to no self-respect.
An empty message is something that doesn’t say anything and doesn’t give your ex anything to talk about.
The guy later came back up to me and was talking to me and then my ex saw that from a far and walked up to us and stood right next to me and gave the guy a look I then said something to my ex about leaving to not make this situation big or anything. I was walking to the store alone with my daughter and he was going to go somewhere wit my friend’s bf which is also his friend but then saw me walking alone and decided to walk with me to the store.
That he went through her phone & saw she stayed on my page & that he confronted her about it saying why are you on her page?
Like I said before, work on your communication skills and try to figure out what caused all the issues in the relationship. Since it’s been 8 months, and you have pretty much tried everything to move on, I think there are deeper issues at play here than just this guy and your relationship with him. But, I will recommend you don’t focus on that and use it as an excuse to continue having hope etc. I mean if he truly wanted her out he’d be straight up with her, supposedly he doesn’t cause she has nowhere to go and doesn’t want to leave her out in the streets but I don’t know. If he had a drinking problem or he was abusive (which are both fixable problems), what would you have done?
Some persons have very rude behavior and think they are not doing something bad and if he does some bad then he feel ashamed to say sorry and think why I say sorry to anyone because I m not wrong. Keep your words soft and tender because tomorrow you may have to eat your own words. Some people hurts the others and don’t say sorry because they think they are always Right and when you say sorry then it create respect in heart of hurt person and make you respectful. One of the books is about the complete step by step process to getting an ex boyfriend back (something that goes in far greater detail than I will be going into here.) The second book is all about the texting process. I am sure if you go back to the original guide you will find a section similar to this one and you may find some major similarities between the two but I guarantee you that there are a lot of new concepts to teach. I want you to get married, have kids and pretty much have the absolute best outcome possible after implementing this game plan. Well, I didn’t say it was impossible to get your ex boyfriend back if any of the things on the list above were committed. However, I will tell you in all honesty that your chances may be seriously hurt if any of the things above happened.
If your ex has gotten a serious new girlfriend then your chances of success will not be very high. That means that I have had an entire year to make tweaks and evolve my philosophy to improve your chances of getting him back. When you help hundreds of women succeed in getting their boyfriends back you learn a thing or two about what works and what doesn’t work.
Essentially, we are slowly working our way to a date where you can reconnect with him on an emotional and physical level. If you are new to this site then let me say up front that I have written a lot about the no contact rule.
What I am going to do now is give you a few quick links to some of the most popular no contact pages I have written.
However, watching people do it for the last year I have learned some very interesting things that I didn’t know when I first talked about no contact. In addition to that you are not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact time frame. A message like this is essentially a hissy fit where he is going to threaten you by cutting you out of his life.
However, the sheer fact that he is so upset about you using the no contact rule on him tells us that no contact is working it’s magic on him faster than normal.
In this particular case you can have the option to shorten your 30 day no contact rule to 21 days.
In other words, you are going to be fighting a battle on two fronts at the same exact time. You are emotional, your life is out of balance and quite honestly your confidence is probably lower than ever. They may say that they hate it but the truth is that deep down we all kind of like it when we can’t get the girl at first.
A year ago I met this beautiful girl.  Now, let me tell you that I am quite picky so this girl was really something looks wise to catch my attention. The little boy keeps asking the tree to give him things and the tree, since it loves the little boy, gives the little boy everything he asks for. While I was definitely not in love with her (didn’t even date her) I did have feelings for her and she knew that and used them to take advantage of me. Every single friend she had she would just take and take and take until the friends had nothing left to give and I refused to have that happen to me.
I am a guy so I feel I can bring a unique perspective when it comes to confidence for women. Women who try too hard to be confident and feel the need to prove it is a total turn off to men.
Well, in the warped mind of men a girl who is actually hit on a lot by other men is perceived as higher value and more attractive. Besides, a little jealousy never hurts to make an ex realize how much he truly cares for you. Heck, I don’t even think its a bad idea to go on a date with someone new to just to test the waters.
While doing that would certainly give you and your ex time to cool down it also means that your ex has a lot of anger towards you. Well, if you have a major fight at the end of your relationship and you immediately go into the no contact rule then the last thing that your ex is going to remember is that major fight.
If your ex is super angry with you during the no contact rule then the chances of it working on him the way that it is supposed to will be decreased.
If you can get your ex into a positive mindset as opposed to a negative one before you go into the no contact rule then the chances of no contact working will be greatly increased.
No matter what they say or do their ex may be so stubborn he will refuse to calm down until the no contact rule is completed. Let me tell you that it is actually a really nice thing to encounter one who is extremely classy. You want him in that positive mindset before you go into the no contact rule and a message like this may do the trick to get him in that mindset.
About 7 minutes pass and I decide that I can’t bear to be without you so I decide to follow you to the kitchen to talk to you. First though, I want to take a moment and explain why text messages are preferred over a phone call.
For example, whenever I care about someone I notice everything when it comes to text messaging. I would rather you go with what society has dictated the most personal form of communication, the text message.
Of course, when you take a step back you will learn that the two goals really compliment each other. Let’s assume the worst though and assume that the best you can do is get an ex boyfriend on the phone. This is a major mistake because this is the very definition of rushing the process and trust me when I say this is a process that can’t be rushed.
I always find myself telling people to make their text messages so interesting that their ex has no choice but to respond to it. The problem was that by the time they were done two more women came in and eventually the bathroom go so crowded there were women waiting on the stall that I was in. This is the first time that you are going to be sending a text message about you and your ex. Of course, there are a few things I want to discuss with you on how both of these subjects relates to my overall philosophy on getting an ex boyfriend back.
Unfortunately, the thing that these women don’t take into account is that transitioning from text messages to talking on the phone is a pretty big deal for us guys too. I am like 100% of guys out there in that I am scared to death of rejection and I do feel rejected every time I put my neck on the line to call a girl and she doesn’t pick up. In other words, if you have compelling information to share (like an interesting story) your ex is going to naturally be curious and you can use that curiosity to get on the phone with him. Well, going on a date is a pretty big deal because this is where a big opportunity to get your ex back can occur. Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop; someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world.
Well, if your ex wants you back for any of the reasons in this section then that means that your chances of having that happy and healthy relationship are going to be harmed. He is currently 31 years old and has experienced probably over a dozen relationships AND he has even been married. Of course, the biggest issue here was the fact that I was very immature and didn’t understand how to deal with the feelings that you get in a relationship. Now, some men understand this and deal with it in a very mature way by not overreacting over every little thing that you do.
In fact, you didn’t even want to take the picture with him in the first place because you knew it could potentially upset your boyfriend.
When he comes down off his anger trip he is going to realize that he may have potentially made a mistake.
Well, the problem with this is that the only reason you were suddenly attractive to your ex again is because he saw you with another guy. For christmas he bought me a lot of bath soaps and lotions to keep at his house along with a tooth brush and a towel.


I can, however, guarantee that if you follow this plan, your chances of getting your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back will increase significantly.
It’s important to have a plan to follow, because after a breakup you are hurt, emotionally drained and most of all, confused. A plan will give you something to look forward to when you are feeling down and unsure about yourself.
So whenever you go out drinking, have a friend with you who can stop you from making this mistake.
We will get into that but before that that let’s take a look at how your instincts react when you find out your ex is dating someone else.
Including begging, using pity, telling them how much I love them, agreeing to all their conditions (be a doormat).
It’s just in the nature of human beings to try and hold on to something that is precious to them.
People have a common misconception that if you don’t contact your ex, they will forget about you. The only exception to this is if you are close to ending your no contact and you are already feeling great about your life.
Besides, you have to prove to yourself that you can live without your ex for at least 30 days.
If you just want to stay at home and just be miserable for the next one month, things are not going to change even after no contact period. This is also great for your mental health as working out releases endorphins which make you happy. This is absolutely essential and if you are reading this, then I will recommend that you definitely go out on a few dates before ending no contact with your ex. You need to analyze what went wrong and realize whether or not it’s a good idea to get back together. After not being in contact with you for a while, they must be wondering what the heck happened to you. You can also call your ex but I recommend you first build up some attraction using text messages and letter  before calling them.
You know your situation and your ex better than anyone, so it’s your decision whether or not you want to use just text messages, just the letter, or both. If used correctly, you can condition your ex to light up in excitement whenever they see a message from you. The reason why these everyday emails are so effective is because you get a small dose of inspiration, motivation and useful information every day.The no contact period is the most important part of the plan and with Part 5, you will get support during the no contact period.
We use to hang out a lot together with this couple they have a daughter our daughter’s age. Let him know that you think it’s best for you to not communicate with him as it will help the healing process and give you two the much needed space.
Remember, ignoring him and doing no contact will be of no use if you don’t use the time to work on the issues that caused the breakup. Talk therapy can help you uncover them and discover the true reasons for your unhappiness and inability to move on.
He needs some time to himself and even if he was to leave her and come back to me he’d have to prove himself to me. My friend was telling me the one that we use to hang out with as a couple she said he’s gone over her house to hang out with her bf and that when he see her daughter that’s our daughter’s age that he stares at her like he misses our daughter.
But I know it’s hard since all the signs and everyone around you is saying that it will happen.
You would have asked him to fix the problem and you would have supported him in fixing the issue. That 10,000 word guide detailed a step by step process that helped women get their ex boyfriends back.
It is essentially a bible of text messages that you can use during the texting phase of getting your ex boyfriend back. Now, I am pretty good at making complicated subjects easy to understand so I promise you that you will understand everything in this guide. I created this section in the guide because I feel that sometimes going after an ex boyfriend isn’t always going to benefit you in the end and I want to help you determine which situations are like that. In other words, that means for 30 days you can’t call, text or respond to your ex at all. You have 21-30 days of time to do something about it so don’t just sit there and waste that time. However, once you got to know him you learned that all he seemed to talk about were his muscles.
The only reason I researched tactics there was to find stuff that I could use to help YOU to get your ex back.
When I watch a movie that I really like there are certain phrases or quotes that stick with me for life. Every time they talk to someone you take note of it and every time they do something it affects you. The idea is to make him think back to the days where he didn’t have you and make him realize how miserable he was without you in his life. Now you have to come up with a compelling story that will cause your ex boyfriend to respond to you. The key to sending a successful meme message has to be the fact that the meme has to be funny. Just saying something general like I did in the message above with the boardwalk is enough.
The thing that you have to understand about emotional messages when you are dealing with your ex is that they can’t bring up negative memories.
The idea here is to get him to associate the good feelings he gets when he thinks back to those memories with you. Even though I know logically that she may be busy and get back to me later the emotion of initial rejection always kind of hurts.
Unfortunately, I have reached my limit on typing as this guide is already close to 10,000 words. This puts me in a very interesting position since I hear all the little details behind the mans reasoning for re-entering the relationship. Of course, when that time is over you go home and probably text him again or talk to him on the phone.
I am in a very unique position in that I have seen a lot of relationships succeed and fail. When we last spoke it felt like a forever goodbye and he told me he might be losing the best thing that could have possibly changed his life positively but he needed to do this because he loves her and their child. I made all the common mistakes that could have been made – constant texting, showing up, calling! By using your shared past to your advantage, you may be able to trigger those old feelings. And during this state of confusion, you are bound to make a lot of mistakes that will actually hurt your chances of getting back together. I really love him and want to be with him, but I don’t understand why he is acting like this. Your instincts tell you that if you stay in contact with your ex, they will not forget about you and hopefully come back. And even if your ex came back because of this, do you really want them to be with you just because of pity? And even if they do come back, they will leave shortly realizing they have no respect for you as a person.
They have a huge hole in their life after breaking up with you which they are trying to fill with someone new. But in reality, if you don’t contact your ex, you will give them time to miss you more and they will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting them. If you think that talking to your ex will have you obsessing about them again, don’t answer their call. The alternative to no contact is being a creep and texting and stalking your ex all the time, which will probably lead to a restraining order against you. Yes, you need to grieve after a breakup and yes, there’s some benefit in spending some time alone, grieving and analyzing your relationship. Writing is therapeutic and it’s probably going to help you release all those emotions from inside. Your friends and family are the people who are always there for you and who always love to spend time with you.
It’s absolutely imperative for you to get some perspective right now and meeting new people is the best way to do it.
They will slowly start to forget that image of yours (the needy desperate one) and start remembering the things they liked about you. But I highly recommend you use either one or both of these before actually calling your ex.
Anyways he said he asked his neighbor for 4 tickets (me,him and the couple) he said we should all go together and that sometimes this month.
I’ll suggest you continue no contact and send an apology text next week for being rude. I wouldn’t just take him back like nothing ever happened cause it did and there’s no denying that.
In fact, it’s making you confused, draining your emotional and mental energy, and keeping you from moving on and growing in your life.
If you absorbed the information and knew exactly what to do to raise your chances of getting your ex back you still might fail because YOU failed to put the information into practice. However, it is also going to give you a chance to work on yourself and get your mind in the right place. Early within that no contact period (lets say around day 6) I start to send you a lot of text messages asking you where you are. Use this time to get in the best shape of your life because you know what, things are going to start falling into place for you if you do so.
By the end of the book the boy has grown into an old man and the tree is nothing but a stump. In the movie Inception there is a certain phrase that Leonardo DiCaprio’s character mutters that I still think about today. Oh, and if he does respond to a message like this you aren’t supposed to respond to him. So, as you can see every step in this process is meant to get you that date so you can get him back. It isn’t something that you cant just manufacture overnight with a few text messages.
Second, you can use priming as a way to test to see if he is ready to advance to emotional things. I want your ex to put himself back in time where he was when this emotional memory occurred. I am a fan of giving someone a warning before you call that way they can prepare themselves. We continued to date exclusively, but in my mind I felt him pulling away and becoming more and more distant.
The day after valentines day we had an argument because he told me he knew he really liked me but didnt know if he could love me. But I also know if he wants to come back to me he will really really have to redeem himself because I know I will not settle for any less. It will be even better to tell my ex how this new person is totally wrong for them and what a big mistake they are making by being in a relationship with this _______(INSERT DEROGATORY REMARK). They will soon realize that a rebound relationship can not fill the emptiness and they will end the relationship.
The most important thing for you to do right now is to realize that these mistakes will not help you get him or her back and stop doing them right away. And you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex is in your best interest. I didn’t sleep properly, didn’t eat properly, and I was just thinking about my ex girlfriend all day.
That relationships is over and if you two do get back together, it will be a new relationship.
Keep it short and let her know that you need time to deal with the breakup and maybe you can catch up with her sometime later.
If you told him to fix his drinking problem, and eight months later, he still comes home drunk and starts abusing you, would you still wait for him? I want you to become someone so incredible that not only can your ex boyfriend NOT resist you but pretty much every other man on the face of the earth too. Invite him to a group event in the near future, and leave it at that: "Some of us are hanging out at Ben's on Friday. So, just because they are in a rebound relationship doesn’t mean they will forget about you and move on. Move on to the next step of the plan which is going to repair all the damage you’ve caused till now.
When you start being happy in life without your ex, you will realize whether or not getting your ex back is the right decision. Not to mention, he didn’t have any time after the breakup just for himself, to learn more about himself and figure out what he really wants. That when people break up they don’t get back together because that was the way the world worked. Remember, the goal of becoming the ungettable girl isn’t to just please your ex boyfriend.
It is something that requires discipline and patience and even though I am about to show you exactly what you need to do to build attraction I am positive that 90% of the women reading this will fall victim to their own emotions and desires and fail to do things correctly.
On the 1st of this month I texted him asking for a favor, and when he failed to reply in what I thought was a reasonable amount of time, I blew up his phone.
When we had to conversation he said that I was different from the past girls he had been with.
If he really felt I was the best thing that has happened to him since sliced bread then he would not have gone back to her. If you changed (in a bad way), you'll need to work on yourself first before you have any chance of getting him back. And that is extremely important before you move on to the next step, which is contacting your ex. They will be thinking about what’s happening in your life and will want to call or text you to talk about it. And I don’t suppose he has shown any guilt or remorse about cheating during the relationship. Keep it light initially and if she is responding well, ask her out after a couple of days of texting. I know getting back together will need some time for the both of us to realized what we made our mistakes on.
We had a really great relationship, rarely fought, but towards the end I became emotionally withdrawn and kept pushing him further away, meanwhile he did the best he could to be patient with me.
He did say he wasn’t opposed to being friends again, but that both of us need a little space before that happens. I asked him multiple times if he thought I was wasting my time and that our relationship would just end over nothing. He responded saying I really really hope it works out with her and it terrifies me the day I have to come clean to her about you.
After sometime as i was about to leave he asked my number and from that day we started to text each other.
Though trying to seduce him may be tempting, falling back into your bed again doesn't mean that he's going to fall back in love with you. It means that they are having a hard time moving on and as long as they are in this rebound relationship, they can’t work on moving on with their life. I have been single for a very long time and have had my fair share of flings and people I sort of liked. They are doing couples counselling and trying to figure things out but cut me out because he cannot do this with all honesty if I am still involved.
After we broke up I immediately did no contact for 30 days, during that time his relationship status still showed he was still in a relationship with me for that first month, however when he deleted it, I panicked so I texted him and drove to his house and ended up talking for a bit, but we also ended up having sex. The day I realized I had feelings and strong feelings for this guy I felt like the earth shifting from underneath me. Maybe you’ll still WANT them, but there is a big difference between needing something and wanting something.
I said to him, you can write to me whenever you want, but i think we have to move on first a bit and then we can maybe talk again, and maybe find eachother again.. The next day, he seemed a bit distant with me thru text, when I asked him about it he said he wasn’t trying to be cold, but he just didn’t know what he wanted and that he wasn’t sure where he was at, but he said he didn’t regret the night before and that he still loves me and thinks of me. The past week was my birthday and for my birthday he decided we could drive three hours back to my hometown to go to dinner.
I have never pictured introducing a guy to my family or wanting to have his children someday. I am stubborn and my pride is hurt so I know I will NEVER call him even though I constantly want to. And within some days i started feeling that this is the guy i want to be with my whole life.
I stopped texting him, but then a few days later he texted me again and I ended up rushing over to his house and had sex with him again.
I have younger baby siblings and I wanted to visit them because they were going to visit me in my college town if I didnt come home. Prior to this brave face … I begged for 8 hours on and off for him to come see me and to pick me and referred to her as a cunt who is only using him and has trapped him into staying. I know he will not call me but everyday I check my phone a million times to see if he has called. He didn’t seem as bad as the first time, in fact he initiated a text the next day and we exchanged a few texts, but then he went silent on me again.
The next day I sent him a text, apologizing for my behavior, apologizing for being pushy, and I went on to AGREE with the breakup, telling him I realized that he and I wanted different things.
A few days later, I saw his truck at a restaurant, we didn’t see each other though, but I did text him drunk that night to tell him I saw him and that I wished him the best and was happy for him. What makes no sense is the fact that only a month ago, he renewed his 2 year phone contract and bought a brand new nice smart phone. That was the first time he met my family, he seemed quite sketched out about it the any time I would bring it up.
He was shocked at my behaviour because I am always positive, level headed and understanding. I am saying this because I knew what a messy situation i was getting myself into and I chose to take the risk because he really really was worth it. Why on earth would he abandon his shiny new phone for a flip phone and drop off of social media for a month?
I asked him if he didnt want to meet them and that that was ok but he agreed to going anyways. That was the last time I talked to him, it’s been about 2 weeks since, I’m doing no contact again for 30 days, although he called me a few days ago, the phone only rang once and he hung up, I didn’t react or text him though, I wasn’t planning on talking to him. My friends tell me that I created so much damage that night at the bar with him that I should never text him again, but if I do I need to wait several MONTHS. My friend suggested that possibly it was too much seeing me on social media, and he needed a break.
I am working on myself right now, learning why I became so needy & pushy and how to correct that. But after completing six months i felt the spark which took place on the first stage was fading away.
I have faith that if we can get back together I can focus on building our relationship again, but I’m not sure if he would take me back as I hurt him a lot. How long should I do No Contact and are my friends right that I should do NC for several months?
I know he’s always loved Japanese culture, and has always wanted to visit, but it just totally came out of the blue.
The night before the same situation happen, he was being quite and I got mad got up and left in the middle of the night.
When he said I had crossed a line I couldn’t come back from, does that most likely mean that my fate is sealed and he will never even speak to me again?
His best friends and family confirmed this, and I just have ways of knowing, so I’m positive that has nothing to do with it. Finally that third day roles around and I stop by his house to apologize for abruptly moving my things from his house. Whatever that means he said that we were fine but that he thought history was going to repeat itself. He said we had nothing in common, that our interactions were weird, and that I was more invested than he was. It is the birthday of a special someone who has been a friend, philosopher, role model, guide and more importantly, one of the most caring individuals in my life. My ex said he didnt want a relationship to be like that and I asked him how it should be and he couldnt tell me.
Not to mention I signed a lease to live with his roommates girlfriend for the whole next year because my ex thought it was a good idea.
I just want to understand if he broke up with me to protect himself since it was unfamiliar territory or what? I think him meeting my family triggered something that made him think history was going to repeat itself, or that we had nothing in common.



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