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We all have hormones in our bodies that direct a lot of what happens in our bodies without our even knowing it. As women, we’re over this part of our hormonal histories already, but we still need hormones in order to do certain things.
One of the most famous hormones related to men and their ability to bond with women is oxytocin. It can be hard to tell if someone is growing attached to another person because they’ve been having lots of important experiences together, which have bonded them … or if they are first attracted to someone else (with oxytocin), and are therefore experiencing more emotional, engaging activities together (going on dates, having sex, etc.) as a result.
But the key here is that scientists who study oxytocin and the brain chemistry of love and attachment, say either or both can happen. In this way … we can conclude that no matter which happens first … you can induce oxytocin to take hold in the brain. Asking personal questions and giving your own personal accounts to the same questions can help produce more oxytocin. You need to make him think you are literally the most interesting woman he’s ever met, and to do that, you need a few tricks up your sleeve. Make Him Desire You shows you everything you need to know about getting men to fall in love with you. Whether he’s already on the path to being into you or has no idea you exist right now … you can change his view and literally make him fall at your feet with this program. As bad as your break up might be, nothing will make you feel more hurt or angry than to find out your girlfriend has been cheating during your relationship. If your ex was seeing another guy on the side while she was still dating you, your relationship was doomed no matter what you tried to do.
Beyond that, the other signs that your girlfriend is cheating will be a little more obvious. If your girlfriend is exhibiting any of the above signs, it doesn't necessarily mean she's going outside of your relationship or seeing another guy. Before you begin on the quest to get back your ex girlfriend, you'll certainly want to know if it's worth it. Learning whether or not she cheated during your original relationship will be more difficult.
It's always good to look at the glass as half full, and a positive attitude always helps with anything you plan to do. The following two guides are extremely helpful to determine whether or not you're being cheated on. This incredibly popular manual shows you how to look up strange phone numbers, retrieve deleted text messages, and track emails. Tailored to fit your own relationship situation, learn shortcut strategies to winning her back by drawing out your ex's true feelings for you. This entry was posted in Articles, Asia and tagged Asia, Bangkok, Kathoey, Pattaya, Phuket, Thailand on April 1, 2013 by Alex Cardo. My Thai Girlfriend is 29 and works as a chemical engineer at an oil refinery, she works hard and even has a shop with several employees, and has just brought herself a brand new pickup truck.
I would just add that having lived in Asia for many years that the most important thing to remember when dating an Asian girl is the huge difference in culture and the way western and Asian minds work. If you dont adapt your doomed, never expect them to adapt to your way of thinking if you want to make a success of the relationship. What might be a funny comment to you or a western girl might be taken completely the wrong way and believe me you have never seen a temper tantrum until you seen an Asian girls. And If you really want to impress your girl and her family then pick up some tools and fix their Fence or repair a door it worth far more brownie points than any of those guys get who think spending money will impress them. No matter how hard you look you are going to be hard pressed to find an article covering the topic of how you can keep an ex boyfriend once you get him back. Oh, it might be a good idea for me to introduce what we are going to be covering on this page. This very long and in-depth page is going to teach you exactly what you need to do to keep your ex boyfriend once you get him back. Everything that is going to be talked about on this page is going to done under the pretense that you have already gotten your ex boyfriend back. Look, if you are wanting to get your ex back but you find yourself confused by where to start let me make your life a million times easier.
When you meet someone for the first time there are probably a certain set of rules that you apply to paint yourself in the best light possible so that person will want to date you. So, when it comes to keeping a boyfriend vs keeping an ex boyfriend the same type of logic applies. One of the advantages to dating someone the first time around is that your record is completely clean.
I think the fact that everything is so new and unknown can become pretty exciting in a relationship. Of course, there will always be a certain segment of men who jump from relationship to relationship just to feel that newness but eventually the newness will wear off and therein lies the ultimate problem. You see, it is really easy to keep a relationship going when everything is new and exciting. The newness principle is the biggest advantage that women who want to keep their boyfriend (that they are dating for the first time) have over women who want to keep their ex boyfriend.
So, this begs an interesting question, what is the allure of getting back in a relationship with your ex boyfriend? In my opinion it all has to do with the emotional connection that you felt with your ex during your first relationship. The number one mistake I see couples making when they get into a relationship with their ex is picking up right where they left off.
In other words, if the reason a couple broke up in the first place was because of arguments the same exact arguments will occur all over again the second time around.
How can you create a new relationship when you and your ex boyfriend have so much negative history already?
The truth is that you are going to be wasting your energies if you focus on trying to get your boyfriends forgiveness. Sadly this is a pretty common occurrence when you get back into a relationship with your ex. It’s like this is the dark side of getting an ex boyfriend back that no one really like talks about. When you get into a new relationship with your ex boyfriend you cannot run the same type of a race again.
This is the one that I am the most familiar with because it is the one that I have a lot of experience with.
Well, let me start off by saying that I think fighting and arguing is normal for any relationship.
In fact, I remember I was so disappointed with how that relationship went that I made a pact with myself. The point of this is that the fighting and arguing that occurred with my very first girlfriend was very cruel. It was because of this and a lot of other little reasons that I took my frustrations out on her in the form of fighting and arguing. My dad, who has been married to my mom for close to 30 years told me something once that really stuck with me.
If you have a lot more good experiences than fights and arguments then the chances are high that you are in a very good relationship.
I have thought a lot about what I want to talk about here so I am just going to hit you with it.
This whole guide was created with one goal in mind, to teach you how you can keep an ex boyfriend. Well, I would like to call upon our favorite new couple Mike and Jenny to act out another example for us. They overreact over something very tiny and have this overemotional outburst which in turn starts drama.
Personally, I think this is the biggest mistake that gets made over and over again in a new relationship. Now, I don’t know about you but most women I know are NOT comfortable with the mock situation I just presented you with.
The first thing I would like to touch on is the fact that men are going to look at other women no matter what.
While I am an extremely loyal type of person I will admit that I might look at another woman here and there. Here is the important thing to remember though, most of the time this fantasizing is harmless. I am not exactly an expert at this particular subject because I have never cheated on anyone. I think if your ex boyfriend cheated on you then you are going to have a hard time trusting him. Look, we are all humans here and one thing I have learned about humans is that we all make mistakes. No matter what there will be some guys that don’t treat women the way they should be treated. If he cheated on you three times with three different women I want you to take a good hard look at your relationship.
You may think that this is a little demeaning to say but I assure you there is a method to my madness. Sometimes an ex boyfriend who has been cheated on will have a lot of doubts so you need to clear his mind of those doubts. What if I literally wrote an entire section in the guide on how to become the perfect girlfriend? Well, it basically means that after you read this section you are going to understand exactly what you need to do to keep your boyfriend intrigued.
Oh, and I am not talking about good memories like that one time that you both went to the movie. Imagine if every time your boyfriend thought of you he thought of that ONE time where you gave him butterflies. Now I want you to imagine if every time your boyfriend thought of you he thought of the HUNDREDS of times where you gave him butterflies. In this section I would like to tackle an area that may be considered a little controversial, how men think a perfect girlfriend needs to look. Women have a tendency to look amazing when they are single but they kind of don’t when they are dating a guy.


One of the biggest complaints that my male friends and I have when we are in relationships is the fact that women no longer dress up for us. Look, I am not saying that you have to dress up every single time you see your new boyfriend. If you dressed up super nice for your boyfriend every single day then there is no intrigue anymore.
The only woman in the house was my mom and I seriously don’t know how she put up with us all. Here is the deal though, I am a guy, I know NOTHING about perfumes or whatever it is that makes you ladies smell so good. I think everyone who has learned a thing or two about living in this crazy world tries to surround themselves with a small inner circle of friends. I don’t know how else to put this other than YOUR LIFE WILL BE SO MUCH EASIER IF THE INNER CIRCLE LOVES YOU! Well, in the movie there is a scene where Will Smith is teaching Kevin James what he needs to do to successfully date a woman. One thing I have learned through interacting with tens of thousands of women on this site is that being at a mans beck and call can be a dangerous proposition.
But I think the biggest issue with having a man be the center of your world is that if he does leave you the effect it can have on your life is devastating.
Every once in a while tell your boyfriend that you can’t hang out with him because you have to catch up with the girls.
Who knew that such a simple word could have such a huge impact on almost every relationship you have in your life.
I am going to get bold for a moment and say that over half of the relationships that I deal with (through this website) could have been saved if one person was a better communicator. That means that for you to have a long lasting relationship with your boyfriend BOTH of you have to learn to communicate. So, when it comes to communication I think you need to focus your efforts on being the best communicator you possibly can. What I am about to talk about may not technically apply to your situation but the overall idea does. I play video games, watch cartoons and sometimes even go on the marathon movie watching sprees for Star Wars and Harry Potter. Now women constantly look to me for advice and on more than one occasion I have had women actively pursue me romantically. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. Hi there, ok so just under 3 months ago my boyfriend left me to be with another girl and she was pregnant (to him) and he ended up getting engaged after pressure from her family.
Some are responsible for our moods while others take care of things like making sure we get through puberty alive. And by doing that … you can create a bond of romantic attachment that is firm and strong between you … and whatever man you desire.
So you need to watch out, and keep the engagements you have positive, tight-knit, warm, comfortable, happy, and … sexy (if possible). For that reason, going to a scary movie or to a haunted house together might be a great idea for you two. You need to be careful with this because you don’t want to seem nosy, so it might be better to start with something heartfelt that you know they have experienced and give your own account so that you can bond in this way. You will want to get as close as possible to this person to help increase the chances that you might touch physically. Photo by Garry Knight How to find girlfriend in Thailand: 3 wrong ways and 1 right way So you want to go to Thailand. Many people make the mistake of thinking that keeping an ex boyfriend is the same thing as keeping a boyfriend that you are dating for the first time, it’s not. What makes this site different from the thousands of others out there is the fact that I don’t pull any punches.
When you are trying to get an ex boyfriend back there are a different set of rules that you have to follow in order to get that person back. New TV shows, new episodes, new video games, new relationships, the newness of a relationship, etc. It’s like you go through this period of obsessiveness where every little thing your significant other does just fascinates you.
You see, with ex boyfriends your biggest disadvantage is that in a way your story with your boyfriend has already been written.
Likely your ex boyfriend would want to come back to you because he knows he can’t do better.
The keyword here is forgiveness and in case you are wondering I am not talking about forgiveness from his side I am talking about it from YOUR side! A few months ago I was talking to one of the women who actually got her ex boyfriend back and she was explaining to me that the relationship that she was experiencing was different. When I first started this site I didn’t even comprehend that stuff like this could happen. In this section we are going to spend our time talking about how you can establish a better relationship. If you were running a race and you lost you are going to want to prepare to make sure that you don’t lose again. I would now like to talk a look at the type of behaviors that you cannot fall back into if you want to create that new and better relationship. Now, I will admit I never try to make a mistake but when I do I always try to take a glass half full approach. Believe me, the first three years I went to that school I was sure I was never going to get a girlfriend so I was more than thrilled that I got a girl to care enough to date me.
For the rest of my life I will never yell at a woman (no matter how much she may deserve it).
Eventually I got so fed up of the endless process and what it was doing to me emotionally that I ended the relationship. I had just come home after a really bad fight with that girlfriend and he had noticed that I was down.
However, if your relationship is riddled with more fights than good experiences then that relationship can be ruined.
You see, even a year ago I would have told you that I can’t stand over emotional people but this site has changed my mind a little bit. I remember thinking that there must be something wrong with her because no normal person is this emotional this soon.
This means we are talking about a situation where you are already in a relationship with your ex. They are on the same wavelength on a lot of different things and both see themselves being together for a long time. Being able to trust a man you are dating essentially means that you are comfortable with him being in a room full of beautiful beautiful women. My friend has been dating his girlfriend for about 5 years and let me tell you that they absolutely adore each other.
The main point I want you to take away from this is the fact that even though your ex boyfriend may be fantasizing about other women YOU are the one that he wants to be with at the end of the day.
It is plausible that your ex boyfriend made a mistake and it was a one time thing and that was it. These are the types of guys that will cheat on their girlfriends and have no problem with it. To be honest, I didn’t think it would be this much work to get to this section but here we are.
I thought maybe I could list qualities one by one that you need to display but where is the fun in that? However, while you may understand what you need to do actually doing it is not going to be as easy as you think.
Most likely, he will think something like “I have seen her dress up like this a million times. If you were to dress up nice only every once in a while (but enough to keep your boyfriend thinking that you still dress up for him a lot) you have found a sweet spot that will cause him to just fall for you even more. They are my best friends and I take their advice seriously because I know they care about my well being.
You were there for him when he wakes up in the morning, you cooked for him, followed him around to parties, had sex with him whenever he wanted. Having him as the center of YOUR world is not a good idea because a couple of things are going to happen.
I have had to talk too many women down from the edge in my life because of men trouble and quite frankly I am tired of it.
It’s funny though, before this crazy ride started I was under the impression that women were incredible communicators. What I have found is that if one person is a good communicator it opens the other person up a lot more and allows them to communicate better. Don’t hide things, just give him the hardcore truth and I promise you that he will respect you for it. 3 weeks after we had broken up and after I did no contact with him, he started texting me again telling me he still loved me etc. But we got back together since we ended up in the same country again after 6 months of being separated. In addition, when big events are happening (like having sex with someone), oxytocin is produced.
As opposed to scientists and researchers who are looking at brain scans and spending all their time in the lab, relationship experts and mediators are seeing these things happen in real life right in front of them.
Oxytocin is a social memory enhancement hormone, so … whatever memory is happening between you two … it will be enhanced.
This means that if you start bonding too soon with too much oxytocin, it might cause a man to get too stressed out and anxious.
We’re talking about working the system and showing him what he desires when he doesn’t even know he desires it!
They love the thrill of the hunt, so making him feel like he’s earning you will truly arouse his oxytocin levels. Use all of this advice with the man you’ve got your eye on, and you’ll see how oxytocin may just be your new best “wingman”. For many men this provides an opportunity to get to know a girl before travelling to Thailand. And, if so, what kind of gift should it be to make it the perfect gift?The answer to the first question is YES! I talk about it a lot on this site because it is truly THE blueprint for getting an ex boyfriend back.


That’s when things like fights, disagreements, arguments, cheating and jealousy all start to creep in. You know what being in a relationship is like with your boyfriend and he knows what being in one is like with you. The challenge that you are facing when you get back with an ex boyfriend is to NOT fall back into old habits. I always tell people that what you are trying to create here is a new and better relationship.
If you have baggage from your previous relationship you are not going to be able to do that.
It wasn’t like this when he was practically begging for me back but now he is just so distant.
Of course, doing the same thing you did before will likely yield the same failed racing result so you are probably going to train in a new way. Like I said above, I am basically giving you a blueprint for what NOT to do if you are able to get your ex boyfriend back. Now, at 18 years old I was not what you would call the most mature human being in the world. For one, I was very young and immature so I didn’t know how to properly handle the situation I was in. I remember hating how I felt during arguments with this girl but at the same time I couldn’t bring myself to stop.
You see, my dad and I have an interesting relationship in that I never talk to him about girls so this was probably the first time that I had ever had a serious talk with him about a girl and he laid out some serious knowledge for me.
You see, at their core over emotional people just want one thing, to be accepted for who they are.
I remember thinking that she was actually not bad looking so I quickly got her number… BOY WAS THAT A MISTAKE!
When you are in a relationship with somebody there are two types of emotional women that can turn a guy off. For example, within day 3 of their relationship Jenny had already told Matt that she was in love with him the problem was Matt wasn’t anywhere close to feeling the same type of feelings that Jenny was. However, throughout the course of the relationship Mike begins to notice these red flags with Jenny. You are comfortable with it because you know that since he is dating you he will have the self control to not pick up any of those girls’ numbers.
Look, I am one of the most loyal people in the world and I am not just saying that to say it. It is probably going to be a long drawn out process that is going to require one thing from you, patience. The point of creating these emotional memories in him is that they evoke an emotional response. You see, any pretty girl can give a guy butterflies but it takes a really special one to be able to consistently do it.
I think I spent maybe 70% of my high school career as the quiet kid in the corner not saying a word. Admittedly I have an advantage because I know women a bit more than the average man but still, most women are used to men lying to them or just saying things to get them in bed.
He had bitterness towards me for breaking up with him and hasn’t returned the ring or even mentioned it.
If you can talk about it calmly and present solutions that good but it’s better if you just act on making the relationship better. So a week ago he called off the wedding (2 weeks before the wedding was to take place) and yesterday he told me he wanted to get back together.
When we were in the same city, we started communicated again and got back together within a week. However bearing in mind your advice here the problem with online dating is you cannot be sure if the girl belongs to one of the above categories or not.
If you are looking for a gameplan that literally lays everything out for you step by step then I recommend you start by getting the E-Book.
It is because of the mistakes I have made in the past (and witnessing my friends make many of the same mistakes) that this site even exists. In other words, these are the common mistakes that people fall back into when they find themselves in a relationship with their ex again.
I am going to admit right now that I did not treat that girlfriend anywhere near as well as I should have treated her.
Things began to get weirder when within first month Jenny had told Matt that she wanted to marry him.
For one, she overreacts a lot over very silly things like him going out to see his friends one night instead of spending it in with her. Whenever they tell him something he is going to perk up and listen and sometimes even make decisions based on their recommendations. I am not expecting it at all because I felt like neither of us were ready, we were fighting way too much and we both felt a lot of pressure from our families.. They are all The same, humanity are all The Same, They Culture is different from Western cultures, but that’s why You guys Need to learn YOURSELF, instead of Reading a Blog like this One. However high that bar was set is going to determine that guys next pick of the girl he dates.
This little overreaction turns into an over emotional outburst which eventually leads to an argument. However, when you finally do get that boyfriend slowly but surely you stop dressing up, you stop looking nice because you don’t see the need to anymore.
We also have a 4 year old son I might add, which is another reason this whole situation hurts me more.
We were in a 5 year relationship with the normal amount of arguing… never screaming but once we broke up the first time 10 months ago, our arguing is a lot worse. Ok, so I am taking back an ex boyfriend who cheated on me and left me for the girl he cheated with.
We had met up the night before to have one last dinner so I am wondering if he thought that was his goodbye?
Oh, and not to mention all the other guys she was flirting with but again, that’s another story. I want to handle everything right and don’t want to get overemotional but I am trying my hardest not to let little things bug me. She wants to know that you care enough to put some thought into a gift, not that you can spend your money on something (which any guy can do without much thought.)1.
Since getting back together, I have told myself to trust him, give him space and let him do what he’s gotta do, if it was meant to be, it will be. I would just like to get back to the point of having a good time, laughing and not arguing. Like his facebook status he changed to single, a girl writing on his facebook organising to meet up etc. I know we have only just got back together and I don’t want to make drama but it really bugs me because the next day I saw photos of him on facebook and he was out with his friends at the same time I was about to catch my flight. Listen To HerYou don’t know her that well yet, but if you listen to her, she will tell you everything you need to know about what she wants, needs, or desires.
I don’t want to force it back to how it used to be but I feel like he is a little disinterested. I’m not sure if I should be concerned that he told me in the same conversation that he might come back if we call it quits but when he saw me (I stopped by his place) he asked me if I wanted to try us again.
I have really worked on myself while being on my own, my insecurity since he cheated and trying to gain back that trust again, which is why we split up also, because I couldn’t let the past go.
He has always been guilty of taking me for granted but I know that’s my fault too because I am always too available to him. We are also long distance, in 2 different countries and I will be in his country next week. Do not think that a prostitute – it is only those who are beckoning you to bars and strip clubs. You can findA this type ofA gift by listening to what she complains about.For example, if she complains about how her computer bag is hard to carry, a new computer bag that is easy to carry may be a perfect gift. He is spending a lot more time with his friends or even just staying home when we’re both free.
We’ll last night and today he started messaging me thinking that I had gone out with friends.
Very often in the street you can find a modest girl who did not look like a prostitute. This girl will talk to you, it will be nice to you, smile to you. Or if her alarm clock is annoying her and making her grumpy in the morning because it is so loud, a new, soothingA alarm clock that allows her to wake up with the loud beeping of regular alarm clocks.The point is to think of something that will make her life easier or better.
When you give her the perfect gift, she will be amazed that you listened to her so well and found something to make her life better.3. What Does She Like About You?If you have some gift ideas in mind now, but don’t have the cash to get them, this step will be for you. Does she like you to sing to her, rub her feet, give her hugs, orA do that certain thing in the bedroom? New relationships are full ofA intimate and fun moments, andA the receiver will use the coupon book instead of letting it sit beside their bed.4.
Think About Your RelationshipThe last thing you should do is think about your relationship and some milestones in it. Even if it is a new relationship, there will still be a first kiss, first conversation, first date, and many other firsts.
Take her out for the night to the restaurant you first ate at and recreate the night with her.
Do something that means something to you and her and she will view it as the perfect gift.Follow Your Instinct For The Perfect GiftNow you should have a few ideas for a perfect gift. Plus get an eBook titled ' 69 Tips To Help You Get Laid: A Guide For Men In A Relationship Who Want More Sex' as your first free gift.
Do not give her anything, just tell her about yourself and your destination in Thailand. So tell her that you came to find a girlfriend or wife. All, I have nothing more to tell, you know everything! Actually, I did not say anything new. It’s just that in Thailand, men often fall into a very dangerous situation after meeting with questionable girls. The fact that many travelers just see Thai girls and approach them, it is not taking the time to study these girls.



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