Girls here at the Stepford Wives Organization are avid collectors of religious mores when it comes to wifely duties.
Even though this is a supposed questionnaire for application to be an FLDS wife and the mother, it highlights the qualities that are important on becoming that perfect wife which we all strive to be. So you can imagine our excitement when we heard there was an alternate to Fifty Shades of Grey by way of a film called Old Fashioned, which is more to our pace. You want to wash all this down with an ice cold glass of Augustiner Beer, made in Munich where Oktoberfest is celebrated. Place bacon in a large Dutch oven or other large, heavy-bottomed pot with a tightfitting lid over medium heat and cook, stirring occasionally, until browned and most of the fat has rendered.
Add the reserved cabbage, stir to coat in bacon fat, and cook until the cabbage begins to wilt, about 4 minutes. Deglaze the pan with the cider vinegar, scraping up any browned bits from the bottom of the pan with a spatula. But oh what a delight and pure joy when we find their marriages torn asunder, their weight gained, their plastic surgery gone wrong…a little celebratory Roman candle somewhere inside us goes off. If you have to watch one episode, we recommend _Stay-At-Home Murder_ (Season 1: Episode 3). And yes, the creators of _The Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives_ have contacted us when they were developing the series.
I was sitting at the local Motor Vehicles Department room waiting for my number to be called. Photographer Miles Aldridge has been called upon to create an ad campaign for lingerie brand Agent Provocateur.
We have been told by our men to doll out and get down to our sexy delicates when spoiling and serving them on many occasions, even during meal times or just sitting watching television. The tabloid-fueled public always had an insatiable, subconscious thirst to see success stories demolished. We had received many requests for interviews ranging from tv talk shows to morning news shows and reality tv to have our lives examined. Playdate with Death – When suburban homemaker Candy Montgomery becomes bored by her cookie-cutter routine, she finds herself an exciting new hobby: a salacious affair with a church friend’s husband. Third Time’s the Charm – Yvonne Stern is a domestic goddess, perfectly capable of balancing the needs of her family and her role as queen of the Houston social scene. American Nightmare – At 23, Rose Keil’s life changes forever when she answers a mysterious ad in her local German newspaper.
The Mad Scientist – Michelle Rivera Nyce is a beautiful girl from a small village in the Philippines whose life changes forever when she signs up for an American pen pal service.
Upper East Side Shootout – Fabulously wealthy housewife Barbara Kogan is the toast of New York society.
I had intended to come to your wedding with a beautiful letter for you – Holy Cow, I am the maid of honor! From that day onwards, I can hear them whispering to each another, “This is for when my prince comes and marries me,” while they give out plastic tiaras and earrings.
You’ll see, I can swear on it, a man cannot resist a woman who respects him, recognizes his authority, who makes a sincere effort to listen to him, to let aside her own way of seeing things, who tramples on her ever-biting, teasing, failure-highlighting tongue (we’re very good at that, no doubt), who accepts to walk on paths that are extremely different from those she would naturally choose, just out of love.
Day by day, he will start asking you what you think, what to do, which way your family should go. And even when the fruits seem to be late (I won’t have my wardrobe closet), we Christians must know they are ripening. And you know we don’t stand mortification for mortification’s sake, we are not austere ones, for sure: we like chatting about our interior Castle and of the latest nuance of the Chanel nail polish, the unobtainable dove gray, reading the Dialogue of the Divine Providence and gossiping – in acclaimed bad faith – of Carla Bruni’s short neck (divine justice exists).
It is a continuous effort of elasticity, and it may also seem to you that you gave a lot, while in fact you remained in your selfishness. Here, kids learn this roughly on their third minute of life: we will always embrace them, and so the overflowing diaper, the not-given candy or the homework that’s too hard – according their age- invariably translate into a reprisal to us, under the disguise of whims, long faces, cries, various insults (my latest is “fascist colonel,” I just got it a short while ago).
Never in my life would I have imagined reconsidering the highly boring sermons released, completely free of charge, by the greengrocer of the holiday village, Mrs. Then, luckily, you grow up, or at least you try, and I’m sorry neither of my grandmothers had the chance to meet my four kids, all of them now grown up, very dirty but safe, and without too many stitches. I often think of them, to the women of other generations, when I see women in search of identity and are therefore suffering because of it. Now, instead, I have a few Christian friends with whom we can discuss our ideas on marriage.
There were already few of us Christians – not that they didn’t warn us, with the story of the salt and the yeast – and what more, sometimes we don’t even make a great effort to get far from the Vulgata, not meaning saint Jerome’s, in this case, but the common mentality that emphasizes freedom, self-determination, one’s own will as the highest and only untouchable values.
The submission that Paul is talking about is a gift, and a free one as any other; it would be a duty, otherwise.
But even a woman who is betrayed has a possibility to defend her love, which is in a serious life-endangering condition: she can remain faithful and keep on loving. Even Robert Redford’s – non the wrinkly director of Sundance, but the legendary man who made himself in the Great Gatsby – wife, probably, seeing him wandering about the house in underpants and unmatched socks, clinging to the remote control in front of a Lakers match, would be tempted to start exchanging messages with the young and good-looking greengrocer from West Hollywood.
Even in these cases love works if you make a decision, and you don’t follow your emotions, your needs, your instinctual part.
The FLDS (Fundamental Latter Day Saints) have great anachronistic interest in their ideas of marriage because they are fundamentally living in times capsules from previous centuries. She is intelligent enough to smoothly run a household, and wisely spends her husband’s money for the good of her family, never guilty of negligence or selfish frivolity. If you don’t feel like reading the shelves of books we have to trudge through here at the organization, this is the Stepford cheat sheet, or the Cliff Notes, depending on the generation you come from. We at the Stepford Wives Organization have maintained our position that we are in no way associated with any BdSM culture or its community.
We thought it sounded like another band who sometimes sings about God, Belle & Sebastian. Season with salt and freshly ground black pepper and cook until the onion softens and the edges begin to brown, about 4 to 5 minutes. Add the chicken broth and season with a few pinches of salt and more freshly ground pepper. That’s why supermarket checkout counter glossies and tabloids were invented in the first place.
Think of The Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives as Wives with Knives(another ID series) with cupcakes and sprinkles. It has all the classic elements, foibles, and issues of being a true Stepford Wife: a controlling husband, a huge workload at home, keeping up appearances, cleanliness, perfection, control, sex and stress. And when they do, how we deal with them and how we make the most of the most of those pressures is why The Stepford Wives Organization and our website and this blog exists! We declined, because our husbands said they didn’t want us or our families in the spotlight.
There is nothing wrong with dressing in a racy way, as long as you are doing it for your husband and in the privacy of your home.
It’s a harmless request, and shows our eagerness to be available to them at all times. Notice that his women are portrayed low to the ground, a classic advertising position in portraying fascinating femininity. It explains why tabloid gossip magazines and tabloid newspapers continue to fly off the shelves at supermarkets. In the latter 20th century, beginning with Harrison Ford’s movie Witness, the Amish have been looked upon as the moral compass of all that is virtuous, practical, simple, and family-oriented. We were contacted by the producers of Investigation Discovery to be interviewed and have our stories told in their upcoming series The Secret Lives of Stepford Wives.
From secret hotel rendezvous to church choir run-ins, this affair is exactly what Montgomery needs to spice up her blase day. When she isn’t redecorating their million-dollar mansion or shopping at high-end boutiques, she’s on the soccer field cheering on her young children. She is jetted off to Palm Beach to live in the lap of luxury with her new beau, real estate magnate Fred Keller, who is 35 years her senior. From her high-fashion look to her sprawling $20,000-a-month Hong Kong apartment, this ex-pat wife projects the image of perfection.
With her husband of 25 years, retail and real estate mogul husband George Kogan, she enjoys an extravagant life with an unlimited expense account.
As we have said often on the Stepford Wives Organization website: men may joke around, but their desires and fears are hidden behind those jokes. I’m amongst the first characters in the closing credits, the time has come for me to take the scene and to come prepared. To be honest, the boys especially remember that fatal day because that was the day of the Roma F.C. When you read them you could think I’m an angelic creature, but really I have just read and listened to good words.
We know any suffering, even a little one – you don’t have the same idea, you wouldn’t have planned that thing, you wouldn’t have picked that vacation or that evening – produces sometimes mysterious, yet never lost, fruits, if accepted with love. We like mortification just in sight of a wider good, and this good is embracing your husband, therefore generating a new self.
For instance, I would always like a house full of people; my husband, also known as “add a place to your table”, lays a claim to the etymology of his name (he who lives in the forest), and he’d rather emigrate to the woods than share companage and double the cheerfulness.
Sometimes I try and say, “Kids, I’m going out to get some cigarettes”, but nobody believes me, probably because I don’t smoke. Grandma Gina would have found something to say nevertheless, since I forgot how to crochet and I could improve my domestic economy skills: “My mom is very good at warming up frozen food”, Bernardo told a friend once, to convince him to stay over for dinner.


They didn’t have to try too hard, they already had a role, they had already been given one.
Because if we share these reflections with our “worldly” friends, either they insult us or they pity us, or they invite us to ask for a quick psychiatric consult. Talking about submission raises disapproval, disconcert, rebellion, irritation, even disgust. When we talk – in a low voice, to avoid lynching – about submission we must exit the language of the world, which reads everything in the perspective of dominion, of power.
How sad is the most, the very most of contemporary films and books: a lamentation on nothingness, a boring tautology, a demonstration that obeying your own selfishness you are unwell, you are disquiet and never satisfied.
The Stepford 10 CommandmentsCandy on Size: The Art of Being InconsequentialCandy on Why You Should Beat Your Wife? While we do look to antique books on how to conduct ourselves in marriage, FLDS principles and sermons are useful primers as well. She possesses the wit, taste and esprit necessary to be a star of Society, and never crosses the border of good taste and civility.
We do attract many people from that group, but we have no affiliation or interest in its practices. Everyday people slog through the day with mediocre lives while celebrities and tv personalities live it up to the hilt, their every move, partner, acquisition, success, appearance are captured, celebrated, photographed, and written up. What opens as a picture-perfect marriage of a upwardly mobile couple reveals flaws before the first commercial break.
It is the story of Houston’s hottest homemaker Susan Wright, and how things begin to fall apart.
Furthermore, our husbands have always encouraged us to wear garter belts to harken back to better, more traditional days of the 1950s. Of course, we would definitely encourage the use of an apron if you are doing the dishes, and even if we get a spot or two on us, remember: what better way than to please a man visually when we are pleasing him by keeping his home clean? What greater joy and sense of satisfaction can be obtained than the knowledge that just as you have to go home to your boring 3 meal a day kitchen, scrubbing and cleaning, fretting over your husband, that current IT girl actress in Hollywood has divorced her gorgeous husband and their 30 mil Spanish Villa in Brentwood is being auctioned off? When her hubby creates a new potion and strikes it rich, Nyce’s life goes from modest to millions. But George is keeping a dangerous secret from his wife – one that threatens their life together.
Ignore the 15 yr old part, and listen to the rest of what he has to say about a good wife in the following clip.
At your wedding, at least, since to my wedding, spiritually well-prepared as I was, I was (not) combed and made up, like always – apart from a white eye-shadow that my sister had forced me to buy – and late, as I had gone for a run two hours earlier, and taken by an unstoppable burst (fit) of laughter and cheerfulness that didn’t turn exactly out in me being at my best in the some ten pictures uncle Gianfranco remembered to shoot. The rest of the family, on the other hand, arrived stylistically unprepared to the princely event of your nuptials; I didn’t find the time to write to you, nor had I provided a flawless outfit for me or for the kids, who, God knows why, are always stained with chocolate, with one shoe untied, pants which happen to be too long or too short, and a torn sock showing a peeping bruise on the knee. This is why, having finally won my husband’s respect, I now feel ready to calmly explain to him how greatly beneficial it would be to build a walk –in closet in our bedroom (the first benefit would be that I wouldn’t have any more piles of black t-shirts down there, and I wouldn’t, believing I had lost them all, buy seven more next season).
May I confess, then, without you feeling offended, that when you tell me he makes you angry it always seems to me that it’s all about silly things? To make another example, in my view, everything is to be planned, so we can squeeze in as many appointments as we can, like pinball: the more goals we achieve, the more points we score. If I may risk forseeing the future, even Luigi will take advantage of your soft structure – even if you weigh 110 pounds, you’re soft inside – to utter his opposition to all the annoying sides of human existance, which, in some mysterious way for you but all-evident to him, will all be traced back to you.
Not even the pearls of wisdom strung one after the other by the little women taking fresh air along the street with my grandmother, in the evening. And not only for the original sin that has us hate the idea of obeying someone apart from ourselves, but even for this autarchic culture in which we are all immersed, even as Christians. A faithfulness which can also become essential when love – which is not only a feeling but a commandment in the first place, demands a strong, steady decision.
It is a vase that breaks, and that will not be new anymore, but even if the signs of where it’s been glued are visible, it will hold until the end.
Simmer, stirring occasionally, until the cabbage is soft and soupy and the bacon is tender, about 45 minutes. THERE MUST BE A DIRTY SECRET!” Otherwise how can we bear to live with our lackluster, ordinary, spotty life? We didn’t find the series entertaining, mostly because we can bear to see things go wrong. After all, if modern America is unable to sustain a virtuous, practical, simple, and family-oriented household, we’ll be damned if someone in our backyard can! When her lover’s guilt threatens to end the relationship, Montgomery’s seamless life starts coming undone and an unexpected confrontation ends in axe murder. Stern’s husband, a prominent lawyer, has developed a deadly conflict of interest that will leave her fighting for her life. But, this May-December romance goes from hot to cold when Keil can no longer stand her husband’s controlling ways. As her workaholic husband makes millions, Kissel buries her loneliness in high-end retail and $5,000 haircuts. But despite the mansion, fancy cars, and closet full of clothes, she grows restless and begins a secret affair with her gardener. Barbara’s lavish world is pulled out from under her when George dumps her for a younger woman.
Anyway, tattered and ragged as we are, the six of us all came there, and on time even, as I had to sit next to you. Francis used to say, he who would have spent any minute at the Hermitage of the Prisons, in the sweetest, continuous prayer, while he accepted to stay amongst people who did not understand him, friars included, sometimes. Measuring who moves towards the other is pretty hard, also because in the meanwhile we have added four more places to the table, and those are permanent: lunch and dinner, on a daily basis. In my husband’s view, on the other hand, the best ideas happen in boredom, in the void, and I must admit that sometimes it works; it happens, just because we have three spare hours, that we randomly watch together “Luci della ribalta” or the undergrounds of san Clemente, or we have an endless football game including all of us three girls, who sometimes leave the field to pick flowers, or that we invent new games, even if the most popular remains the dear old “tell me you’re fat if you dare”.
To us little chicks, dealing with wearing make-up for the first time and purposefully slipping shoulder straps – you only need a little jerk with your shoulder – they launched disapproving looks, and sighs foreseeing the worst possible future for us. The strange thing is that even between the Christians, if you start talking about submission they think you are joking. And we would be those who had been told to serve others, to put ourselves in the last place.
And if we really want to speak in terms of greatness or smallness, of strength or weakness, of power, it is better to remember that “he that is greatest among you, as he that doth serve”.
We as women also defend life this way, bringing its flag high even when everything seems lost.
Her manners are never less than impeccable, and her good will and charity are a beacon to those lucky enough to live around her.
From that point on, you can just cook them in boiling water between 5 to 10 minutes (to get the insides cooked), then drain, and pan fry (or grill).
A misstep here and there is okay, but we take no schadenfreude pleasure in seeing one of our kind go to pieces.
Henceforth Breaking Amish, Amish Mafia, The Hutterites…all depicting Amish people in a negative light of conflict and decline. When an Asian epidemic temporarily forces her and the children back to the states, she decides to renovate her luxury Vermont ski home with an upgrade that includes an affair with the TV repairman. After a two-year-long bitter divorce, one of the Kogans is shot dead, and the ensuing 18-year manhunt uncovers a shocking surprise. It was a celebration full of divine grace and precious hints, even if my girls will especially remember it for your lace train worthy of a local Cinderella, our unbeaten fashion icon. But I let my husband take a look at what I’m writing you, and he didn’t show any strong or loud protests. When you know who you are and how much you are worth – a lot, trust those who know and love you – you are not afraid of some criticism. Let’s also say that from time to time planning has its own reasons, if you consider pediatricians dentists parties little friends catechisms matches competitions, but I am beginning to be a little more flexible, the supreme quality of any wife and mother. The image of the woman they evoked in their speeches, strong and silent, capable of holding up the whole family like a wheel hub does with its spokes seemed less plausible to me than Sigourney Weaver playing the role of Ripley in the 80’s movie Alien. Saint Paul, in his letter to the Ephesians, explains how we serve one another in the couple: “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. Warning: the reading of what follows is strictly forbidden to my husband, and the noble words that follow apply to any wedding but mine. She is perfectly groomed, likely beautiful or at least comely (while the female antagonist will be more beautiful and appealing). We aim for perfection in homemaking and providing comfort to our men, and when we fall short, we go back the next day and try to give more and get it right. Eleven days after their divorce is finalized, a business meeting turns fatal when three people are shot, leaving one dead.
When a private investigator begins unraveling this housewife’s dirty little secrets, someone winds up dead. You will need, in fact, much more flexibility, when not only your husband, but also your children, will rotate around your capability of embrace.
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. First of all, because submission is not out of depreciation, you don’t choose it because you think you’re not worth it. Their wellbeing, their serenity will at least partially rely, at least hopefully until they’re on their own (how many more years to come?), on your capability to absorb their bad moods, whims, tiredness, discontent. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.” Not even the priests dare say this anymore, afraid of being lapidated by us females.


Moreover, the fruit of the woman’s choice is the fact that the man will be ready to die for it. It is not refusing to give it its importance because in the end the good and the bad are undistinguished. Because small size is endearing (and allows for protective embraces from her lucky husband or fiance), she will probably be on the shorter side.
Bernardo is a model student, he can’t get less than an A at school, a little soldier always ready to carry out orders. But I’ve personally seen in the life of those who wanted to try it, that this is the way to salvation. Tommaso, a little less precise (at home he’s also known as the drain man), the other year, i.e.
Call me or some other friend, a female one, warn us in advance not to care too much about what you’ll say, and start groaning a bit. Not the heaven that hopefully awaits us, but salvation even in this life, that is peace, a matrimonial life full and fulfilling. On the other hand, who do you vent to your anger to, if not to whom you know is going to love you after you’re done?
Never do it with him, because if you complain, a man (I don’t know why, whether he’s a psychiatrist, a philosopher, or a manologist of any sort) will try and find a practical solution.
The women who manage it are the stronger, the most capable of love, their shoulders are wider, they are able to perform the miracle you need to overcome a betrayal. You’ll feel like you’re losing months and years, to exercise patience for an endless time with Luigi, to be in an away game whose score is never zero, but it’s not like that.
With whom do you put down any mask, any restraint, and you display the whole catalogue of your deepest degradation, if not with whom will never abandon you (like your best friend from college, which would be me, by the way, and viceversa)? He’ll offer to prolong the nanny’s working hours or to take longer breaks, when you just wanted him to say it’s all working just fine as it is, that you are an admirable, unbeatable heroine. Because, as Paul explains a few lines later, what happens next is this: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her… Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. The same cannot be said for men, because a man and a woman love in a different way: the woman with a specific love, capable of understanding originality. I’m calling Dad if you’re not sleeping now” – I tried to scare him while I frantically browsed the Philosophy section of the encyclopedia or the History handbook that I learned to keep close at hand, together with the fundamentals – like the West wing DVDs or mother Speranza’s novena – ever since I began perceiving my flawless ignorance (a Flaiano quote).
No gesture of love will go lost, none of your steps backwards will miss to be transformed into a step forward for the two of you, no useless word unuttered will be regretted. And don’t begin, I know you, to ask yourself if you were wrong, if he was really the right one for you…this is the devil’s doing – whose meaning comes from dia ballein, to divide.
If I catch him in front of the Pc, it’s easier for me to find him reading news on the Visigoths than playing Texas Hold’em. When the phone calls open that way, you just have to listen, be noisily quiet, to sympathize with conviction, to admire exaggeratedly and absolutely not to give bright suggestions. He wants to divide: us from ourselves, ourselves from God, and us from the person we swore loyalty to. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. He first revealed Himself after the Resurrection to them; who knows, maybe the males were all gone to the stadium, since it was Sunday.
Only these, in the most painful, entangled and despaired situations can proclaim hope and stay up on their feet to give courage again to everybody. You’ll feel like you’re the one who gives the most – we fit the victim’s role very well, just an instant and we dress up like housewives in the Fifties, round skirt, hair set and all- but are you really sure? Because on those moments one doesn’t want a solution, but just energetic and little wordy pat-pats on the shoulder. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. But even without getting to the real, consumed, enacted, betrayal, to a menace of death to the relationship, there are many possible small betrayals.
Peter was a sucker before the Holy Spirit”, my son summarized once, with a slightly colored vision, yet theologically sound. I know men who can be defined as normal, even as special as the one I married, that undergo a mutation at the starting whistle of a game and they instantly turn without batting an eyelid, from the violent films of Sam Peckinpah to La Signora in Giallorosso – a talk show on a local Rome tv -, from a re-reading of Dostoevsky’s The Idiot to Big Mario’s radio, losing any restraint. And I don’t even think there are cultural differences, I don’t know, see the manologist above. I’m only telling you, so that you can get ready, as you took one of the same species for yourself, and not for a weekend getaway, but for all of your life, until death do you part. Exactly because of this, I really care about giving you my real wedding gift, much more precious than the other one, the one that arrived on time, at least. I hadn’t heard from her in a while, and every now and then I happened to imagine her life, completely different from ours, a couple with interchangeable roles, he pushing his stroller and she going to a meeting or planning the week. And then, you believe you love him the way he wants, but maybe you are loving him the way you want. I called her on her birthday, and I found out she had decided to stay at home and be a mom, archiving her degree in electronic engineering.
You write him little notes, while he would like you to do something concrete for him: inviting his mother to dinner, for instance. Moreover, we ended up sharing every single word on family dynamics, hers and those of a Bulgarian percentage of her Teutonic friends with whom she confronts, in greatly envied (by me) mornings drinking tea or in afternoons set in parks that I imagine to be tidier than my living room.
And, as you know me well, you also may well know this is not in my nature at all, being one who took for herself the motto of my grandpa, the Colonel: “Wall or no wall, three steps forward”. You want a bunch of flowers, and he tells you that he loves you by going to buy an octopus and cherry tomato pizza.
And apart from the fact that where she is the streets are clean and the pink car parking spots (for moms) are respected, we didn’t notice any other noteworthy difference between us. I believe I represent one out of seven or eight cases on a world scale of people who hit a car while going for a run: I got a concussion, she was pretty dented. Speak his language, that of concrete gestures, and he’ll learn to speak yours, that of the love declarations down on his knees with violins playing.
Unfortunately, I would like to fill the story with epic details, but no, she wasn’t an Aston Martin, just a Fiat Punto. I promise I will watch over you, over your happiness which you will have to start building now, even if I invite you to find more powerful guardian angels than I am. Anyway, I’m not exactly a docile person, but I have turned to one I believe, I hope, because I think this is what being a spouse means: to embrace, first of all. Don’t you know a man only issues a statement when has the need to give you useful and pertinent information? Unfortunately, I’m just a couple years ahead of you in life, and I keep getting the same things wrong, with the junk trade of someone in her twenties, constantly looming over me. It took me a couple years, but I eventually renounced dragging my husband into a whole series of conversations, like those involving the sentimental life of human beings. But if I really want to talk to him, it is sufficient for me to emit a very sharp, and most probably wrong, opinion, on the 4-4-3 formation of Roma F.C.
Even more in sports: the only “break” I would grant myself, from when I was studying during the seventh grade until my pregnancies. Some fifteen miles running between a Homer and an Eschilo, just to clear my mind a little bit. And then, in the years when we lost touch, you don’t know that when I was preparing some marathon I could even go running at three in the morning, when I was supposed to be at the editorial office at five for the tv news. I left home in shorts in a city that is not mine (Rome), in the dark, and it even seemed normal to me, even when I met an all-naked mad man in front of the altar of the Unknown Soldier, who, seeing me, probably asked himself, in turn, who that crazy woman was. And even now, being a lady almost turning 40 (enough of the “boys” after their forties) and running when I can without preparing races, if someone passes me – even a pigeon – something still gets to me. But when it comes to life as a couple, you have to compete in the opposite way: wall or no wall, two steps backwards. And you must do it even when you don’t understand why, when you’re intimately convinced you have good reasons. Get out of the logic of the world, “I want to get the better of him”, and enter the logic of God, who put at your side your husband, that saint who bears you after everything, and who, incidentally, is also a handsome guy.
And if something he does is not fine with you, it is God Himself you have to confront, to begin with: get down on your knees, and most time you’ll solve anything. With full discernment, clearly, in wisdom and cleverness, of course, because he is a creature, but with respect, because he often sees more clearly than you do.
As Pavel Evdokimov says, the Russian Orthodox theologian, if the objective end of the wedding is generating children, the subjective end is to generate ourselves. In the first place because it seems to you that he’s wrong, and if, as we were saying, he’s the one who leads you to your wholeness, to your completeness, it is exactly when he thinks different from you that you have to open up to him, and embrace him.
It is exactly then that what he tells you has a precious meaning to you, it adds something, it makes you whole, has you grow, lets you make a shift.
If you just embrace what corresponds to you, to what you think, you are not married to a man, but to yourself.
When there’s a decision to take, and after you weighed the pros and cons the answer is still not clear, trust him, and let him have the last word. When, of your positions, it seems to you that his is completely wrong, for the two of you, even for the kids, maybe, still keep trusting his clearness of mind.



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