So she broke up on you because she learned you’re having an affair with another girl- what to do now? Another thing you can do is to visit her in her university and wait for her to finish her class.
After everything you did which took you months most probably, now is the time to confirm if there’s still a chance to get back your ex. Though she’s likely irritated of you stalking her, she still liked it and she’s mostly waiting for your annoying presence every day. It won’t take long for her to learn about your whereabouts which will make her think you have already forgotten her and have moved on. So, with all those efforts and sacrifices, let’s just assume your ex is trying to show motives that she wants you back. This entire website is dedicated to teaching you the lessons within each of those orange bubbles. Well, for the first time in the history of this site I am going to be moving on to a bubble that I haven’t covered before. This page is going to proceed with one goal in mind, getting you a date with your ex girlfriend. My goal here wasn’t just to make the most educational page on asking your ex girlfriend out on a date but it was to make it the most down to earth one as well. Well, a breakup does not feel good and as a result your ex girlfriend is going to associate the things she feels with the breakup with you which means that it is going to be extra hard to get a date with her. Most people would think that the ex boyfriend (or you in this case) would have the advantage due to the dating history you have with your ex.
However, I would like to counter that by saying that oftentimes when a breakup occurs the girl is left with a sour taste in her mouth.
Assuming this happens to your ex girlfriend that means that she is going to project her bad feelings of the breakup onto you. Given the choice between you and him she is going to pick him more often than she would pick you I am betting.
Well, in order for me to teach you that I think you have to have insight into your ex girlfriends mind. So, what the heck qualifies me to give you advice on what women are looking for to say “YES” to a date? Anyways, I felt I was lacking on knowledge a bit for these date factors so I went straight to the fountain of knowledge, my wife. While looks (#3) are a priority to them it isn’t really what seals the deal for them.
So, when we turn our attention to your ex girlfriend and getting her to go on a date with you it makes sense that in order for her to be willing to take the risk of going on a date with you she has to have strong feelings for you. Your biggest challenge with factor #1 is the fact that you and your ex girlfriend went through a breakup. Well, this is where my E-Book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO comes in as it gives you a step by step game plan for how to re-ignite your girlfriends feelings for you.
I don’t care how bad your relationship with your ex girlfriend was you are bound to have some good memories in the relationship with your ex.
Once you have thought of those type of memories I want you to take out a piece of paper and write down your top three NON SEXUAL memories. I did this because I am going to use this memory as an example on how to re-ignite your feelings for your ex.
So, lets say that I am trying to win back my wife and I wanted to use the hot air balloon memory to re-ignite her feelings for me.
Anyways, for us the hot air balloon ride was one of the most amazing experiences we have ever shared together.
I am going to say something a little bit mean to you but just bear with me because I promise there is a point to all of this.
Seriously, if a real life James Bond came along and asked your girlfriend out for a date she would say yes in a heartbeat.
However, when it comes to going on a date with him pretty much every woman on planet earth would say yes and that is what I am concerned with here.
Now, imagine if you were to combine the exciting aspects of James Bond with the commitment and compassion that you bring to the table. This factor is going to be a bit shorter than the others because it is pretty straight and to the point. Most women want a happy future that includes a perfect husband, perfect children and a perfect house.
Because, around the age of 35 is when the quality of their eggs drop and it becomes harder and harder for them to get pregnant. So, all in all a woman has to see a future with you before she will even consider going out on a date with you. How do you overcome these types of thoughts if things didn’t go so great in your relationship with your ex? For example, if you constantly got into fights over who fed the fish then most experts would have you just stop getting into fights over the feeding schedule of the fish.
While I suppose that is great advice how can you even implement it if you are not with the person anymore? This means you have one of the most complicated tasks in front of you, convincing your ex girlfriend that you have changed without actually being able to show her in the relationship. So, what I would usually advise to a man in this situation is to show your ex girlfriend with your actions and not your words. Your best course going forward in this situation is to use your words to point at current actions you have done outside the relationship to make a change.
Lets pretend that you were an alcoholic and your ex girlfriend broke up with you because you drank too much.
Well, the only way to convince her that you have changed for the good is to probably retool your life while she isn’t looking and bring attention to it after you have made significant progress. For example, if you were always going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, never even going near alcohol and haven’t even been to a bar or anywhere that sells alcohol for a month you would bring attention to this fact when talking to your ex girlfriend.
It’s a way of showing her with your actions that you are different and that a potential future will be different with you. Now obviously your situation probably isn’t like the alcoholic situation above but you can do little things in every situation to prove that you are working to better yourself.
This is something I would have never thought of so you’ll have to thank my wife for this. We already know from this that women don’t respond well to men who are overly needy or emotional.
So, while my wife is an absolute genius when it comes to things like this I don’t think women respond very well to persistence. Persistence- continuing firmly or obstinately in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.
When I picture a guy who is persistent trying to get a date I picture a guy who sends flowers, love letters and plans these super extravagant dates. In my experience sending flowers, love letters and overstepping your bounds by planning an extravagant date have a low chance of succeeding. Subtle Persistence- being persistent in a slow yet dedicated manner where you focus on re-igniting attraction over a long period of time.
If you look at a guy who is persistent about getting a date he is going to do the typical things. If this guy was smart he would focus on really touching her on an emotional level so instead of leaning on the flowers and gifts he sent her she is leaning on a strong emotional connection. For example, lets say that you work really hard to re-ignite your exes feelings for you and your efforts seem to be going well.
I can’t tell you how many success stories I have had on this site from men who just never gave up. Sure, not every single punch that Mike Tyson threw landed but he was so persistent that when one of his big punches landed he would do what you see above to grown men. I have a very strategic way of teaching men how to ask their ex girlfriends out on a date and it ties directly in to the three rung ladder graphic above. Basically, if you want to secure a date and maximize your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back you have to move up the ladder so to speak.
Well, we are going to be doing the same thing when it comes to asking your ex girlfriend on a date.
The woman is unlike any you have ever met before and you are thinking in your head that you want to marry her. Well, if you asked her to marry you the next time you saw her she not only will be incredibly creeped out by you but she will say no.
Rather than attacking her right off the bat with a high risk proposition like a date you are going to slowly but surely build up her trust in you with smaller propositions that will eventually lead to you getting a date or climbing to the top of the ladder.
You have done everything I have recommend in Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and you are really confident in yourself and you really know how to build up attraction. Well, rather than asking your ex girlfriend out to a one on one date (a high risk proposition) you should start off a little bit smaller to earn back her trust and work your way up to that one on one date.
Maybe you and some of your best friends and their girlfriends are going to play laser tag and you invite her. Lets say that you moved away from your hometown 10 years ago and you have just come back and you call up your friend to meet you up for a cup of coffee to catch up. You want this catch up to feel a little like a date but it can’t have any signs of being a real date. Everything I have taught you up to this point has been to make your ex girlfriend say YES to you when you ask her out to this type of a date. It is super important that you first get her on the low risk and medium risk proposition dates before you ask her out on this type of a date. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back. I’ve been implementing all the steps of the ex gf recovery pro book (love it)and managed to get a first date with my ex ?????????????gf!
Hey Chris, I was devastated the other day when my gf broke it off with me I did the begging no no for one day. We broke up last month, I’ve been doing Gatsby method type things, (new clothes, working out very hard, looking for massive success anywhere I can get it) meanwhile she started dating another guy we work with who I considered a friend, we had hung out the three of us quite a few times. From this situation, am I on a good way to get her back or the signs are too weak to determine? Of course, as time ticks by you begin to realize just how much she meant to you.  How in love with her you really were. Before you sent that text your hopes were so high, you were daydreaming of your future together with her. So, the question you are probably wondering is how the heck are you supposed to navigate a situation like this where you want your ex girlfriend back but she has moved on to a new boyfriend.Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? I suppose the best place to start is by taking a look at the potential risks of trying to get an ex with a new boyfriend back.
For example, you obviously came to this page because you want your ex girlfriend back and she has a new boyfriend.
Men, by nature, are very protective of their women so I guarantee you that to the new boyfriend you trying to get his girlfriend back is going to paint you in a light where you are an enemy.
So, obviously the big risk you run by trying to win your ex girlfriend back in this case is that you could become a common enemy between your ex and her new boyfriend which will ultimately cause them to be closer together. Being a common enemy between your ex and her new boyfriend is one of the worst positions that you could possibly be in. If you can be subtle but effective in your intentions to win your ex girlfriend back you will most likely NOT be looked at by your ex as a common enemy.
Lets say that you are very subtle in your intentions to get your ex girlfriend back but over time your methods start to work. Inevitably she is going to talk to the one person who is supposed to support her and understand her no matter what, her boyfriend. She may not be completely honest with him about what is going on in her mind but she is going to say things to him to try to test him to see if he is ready for the truth. Eventually the truth is going to come out and how do you think the new boyfriend is going to react to discovering that his girlfriend (your ex) is still hung up on you?
In fact, a massive fight or breakup might occur and now you are looking like you are in a really good position. Again, YOU didn’t physically cause this breakup or fight, your ex did because of her feelings for you. So, I am not going to sit here and tell you that if you follow every little step I outline on this page that your ex girlfriend is going to break up with her current boyfriend and come running back to you.
Ok, let me put this in simpler terms so you really have a good grasp at what this page is going to do for you. Imagine for a moment that in every single breakup that occurs between a couple a certain percentage is assigned to it.
You may have noticed that I gave people whose exes have moved on to another man a 20% chance of getting back together.
Well, that 20% number is based on you trying to get your girlfriend back without any of my advice. Imagine that you follow the advice on this page and get to a place where your ex girlfriend is confused about her feelings for you and her new boyfriend. Anyways, I think it’s safe to say that your ex girlfriend is going to be comparing her relationship with her new boyfriend to her relationship with you. If your ex girlfriends new boyfriend does that during their relationship and you didn’t during yours with her then when she is going to make the comparison between you and her new guy she is definitely going to think the new guy is better and that is going to put you at a disadvantage. Because usually a girl who has a better guy isn’t going to leave him to put herself back in a situation where she is treated poorly.
One of the biggest assets I can bring to you with this page is my experience in dealing with thousands of couples. That some of these women want their exes back even after they have done HORRIBLE things to them. For example, there was once a girl that came to my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, who was dating a new guy but wanted her ex back even though he cheated on her six times with six different women. So, what did this guy (who had done horrible things to her in the past) have that drew her in so much that she wanted to leave her perfectly good boyfriend? At first that was what I thought but the more I talked to her about her particular situation I began to realize that there was something else going on in her head.
In other words, even though some women find themselves in a situation where they are clearly better off relationship wise sometimes the appeal of the connection can trump everything. For example, if your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend that treats her like a queen she may still be more drawn to you because she has a connection with you that the new boyfriend can’t top.
So, if you were to ask me how to get your ex girlfriend back in a situation where she has moved on and her new man treats her well then I would say you would have to hit her where she will be affected most, her romantic feelings for you.
Like I said, a comparison between you and the new guy is eventually going to happen no matter what it just a question of when.
Well, lets pretend that your ex girlfriend has been dating her new boyfriend for 2 months exactly. Then that is a very good sign because it means you are winning the comparison battle against her new guy. If your ex girlfriends new boyfriend isn’t treating her the way a woman should be treated in a relationship then she could soon be maneuvering to go back to the thing that makes her feel better than anything, YOU! Believe it or not but your ex girlfriend moving on may actually be a good thing in the long run. For example, if your ex girlfriend breaks up with you and starts dating someone new who treats her really well like we talked about in the comparison section above your exes GIGS is going to be verified and as a result it is going to be much harder to get her back.
I want you to be aware that the GIGS exists and could have been a possible reason for the breakup between you and your ex.
The game plan is divided into four major steps and as usual I will be giving you a lot of in-depth insight into each one of these steps. First though, lets take a look at the steps you will need to successfully complete to even have a chance of getting your girlfriend back. I have been doing this for quite some time and I have seen firsthand how hard it is for some men to stay in NC when they see their woman with another man.
If you could compare a relationship to a fire a woman would expect the man to start that fire.
One of the greatest fears for men who enter into the NC rule during this situation is that their exes are going to get so close to their new man that they will completely forget about their old one. Ok, imagine if you completed your no contact rule and called your ex and begged for her back. I know that may sound a little controlling or possessive but the truth is I honestly don’t care at this point. I know that may sound weird and counterproductive but if you really think about it, it’s not. Like I said above, it is very rare for a man to be ok with the fact that his girlfriend or wife is good friends with her ex.


In other words, you becoming friends with your ex is going to cause your exes new man to go absolutely ballistic when he finds out that she is talking to you and this is what you want. Providing emotional support for your ex girlfriend (when you become friends) is really where you are going to shine. If she can’t get the emotional support she needs from her own boyfriend but from you then when she makes that inevitable comparison between you and the new guy she is going to take that into account. A big mistake I see a lot of men making is the fact that they jump into the deep end instead of wading into the shallow one when it comes to building attraction.
Ok, lets say that you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back and she has just gotten a new boyfriend.
I am a fan of a subtle build up with text messages which eventually lead to phone calls which eventually lead to a face to face meeting. Using the guide in the link above you should be able to properly build attraction with the build up technique. So, don’t take it personally if your ex declines your offer to meet up for a hang out. Because a woman who is truly in love with a man wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize that relationship. Luckily for you, if she accepts your offer for a casual hang out, it means that she doesn’t care enough about her current boyfriends feelings to not hang out with you. My question is do i give her a hundred percent NC with the possibility she will think i have moved on and confirm the thought of me being only jealous. What will happen after you apply these steps is that she will start to become interested in you again and feel as though she is losing you.
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PLUS I'll give you a free subscription to my "Stealth Seducer" newsletter, packed full of powerful seduction techniques. Just wanted to know I was with my ex girlfriend for 9 yrs we had our ups n downs happy moments an screaming moments. Thanks to some good advices from other friends I’ve managed to cut all kinds of contact with her. Hey, I know a lot of people asked you for advise and you might not answer but I’ll try non the less lol. If my girlfriend isn’t sure what she wants, is emotionally unavailable and feels the need to find herself and her independence will this work the same? Will this article apply to my situation and is there anything else you would recommend to me so that I can achieve my goals in this situation? I haven’t been well explained that to him I have had undiagnosed thyroid problem, which causes me mood swings and to be down at times. And all what happened about the baby I’m devestated due to my health I lost the baby it was hard to deal with on my own. So, I said maybe when I’m better with hormones I will be able to deal with it better. Recently, my ex girlfriend called me and was really upset… She wants to meet me just because to show her current boyfriend (whom she really loves right now) that she is happy with me!! She told me the plan and how its gonna be work… Please lemme know whether should I help her?
I was desperate, and the first place, I looked was in your blog , the I try to use the tips part by part. If it weren't for you I would still be a virgin (at 20), severely depressed, constantly contemplating why I'm alive and thinking things will never change and that life will always be lonely, empty, and average at best. My life has totally changed right from the way I act to the way I think to the way I dress.. The things that make a guy happy might not matter much (or even at all) when it comes to a woman. Add to this the fact that women don't usually say what they want (or what they mean, for that matter) and you've got even more confusion. With that said, how can you be expected to get back your ex girlfriend without knowing what she wants? To understand what will make your ex want you back, you need to know what she's thinking, what she's wanting, and most important of all, how she views and respects you after the breakup.
Below are a number of gender-specific, male-orientated articles on how you can get back with an ex girlfriend.
One of the best video guides to winning an ex girlfriend's heart is by a relationship genius by the name of Brad Browning.
The Ex Factor Guide is a complete, step-by-step map for EXACTLY how you can get back in your exgirlfriend's good graces. Through unique reconnection techniques and sometimes even unorthodox methods, Browning shows how you can get her to start thinking about you again, even if it seems like your ex has forgotten.
The Ex Factor Guide teaches how you can regain those original emotional connections and swing the balance of power back in your favor. The wealth of information and video instruction within Magic is as invaluable asset when it comes to getting an ex to go back out with you. Find out what's going on in your ex's head, including why they might currently shy away from contact.
In just minutes you can be reading this instantly downloadable guidebook, watching the videos, and finding out exactly what stage of the breakup you're at. Find out how you can reverse your ex's current opinion of you, and gain back their respect. Learn how to UNDO all the mistakes you made, even if it seems like you've already blown it. Gain knowledge of which psychological triggers remind your ex of how good you can be together. Re-ignite the spark and passion of your original romance, for both you and an unresponsive ex. She’s just waiting for that perfect move to make her feel and believe it’s really her you love.
If you’re lucky enough that she picks up your call, grab the chance by telling her sweet words and thoughts. This time, you can ask her to go out with you for coffee or a drink but most probably during this time, she’ll still refuse as you need to do something more. Yeah, I know  what they have to say mean less for your ex at this time but it’s never wrong to give it a try. Ask help from your friends to whom your ex listen to and trust a lot. All your sacrifices and efforts from step number one are counted and remembered by your ex. You need to be prepared to take the risk, after all, you made the mistake so you should accept the consequence there is. If you believe you are already good looking, pretty sure there’s still something you can do to look better. If you’re ex is a beautiful and sexy, you know it’s not hard for her to find a new mate- someone better than you.
Just do it simple, go out and have fun and let your ex know about it so she’ll think you are over her.
For example, if I write an article about the no contact rule then that means I am teaching you about the no contact rule orange bubble above. I am sure if having sex felt like rubbing the family jewels against concrete no one would want to have it. Oh, and not to mention that anything you did wrong in the relationship is going to be brought up at the end most likely.
However, I want to do something extra for you here so I am going to teach you another method that I haven’t gone into very often. Of course, since you are no longer in a relationship with your ex girlfriend it’s kind of hard to show her that things will be different with you this time around with your actions.
Of course, if you took the time to date her, get to know her and build rapport with her over time she is more likely to say yes, right?
She feels safer and less pressure and if you show her a great time she is going to be more amenable to saying yes to a medium risk proposition. I handled myself properly during the date, we had a great time, and she even asked me to keep in touch with her….
Problem is the dude is also a cokehead and after a couple weeks of being broken up and her hanging out with him, they started doing a lot of cocaine together. I decided to end the NC by texting her asking how she’s been doing, and I can say the response is unexpectedly good. FYI, during three weeks of NC she contacted me twice and always asked and talked about me to our mutual friends. Time has a funny way of making us realize our mistakes and without a doubt letting your ex girlfriend go was a big one.
You figure the easiest way to do this is to send her a non threatening text message to check up on her. Of course, after you sent the text that daydream was shattered and replaced with anger, heartache and jealousy. Well, what do you think would happen if the new boyfriend caught wind of the fact that you wanted your girl back? Of course, sometimes you will get a boyfriend who can tell when something is off without her even having to say a word.
Of course, the situation you currently find yourself in is one of the hardest to experience as your chances for success are slightly lowered. While that is certainly the outcome that you are praying for it isn’t realistic to assume that, that is going to happen 100% of the time.
However, with that being said it doesn’t hurt to have an expert on your side (me) who has seen so many situations and put so many relationships back together that he can drastically increase your chances of succeeding in almost any situation. Now, most of you who are in that situation are going to see that number and immediately freak out because it’s pretty darn low. Well, all of a sudden that 20% chance of success is bumped up to 50% because you know eventually she is going to have to choose between you and her new boyfriend. I am talking about someone who provides emotional support, someone who listens and tries not to judge, someone who truly cares about her and she realizes it. You see, I have a sister site to this one called, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, where I have helped thousands of women.
You will need to find a way to get her to tap into those feelings for you and when she does that is going to dramatically increase your chances of having her run back to you. Humans in general are drawn to things that make them feel good and flee from things that make them feel bad. If your ex broke up with you because she thought she could do better and discovers that she can’t then all of a sudden she is going to be scrambling to get YOUR approval.
Well, if you find yourself in a situation where you are trying to get a girlfriend back who has a new boyfriend you may find that waiting 45 days in no contact is too long.
While I am not a fan of becoming overbearing or annoying but I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing very subtle things to remind your ex that you are out there.
Perhaps I am a bit jaded because I have seen so much with regards to exes and I know that any time that exes are friends it usually doesn’t work out. If you can get her to open up to you and trust you enough to let you in then I guarantee that you are going to come out looking like a star. When I talk about providing emotional support I am not talking about helping her with her own relationship. Of course, in order to do that successfully you have to create this build up to gain the attraction momentum that you need.
It just means that she is being a good girlfriend to her boyfriend and she shouldn’t be punished for that.
If she says she wants to get back yes, but other than that, if it’s just a casual hi, nope.
During this time i tried a few times to get back together, but never really putting much effort.
I try to give her space recently because the prom is coming up and he asked her but i keep getting told everything thats happening with them and i gave after a few days of not talking and text her.
Basically, I was quite aloof in any relationship, – you could say defensive, so I dont get hurt and a relationship adds on to my life and not be my life in total. I just want to make it clear, the other guys started texting her while you remained texting even after you called off the engagement right? She started with asking for a piece of clothing and I said that I would look for it (in our final phone call a few days ago, she said to throw away all her things). Either she loves you both and she prefers to stay with the current because she feels more secured with him..
This puts you in a better position going forward and will leave you in the leading position, making her more open to get back with you in the future. Show her who the daddy is – Always end things before she does, like phone calls, texting, meeting up. I unwittingly seemed to follow your advice (before actually having received it) almost to a T when I was recently in this position. I my humble opinion I guess it is too soon, and she might still have mixed feelings, including anger and regret, other than if I wait a little longer and possibilities are that she feel a little bit more lonely and with feelings of loss! I had startd smokin which she dint lyk she loved me alot wen we wer in relarion i also put many restrictions on her and she followd everythin bt still i felt insecure!! Use everything I mentioned in the video as soon as you can, so that the other guy doesn’t get a chance to stake his claim. I've now got hot women begging me to take them out…They even go as far as running their fingers through my hair in the first few minutes we meet can you believe that so thanks a lot you guys are awesome!!!
Your ex possibly hates you now because of what she knew but it’s definitely not yet the end of the world man! Anyway, to end all the suffering of your ex and frustration in your part,   you need to confirm now if it’s still ideal to continue doing such efforts. Girls can look like they feel nothing and that they don’t care about your efforts but somehow, someway, they are able to appreciate it and was glad about it. Attend as many parties as you can with some of your common friends, as much as possible a party your ex is also attending. Of course, those of you who have been lucky enough to know the touch and feel of a woman know that sex feels like the exact opposite of this. My question is :how long should I continue to contact her through text messages and phone calls before I ask her for another low to medium risk date? I did the worst thing and begged for a day and the day after sent her a message saying I was sorry (for begging). So I guess right now she thinks I’m crazy, yea not good so in these very few days I have looked into what I was doing wrong, kinda lost my confidence and became needy after the honeymoon period ended. You see, on the one hand she has strong feelings for you and on the other hand she has strong feelings for her current boyfriend. Obviously we are hoping that the new boyfriend is treating her horribly so you look like a prince but lets just say that, that doesn’t happen.
I think it’s safe to say that I have heard just about every single story there is when it comes to breakups. Besides, men often have to be the hunters when it comes to relationships so that means that we have to do all the work to get the relationship started or re-started in your case. You have done a shortened NC rule, you have worked on re-establishing your friendship with your ex.
What I want to do now is to show you how you should go about creating this perfect build up.
Keep building the attraction until she chooses to leave her current man in favor of the better option, you. Back in December, 2011, I convinced this friend of mine to be my girlfriend, and then the next day, I got too nervous and chickened out of the relationship. I was trying to give her space to figure out her feelings for herself but instead she got the impression that i wanted nothing to do with her. She also said she would not date him but i can tell that she has fallen for him probably because of my pushing. But, there this girl happened and she swooped me, demanded I give her more attention, and infact I did like someone bothering me much and making me show the love. Understand where you went wrong and why she lost interest when you initially broke things off… this is important to keeping her interested.
He said you can love someone but doesn’t mean it will work and maybe it would in the future.
Till 20 march she called me talkd nicely with me bt i dint gave a good response bcoz of some family problems!! Good thing if she just learned it from a friend but if she was able to caught you on the act with another girl, that’s absolutely a different story- something which may be hard to deal with. This may not be successful as your ex may not cooperate at all because she’ll have that idea that you are involved with it. Since she’s wondering why you’re no longer annoying her, she’ll start to find out what’s up with you lately.


Try your best to look good everyday because you never know when your ex will come across your way. I mean, your ex has gone mad when she learned about your affair so there’s no way to get her back if she will know there’s this new girl you’re hooked up with.
She tended to take me for granted (canceling dates and such) and I certainly got a bit needy for a few days and she broke it off. We talked about last 7 days, whe laughed a little bit and after that I’ve ended the conversation. This was our second time breaking up, we broke up about a year ago and got back together after about a month and a half apart.
She said a lot of nice things, she missed me and she said she wanted to get coffee with me as soon as she got out.
She asked me back several times and seemed happy to text back though she’s not that kind of text message person + a busy one, so the word count was like around 20-25 (me) and 13-15 (her). Let’s go to the worse case scenario (for you) where the new boyfriend is treating her incredibly well. If she asks you for relationship advice on him I want you to decline as politely as possible.
Eventually the new boyfriend got so upset about this that it has caused a bit of a rift in their relationship. I fear through my attempts to try and talk to her I have made myself a common enemy of both of them, as she has blocked me on all social media (Facebook, instagram, and snapchat). I know i wasn’t the best partner and i made a lot of mistakes but nothing really bad but i know what i have to do if i get a chance. Do i step back and let her see that or do i try to show her the person she feel in love with and hope she comes back? This month of April, I started showing signs of disinterest while still together, I felt she was so needy and emotional. She told me how she is finally doing the things she wanted, that she woke up crying this morning because she realized how happy she is now. There were a couple of bad nights like 2 or 3 during that time but they had to do with drinking. But it all started when I came on my lunch and she was crying saying I didn’t appreciate, talk, go out enough with her.
She said it was loneliness that caused her to start things, not that she had feelings for me.
Eventually around feb 2010 we got serious, and may 2010 we were in love & made it official. When i startd tryin on her she talkd for 2-3 days and dan said dat she dnt want to hav relation with me!! But don’t worry, caught or not, these effective steps will help you get her back, hopefully. This is the most critical stage since it can either make her come back to you or lose her forever.
After that I didn’t contact her anymore, she came back after 3 days looking for attention through Facebook, so we started talking again. I am 19 and she is 17, I stated dating her when I was 17 and I was the guy she drooled over and always wanted but it was just a dream to her but I made that dream real for her. This time I thought it was really what I wanted, but after a little time I realized I want to get her back and keep her for good this time. I also went and visited her while she was there, and it was very positive, she kept saying how good I looked and touching me softly quite a bit those type of things. Her sister and a good friend of hers is on my side and they want to help me steer her away from him and then see from there. Now, a really good girlfriend wouldn’t see her ex boyfriend out of respect for her new boyfriend. Fast forward to the beginning of last year, I realized I still loved her, and then in the fall, I asked her to dinner and she said yes. How do I get her to realize that I truly do need her in my life and get her to start talking to me again and get her back?? I like to believe i have become a better person and know how to treat her now but i think she is scared knowing who she is.
I ended breaking up with her again mid month because I did not like that she never put up pictures of us on instagram and facebook. She said she is even going in a trip to new mexico… that got me curious and I asked if it was with her new guy.
My fiance broke up with me and was living with me for a week then all sudden she is gone and I have a restraining order on me. She kept me around for like 2 weeks then gave me the boot and I found out she had feelings for another guy but he didn’t like her. She’s an amazing person and I love her to death, but she closed it off after my begging and that crap I was just scared to death.
She gets out, we go get coffee the next day and it was a good time, I could tell she was doing better. So, as you can see just calling a girl up and asking her out without any of the romance or build up doesn’t usually work. Now she has fallen for him and tells me she doesn’t feel the same but sends mix singles when ever i see her.
She said it was because she didnt feel we went out a lot and felt I didnt put enough effort. You’re the one who know your girlfriend better so only you can tell if the above strategies will work for her or not. If you’re not just concern about the present situation and you really want to be with her until the end of time, make her feel you’re not worth to be left behind. I tried to appear as cold and emotionless as I could be the whole time and think I did it very well.
So before I start no contact I want to let her kno that I’m back in this short time I realized what I had done wrong and for her and that the love thing has to do with the honeymoon faze for her half. She says the only reason she talks and flirts with me is because she doesn’t want to hurt me and wants to make it easier for me. Well after I broke up with her, she would text me to make sure we are still single, she also wanted to hangout at one point but I kept neglecting her. She also asked me, how was it that I saw her new pictures of her new guy on social media when she made sure she took me off (but no blocking).
But she stood by my side all the way up untill I got out than she broke up with me over the phone when I called her. I tried to show her I love her and didn’t give her her space and on Saturday she freaked out about it. Over the course of your relationship you have been removing blocks and weakening your foundation.
Eventually I ended up moving on & dated a while without contacting each other but once and a while she would call to see what I was up too, ect ect. I askd her if she had bf, she said she dint had bf and those guys wer jst her frnds she dnt even lyk their faces!!
Also, you can tell if there’s no more chance for you to win her back on the very first place. We ended up kissing when I left and she asked me to text her, although we didn’t hang out as long as I thought I would. She texted me a few days later and asked if I was mad at her and I responded with a simple no.
Once i heard my friend was going for her i decided i couldn’t wait anymore and did just about everything wrong. Both were in love and we had to call it off since it wasn’t a practical choice for us. I wanted to make her miss me and want me, and get back together and start putting me up on social media. That way, let’s hope she misses you, and sees the change and starts to take a chance when you get to talking again. I am changing my style and working out and maybe a tattoo related to my car hobby cause she does like tattoos as well.
I really want to ask her one more time to reconsider before she gets too serious with the new guy. We did take the call, but then we still kept in touch and we were looking for other opportunities simultaneously, but we still knew where our hearts were.
Now I know what was causing me to drink a lot had to do with the fact I was somewhat insecure because I had a devistating break up summer of 2013 with the woman who I thought was my soulmate and it took me a year and some change to get over her.
And she dnt want to talk anymore with me She says she is happy as single and dnt want any relation for now!! I did spend many weeks trying to figure out whether it was jealousy or if my feelings were real.
The funny thing is that she still asked why I deleted her on facebook and instagram a day later.
I gave her the apology about everything that happened that was said and that I wish her well. Well around feb 2013 I started getting more txt from her, u know a lot of small talk then a week b4 vday she tells me she missed me & asked me 2 be her valentine. Anyway, she tells me she knows its not jealousy but she said in our last conversation that why now. I asked her if she wanted to be friends and she said yes, I decided to only add her on facebook. I said I dont want to hold any grudges towards you and that she is a great person and doesnt deserve that. So while I was locked up I had time to think and I realized how much my new girl meant to me and that I really loved her and was ready to let my gaurd down and give love another chance. So I dint comment much, but i ensured she made the right choice (not him thought) but you know, continuous talking and sharing stuff will eventually lead you there (this was as well long distance) – Things were fine but then he made a trip to meet her and she infact did like him as well.
But seems I was a day late and a dollar short cause after she broke up with me we were still friends on fb and my other ex that I was dating summer of 14 seen I was single again and friend requested me on fb and since my ex broke up with me I accepted. After that she says let’s work on us, in the back of my head I felt like she wanted to but at the same time she was just lonley but I still said ok. And everything that happened after she didn’t return my feelings happened LONG before I even knew that there was a way to get an ex girlfriend back. Now I dont get those texts which i used to get annoyed about before like why is she texting me so muchhh ? And she commented on something I posted and my ex seen it and got super upset and sent me a message saying she was done and she just wanted her stuff. She did contact me a couple of times during the No Contact period, but I didn’t respond either time. My biggest problem is i gave her time before and she thought i hated her and says she forced herself to lose her feelings for me. When we had breaks, she would always make it so that I wanted her back, like she did earlier. I told her that Im doing ok and that I stopped doing many of the things the she didnt like, like smoking weed – her voice cracked a little and said oh really? So I told the other ex its best if we just stay friends but had to block her on fb cause I didnt want to upset the one I was still in love with anymore than she aready was.
I picked up on this and finally last week asked her if she had a special someone and she said yes. She called me a couple of times post NC, but she said she pocket dialed me both times and I know she called me on purpose both of those times. Knowing who she is, she does’t like to get hurt, so she tries to avoid it and to me and a few other people, it seems as if she is confused because her friends are telling her to go with this new guy but it seems like she has feelings for me still by the way she acts.
I miss talking to her – She made me zone out from the entire world and give her the attention which she needed and I did give and got back the love as well.
I then told her that if i could go back, I would change everything to change the outcome of what happened, that it is my burden to hold and that I will live with it for the rest of my life. Well about a week later March 7th (got out on Feb 23 just a lil time frame) my ex changed her fb status to in a relationship and changed her profile pic to her kissing this new guy.
I kept trying to text her about things that she likes and how they made me think about her, but I would keep getting a neutral response. She never really opens up in this type of situation, we broke up once before and i was able to show her the fun we had together by hanging out and talking and eventually got back together.
I told her that im not holding any ill feelings towards her and that im even open to the idea of being friends.
During that time she would never she how she felt, she just would give me a dry answer and one day wanted to get back together. But I handled the situation maturly and didnt text her anything rude as a matter of fact I only texted her on Easter wishing her and her daughter a happy Easter. The new guy when they start talking was planning to go to college half way across the country, so he has no plans to have a committed relationship. She then said she was thankful for the 5 year experience and she learned a lot, that she now knows what she wants and she is doing everything she wanted to do with me, that she was happy.
I decided to end the phone call be telling her I had to go, i said i wish you well, take care and bye. I was still kinda heartbroken over everything but was starting to move on even though I still thought about her all the time I was starting to heal. I ended up messaging her that I still loved her and that I wanted her to have my kids like we planned, that we said forever. So we had a 3 hr long conversation and it went great we talked we had some laughs and it was like we were together again. She gave me a huge paragraph of what I did wrong, and that she did not love me anymore, that she moved on quick, because she realized how ive treated her all these years. She knows that saying that saying she is happy now with her new guy will hurt me although i never showed that pain on the phone call. So we texted a couple times over the past couple of weeks and than she called me on Friday telling me she was bored so I was working at the time and told her I would call her back after work and I did. She said I am definitely not her soulmate and neglected anything i said to get her back, complete opposite of what she would normally do. She ended up calling me at work to tell me to stop messaging her about our relationship, even though I stopped an hour earlier already. So I picked her up after work I offered to let her sleep in my bed and I sleep on the couch but she insisted I sleep in the bed with her so yeah we made love the first night than we woke up and did it again she came to help me on one of my jobs as I have my own construction company and she used to work with me sometimes when we were together. The following morning she left a voicemail saying that she read over our messages and said that she hopes i move on quick and recuperate, that she was concerned about how i sounded over text since she has never heard me talk like that. Than I took her to a carnival we ate some food and went on a ride and I won her a stuffed furry animal. Two days pass and Im starting to hurt more, now i want her back really badly so at night i asked her to talk to me over the phone.
Than we woke up the next day and I had to go out to look at a job and she stayed at my house while I was gone. I came back and we went out to eat at our favorite restaurant for lunch than went over to my cousins house she is close friends with them and she wanted to see theyre baby which she loves. I ended spilling my heart out on that phone call, asking her to come back to me, that ive never been hurt by her like this.
She said she no longer loved me, when i would bring up making love she said to stop because it made her cringe. We held hands the whole ride and she told me she loved me when I dropped her off and she told me she left me a note on my dresser mirror to read when I got home. That what she said just a month ago about forever was only because she didnt realize how much i hurt her over the years. The note said my name, I love you with all my heart no matter what we have been through 4ever&always yours, love her name.
That she found someone who always listens to her and doesnt criticize her when she needs comfort. The call ended on bad terms, i told her to tell me that she is going to have sex with her new guy eventually one day at the end, so that i can feel numb and try to let her go completely.
She didnt want to at first because it was none of my business, but she ended up saying it after I pleaded for it. Im so depressed, thinking that she is really happy and I that I wont be able to get her back. I plan on talking to her in 2 more days to try to briefly make amends and work my way to friendship. She is the type of person who doesnt like to hurt anyone, so it makes me think she wont want to leave her new guy for me.



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