It can really hurt when an ex boyfriend (who you still have feelings for) seemingly moves on to another girl. If you haven’t already read my epic article on how to get your ex boyfriend back I suggest you drop everything for the next 30 minutes (yes 30 minutes) and go read it. When I first created this site I wanted to create the best online resource for getting your ex back. Before you take any major steps to getting your ex boyfriend back it is important that you implement the No Contact Rule. If you don’t have the patience to read that entire page let me sum up some of the most important points for you. Believe it or not but how your ex boyfriend got his new girlfriend matters in a very big way. Situation 1– You broke up with your ex, realized you wanted him back but found out that he got a new girlfriend after the breakup.
This section will explore some of the most important steps to getting back with an ex who has a new girlfriend. Truth 4: It is entirely possible that the further away from a breakup that your ex boyfriend gets the more nostalgic he will become about your relationship. It is not always easy to want someone back so badly and see them in another relationship with someone else. It’s Not Your Fault- Sometimes women have a tendency to believe that their ex started dating someone new because of something that they did or something that they could not provide. Resist Any Comparisons- It is only human nature to want to compare yourself to the new (hopefully temporary) girlfriend. So far this page has really been about personal things that you can do to get your ex back if he has a new squeeze. Initiate Contact Via Text Message- Test the waters with your ex boyfriend via text messaging. Be Very Nice To Him And His New Girlfriend- If you are on good terms with your ex or you have tested the waters via text messages and gotten a positive response be very wary about trashing his new girlfriend. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. The final time we broke up, I felt I needed time to reconsider our relationship properly that was why I did not ask him for a break but a break up. In the end he broke up with his rebound girlfriend and got together with me because he says he feels that he still likes me. I was horrified that they had been contacting behind my back and he even told me many times he didn’t like her before that was why i trusted him so much. For now, he always block me when he goes out with his girlfriend but unblocks when I beg him to.
I tried to move on by going out with this other guy but I felt even worse because I can’t force myself to like someone new. Oh, do you think he stopped talking to you because it wasn’t really his intention to be in a relationship and he sensed you’re falling for him? You have to more emotionally strong because it looks like the only edge of the new girl is being new in his life with the promise of a family.. I am trying to but I have to have him sign a contract for something we bought together and he hasnt signed it yet and is making it very difficult.
This is going to sound really weird but for the next month I don’t want you to talk to your ex boyfriend.
WHAT???Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Yup, I know it sounds ridiculous but trust me, doing this will stack the odds in your favor in a very unique way. Now, that is wrong on so many levels but you are going to use this type of thinking to your advantage.
One of the most interesting things about text messaging is the fact that every holds their texts as sacred. IMPORTANT – You cannot move on to this text message until you successfully complete the first text message above. The key with this type of text is to get your ex to remember the good parts of your relationship. If you haven’t already realized this, getting your ex back can be a very complicated process.
Forgot to mention the conversation did not end well as I replied ok and it just ended as he was trying to make a effort to talk!
Before you even attempt to make your ex jealous lets talk a little about what you want your ultimate goal to be. What I am going to do now is give you a brief overview of how to properly use jealousy and then I will talk about each aspect in-depth. The No Contact Rule- You are not allowed to contact your ex in any way after the breakup for a minimum of 30 days. Alright, now that you have an idea of what the no contact rule is I am going to talk a little bit about the things you can do during the no contact period that can will your ex jealous.
I get a lot of emails every single day (random fact- I have 9 unanswered emails in my inbox just from today) and one of the most common mistakes I see from women is the fact that they don’t do anything at all during the no contact period. Look, if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous I seriously want you to spend those 30 days NOT thinking about him.
Disclaimer: Some of the things on this list WILL make you uncomfortable but I am not in the business of being nice for the sake of being nice I am trying to give you advice that will help make your ex jealous and hopefully put you in a position to where you can get him back. If you are an avid reader of this site then you may be aware that I am very much in favor of going out on a date with someone new during the no contact period. Now, I am aware that you are looking for an exact step by step method for what you need to say to your ex but I am not going to get into that here because this page is supposed to only be about the ways you can make your ex jealous (I actually put together a guide about how you can use texting to get your ex back already.) What I will do is give you a few ground rules that you need to follow when contacting your ex.
Showing that you have control of the conversation is very important for a number of reasons.
Well, luckily for you I have been on the receiving end of quite a few ungettable girls so I can tell you some of the tactics that they were able to use on me that proved to be pretty effective. There is a lot more to the story but as you can see she dominated the very first conversation we had. Bowing Out Of The Conversations By Not Responding- This is a pretty effective way to establish control.
Since we are on the subject of texting lets talk a little about the most important type of text if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous, the jealousy texts. We are long distance which complicates things but we had a long talk the other night and agreed it’s best that we part ways.
Been reading your advice since day 1 of the of a two year relationship break up 3 months ago. I was seeing someone since February but it never got serious he never asked me out we just slept together through the year. Hi there i have a a few things i need help with been dating this guy i love n he says im his everything n he loves me we been dating since 2012 have a 2 year old son he was running his own busniss and reno a house which made alot of stress he has broke up with me 10 times never last more then a couple weeks sometimes even days bc we would disagree or he would take on more stuff rather than realzizing what a family needs not just his own.
Hi Chris, so I came to this site because after 6 years together my boyfriend broke up with me and I was trying to do what other sites say to move on from the relationship by trying my best not to contact him and you know give myself time to mourn the relationship.
Every single article that has ever been written for this site has centered on an area of the overall ex recovery process. In fact, not only is it a bit old but I know a lot more about getting exes back than I did in the early stages of last year. What would happen if I wrote another large guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back that completely updated my philosophy? If you aren’t already aware I would like to tell you that I have written two books on ex boyfriends. Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO – A step by step guide that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
The Texting Bible – A guide about how to text your ex boyfriend in any situation you can think of.
If you really want to have everything you could ever want when it comes to getting your ex back those are probably the two best resources available right now.
As you learn in my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO getting your ex boyfriend back is not an exact science. Well, something I was shocked to learn was the fact that most women fail to get their exes back because they are undisciplined.
If you look at the list above and find that you have done one or more of the things there you may be freaking out.
The first step to weighing your chances is asking yourself if a happy ending is in sight for you and your ex. If things like cheating, emotional abuse, BAD fighting have occurred then your chances of success will not be as high.
It has been about a year since I last put my original game plan for getting an ex boyfriend back into writing. While this new game plan is very similar to the old one found on my very first guide on getting an ex boyfriend back there are a few major differences. In my infinite wisdom ?? I have learned that the best way to get your ex back is to slowly build attraction.
However, the mistake that most women make is the fact that they just want the pain they are feeling (the lonliness, depression, etc) to stop as soon as possible and they rush the ex recovery process.
There is a certain way that you need to send a text message after the no contact rule has been completed. Once you establish a texting conversation with your ex it is your goal to build attraction in that conversation to make him want you. If you have built enough attraction through texts and phone calls it is only inevitable that you will get a date. The No Contact Rule – This article is basically an introduction into the no contact rule.
The Male Mind During No Contact – This one basically talks about everything that is going on inside your exes mind once you perform the no contact rule on him.
The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you aren’t allowed to respond to phone calls, texts, facebooks, snap chats, emails or anything else from your ex. However, now that I have seen so many people try the no contact rule I have decided that in some cases a shorter no contact period may be best. Lets pretend that you decide that you want to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend. Believe it or not this is the type of message that I have seen multiple women get during the no contact rule.
Actually no, it meas that your ex boyfriend wants to talk to you more than anything and that is a good thing.
When your ex boyfriend threatens you in this way I view him, and this may be a little extreme, but I view him as a terrorist and we don’t negotiate with terrorists.
I already know this is going to confuse the heck out of people so I really want you to pay attention to what I say here.
If this happens then you should feel proud of yourself because that means that I desperately want you to talk to me. A lot of people don’t realize this but the no contact rule is meant to work in two different ways. The first way that no contact is supposed to work is that it’s supposed to have an affect on your ex boyfriend. The key to a successful no contact rule is combining the two which is something that I am going to talk about right now. Self improvement during the no contact rule is all about starting at point A to get to point Z (point Z obviously being your ex.) It always irks me when women come to this site, read about the no contact rule and then completely disregard the fact that self improvement is a part of it. The ungettable girl is a concept that I came up with to describe a girl that can pretty much make any man crazy.
I think the first thing that you have to understand is that every man out there loves the chase.
Ok, I guess that is more than a few “aspects” but you want to do this right, right? Now, if you are sitting here reading this and you feel a little overweight then consider this your wake up call. Let me tell you a little story and trust me when I say that everything I talk about below really happened to me. I have debated telling this story for months because the truth is I am not fond of telling personal stories that talk about other people but this one so clearly illustrates the point I am making here that I can’t resist.
Slowly but surely I started to get to know the real her and I learned that her personality was very unstable.
Well, the book is basically about this tree that loves this little boy with all it’s heart.
Essentially, the boy had taken so much from the tree that the tree had nothing left to give.
The point was that eventually I stopped being friends with her because I learned she treated everyone like this. Well, after I learned about her personality every time I looked at her picture on Facebook I no longer found her attractive.
The two will always be linked and the key to an ungettable girl is that she has high marks in both looks and personality. If I had to take a guess I would say that right now your confidence is pretty much down in the dumps.
Even more important, there is no way in he** you are going to become an ungettable girl without confidence.
Some are the perfect amount of confidence and some are way too confident that it is off-putting. I once knew this woman who would always tell me that she was the most confident person ever.
The point is that someone who is truly confident doesn’t need to say that they are confident they just are. If you can master these two things then don’t worry, you are well on your way to becoming confident. Well, it is an idea that I picked up from probably the strangest community ever, pickup artists. Well, I don’t think it is any coincidence that every single ungettable girl out there is well liked by all of her friends and is extremely popular.
I recommend that you use this no contact period as a time to socialize and have amazing experiences your friends.
So, while you are working on self improvement the no contact rule should simultaneously be having an effect on your ex boyfriend. Now, before I start getting into specifics someone in the comments section of this website made me aware of a big flaw with the no contact rule.
That means if you and your ex had a major fight you would be going into the no contact rule for 30 days on the heels of that major fight. Anyways, this concept basically says that the things that people remember the most when it comes to relationships are the beginnings and endings of that relationship. I have been on this planet for quite a while and have dealt with my fair share of women who aren’t classy. While that text message may look like an apology it really isn’t if you read it carefully. There is only one way I know how to describe this bond but it is going to require some role playing from you and I. I know we have gone over a lot so take a moment and catch your breath because we still have a lot to cover. If you have picked up my book, The Texting Bible then you may have seen me mention that text messaging is non threatening. However, one of the things I have learned through helping thousands of women is that you should really only have two goals when it comes to text messaging after the no contact rule. Your entire game plan when it comes to text messaging is going to revolve around two goals. Often times the best way to get an ex boyfriend on the phone is to build attraction with him and if you happen to be very successful in building that attraction you may luck out and he could ask you on a date. One thing I do want to say is that many women make the mistake of skipping goal one and going straight to goal two before building attraction.
If you follow that simple structure during your texting phase then I guarantee you are going to have some nice success.
When it comes to building attraction (or in your case re-building attraction) you can’t be overeager. The number one mistake I see from women when it comes to this phase of my philosophy is that they are too eager to see an end result. I guess the point I am trying to make here is that if you follow my advice in this section you should be able to re-build attraction with your ex boyfriend. You have essentially ignored your ex for 30 days (or 21 days depending on some situations.) How in the world are you supposed to approach this situation? Seriously, I roll my eyes and put my phone down for a few moments whenever I receive responses like these. I don’t recommend you copy my doppelganger story word for word but you can use it as an idea of the type of interesting thing that should get your ex to bite. When I originally came up with the idea for a first contact text message I advised people to end the conversation immediately. Rather than immediately ending the conversation I think it is a good idea to go a little deeper into the conversation. Before you can start getting into the more emotional type of text messages you are going to have to get on friendly terms with your ex boyfriend again. Lets say that you are ready to talk about your old relationship but you are unsure if your ex is. Ok, the one thing we already know is that you can’t jump into an emotional topic (like your old relationship with your ex) right off the bat. The way you do that is by starting off very slowly and then casually upping the intensity of the type of messages that you send.
The other day I happened to stumble across a picture that is meant to be funny (but I actually found it to be true.) It is on how people view success. A meme text message is perfect to start off your priming because it isn’t meant to be serious at all. This type of a text message was something that I came up with after a friend of mine continually sent me memes. There is a lot to balance when it comes to the initial stages of priming isn’t there? The moment of realization came that I was in the women’s bathroom when I heard two women voices approaching and I quickly ran to hide in the stall until they went away.
I had no choice but to open the stall door, reveal that I was in the wrong bathroom and then of course I ran for my life! Do you see how that story was both intriguing and funny (all of it true by the way.) These are the types of stories that keep a persons interest. If your ex boyfriend responds pretty positively to that then you can advance to the next section. If you have properly primed your ex boyfriend then you can move on to the emotional messages. Now, the thing you have to remember when you text your ex boyfriend is that your main goal is to use the attraction you build with him to get him on the phone with you. This is your ex boyfriend we are talking about here so there is no doubt that he is going to have some negative memories. I want him to know that you are thinking of him that way and I want him to feel good about it. How To Make Your Ex Call You – A guide that will teach you what you need to do to make an ex call you or pick up the phone. What To Do On A Date With Your Ex – I created this guide to teach women what they should do on a date with their ex. Ideally, what you want to have happen is that you build up so much attraction from the text messages that your ex just calls you.
Seriously, I hate calling first because I never know if the girl is going to be busy or if she will just blow me off. The sexiest woman in the world is one who has the guts to cut through all this nonsense and call herself. If you have built up enough attraction through text messages and phone calls then you should be able to get a date relatively easily. Of course, as time ticks by you begin to realize just how much she meant to you.  How in love with her you really were. Before you sent that text your hopes were so high, you were daydreaming of your future together with her. So, the question you are probably wondering is how the heck are you supposed to navigate a situation like this where you want your ex girlfriend back but she has moved on to a new boyfriend.Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? I suppose the best place to start is by taking a look at the potential risks of trying to get an ex with a new boyfriend back.
For example, you obviously came to this page because you want your ex girlfriend back and she has a new boyfriend. Men, by nature, are very protective of their women so I guarantee you that to the new boyfriend you trying to get his girlfriend back is going to paint you in a light where you are an enemy.
So, obviously the big risk you run by trying to win your ex girlfriend back in this case is that you could become a common enemy between your ex and her new boyfriend which will ultimately cause them to be closer together. Being a common enemy between your ex and her new boyfriend is one of the worst positions that you could possibly be in.
If you can be subtle but effective in your intentions to win your ex girlfriend back you will most likely NOT be looked at by your ex as a common enemy. Lets say that you are very subtle in your intentions to get your ex girlfriend back but over time your methods start to work.
Inevitably she is going to talk to the one person who is supposed to support her and understand her no matter what, her boyfriend.
She may not be completely honest with him about what is going on in her mind but she is going to say things to him to try to test him to see if he is ready for the truth. Eventually the truth is going to come out and how do you think the new boyfriend is going to react to discovering that his girlfriend (your ex) is still hung up on you? In fact, a massive fight or breakup might occur and now you are looking like you are in a really good position. Again, YOU didn’t physically cause this breakup or fight, your ex did because of her feelings for you. So, I am not going to sit here and tell you that if you follow every little step I outline on this page that your ex girlfriend is going to break up with her current boyfriend and come running back to you.
Ok, let me put this in simpler terms so you really have a good grasp at what this page is going to do for you. Imagine for a moment that in every single breakup that occurs between a couple a certain percentage is assigned to it.
You may have noticed that I gave people whose exes have moved on to another man a 20% chance of getting back together.
Well, that 20% number is based on you trying to get your girlfriend back without any of my advice.
Imagine that you follow the advice on this page and get to a place where your ex girlfriend is confused about her feelings for you and her new boyfriend.
Anyways, I think it’s safe to say that your ex girlfriend is going to be comparing her relationship with her new boyfriend to her relationship with you. If your ex girlfriends new boyfriend does that during their relationship and you didn’t during yours with her then when she is going to make the comparison between you and her new guy she is definitely going to think the new guy is better and that is going to put you at a disadvantage. Because usually a girl who has a better guy isn’t going to leave him to put herself back in a situation where she is treated poorly.
One of the biggest assets I can bring to you with this page is my experience in dealing with thousands of couples.
That some of these women want their exes back even after they have done HORRIBLE things to them.
For example, there was once a girl that came to my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, who was dating a new guy but wanted her ex back even though he cheated on her six times with six different women. So, what did this guy (who had done horrible things to her in the past) have that drew her in so much that she wanted to leave her perfectly good boyfriend?
At first that was what I thought but the more I talked to her about her particular situation I began to realize that there was something else going on in her head. In other words, even though some women find themselves in a situation where they are clearly better off relationship wise sometimes the appeal of the connection can trump everything.
For example, if your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend that treats her like a queen she may still be more drawn to you because she has a connection with you that the new boyfriend can’t top.
So, if you were to ask me how to get your ex girlfriend back in a situation where she has moved on and her new man treats her well then I would say you would have to hit her where she will be affected most, her romantic feelings for you. Like I said, a comparison between you and the new guy is eventually going to happen no matter what it just a question of when. Well, lets pretend that your ex girlfriend has been dating her new boyfriend for 2 months exactly. Then that is a very good sign because it means you are winning the comparison battle against her new guy.
If your ex girlfriends new boyfriend isn’t treating her the way a woman should be treated in a relationship then she could soon be maneuvering to go back to the thing that makes her feel better than anything, YOU! Believe it or not but your ex girlfriend moving on may actually be a good thing in the long run.
For example, if your ex girlfriend breaks up with you and starts dating someone new who treats her really well like we talked about in the comparison section above your exes GIGS is going to be verified and as a result it is going to be much harder to get her back.
I want you to be aware that the GIGS exists and could have been a possible reason for the breakup between you and your ex. The game plan is divided into four major steps and as usual I will be giving you a lot of in-depth insight into each one of these steps. First though, lets take a look at the steps you will need to successfully complete to even have a chance of getting your girlfriend back. I have been doing this for quite some time and I have seen firsthand how hard it is for some men to stay in NC when they see their woman with another man. If you could compare a relationship to a fire a woman would expect the man to start that fire. One of the greatest fears for men who enter into the NC rule during this situation is that their exes are going to get so close to their new man that they will completely forget about their old one.
Ok, imagine if you completed your no contact rule and called your ex and begged for her back. I know that may sound a little controlling or possessive but the truth is I honestly don’t care at this point.
I know that may sound weird and counterproductive but if you really think about it, it’s not. Like I said above, it is very rare for a man to be ok with the fact that his girlfriend or wife is good friends with her ex. In other words, you becoming friends with your ex is going to cause your exes new man to go absolutely ballistic when he finds out that she is talking to you and this is what you want. Providing emotional support for your ex girlfriend (when you become friends) is really where you are going to shine.
If she can’t get the emotional support she needs from her own boyfriend but from you then when she makes that inevitable comparison between you and the new guy she is going to take that into account.
A big mistake I see a lot of men making is the fact that they jump into the deep end instead of wading into the shallow one when it comes to building attraction. Ok, lets say that you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back and she has just gotten a new boyfriend. I am a fan of a subtle build up with text messages which eventually lead to phone calls which eventually lead to a face to face meeting. Using the guide in the link above you should be able to properly build attraction with the build up technique.
So, don’t take it personally if your ex declines your offer to meet up for a hang out.
Because a woman who is truly in love with a man wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize that relationship.
Luckily for you, if she accepts your offer for a casual hang out, it means that she doesn’t care enough about her current boyfriends feelings to not hang out with you. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back. My question is do i give her a hundred percent NC with the possibility she will think i have moved on and confirm the thought of me being only jealous. I wanted to know if its weird that before my ex girlfriend would comment on her boyfriends pictures whenever he posted and now theyre about 2 and half months in together and now she doesnt comment on any of his things and doesnt post about him on snapchat.
Lately, I’ve had a lot of women coming to me and asking if they can use Facebook in any way to get back with their exes. According to a recent study conducted by a Western University student completing her Master’s thesis nearly 9 out of 10 Facebook users keep an eye on their exes profiles.
I wanted to create a page on how you could best optimize your Facebook profile to give yourself the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back. Speaking of getting your boyfriend back, I would like to clear up some confusion about this page. In this section I am going to talk about some of the things you can do to improve the chances of your ex stopping by your profile.
Do not contact him via Facebook- Not only could this be viewed as desperate but as you are about to find out, actually not contacting your ex is a smarter strategy. Implement A No Contact Rule- I actually recommend doing this in almost every situation to get your ex back. So, I want to take a moment now and discuss how important the no contact rule can be to your Facebook efforts.
By essentially ignoring your ex boyfriends texts, you have forced him to come over to Facebook and check your profile out. The key point I am trying to make here is that your Facebook profile is a reflection of you.
I am going to be completely honest with you, using Facebook to get your ex back isn’t ideal.
Here is the deal, if I find the girls I chose to be attractive then you can bet your ex boyfriends would be as well.
I ended up choosing 20 women, I will not be giving you their names though so don’t go fishing around here because you will be disappointed.
I am not kidding when I say that, the mock story I told above (shout out to Rick ?? ) is exactly how 99% of men operate. Why would you even give an ex the satisfaction of knowing that his actions are hurting you?
And since I am the voice of the average male, I think it is safe to say that your ex boyfriends would also find these women and their active social lives attractive as well. Now, it is probably important to point out that there is a right way to display your social life and there is a wrong way to. Photos where you are out on a boat with a group of people and showing off your hot body in a bikini ;).
I hope by now I have convinced you that the chances are very high that your ex boyfriend will be visiting your profile at some point in the future.
There is nothing really more I can do to try and prove I’m doing well without him is there? Life is too short to spend SO MUCH TIME on the Internet (FB and other social media debacles) when most people have lost touch with the world and reality.
30 months to the day after I initiated no contact (with someone I never thought would have the balls to contact me after he ghosted on me) he did. I took the advice of the moderators and the website and just ignored him liking my fb posts about my personal achievements over the last month (it was difficult and infuriating ) . I haven’t responded to him contacting me because the one thing no contact has given me is distance and clarity . When I do respond I’m just going to act like nothing happened and be nice and short . Hey Chris, I made a mistake of messaging him a few days and then it ended up turning into a call, at first it seemed like nothing happened and that we were still dating, then he got angry when I asked if he was feeling better (happy) then he said i got to call you later. It depends, adding him and then doing nothing can just leave him thinking or maybe he’ll just shrug it off or message you after that. If you want to get your ex boyfriend to talk to you again then you are going to have to do some work. What is the first thing that you want to do after a breakup, especially if you aren’t ok with it? So, if you want to get on speaking terms with your ex again you are going to have to do things that aren’t perceived as needy or desperate. Rather than texting or facebooking your ex every five minutes, a woman who wants to take control of the situation with her ex will implement something called a no contact rule. The no contact rule is supposed to accomplish more than just cutting yourself off from your ex. Of course, I will admit that the probability of a friend seeing you and squealing to your ex that you look amazing isn’t very high. If you implement the no contact rule like I suggest above I would estimate that 40% of the time your ex will reach out and try to talk to you.
The goal of this page is to get your ex to talk to you again and as you can see, the no contact rule alone can accomplish that feat. In the event that your ex doesn’t get back in touch with you then you are going to have to take matters into your own hands a little bit.
Before I dive in to the rules of texting your ex I think it is important to mention that YOU SHOULD ONLY TEXT YOUR EX AFTER THE NO CONTACT RULE. It’s all about control, you want to control every aspect of the conversation you can. If you want to get back on speaking terms with him then you have to understand that you need to keep your first few texts to him very short. No matter what he says to you DO NOT fall into the trap of responding to him, not yet anyways. His interest is already raised because you sent him the confession text already but I want his interest raised even more.
Look, I am a guy and when I really like a girl that I am texting I can’t help but look at my phone every five seconds waiting for her response to my most recent text. So, he’s responded to your confession text, you’ve waited the full hour, now what?
There will be a small percentage of women whose boyfriends are so angry with them that they won’t respond even if they have waited a month via NC and sent the ideal text message.
I want you to understand that I wrote this page with it’s sole intent being to help YOU get back on speaking terms with your ex. I did the NC rule and when i contacted him he replied within second, we always have good conversation but I’m the first one who always initiate the conversation.
What if he says the reason why we broke up is because I’m too affectionate do I still do Nc rule??
We had a good story I don’t know why is so reluctant and why one month ago he answered also to see each other! Seriously though, if you see any book, product or article that guarantees that it can get you your ex back 100% of the time you should stop and realize that you are probably about to look at something that was made up just to get you to buy it or read it.
Don’t worry though, I saw this problem and spent two months creating that step by step plan people were clamoring for.
You are going to discover that this page is really long, in-depth but more importantly, it is going to help you to not only get your boyfriend back but to rediscover yourself in the process. I thought the best way to go about the rest of this page would be to take an in-depth look at each step of the ex recovery process starting with your break up and what to do immediately after it. Ok, before we do any soul searching or serious strategizing you are going to have to implement the no contact rule. If you don’t believe in the no contact rule then all I can say to you is that you had better start believing in it. Right after a break up is when you are at your emotional peak and I don’t mean a good emotional peak, I am talking about anger, hate, basically everything that Yoda from Star Wars said to avoid. Your ex boyfriend is probably going to start wondering why you aren’t talking to him and possibly may even begin to miss you. Knowing what caused your breakup is important because it can give you an idea of where your relationship went wrong and how you can possibly correct it in the future.
However, I would say that the average man will leave a relationship when his is no longer getting what he needs.
Another thing that you always hear guys saying is the fact that they are constantly nagged to death by their girlfriends.
Nagged To Death = A man looks at this as if his woman no longer is satisfied with what he has to offer or bring to the table.
Ouch, I know this one must definitely sting to hear but it is a legitimate REAL reason for why he may have broken up with you. A lot of times what can happen is an ex can realize what they missed about you once they are settled in with their new person. A huge misconception out there is that because you did the dumping it is a lot easier to get back with your ex.
Everyone always thinks they could do better until they go out and realize that the relationship they had before wasn’t so bad. A while back I was dating someone and it always seemed that we would fight over the silliest things. One thing that needs to be made clear is that if you are going to seriously invest the time and effort to get your ex boyfriend back you are going to have to adopt a new mindset. The big goal that you should strive for is to create a relationship with your ex boyfriend that is not only new but better. To a casual observer that may sound really risky but personally I love women with that belief that after they get their boyfriend back they will be with him forever. So, the big take away that I want you to get from this section is that your ultimate goal assuming this process works for you is that you are discarding your old relationship and creating a new one that is stronger. If you can’t already tell I truly do enjoy helping women strategize on how to get their ex boyfriends back. As a general rule it is good to have a legitimate reason for getting back together with your significant other.
If you break your no contact period agreement (talking to him in any shape or form before the 30 days are up) then you have to start your 30 day no contact period over.
Ok, so those are pretty much the most basic things of the big NO-NO’s of the no contact period.
Alright, so the biggest thing I want you to focus on for the no contact period is the fact that you are using this month to become the best version of yourself that you have ever been. First things first, you are going to become the sexiest version of yourself that the world has ever seen.
You can change your hairstyle- I’ll admit, I am not a hairstyle guru but everywhere I researched claimed that this was an excellent tactic to looking good for your man so who am I to argue with the experts. Get in shape- There is no argument that you can make to me to say that this isn’t a good idea.
Clean up your diet- Again, this is another great way to feel better about yourself and notice how it is the opposite of sitting around eating ice cream all day. Clean up any skin problems you have- If you have excessive acne or any unwanted moles you can get those taken care of.
So, now that you know what changes you need to make physically lets talk about arguably the harder thing to improve, your mental state. Focus on work- It is good to distract your mind for a while and what better way to do that than with work.
Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal. Have fun- If your friends invite you out to a party or club I would recommend that you go out and have fun with them. It shows you are moving on- In a strange way you kind of want your ex to know that you are on a date with someone. It can build up your self confidence- Dating other people helps you feel a little bit more confident. It will help keep your mind off your ex (probably)- When you are busy you have less time to mope around or think about your ex. It will cure any phobias you may have developed- Women who haven’t been in a relationship for a long time may feel a little worried about meeting someone new.
Studies have shown that 90% of rebound relationships don’t work out in the long run so the odds are probably in your favor.
You may notice that a lot of what you are doing during the no contact period is working on bettering yourself. As stated above, I personally prefer texting over any method of contact for a number of reasons. Actually, in my research I found that a lot of experts recommend calling (after the no contact period.) I have read multiple stories of women who have actually had some success with this method. I don’t know about you but if I got a letter out of the blue from an ex girlfriend I might be a little creeped out. You should try to create a message that is so interesting it is impossible for your ex boyfriend not to respond.
Since things went positively you can contact them again in a few days and talk for a little bit longer.
Alright, assuming you successfully engaged your ex boyfriend and got a decent response you can move on to this section. First things first, this is not the part where you are going to try to get your ex boyfriend back.
Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were. When you write your text message to him you are going to have to go into details instead of just writing something general. Alright, lets say that I was trying to get an ex girlfriend back and I had made it this far into the step by step process I am outlining here. Choice 2: “Do you remember the night where I loaned you my jacket at the football game?


Sometimes asking your ex a question can work well to get them to remember a good experience. More often than not if you have gotten this far in your conquest to get them back they are going to respond back positively. Ok, so you sent out your text to remind them of the good ole days where the two of you were as thick as thieves but they haven’t responded yet. If you haven’t heard anything from them yet and it has been past a couple of days then this could mean a couple of things. Whatever the case is just simply take things down a notch and start a few more harmless text messages where you just make first contact.
You have to be really careful because if this is done wrong then your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back drop drastically.
Well, now you are going to implement a number of small heart to heart chats in various different ways that are going to change your fortune in a positive way. One of the little things I always love about relationships that are going well is how you are constantly helping each other remember things. This tactic may be a little harder to implement because it can sometimes depend on the situation that your ex is currently in. Your best bet here is to take out a sheet of paper and write down all of the things that you have ever appreciated about your ex so you have an inventory to dive in.
Plan your phone call when you know that your ex boyfriend will have a moment to talk privately. I researched a lot on this section and discovered there are two types of very different methods to making this important phone call. This one is risky and may not get you a yes to a meet up but it allows you the ability to try again later whereas the method below this one pretty much lays your cards on the table. After all, this page is about a very unique situation, trying to get an ex boyfriend back who has a new girlfriend.
I am going to outline three situations for you, two of these situations are going to focus on guys that you should be trying to get back and one of the situations is going to be focusing on guys that you should not be trying to get back. If you are in this situation then you are free to go ahead and try to get your ex boyfriend back. Again, this is a really common situation and you are free to go ahead and try to get him back. Basically, instead of remembering all the bad things (like fights, disagreements or whatever caused your breakup) he will remember all the good things.
Sometimes a select group of women will want their ex boyfriend back once they see him with someone new. It may be tempting but however strong that temptation is you are going to have to avoid it. The majority of our relationship has been long distance which has been the cause of most of our issues. However, in less than a week he requested for a break up saying he was tired and needed some time alone.
I even went to find his mother because I could not contact him and his mother was shocked that he had a new girlfriend and he even told his mother before that he had no interest in the new girl he met. He goes out with his girlfriend almost everyday and he promises to unblock me on whatsapp when he reaches home. I tried telling my ex about this new guy chasing me to make him jealous, but he just congratulated me and told me to move on. To be honest if your best friend says that then it can be true that they are really happy.. I think it has a lot to do with him not being single for a long time and now he is in the quarter part of his life, so he wants to experience more and grow.. Do you think the no contact rule will make him realize that he made a mistake and doesn’t want to lose me? He had said he saw a future with us and that there was something there but never committed to me again. I said to him that this is it after you sign there is no future and he said he couldn’t answer that.
I so much fall in love and he knows that, but here me now – from many mounths he don`t call me, he don`t care how am I. Maybe I love him, I know can`t be happy If he back to me again, but I can`t explain what is that kind of the person?
In fact, if done correctly, a text message can bring up reminiscent feelings that can set you on the right path to getting your ex back. Now, out of those suitors, throughout your years in the dating realm there has had to be one guy that didn’t pick up the hints. The text receiver was clearly ignoring the sender but they refused to accept that fact so they kept texting until they they could get a response.
The better idea is to wait until the opportune moment where can maximize the power of the text message. By completely taking 30 days to yourself without texting him or talking to him at all you are slowly taking control of the situation. It is basically the ultimate way to get him checking his phone every five minutes to see if today is the day that YOU will text HIM. The way you accomplish this is by going into great detail on one of the most positive experience that you had together as a couple. Well the idea behind it is pretty simple, send a text message to your ex that could potentially get him jealous and bring up some of the lovey dovey feelings that he felt during your relationship. He broke up with me because he didnt felt anything for me anymore, one week after our breakup he started to date all of a sudden another girl.
Now, I can’t guarantee that the tactics on this page will make him jealous because lets be honest, your boyfriend is a human being and most human beings are impossible to control.
BUT I do feel it is important to mention that if you came here looking for a way to get your ex boyfriend back you aren’t going to find it. A married friend of mine once told me a little about the psychology behind a mans thinking and I happen to agree with him. If you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous for the sake of making him jealous then I don’t think this is the page for you.
I want you to go down the checklist I am about to provide and address all of the things on it. In college, I began to notice a pattern between the girls I liked and the girls I didn’t like anymore.
She basically has so much confidence that she reduces a guy into thinking that he can’t get her which really turns 85% of guys on. Remember, I am just going through my phone in the last six months and pulling out conversations with girls who I really really really liked. He was very genuine the whole time and did say that the cheating was an extremely drunken hook up (basically blackout) and he thought he could just leave it be and move past it, but it started to eat him alive when he found out my sister had gotten cheated on. It wasn’t the easiest relationship, we fought quite a bit due to his drinking and I have a habit of trying to make him jealous so I feel wanted. I said to him if he was him the guy in a certain place the day before that I had seen and that he looked good. My boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago and I have not had any contact with him, but I work with his mom and she and I last talked about him three nights ago (I don’t know if she repeated anything to him or not). Our chemistry is something else though and being with him feels so right but I don’t want to make bad decisions and not sure how to act now. We got into an argument and I told him how he dragged me into a game and that he never treated me right because he never asked me to be his girlfriend and thought that we were done because we both said really mean things to each other. I was doing great I was working out and hanging out with my friends, I didn’t really post many photos of myself going out but I did post really good pictures of myself and when I saw he would like them I would post more photos of things we use to do together like a tv show we watched together and foods he liked me to make. One of the books is about the complete step by step process to getting an ex boyfriend back (something that goes in far greater detail than I will be going into here.) The second book is all about the texting process. I am sure if you go back to the original guide you will find a section similar to this one and you may find some major similarities between the two but I guarantee you that there are a lot of new concepts to teach. I want you to get married, have kids and pretty much have the absolute best outcome possible after implementing this game plan. Well, I didn’t say it was impossible to get your ex boyfriend back if any of the things on the list above were committed. However, I will tell you in all honesty that your chances may be seriously hurt if any of the things above happened.
If your ex has gotten a serious new girlfriend then your chances of success will not be very high. That means that I have had an entire year to make tweaks and evolve my philosophy to improve your chances of getting him back.
When you help hundreds of women succeed in getting their boyfriends back you learn a thing or two about what works and what doesn’t work.
Essentially, we are slowly working our way to a date where you can reconnect with him on an emotional and physical level. If you are new to this site then let me say up front that I have written a lot about the no contact rule. What I am going to do now is give you a few quick links to some of the most popular no contact pages I have written. However, watching people do it for the last year I have learned some very interesting things that I didn’t know when I first talked about no contact.
In addition to that you are not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact time frame.
A message like this is essentially a hissy fit where he is going to threaten you by cutting you out of his life. However, the sheer fact that he is so upset about you using the no contact rule on him tells us that no contact is working it’s magic on him faster than normal. In this particular case you can have the option to shorten your 30 day no contact rule to 21 days. In other words, you are going to be fighting a battle on two fronts at the same exact time. You are emotional, your life is out of balance and quite honestly your confidence is probably lower than ever. They may say that they hate it but the truth is that deep down we all kind of like it when we can’t get the girl at first.
A year ago I met this beautiful girl.  Now, let me tell you that I am quite picky so this girl was really something looks wise to catch my attention. The little boy keeps asking the tree to give him things and the tree, since it loves the little boy, gives the little boy everything he asks for.
While I was definitely not in love with her (didn’t even date her) I did have feelings for her and she knew that and used them to take advantage of me.
Every single friend she had she would just take and take and take until the friends had nothing left to give and I refused to have that happen to me. I am a guy so I feel I can bring a unique perspective when it comes to confidence for women.
Women who try too hard to be confident and feel the need to prove it is a total turn off to men. Well, in the warped mind of men a girl who is actually hit on a lot by other men is perceived as higher value and more attractive. Besides, a little jealousy never hurts to make an ex realize how much he truly cares for you.
Heck, I don’t even think its a bad idea to go on a date with someone new to just to test the waters.
While doing that would certainly give you and your ex time to cool down it also means that your ex has a lot of anger towards you. Well, if you have a major fight at the end of your relationship and you immediately go into the no contact rule then the last thing that your ex is going to remember is that major fight. If your ex is super angry with you during the no contact rule then the chances of it working on him the way that it is supposed to will be decreased. If you can get your ex into a positive mindset as opposed to a negative one before you go into the no contact rule then the chances of no contact working will be greatly increased. No matter what they say or do their ex may be so stubborn he will refuse to calm down until the no contact rule is completed.
Let me tell you that it is actually a really nice thing to encounter one who is extremely classy. You want him in that positive mindset before you go into the no contact rule and a message like this may do the trick to get him in that mindset. About 7 minutes pass and I decide that I can’t bear to be without you so I decide to follow you to the kitchen to talk to you.
First though, I want to take a moment and explain why text messages are preferred over a phone call. For example, whenever I care about someone I notice everything when it comes to text messaging.
I would rather you go with what society has dictated the most personal form of communication, the text message. Of course, when you take a step back you will learn that the two goals really compliment each other. Let’s assume the worst though and assume that the best you can do is get an ex boyfriend on the phone. This is a major mistake because this is the very definition of rushing the process and trust me when I say this is a process that can’t be rushed.
I always find myself telling people to make their text messages so interesting that their ex has no choice but to respond to it. The problem was that by the time they were done two more women came in and eventually the bathroom go so crowded there were women waiting on the stall that I was in. This is the first time that you are going to be sending a text message about you and your ex. Of course, there are a few things I want to discuss with you on how both of these subjects relates to my overall philosophy on getting an ex boyfriend back. Unfortunately, the thing that these women don’t take into account is that transitioning from text messages to talking on the phone is a pretty big deal for us guys too.
I am like 100% of guys out there in that I am scared to death of rejection and I do feel rejected every time I put my neck on the line to call a girl and she doesn’t pick up. In other words, if you have compelling information to share (like an interesting story) your ex is going to naturally be curious and you can use that curiosity to get on the phone with him. Well, going on a date is a pretty big deal because this is where a big opportunity to get your ex back can occur.
Time has a funny way of making us realize our mistakes and without a doubt letting your ex girlfriend go was a big one. You figure the easiest way to do this is to send her a non threatening text message to check up on her.
Of course, after you sent the text that daydream was shattered and replaced with anger, heartache and jealousy. Well, what do you think would happen if the new boyfriend caught wind of the fact that you wanted your girl back?
Of course, sometimes you will get a boyfriend who can tell when something is off without her even having to say a word. Of course, the situation you currently find yourself in is one of the hardest to experience as your chances for success are slightly lowered. While that is certainly the outcome that you are praying for it isn’t realistic to assume that, that is going to happen 100% of the time. However, with that being said it doesn’t hurt to have an expert on your side (me) who has seen so many situations and put so many relationships back together that he can drastically increase your chances of succeeding in almost any situation. Now, most of you who are in that situation are going to see that number and immediately freak out because it’s pretty darn low.
Well, all of a sudden that 20% chance of success is bumped up to 50% because you know eventually she is going to have to choose between you and her new boyfriend. I am talking about someone who provides emotional support, someone who listens and tries not to judge, someone who truly cares about her and she realizes it.
You see, I have a sister site to this one called, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, where I have helped thousands of women. You will need to find a way to get her to tap into those feelings for you and when she does that is going to dramatically increase your chances of having her run back to you.
Humans in general are drawn to things that make them feel good and flee from things that make them feel bad. If your ex broke up with you because she thought she could do better and discovers that she can’t then all of a sudden she is going to be scrambling to get YOUR approval.
Well, if you find yourself in a situation where you are trying to get a girlfriend back who has a new boyfriend you may find that waiting 45 days in no contact is too long. While I am not a fan of becoming overbearing or annoying but I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing very subtle things to remind your ex that you are out there. Perhaps I am a bit jaded because I have seen so much with regards to exes and I know that any time that exes are friends it usually doesn’t work out. If you can get her to open up to you and trust you enough to let you in then I guarantee that you are going to come out looking like a star. When I talk about providing emotional support I am not talking about helping her with her own relationship. Of course, in order to do that successfully you have to create this build up to gain the attraction momentum that you need.
It just means that she is being a good girlfriend to her boyfriend and she shouldn’t be punished for that. If she says she wants to get back yes, but other than that, if it’s just a casual hi, nope. During this time i tried a few times to get back together, but never really putting much effort. I try to give her space recently because the prom is coming up and he asked her but i keep getting told everything thats happening with them and i gave after a few days of not talking and text her. Basically, I was quite aloof in any relationship, – you could say defensive, so I dont get hurt and a relationship adds on to my life and not be my life in total. I just want to make it clear, the other guys started texting her while you remained texting even after you called off the engagement right? She started with asking for a piece of clothing and I said that I would look for it (in our final phone call a few days ago, she said to throw away all her things).
Either she loves you both and she prefers to stay with the current because she feels more secured with him.. I will admit that when I did all the research for this site it never occurred to me to dive that deep into the ex recovery process.  I did think about it but I never really thought it was important enough to research. Since I am a guy I have a pretty good idea on what the perfect Facebook profile should look like to give yourself the best chance to reignite your exes feelings and ultimately get your ex boyfriend to come back to you. I want you to remember that this page is dedicated solely on FACEBOOK and how you can use it to improve your chances of getting your ex back.
Unless you completely skipped the first few paragraphs of this page then you know that there is pretty much a 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is stalking your profile ;). However, you need to start looking at Facebook as a tool that can be used to further your chances of getting him to have those romantic feelings towards you again.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
Obviously, the no contact rule is exactly what it sounds like, having no contact with your ex boyfriend for a set amount of time (usually 30 days.) The question is, why is it so important when it comes to Facebook?
Figuring out how to become the sexiest version of yourself that ever existed and NOT contacting your ex no matter what.
I could give you all the rules about how to approach the situation but it isn’t ideal. Nevertheless, I like to think that I am a pretty good indicator of the average guy (or in this case your ex boyfriend.) I decided that the best way to approach this was to go through the friends on my personal Facebook profile and jot down some of the women that stood out to me. I don’t think it takes a genius to recognize how important your profile picture is to catching someones attention. When I go through my friends pictures there were some women who had profile pictures that rivaled this one.
As I go back I count three women who I chose for this case study who employed that very method. Yes, it’s space, its actually kind of pretty but it is a completely missed opportunity. While she didn’t have the best profile picture I think she knocked her cover photo out of the ballpark. Men are very visual oriented so while all that other stuff matters to us the first place we go is to check out your other pictures.
That is a really bad thing because it means he is in a position of power and he knows that anything he does is going to have a certain amount of sway over this girl.
This means, if you don’t have an active social life I think it is about time for you to get one. Not only is that poor taste but your ex will view you as trashy and once you get that label it is really hard to shake it. Then after the call we started messaging back and forth joking around and then another call started.
I am assuming, since you are reading this page on my site, that right now you and your ex boyfriend aren’t on speaking terms. You probably want to contact your ex, ask how he is doing, beg a little bit and eventually get upset because he isn’t giving you the time of day. Most people don’t respond well to silence and if your ex feels like you are ignoring him, which you are, he will go a little crazy trying to get a hold of you. If you weren’t on speaking terms with him immediately after the breakup then hopefully the minimum time frame of 30 days will have settled him down enough for him to accept and respond to your texts.
By sending him the confession text and getting him to check his phone every five minutes waiting for your response you are going to reinforce the behavior that he is used to when he has strong feelings for a girl. I feel I have accomplished that by showing you some very effective methods to get him to talk to you again.
In that time I said to him that we could see each other when I was free… to not appear too needy and too available to see him but a week after when I asked him to go out he said that maybe we could see after my graduation.
Ironically, a lot of the stuff out there that makes these ridiculous claims offer no value and leave you feeling taken advantage of. This page, while amazingly detailed, won’t have every single step that you will need to successfully get him back. I put a lot of work into this page (1 full month to be exact.) I read relationship books, I took notes on speeches that dating experts gave, I bought online products, I listened my friends tell me stories about what they did to reunite with their exes and tested out some of the things I learned. The no contact rule is going to give you time to work on yourself and calm down a little bit so you can think more rationally instead of emotionally. Make sure any interactions you do have with the person are short, pleasant and to the point.
Thus, it is entirely possible that whatever reason they gave you for the breakup may not be completely true. No I am not talking about sex here (although that can lead to problems for some men.) I am talking about admiration. They love the newness of a relationship, want respect and like to see significant interest coming from females. I feel for you but don’t worry we are going to take a look at your breakup and figure out the best way to approach things. This is a common complaint among men who are dating someone who let themselves go a little bit in the relationship. Unfortunately, in my personal opinion it says more about of his lack of character (unless you were really boring but I doubt that) than anything you actually did. Now, I like to think that I am generally a calm person but for whatever reason my girlfriend and I would always fight. This may sound goofy but I like those women who so strongly believe that they are going to be together with their exes for good that they are willing to try anything. Those are the type of women who work really hard to create that NEW and BETTER relationship. However, one thing that I have neglected to mention so far is that there are certain women (not you) that don’t have legitimate reasons for wanting to get back together with their boyfriends. The fact of the matter is that you can be perfectly fine without this person if you are citing any of these. Remember how you are going to implement the no contact rule for a month (30 days?) Yes, well you are not going to just sit on your butt and twiddle your thumbs during this time. There is a 100% chance, especially if you are ignoring him, that your ex is going to check up on you during this period and instead of sulking around feeling sorry for yourself he is going to see a strong, sexy, fun-having woman!
I know it may be uncomfortable to talk about but in this case you need to suck it up and get the proper treatment if you don’t want them. One of the biggest assets about the no contact period is that it gives you time to calm down a bit from the mental tension that was your breakup.
Careful though, you don’t want to be one of those career first women and lose sight of your goal. Ok, basically if there was anything fun that you used to do (tennis, golf, puzzles, collecting, hiking, photography, music) renew it.
Honestly time is the number one thing that can help you get over a break up but the second best thing is definitely having fun. Instead of being completely miserable and depressed you are doing something constructive and dare I say having a bit of fun?
I am not saying it’s going to be easy but doing what I recommended above will really help to heal you.
The last thing you want to be is perceived as creepy or stalkerish and writing a letter the wrong way can definitely hurt you. Well, it just so happens I have come up with the ultimate game plan for getting your ex back. Controlling the conversation is key that means that you should always be the one who brings the conversation to a close, YOU WANT TO BE IN CONTROL.
Typically you want your ex to only think about the most positive experiences during your relationship.
Don’t expect him to be receptive of your messages right off the bat, it may take a while. DO NOT SPAM YOUR EX WITH TEXTS… if he doesn’t respond to your first one just wait a couple of days and try again. It really sucks and can feel like the end of the world especially if you put a lot of work into getting your ex boyfriend back. I’ll admit that you will have a distinct advantage here if you had a long relationship and made a lot of great memories. I took out a sheet of paper and wrote down what I thought our best couple experiences were together. Except this time you are going to engage them in a conversation but make sure that you don’t go too fast. They are either extremely excited by the prospect of moving forward with things and they can sense that you are trying to move things along but this also makes them extremely nervous.
You spent that entire time working on yourself becoming more and more confident as the days past. I don’t have any research to back it up but I feel it will work because it worked on me.
You just planted a seed of doubt in your ex boyfriends head and now he is going to wonder if you saw a romantic movie with a friend or with a date. This tactic is no different and can definitely earn you some huge brownie points if you remind him about something he forgot.
Basically you are going to bring up a stressful event very gently and show that you are going to be supportive no matter what with NO STRINGS ATTACHED.
Except this time instead of slipping in a compliment during a conversation you are going to slip in something that you have always appreciated about your ex. Ok, basically this is a tactic where you tell your ex boyfriend what you miss about your relationship.
However, as I started interacting with you I began to notice that what I was writing wasn’t enough, you wanted more. In fact, I wrote an entire page just covering the no contact rule and what to do during it. Ladies, I am going to be completely honest here, this guy is not someone that you should want to get back with. Getting mad, breaking down and texting your ex a hateful message about his new girlfriend isn’t going to help your ultimate goal is it?
Remember, just because he is dating someone new doesn’t mean your chances are gone completely.
Whatever happens, make sure you don’t let an ex boyfriends actions affect how you feel.
It’s ok to feel pain over the situation but once that pain starts creeping into your everyday life and effecting how you live then you have problems. If you find that you are in this situation be very careful about proceeding to get him back. Your job is to keep an eye out for his troubles with his new girl and be there to provide support and remind him how good he had it with you. I am not going to go into those here but if you want to know them then please visit this page. Other than that, there were a few instances where I drank too heavily and really pushed her to her limits.
Over the course of the year I tried breaking up with him several times but he would always come begging me to get back. All along I felt like we were very attached even though we had our constant break up problems. Eventually, I met up with him and he told me he has no feelings for me anymore because I broke up with him too many times in the past. I know he was badly hurt and I don’t deserve another chance from him, even if I really love him now.
But he has always loved me so much more than I loved him, I really did not see a day like this coming. I’ve told him that I am willing to accept his new relationship and I wish he will be happy but I still need time to move on.
But so far, he only unblocks me when I send him a text to remind him (fortunately I can still contact him via imessaging).
I know it might seem like I want him back because I crave for his attention again but I just feel different this time. I met him when I was only 18 so I never went through the fun party stage, we were more like an old couple that always stayed home together. He said we drifted because he was waiting on me because i was busy with college; therefore it was miscommunication i guess? I am 21 years old and so is he (but a grade below me), and I was his first girlfriend and he was my first bf. We had a miscarriage in Late November 2015 and it brought us closer but a month went by and We started fighting again and I ended up sleeping with someone else but didn’t tell him right away because we were fighting and not seeing each other. I understand that from Facebook, He took a photos with her, celebrating her birthday, commented every her`s photo. However, there seems to be a huge misunderstanding among the women out there on how to actually use text messaging effectively.
Most women fail at texting their exes for the simple fact that they commit this texting sin and quite honestly it’s not even their fault. First though, before we can do that, we are going to have to figure out how to create that opportune moment.
After basically blowing off your ex for a month straight your first text to them better have some substance to it. It is like their phone is their own personal sanctuary holding all their secrets and feelings about things. If you do this correctly you will bring up his most positive feelings about the relationship and get him thinking about you in a different more positive light. As a guy I can tell you that nothing makes you want a girl more than when you see her talking with another guy that is even moderately attractive. Don’t worry, I got your back and I want to help you understand the best way you can get him back. I told him I had been busy he said i could of replied obviously I would see his messages and calls and ask why I ignored him also we have had came to terms to be friends and then I done the the nc and he started missing me but I broke it because he message my sister asking where I was and then asked why I had been ignoring him what should I do? With that being said, I have seen many of the tactics outlined on this page work for many of the women I communicate with. It goes like this, most men forget how good they have it when they have been dating or married for an extended period of time. I don’t want to go into too much detail here about it because I have done multiple in-depth posts about it already like this one.
I want you to take a moment and imagine how you have felt when, in your previous relationships you caught wind that your ex went out on a date with a new girl.
Now, this tactic was risky and only really worked on me because I clearly had feelings for the girl. A couple of things to note: this girl was probably the most attractive girl I have ever met.
I always felt like I wasn’t good enough and she would simply bow out of the conversations whenever she would like. So, many people have the opinion that cheating is cheating and is unforgivable, however now after talking to him I see he genuinely is hurt because he cried to me saying he missed his bestfriend, and he could not throw away our time together. He said to me that the guy was so good that he wasn’t him and that he was at home the day before. Do you think I should start the no contact rule as of three nights ago in case he heard that I am still upset? The past time this summer i startrd hanging with griends other guys soon as he got wind he it was blow up my phone going to go to a counslor bevause he is un stable with always letting the stress get the best of him.
So recently after almost 4 weeks of no contact, he sends me a text message saying he misses my cooking and my voice, even asked how the food came out and said my tacos were the best (the ones I posted pictures of).
That 10,000 word guide detailed a step by step process that helped women get their ex boyfriends back. It is essentially a bible of text messages that you can use during the texting phase of getting your ex boyfriend back. Now, I am pretty good at making complicated subjects easy to understand so I promise you that you will understand everything in this guide. I created this section in the guide because I feel that sometimes going after an ex boyfriend isn’t always going to benefit you in the end and I want to help you determine which situations are like that. In other words, that means for 30 days you can’t call, text or respond to your ex at all. You have 21-30 days of time to do something about it so don’t just sit there and waste that time. However, once you got to know him you learned that all he seemed to talk about were his muscles. The only reason I researched tactics there was to find stuff that I could use to help YOU to get your ex back.
When I watch a movie that I really like there are certain phrases or quotes that stick with me for life.
Every time they talk to someone you take note of it and every time they do something it affects you. The idea is to make him think back to the days where he didn’t have you and make him realize how miserable he was without you in his life. Now you have to come up with a compelling story that will cause your ex boyfriend to respond to you.
The key to sending a successful meme message has to be the fact that the meme has to be funny. Just saying something general like I did in the message above with the boardwalk is enough. The thing that you have to understand about emotional messages when you are dealing with your ex is that they can’t bring up negative memories. The idea here is to get him to associate the good feelings he gets when he thinks back to those memories with you. Even though I know logically that she may be busy and get back to me later the emotion of initial rejection always kind of hurts. Unfortunately, I have reached my limit on typing as this guide is already close to 10,000 words. You see, on the one hand she has strong feelings for you and on the other hand she has strong feelings for her current boyfriend. Obviously we are hoping that the new boyfriend is treating her horribly so you look like a prince but lets just say that, that doesn’t happen. I think it’s safe to say that I have heard just about every single story there is when it comes to breakups. Besides, men often have to be the hunters when it comes to relationships so that means that we have to do all the work to get the relationship started or re-started in your case. You have done a shortened NC rule, you have worked on re-establishing your friendship with your ex. What I want to do now is to show you how you should go about creating this perfect build up. Keep building the attraction until she chooses to leave her current man in favor of the better option, you. Back in December, 2011, I convinced this friend of mine to be my girlfriend, and then the next day, I got too nervous and chickened out of the relationship. I was trying to give her space to figure out her feelings for herself but instead she got the impression that i wanted nothing to do with her. She also said she would not date him but i can tell that she has fallen for him probably because of my pushing. But, there this girl happened and she swooped me, demanded I give her more attention, and infact I did like someone bothering me much and making me show the love. There are still a lot of things you can do to improve your chances of getting your boyfriend back.
The second thing is pretty self explanatory but lets take a moment to focus on what you can do physically to become an uber hottie! So, from this point on I am going to be defining how your Facebook profile should look like to him when he comes stopping by. I want your profile to not only make your ex go “WOW” but I want other guys to give you the attention you deserve!
Let this be a lesson, women who went the extra mile with their profile picture will catch a mans attention.
In fact, when I was pre-writing this page I almost skipped the cover photo section because I thought it was insignificant.
Now, most women I speak with think that Rick will read their wall, see if they are single or see how many guys are commenting on their status updates. I want you to look amazing in all of your pictures so by the time your ex comes around his jaw will literally hit the floor. Well, I am one of the few men that could actually tell you that because I deal with so many women on a daily basis. Think about that for a second, I went out searching for women that I straight up found attractive and each one looked like they were having a blast in their photos with friends. He continued the joking around and then I asked him what is with all of the mix messages lately? Every single day I get a minimum of at least twenty emails from women who are all over the place emotionally because they aren’t on speaking terms with their ex. I want to tell you something about men, seeing as how I am one and know what it is like when a girl contacts me in the way I described above. However, you have to send your text a certain way and you have to understand that the more disciplined you are during your conversation with him the better off you will be.
Even if you came up with the most fascinating text in the world you wouldn’t be his top priority. I have wished him happy easter and nothing, today I have asked him how’s going his thesis because he will get graduate and nothing. The keyword there being SIGNIFICANTLY and before you get all argumentative I have seen the tactics outlined on this page work time and time again.
It is such a complicated process that even the 10,000 words on this page can’t cover everything you need to know. Yea well, I only took a look at credible sources and every one and I mean EVERY SINGLE ONE recommends the no contact rule.
You are constantly complimenting him and giving him acknowledgment that he is wanted by you. Again, I want to reiterate this point- don’t assume that the reason your ex gave you for the break up is really why they broke up with you. You may have to put in some extra work here but trust me when I say that your physical appearance is easier to improve than your personality so don’t let his thoughts get to you. The last thing they want is to hurt you so they will just break up with you and give you some general reason. Trust me, your going to have to do a lot of work, perhaps more than the women who were dumped. First off, your boyfriend surely will feel worried about incurring your wrath whenever they want to do something. I would say think very carefully if this person is worth getting in a relationship with again. Make sure that you are very serious about wanting to get back with this person before you keep reading.
No, you are going to work towards your goal of a new and better relationship by focusing on the one thing you can control, yourself! Honestly, I am getting excited here because this is where you start taking the first steps of getting your ex boyfriend back.
The first thought I have of our encounter will be based on the choices that you made during the 30 day no contact period. I was dating a girl and after we broke up I happened to run into her at a Starbucks and even though we had a short friendly conversation I couldn’t take my eyes off of her because she just looked so gorgeous. However, even if you are a workout fanatic don’t let your breakup change that side of you. This section is going to be all about how to get through your breakup and heal emotionally.


Remember, focusing on work in this particular case should be used to take your mind of your ex boyfriend.
Don’t worry though because I am going to go through every single step in a very-in depth manner. Every single relationship is unique and may require unique steps that I haven’t outlined. How you approach this first contact message is almost as important as the text messages later in this process. Your best bet in these situations is to simply not respond at all and understand that your ex is still processing their emotions. If your relationship was brief then this part of engaging your ex may be a little bit more challenging.
For the sake of this page lets say that me and my ex had an experience where we were watching a football game outdoors and it was really cold.
Everything seemed to be going fine until you hit your first road block with a negative response. Nevertheless, if you get a response like this you just have to be polite, positive and collected. Some of you may not agree with this but everywhere I researched said that using your ex boyfriends jealousy to your advantage is one of the most powerful things you can do.
I am recommending that you drop certain hints in your communication with your ex boyfriend that you are out meeting new people. One thing that always made me a bit jealous (even though I never voice it) was when a girl I felt really strongly about has a bunch of pictures with a bunch of different guys on her Facebook profile. Knowing when to slip them in will depend on your gut feeling and the context of the conversation you are having.
Your ex boyfriend might not be as receptive to meeting you somewhere extravagant and out of his way. The obvious advantage to this is that he has time to clear his schedule and make time for you ;). Rarely will you ever come across one that does the smartest thing, stack the odds in her favor! This was especially true for those heartbroken women whose ex boyfriends have moved on to a new girlfriend.
So, the odds are in your favor just make sure you keep your cool while he is dating his new girlfriend. Sometimes men need to go out with someone new to realize just how good they had it with you. You may need to go back and do some serious searching on whether or not you want him back for a legitimate reason.
I mean, if you have found a way to mind control someone please let me know because I could put that skill to good use.
I’ve realized this is all due to issues of mine that I have never properly taken care of, and have since then began working on with professional help. So we patched back for many times and the last time I broke up with him was because I thought I really didn’t like him and had to end the relationship. I told him to try out with this new girl as at that point in time I was pretty sure he would not like that girl and I was still considering my feelings for him. He told me he is not sure if he likes the girl he is with now but he wants to try because apparently she is able to give him a proper relationship that I was unable to. It shows how much he cares about me if he doesn’t even bother to unblock me unless I remind him. Everything was perfect I thought he was going to ask me to be his girlfriend, i never met someone like him, he was different. My ex thought I was going to overreact with how his throwing it in my face, rather I just ignore both of them keep my head up and look hot.
He started working night shift at his job and it seemed like all my friends were always going out and having fun while I stayed at home alone. For a while i stopped talking to him, but then i found out that he got a girlfriend, which made me outraged, because i waited so long to be his girlfriend, when he so quickly got one after me. I plan on sometimes next month if he hasn’t contacted me yet to send him a subtle message of something I did that day that made me remind me of him and that it made me smile, or should I just have no contact with him what so ever until he contacts me even if it goes on for months?
I started having a suspicion that he was talking to another girl so I told him what I did 3 weeks ago and this week he puts on FB he is in a relationship with the girl I suspected.
I am not going to lie to you, sending a text message is a huge risk, if done incorrectly you will decimate any chance you have of that happy reunion you keep daydreaming about.
Right after a break up everyone involved is out of whack emotionally and are prone to do some really stupid things.
In fact, you have to slowly lead up to the moment where he or you will hopefully go out on a date again. I always like to say that you should make your first contact text so interesting that they have no choice but to respond. Now, while it is important that you get him to think positively about you it is also extremely important that you remain as positive as well. I remember once that one of my married friends told me something very interesting about the male psyche. There is a lot more to this process and quite frankly this page doesn’t do a great job of describing exactly what you do step by step.
I still love him i’ve been chasing him for over 2years right now and sometimes our chats go okay and sometimes it turns into a fight. I was reading a relationship article about jealousy the other day from a pretty well known relationship coach. So, if you want to make him jealous to bring out his protective and romantic side then this is the right page for that.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
I am actually talking about it in this section because I believe that going out on a date (even if you have no intention of actually dating the person) is best to do during the no contact period.
Nevertheless, I was the one putting more effort into the conversation which meant she was in control. Last week we had to see each other and ended up having a really fun time together and hooking up a few times, we both enjoyed our time together and I can tell he misses me, as I do him. I still have feelings for him but will posting a picture of my new friend and me help me or will he think that it’s finally over between us? I just want him to ask me to be his girlfriend, we went to elementary school together and we have great chemistry. And seen ancounslor was everything i wanted him to be than bam 4 months later same the thing back to his old selfish ways breaking up with me. If you absorbed the information and knew exactly what to do to raise your chances of getting your ex back you still might fail because YOU failed to put the information into practice. However, it is also going to give you a chance to work on yourself and get your mind in the right place.
Early within that no contact period (lets say around day 6) I start to send you a lot of text messages asking you where you are. Use this time to get in the best shape of your life because you know what, things are going to start falling into place for you if you do so.
By the end of the book the boy has grown into an old man and the tree is nothing but a stump.
In the movie Inception there is a certain phrase that Leonardo DiCaprio’s character mutters that I still think about today.
Oh, and if he does respond to a message like this you aren’t supposed to respond to him.
So, as you can see every step in this process is meant to get you that date so you can get him back. It isn’t something that you cant just manufacture overnight with a few text messages.
Second, you can use priming as a way to test to see if he is ready to advance to emotional things.
I want your ex to put himself back in time where he was when this emotional memory occurred. I am a fan of giving someone a warning before you call that way they can prepare themselves.
Let’s go to the worse case scenario (for you) where the new boyfriend is treating her incredibly well. If she asks you for relationship advice on him I want you to decline as politely as possible. Eventually the new boyfriend got so upset about this that it has caused a bit of a rift in their relationship. I fear through my attempts to try and talk to her I have made myself a common enemy of both of them, as she has blocked me on all social media (Facebook, instagram, and snapchat). I know i wasn’t the best partner and i made a lot of mistakes but nothing really bad but i know what i have to do if i get a chance. Do i step back and let her see that or do i try to show her the person she feel in love with and hope she comes back? This month of April, I started showing signs of disinterest while still together, I felt she was so needy and emotional. She told me how she is finally doing the things she wanted, that she woke up crying this morning because she realized how happy she is now. There were a couple of bad nights like 2 or 3 during that time but they had to do with drinking. I have heard stories of exes getting family members phones to get a hold of you, showing up at doorsteps and even spamming your FACEBOOK! That is really the most powerful thing that Facebook can do for you, paint you in the best light possible. The big thing I began to realize right off the bat was how important it is for you to take a close up of your face. However, my mind changed when I logged on to Facebook and started screening my women friends. The only missing component for her was that she didn’t find a way to make her great cover photo and her profile picture to work together. However, I can tell you that if you use Facebook for jealousy in a tasteful and smart way the results can be tremendous.
It was because of the long distance relationship since he lives in UK and I live in Singapore. To men, any sign of neediness or desperation, and make no mistake about it, begging and crying display those qualities, are a complete turn off.
Men are very visual creatures and I am not going to lie to you, they will have no problem breaking up with a girl if they are… overweight, have skin issues or if they consider them to be too ugly.
Because if there is anything I have learned in my years here on earth it is that friends are blabber mouths ;). You have his attention and now it is time for you to send him something positive that will fill him with good romantic feelings towards you. He needs more space and you are going to have to wait some more time before you reach out to him again. If you want to learn more about how to get your ex back then I suggest you visit my complete guide on doing so. It isn’t necessarily a fast process but there is proof out there to back up the claims being made.
I have been running this site for quite some time and get an incredible amount of emails and comments every single day. This may sound a bit mean but you are going to have to be completely honest with yourself and possibly look at things that may make you uncomfortable. Personally, cheating to me is a big no no and I don’t think I could forgive that so easily. Careful though, don’t let them talk you into calling him before the no contact period is up. The second your ex boyfriend picks up (if he even picks up) you have to be on your toes and there is a lot that can go wrong. To make matters more complicated you can’t get into a full blown conversation with him yet. It doesn’t necessarily mean that all hope is lost it just means you may need to be more patient and try again in a week or so.
However, that doesn’t mean anything bad it just means you might have to get more creative. This just means you misread the situation and you moved a little to fast to start bringing up your relationship. The obvious disadvantage is that you are laying a lot of your cards on the table and rejection will certainly hurt your feelings.
I suggest getting coffee at Starbucks with chairs and couches where the two of you can just sit and talk.
The key is to just do something that the two of you will both enjoy where you can have fun and talk. That is really what this page is all about, how to get your ex boyfriend back if he has a new girlfriend by stacking the odds in your favor. Remember, if you freak out you are going to make a lot of mistakes and mistakes aren’t going to help get you two back together.
Basically, just ramp up your social life so you can focus on the most important thing, yourself.
However, in this section I am briefly going to discuss certain actions you can take to drastically improve your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back. We broke up in September, but only stopped speaking four weeks ago, when she blocked me after trying to make a friendship work. Another week later, I realized I really wanted him back and this time I was ready to commit. I’ve read many sources online and they said the No contact rule is essential in getting back together with an ex.
But every time I message him ( I kept them short), he replies immediately and rather happily. But one we texted, it was like always and at the end i had to go he flirted a bit and said he would talk to me tomorrow like always but tomorrow came and he didn’t text. I created a Facebook to be more social and started going out with a few girlfriends while he was at work. I know during the time he broke up with me he was also resigning his job, and moving to a different company. I have been asking him the past 2 months if something was going on with them he would never answer so I would assume they were and he would always tell me “I guess so cause you are always right” He told me he stopped loving me a long time ago even though he told me he loved me in January .
I have heard plenty of stories where women, in the heat of the moment, texted their exes multiple times, even after getting no response. So, if you are intrigued by this method but very confused I urge you to visit get my guide, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. I was attatched to him and that was my fault i dont talk to him only if he starts talking to me because i dont want to scare him off. His article basically went on to say that you should never use jealousy to try to get your ex back.
IF you are looking for in-depth details and step by step guides to getting an ex boyfriend or husband back I would like to point you towards Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-Book. Here is the kicker though, if a couple like the one I am describing (a man who is comfortable and not tending to his woman’s needs) go out to a bar and the woman starts flirting with other guys the dynamic will completely change. Sure, he will be angry and sad but I promise you at the end of the day he is going to question why he ever let you go. However, if she doesn’t challenge me, intellectually or emotionally, I will lose interest. Anyways, she dominated the conversation so much that I literally felt like I had no chance so I just gave up even though I really liked her. Also, not that I think this is going to happen, but what if he contacts me before the NC period is up? I just have to accept the fact that he doesn’t want me for a serious relationship only to sleep with once in a while because even for that I was the one initiating it. I want you to become someone so incredible that not only can your ex boyfriend NOT resist you but pretty much every other man on the face of the earth too. Now, a really good girlfriend wouldn’t see her ex boyfriend out of respect for her new boyfriend.
Fast forward to the beginning of last year, I realized I still loved her, and then in the fall, I asked her to dinner and she said yes.
How do I get her to realize that I truly do need her in my life and get her to start talking to me again and get her back?? I like to believe i have become a better person and know how to treat her now but i think she is scared knowing who she is. I ended breaking up with her again mid month because I did not like that she never put up pictures of us on instagram and facebook. She said she is even going in a trip to new mexico… that got me curious and I asked if it was with her new guy. If you are interested in a truly in-depth method to getting him back then I suggest you visit this page and this page. So, if a lot of the attractive women I chose did something then you should probably do it too. The thing that caught my eye the most was women who had the confidence to look at the camera for a close up. I don’t care how nice a guy is, somewhere, deep down, he is thinking shallow thoughts. He saw the first picture she had to offer in her album and it did not paint her in the best light. Of course, before I dive in to the good stuff there are a few things that I need to make you aware of. Of course, there will always be the oddball guy that is so pathetic that he actually feeds off of making women beg and cry but usually those are very rare. Successfully completing the NC rule for a minimum of 30 days is going to take a tremendous amount of discipline.
That means, if his friends think you are looking better than ever then he will eventually hear it and get curious.
You can bet your butt that your ex boyfriend, no matter how bad the breakup was, will be looking at your profile.
By waiting an hour the chances of him checking his phone for your response every five minutes is raised drastically. Now, no matter what happens after that I want you to end this conversation thread with him by not responding. Also, I am very involved with this site so if you leave a comment I will be responding to it.
The conversations seemed mechanical, sometimes emotional but he never wanted to discuss what happened etc. Each person wants me to give them a detailed step by step plan that they can follow to get their ex back.
Every time you have a good experience or something of that nature you are putting money into the account. A lot of times women make the mistake of picking up right where they left off whenever they do get their ex back. The further away from the breakup your ex gets the more nostalgic he will become about your relationship.
So, from this point on I am just going to be focusing on that method and the best practices using it. So, if your gut is telling you that a particular tactic I have outlined won’t work for you I would definitely trust it.
Because, if you screw this part up you can kiss your chances of getting your boyfriend back goodbye. This is simply a small baby step that you are using to test the waters and gauge where you are at. If your ex boyfriend would get jealous every time you would talk to another man or every time you went out then I would say you should really revisit your thinking on getting back together with him. Do you think you will get very far if you rub the fact that you are out and about with other guys? More specifically, setting up a date with your ex boyfriend for the first time since your break up. It seems that she is now dating someone knew, and is meeting this new girl’s friends and vise versa. However, his new girlfriend asked him to block me because she knows he just broke up with me recently. I know I did so much wrong, but to just forget everything we did and to block me over a stranger (the girl is older than him by 3 years) I just felt like our love was so fragile and easily replaceable.
It is really confusing to know if he is replying me out of pity or he genuinely feels happy to talk to me. Handle every single text and interaction you have with your ex with as much grace as possible. It may take you a while to read through the entire thing but it will break every step of the ex recovery process down for you, in-depth.
The truth of the matter is that the amount of free information that actually works is a rare commodity but I think I have done a pretty good job of leading the way in that regard. I have found that the rules I am about to describe are the most effective at making your ex a little jealous. All is fair, so I knew he had started to talk to other girls and I did the same by testing the waters with other guys. It worked because a week later he started messaging me telling me he made a stupid drunken mistake again and that this isn’t what he wanted. That when people break up they don’t get back together because that was the way the world worked. Remember, the goal of becoming the ungettable girl isn’t to just please your ex boyfriend.
It is something that requires discipline and patience and even though I am about to show you exactly what you need to do to build attraction I am positive that 90% of the women reading this will fall victim to their own emotions and desires and fail to do things correctly. So, as you can see just calling a girl up and asking her out without any of the romance or build up doesn’t usually work.
Now she has fallen for him and tells me she doesn’t feel the same but sends mix singles when ever i see her. She said it was because she didnt feel we went out a lot and felt I didnt put enough effort.
I know that is a horrible thing to say BUT if you truly want to get your ex boyfriend back this is something you absolutely need to understand. Of course, it is like hitting gold when you click on a girl who has a tastefully done profile picture and her cover photo reflects really positively on her. However, not only did she miss on her profile picture but the cover photo made her profile unattractive to look at.
Nevertheless, I don’t think it was a mistake that I found women attractive who all looked like they had active social lives. The only time I deviated from the positive and I’m enjoying life social updates was when I asked for advice on a subject at uni. So, what better way for you to show off the new you to him by taking a picture and posting it on your profile? The fact of the matter is that it is such a complex process that I really can’t give you everything you need in a post, email, comment or Facebook chat. However, every time you have an argument or a fight you are taking money out of the account. Every expert (myself included) seems to have a different opinion on the method you should use for contacting an ex.
However, I would say the biggest advantage to text messaging would be the fact that you can take your time and think everything through. The main takeaway here is that you are going to have to get creative and sometimes even skip entire skips depending on how fast you are moving. Honestly, the dates I have enjoyed the most wasn’t anything super romantic it was just when I was enjoying the company of someone else and walking around. I am soon moving to the city that my ex lives in, but am worried that there is almost no hope at this point. He was upset that our relationship wasn’t officially announced but he thought that was the only way to keep me, so we continued without a proper status.
I was certain it was a rebound relationship so I cried and told him I’m sorry and I really wanted to be in a real relationship with him this time as I am sure about my feelings already.
However, one day while he blocked me on all social media apps (instagram, facebook, whatsapp) after I spammed texted him one night when he did not reply (which was a huge mistake). I NEVER cheated on him, didn’t even cross my mind too, but I did lie since I never told him. A few months later we reconnect, and its as though we never stopped talking; now some of my old feelings are coming up.
Since you are on my site I am assuming that you are interested in somehow trying to get your boyfriend back. It will also go into extreme detail about how you can use text messages to get your ex boyfriend back. If you use jealousy in a smart way it is almost guaranteed to bring up previous romantic feelings that your ex had for you.
I still love my ex and want to be with him but I think he’s conflicted with his feelings. She says the only reason she talks and flirts with me is because she doesn’t want to hurt me and wants to make it easier for me.
Well after I broke up with her, she would text me to make sure we are still single, she also wanted to hangout at one point but I kept neglecting her.
She also asked me, how was it that I saw her new pictures of her new guy on social media when she made sure she took me off (but no blocking). But she stood by my side all the way up untill I got out than she broke up with me over the phone when I called her.
Rather than rambling on and on I am going to give you an example of what I considered a bad cover photo and a good one.
It’s unfortunate too because the NC rule is probably the most effective tactic that you can use to not only get your ex boyfriend back but to get on speaking terms with him. The key thing here is to have more green deposits than red withdrawals in your relationship bank account. Some recommend writing a get your boyfriend back letter, some say you should give them a call and some even say you should text.
There is a subtle art to incorporating jealousy texts into your conversations and I am going to teach you that art. The key is to be really subtle about it but trust me if your man has a Facebook I promise you he will check your profile from time to time. The truth of the matter is that if you played pretty close to the game plan I laid out for you, your ex boyfriend will probably have suggested to meet up IN PERSON by now. I cried hysterically but waited for him to come back from his overseas trip before I could have a proper talk with him. I managed to call him in the end and he told me he feels like he is falling for her just like how he fell for me and I should move on.
I don’t think he still misses me because I know he is a person who does not think too much and just lives his life the way it is. I was being a brat in my relationship and constantly putting more stress on him and he confirmed that was the reason why he doesn’t want to come back. But he scared to stay with me and after every meeting he says – that`s all, we have to be apart. No matter how hard it is or how much you want to talk to him DO NOT DO IT, even if he responds you have to ignore it. He says he still loves me but in a way it has changed because when he looks at me he sees all the hurt he has caused me and the mistake he made and he doesn’t know if he can forgive himself.
She texted me a few days later and asked if I was mad at her and I responded with a simple no. Once i heard my friend was going for her i decided i couldn’t wait anymore and did just about everything wrong. Both were in love and we had to call it off since it wasn’t a practical choice for us. I wanted to make her miss me and want me, and get back together and start putting me up on social media. That way, let’s hope she misses you, and sees the change and starts to take a chance when you get to talking again. I want you to show that you are in control of the conversation and you have the power, not him.
I have deeply realised my mistakes and i’m ready to work on myself and fix things, when ever we broke up his mostly the one that talks me back into us again. When I found out that he had a new girl in his life i texted him saying that I was very happy for him. I gave ultimatums and I was demanding and I would even say controlling, and I didn’t appreciate him at all. However, after agreeing to be friends, he found out other guys had been approaching me and he continued to get jealous and started yelling and saying mean things to me out of anger, saying I didn’t consider his feelings. I said things for the sole purpose of just trying to make him jealous and I took it one step too far and he snapped. I just want to know if I have a chance at getting him back, and if so how do I go about it?
I really want to ask her one more time to reconsider before she gets too serious with the new guy. We did take the call, but then we still kept in touch and we were looking for other opportunities simultaneously, but we still knew where our hearts were. Now I know what was causing me to drink a lot had to do with the fact I was somewhat insecure because I had a devistating break up summer of 2013 with the woman who I thought was my soulmate and it took me a year and some change to get over her. After I am done with my initial rant I decide to log onto Facebook to see if you are still alive.
He used to initiate but for the past month, it seems like I’m the only one initiating.
However, when he came back I discovered that he got together with the girl whom he previously was in a rebound relationship with, a day after he blocked me. He admits he still thinks about me but he does not have any feelings for our past memories.
He didn’t deserve any of that, he was SO good to me, and I pushed him to his breaking point and he broke up with me in late January 2016. I thinking he is young (20) and when after going adult he`ll adopt me, treat me, appreciated me like his lady. I would like to be with him again at some point as crazy as that sounds, and want to give the NC method a try. So how do i follow no contact rule when every day i have to see him bc he pickings up our son from daycare dont nsg him in less its about daycare or are son. I did spend many weeks trying to figure out whether it was jealousy or if my feelings were real. The funny thing is that she still asked why I deleted her on facebook and instagram a day later. I gave her the apology about everything that happened that was said and that I wish her well.
Yes there were many bad memories from our unstable relationship, but when I asked him he said except for our break ups, our relationship was perfect.
He felt the relationship was too committed, that he lost feelings for me,he felt pressured because he felt I relied on him too much, and that he felt he was always upsetting me, and that he didn’t want to be in a relationship right now. Anyway, she tells me she knows its not jealousy but she said in our last conversation that why now. I asked her if she wanted to be friends and she said yes, I decided to only add her on facebook. I said I dont want to hold any grudges towards you and that she is a great person and doesnt deserve that.
So while I was locked up I had time to think and I realized how much my new girl meant to me and that I really loved her and was ready to let my gaurd down and give love another chance. Honestly, I think he only uses messenger on his phone so he won’t see my Facebook at all. When I initiate, he would respond late, the next day, carry on the conversation for a bit and then just stop replying me. A month later I found out he started sleeping with other woman at a motel while he was supposed to be at work. My bestfriend also say she doesn’t think they are a rebound because they are always happy together. So I went 5 weeks of no contact with him, and turns out, the 5th week I found out he had a new girlfriend. So I dint comment much, but i ensured she made the right choice (not him thought) but you know, continuous talking and sharing stuff will eventually lead you there (this was as well long distance) – Things were fine but then he made a trip to meet her and she infact did like him as well. But seems I was a day late and a dollar short cause after she broke up with me we were still friends on fb and my other ex that I was dating summer of 14 seen I was single again and friend requested me on fb and since my ex broke up with me I accepted. And everything that happened after she didn’t return my feelings happened LONG before I even knew that there was a way to get an ex girlfriend back. Now I dont get those texts which i used to get annoyed about before like why is she texting me so muchhh ? And she commented on something I posted and my ex seen it and got super upset and sent me a message saying she was done and she just wanted her stuff. She did contact me a couple of times during the No Contact period, but I didn’t respond either time.
My biggest problem is i gave her time before and she thought i hated her and says she forced herself to lose her feelings for me. When we had breaks, she would always make it so that I wanted her back, like she did earlier.
I told her that Im doing ok and that I stopped doing many of the things the she didnt like, like smoking weed – her voice cracked a little and said oh really? So I told the other ex its best if we just stay friends but had to block her on fb cause I didnt want to upset the one I was still in love with anymore than she aready was. One who is more my contact but has ended our friendship (glad it’s over to be honest.
He texted him for all the good times we had together and that i was moving on and hopefully we could be friends down the road. She called me a couple of times post NC, but she said she pocket dialed me both times and I know she called me on purpose both of those times. Knowing who she is, she does’t like to get hurt, so she tries to avoid it and to me and a few other people, it seems as if she is confused because her friends are telling her to go with this new guy but it seems like she has feelings for me still by the way she acts. I miss talking to her – She made me zone out from the entire world and give her the attention which she needed and I did give and got back the love as well.
I then told her that if i could go back, I would change everything to change the outcome of what happened, that it is my burden to hold and that I will live with it for the rest of my life.
Well about a week later March 7th (got out on Feb 23 just a lil time frame) my ex changed her fb status to in a relationship and changed her profile pic to her kissing this new guy.
Very poisonous relationship) and the other who is his friend and I only speak 5 words to every week due to classes.
He replied with a thank you and that i should always keep that beautiful smile on my face everyday.
I explained to him all of this ( I am currently seeing a therapist to understand more of my actions) and all he says is that he is happy with his decision and wants to see how it works out with his new girlfriend. I kept trying to text her about things that she likes and how they made me think about her, but I would keep getting a neutral response.
She never really opens up in this type of situation, we broke up once before and i was able to show her the fun we had together by hanging out and talking and eventually got back together.
I told her that im not holding any ill feelings towards her and that im even open to the idea of being friends.
So its not like I can use them to sneakingly send him information or even fathom them sending information to him.
During that time she would never she how she felt, she just would give me a dry answer and one day wanted to get back together.
But I handled the situation maturly and didnt text her anything rude as a matter of fact I only texted her on Easter wishing her and her daughter a happy Easter. I’ve got 8 more days left of no contact and am feeling so much better than I was 3 weeks ago. We kept in touch here and there the whole time and finally after some alone time to actually think about everything I found it in my heart to fully forgive him. The new guy when they start talking was planning to go to college half way across the country, so he has no plans to have a committed relationship. She then said she was thankful for the 5 year experience and she learned a lot, that she now knows what she wants and she is doing everything she wanted to do with me, that she was happy.
While on the phone he said we should leave everything to the past, we also spoke about my new job and i also told him that i’v moved on.
I knew he loved me a lot, so I am just heartbroken that he isn’t willing to work on things with me. I decided to end the phone call be telling her I had to go, i said i wish you well, take care and bye.
His waiting for me to call him if i want him to come to the midwife appointment but he think it would be awkward if my mum is going to be there.
I am so scared that this new relationship he is in (its been like 3 weeks since he has started dating this new girl) will become a very strong relationship and he will develop strong feelings for her and they will eventually fall in love. I was still kinda heartbroken over everything but was starting to move on even though I still thought about her all the time I was starting to heal. I ended up messaging her that I still loved her and that I wanted her to have my kids like we planned, that we said forever. So we had a 3 hr long conversation and it went great we talked we had some laughs and it was like we were together again. She gave me a huge paragraph of what I did wrong, and that she did not love me anymore, that she moved on quick, because she realized how ive treated her all these years.
She knows that saying that saying she is happy now with her new guy will hurt me although i never showed that pain on the phone call. So we texted a couple times over the past couple of weeks and than she called me on Friday telling me she was bored so I was working at the time and told her I would call her back after work and I did. Our relationship in the beginning was so great–I wish he remembered all of those great memories instead of remembering all the bad ones toward the end.
Everything he did with me he does it now with her, but just 4 weeks after breaking up with me. I am still the same person he met in the beginning, it just unfortunately took him breaking up with me for me to see that I needed to become happier and change for the better, for myself and not for anyone else. She said I am definitely not her soulmate and neglected anything i said to get her back, complete opposite of what she would normally do.
I have finally realized that no one can make me happy, not even him, only I can make myself happy.
She ended up calling me at work to tell me to stop messaging her about our relationship, even though I stopped an hour earlier already. So I picked her up after work I offered to let her sleep in my bed and I sleep on the couch but she insisted I sleep in the bed with her so yeah we made love the first night than we woke up and did it again she came to help me on one of my jobs as I have my own construction company and she used to work with me sometimes when we were together.
I really want him to see that I can be better, but he has a new girlfriend now and I am afraid of of them falling in love and him only seeing our old relationship negatively, so he would never want to get back with me. The following morning she left a voicemail saying that she read over our messages and said that she hopes i move on quick and recuperate, that she was concerned about how i sounded over text since she has never heard me talk like that.
Than I took her to a carnival we ate some food and went on a ride and I won her a stuffed furry animal. Two days pass and Im starting to hurt more, now i want her back really badly so at night i asked her to talk to me over the phone.
Than we woke up the next day and I had to go out to look at a job and she stayed at my house while I was gone. I came back and we went out to eat at our favorite restaurant for lunch than went over to my cousins house she is close friends with them and she wanted to see theyre baby which she loves.
I ended spilling my heart out on that phone call, asking her to come back to me, that ive never been hurt by her like this.
She said she no longer loved me, when i would bring up making love she said to stop because it made her cringe.
We held hands the whole ride and she told me she loved me when I dropped her off and she told me she left me a note on my dresser mirror to read when I got home. That what she said just a month ago about forever was only because she didnt realize how much i hurt her over the years. The note said my name, I love you with all my heart no matter what we have been through 4ever&always yours, love her name. That she found someone who always listens to her and doesnt criticize her when she needs comfort. The call ended on bad terms, i told her to tell me that she is going to have sex with her new guy eventually one day at the end, so that i can feel numb and try to let her go completely. She didnt want to at first because it was none of my business, but she ended up saying it after I pleaded for it.
Im so depressed, thinking that she is really happy and I that I wont be able to get her back. I plan on talking to her in 2 more days to try to briefly make amends and work my way to friendship. She is the type of person who doesnt like to hurt anyone, so it makes me think she wont want to leave her new guy for me.



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