The only way that I can justify giving you my help is if you have a legitimate reason for getting back together with your ex. Here is the deal, before you try to get your ex boyfriend back (if he cheated on you) I am going to ask you to do something that may be a little unorthodox.
You are in a very unique situation so I am going to ask you implement the no contact rule for an entirely different reason. If after that amount of time you still want to get your ex back then I say you should go right ahead.
Since we are dealing with someone who cheated on you the thing you really need to figure out is if he is the type of person that will cheat on a moments notice. The time has come, you have waited, hopefully 45 days, and it is finally time to try and start getting your ex boyfriend back. Alright, now that I have that out of the way lets dive in to how you should contact your ex boyfriend after 45 days. What is going to happen is that when you finally do decide to contact them they are going to be filled with joy.
Before I move on I am going to take a few moments to go through each of the choices and explain why texting is the way to go. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
But if I did want him back would asking him to leave ruin my chances of getting him back or make him miss his comfort of his previous living arrangements with me (increasing the chances of him coming back)?
Me and my boyfriend been dating for only 4 months now but during this time we argue and fight about one thing all the time which is his ex.
Probably is, I begged and constantly messaged and texted him non stop and he told me he wouldn’t read any of my emails and going to change his number. My ex cheated on me and I knew about the other woman but he insisted there was nothing going on. If you want to get your ex boyfriend to talk to you again then you are going to have to do some work. What is the first thing that you want to do after a breakup, especially if you aren’t ok with it?
So, if you want to get on speaking terms with your ex again you are going to have to do things that aren’t perceived as needy or desperate. Rather than texting or facebooking your ex every five minutes, a woman who wants to take control of the situation with her ex will implement something called a no contact rule. The no contact rule is supposed to accomplish more than just cutting yourself off from your ex.
Of course, I will admit that the probability of a friend seeing you and squealing to your ex that you look amazing isn’t very high. If you implement the no contact rule like I suggest above I would estimate that 40% of the time your ex will reach out and try to talk to you.
The goal of this page is to get your ex to talk to you again and as you can see, the no contact rule alone can accomplish that feat. In the event that your ex doesn’t get back in touch with you then you are going to have to take matters into your own hands a little bit.
Before I dive in to the rules of texting your ex I think it is important to mention that YOU SHOULD ONLY TEXT YOUR EX AFTER THE NO CONTACT RULE. It’s all about control, you want to control every aspect of the conversation you can. If you want to get back on speaking terms with him then you have to understand that you need to keep your first few texts to him very short.
No matter what he says to you DO NOT fall into the trap of responding to him, not yet anyways. His interest is already raised because you sent him the confession text already but I want his interest raised even more.
Look, I am a guy and when I really like a girl that I am texting I can’t help but look at my phone every five seconds waiting for her response to my most recent text. So, he’s responded to your confession text, you’ve waited the full hour, now what? There will be a small percentage of women whose boyfriends are so angry with them that they won’t respond even if they have waited a month via NC and sent the ideal text message.
I want you to understand that I wrote this page with it’s sole intent being to help YOU get back on speaking terms with your ex. I did the NC rule and when i contacted him he replied within second, we always have good conversation but I’m the first one who always initiate the conversation. What if he says the reason why we broke up is because I’m too affectionate do I still do Nc rule?? We had a good story I don’t know why is so reluctant and why one month ago he answered also to see each other!
As you can see, Option Three provides the only option in which you do not end up crying softly.
You’re texting your ex for a very specific reason (ahem Step 1) so get on with it already. Getting to the point leave no room for uncertainty or grey area and prevents you from getting sucked in to an awful long texting conversation. 5 Please log in to voteAlso, if your ex has a common name, it’s a good idea to change her name in your phone.
In this section I am going to give you some insight into the male psyche so you can understand why a man will cheat on you.
As stated above, you are going to have to decide if you want to take your ex boyfriend back. Now, before I go into some long explanation about each step you should take I do feel it is important to mention that I have put together a HUGE resource on how to get your ex back here.
They have waited all this time to hear from you and when that moment finally comes they are going to be so excited that they will probably run up and down the stairs and do all the things that guys do when they are happy. As I have said multiple times throughout this site, you have to earn the right to call your ex or in this case, your ex has to earn the right to call you.
Can you imagine getting a letter after 45 days of no contact from someone that you thought didn’t want to talk to you?
I had been dating this guy for 6 months and everything has been pretty good for the most part.
We’ve been in a long distance relationship but seeing each other once or twice every month and using Skype to communicate every day in between. We are not living together, we just see each other at school, in our dates, and in family occasions.
And by seeing, do you mean they’re togerher for sure or he’s just talking to her? I guess its not so effective coz im still somewhere around… He still lives here coz of contract for apt. Finally I ended our 5 year relationship one day when she called his cell phone when we were together and he tried to lower the volume and act like it was someone else. Just be consistent and be clear with yourself with what you want and what you can’t control. I am assuming, since you are reading this page on my site, that right now you and your ex boyfriend aren’t on speaking terms.
You probably want to contact your ex, ask how he is doing, beg a little bit and eventually get upset because he isn’t giving you the time of day. Most people don’t respond well to silence and if your ex feels like you are ignoring him, which you are, he will go a little crazy trying to get a hold of you. If you weren’t on speaking terms with him immediately after the breakup then hopefully the minimum time frame of 30 days will have settled him down enough for him to accept and respond to your texts.


By sending him the confession text and getting him to check his phone every five minutes waiting for your response you are going to reinforce the behavior that he is used to when he has strong feelings for a girl. I feel I have accomplished that by showing you some very effective methods to get him to talk to you again. In that time I said to him that we could see each other when I was free… to not appear too needy and too available to see him but a week after when I asked him to go out he said that maybe we could see after my graduation.
It doesn’t matter how long it has been, how bad your break-up was or the number of years since you both agreed to never speak again. While there are many times you might want to text your ex, it’s rare that you truly need to. If your ex-girlfriend has recently lost a loved one it is much more appropriate to call or send a condolence card than a tacky text message.
Texting her instead of a friend with the same name can lead to some really awkward situations.
I have found that a lot of the women who I have worked with who have been cheated on decide not to get their ex boyfriends back because they feel a lot better about themselves after they read the process on this page.
If that is really what you are looking for then I urge you to check out the Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO system that I am always going on and on about. Obviously, there are a lot of different reasons that a man will ultimately decide to cheat on his girlfriend but I would have to say that the most common reason would be because he is just plain horny. You clearly came here because you want your ex boyfriend back and I want to help you do that but above all I want to help YOU. If you are familiar with my site then you know I am a really big believer in the no contact rule. You may find that after 45 days you just don’t have the same desire you did to get him back when you first started the NC period. I can go days, sometimes months without checking certain emails (I have multiple.) Secondly, there is no way that you can get an instant response. He has never introduced me to his family but talks about them all the time as he is really close to them.
We are just any other couple, we have some fights but i know we are happy until one day everything changes. Then it seems everything was getting better but when I asked him if its fine with us, he replied not really. I’m devastated we are both madly in love with each other and our 1st loves I just don’t understand how u can leave the love of your life for someone u just met ! I asked whether he still like her and want to be with her or not he said no they just friend. Either you continue doing this until you get fed up, or muster up the courage to respect and love yourself..
He said after the fact that he felt all the constant talking and texting we did felt forced and obligated. Every single day I get a minimum of at least twenty emails from women who are all over the place emotionally because they aren’t on speaking terms with their ex. I want to tell you something about men, seeing as how I am one and know what it is like when a girl contacts me in the way I described above. However, you have to send your text a certain way and you have to understand that the more disciplined you are during your conversation with him the better off you will be. Even if you came up with the most fascinating text in the world you wouldn’t be his top priority.
I have wished him happy easter and nothing, today I have asked him how’s going his thesis because he will get graduate and nothing.
Of course, I still want you to read this page because it contains valuable information on understanding the mind of a cheating boyfriend and how to approach the situation you are in. While I think it says a lot about the advancement of humans that we have slowly developed into a race that seeks out a significant other we weren’t originally intended to do so.
Which leads us to the next section.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Now, the whole point of the no contact rule was to NOT contact your ex so you aren’t exactly allowed to respond to them after they contact you during the initial 45 day period.
You have to say just the right thing at just the right time for things to work out the way you want them to.
He has also never met my family but in my culture it’s improper unless marriage is around the corner. Three weeks ago, just before we even had our 8 month celebration, i’ve found out that she has another girlfriend, they have been in relationship for a month. How to say in a best way I don’t like the situation we are at at the moment without giving him ultimatum?
He says he has a better connection with her than me and that I should move on and start a new relationship. But to me and everyone else they more like they in a long distance relationships more than a friend ?? I want to break up and end everything with my boyfriend but I can’t i keep going back and forgove him. I can understand that because ldr is hard, and it was easy to be with her while I was far away. To men, any sign of neediness or desperation, and make no mistake about it, begging and crying display those qualities, are a complete turn off.
Men are very visual creatures and I am not going to lie to you, they will have no problem breaking up with a girl if they are… overweight, have skin issues or if they consider them to be too ugly. Because if there is anything I have learned in my years here on earth it is that friends are blabber mouths ;). You have his attention and now it is time for you to send him something positive that will fill him with good romantic feelings towards you.
He needs more space and you are going to have to wait some more time before you reach out to him again. If you want to learn more about how to get your ex back then I suggest you visit my complete guide on doing so.
And if you’ve already made the (possibly inadvisable!) decision to do so, then at least you can do it in the least life-damaging way possible. If you hem and haw for too long your ex might get the wrong message and respond accordingly. If you are new to my site then just a warning, every single page I write goes far more in-depth than my peers.
That means you can’t text, email, facebook, google plus or talk to your ex on the phone. However, the biggest disadvantage for calling an ex is the fact that you could potentially get angry, raise your voice and start a fight if something is said that you don’t like.
He said that he wants to be with me,but he doesn’t know about the love thing because he recently got his break up.
I have been to his house a couple times, but since he travels a lot for work, I usually just travel with him or he comes to my state to visit me. The girl was into him and I felt a bit threatened… Fortunately the girl left the country and our relationship were back to good sweet days.
Is it just sign of feeling guilty or he has strong feelings for me and still wants to take care of me? We haven’t talked for a month, barely seen each other coz I made myself extremely busy! Of course, before I dive in to the good stuff there are a few things that I need to make you aware of.
Of course, there will always be the oddball guy that is so pathetic that he actually feeds off of making women beg and cry but usually those are very rare.
Successfully completing the NC rule for a minimum of 30 days is going to take a tremendous amount of discipline.


That means, if his friends think you are looking better than ever then he will eventually hear it and get curious. You can bet your butt that your ex boyfriend, no matter how bad the breakup was, will be looking at your profile.
By waiting an hour the chances of him checking his phone for your response every five minutes is raised drastically.
Now, no matter what happens after that I want you to end this conversation thread with him by not responding. Also, I am very involved with this site so if you leave a comment I will be responding to it. The conversations seemed mechanical, sometimes emotional but he never wanted to discuss what happened etc. Every page draws upon in-depth research (from experts), stories from women who have had success and my own personal experience. He seems to be moving further away from me day by day, which means getting more involved with that girl. Just like any normal girlfriend I harras him by text message begging him to take me back and all I did was get ignored.
But he was very absent there, didn’t even keep an eye contact with me, seems to be a totally different person.
So, what better way for you to show off the new you to him by taking a picture and posting it on your profile? Most importantly, is there someone else you can contact about this issue other than your ex?
So, rather than write more filler content I would prefer to talk about the stuff that can actually do something for you! In fact, there is a time and a place to use calling as a way to contact your ex but only after your ex earns the right for you to call them.
Problem is this is the 2nd time (first time was after the first year) I acknowledge that I may have driven him to think about cheating.
When I went to his house he was still at the office (unbeknownst to me) and another girl answered the door and proceeded to tell me she was his girlfriend. It’s a bit awkward to txt him, because I can just talk to him if I want since we still live in the same apartment.
It’s unfortunate too because the NC rule is probably the most effective tactic that you can use to not only get your ex boyfriend back but to get on speaking terms with him.
I feel I do a good job of explaining when the proper time to call is in the link I provided at the beginning of this section. I prevent breaking up saying I do not believe in all of this and that he is confused now and I wait for him to be back to his old self. I want you to show that you are in control of the conversation and you have the power, not him. Each time it happened after I had pushed every possible button I could, simply because I felt I was not getting enough attention & then I even resorted to flirting subtlely on fb with someone in a mutual group.
I exchanged numbers with her and left as I was in a rush to get out and she kept asking me questions. He used to initiate but for the past month, it seems like I’m the only one initiating.
I acknowledge I have a problem & I need to work on that but I love him so very much but unsure of what to do.
There are few more factors as well, he recently graduate and didn’t get a job he dreams about. Is it because he somehow miss me or used to know about every of my step, or just checking out of curiosity.
He wants me to beg for him back and said I have tall orders to ask for anything for myself right now since he is still deciding on rather or not he wants a relationship with me. Should I wait a bit more before I reveal I know about everything and hope that newest and excitement factor wear of and he will give up on her? Someone please give me some guidance or motivation he is the love of my life and I’m so crushed that he’s left me for a girl he just met ! When I initiate, he would respond late, the next day, carry on the conversation for a bit and then just stop replying me. When i asked him as to why he did that, he said that he came to a point where he got confused, he questioned his self if this is still what he wants, if we are really for each other.
Or tell straight away and tell him he has to make up his mind what he wants to do with his life? She had been living with him since after we had started dating, and apparently I had been the other girl at the time. Should I still confront him about the other girl or just leave it and wait if he comes up with breaking up?
I’m going to continue NC mostly to help me with my problem but should I forgive the cheating & try once more? Meaning, he was sleeping with the both of us up until the time the two of us became official.
All the fights we had because of school, the pressure to graduate, the moments we didn’t have time for each other because of our situation, and the lost in communication. Then it transitioned and he tried to break it off with the ‘original girl’ and had even stopped sleeping with her (this was confirmed by her as well).
I blame myself because i didn’t saw what he is going through before, but i still think it is not right that he cheated on me.
He was basically living with a girl who was his ex in his eyes, but she still wanted him even though they weren’t having sex after he and I became official and he asked her to leave multiple times (this was also confirmed by her).
Unfortunately I told him he means all to me, and I’m willing to work on our relationship to get it back on the track (probably another mistake). We were about to move back to his home town together and that would be a huge change for me. Oh and I should mention, 2 days after I left from driving to surprise him, he finally made her move out since she lives in a whole other country. I personally want to forgive him, i still love him, and i want us to have our second chance but i want it to come from him coz he is the one that caused this.
Since he didn’t initiated anything for us, i just want to be distant, to show him that im strong. I think he got scared of us getting too serious since he is not ready for getting married yet and he is thinking this is the think I really want now or I will want if I move in with him to his hometown(which means moving the country). We are still in our last year in college, we are thesis partners and we are required to do it together, see each other every now and then.. Especially since they were among a list of things I told him men usually do to apologize since he wasn’t doing anything but explaining or more defending himself (which was the most annoying).
He was living a double life, and had even given the girl one of his cars (a Benz) thinking she would leave more easily. Sorry for the rant, next question: how do I know he’s sorry?… I don’t feel he’s working hard to get me back. Before I forget, even though they weren’t intimate, he admitted they had been sleeping in the same bed the whole time even though there are four other bed rooms in the house.



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