Relationship break ups are never easy and someone is always going to get hurt in the process.
When guys get hurt after being dumped by a girlfriend they love, it can be a real blow to their confidence.
If you were in the type of relationship where your entire world revolved around your girlfriend and you had no important interests outside of the relationship, it’s understandable that not having her in your life anymore will make you feel that you need her back. However, your neediness may well be the reason why your girlfriend chose to end the relationship in the first place.
She senses that she is responsible for his emotional security and sense of identity, rather than him being a real man who has big goals in life and is going after them with passion, confidence and determination, rather than hiding behind her and the relationship.
When a girlfriend begins to pull back her interest in a boyfriend who has no real purpose in life, he will usually react by feeling needy, insecure or getting to the point where he is unable to control his jealousy. Acting in a needy, jealous or overly-protective manner is a complete turn off for women. Some guys make the mistake of thinking that if they show their girlfriend how concerned they are about losing her, it will get her to realize how strong his love is for her. Women don’t want to get caught up in a relationship that is based on needy, insecure love. If you’re saying, “I need my ex-girlfriend back,” you may be one of the guys who have made the mistake of making your girlfriend your purpose in life. Saying, “I need my ex-girlfriend back” is one thing, but doing something about it to get her back is another. Neediness very often results in desperate acts, but desperation is another trait that is not attractive in a man.
It’s not unusual for a guy who is desperate to get an ex to change her mind to resort to begging and pleading with her to be given a second chance. Another mistake guys make is thinking that they can recruit the help of her friends to get her to change her mind. They try to accidently-on-purpose bump into their ex’s friends and then they make sure the message gets across about how devastated he is by the break up and how desperate he is to be given a second chance … if she would only just talk to him … if she would just reconsider, etc. If you really “need” your ex-girlfriend back, you need to show her through your thinking and actions that you’ve taken steps to become a better man than the man she dumped.
When some guys feel that their life is not worth living without their ex-girlfriend in it, they’ll very often choose to hide away from the world and wallow in self-pity for a while. If any of this resonates with you, you need to ask yourself, “Which part of wallowing in self-pity and threatening self-harm is showing my ex-girlfriend that I’m a guy she should want to have back in her life?” The answer is none of it – exactly!
If you’re making or have already made any of the above mistakes, you’re making it extremely unlikely that your ex-girlfriend will even consider the idea of taking you back. You need to show her that you’ve figured out the mistakes you made that led to her losing attraction for you and falling out of love with you and you’ve learned from them. You need to show her through your attitude and behavior that you’ve taken action to make improvements and you’ve become a better, much more sexually attractive man as a result – a man she feels she needs to have back in her life. Only when you make your ex-girlfriend feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, will she then become interested in you again. From there, you need to make sure that you make her feel like her life would be so much better off with you in it.
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Some guys are able to get their ex girlfriend back very quickly, whilst others need to work at it for a couple of weeks or even a couple of months to get the woman back. So, the first thing that you need to accept is that making an ex want you back may not necessarily going to be a “quick fix” process. However, the good news is that when you approach the process of getting your ex girlfriend back correctly, it’s not only possible to get her back, but you can also make her feel even more passionately and deeply in love with you than ever before.
Your girlfriend became your ex for a reason, so unless you can give her a reason to see things differently, why should she want you back? A woman doesn’t just dump a guy and end a relationship for no reason; something about you or your attitude and behavior in the relationship must have changed to cause her feelings for you to change. Every relationship is different and relationships end for different reasons, but the bottom line is that a woman breaks up with a guy because she’s no longer in love with him.
Women are instinctively attracted on a deep level to guys who have alpha male characteristics. Some of the alpha qualities that women love in a man include confidence, masculinity and social intelligence, so anything about your attitude or behavior that suggested you were lacking in those areas would have caused her to lose respect and attraction for you as a man. Your girlfriend became your ex because you behaved in a way that led to her feeling less sexually attracted to you, so if you want her to want you back, you need to show her that you’ve made changes for the better and you are now a man with the attractive qualities that she’s looking for. Most guys go through life never really knowing how to make women feel intense attraction for them.
Sometimes, guys do get lucky and score themselves a girlfriend, but that doesn’t mean they will be able to keep her happy in a relationship.
Some guys initially put on an act of being truly confident around women, but they can’t keep that up for long when in a relationship because women always test guys. For example: One of the classic tests that a woman will put a guy through to test his confidence is to first get him to fall in love with her and then pull back her interest. However, if he reacts by laughing off her attempt to get him chasing her, she will realize that she has met her match. When a girlfriend notices that no matter what she says or does, her boyfriend remains confidence in his value and attractiveness to her, it makes her feel a deep respect and attraction for him that she will rarely, if ever, get to experience with other guys. The type of masculinity that is attractive to a woman over the long run is based on your mental and emotional strength as a man (e.g. If a woman feels like she is mentally and emotionally stronger than you and that you need her assurance to feel secure, she will naturally find it difficult to maintain her feelings of respect and attraction for you. Another important way of attracting a woman with your masculinity is by making her feel girly and feminine in response to your masculine vibe, thinking, behavior and actions. A guy with social intelligence has what it takes to get along with all types of people (including alpha males, beautiful women, the cool crowd, etc) in a social setting. Having purpose in life shows a woman that you are a man who knows who he is and what really matters to him. Compare that to a guy who hides from his true potential in life behind a relationship with a woman. If your ex-girlfriend is like most women on this planet, she wants a confident, masculine, socially cool guy who has important things going on in his life other than just a relationship her. Nothing you can say in words, whether you’re leaving phone and text messages or writing a letter, can change the way that your ex really feels about you.


To regain the respect and attraction of your ex, you have to show her that you really have changed, rather than telling her how much you need her, miss her, etc. If you want your ex to want you back, you have to let her experience the new and improved version of you.
If you are able to do that, she will naturally begin to feel like she wants you back or is at least now open to giving the relationship another chance and seeing what happens.
If you’re wondering, “Will my ex girlfriend ever want me back?” the answer is yes, you can actually make her want you back. Some women are much easier to get back than others, so if your girlfriend hated you when she dumped you, it’s important that you follow the right steps to get her to forgive you and become open to having feelings for you again. Right now, she might not have any feelings for you, but that will be due to you not regaining her respect and attraction, so she can have feelings for you once again. When you begin saying and doing things that will re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, she will naturally begin to feel differently about you and she will open herself up to the idea of being with you again. If you want her back, you have to start the process by sparking her feelings of respect and attraction first, otherwise she will stick to her old perception of you, which she had when she broke up with you. Regardless of what happened to cause your ex girlfriend to break up with you, you can’t sit around wondering, “Will my ex girlfriend ever want me back,” and hoping that by some miracle she’ll change her mind about how she feels about you, and then pick up the phone and call you.
If you wait too long to contact her, you run the risk of her meeting someone else and having sex and falling in love with him. Besides, when you understand that you can get your ex girlfriend to instantly feel respect for you again simply by the way you talk to her, why would you want to wait? If you call her up and apologize to her (without being weak or groveling) for what happened, and make her feel that you really understand why she had to break up with you, she won’t be able to stay closed off towards you.
On the phone call stay confident and work towards making her laugh and feel attracted to your charm, masculinity, etc. At the meet up is where you will be able to fully show her that you’ve changed and make her feel respect and attraction for you again. When a woman breaks up with a guy, her natural instinct is usually to let him down as softly as possible to protect herself from getting hurt if they get into a big argument about it. She’s not going to say that to him because it will then put her into the position of being his teacher in life on how to be a man. Rather than teach him, she will simply break up with him and then look for another guy that she can respect and look up to. By fully understanding the reasons why she ended the relationship, you will then be able to prove to her (via your conversation style, behavior and attitude) that you are not the same guy that she broke up with.
You will be offering her what she really wants and this will make her feel understood and happy to be interacting with you again.
It won’t make every woman want her ex-boyfriend back immediately, but it does open her up to feeling respect and attraction for him, which then allows her to have feelings for him again. As long as he can build on her feelings of attraction and respect, she will be open to kissing him again, sleeping with him or just catching up again to hang out and see how she feels. On the other hand, if you meet up with your ex-girlfriend and nothing has really changed about, or you keep promising her to change things that aren’t very important to her, then she’s going to lose even more respect for you and she’s going to want to get as far away from you as possible.
When he meets up with her, he promises to be more romantic and take her out to more dinners, but that’s not what she wants from him. She wants him to start following through on his real purpose in life, rather than wasting time because he is either too lazy or afraid to attempt to achieve his real ambitions and goals in life.
You have to be offering your ex-girlfriend what she really wants, not what you think she wants to hear.
This is why it’s so important that you fully understand what caused her to break up with you in the first place and then actively change those things about yourself. One of the worst things to do when attempting to get your ex girlfriend back is to promise her that you will change if she gives you another chance. After all, most humans take anywhere from 21 to 60 days to develop a new habit, so if a guy is in the habit of being insecure, she will have to put up with him for another 1-2 months and hope that he really is getting over his insecurities. Yet, she has no guarantee of that because he is simply saying to her, “I promise that I will change if you give me another chance. It sounds very convincing, but it’s one thing to promise to change and another to actually follow through on it for real.
This is why most women hate it when guys promise to change and only women who lack experience with relationships or are worried that they won’t be able to find another guy, will give their boyfriend repeated chances if he promises to change. However, after a while, even those women will grow tired of giving him chances and will want to move on and find a man who is more capable of making her feel how she really wants to feel when in a relationship.
So, when you meet up with your ex-girlfriend, you should already have made some changes so that she can see that you are serious about improving and becoming a better version of the guy she broke up with. You don’t have to be perfect to get her back, but you do need to start working on any emotional issues you might have and actually make some real progress.
For example: If being too needy and insecure was an issue in your relationship, you need to work on building your confidence and self-worth.
If you were lacking a clear direction in life, you need to set yourself some goals and work towards achieving them. Not only will this make you seem more attractive in your ex girlfriend’s eyes, you will also like who you are becoming as well. You will realize that when you are confident and emotionally strong, all the other relationships in your life (e.g. On the other hand, if you try to get your ex girlfriend back without changing anything, not only will she not feel motivated to trust you on that (because you’ve probably promised to change before), but you will also be losing out on the opportunity to become and even better man than you are right now. You can either use it to become a better man, or let it weaken you and destroy you for years while you miss her and wish you could get her back, but you never really put in the effort to become the type of guy that she would want back.
The main thing that a woman wants before she considers getting back with an ex is to be able to respect him. If you talk to her on the phone or meet up with her in person and are still making her feel the same kinds of emotions that turned her off you in the first place, it’s not going to re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you. If you want your ex to want you back, you’ve got to be willing to do what it takes to become and be the sort of guy that she would want back. They then moved to a meet up, got her forgiveness in person, made her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction and either got back together right away or began to rekindle the relationship slowly.
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Feeling down and out, a guy may end up thinking that he’ll never manage to attract another quality woman into his life or that no other woman will ever be able to take the place of his ex-girlfriend. Women are naturally attracted to confident men who have purpose in life, meaning they have lots going on other than their relationship and they pursue their own interests as well as doing things together as a couple. They want a guy who loves them and wants them, but who doesn’t need them for his emotional security. Begging and pleading is not attractive and will only convince her that her decision to dump him was the right one. Not only is it embarrassing for her and for her friends, it shows you to be a guy who doesn’t have what it takes to stand on his own two feet and work things out for himself. They’ll stop going out or meeting up with friends and they’ll sit alone at home licking their wounds, and probably not taking very good care of themselves in general. If you also approach things correctly and cause her to feel jealous that you’re so happy and confident without her, she will then begin to feel like she is losing you. We've already helped 1,000s of guys to achieve amazing success with women and we would love to help you too. Is it possible to make an ex-girlfriend want to take you back and if so, what’s the quickest and best way to go about it?
It all depends on how quickly you can get yourself into an emotionally attractive state and how good you are at making your ex girlfriend feel respect and attraction for you.
A woman falls out of love with a guy when she loses respect for him and then loses all feelings of sexual attraction as a result. When your ex initially became your girlfriend, she must have seen some of those qualities in you.
Instead, they try their best to impress women when they meet them and then hope to get lucky. Once the initial buzz wears off and a woman begins to lose respect and attraction for a guy, it’s pretty much game over unless he is able to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him. Unlike an insecure guy, a confident guy will remain confident in his sex appeal to his girlfriend no matter what she says.
On the other hand, if you are the sort of guy that she can look up to and respect, she will naturally feel respect and attraction for you.
If you lack the ability to make her feel girly, then you lack the type of masculinity that will keep a woman attracted for life. His communication skills and effortless charismatic charm give him a likeability factor that makes him someone who is socially cool and fun to be around.
This is a very attractive quality to women because it makes you stand out as a man who is not afraid to go after what he wants and is prepared to go the extra mile to keep on pursuing his true potential in life. In the same way that hounding her with calls suggests that you might be an emotionally desperate guy, begging suggests that you are now a weak, wimpy guy who feels like he is nothing without her. Writing a love letter to an ex-girlfriend might work in teen sitcoms, romantic comedy movies or TV drama shows, but it’s not going to work in real life.
When you speak to her on the phone or get her to agree to meet you in person, the most important thing that you need to do is trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you. You have to make her feel curious about what has changed about you since your break up, and then get her to agree to one last (don’t worry it won’t be) meet up.
If your ex is meeting you for quick visits, a cup off coffee, or maybe even lunch or dinner, chances are she’s trying to tell you something. If he does, she will lose respect and attraction for him and the relationship will begin to fall apart. Instead, they want to be with a man that they can look up to and respect; a guy that they brag about to their friends because he is confident, fearless and determined to succeed at achieving his biggest dreams in life. Behaving in that way suggests that you are desperate to be with her and desperation is not an attractive trait in a man.
Don't despair, I know that this is a very difficult time but there are issues which you can do to get your ex girlfriend back again if you still want her. I just can’t wait to get out of here and be with a guy who is emotionally secure” or, “You have no personal goals and ambitions for your life.
She wants to look up to him and respect him as her man, not look down on his as being a lost guy who hasn’t yet worked out what it really means to be a man. I've already helped thousands of guys to achieve instant success with women and I would love to help you too. She may not tell you that she wants to get back together, but watch her body language for signs.  Openly flirting with you, touching you and doing things that she used to do when you were together are great signs. View customer success stories, browse my products or watch this mind-blowing video about success with women. I want a guy who is moving up through the levels of life by reaching for his true potential as a man…and that’s definitely not you! And if you are attempting to build a lengthy phrase partnership, forever is a definite chance. Evaluate the reasons for your break up and try to believe about what have you carried out or have not carried out which pushed your ex to finally end the partnership.The way in which you keep her attracted to you will arrive easy as soon as you get her back. This consists of being the "power role," and keeping her "chasing you," even whilst you're together.
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