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How Can I Get Back My Ex Boyfriend?If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you know this has happened to you.You stand there, looking at your phone, your thumb quivering over the keypad . This website has a lot of information about the no contact rule since it is an essential stepping stone to getting your ex boyfriend back. Well, the same can be said about the no contact rule as there are parts of it that can be very complicated. No Contact– A rule stating that you are not allow to call, text or get in touch with your ex boyfriend for a certain period of time. And yet, that simple idea turns out to be one of the hardest things to successfully complete when it comes to the ex recovery process. What does it mean if your ex boyfriend doesn’t contact you during the no contact period? You know what really sucks?Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? When you ignore someone with the intent of making them want to talk to you more and instead they don’t talk to you at all. Essentially what I am going to be doing here is bridging the gap between you and your ex boyfriend. I promise that I am going to do everything in my power to make that a reality for you and I want YOU to hold me accountable to it.
I have already defined what the no contact rule is in the opening paragraph of this guide but I haven’t really talked about what the purpose of it is. Seriously, when you sit back at the end of the day having completed a no contact rule what is it that you are aiming to have accomplished?
When you were a small baby and they neglected you for even a few seconds what did you do to get their attention?
The point I am trying to make here is that silence is very powerful and the no contact rule uses silence to it’s advantage.
However, the no contact rule also uses something else as equally powerful as silence to it’s advantage, the power of ignoring.
Speaking from personal experience I can tell you that any time a girl I really like ignores me it bugs me on a deep level.
The no contact rule is meant to tap into that loss and cause an ex boyfriend to contact you but is that the true purpose of the no contact rule? Does your ex boyfriend even need to contact you during NC for you to be able to get him back? Well, if you take a look at the true purpose of no contact (to make him feel like he misses you) you can’t really tell if he misses you or not if he never contacts you. First though, I would like to take the spotlight off of him for a while and talk about YOU.
You see, every day when I wake up one of the first things I do is answer as many comments on this site as possible. Too often do I run into someone who completely misunderstands the purpose of the no contact rule.
You see, a large portion of women who visit this site are under the impression that all they have to do to get their ex back is the no contact rule.
While I am certainly annoyed to get responses like that I do have to take some of the responsibility. This is me taking responsibility for not explaining the no contact rule as thoroughly as I should have.
While it is entirely possible that those three outcomes can occur it is also possible that all three may not occur. Then you are going to be extremely disappointed and depressed if stuff like this doesn’t happen at all. I guess the main point I am trying to make here is that if you manage your expectations you will be much better off.
It is a well known fact that I have talked to over 24,000 women through this site and let me tell you that when you talk to that many people you start to learn a thing or two. Lets switch gears for a minute here and talk about why your ex boyfriend wouldn’t contact you during this delicate time that we like to call the no contact period.
There are a lot of different reasons for why an ex boyfriend would refuse to contact you during the no contact period. Lets start out with probably the most likely reason that he may not contact you during no contact, his stubborn nature. As I teach in my No Contact Rule Book, some men are extremely stubborn and will refuse to be the one that reaches out first during the no contact period. These are generally the type of men that absolutely love hearing compliments about themselves in relationships. Some men are just wired this way and it is really unfortunate because with these men it will usually be you that has to take the first step. Lets say that you are doing the no contact rule and you happen to run into a stubborn guy who won’t contact you at all. If you are an avid reader of this site then you have probably come across my massive 10,000 word guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back.
In other words, in that massive guide I actually recommend that you are the first one to make contact with your ex after the no contact period. I think too many women are conditioned by society to think that making the first move on a guy is wrong.
Sometimes it really pays to be the first one making the move on your ex because not only can you control things a little bit better it is always kind of nice when a guy feels wanted. One of the most overlooked factors when it comes to the no contact rule is how the actual breakup will affect your boyfriend. This is something I have talked about numerous times throughout this site so it only makes sense that I talk about it again here. This victimized role he is going to place himself in is going to cause him to want revenge on you in some way shape or form. We have also discussed how it is possible that just the act of breaking up can cause a guy to paint himself as the victim. You have embarked on the no contact rule and you are feeling pretty darn good about yourself. You can always expect a little bit of stubbornness to be involved when it comes to someone using silence as revenge.
I know that was an incredibly weird picture for me to paint right now but the point I am trying to make here is that your ex boyfriend knows that deep down HIS silence will hurt you and it’s his only way of getting back at you without actually seeming crazy. This may spark an interesting debate though because if an ex boyfriend is using his own silence to hurt you does it mean that he would ever consider a reconciliation?
While it is always important to find that delicate balance between logic and emotions it is also important to remember that the mere fact that your ex is trying to get back at you through the use of his silence means he is feeling emotions.
While those emotions may be negative they are still emotions and if you play your cards right you can turn them in your favor.


A few months ago I got a message from a woman whose ex hadn’t contacted her during her no contact period.
I would like to take a look at what could possibly be going on in his mind if he takes a really long time to contact you. Well, lets assume that you are embarking on a 30 day no contact rule and lets say that after 21 days your ex boyfriend hasn’t gotten in touch with you. Well, one thing that you can automatically assume is that a guy who doesn’t contact you during the no contact period always has a bit of stubbornness to him. That battle between the pride and the heart is what your ex could be going through if he is experiencing what we are talking about here. Towards the beginning of this guide I went on this whole rant about how the no contact rule can still be working even if your ex doesn’t contact you. Originally, I thought it would be fun to write a massive 10,000 word article on how to get your ex boyfriend back and see what happened. Men are expected to make the first move, pay for dates, text first, etc, etc (you get the idea.) Thus, many women feel almost entitled when it comes to men talking to them. What’s interesting is that I have had multiple women contact me here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery wondering if they should contact their ex after the no contact.
Since this guide is specifically focusing on men who haven’t contacted you during NC lets use that as an example.
So, we have a guy who hasn’t contacted you at all during your 30 day no contact period.
Remember, your main goal here is to get your ex back and in order to do that communication is key. Besides, sometimes you will have to message your ex first and earn the right back to get him to message you. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. Hey I have been going through the site quite often but my situation is a bit different .I liked this girl and we were in a realtionship. It’s already been three months AMOR and how will I know that she is willing to be with me again?
My boyfriend broke up with me and said he doesn’t wish for it to work he says I stress him out whenever I speak to him he then said he needs not days but weeks with no contact off me to see if he misses me?
So I broke up recently with my gf(i know that most of the users here are female but im just looking for help) and i really couldnt deal with it. Do I start no-contact again(i only sent a msg saying that i left “because im busy with work”) for at least 30 days or what do I do?
I had only been with my boyfriend for 3 months but I was absolutely in love with him ever since i met him 6 months before we started dating. Michael Fiore (whos appeared on the Rachael Ray show among other programs) has come up with a simple method for using TEXT MESSAGES to to drag your man back to you like a tractor beam . Well, today we are going to be tackling one of the most asked questions when it comes to the no contact rule. This guide is going to be looking at that situation specifically and breaking it down from your side and your ex boyfriends side.
If you think I slacked off when writing this then just let me know in the comments and I will be sure to correct the problems that you see. The point I am trying to make here is that the more attached you are to someone the greater the chances that them ignoring you will affect you.
I suppose I could have done a better job of explaining the complexities of how this is all supposed to play out. It can be entirely possible that the no contact rule was working you just have no idea because he has an amazing poker face.
I have seen a lot of people with that attitude fail but I have also seen a lot of people with that attitude succeed.
In other words, they get addicted to the compliments and admiration they get in a relationship and they convince themselves that the girl has to do all the work.
You go in thinking that he is a shoe in to message you throughout the period but it doesn’t happen at all. Yes, there are time where you have to view it as a game (the talking phase, getting your ex back, etc.) However, when it comes time to actually build or grow your relationship communication is going to be required. You are always going to have to be the one to take the first step and press the action when it comes to communicating. Does this mean that you are going to have to be the one to press the action after the NC rule is completed?
It just means that with some guys you are going to have to be the one to make the first step. While I would tend to agree with that you are in a very unique situation here in that we are talking about your ex boyfriend.
Remember, the guy who is stubborn may want more than anything for you to contact him but he just can’t get out of his own way sometimes. It could be entirely possible that your ex boyfriend has gone through the following progression. Granted, if you cheated on your guy then he is the victim but even in cases where there was no cheating the sheer fact that he had to break up with you is going to make him feel like the victim. If a guy has broken up with you the emotions he is going to experience after the breakup may cause him to feel like he was the victim. You have managed your expectations about him reaching out during NC but you are a human being after all and you can’t help but wonder why he has been silent on his end for 10 days straight. You have been in the no contact period for about 10 days but he hasn’t contacted you.
If he does happen to get in touch with you from anywhere between 21-30 days then I would consider that to be a pretty long time for an ex boyfriend to not respond to you.
However, if he does end up biting the bullet and contacting you in that 21-30 day window that means there is a serious internal battle going on within him.
Well, obviously Ex Boyfriend Recovery took off after that but if you go back and revisit the first official guide I wrote for this site you are going to learn a few interesting things. While I have definitely made some major changes in my philosophy on exes since then (it was inevitable that I evolve with the site) pretty much the basic game plan for getting an ex back is the same. They literally asked me what I thought and when I told them that I thought it would be ok they decided against it because of that sense of entitlement. Your NC time period has just concluded and you are debating on whether or not you should contact him via a text message. Well, if the two of you just have this never ending no contact battle with one another then nothing is going to happen that could help you two reunite. You get to control when the conversation is started and assuming you play your cards right when it will end.
A few days later i found out she had met someone else and they started dating but it was literally just starting out.
I sent her one last message and that was to say that i’m not gonna be contacting her NOR anyone and she said alright.


I want to start no contact as she is the woman im willing to sacrifice months and my efforts to be with.
What about when you were a little bit older and saw something at the store that you really wanted but they were simply silent to your request? For example, I remember when I was younger and a girl I was falling for wouldn’t respond to my texts I logged on to Facebook and looked at her profile to see if she was online. You start off with really high hopes that throughout this process he will end up contacting you.
Anyways, it seems that I have developed a new pet peeve when it comes to communicating with you ladies. Most women get extremely depressed when an ex boyfriend doesn’t message them at all during the no contact period. So, there is no use getting all depressed over a strategy that is literally at it’s beginning. I feel that women often have an advantage over men because women are constantly talking to other women about their feelings.
People have a tendency to only remember the bad stuff about the relationships towards the end. While your expectations have been managed your only human and you can’t help but wonder what is going on in his mind. On day 30 of her no contact period her ex finally broke down and sent out a message to her. It doesn’t matter if he blew your phone up with text messages during NC or if he completely ignored you as you were ignoring him. Secondly, I can tell you that I am absolutely thrilled when a girl takes the initiative to message me. And the most important thing is, were you active in improving yourself, going out, doing new activities, meeting new people, had a make over during nc?
I was put into a whatsapp group(in which she was in) and i immediately left because i dont neccesarily like whatsapp groups, and next thing i know 30 min later she texts me asking if im okay and that she was just wondering if i was okay because i left the group.
Every single friend of his and of mine knows it and would make comments to him and to me about it. You can download this as nice desktop wallpaper by right click and save as into your computer. It just so happens that the time I did look at her profile she was online and I remember I blew her phone up angry that she was ignoring me.
However, after your 30 days are completed he hasn’t contacted you and you are left feeling pretty depressed. Remember, the no contact rule is only the first step of the entire ex boyfriend recovery process.
It want’s what it wants and eventually it wore my pride down and a few days later I sent that message. Believe me when I say it takes a man who is incredibly stubborn to not contact you during a 30 day NC period. Seriously, I am so used to messaging girls (who I am romantically interested in) first that it is kind of annoying to me to keep doing it. Don't miss to check all from this kind of lovely popular desktop background by viewing the similar high definition wallpapers design below. He was very to himself yet intriguing and not like the other guys these days and super smart so i was hooked! What about when you were in high school and you really liked a boy who wouldn’t give you the time of day? It becomes very frustrating for me cuz I begin to feel like I’m chasing him and I am tired. He works at the university i attend and i made friends with all his friends so i will probably run into him a few times.
The meet up went reaaaally well, he told me I looked amazing and very happy, and he was happy for me. And for 4 days in the beginning i kept trying to tell him that I want to make it work and that you can’t just let go of someone who loves you so much.
He would just tell me that he’s not ready to give time to someone else and he wants to be selfish and he just wants to be alone. And that didnt make sense to me because he hadn’t had a girlfriend for 2 years already, and because i would barely hear from him when we were together so its not like i expected that much out of him. But also because I cheated on him (repeatedly …) a year ago and he only found out this year)? On the 4th day that I kept trying i told him that i’ll let him be exactly the way he wants to be. I dont expect for him to contact me at all if he doesnt want to, as long as we still get to be together.
So trough that month and a half of texting he continued saying me that and he was asking me about my opinion about everything he was doing. Thank you for all the advice & articles, it has been really helpful in the healing process! We made little interactions during lunch time cuz he does come and eat at the same table with me despite our awkward noncommunication. I kept thinking that maybe theres something wrong with me or i may not be attractive enough. He’s hard to read bcuz most of the times he seems unbothered about us not being together. I told him I still want to be around and still want to be friends and he said then its not like we’re broken up. I kind of pushed him to wall and he admitted he went to coffee with that girl and that they had been talking for a week. When he said that I asked him how did it come to this that he resents being around me so much. I was furious and I said that he can’t have me in his life if he has her and when he decides what he wants to contact me. 7 days later, day before my birthday, he contacted me that he is going to delete me off facebook so he can move on.
You shouldn’t have introduced me to your friends because i made friends with your friends so if they are going to get together for something, i will be there. I know that i will be strong and go through the 30 day NC rule but I dont think it would work to my advantage in this case to contact him after those 30 days are up since it was purely him that terminated our relationship. It simply seems that he really just doesnt want to be with me but thats just really, really hard for me to believe.



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