Imagine a bible that is full of text messages deconstructing everything you need to say through texts to get your ex boyfriend back. If you are an avid reader of this site then you have probably already realized that there is a certain framework that I use for getting your ex back. No face to face confrontations for 30 days becomes minimal face to face contact for 30 days. So, I am going to take a moment to dissect the changes we just made to the no contact rule. The original no contact rule clearly states that you should have no contact with your ex at all for at least 30 days. The ONLY time that you should initiate a texting conversation or call is if there is an important discussion that has to happen because of your kids. If he steers the conversation towards you or your relationship after asking about the children do not fall into that trap. Originally in the no contact rule there is to be no face to face contact for at least 30 days. When you have to talk to your ex make sure that you smile and are as attractive as possible. You get too overemotional so when it is time to finally make your move things don’t tend to go well. A confident man who is charming, has good posture and can string a sentence together without shaking? Social proof is a concept that I learned from probably the sleaziest of men, pickup artists.
The best way I could describe social proof would be to take the example of that waitress going around talking to other guys in the bar. If you can find a way to get social proof from other men and show it to your ex in a non confrontational way then you can bet that your value will raise in his eyes.
Alright, so lets do a quick recap of what we have discussed so far so that we make sure we are all on the same page here. The mistake I see time and time again when it comes to opening the conversation with an ex boyfriend is the temptation to use your kids to do so. Another common mistake I see is the failure to realize that just getting a response from an ex at the beginning isn’t good enough. There are a lot of factors that go into getting a positive response from a text message you send. Usually, (though not all the time) if your ex is responding in a positive way to all of your text messages that means he is very interested in what you are saying and it could be a way of determining that he is thinking about reuniting with you or the idea is at least in his mind.
If you are getting too many of these types of responses I want you to STOP EVERYTHING FOR A MINUTE. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
I think you really need to talk since it’s for your daughter, then it depends on that talk what your next actions would be.
He is also picking and choosing when he sees his son and it’s making me feel rubbish! Being physically attractive depends on how you carry yourself and what you feel about yourself..
My boyfriend and i were going out for 2 and a half years i have 3 kids that are not his but who consider him dad and he still consider them his. This article will give you some of these reasons that might not have occurred to you before. If this was your first relationship and you are all botched up by the idea of “true love” and that “you two belong together”, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your entire life. Were you two (or one of you) constantly abusing each other (physically, verbally, or emotionally)? When someone says that they don’t want to be with you, it usually takes a blow on your self-esteem.
Your mind, in trying to cope up with the loss will try to play scenarios where you think about what could have been if things had gone differently. By thinking about what could’ve been, you are training yourself to see things in a way that you want them to be, compared to the way things actually are. This one is obvious, but I am constantly surprised by the amount of people who want to get back together even after their ex cheated on them or lied about something important.
I know your heart wants to give your ex another chance, but in my experience you are better off without them. Step 2 of this Guide is called YOU simply because it is all about you.  This is the part where you can undo all the damage you might have already done by making the mistakes mentioned in Step 1. What if they forget about all the great times we had together until I remind them every day? What if they find someone else and marry them and buy a house together and have children and then have grandchildren and I never hear from them again?
If your ex was in a meaningful relationship with you, then the breakup is as hard for them as it is for you, even if they were the one who broke up. Stopping communications with your ex is absolutely imperative because you are going to become a happier and a more attractive person during this step. Besides, during the breakup, your ex must have associated a lot of negative qualities with you. By not contacting your ex, you are giving them time to forget all those negative qualities about you and think about the good qualities in you. You have to realize that after a breakup, you are bound to experience a plethora of emotions. All these emotions are just normal reaction of your mind after a loss, but when it comes to getting your ex back; they can be detrimental to your chances.
These thoughts come in the mind every now and then, but they just disrupt your whole view of life.
In the end, if you do decide to get back, then try to understand your flaws and think whether or not you want to work on them.
Even though you might feel miserable inside, you have to force yourself and try to enjoy your life.
Go out with your friends, get a new hobby, pick up an old hobby, work out and get in shape, go to yoga or meditation classes, do volunteer work, spend time with family etc.
If you separate yourself from the thoughts about your ex, you will realize there are tons of things that you can do while you are alone.
How long do you stay on Step 2 is totally dependent on how long it takes for you to feel great about yourself and your life. Share the joy 6 1 With all the man stealing going on out there, it’s looking like nobody is safe, especially not around your own friends!!! With all the man stealing going on out there, it’s looking like nobody is safe, especially not around your own friends!!! I could take the easy way out and give you a general outlook of how to get an ex back who is the father of your children.
Above I talked about how out of everyone who visits this site you are the ones who I most want to see win out in the end. You know, the one where you are supposed to essentially freeze your ex out for around 30 days. Successfully completing a MCP (Minimal Contact Period) like I explained above probably won’t be enough to get your ex boyfriend to come back. While each person has a unique story I am starting to see an alarming trend, and it’s not good.


I am a big believer in the fact that if a relationship you were in failed before you need to change something in order to ensure success in the future. It’s a pretty popular place around where I live and the two of us usually meet up there when we want to catch up. It was the way she carried herself, the way she would play hard to get and the way she could confidently look any man in the eye and make HIM go weak in the knees.
For example, I got the vibe that nothing I could have said would have been able to seduce her.
If you have gained wait since you had your child and were too lazy to get your body back to tip top shape then you are on my bad side. I would see these men hit on her and knew that if other men found her attractive than she is definitely attractive.
On the flipside though, if you are constantly getting a lot of neutral, negative or no responses from him it does not bode well for your chances. Getting a positive response from an ex boyfriend who is probably very angry with you is not going to be the easiest thing to do in the world. Rebuild your own life first whether you lose that weight or not, the more important thing is you have a life apart from him whether you get back together or not.
January 2024, after getting back together for the THIRD time, three months into our relationship, I found out I was pregnant. The park, the mall, or stay with him in the house but do something else while close by so that he can see you’re busy.
I was with my ex for 21 years, although we broke up twice for a year or 2 during that time.
We were happy than out of no were right befor christmas he dumps me and says he we need a seperation than in january he got with another girl.
We had been together for 5 years and he broke up with me in Feb 2015 due to me being needy and clingy. If so, you have to learn to let go of the feelings and start living your life with self-respect. Just because someone doesn’t want a relationship with you doesn’t mean that you are anything less of awesome. You will keep repeating the breakup scene (and your relationship) in your mind over and over again thinking of different outcomes with different actions. Your mind is trying it’s best to stay in the comfort zone and keep imagining a way to work things out with your ex.
If you want to find out whether or not getting back together is good for you, you need to stop imagining things and concentrate on what you need to do right now. Even though you were the one who broke up because of their action, sometimes you want to get back together in hopes that your ex will change and you will trust them again. Someone who cheated once will probably do it again, and even if they don’t your relationship will never have the level of trust that is necessary for a happy and long lasting relationship.
Even if you didn’t make any of those mistakes, you still MUST follow this step, because this is the most crucial step in getting back together. Maybe they started losing their attraction during the relationship and whatever made them lose that attraction is still predominant in their mind. And the best part of no-contact is that when you stop contacting your ex, you automatically become “not needy” in their mind. You will be obsessing over your ex; you will be angry, sad, resentful, guilty, and sometimes even in disbelief.
But what you might not know is that you are causing damage to your subconscious by repeating these thoughts. Every couple on the face of this planet fights, but if you two broke up, then chances are there was something seriously wrong with your relationship.
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So in the name of tea, TSR has come up with the 10 most scandalous celebrity friend steals of the century!!! 10. My heart really goes out to all the single mothers out there because you really have to be strong for yourself and for your children. I am a big believer in this for a very long list of reasons that I frankly don’t have the patience to list here.
This is one of those rare cases where no contact cannot be done so you have to modify the rules a little bit. Usually with regular, kidless couples, I get inquiries about what to do if you have to pick up your stuff from your exes place.
Anyways, the waitress who waited on us this particular day was one of those girls who both my buddy and I found very attractive.
Anyways, it became evident to me that this waitress held a spell over every single man in that bar after watching her interact with other customers. It is going to require you to make sacrifices you don’t want to make and do things that are way outside the box. If you don’t feel you are drop dead gorgeous or feel like there is no way that you can become that you can make up for it with the other qualities. So, if you want any chance of reuniting your family then you need to make sure you display it in spades. The UG (ungettable girl) dangles herself in front of a man tempting him to take a chance on her. However, before you send anything we need to set up some parameters to give you the best chance of success. While it is almost 100% guaranteed to get a response talking about your children does nothing for repairing YOUR relationship with your boyfriend.
I do think it is important to mention that the way your ex responds to you via text message is a way of determining how good you are doing in your quest to get him, you and the kids back together. While it may be hard the only thing that can help you in this case is giving him some more time to calm down a little bit and get less angry with you. I am absolutely devastated and have begged and pleaded and done all that humiliating stuff over and over. We stayed together and we were fine but two months later, he got drunk and he was mean and verbally abusive and it was not like him at all.
He did it again today, by leaving me a voicemail regarding his things & we also share a joint bank account.
Should I keep rejecting his calls & if he leaves me a voicemail or text regarding baby, is that more appropriate to respond. I can do my best to do minimal contact with kids…but the whole ungettable girl thing? A lot of times, people want to get back together because their self-esteem is hurt from the breakup and the only way to repair it seems to get back together.
If you are feeling rejected, it’s because you are taking this breakup way too much personally.
If you think about it, your ex only came to know only a small part of you during the time you were together. If you are only thinking about how things have gone differently, you are not thinking about what actually happened. But the fact is, it’s very very very hard to build trust again after your ex has cheated on you. You are just going to give you and your ex enough time for all the negativity of the breakup to fade away.


It will give you a new perspective on life which you can never get by sitting on your couch while eating a bucket of ice cream and watching “The Notebook”. Now, I don’t want you to get too disappointed because the framework you see above will still work to a certain extent but there are bits and pieces that have to be modified.
Below I am going to list the major changes that you have to implement with regards to the NC rule. Maybe the kids will get sick while they are with him and he doesn’t know what to do so he calls you. However, with couples that had children I get inquiries about what to do if you have to see your ex while exchanging kids. So, while all the other guys were picturing themselves with her I began to think about this site! However, there is something incredibly appealing about the woman who can’t be seduced. I use to send him text messages everyday saying how much i love him, how much hes hurting me, and knowing him for so long this girl is not good for him” etc…But now i decided to do the MC rule am i doing the right thing? We broke up and because of all the fighting we had and a lot of it was mostly about him but some of it was about our son, and I just didn’t want to fight anymore and because my ex was drinking and getting angry, I decided to seek out a lawyer and go about official custody and child support help. I want him back but im afraid if i do the minimal contact thing he will think he is better off with out us and he is happy with her. Everything was going great but then he would stay out after work and drink wouldn’t come home till around 7 pm or 8pm and he got off work at 3pm. Then he came out and told me he loves me but is in love with some one else he’s been knowing since high school. If you and your ex really belong together, you will end up together after you’ve experienced life. Once you are over the relationship and living a life where no one is abusing you, you will realize that “not getting back together” was the right thing to do. If you and your ex have to see each other (due to work or kids) then make sure you keep the conversation professional or just related to the kids. So this type of self-talk is only going to lower your self-esteem and will ultimately ruin your chances of being happy in your life.
So whenever these thoughts come to your mind, stop them and tell yourself exactly what you want from your life. Out of everyone who visits my site it is the women who have children that I cheer for the most. The possibilities are endless when there are kids involved so the no contact rules have to change.
While facial beauty is genetic and there is nothing you can do about it, there is something you can do about having a sexy body. What you need to do is send him a text that is so interesting or intriguing that he would have no choice but to respond to it in a positive way. He did feel bad but he just didn’t want to have the same thing to happen again if we just got back together. I highly recommend you sit down and write as much reasons for not getting back together as you can. If your ex chose to end this relationship, it’s because they wanted something else in their life. You have to be confident, calm, relaxed, happy and a fun person to be considered attractive. Imagine, you are a parent and your child was in the same situation as you, would you still tell your son or daughter to get their ex back?
The page that you see here today is going to be one of the best resources ever created for getting your ex boyfriend back if you have kids together. Yes, this will require some outside the box thinking and maybe some inspiration from around the internet. He bought a house next door from my family, I moved in with his older child from a previous marriage. He still calls and ask how i’m doing but i keep the convo very short and don’t contact him am i doing whats right? I’ve since moved onto the minimal contact rule as we have two children together and I see him nearly everyday. He never cheated on me with her and for 3 months I tried really hard to work on myself and fix things with him and asked him to stop seeing her but he was really resentful about that and eventually would lie to me and sneak off to hang out with her. If the reasons for getting back together are much more convincing than the reasons for not getting back together, you know you are making the right choice.
No, it’s because I want them to succeed so their kids have a father figure in their lives, a father figure that is actually their father. So I’m really confused about how to get back together by making him want me when I need him to actually deal with what happened with me.
You have to realize you are an amazing person who deserves the best in the world and after that; if you still want to get back together, you have my blessing.
I really hoped he would realise how much he’d hurt me and screwed up and want to work on things but he was just angry and got his own place.
During the year of our break we never contacted each other unless it was strictly about the kids.
He says he loves me and still wants to be with me but he doesn’t think it should be right now. Then he became friends with a guy we work with (my ex and I work together) and he started texting this guy all the time, hanging out at work with him all the time, going to the gym together, and then he started wanting to go out with him on his nights off. During that year I dated a few guys, but the relationships never worked because I never felt a strong connection. Well Leshontae set the record straight saying attending a few events together don’t make us friends hunny!7.
He said i needed to change things meaning I needed to go out on more dates with him and show him that i cared. I want our relationship back but not how it was and there are big trust issues that would need to be addressed. He even called my friends and stated he loves me but doesnt want to try then never even mention the new girl to my friends. Should I move out get my life situated for the baby and work on getting him back like that. Moral of the story, is don’t listen to the friend telling you not to mess with a guy because most likely it’s her trying to clear way for herself!3. Can’t even get your nails done together without somebody little sister tryna steal your man!2. Moral of the story, is don’t listen to the friend telling you not to mess with a guy because most likely it’s her trying to clear way for herself!
So after I dropped the kids to school, i did my usual house work and then i just started thinking about him. Chris Brown having a secret love child with a woman that both him and Karreuche partied it up with, is just the shadiest in the history shady!!! YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE THE PINK PRINT MOVIE – NICKI MINAJ – IS SHE TELLING US SOMETHING ABOUT SAFAREE?



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