Welcome to the ultimate guide to using text messages to get back together with your ex girlfriend. Naturally, I got curious to see if such a guide existed online right now and I was shocked to learn that one hadn’t been created yet. Look, I am going to get bold here and say that never before has a guide this in-depth been created (and given out for free on the internet) for men wanting to understand exactly what to text to their ex girlfriends.
With that guide not only will you gain more insight into what you should text your ex to get her back but it will show you everything that you need to do in order to win her back. Not to mention that it has over 250 example texts that you can use!Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? You can spam your ex girlfriend with text messages and leave her thinking that you are a psycho. You can send a bunch of really hateful messages to your ex girlfriend and hurt your chances of getting her back.
So, explain to me your reasoning behind sending someone, who you desperately want back, really mean messages that could potentially drive them away?
In other words, the more your ex girlfriend associates bad feelings with you the less likely she will come back to you.
Look, with this guide I am going to teach you to do something so much more powerful than begging. I am going to be teaching you how to influence your ex to take you back so she thinks it was her idea when the fact was that it was your influence that got her to get back with you. The No Contact Rule- A set period of time where you don’t talk, text or call your girlfriend at all. The advantage of using a no contact rule before you text your ex is the fact that you can kind of get her on the ropes a little bit.
For the next few hours she is constantly checking her phone waiting for a response except you are doing the 21 day NC which means a response won’t come.
Of course, since you didn’t respond to her emotional message she is hurt and promises to never text you again for the rest of her life which she articulates to you in a text ?? . While this page is dedicated to text messages it is important to remember that the overall goal you are trying to achieve here is not to just learn how to text your ex girlfriend it’s to actually get her back. While it is not impossible to get your ex girlfriend back through text messages it is highly unlikely.
Getting an ex girlfriend back is probably not going to be done strictly through text messages. In my massive 12,000 word guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back I talk a lot about having a game plan.
After the no contact rule you will use texts to build attraction which should eventually lead to a phone call where you will build attraction and by then you will have built up enough attraction to earn yourself a date. While rebuilding attraction is essential for getting your ex girlfriend back it isn’t the main goal you are trying to accomplish here. It just so happens that building attraction through texting is how you advance to the next level of the game plan. Again, you should really check out that massive guide I put together because it will explain things better than I can in the short amount of space I dedicated to it here. Before I can start getting into the tactics that you can use to help move the reconnection process along there are a few things I need to teach you about text messages. My point here is that word count and how interested a person is in what you have to say can have a direct correlation most of the time. It’s interesting to me that no one really ever talks about the importance of response time when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. In this section I am going to teach you everything that you will need to know about response time when it comes to using text messages.
Now, before I really get started here I do want to say that not everything I say in this section will hold true to you. It is best to look at response time as a gauge of how interested the other party is in what you are saying (just like word count.) For example, in my book, I give an example where I was texting a girl and I responded to her texts every few hours. Sure, she may have texted her friends a lot but during the high point of your relationship you were probably priority number one to her.
Don’t worry, that is what this entire guide is for and I will be giving you the step by step plan on texting her a little later. There is a way in which you can do this through the use of a text message to get a quick response and ironically it all has to do with your own response time. Well, putting it into practice can be really tough because there are two battles that you are going to be fighting. What you will have successfully done if you pull this off is that you just made her realize how much she wants to hear from you and her response time should be quicker from that point on. You wait for what seems like an eternity (5 minutes) and you constantly check your phone waiting for that text message to hit but it never does.
Essentially, if you are put in this position where you desperately want a text response you are left wanting more. You know, the part where I go on and on about how you desperately want a person to text you back but they won’t. No, I am afraid I am going to have to give credit to pretty much every girl that has ever rejected me because every single one has successfully been able to do this to me. If you end a texting conversation with your ex girlfriend and you successfully leave her wanting more here is what will happen.
Second – When you do decide to message her again (either later in the day or the next day) she will respond very quickly to your text message. As you can see there are a lot of advantages to ending a conversation where she wants more. Let me start off by saying that in order to leave your ex girlfriend wanting more she is going to have to be invested in a texting conversation. Lets pretend that the string of text messages that have all three characteristics but are a bit negative (again, this is something you have to feel out.) Do you think you should end the conversation there? The four responses is something I covered in the how to get your ex girlfriend back guide pretty intensely. Well, since the four responses directly relates to texting it only makes sense that I talk about them again within this guide.
Every single time you get a positive response to a text message you are slowly inching closer to your goal of getting your ex girlfriend back. The challenge that you are going to face is that you are going to have to decipher if the message you got was a neutral response or just a fake neutral response.
However, when you are starting a conversation and you get a neutral response then you need to pay attention because that means you probably shouldn’t engage her for a while. If you are getting a response like that from your ex then you have some serious work to do. In my experience, negative responses (when dealing with exes) usually always revolve around how bad the breakup was. If there was a lot of yelling, name calling, things thrown and mental warfare from both sides then I think you had yourself a pretty bad breakup.
Don’t worry, you will text her eventually but it is going to have to be later down the road when her emotions have settled in a bit. What you really need to watch out for is the NR when you reach out to start a conversation.
Coincidentally that is what the next section is all about, the first text after no contact. Assuming you have followed my instructions (by implementing a no contact rule) the first type of communication you are going to have with your ex girlfriend after the no contact rule is going to be done through a text message. Generally speaking a text message will yield a higher response rate and also a phone call after a no contact rule may seem out of place.
Hey, I am a huge fan of surprises but when it comes to this stuff surprises are never a good thing.
Oh, and in case you forgot the main goal of this entire guide is to use text messages so you can advance to a phone call or a date. This leads us back to the first text message you send after the no contact rule has been completed. When it comes to first text messages your main goal is to get a positive response from your girlfriend. In other words, your text message has to be so intriguing that she can’t not respond to it. Basically the way it works is that you say that a TV show that you and your girlfriend used to watch reminded you of her.
That means you need to slip back into no contact for 7 days (EVEN if she gets back to you on day 5 of that no contact.) After the 7 days is up it is time to send something that should yield a response 95% of the time. Now, I don’t know about you but if someone texted this to me I would respond immediately fearing the worst.
If your ex girlfriend receives this text then it will only be natural for her mind to be racing with possibilities. However, if you really want my opinion I think you should end the conversation immediately. Rapport is something that you have to earn and you earn it with a slow ascent of text messages that build trust. The situation you find yourself in now is that a breakup occurred between you and your ex girlfriend and that can cause some awkwardness when it comes to texting. I want to give you a brief overview of what you should do to rebuild the rapport with your ex. You send your first initial text after the no contact rule and ended the conversation very quickly. Your next text message should be sent about 1-3 days after the first initial text message after no contact.
After that conversion ends I want you to wait a day before you start up another conversation.
I want to take a moment and give you some examples of the most interesting type of texts I have come across. I am sure if you think hard enough you can think of some bizarre stories in your life to share.
Talking about your previous relationship with your ex girlfriend can be pretty tricky because it is bound to bring up old memories and not all of those old memories are going to be very good. I would first like to turn our attention to how you should approach talking to your girlfriend about your previous relationship.
In fact, there is one particular exercise that I want you to take advantage of during your no contact period.
Since we are specifically focusing on your ex here I want you to be prepared when your old relationship comes up. You know how successful musical artists have a “greatest hits collection” right?
Rule 3: None of these memories can be about sex they have to be more about emotional connection type things. You see, you should be talking about how cuddling made you feel and the specific things you liked about.


Yes, I get that there are going to be some guys that read this and think it is the lamest thing ever.
Ideally, what we hope happens is that you do such a good job texting that your ex girlfriend will want to talk to you on the phone naturally. One of the biggest concerns that most men have when they are about to call a woman is the fact that they are worried that she may be busy or preoccupied. Well, what if I told you that I had discovered a way in which you can transition from a text message to a phone call seamlessly and have a super high success rate. When I was researching ideas on how to transition from texting to phone calls I came across this book that actually recommended that you call your ex during the day (when she could be potentially busy at work.) That is officially the dumbest idea ever. Assuming you want this phone call with your girlfriend to go well you want her to be alone in her room or something like that. Ok, now that you know when to set up a phone call with your ex girlfriend lets talk about how you actually set one up.
I have always been of the mindset that you should give a girl a warning before you call her.
Lets say that I am in your shoes and I send the text above to an ex girlfriend I am trying to get back. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back. If I gradually begin contacting my ex via Text after NC and she generally responds positively, but is not ever the one initiating contact, should I continue to reach out, or at a certain point should I go back to NC? It happened all of a sudden and no matter what I try to do, she has turned into a complete rock.
She gets irritated by my name and she gets blown out if someone takes my name in front of her. We've all been there: You're newly single, still reeling from the sting of being dumped by your ex -- and desperately trying to avoid texting him or her.
But let the texts in the slideshow below be a warning to you -- though it's tempting to text, those post-split conversations never go as planned.
The people who sent the breakup notes below seem to understand that -- and we highly doubt their significant others wanted anything to do with them after reading these little missives. Before you even attempt to make your ex jealous lets talk a little about what you want your ultimate goal to be.
What I am going to do now is give you a brief overview of how to properly use jealousy and then I will talk about each aspect in-depth. The No Contact Rule- You are not allowed to contact your ex in any way after the breakup for a minimum of 30 days.
Alright, now that you have an idea of what the no contact rule is I am going to talk a little bit about the things you can do during the no contact period that can will your ex jealous. I get a lot of emails every single day (random fact- I have 9 unanswered emails in my inbox just from today) and one of the most common mistakes I see from women is the fact that they don’t do anything at all during the no contact period.
Look, if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous I seriously want you to spend those 30 days NOT thinking about him. Disclaimer: Some of the things on this list WILL make you uncomfortable but I am not in the business of being nice for the sake of being nice I am trying to give you advice that will help make your ex jealous and hopefully put you in a position to where you can get him back.
If you are an avid reader of this site then you may be aware that I am very much in favor of going out on a date with someone new during the no contact period. Now, I am aware that you are looking for an exact step by step method for what you need to say to your ex but I am not going to get into that here because this page is supposed to only be about the ways you can make your ex jealous (I actually put together a guide about how you can use texting to get your ex back already.) What I will do is give you a few ground rules that you need to follow when contacting your ex. Showing that you have control of the conversation is very important for a number of reasons. Well, luckily for you I have been on the receiving end of quite a few ungettable girls so I can tell you some of the tactics that they were able to use on me that proved to be pretty effective. There is a lot more to the story but as you can see she dominated the very first conversation we had.
Bowing Out Of The Conversations By Not Responding- This is a pretty effective way to establish control. Since we are on the subject of texting lets talk a little about the most important type of text if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous, the jealousy texts. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. We are long distance which complicates things but we had a long talk the other night and agreed it’s best that we part ways.
Been reading your advice since day 1 of the of a two year relationship break up 3 months ago. I was seeing someone since February but it never got serious he never asked me out we just slept together through the year.
Hi there i have a a few things i need help with been dating this guy i love n he says im his everything n he loves me we been dating since 2012 have a 2 year old son he was running his own busniss and reno a house which made alot of stress he has broke up with me 10 times never last more then a couple weeks sometimes even days bc we would disagree or he would take on more stuff rather than realzizing what a family needs not just his own. Hi Chris, so I came to this site because after 6 years together my boyfriend broke up with me and I was trying to do what other sites say to move on from the relationship by trying my best not to contact him and you know give myself time to mourn the relationship.
However, with that being said there is a flaw with this guide, that’s all that it covers. While knowing what to say to her via text messages is an important part of the process there is a lot more to winning her back then that. When you go through a breakup do you honestly think that at that moment you are thinking logically? However, you start bordering on the pathetic when you send your ex 20 text messages back to back to back. In other words, this is the go to guide for teaching you exactly what to say through text messages to start the overall process out. If you are consistently getting a one word text message response from her THEN you have a right to be worried. Look, your ex girlfriend is a human being and human beings are notoriously hard to predict.
Since you dated this girl we can assume that at one point you were her top priority when it came to texting. Obviously if the breakup was really bad then she may not want to talk to you and you will have to earn the right to get those quick responses from her again. The fastest way to get a quick response from a girl is to build up the anticipation through text messages so that she is constantly waiting for your response to her text. The first battle is going to be the most obvious one in that you have to get her connected in a conversation with you.
This is a concept that I want you to wrap your head around because it is so important when it comes to ending texting conversations with your ex girlfriend. In other words, if she is responding quickly with rather long messages it still might not mean she is emotionally engaged in the conversation. Generally, if you are responding emotionally to her messages then she is probably responding emotionally to yours. Once you find it then that is when you should end the conversation on a high note because that is how you leave someone wanting more. Of course, I am going to be going a lot more in-depth on them and I will also teach you exactly what you are supposed to do when you get each response. You send a text message to your ex girlfriend and instead of responding positively she responds in a neutral type of way. The mistake I see most men making is the fact that they are unable to remain classy when they get a negative response. It basically means that you send a text message and your ex girlfriend doesn’t respond to it. Remember, this is not meant to be a process where you accomplish everything you want to accomplish in a matter of hours. Now, I have thought about how best to explain this to you and finally I settled on this statement. Seriously, don’t underestimate the negative impact that a breakup can have on text messaging. However, to a woman having a man remind her of something that she would genuinely appreciate being reminded of means that, that particular man cares enough to look out for her.
The more details that you can bring to the table about how you felt, how she felt and about what happened the better.
Let me go through a few examples with you so I can show you how to properly use a relationship text.
While it’s not anything HUGE about your relationship it is an aspect that filled both of you up with good feelings. I mean, I am sure if a girl I really liked told me that she loved cuddling with me I would be over the moon but the truth is that this text could be so much better. However, it is my experience that most women wait for men to make the first move and that is not a problem because I know exactly what you can do to get your ex talking on the phone in no time.
Not in a stalkerish kind of way I just mean you have to be aware of when she will be at work, out with friends or basically any time that it is not socially acceptable to take a phone call. However, in my experience when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back surprises are your enemy. Ive done all the work on myself and I want to start dating my ex again because I feel I am better person today than I was a few months ago. My ex just dropped me a message that we have different expectation and hence she is breaking off. It gets the job done and allows the dumper to conveniently sidestep all the awkwardness that comes with doing it face-to-face.
If you start to weep for humanity, cheer up: it could have been a lot worse -- they could have broken up via text message.
Take a look at the cringe-inducing texts below -- and whatever you do, don't follow their lead.
Now, I can’t guarantee that the tactics on this page will make him jealous because lets be honest, your boyfriend is a human being and most human beings are impossible to control. BUT I do feel it is important to mention that if you came here looking for a way to get your ex boyfriend back you aren’t going to find it. A married friend of mine once told me a little about the psychology behind a mans thinking and I happen to agree with him. If you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous for the sake of making him jealous then I don’t think this is the page for you. I want you to go down the checklist I am about to provide and address all of the things on it. In college, I began to notice a pattern between the girls I liked and the girls I didn’t like anymore. She basically has so much confidence that she reduces a guy into thinking that he can’t get her which really turns 85% of guys on.
Remember, I am just going through my phone in the last six months and pulling out conversations with girls who I really really really liked.
He was very genuine the whole time and did say that the cheating was an extremely drunken hook up (basically blackout) and he thought he could just leave it be and move past it, but it started to eat him alive when he found out my sister had gotten cheated on.
It wasn’t the easiest relationship, we fought quite a bit due to his drinking and I have a habit of trying to make him jealous so I feel wanted.


I said to him if he was him the guy in a certain place the day before that I had seen and that he looked good. My boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago and I have not had any contact with him, but I work with his mom and she and I last talked about him three nights ago (I don’t know if she repeated anything to him or not). Our chemistry is something else though and being with him feels so right but I don’t want to make bad decisions and not sure how to act now. We got into an argument and I told him how he dragged me into a game and that he never treated me right because he never asked me to be his girlfriend and thought that we were done because we both said really mean things to each other. I was doing great I was working out and hanging out with my friends, I didn’t really post many photos of myself going out but I did post really good pictures of myself and when I saw he would like them I would post more photos of things we use to do together like a tv show we watched together and foods he liked me to make.
If you would like the actual step by step method that you should employ to get her back I suggest you take a good hard look at a guide called, The Texting Bible. For example, if you send a text message to your ex girlfriend that is about 25 words and she responds with a 1 word answer that might be a little troubling. However, just figuring out what type of text messages to send is not going to help you understand the entire situation.
What I will be talking about in this section should give you insight into your ex but in the end every single man reading this will be in a different position because every girl out there is unique and what is talked about in this section is a generalization of women.
However, if I was texting a girl that I was very interested in and I responded to her texts every few minutes then I am definitely engaged in what she is saying. However, I would say that in most cases she will be willing to talk to you and respond pretty quickly if the breakup wasn’t horrible. This text message has to be sent from her and it has to be one where she opens up emotionally or really wants an answer from you about something.
Now, imagine if you could do that to your ex girlfriend so she is literally anticipating your text. Simple, if you leave her wanting more then that means to her YOU are the only want who can satisfy her emotional hunger. The key to leaving her wanting more is finding the high point of the emotional conversation. Eventually I get to a point in the conversation where I find a string of text messages that satisfy all of the three characteristics I just talked about. The idea is to end the conversation on a positive note because then she will associate the good feelings she has gotten throughout the conversation with you. For the past month you have essentially ignored her and then all of a sudden she gets a phone call. While it may cause her extreme anxiety for a while it will also make her realize how much she cares about you and that is what you want.
Essentially, you have followed the plans I have laid out here to a T and they worked for you perfectly. Rather, you accomplish it in a matter of weeks or months but trust me when I say if you are patient the strategies outlined on this page can be extremely effective. Re-building rapport with your ex when it comes to texting is almost the same as re-building trust.
At the beginning you would only talk once every three days and towards the end you were talking every day.
Now, lets pretend for a moment that you were able to think of something like 15 memories that you could use. If you are going to be talking about an aspect of your old relationship with your ex girlfriend I want you to pay attention to the details and that is something that this text lacks.
Now, tell me, what is a bigger surprise to a girl than an ex boyfriend calling her up out of the blue with no warning at all?
With that being said, I have seen many of the tactics outlined on this page work for many of the women I communicate with. It goes like this, most men forget how good they have it when they have been dating or married for an extended period of time. I don’t want to go into too much detail here about it because I have done multiple in-depth posts about it already like this one.
I want you to take a moment and imagine how you have felt when, in your previous relationships you caught wind that your ex went out on a date with a new girl.
Now, this tactic was risky and only really worked on me because I clearly had feelings for the girl.
A couple of things to note: this girl was probably the most attractive girl I have ever met. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough and she would simply bow out of the conversations whenever she would like. So, many people have the opinion that cheating is cheating and is unforgivable, however now after talking to him I see he genuinely is hurt because he cried to me saying he missed his bestfriend, and he could not throw away our time together. He said to me that the guy was so good that he wasn’t him and that he was at home the day before. Do you think I should start the no contact rule as of three nights ago in case he heard that I am still upset?
The past time this summer i startrd hanging with griends other guys soon as he got wind he it was blow up my phone going to go to a counslor bevause he is un stable with always letting the stress get the best of him. So recently after almost 4 weeks of no contact, he sends me a text message saying he misses my cooking and my voice, even asked how the food came out and said my tacos were the best (the ones I posted pictures of). Now, I do realize that logically you may realize that this is the case but when you are actually in a situation that you have so much invested in it is hard to take a step back and think logically.
Sure, maybe she was busy when you sent that text and she didn’t have time to write a proper response but imagine if this trend was consistent throughout the history of your conversations as of late.
In other words, you need to keep an eye out for a text message that satisfy all three characteristics. It is at this point that I should end the conversation because that girl would be left wanting more. If you do get a negative response apologize for the inconvenience you caused and then do not text her back. First things first, in the event that she completely ignores your text message wait about a week before you try anything else. It isn’t going to happen overnight but if you slowly advance things you can see some fantastic results. Any girlfriend I have had is always there to remind me when important stuff is about to come up. I was reading a relationship article about jealousy the other day from a pretty well known relationship coach. So, if you want to make him jealous to bring out his protective and romantic side then this is the right page for that.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? I am actually talking about it in this section because I believe that going out on a date (even if you have no intention of actually dating the person) is best to do during the no contact period. Nevertheless, I was the one putting more effort into the conversation which meant she was in control. Last week we had to see each other and ended up having a really fun time together and hooking up a few times, we both enjoyed our time together and I can tell he misses me, as I do him.
I still have feelings for him but will posting a picture of my new friend and me help me or will he think that it’s finally over between us? I just want him to ask me to be his girlfriend, we went to elementary school together and we have great chemistry. And seen ancounslor was everything i wanted him to be than bam 4 months later same the thing back to his old selfish ways breaking up with me. She may be busy at that particular moment or you may not have built up enough attraction yet.
You deserve someone who respects you and appreciates you for who you really are, not the condition you are in. I called her up and she started behaving in a happy way, talking about random topics and stuffs. His article basically went on to say that you should never use jealousy to try to get your ex back. IF you are looking for in-depth details and step by step guides to getting an ex boyfriend or husband back I would like to point you towards Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-Book. Here is the kicker though, if a couple like the one I am describing (a man who is comfortable and not tending to his woman’s needs) go out to a bar and the woman starts flirting with other guys the dynamic will completely change. Sure, he will be angry and sad but I promise you at the end of the day he is going to question why he ever let you go. However, if she doesn’t challenge me, intellectually or emotionally, I will lose interest.
Anyways, she dominated the conversation so much that I literally felt like I had no chance so I just gave up even though I really liked her. Also, not that I think this is going to happen, but what if he contacts me before the NC period is up? I just have to accept the fact that he doesn’t want me for a serious relationship only to sleep with once in a while because even for that I was the one initiating it. The truth of the matter is that the amount of free information that actually works is a rare commodity but I think I have done a pretty good job of leading the way in that regard. I have found that the rules I am about to describe are the most effective at making your ex a little jealous.
All is fair, so I knew he had started to talk to other girls and I did the same by testing the waters with other guys. It worked because a week later he started messaging me telling me he made a stupid drunken mistake again and that this isn’t what he wanted.
If you use jealousy in a smart way it is almost guaranteed to bring up previous romantic feelings that your ex had for you. I still love my ex and want to be with him but I think he’s conflicted with his feelings. He says he still loves me but in a way it has changed because when he looks at me he sees all the hurt he has caused me and the mistake he made and he doesn’t know if he can forgive himself.
However, after agreeing to be friends, he found out other guys had been approaching me and he continued to get jealous and started yelling and saying mean things to me out of anger, saying I didn’t consider his feelings.
I said things for the sole purpose of just trying to make him jealous and I took it one step too far and he snapped. I just want to know if I have a chance at getting him back, and if so how do I go about it?
I would like to be with him again at some point as crazy as that sounds, and want to give the NC method a try. So how do i follow no contact rule when every day i have to see him bc he pickings up our son from daycare dont nsg him in less its about daycare or are son.



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