A girlfriend who tells you that she needs space is contemplating something (or possibly someone) else. Both of these terms are euphemisms for "I wanna see what else is out there for me." Your girlfriend is essentially jumping over the fence to see if the grass is greener on the other side, but she's asking you to stay put in case she feels like coming back. A lot of guys fall for the "let's take some time apart" speech simply because they don't want to lose their girlfriend. These guys are willing to place themselves in a holding pattern while their girlfriend flies off to do her thing. When the girl you're dating asks to put your relationship on a break, you've really got three options. There are guaranteed moves that will turn your ex girlfriend around, drawing her both emotionally and physically back to you.
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Don't lose the plot and don't immediately jump to conclusions about what she means by wanting space. She is slowly detaching herself from the relationship but doesn't have the courage to make a painful but clean break up. Hopefully she has enough manners to give you the opportunity to sit down and have a discussion about things.
Understand what she wants from the relationship and understand why she needs space right now.
This conversation will give you clues as to whether this is a genuine quick break with the full intention of returning to normal, or whether this is the start of a slow demise. The worst thing you can do is agree with the need for space, or a break or whatever she wants to call it.
Is she asking for space, is she asking for a break or is she just trying to break things off slowly? Space generally means that you stay together but just spend less time together and contact each other less frequently.
You can't stop her asking for space and while you disagree you have to respect her decision. Hopefully she is frank and honest about what she needs from the relationship and she sticks to her word.
This is a really tricky situation because you can't always talk to her to figure it out because she might not want to. Yet once it goes over a month with no contact, you might have to consider that this desire for space was really a desire to end the relationship. In that case you can save yourself a lot of stress and crap by just making the call yourself. However maybe you gave her the benefit of the doubt at the start and respected her need for space.
It's not kind, respectful or loving to keep someone in limbo for so long so maybe she's not the kind of person you really want to be with anyway. When your girlfriend asks you for space she is either genuine or is trying to drag out a slow break up.
However as soon as it becomes clear that she has no intention of coming back to you and is just trying to survey her options then you need to consider whether you want to preemptively break up with her. Overcoming insecurity is crucially important if you have issues with fear and jealousy in relationships. Your girlfriend pushed you aside with vague ultimatums that unless you give her some space, things between you are probably not going to work out. That's right, your girlfriend isn't looking for some magical 'solo' fix to the humdrums of your boring old relationship. When the time comes to deliver the news, your girlfriend will say things like "I'm just not into this anymore". When you accept taking time off from your relationship because your girlfriend suggested it, you're putting her in the driver's seat. You have to sit there quietly and patiently, as if you're being punished, until she decides when your punishement is over. You're still going to give your girlfriend some space, but you're going to do it the right way. When it comes to changing the power dynamic of a broken relationship, you won't find a better guidebook than Breakup Reversed. Author Robert Parsons is a sorcerer of mental manipulation - his methods and techniques for turning ANY breakup situation around is almost uncanny. Check out the glowing testimonials from among the many thousands of people who've read, absorbed, and used the knowledge within Breakup Reversed to get back with their ex lovers and move forward in their relationships with a clean slate.
Step by step, Breakup Reversed lays out a roadmap that begins with where you are right now and ends with your girlfriend right back in your arms. But what does she really mean when she says she wants space?Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? When a woman goes through a breakup, when it’s fresh, how many of those 12,000 thoughts a day are dedicated to thinking about the person she broke up with? Speaking from experience, people can get a little obsessive when it comes to their breakups and it causes this interesting effect where all of their thoughts are hijacked for a while.
Lets dive a little deeper here since I want to explain why your ex girlfriend wants space from you.
So, you have a thought and then that thought immediately gets categorized into one of the two categories above. So, what does this theory have to do with your ex girlfriend telling you that she needs space?
Yup, your ex girlfriend is going to have a thought (square one) that makes her think about the breakup with you. Well, the act of her having to tell you that gives her another thought and guess what that thought is about? Now, it’s my job to get you out of this cycle because make no mistake about it, it is the one that you are in right now. You definitely noticed that these texts were almost a guy begging for his ex girlfriend back but take a look at the last text. Now, just so we don’t hurt YOUR feelings we are going to use a hypothetical situation with your ex girlfriend. You would get annoyed to if you told a child to stop screaming in the middle of a crowded store and they refused to do so.


Now, most men freak out upon hearing this and determine that they have little to no chance of succeeding in their quest to win the love of their life back.
You still do have a chance of getting your ex girlfriend back but you need to do exactly as I say because we are walking a very fine line here and one misstep and you could screw the whole thing up. Are you ready for me to teach you how to get your girlfriend back if she says she needs space from you? Ok, the first thing you need to understand are the two approaches that men usually employ in situations like this. One of the coolest things about running a successful website in the relationship niche is the fact that I get to talk with a lot of you. For example, one of the things that I have learned about you is that I can tell you right here, right now that you will have NO shot of getting your ex girlfriend back whatsoever and you will still try to get her back. This is all fake of course (you probably really do have a good shot of getting her back) but it’s kind of impressive when you think about it.
I mean, how many people out there are willing to put this type of effort into their relationships? Oh, another thing I have learned about you guys is that when a woman tells you that she needs space and you determine that you want to get her back you will try to get her back in one of two ways. In order for me to fully explain this to you we are going to have to operate under a few assumptions.
Because what I am about to talk about is something that is a little more advanced so if you haven’t read any of my books, EGR PRO or The Texting Bible I suggest you drop what you are doing right now, read them, and then come back to this article since what I am about to say next will make more sense to you. Alright, now that we have the two assumptions out of the way lets talk about the aggressive approach.
Hardcore No Contact- The type of no contact where a man (or woman) enters and doesn’t come out until the other person contacts them after the designated day they have set.
Of course, we all know what happens to the GNATS of the world when it comes to ex girlfriends. Notice how the value chain slowly intensifies as it moves from texting to phone calls to a small in person interaction and then ends with a romantic interaction. I am talking about little bold things here or there like building attraction in the right way. And this is a problem when it comes to getting a girlfriend back who told you that she needed space. Well, I think it’s arrogant and your ex girlfriend is definitely not going to find this attractive at all.
The truth is that the passive way of getting an ex girlfriend back is a dumbed down version of the aggressive method of getting your ex girlfriend back. Fun fact, I once had a guy contact me (via email) with a 30 day plan on how he was going to improve himself during his no contact rule.
Well, I am going to reserve that for later though I promise that it’s going to be good. You see, passive men would opt for indirect actions as opposed to direct actions when it comes to building attraction and that’s simply not going to cut it. Well, that means that when it comes to the value chain (which I posted a nice little graphic on above) the passive men take too long.
Sure, giving a woman her space when she tells you that she needs it is probably a good idea BUT you can’t ever get her back if you give her too much space. Was said to describe how opposite or contrary forces are actually complimentary and interconnected. Well, I can’t think of a better way to describe what I am about to teach you than using some basic Chinese philosophy.
But what if I told you that there was a way that we could take the best aspects of each plan so that they complimented each other (just like Yin and Yang are supposed to in Chinese Philosophy) to create the perfect game plan. A hybrid game plan that works perfectly for getting your ex girlfriend back if she told you that she needs space? I have had to stay up every single night with her just so my wife can get sleep and it prevents me from getting any sleep.
Now, I had an opportunity to go to bed three hours earlier BUT I wanted to make sure that I got this article out by the time the weekend started and to be honest I really do enjoy writing these articles but I am running out of steam here. The first thing it is going to accomplish is give your ex girlfriend the space she says she wants.
Basically you want to improve yourself to become the best version of yourself that ever existed. Now, according to people who peddle the law of attraction stuff you basically are born with a superpower. You think something and if you believe it enough and feel the emotions in your heart then it will become a reality for you. Nevertheless, I read up about it and was trying to figure out why so many people seem to be claiming that they were having success with the law of attraction. This struck me as interesting as I had once heard about the power of visualization with Olympic athletes.
You see, scientists were interested in seeing how powerful visualization in athletes was so they decided to monitor brain activity of an athlete actually competing in their sport and an athlete not doing anything but visualizing it.
So, why not use the visualization aspect of the law of attraction to your advantage when trying to get your ex girlfriend back?
Now, I talked about the value chain above with the aggressive strategy and the passive strategy and how each of those strategies failed to properly utilize the VC to it’s fullest.
The key to the value chain is finding a happy medium somewhere in between the aggressive and passive styles.
Now, I have written how to properly utilize the value chain here so I recommend you check out that guide if you want a more in-depth look at how VC is supposed to work.
What I would like to do now is talk about where boldness and confidence comes into play here. If you look at the graphic of the value chain above you will notice that there are two big parts to it. Part One: The fact that you cannot advance to the next level without first completing the level that you are in. Part Two: In order to complete the level that you are in you need to build attraction with your girlfriend.
It’s always scary taking a risk from jumping from the comfort of texting to the uncertainty of talking on the phone and that is one area where the aggressive strategy shines. If you look at the value chain graphic I posted above you will notice there are only three big level jumps. So, you have to be bold to make those jumps and men who are passive aren’t bold enough to make them. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back.
So I lied to my girlfriend and she caught e going online talking to women and through thr course of a year we broke up and got back together very quickly until now.March 1st we broke up and she had me move out and said she couldnt trust me and she was so upset because she loves me and never wnted this and either did I. I met this girl online we became friends and talked on facetime for 7 months until I flew out to meet her.
She doesn't have much hope for the future so wants the time and space to think about her options, all the while keeping you there waiting just in case she decides to come back. If you do, you enter a very vague no man's land where the relationship becomes very difficult to define.


Since you are fully committed it is her decision to leave and her decision to come back or not.
If she tells you that she wants space, and in her mind this means seeing other people that needs to be clear and upfront. If she refused to have that conversation and things are in limbo then you might be on the hook.
Even if you do talk she probably isn't going to make much logical sense and might be quite emotional. If she is genuinely interested in continuing the relationship she won't make you wait too long. Perhaps it's clear that she just doesn't have the courage to actually pull the break up trigger. It can be very empowering to say, "I'm not going to take any of your games," and turn things around on her. But you are not going to wait around forever and you certainly aren't going to sit on her hook while she considers whether she has better options. But eventually if she hasn't normalized things and ended her desire for space then you will need to think about ending the relationship. Emotional insecurity is not something that a healthy man should have, especially insecurities in relationships. No, you want to do everything in your power to win her back and if that means being aggressive then so be it. Now, as I explained above, thoughts are very powerful as they can make you either feel good or bad. Causing your ex girlfriend to go through this process is not a winning strategy to get an ex back. And as a result of the conversations that I have had with you guys I have learned a lot about your mentality. For example, if they are doing a 30 day no contact rule and their ex contacts them on day 15 then they ignore. Now, I suppose that isn’t anything too out of the ordinary but what was remarkable was the fact that he created a graphic to go along with it.
They wanted you to feel the feelings that you would feel and they wanted you to do this continually. I’m just trying to understand the why and the psychology of giving the space and why it works better. Before, it was platonic but then we had sex twice while I was out there and everything was fine until I flew back home.
We broke up four months ago and since then I have been on the quest to get her back and I have been very successful thanks to your advice. If she wants to keep things as they are but just not see you for a while this is a good sign. Make sure she isn't sleeping around while you are stuck on her hook, chastely waiting for her to come back when she has no intention of it. It will take her by surprise for sure since she then concedes the position of power to you. Even when she ends it you may come to realize quite soon that it's a good thing she is out of your life.
Of course, since the thought that your ex had was about the breakup it is going to make her feel bad (square two.) Now, I also explained that human beings run towards good feelings and away from bad feelings. Now, the way I teach the no contact rule is a lot different than most people but men who employ the aggressive strategy don’t often heed my advice and go into a hardcore no contact. However, if their ex doesn’t contact them until day 61 then that would be when they end their hardcore no contact. I broke up with my 3.5 month long girlfriend two days ago because of repeat offenses of the same things (ignoring me for long periods of time, promising to contact me at certain times and then not doing so, backsliding on a couple other things she said she would stop, avoiding my confrontation of her actions even when I did it peacefully), and because of numerous hours of not communicating with me or answering any questions, I assumed an unspoken breakup and removed her from my contacts and friends. And then right away instead of giving her space I got her to go on a date with me asked her out again way too quick broke down like crazy (while also going to sex addict anonymous meetings) and now she really needs space.
Then this last month april i finally started to listen and gave her space and went two weeks with out texting or calling no contact until 15 days out and i broke and text her to see if she could talk. She said she regretted it but we both agreed we had feelings for each but because of our distance we should be friends with benefits.
She liked me again and wanted to start talking again, I was so happy but I told myself not to rush things. You can only talk about the kids and other important stuff but no small talk or about each other and you have to be busy and try to do other things, improve your look and other aspects in life.. When on the phone she said she was starting to heal and i told her look im sorry and i reall love you and want to live the rest of my life with you. This attachment and inability to get over your ex can last for years and while it continues it affects every relationship that you enter.
Shelistened to me go on and on and was crying saying she was just so sad and didnt know how she could possibly believe me again. But to do so you need to own the problem, stop making excuses and put the onus on yourself to sort it out.
She said you are still thinking about yourself when i asked you for space so i could heal, I said i was sorry i just want to show you who i really am and i want to be true to you forever. They did but not because I slept with her, I noticed she had a box of condoms in her room, I tried to ignore it but I couldn’t help it. She has been unresponsive (and I do believe she’s already talking to other guys online). One day I texted her about it and she said we weren’t exclusive yet and that she can still do what ever she wants. So I agreed and said I would do anything for her, but i am so sad I know she was the one and Im affriad that ill let go now and Im scared of what will happen. I lost it, I told her I never want to speak to her again and told her how cold she was knowing that I has feelings for her.
The next day I apologized telling her I miss understood what we had, she just told me she needed space. Look I know I will treat her right im ready for that but here i am 2 days no contact again and scared of how to handle this. I tried to convince her not to leave but nothing I said worked, she said she will contact me when she is ready.
Whenever I am hurt by someone who wrongs me, the longer they go without apologizing or making it right the more resentment builds up inside me. If I prevented them from doing so or ignored them doing so, that just seems outright counterintuitive. When she does contact me, should I just start over or should I ask her what her reason for contacting me again, to be friends or to try to work things out? I know a lot of this getting your ex back stuff is counterintuitive, but this one thing seems really out there.
I thought we humans want broken things fixed asap, and if they aren’t fixed soon enough, THAT’S when we go looking for something else?



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