I want to talk about a worse case scenario situation and what you should do if you are faced with it.
For many visitors to this website being blocked by an ex is the absolute worst thing that can happen. The truth is that I have seen hundreds of women be blocked by their exes and I never quite know what to say to them. Many of you who are avid readers of my site understand that the main purpose of this site is to help you get your ex boyfriend back. Well, winning an ex back is a very complex process (especially if you were blocked.) Of course, in an effort to bring you more value I put together an E-Book that you can follow step by step to achieve this goal.
However, the issue that you are running into is that he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons. Ok, a woman who visits this site and reads about the no contact rule will probably want her ex boyfriend back. The challenge that you are going to faced with is to determine if he is worth the effort required to turn his bad feelings into good feelings but more on that later. For now I would like to dive a little deeper into the mindset of a man who has blocked you. My point here is that what I talk about on this page may be hard to hear but it is going to prepare you and maybe get some light bulbs to go off. If you are wondering about my particular situation I wasn’t actually officially dating the girl I blocked. Here is the main point I am trying to make about your ex boyfriend blocking you in this instance. It hurts because every time he does his feelings for you surface and maybe your relationship was very painful to him. No matter what there are always going to be those ex boyfriends out there that will hold things against you and look for revenge. One thing that we already know is that a man who blocks you to get back at you or to hurt you is not being mature about the situation. If an ex boyfriend blocks you to get revenge or to hurt you then one thing you already know right off the bat is that he is being very immature about the breakup.
This first thing I want you to get through your mind is that USUALLY not all of the blame goes on him for wanting revenge.
Of course, most men are dumb and they fail to realize that they aren’t the only ones with eyes. Hmm… perhaps I should be role playing here because this may be a little complicated to explain without the proper context.
While most women may not mean it when they say it, I know you well enough to know that you are serious about it.
The second thought that I will have relates to what I was talking about above (with you being pretty, liking the attention and flirting with other guys.) You see, all throughout our relationship I hated that you flirted with other guys.
This is one of those very rare occasions where actions don’t match up with the truth of how a man would be feeling about the situation. If your ex boyfriend were to block your phone number and you went crazy on Facebook trying to contact him the fact that you want to be in touch with him so badly will feel good to him because it means you want him. Remember above when I was talking about how I was actually glad that I was immature in my first relationship because it forced me to evolve and become a more mature human being and I could bring more to the table in the future? Well, it could be entirely possible that your ex boyfriend hasn’t gone through this evolution yet. Where him blocking you because it hurts to talk to you has a lot to do with the emotions he has towards you and him blocking you to cause you pain is done from a place of anger, him blocking you because he never wants anything to do with you again is done from a place where you have pushed him to the point of no return. In other words, him blocking you because he never wants to talk to you again is the worst case scenario for pretty much everyone reading this page. Speaking from personal experience there have been times where I have become so angry that I threw logic out of the window completely.
About four years ago I was dating a girl and we got into a fight (like couples tend to do.) It was four years ago so there are a few things that you need to understand. Look, while I may have thought those horrible things in my head if you were to go deep inside my mind at the time I really didn’t mean any of them. No matter how you slice it a breakup is a highly emotional situation and it is almost a guarantee that things are going to be said (from both sides) that neither person means.
So, lets say that your ex boyfriend said this to you after your breakup and a day or two down the road you realized that your number has been blocked on his phone. You remember that whole “when emotions run high, logic runs low” speech I gave you at the beginning of this section right? Well, the thing about emotions running high and logic running low is that eventually logic does return to run the show. The infographic above is actually kind of cool because you can see the progression from anger back to logic. What I am going to do now is go through the entire progression in the picture so you can understand exactly what is happening in his mind. I said that in about 60% of the cases an ex boyfriend will end up getting back in touch with you after he blocks you. For every women reading this page having this happen is the worst possible outcome that they can think of. It is at this point that I would like to admit that I have actually blocked people from my life that I was serious about never talking to again and to this day I haven’t ever talked to them. Lets start with the ex girlfriend first since I am sure that she is the one that you really want to hear about.
The thing you have to understand about this girl was the fact that the two of us just weren’t a good match for each other. After we broke up I made a decision to block her so I wouldn’t even be tempted to get back into that situation ever again. Maybe me blocking her was done from a mindset of emotion as opposed to logic but in all honesty I am glad I did it because there was no way that I could have been happy with her. So, basically I decided to block my ex because I determined that there was no way that she could improve my life.
My second story of blocking someone was completely different but just as important because it can give you some important insight into how men think. However, this friend who had feelings for me pushed me to that point very quickly when she started harassing me. Every time I would tell her in a very nice way that I think she should move on she would harass me. Once I told her this she settled down for a little while until I didn’t text her back immediately and then the harassment resumed. Now that you have a better understanding of why an ex boyfriend may block you I would like to turn your attention to HOW an ex can block you. As always, I am going to go in great detail into each of these methods so you can fully understand the situation you have found yourself in. I would say that an ex blocking you from his phone is the most common thing that I hear about when I talk to women on this site. Well, getting blocked is never a good thing but I will tell you that if you get blocked from his phone don’t think the world is over. Now, I don’t know your situation specifically but what I do know is that if your ex blocks you through Facebook it is not a good thing. When you block someone from your phone (at least on the iPhone) it isn’t really that hard to unblock them. In my view these are all the same as text messaging (with the exception of Snapchat.) What you need to keep an eye out for is if you are being blocked from his regular phone and from these little applications. Still though, an ex boyfriend who blocks a girl is usually doing so through a highly emotional state. Usually they communicate through talking on the phone, through Facebook or other social media outlets. Essentially, this is where your ex boyfriend blocks you from his phone, through Facebook, through applications and through his email. It doesn’t take a genius to realize that some forms of blocking are worse than others. Once you learn that you have been blocked by your ex boyfriend it is your job to figure out in how many ways you have been blocked.
Of course, I still haven’t told you what to do if you are faced with the worse case scenario of a full out blockage. I am going to say something that I have been putting off for a while now because it is going to be very hard for you to hear and you will probably hate me for it but it needs to be said. In other words, you are in the worst possible position because you are at his mercy completely.
You are going to want to get in touch with him as soon as possible in any way you can possibly think of. I am not going to take the time explain what the no contact rule is since I talk about it so much on this site. Throughout this entire page I have thrown around a pretty interesting statistic relating to women who have been blocked. I have found, when talking to the women who have been blocked, that in 60% of cases their exes end up getting back in touch with them. The no contact rule will force you to be patient and it will also prevent you from being tagged as that psycho ex girlfriend I talked about above.
Right now you are conditioned to think about your ex boyfriend as opposed to thinking of yourself. Make the necessary changes in your life to become incredible and make sure you let the world know about it on social media.
This may be an embarrassing thing for me to admit but for years after I broke up with my ex girlfriend I would check up on her Facebook profile. Here is the interesting thing though, two years after the breakup occurred between us I didn’t have any feelings for her at all. Your in a better position than I was because the breakup between you and your ex boyfriend is probably still fresh which means both of you probably still have feelings for each other. You see, her mind was in the right place with the mutual friends but she didn’t really use the mutual friends in the right way. If you are betting against a message being sent like this then I think you owe me some money ?? . I would actually say that you want this message to be sent because it is going to force your ex to think about you. In fact, I would say only ask about him once and then move on to talking about something else. Well, after the no contact rule is complete would be a great time to initiate a conversation. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. While there is some insight on women cheating on that particular page the truth is that it isn’t going to help too many women out in the long run if they want their boyfriends back. If you cheated on your boyfriend and you want him back then I am here to tell you that you came to the right place. Of course, I do want to warn you that I am not going to pull any punches which probably means that I may offend some of you but that’s ok.
Unfortunately, convincing another human being that you are the one for them (especially after you had a relationship with them) can be a little… challenging. While this page is going to do a little of that for you it would be impossible for me to cover absolutely everything that needs to be covered because the process itself is so complicated.
So, rather than relying on the information on this page I urge you to check out my book covering the entire “get your ex back process,”Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
Through that book you will learn pretty much everything you could ever want to know about getting an ex boyfriend back. I don’t think its a stretch to say that if you asked everyone what they considered to be one of the greatest fears in relationships, being cheated on would be on that list.
I am going to tell you what I consider to be cheating because I feel pretty much every normal male on this planet is going to agree with me when it comes to this.
A few months ago I was reading an article by a woman who was trying to make a case that not all forms of cheating are equal.
Now, the article itself was very well written and made a lot of good points that I agreed with. Well, my personal view on cheating is that no matter how small the cheating is it is still going to hurt you on a deep level.
The woman argued that if you were to cheat by french kissing someone else it wouldn’t be anywhere near as bad as actually cheating by sleeping with someone. However, (and this is some incredible insight into men I am about to give you here) when I put myself in the position of a man who has been cheated on by french kissing and by sex I have pretty much the same feeling about it.
For now I would like to tackle the next big debate when it comes to cheating, emotional cheating.
I’m going to let you into my personal life for a split second by showing you one of my greatest fears when it comes to relationships. You see, everyone looks at me like I am supposed to have all the answers and a lot of the times I do.
Nevertheless, ever since I have achieved this status I have noticed an interesting trend about myself. I have this subconscious fear that if I am not there emotionally for someone I love in their time of need they can turn to someone else for something I can’t provide them emotionally. If a woman finds another man to provide her with emotional support that her boyfriend can’t provide then pretty soon that woman is relying on this other man for emotional support.
I am sure this is going to be an interesting section because you are going to get my views (the voice of the common man) on what I consider to be cheating. When you go to Google and type in the keyword “couple” what kind of pictures show up? Believe it or not but everyone associates holding hands to someone who is in a relationship. If there is one side of yourself that you absolutely positively have to reserve for your significant other it is this one. Well, one day I leave my phone out and you decide to breach my privacy by looking through it. I mean, if a girl is talking about what she wants to do sexually to a guy when she gets him alone… that is a major problem. After spending about an hour doing that I was able to learn that the reasons for why most women cheat can be divided up into three different categories. Lets pretend that while you and your ex boyfriend were dating you decided to go to a party with your girl friends.
Of course, when the time comes to fess up to your boyfriend you blame your intoxicated state. While I will admit that I have never been so drunk that I couldn’t remember my name or blacked out. If you drink so much that you are forgetting the previous night then you have a major problem.
I believe that men and women are only slightly different when it comes to the physical and emotional aspects of a relationship.
If you look at relationships from a birds eye view you can pretty much narrow them down to, two primal needs. For example, men tend to place a slightly higher emphasis on the physical needs of a relationship as opposed to the emotional needs.
We obviously know that a relationship needs both of these needs to be met in order to survive.
Men for example, will probably place a 60% emphasis on physical needs and a 40% emphasis on emotional needs.
Women on the other hand, will probably place a 60% emphasis on the emotional needs and a 40% emphasis on the physical needs. Of course, if you want some really interesting insight into this phenomenon make sure you clean out your ears for this next part. Oftentimes you will see that the percentages with the bigger emphasis’ on men and women tend to be directly connected. Well, you might notice that as you begin to meet his physical needs (since he is a man) that he begins to open up emotionally. Believe it or not but many men have discovered this phenomenon and use it to their advantage to make sure their emphasized percentage gets met by you. Lets talk a little bit about what happens when your emotional needs aren’t being met now. What do you think happens when that big 60% percentage of emotional needs doesn’t get fulfilled? So, instead of giving up on your relationship you begin to look other places for other men to fulfill your emotional needs.
As I explained above, oftentimes when your emotional needs get met your physical needs begin to come out.
The guy friend meets the needs your boyfriend couldn’t and eventually gets rewarded with by having his physical needs met. No matter how hard you try you just can’t get over the cheating and slowly but surely you start to waver in your own dedication to the relationship. Thoughts like these plague you throughout the day and you may even be so bothered that you have nightmares.
This is my inner nerd coming out but I absolutely love that movie Kill Bill so I couldn’t help but use it as a reference since I look at it like the ultimate revenge movie. I suppose the thing that I want to focus on is if you getting revenge on him is justified or not.
Though, I am sure if I was put in a situation like that and you were to ask me if getting revenge was justified I would say that it is.
When I was a kid in grade school there was always this other little kid that would try to pick on me by pushing me. Though revenge cheating is much more dangerous because you are dealing with the feelings of three people.
Now, if you are interested in this page because you cheated on your ex boyfriend then you are probably wondering if someone with my views on cheating would ever take a cheater back. Because I have witnessed hundreds of people take cheaters back so I know for a fact that it is very possible. Without a doubt the number one mistake that I see cheating women make is that they are still friends with the person who they cheated with.
Any time I see you texting him, talking to him or even mentioning him I am going to be filled with feelings of anger, jealousy and betrayal. Be willing to take a chance to end a friendship with someone who you don’t really care about if you want your ex boyfriend back.
So, lets pretend that one of your guy friends sends you a text message telling you that he misses you. If you are faced with a situation like this you need to be aware of how sensitive I am going to be.
One of the most interesting lessons I have learned through my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery is that a lot of times getting an ex boyfriend back comes down to timing. Your first instinct after I broke up with you was to probably do everything in your power to get my back as soon as humanly possible. If you are attempting to get me back when I am at that point your chances for success aren’t going to be very good.
Trying to get an ex boyfriend back in that specific situation at that specific time is like trying to play tennis with a 100lb racquet.
You can do this in a lot of different ways but I have found the most effective way is through the use of the no contact rule. For example, if you were to rate my trust in you on a scale from 1 to 100 it would have been 100. So, the question you are probably wondering is how in the world do you gain someones trust back in this particular case? Then I happened to see your site and wondering If I should apply NC or should let him know I feel comfortable to share it with him now because I feel he’s more important to me that I can let him access to my personal stuff like that.
I msg him and obviously I haven’t read your site yet, begging him and tried to explain the situation and asking for his forgiveness and second chance. Hi, me and my boyfriend were dating officially for 4 months (but were going out together for about 7). Well, in my experience men who want their ego fed will be attracted to girls who feed it a little but don’t feed it all the way. Although the long distance was really hard, he did everything possible to alleviate the difficulty of our situation.
A few months after that, he visited again but on a drunken night out with a large group of friends, a guy kissed me. I cheated on my boyfriend because I was too cowardly and weak to break up with him when he treated me as if I was no better than an accessory. Every single article that has ever been written for this site has centered on an area of the overall ex recovery process.
In fact, not only is it a bit old but I know a lot more about getting exes back than I did in the early stages of last year. What would happen if I wrote another large guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back that completely updated my philosophy?
If you aren’t already aware I would like to tell you that I have written two books on ex boyfriends. Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO – A step by step guide that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
The Texting Bible – A guide about how to text your ex boyfriend in any situation you can think of. If you really want to have everything you could ever want when it comes to getting your ex back those are probably the two best resources available right now.
As you learn in my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO getting your ex boyfriend back is not an exact science. Well, something I was shocked to learn was the fact that most women fail to get their exes back because they are undisciplined. If you look at the list above and find that you have done one or more of the things there you may be freaking out.
The first step to weighing your chances is asking yourself if a happy ending is in sight for you and your ex. If things like cheating, emotional abuse, BAD fighting have occurred then your chances of success will not be as high. It has been about a year since I last put my original game plan for getting an ex boyfriend back into writing. While this new game plan is very similar to the old one found on my very first guide on getting an ex boyfriend back there are a few major differences. In my infinite wisdom ?? I have learned that the best way to get your ex back is to slowly build attraction. However, the mistake that most women make is the fact that they just want the pain they are feeling (the lonliness, depression, etc) to stop as soon as possible and they rush the ex recovery process.
There is a certain way that you need to send a text message after the no contact rule has been completed. Once you establish a texting conversation with your ex it is your goal to build attraction in that conversation to make him want you.
If you have built enough attraction through texts and phone calls it is only inevitable that you will get a date. The No Contact Rule – This article is basically an introduction into the no contact rule.


The Male Mind During No Contact – This one basically talks about everything that is going on inside your exes mind once you perform the no contact rule on him. The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you aren’t allowed to respond to phone calls, texts, facebooks, snap chats, emails or anything else from your ex. However, now that I have seen so many people try the no contact rule I have decided that in some cases a shorter no contact period may be best.
Lets pretend that you decide that you want to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend.
Believe it or not this is the type of message that I have seen multiple women get during the no contact rule. Actually no, it meas that your ex boyfriend wants to talk to you more than anything and that is a good thing.
When your ex boyfriend threatens you in this way I view him, and this may be a little extreme, but I view him as a terrorist and we don’t negotiate with terrorists. I already know this is going to confuse the heck out of people so I really want you to pay attention to what I say here. If this happens then you should feel proud of yourself because that means that I desperately want you to talk to me. A lot of people don’t realize this but the no contact rule is meant to work in two different ways. The first way that no contact is supposed to work is that it’s supposed to have an affect on your ex boyfriend. The key to a successful no contact rule is combining the two which is something that I am going to talk about right now. Self improvement during the no contact rule is all about starting at point A to get to point Z (point Z obviously being your ex.) It always irks me when women come to this site, read about the no contact rule and then completely disregard the fact that self improvement is a part of it.
The ungettable girl is a concept that I came up with to describe a girl that can pretty much make any man crazy. I think the first thing that you have to understand is that every man out there loves the chase. Ok, I guess that is more than a few “aspects” but you want to do this right, right?
Now, if you are sitting here reading this and you feel a little overweight then consider this your wake up call.
Let me tell you a little story and trust me when I say that everything I talk about below really happened to me. I have debated telling this story for months because the truth is I am not fond of telling personal stories that talk about other people but this one so clearly illustrates the point I am making here that I can’t resist. Slowly but surely I started to get to know the real her and I learned that her personality was very unstable. Well, the book is basically about this tree that loves this little boy with all it’s heart. Essentially, the boy had taken so much from the tree that the tree had nothing left to give.
The point was that eventually I stopped being friends with her because I learned she treated everyone like this. Well, after I learned about her personality every time I looked at her picture on Facebook I no longer found her attractive. The two will always be linked and the key to an ungettable girl is that she has high marks in both looks and personality.
If I had to take a guess I would say that right now your confidence is pretty much down in the dumps.
Even more important, there is no way in he** you are going to become an ungettable girl without confidence. Some are the perfect amount of confidence and some are way too confident that it is off-putting.
I once knew this woman who would always tell me that she was the most confident person ever.
The point is that someone who is truly confident doesn’t need to say that they are confident they just are. If you can master these two things then don’t worry, you are well on your way to becoming confident.
Well, it is an idea that I picked up from probably the strangest community ever, pickup artists. Well, I don’t think it is any coincidence that every single ungettable girl out there is well liked by all of her friends and is extremely popular. I recommend that you use this no contact period as a time to socialize and have amazing experiences your friends.
So, while you are working on self improvement the no contact rule should simultaneously be having an effect on your ex boyfriend. Now, before I start getting into specifics someone in the comments section of this website made me aware of a big flaw with the no contact rule.
That means if you and your ex had a major fight you would be going into the no contact rule for 30 days on the heels of that major fight. Anyways, this concept basically says that the things that people remember the most when it comes to relationships are the beginnings and endings of that relationship.
I have been on this planet for quite a while and have dealt with my fair share of women who aren’t classy.
While that text message may look like an apology it really isn’t if you read it carefully. There is only one way I know how to describe this bond but it is going to require some role playing from you and I. I know we have gone over a lot so take a moment and catch your breath because we still have a lot to cover. If you have picked up my book, The Texting Bible then you may have seen me mention that text messaging is non threatening. However, one of the things I have learned through helping thousands of women is that you should really only have two goals when it comes to text messaging after the no contact rule. Your entire game plan when it comes to text messaging is going to revolve around two goals.
Often times the best way to get an ex boyfriend on the phone is to build attraction with him and if you happen to be very successful in building that attraction you may luck out and he could ask you on a date. One thing I do want to say is that many women make the mistake of skipping goal one and going straight to goal two before building attraction.
If you follow that simple structure during your texting phase then I guarantee you are going to have some nice success. When it comes to building attraction (or in your case re-building attraction) you can’t be overeager. The number one mistake I see from women when it comes to this phase of my philosophy is that they are too eager to see an end result. I guess the point I am trying to make here is that if you follow my advice in this section you should be able to re-build attraction with your ex boyfriend.
You have essentially ignored your ex for 30 days (or 21 days depending on some situations.) How in the world are you supposed to approach this situation? Seriously, I roll my eyes and put my phone down for a few moments whenever I receive responses like these. I don’t recommend you copy my doppelganger story word for word but you can use it as an idea of the type of interesting thing that should get your ex to bite. When I originally came up with the idea for a first contact text message I advised people to end the conversation immediately. Rather than immediately ending the conversation I think it is a good idea to go a little deeper into the conversation. Before you can start getting into the more emotional type of text messages you are going to have to get on friendly terms with your ex boyfriend again. Lets say that you are ready to talk about your old relationship but you are unsure if your ex is. Ok, the one thing we already know is that you can’t jump into an emotional topic (like your old relationship with your ex) right off the bat. The way you do that is by starting off very slowly and then casually upping the intensity of the type of messages that you send. The other day I happened to stumble across a picture that is meant to be funny (but I actually found it to be true.) It is on how people view success. A meme text message is perfect to start off your priming because it isn’t meant to be serious at all. This type of a text message was something that I came up with after a friend of mine continually sent me memes. There is a lot to balance when it comes to the initial stages of priming isn’t there? The moment of realization came that I was in the women’s bathroom when I heard two women voices approaching and I quickly ran to hide in the stall until they went away. I had no choice but to open the stall door, reveal that I was in the wrong bathroom and then of course I ran for my life!
Do you see how that story was both intriguing and funny (all of it true by the way.) These are the types of stories that keep a persons interest. If your ex boyfriend responds pretty positively to that then you can advance to the next section. If you have properly primed your ex boyfriend then you can move on to the emotional messages. Now, the thing you have to remember when you text your ex boyfriend is that your main goal is to use the attraction you build with him to get him on the phone with you. This is your ex boyfriend we are talking about here so there is no doubt that he is going to have some negative memories. I want him to know that you are thinking of him that way and I want him to feel good about it. How To Make Your Ex Call You – A guide that will teach you what you need to do to make an ex call you or pick up the phone. What To Do On A Date With Your Ex – I created this guide to teach women what they should do on a date with their ex. Ideally, what you want to have happen is that you build up so much attraction from the text messages that your ex just calls you. Seriously, I hate calling first because I never know if the girl is going to be busy or if she will just blow me off.
The sexiest woman in the world is one who has the guts to cut through all this nonsense and call herself. If you have built up enough attraction through text messages and phone calls then you should be able to get a date relatively easily. Since 90% of the visitors to Ex Boyfriend Recovery want their ex boyfriends back I want to stay with that line of thinking. In fact, upon research it seems that no one online knows what to do when faced with this situation. While I can’t guarantee your success 100% of the time I can tell you that many women (who have been blocked) have used my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO to win back their exes. I guess if there was ever going to be a positive reason for an ex boyfriend to block you this would be it. So painful that he doesn’t want to remember it right now so he chooses to block you out of his life. So, while this is probably the best outlook for being blocked it is still never a good thing. I know that is an absolutely horrible thing for me to say but I am actually not ashamed about it. Nevertheless, the immature idiot that I once was, was important because it taught me how to evolve into a more mature man. Like I said above, at one point in my life I went through a phase where I would have had no problem doing this. However, what I would like to do is give you some insight into what factors caused him to have these feelings of vengeance. Sure, there are cases where your ex boyfriend is just a psycho and will want revenge because he is crazy. They will latch on to everything you did wrong in the relationship as a reason for revenge.
There are a few silver linings that I think are important to understand if an ex blocks you in this instance.
While blocking an ex girlfriend is a bold action stating (GO AWAY) the ultimate truth could be that the man is just doing it so he can feel wanted by you… WAIT, WHAT? I did just that (said the most hurtful things possible.) I thought of every hurtful subject I could to twist the knife a little deeper. The only reason I verbalized any of those thoughts was because I got angry and was looking for a way to hurt my girlfriend.
Emotions reign is only temporary and logic is usually left to clean up the mess that emotion made. Remember, the way this usually works is that your ex boyfriend will start off thinking with logic. We fought constantly, we didn’t agree on a lot of serious issues and by the end the relationship was so toxic that I literally went to bed at night dreading the next day. Now, prior to this point I had only ever blocked one person in my entire life (that ex girlfriend I talked about above.) So, blocking someone from my life is very rare for me. She had pushed me to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore so I blocked her from everything and never talked to her again.
If he does block you through both the applications and the big phone it is not a good sign.
I have even heard some cases where he can block your mutual friends for a while so he doesn’t have to see you in person. If your ex boyfriend blocks you from his smartphone but he doesn’t block you from Facebook then technically you can still get back in touch with him through Facebook when you want. If you are faced with a situation where you are blocked by your ex in every way then your options are very limited. While there are a few things you can do to influence his decision there isn’t really anything you can say to change his mind.
Your ex blocks you (a strong statement from him saying that he doesn’t want to talk to you) and you decide that, that means you should try harder and confront him in person? However, what I can do for you is give you a link to a new guide I wrote that really goes in-depth on my new view of the no contact rule. These women didn’t have to do anything for their ex to get in touch it just happened all on its own. That tells me that your world doesn’t revolve around a guy and it also says that you have a lot of self confidence. So, rather than sit in your room and cry about your situation I say you be proactive with the knowledge that he will be keeping an eye on you through Facebook. The two of us weren’t Facebook friends but her wall was semi public to where I could see the major events of her life. Curiosity is a powerful motivator and he will probably come snooping around in the near future to see how you are. So, what she decided to do was use her ex boyfriend and her’s mutual friends to pass a long letter to him. Once you are in his head curiosity will take hold and he may start spying on your Facebook profile or grilling your mutual friends on how you are doing. Enough time should have passed for him to calm down a little bit so if you play your cards right you could get a response. But it’s not always been bad, we moved out of his parents house and got an apartment and everything. You see, I am used to giving away a lot of helpful information and I feel I dropped the ball on that page. In my opinion, some of you need to be offended before you can take the necessary steps to improving your life. The main goal of this page is to ultimately teach you how you can get your ex boyfriend back. In other words, it is a complicated process that needs to be broken down very carefully in front of you to be successful. However, as I have interacted with more and more women through Ex Boyfriend Recovery I have began to notice an alarming trend. Well, what I am trying to achieve is something that blows the standard right out of the water. Like I said, I have seen way too much as a result of this site so let me tell you how this typically goes.
That emotional support leads to her opening up to this new man in ways she didn’t with her boyfriend. Now, I have thought a lot about how I want to structure this and I have determined that the best way to do this is to start off with the less physical forms of cheating and work our way up. While you are sorting through all the text messages I have sent to people over the past week you notice that I have sent some racy photos to another girl. I mean, that is practically how people greet each other in Europe so I won’t start World War 3 over that. For example, when I was thinking of what I would write for this page I ended up pulling up my first attempt at writing this page and going through all of the comments to see what women were actually listing as the reasons for cheating. Now, your boyfriend is a pretty secure guy so he has no problem with you going to this party at all. I can tell you that I have been drunk before and even in that moment I still knew exactly what I was doing.
So, rather than standing up and taking responsibility for what you did you decide to blame it on the alcohol. However, the thing I have always found interesting when it comes to the differences between men and women is the fact that the general spread of those needs is different among the genders. Women are different as they have a higher emphasis on the emotional needs as opposed to the physical ones.
For example, a man may learn that only time that you open up physically is when he meets your emotional needs.
Lets pretend that you cheated on your ex boyfriend because he wasn’t fulfilling you emotionally. Pretty soon, you can’t help but fall for your guy friend since he is doing such a good job of meeting your emotional needs. All of your friends would talk to you about how jealous they were of what you and your ex had. Of course, despite his cheating ways you are still in love with him so you couldn’t bring yourself to leave the relationship. That alone pretty much builds a case that he is a scumbag and absolutely puts you in the right and him in the wrong. If I was in your situation and a girl had cheated on me rather than staying in an already unstable relationship and finding a way to make her feel just as bad as I felt by cheating on her I think I would just end things. Allow me to explain some of the thoughts that would be going through my head in this scenario. Well, below I have compiled a list of three things that you need to be willing to do if you want to even have a shot of getting me back. Also, I feel like its an extra slap in the face that you didn’t care about me enough to end your relationship with this other person who basically brought an end to ours. I met a guy In January, It was on a wedding website, it was clear from day 1 that we will see if we like each other and get married accordingly.
Here’s the thing that i remember at that state, he pushed me to the floor, I knocked my head to the concrete, he tried to roughly pull me up, cursed and swear on me, called me names, kept shouting, we went home by taxi, I kept begging him in the taxi, he kept pushed me away, we went to my home, I begged him again, he kept pushing me to the floor and cursed and swear and called me names again, he threw the cups and shattered it on the floor, and he went out, went home to his.
Me and a group of friends had gone camping for 3 days and spent an extra night at one of their houses once we returned. I met my ex boyfriend when he was living near to me but a job change necessitated that he moved. My ex didn’t see it happen but he was suspicious because he saw me sitting with the guy, and I admitted that he had kissed me. Do you just desire him back just because you can’t accept the idea that he does not want you? He was attracted to you because he felt good with you, and you were fulfilling his emotional needs. Before you start doing anything to try and win him back, you need to know for sure that he still cares. One of the books is about the complete step by step process to getting an ex boyfriend back (something that goes in far greater detail than I will be going into here.) The second book is all about the texting process. I am sure if you go back to the original guide you will find a section similar to this one and you may find some major similarities between the two but I guarantee you that there are a lot of new concepts to teach.
I want you to get married, have kids and pretty much have the absolute best outcome possible after implementing this game plan.
Well, I didn’t say it was impossible to get your ex boyfriend back if any of the things on the list above were committed.
However, I will tell you in all honesty that your chances may be seriously hurt if any of the things above happened. If your ex has gotten a serious new girlfriend then your chances of success will not be very high.
That means that I have had an entire year to make tweaks and evolve my philosophy to improve your chances of getting him back.
When you help hundreds of women succeed in getting their boyfriends back you learn a thing or two about what works and what doesn’t work. Essentially, we are slowly working our way to a date where you can reconnect with him on an emotional and physical level. If you are new to this site then let me say up front that I have written a lot about the no contact rule.
What I am going to do now is give you a few quick links to some of the most popular no contact pages I have written.
However, watching people do it for the last year I have learned some very interesting things that I didn’t know when I first talked about no contact. In addition to that you are not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact time frame. A message like this is essentially a hissy fit where he is going to threaten you by cutting you out of his life. However, the sheer fact that he is so upset about you using the no contact rule on him tells us that no contact is working it’s magic on him faster than normal.
In this particular case you can have the option to shorten your 30 day no contact rule to 21 days.
In other words, you are going to be fighting a battle on two fronts at the same exact time. You are emotional, your life is out of balance and quite honestly your confidence is probably lower than ever. They may say that they hate it but the truth is that deep down we all kind of like it when we can’t get the girl at first.
A year ago I met this beautiful girl.  Now, let me tell you that I am quite picky so this girl was really something looks wise to catch my attention.
The little boy keeps asking the tree to give him things and the tree, since it loves the little boy, gives the little boy everything he asks for. While I was definitely not in love with her (didn’t even date her) I did have feelings for her and she knew that and used them to take advantage of me.
Every single friend she had she would just take and take and take until the friends had nothing left to give and I refused to have that happen to me.


I am a guy so I feel I can bring a unique perspective when it comes to confidence for women.
Women who try too hard to be confident and feel the need to prove it is a total turn off to men.
Well, in the warped mind of men a girl who is actually hit on a lot by other men is perceived as higher value and more attractive. Besides, a little jealousy never hurts to make an ex realize how much he truly cares for you. Heck, I don’t even think its a bad idea to go on a date with someone new to just to test the waters. While doing that would certainly give you and your ex time to cool down it also means that your ex has a lot of anger towards you. Well, if you have a major fight at the end of your relationship and you immediately go into the no contact rule then the last thing that your ex is going to remember is that major fight. If your ex is super angry with you during the no contact rule then the chances of it working on him the way that it is supposed to will be decreased.
If you can get your ex into a positive mindset as opposed to a negative one before you go into the no contact rule then the chances of no contact working will be greatly increased. No matter what they say or do their ex may be so stubborn he will refuse to calm down until the no contact rule is completed. Let me tell you that it is actually a really nice thing to encounter one who is extremely classy. You want him in that positive mindset before you go into the no contact rule and a message like this may do the trick to get him in that mindset. About 7 minutes pass and I decide that I can’t bear to be without you so I decide to follow you to the kitchen to talk to you.
First though, I want to take a moment and explain why text messages are preferred over a phone call.
For example, whenever I care about someone I notice everything when it comes to text messaging. I would rather you go with what society has dictated the most personal form of communication, the text message. Of course, when you take a step back you will learn that the two goals really compliment each other. Let’s assume the worst though and assume that the best you can do is get an ex boyfriend on the phone. This is a major mistake because this is the very definition of rushing the process and trust me when I say this is a process that can’t be rushed.
I always find myself telling people to make their text messages so interesting that their ex has no choice but to respond to it. The problem was that by the time they were done two more women came in and eventually the bathroom go so crowded there were women waiting on the stall that I was in. This is the first time that you are going to be sending a text message about you and your ex.
Of course, there are a few things I want to discuss with you on how both of these subjects relates to my overall philosophy on getting an ex boyfriend back. Unfortunately, the thing that these women don’t take into account is that transitioning from text messages to talking on the phone is a pretty big deal for us guys too.
I am like 100% of guys out there in that I am scared to death of rejection and I do feel rejected every time I put my neck on the line to call a girl and she doesn’t pick up. In other words, if you have compelling information to share (like an interesting story) your ex is going to naturally be curious and you can use that curiosity to get on the phone with him. Well, going on a date is a pretty big deal because this is where a big opportunity to get your ex back can occur.
Every time a woman comes to this site and decides to implement the no contact rule she is technically obssessed with her ex boyfriend.
Sure, maybe there were some really bad fights and the relationship wasn’t as strong as she thought but if she is willing to try the no contact rule then deep down she really wants things to work and probably still loves her boyfriend.
Some of the women I blocked were exes and some of them were just friends that pushed me to the point where I couldn’t deal with them anymore. Essentially how this works is that every time your ex talks to you on the phone or through text messaging it hurts him. Maybe he is obsessed with you for the right reasons but it simply hurts too much to talk to you. Look, the thing you have to understand about men is that it is rare for us to be mature about our first few relationships. I looked back and was disappointed with how I acted and I actively worked to make sure I didn’t repeat those mistakes ever again in my future relationships. However, I am playing the role of an idiot boyfriend here so I don’t look at it that way.
There are two things that will go through my mind when I decide to make the decision to block for this specific reason. This anger signifies when the logic switch is turned off and when the emotion switch is turned on.
While logic is slowly retaking the battlefield some of the good emotions are starting to kick in. In fact, it means that 40% of exes could be serious about blocking you and may never want to talk to you again. First though, lets take a look at all the ways that an ex boyfriend can block you from his life.
Most people don’t just hand out their numbers and they sure as heck put some thought into who they are blocking from their phones. As I said above, around 60% of exes do end up getting back in touch after they block their significant other.
While there is still a 60% chance that he will unblock you down the road he may be more serious about the blocking if he takes the time to block you on all these little applications as well.
Knowing what options you have is important because those options are going to determine how you play the game. Look, I am a fan of letters but the only time that they ever mean something to me is when I am dating someone.
I want you to remember this attitude because it is going to be extremely important for you to have for what I say next. Of course, the world isn’t over so you decide to hang out with a few mutual friends that you and your ex boyfriend have. The one day he got the courage to tell me he needs a break or whatever and that he would still let me stay at home so I could have a home because I have no friends and barely any family and none I could stay with.
Yes, you cheated on him (and we will be talking about that a lot, don’t worry) but ultimately the purpose of this guide is to put you in a position where you can get him back. One of the coolest or cruelest (depending on how you look at it) things about the internet is that it gives individuals the ability to express their personal views.
It’s quite simple really, I have this endless desire to keep improving myself for the person that I love. First things first, you are going to need to learn to take care of yourself first before you can even attempt to get him back and getting so drunk that you forget the previous night is not the definition of taking care of yourself. Nevertheless, I am the one who runs this site and since you came here for my insight you are just going to have to put up with my views. So, any time he wants to have his needs met physically he will provide you with what you are looking for emotionally so you can provide him with what he is looking for physically.
This guy friend of yours ends up fulfilling you emotionally better than your boyfriend does.
So, if I am willing to bring that type of intensity and conviction to a relationship I feel it is only fair that my faithfulness is matched. I know it seems like not the best characteristic ever, but he is nice and sweet to me and my son. During those three nights i had been drinking excessively and for the first night one of the guys there (he’s 20, I’m 16. I knew him for about a month and a half before he left and it was only once he’d moved to his new place that we decided to try a long distance relationship. As our relationship progressed, my workload became more intense than I thought possible and I knew that I wouldn’t be able to continue juggling the travelling, heartache of missing him etc, whilst completing my degree.
After we broke up, he visited me and said he’d suddenly decided that he wanted nothing more than to move close to me and find a new job. I wasn’t very good at putting my points across and so resorted to emailing him subsequently to do so better. I was dating a guy of 4 years he was emotanaly abusive and I started dating my ex again while with the other guy I fell so in love with the second guy that I thought we could get through anything and I guess I was wrong. If you say the incorrect phrases, you will misplace the possibility to get your ex beau back.
If he not, and you are still desperate to get him back, then you need to think of the subtlest ways to get him start to care again, even just a little.
That 10,000 word guide detailed a step by step process that helped women get their ex boyfriends back. It is essentially a bible of text messages that you can use during the texting phase of getting your ex boyfriend back.
Now, I am pretty good at making complicated subjects easy to understand so I promise you that you will understand everything in this guide. I created this section in the guide because I feel that sometimes going after an ex boyfriend isn’t always going to benefit you in the end and I want to help you determine which situations are like that.
In other words, that means for 30 days you can’t call, text or respond to your ex at all.
You have 21-30 days of time to do something about it so don’t just sit there and waste that time.
However, once you got to know him you learned that all he seemed to talk about were his muscles. The only reason I researched tactics there was to find stuff that I could use to help YOU to get your ex back. When I watch a movie that I really like there are certain phrases or quotes that stick with me for life.
Every time they talk to someone you take note of it and every time they do something it affects you.
The idea is to make him think back to the days where he didn’t have you and make him realize how miserable he was without you in his life. Now you have to come up with a compelling story that will cause your ex boyfriend to respond to you. The key to sending a successful meme message has to be the fact that the meme has to be funny. Just saying something general like I did in the message above with the boardwalk is enough.
The thing that you have to understand about emotional messages when you are dealing with your ex is that they can’t bring up negative memories. The idea here is to get him to associate the good feelings he gets when he thinks back to those memories with you. Even though I know logically that she may be busy and get back to me later the emotion of initial rejection always kind of hurts. Unfortunately, I have reached my limit on typing as this guide is already close to 10,000 words. He is on her mind the second she wakes up for the day, the second she gets in her car to go to work and the second she closes her eyes to go to sleep.
As a guy let me tell you it is a very humbling feeling when one moment you are on top of the world because you think a pretty girl is falling for you and then BAM!! In other words, being immature at first was essential for me to evolve into a more mature and classy human being.
Of course, I am all about turning negatives into positives so the thing that you have to understand is that very rarely do men communicate with their girlfriends through email.
At first I was calm but then I started freaking out, I really love this man to death and I know he loves me too it’s just that my anger towards him was taking a toll.
Now, you are a good person so you never even thought it was in your character to cheat but when you are in the situation and you are only getting 20% of your needs met you aren’t going to be very happy in your relationship. I got so drunk and there was a guy pulling me away from my bf and danced with me and kissed me. On day 2 of no contact, he msg me saying how hurt he is and how I’ve broken his heart and how he is so disappointed etc and he said goodbye again. I had asked my boyfriend to consider moving back and to even just look at jobs near me again but he brushed those requests off and said I was being ridiculous- I wasn’t.
This unsettled me because I couldn’t see why it took for me to break up with him for him to say that- I felt that he was being slightly selfish because it was only then because he was hurting, that he was willing to consider moving. He listened and was extremely gracious and kind but he has said despite his lingering feelings for me, he doesn’t know if he will ever see me the way he used to. I wasn’t prepared for this and now I am so angry and conflicted at his audacity to do this to me again. I came out about 8 months later and told him the truth and that I pick him and I’m so sorry.
If you have a chance to meet him, do it in a familiar place you used to enjoy good times together.
This subconsciously tells him that he and you have a common way of talking. Boyfriend Recovery system that page.
Knowing that your ex still cares about you is the most important sign that things can still be mended.
If you absorbed the information and knew exactly what to do to raise your chances of getting your ex back you still might fail because YOU failed to put the information into practice. However, it is also going to give you a chance to work on yourself and get your mind in the right place. Early within that no contact period (lets say around day 6) I start to send you a lot of text messages asking you where you are. Use this time to get in the best shape of your life because you know what, things are going to start falling into place for you if you do so.
By the end of the book the boy has grown into an old man and the tree is nothing but a stump. In the movie Inception there is a certain phrase that Leonardo DiCaprio’s character mutters that I still think about today. Oh, and if he does respond to a message like this you aren’t supposed to respond to him.
So, as you can see every step in this process is meant to get you that date so you can get him back. It isn’t something that you cant just manufacture overnight with a few text messages.
Second, you can use priming as a way to test to see if he is ready to advance to emotional things. I want your ex to put himself back in time where he was when this emotional memory occurred. I am a fan of giving someone a warning before you call that way they can prepare themselves.
However, I did mention above that if an ex blocks you it probably means that a part of him is obsessed with you.
We are all human beings after all and the thing about human beings is that none of us are perfect. I wasn’t always angry either just once in a while but when I was I was mean to him despite everything he has done for me. For example, if you and I were dating and I found out that you cheated on me I would end the relationship immediately. Scared that it wasn’t what he really wanted and that he’d regret moving here and resent me, I told him not to and said my decision to break up still stood- that was extremely difficult for me.
He has said that for now we both need to get on with our lives and just try to find happiness.
Why am I fretting over this stupid guy again when he probably doesnt feel anything except pity for his wounded pride for getting rejected? You should not start on anything before you are sure that your ex still has some amount of concern when it comes to you. Recovery ex boyfriend and more.
I want you to become someone so incredible that not only can your ex boyfriend NOT resist you but pretty much every other man on the face of the earth too.
He saved me from homeless ness and brought me to his parents home as a stranger one year ago from May 3rd, 2016. The guy I dated before was a guy who belonged to a very rich family and I come from a upper middle class family and he broke up with me because his mother said that our social status does not match and he said the same thing. I know your view on this and I know I can’t blame the alcohol as in the first place I have to control myself.
On day 6th, he msg me again out of the blue and said he forgives me and wish me the best with the things I want to do.
The second night we had all decided to go skinny dipping but everyone else decided not to last minute, so it was just me and John. We saw each other roughly fortnightly or monthly and he did everything he could to make that easy for me (paid for travel, came to me whenever possible. I just think that everything I did around that time were desperate attempts to prove to myself that I could move on, when really, I couldn’t and still can’t.
I tried to leave him multiple times because of emotional abuse where I was treated as a doormat one night and then the next a queen. That when people break up they don’t get back together because that was the way the world worked. Remember, the goal of becoming the ungettable girl isn’t to just please your ex boyfriend.
It is something that requires discipline and patience and even though I am about to show you exactly what you need to do to build attraction I am positive that 90% of the women reading this will fall victim to their own emotions and desires and fail to do things correctly. I have 2 undergrad degrees with 4.0 GPA and I had scholarship throughout and I am helping my dad in his businesses since I was 21 years old practically running the businesses for him, but the things that were said to me left an impression deep inside.
Everyone around me encourage me not to take him back due to his abusive and violence nature. We didn’t go in next to each other but kind of swam in different directions and i got dressed right away and left. This happened a year ago and my ex was heartbroken by it, made worse by the fact that I did not let him see that I felt terrible or remorseful because I felt I needed to continue coping with life without my ex and that having him hating me was easier for me to deal with. We had not seen each other in 2 months, but every night I was listening to his problems, doting on him, providing advice. If any of these things occurred, you’ll desire to think long and hard about going back to that kind of connection, but if you do still desire him back, try the following steps. Ex Boyfriend You need to understand that even though he starts the breakup, there is a good chance that he still harbors good sentiments for you.
I denied because I worried that I will lose mysterious to him if I agree to all of his demands.
In one of your site about the type of guys, it seems that he is a combination of bad boy, super committed, egomaniac and controller with a more bad mixed character than good. Once we came back from camping we all decided to drink since it was our last night together. When he completely doesn’t want u and ignores u and dont need any committed relation. Every time he thinks about you he is not filled with good feelings he is filled with annoyance. Then I thought that it is time for me to go out there again, I met a guy he was really sweet in the beginning as was his family but I got to know that he was a drug addict and alcoholic (I just went out with him a few times).
I remember I started drinking while I waited for the others to come and then waking up the next morning, but I can’t remember anything that happened that night.
He’s a very mature man and he IS NOT like most men, he cries and shows his feelings a lot and is compassionate. Then I met this guy, from the moment we met we knew we have something, we fell in love, everything was perfect for the first 2 months I even met his mother and she was really sweet to me. Apparently I had slept with John, was running around my friend’s house naked and was trying to sleep with one of the other guys. When he finished his finals for school, he threw me under the bus and partied as much as possible that night and rest of week. But, I messed up, I lied to them about my professional life ad my family, I really wanted to tell him the truth in the initial day but I got scared that he will leave as I thought that I do not have a really good professional life, one lie lead to another and I kept lying to him and his family for 2 months. He showed me his love only for 1st 3 months and then it was all fights and arguments which now had turned into a complete break up. He made everything seem ok and that we had made up after he told me he might want a break but then the next day I drive him to work in a shared car that he took with him and I got to his parents house to talk to his sister, and then I go hang out with him on his lunch break and we are pizza that he bought for us and after he kisses me and tells me that he loves me. We talked about it later and he told me he needed a break from me, that he wanted to sort things out but after what I did he wasn’t sure if he could forgive me.
Like all abusive relationships, I was being used for comfort, or maybe in his eyes I was being punished for cheating. He said maybe someday we could talk about this in person but for now he doesn’t want to see me.
I called two days straight begging him to block my number like he promised, in which he responded with a lazy apology saying he knows I hate him but he’s just doing the right thing. I was so burned and hurt because this sick insane cycle has occured so many times but I picked myself up and tried to keep myself busy. He was worried I would hurt myself because I always said that (wrong of me) or hurt him physically or whatever (which I would NEVER DO) anyways his sister and mom drives me to work at 10pm overnight shift and sister hugs me. But, I talked to him explained everything and promised not to lie to him ever again and not to hide anything from him.
They say they’ll be there for me in the morning to pick me up but then during my shift I kind of lost it telling the sister through text and him that I wanted to die and stuff so she called the ambulance on me. And I kept my promise for the next 7 months, as we wanted to get married I asked him to ask his family if we can go ahead, his family said no and he told my family that he still cannot trust me. I send him an email after all this stating that I tried my best, I did everything in my power to make things right and that I love him as well but I will not contact him anymore and will respect his decision. So then in the morning I get discharged from the hospital nobody is answering their phones and I live at least 45 minutes from the hospital. The mom and his sister had said everything would be okay and that I could still talk to his sister and his mom. He wanted my family to talk to his family and clear the misunderstanding but my parents do not feel like doing that as they think that he doesn’t respect me or love me.
I has been 18 days, I was thinking to call his mom and talk to her and explain her why I lied and how much I am regretting it in a way that what I am doing is for her (I loved her as my own mom, and I am feeling guilty for what I did to her). After all this HIS aunt answers and she lets me come stay for a few days till I can get a ride home.
We laughed a lot just like a day before all this and we have a lot of inside jokes always always even the last time we saw eachother told eachother that we love eachother and kissed eachother affection Was not lacking. The reason I never did this before is because I felt that my actions will make more sense than my words, but as she is in a different continent she cannot see what I was trying to do from last 7 months here. I haven’t contacted him now for like 4 to 5 days out of like 7 or 8 days of break up.



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