Most breakups don't take root immediately; this is why so many couples often split up and then get back together. This is why at times it seems as if your ex boyfriend is still in love with you, or at least still has strong feelings. It's not uncommon to have residual feelings for someone; even for someone you yourself dumped.
When you want your ex boyfriend back, it can be hard to differentiate between him actually being interested in you and just plain old wishful thinking. Be sure to take our Does My Ex Boyfriend Want Me Back Quiz to get a good, solid, impartial idea of where you are. Any time your ex starts backsliding into old habits like contacting or communicating with you again, it's because he's thinking about you.
If your ex calls to tell you something good that happened to him, it's because he still feels emotionally bonded to you. Make sure you give your ex the same encouragement you would have given him had you still been going out together.
Most guys have a hard enough time remembering their current girlfriend's birthday, or their anniversary.
If that's not necessarily the case however, your ex could be warming up to you as a prelude to getting back together. To make a long story short, any time your ex's attitude toward you radically changes, it's because something changed in his life to make him reconsider you again. Sometimes your efforts at getting your boyfriend back fall flat, and you need a little push in the right direction. The Ex Factor Guide is a relationship resource specifically designed for women going through an unwanted breakup.
Using psychological tricks and triggers, you'll find out exactly what to do (and when to do it).
When you're done with that, read up on some of the many success stories and glowing testimonials from women who've used Ex Factor to regain control of their once-broken relationships. Also read up on some quick adjustments you can make that will change your ex boyfriend's current opinion of you, no matter what may have happened to break the two of you up. The answers to those questions aren't simple; in reality, there's no direct way back into your boyfriend's life from where you are now. That said, odds are good that certain behaviors changed since you first started going out with your ex. If you think about it, all of these things made up the first few weeks of your relationship.
Your exboyfriend won't come anywhere near you until you've done one simple thing: accepted the breakup.
Realize that whatever you had before is gone, and that what you might have in the future will need to be different (and better).
Still hanging around and making yourself as visible as possible so you can stay fresh in your exboyfriend's mind? The last thing you want to get back to your ex is that you've been sitting at home, crying into every available shoulder, totally devastated without him.
There are things you should say to your ex boyfriend when you talk again, but there are even more things that you shouldn't. This is probably the most important thing you can do right now, if you want him to see you as a potential girlfriend again. It’s a word that the women of this site are all too familiar with and it just so happens to be the topic of my latest guide.
If you were to ask me to be completely honest with you I feel I have been in a bit of a rut lately when it comes to this site.
Yes, I still put in the same amount of work as I always have but I feel that a lot of the guides that I do put out there cover a lot of the same information that I have already talked about on this site and that annoys me. By the end of this guide I aim to provide a lot of new insight into men that I have never talked about before. In this section I am going to be covering why desperate behaviors are a turn off to ex boyfriends.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
In addition to that I am going to give you a list of all the desperate behaviors that I have seen women commit via my tenure here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery (and I mean all of them.) First though, It is probably a good idea for me to really explain why desperate behavior is a turn off and believe me when I say that what I am about to talk about next may blow you away.
I have always found it interesting that most desperate behaviors usually don’t become desperate until after you have already broken up with someone.
For example, as you can see below (in the section after this one) calling an ex too much can be labeled as desperate. However, it’s almost like a switch is flipped after a breakup and that behavior that I absolutely loved during the relationship (having a girlfriend call me) all of a sudden becomes desperate, needy and unattractive. It’s basically this switch that gets flipped in your exes mind that turns all the behavior that he may have loved from you in the past to being desperate and needy. Lets turn our attention to the many types of desperate behaviors that I have seen you ladies commit over the years.
I have seen a lot of different types of desperate behaviors in my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery. You are in a lot of pain and need to find an outlet to put that pain into so you decide to go barhopping and you have one too many drinks. Oh, and lets not forget that drunk dialing comes off as completely pathetic and desperate and you WILL say things that you probably don’t mean at all.
The first issue is the fact that women who sleep with their exes are prime candidates for becoming friends with benefits and make no mistake about it, to most guys fwb is a much more appealing option than having a girlfriend. I used to always wonder why women would be dumb enough (yes I said it) to fall into the sleeping with an ex trap.
Well, what I am getting at here is that women are ultimately the ones that decide whether or not a man is going to have sex. Ok, in fantasy land that may actually happen but we live in the real world here and in the real world if you have sex with your ex (if you two are still broken up) the only thing he is going to fall in love with is the idea of being friends with benefits. Loving someone who you don’t think loves you back is probably one of the most depressing feelings you can possibly have. On the one hand you feel that you have so much love to give and on the other hand you feel cheated and betrayed that the person who you want to give your world to won’t return the favor. About two years ago a really good friend of mine fell in love with this guy and everything was great… for a while. Eventually he broke up with her citing some made up reason.  Needless to say, she was absolutely devastated by the breakup. He kept the guitar and told her that he had no intention of getting back together with her ever. In order to properly explain this I think we need to take a short trip into the mind of a man. Lets pretend for a moment that you have been begging for your ex boyfriend to take you back.
As I stated above, he is probably going to like this fact because he knows now that he is in the drivers seat. Now, the bright side of all of this is that it is very possible to build your value back up but every time you beg you are creating more work for yourself in the future.
At that age no one really has any type of courage so instead of going over to talk to that person yourself you get one of your friends to do it for you. Now lets fast forward to the present and you have just been through a devastating breakup and you want nothing more than to talk to your ex but you are scared he is going to shut you out.
You call up your best friend and instruct her to do some legwork for you to get information on your ex. We see this is as a sign of weakness because you didn’t have the guts to contact us yourself. Did I ever tell you the story of the craziest story I have ever heard about getting friends to contact an ex? Well, someone who commented on this site once told me the most bizarre story I have ever heard.
She had completely disregarded the tried and true methods of no contact and the texting rules that I had clearly laid out and instead opted to get one of her friends to talk to her ex instead. If an ex of yours (who is not this ex) had hired someone to hit on you and you found out about it would you take them back? Speaking personally, I would be completely creeped out and wouldn’t ever talk to them again. Those of you who are familiar with this website or who have read my book will know what a text or call gnat is. Eventually you just give up on finding the source altogether so you try your best to tune it out.
Lets say that after the breakup you call your ex twenty times and send him thirty five text messages. Of course, this still doesn’t explain why text gnatting and call gnatting is such desperate behavior.
In other words, you are not projecting the image that you need to be projecting in order to get your ex back. You decide that in order to win him back you are going to show up unannounced at his home and the let chips fall where they may. In your mind at the time it seems like a great idea because you know your heart would absolutely melt if HE did that for you.
Men who have dated enough always have that story of that one ex girlfriend who went a little crazy after a breakup. If you have read this far down the page then you have probably already tried to get your ex boyfriend back.
My point is this, right now the fact that you are reading this means that you haven’t been able to get your ex boyfriend back and while you may have cut out the desperate behavior deep down you probably still feel as desperate as ever. The reason you have failed to get your ex boyfriend back is that you haven’t made enough of an emotional impact on him for him to want to take you back.
The are the ones to blame for the expectations that men have when it comes to relationships.
For example, rarely do you ever see a woman take the reigns and approach a man at a bar to get HIS number.
No, the better strategy would be to influence him, using emotions, to make it HIS idea to get back together. Well, if a man has made a decision to not be with you it can take some work to get him to second guess that decision if he knows that you are the one that is making him second guess himself.
As I said a second ago the way you can make it HIS decision to get back together with you is to influence him with emotions. This guide is all about how to NOT appear desperate and as I have outlined above the best way to do that is by making your ex boyfriend think that it’s his idea to get back together and it just so happens that the best way to make him think that is by utilizing emotional influence. However, if there is one thing that I have always cherished it would have to be my ability to go out and play tennis. Anyways, I always set aside a block of time every weekday to go to the courts for a few hours and get away from it all.
In fact, the only way that, that sacred time is interrupted is if someone has emotional influence over me. In fact, women who are extremely good at creating this influence within men can get them to do amazing things and it just so happens that another perfect example of the power of influence occurred recently. So, the question I have for you is what does this woman have that all the other women Clooney dated didn’t have?
Well no, while this woman is absolutely stunning Clooney has dated women that are probably more beautiful than her. The truth of the matter is that the woman pictured above understands emotional influence and she has probably influenced Clooney so much that he felt the need to lock her down with a ring. I have also given you a big picture game plan for how to not appear desperate in which we basically established that you had to make it HIS IDEA to get back together with you and it just so happens that the best way to do that is through emotional influence. In this final section I am going to be talking about exactly what you can do to exert the type of influence over your ex that will make it his idea to want to get back together with you. You are in a very interesting position because right now your ex boyfriend has emotional influence over you. It’s a little ironic if you think about it because you want so badly to be in his position with HIM wanting YOU back. Of course, we aren’t quite there yet and before you get there you are going to have to be willing to take a few risks. Seriously, it is absolutely pathetic that some women out there structure their entire lives to revolve around one person when the way it should be is that both people in the relationship should be structuring their lives to revolve around each other. Sometimes if you show the courage to walk away from your ex it can be the smartest decision ever because not only do you allow yourself the time of move on but you also appear less desperate and you give your ex time to sit and think about what he has lost. You are so afraid that you will never get your ex boyfriend back that you actually went to the internet to look for advice, something you probably made fun of other people for in the past. Imagine if you were able to influence him to the point where he is addicted to talking to you. When you walk away something amazing happens in his brain and he realizes that your world doesn’t revolve around him at all.
The fact is that the most important aspect is being able to hook your ex into enjoying time with you.


This is why it is so important that you think very carefully before you make any move because you are in a position where you are forced to play your cards right. Luckily, I have already laid out a perfect game plan for you with regards to influencing your ex boyfriend. I am not going to lie, it is a pet peeve of mine when I take the time to compose a nice long text message and I receive a 1-3 word response in return.
A lot of women come to this site wondering why their ex doesn’t respond to their text messages and when I ask them what they texted him they recite some super boring and short text message and I just roll my eyes.
What in the world would make you think that your EX BOYFRIEND would want to talk about the weather with you?
Knowing everything you know about your particular situation I want you to put yourself in your exes shoes for a moment.
I think I have told this story on here before but I am going to tell it again because it is so good for illustrating this point.
My dad (who has been married for 30 years) gave me some amazing advice about relationships once. However, anytime you fight, say something hurtful or do things that hurt the relationship it is like taking money away from that bank account. Look, the main point of all of this is that I want you to make every little communication matter. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. My ex dumped me at the beginning of January saying that he needed more space and that he felt like he wasn’t ready for a relationship. One month without reaching out to him later, school resumes, and I find out that we have a 1 hour shift together every week (we both work at the same on-campus job).
Hey Amor, yes he replied with follow up questions and we carried a conversation for a while before he abruptly stopped replying. Knowing whether or not your ex still has feelings for you is an important part of staying strong.
The following Ex Back Quiz will show you exactly how much your ex still loves, needs, and wants you in their life. Finally, the results page will give you specific advice related to your own unique breakup scenario, as well as information on how you can improve your current standings in the eyes of your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Before you entered into a relationship with your ex boyfriend you knew that deep down being clingy and needy was probably going to be a turn off to him but as you developed a deeper connection with him you couldn’t help yourself. Now, I am not insinuating that you approached anything close to this when you broke up with your ex boyfriend I am just saying that I know what it’s like to be in love and I know that sometimes it can make you do some clingy or needy things. In this guide I am going to be talking about how you can recover from these clingy or needy things that occurred in your relationship with your ex. I bet you weren’t expecting me to say that being clingy can have a positive aspect to it, huh?
As it turns out there is a way in which being clingy and needy can be an attractive thing to men. So, if you have ever wondered what kinds of things a stage 5 clinger does to turn off a man then the section entitled, The Negatives Of Being Clingy, is going to be especially interesting to you. Whenever you do research on women who are clingy or overly needy you often hear experts scolding them for that type of behavior.
To me if a girl gets a little clingy it means she really has strong feelings for me and I like that.
Whenever a girl exhibits clingy behavior like jealousy, constantly wanting to be around me and texting me a lot I kind of like it.
I want to tell you about what a girl can do to all of a sudden make those cute little clingy behaviors into overly clingy to the point where it becomes a turn off.
One thing we have already established about me and most other men is that we like needy behavior but only to a certain extent. Lets pretend that you and I are dating and at the beginning of the relationship you would exhibit the three clingy behaviors I mentioned above.
Of course, as time went on I began to notice a gradual change in the intensity of these behaviors. For example, any time you would get jealous you would get jealous to the point where you would start a huge argument and you wouldn’t trust me about anything. You also became so clingy to the point where any time I would go into a room you would have to follow me in there.
Of course, as our relationship grew deeper the texting ratio changed completely to a 3:1 ratio. You see, when most women search the internet for advice on clingy behavior most experts list out all the needy behaviors that you need to avoid but almost none of them do a good job of explaining WHY you need to avoid them.
Imagine for a moment that you are walking down the street and all of a sudden you hear this buzzing around your head.
It is entirely possible that this is how your ex boyfriend viewed you in your relationship if you were too overbearing with how you texted him. One of the best ways to determine if you were a text gnat or not is to look at your last 100 text messages between you and your ex. If for example, the texting ratio ends up being something like 70:30 where you have sent him 70 text messages and he has only responded to 30 of those text messages then that probably means you are venturing into text gnat territory where you are becoming kind of overbearing. Someone who is a text gnat screams desperation and no guy wants a serious relationship with a woman who is desperate.
In fact, I remember a long time ago there was one girl who had such a crush on me that she would text gnat the heck out of me.
She kept texting me to the point where it really started annoying me and I eventually had to say something to her. Because she seemed totally desperate and if I am going to be attracted to anyone it was going to be a woman who is smart, independent and NOT desperate. Now, a normal girlfriend should be excited about the prospect of going to a party with her boyfriend. Instead of being excited about the party you get angry at me for texting another girl and accuse me of cheating.
You become so threatened by Tina that you forbid me to ever text another girl for the rest of my life. In my opinion, extreme jealousy has a direct correlation to a woman trying to control a man and nothing annoys a man more than a woman who tries to control him.
I have only heard of one example of shadowing in my personal life but I have heard of multiple examples through this site which is why I know it exists. Shadowing- Becoming so dependent on another human being that you have to be around them all the time.
If you are still a little confused when it comes to this concept don’t feel bad, it is a little complicated to grasp. When I was in high school a very long time ago I knew a guy that would get angry at his girlfriend for the dumbest things.
When I heard this I was baffled at why he would have to accompany her if she simply wanted to leave the room. What we have here is a case of someone who is so insecure that he wouldn’t even let his girlfriend leave the room without him. Some of the more common forms of shadowing I have seen is the classic invasion of alone time.
Look, sometimes men need their alone time where you aren’t constantly badgering them with questions or the latest drama that went on at work. Think about it, if your ex wanted to have a guys night out with his friends but you insisted on tagging along you were harassing him with unwanted attention which is technically the same behavior a stalker engages in. If you were so insecure that you couldn’t even let him have an hour on his own to recharge his batteries then you are technically defined as a talker. That means that every day whenever I read your comments on this site I can kind of get bummed out because, to me, it sometimes feels as if all I see are failed relationships.
In other words, I am basically saying that the only time I would hang around other girls is if my girlfriend (you in this imaginary case) was there.
So, lets pretend that you are really insecure about other girls around me, even though I have proven to you multiple times that I am the most trustworthy man on the planet. In fact, you have become so insecure about other women that you constantly try to control me and basically order me to never talk to any of them ever again. In fact, most of the time by you controlling a man you push him to do the behavior you don’t want him to in the first place.
Now that you have a pretty good idea of what clingy behavior is and why it annoys men lets take a look at what you are going to have to do in order to overcome that clingy behavior to have a chance at getting your ex boyfriend back. Now, before I get started on explaining what I mean by these four pillars I feel it is very important to discuss the point of what we are trying to accomplish here. The point of this section is to show you what you have to do in order to achieve that goal. If the main goal that we are trying to accomplish here is overcoming your exes impression of you then it is probably a really good idea to figure out what that impression is. For example, if you and I dated each other and I was constantly telling you how I hated the fact that you were always trying to control me then you would know that the clingy behavior that you would really have to work on is to NOT be controlling.
In other words, what we are trying to do here is to figure out what behaviors you exhibited that needs to change for you to even have a shot of getting him back.
While I never actually was in a relationship with this person (I never even went a date with her actually) she exhibited some super clingy behavior from the get go that made me immediately want to not talk to her. Any time I wouldn’t respond to a text message she would send she would grow frustrated and berate me with insults. I immediately classified her behavior as clingy and controlling and I did not want a presence like that in my life. They call, text or skype their ex so much that it can sometimes go beyond regular clingyness. If you need a refresher on how creepy this can be take a look at the very first picture I posted on this page of the woman who called her ex 77,000 times after her breakup with him.
A year or two ago one of my friends told me something really interesting about relationships. By being clingy and needy with phone calls or texts you are playing right into what they already believe is going to happen. If I am being completely honest with you it annoys me when I see women begging for their exes back because to me that means they don’t know their own value.
So, rather than playing right into what he already believes is going to happen after a breakup (you getting all clingy with phone calls) I would recommend that you do the exact opposite of that. By doing a no contact rule for either 21 or 30 days (depending on the situation) you are going to accomplish two things. If you guessed the girl who tries to get her boyfriend back when he is not that angry then you guessed right. I am going to be talking about this a lot more in-depth in the next section but for now I can give you a little teaser of whats to come. While you are using the no contact rule to give your ex time to cool down you can also be using it as a way to get rid of your clingy habits and reshape your image so that your ex no longer views you as clingy. Self improvement is key if you don’t want to be looked at as clingy or needy anymore. It’s funny, I was scrolling through Facebook the other day and noticed one of those overused motivational quotes that always seem to get shared. However, when you sit down and really peel back the layers you will find that, that quote has a flaw.
Well, I take offense to that because I personally believe that self improvement should be something every human being should strive for.
Now, I am not saying you should compromise your morals or do something your not comfortable with but I think it is completely ok to want to be a better version of yourself. Since this is a page dedicated to eliminating neediness lets focus on how you can improve yourself if your neediness is tied directly to your own insecurities. For example, we often get overly jealous because we are afraid our significant other might cheat on us. I mean, you can try to turn your feelings off as much as possible but in the end we are all human beings and not robots. So, what I would like to teach you is the method I try to employ when dealing with my own personal insecurities. I would have to say that without a doubt the biggest insecurity I have when it comes to relationships would be the fear of being cheated on. The very next day I found out that she started dating another guy, someone who she had been pursuing since I started pursuing her. While she didn’t cheat on me it was my first experience with deception and I did not like how it felt.
As I gained more experience in dealing with the opposite sex I learned more and more about how women could sometimes use deception to get away with things. Unfortunately, this site doesn’t help that insecurity at all when I come face to face with infidelity on a daily basis. However, I figured out an excellent way to deal with this insecurity so it doesn’t make me exhibit clingy behavior. You see, the fear of infidelity can sometimes cause you to get jealous over unnecessary things.


Whats even better is that I am using my insecurity to force me to set that type of high standard. You see, as long as I keep that standard so far out of reach for other men I have nothing to worry about because my significant other would literally have to be an idiot to stray.
However, as you fell deeper into the relationship you slowly but surely started losing your hobbies.
Thought 1- It’s sweet that you can fall so deeply in love with someone that their passions become yours.
Thought 2- It’s dangerous to fall so deeply in love that you lose yourself in that person. However, I guarantee you that it wasn’t that desperate when you were dating the person.
In this section I am going to list pretty much every single one that I have ever encountered. You were implementing tactics like the no contact rule, the improving yourself, the ungettable girl, etc. Unfortunately, some women make the mistake of becoming so desperate to get their exes back that they think that if they offer their ex sex then he will magically fall in love with them again.
More often than not women who come to this site experience this depressing feeling on a deep level and that depressing feeling causes them to beg for their exes back.
We realize when we are on the spot and any time your best friend contacts us we know that the second that we finish the conversation with them they are going to be running back to you with the details.
Instead, you reverted back to elementary days and got one of your best friends to dig up the dirt for you. You are just strolling along taking the scenery in and then all of a sudden you begin to hear this buzzing. Well, its pretty much a guarantee that at this point you are going to be very annoying to your ex boyfriend.
In fact, it might be more accurate of me to say that you are his least favorite person right now. Above I have established that society has dictated that it is supposed to be a mans job to get the woman so why do you think you have to do anything to win him back? However, if he feels in control and feels like it is HIS decision to get back together with you then all of a sudden it’s ok for him to second guess himself. If you can successfully pull it off you can hijack your exes brain and make him think what you want him to think (to a certain extent.) Yes, I am essentially saying that emotional influence is a way to mind control your boyfriend.
You see, that is one area of my life where I can get away from any issues with work or other personal stuff that may be going on.
His first marriage ended in 1993 and he has been jumping from girlfriend to girlfriend ever since.
In fact, he probably thinks it’s HIS IDEA when in fact it is the influence that his fiance exerted that caused him to do it. In fact, he has so much emotional influence over you that you are on the internet reading my site trying to figure out how to get him back.
Of course, our goal here is to get your ex boyfriend back so am I really suggesting that the best way to get him back is to walk away?
The challenge a lot of women face is that when a man feels like they have a woman they can often get bored, take her for granted and discard her. In fact, he will start to experience that fear of loss and it is going to motivate him to chase you.
Sure, you probably do wonder what your ex is thinking when he sees a text message from you but you need to go much deeper than that.
I’ll start no contact immediately, was afraid to try it because i felt he wouldnt reach out during no contact. He was so into me and he wanted to have a relationship with me for 4 months he was so desperate about wanting me in his life and i was not ready for a relationship so i was keep saying no to him. This fact was evidenced when I opened up my Facebook Page one afternoon and saw this meme posted by one of my subscribers,Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Essentially, what I am shooting for here is a way to wipe your slate clean with your ex so that you can give yourself the best shot of getting him back. In this section I am going to talk a little about that but I will also be giving you the low down on all the negatives that go along with being clingy and needy. In fact, your jealousy got so bad that at one point you literally forbade me to talk to anyone of the opposite sex. It is rare to find someone who will explain why men react badly to clingy behavior but I am going to because I am a man and I know how I would react if someone got overly needy. They want a serious relationship with a woman who is confident enough to know that she actively chose to be with a guy.
As our relationship wears on I begin to notice that you get jealous any time I mention another girl. In fact, if you ever catch me texting another girl throughout our relationship you threaten to break up with me. In some cases it is so extreme that you can’t even let them leave a room without you going by their side.
I remember he once told me that when he was over at her house she left the room without him.
We need time to recharge sometimes before we can consume everything you want us to consume.
If you feel the need to accompany him everywhere he goes then that is a form of shadowing and he isn’t going to appreciate it. Lately, in an effort to change this I have been reading up a lot about the most successful relationships so I can get some positivity back in my life which in turn will help me give out better advice. Whenever I am in a relationship with someone I don’t let anyone threaten that relationship. I feel this is an extremely rare quality in men now-a-days and it also says a lot about my character. Well, below you will find a graphic that i put together that will teach you how to overcome his reservations about taking you back because of your clingy nature. However, once the relationship has already commenced then the women take over from there and do everything in their power to keep the relationship going. In other words, they grow lazy and spoiled and get used to women doing everything for them. Well, I am of the mind that giving your ex space (after you have been clingy) is the smartest thing you can do. Of course, when you shower a man with constant attention that attention is going to lose some of its value over time because he is going to get used to it. The no contact rule is perfect for giving your ex boyfriend time to cool down which in turn is going to increase your chances to seem less clingy and also get him back.
How about the fact that a lot of women don’t believe they are good enough for their boyfriends so they shower them with too much attention which can be viewed as clingy. In fact, I became so frightened of being deceived that I started plotting out worse case scenarios in my head and trying to figure out if I would be able to survive if it ever occurred to me. You see, it has the ability to make you a little paranoid and that can be extremely unhealthy. This means that for me I can sometimes get touchy when other men are introduced into the equation around my relationship. It’s not ok to just stop something that you love (your hobbies) to make room for all of your boyfriends or husbands hobbies. We were in an on & off again relationship becaus, simply put, I was needy, clingy, controlling while he has always been uncertain about me. However, despite all of this progress you still have this deep pain in your heart which leads to the drinking too much which leads to the drunk dialing.
Her rationale was simple, how could he possibly turn a girl down who would do this kind of stuff for him?
You look around but you can’t figure out what is causing this buzzing sound you keep hearing. Like that time where he held your hand or grabbed your hips and you got a shock of electric chemistry up your spine. Do you remember what I said a few sections back about men making a decision not to be with you? Tennis for me is the perfect way to de-stress and I’m also not too shabby on the court so that never hurts ?? . In fact, if for whatever reason you and him don’t work out I want you to become such an influence that he regrets letting you go for the rest of his life. Then when he is in his hour of need, when he wants nothing more than to talk to you, you simply cut him out for a little bit.
However, if there is one interesting insight I can leave you with about my chess match analogy it would be the fact that in a regular chess match both players start off on an even playing field. How are you supposed to influence me to a point where it becomes my idea to get back together? Every time you have a positive experience, an enjoyable moment or something as simple as a smile or a laugh with your significant other it is like putting money into the bank account. Every time you talk on the phone with your ex needs to have purpose behind it and every little touch or hug in person (with your ex) needs to have a purpose. I’ll try to start small conversations but he always seems to give super neutral responses and not say much. I’m scared that if indeed I go ahead and let go, am I not doing the exact opposite of what I promised him in the relationship?
You see, as a man I can tell you that, as weird as this is going to sound, I like a woman to be a little clingy or needy. On top of that you would literally get angry if I wouldn’t respond immediately to your texts.
However, if you have become so clingy or controlling that you literally have to go with them from room to room then that is a big issue. So, when you think back to you and your exes fights what was it about you that he was complaining about that could be classified as clingy.
As a result, when a breakup occurs they almost expect that YOU are going to be the one that contacts them first begging for a second chance.
So, rather than getting overly jealous I am always telling myself that I am setting such a high standard that no other man can compare. The break up struck me as a surprise because a few months before that he was telling me how he’d marry me. Oh, and who could forget that time that he opened himself up completely to you and you felt like you were the only person in the world who mattered to him. That influence will probably cause me to check it every five minutes hoping that I will have received a text message or phone call. First 8 months were like heaven and then we started to have problems, he was getting more and more distant i was being more and more sad during this period. That means no small talk, no talk about feelings and relationships and only talk when necessary and keep you distance as much as possible while improving yourself. I liked that you wanted to be around me all the time and I also liked that you texted me a lot. So, why is it that when you are making your ex feel good by begging for him back that he finds it as such an unattractive quality?
That is a lot of personalities to experience so surely he must have found at least one woman that met his ultimate criteria for a wife. He didn’t ask me any questions about how things were going for me so I decided to lay off for awhile. After I replied, he replied me only today telling me what he did yesterday and asked me what i was up to. 4 days later i go to talk to him and literally beg him for comming back and he actually said ok lets try again. I know you advocate being the “un-gettable girl”, but Is it really so bad if I just come clean and tell him my feelings? He said he doesn’t feel anything for me and told me to move on but said we should still stay friends. He still contacted me here and there once every 2-3 weeks and this year he wished me casually on valentine’s day and on my birthday.
We are spending good time together on this last week and talking, laughing together even went to theater once.
I dont know what to do now, is there any change for me to get him back while not making no contact, do i have a chance have him back while hanging out with him like this. One of my friend suggest me to stay friend with him and act like i dont want him as boy friend but i want him as friend.



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