Every single article that has ever been written for this site has centered on an area of the overall ex recovery process. In fact, not only is it a bit old but I know a lot more about getting exes back than I did in the early stages of last year.
What would happen if I wrote another large guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back that completely updated my philosophy?
If you aren’t already aware I would like to tell you that I have written two books on ex boyfriends. Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO – A step by step guide that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
The Texting Bible – A guide about how to text your ex boyfriend in any situation you can think of. If you really want to have everything you could ever want when it comes to getting your ex back those are probably the two best resources available right now. As you learn in my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO getting your ex boyfriend back is not an exact science. Well, something I was shocked to learn was the fact that most women fail to get their exes back because they are undisciplined. If you look at the list above and find that you have done one or more of the things there you may be freaking out. The first step to weighing your chances is asking yourself if a happy ending is in sight for you and your ex. If things like cheating, emotional abuse, BAD fighting have occurred then your chances of success will not be as high. It has been about a year since I last put my original game plan for getting an ex boyfriend back into writing. While this new game plan is very similar to the old one found on my very first guide on getting an ex boyfriend back there are a few major differences. In my infinite wisdom ?? I have learned that the best way to get your ex back is to slowly build attraction. However, the mistake that most women make is the fact that they just want the pain they are feeling (the lonliness, depression, etc) to stop as soon as possible and they rush the ex recovery process.
There is a certain way that you need to send a text message after the no contact rule has been completed. Once you establish a texting conversation with your ex it is your goal to build attraction in that conversation to make him want you.
If you have built enough attraction through texts and phone calls it is only inevitable that you will get a date. The No Contact Rule – This article is basically an introduction into the no contact rule.
The Male Mind During No Contact – This one basically talks about everything that is going on inside your exes mind once you perform the no contact rule on him. The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you aren’t allowed to respond to phone calls, texts, facebooks, snap chats, emails or anything else from your ex. However, now that I have seen so many people try the no contact rule I have decided that in some cases a shorter no contact period may be best. Lets pretend that you decide that you want to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend. Believe it or not this is the type of message that I have seen multiple women get during the no contact rule. Actually no, it meas that your ex boyfriend wants to talk to you more than anything and that is a good thing.
When your ex boyfriend threatens you in this way I view him, and this may be a little extreme, but I view him as a terrorist and we don’t negotiate with terrorists.
I already know this is going to confuse the heck out of people so I really want you to pay attention to what I say here.
If this happens then you should feel proud of yourself because that means that I desperately want you to talk to me.
A lot of people don’t realize this but the no contact rule is meant to work in two different ways.
The first way that no contact is supposed to work is that it’s supposed to have an affect on your ex boyfriend.
The key to a successful no contact rule is combining the two which is something that I am going to talk about right now. Self improvement during the no contact rule is all about starting at point A to get to point Z (point Z obviously being your ex.) It always irks me when women come to this site, read about the no contact rule and then completely disregard the fact that self improvement is a part of it. The ungettable girl is a concept that I came up with to describe a girl that can pretty much make any man crazy. I think the first thing that you have to understand is that every man out there loves the chase.
Ok, I guess that is more than a few “aspects” but you want to do this right, right?
Now, if you are sitting here reading this and you feel a little overweight then consider this your wake up call. Let me tell you a little story and trust me when I say that everything I talk about below really happened to me. I have debated telling this story for months because the truth is I am not fond of telling personal stories that talk about other people but this one so clearly illustrates the point I am making here that I can’t resist.
Slowly but surely I started to get to know the real her and I learned that her personality was very unstable. Well, the book is basically about this tree that loves this little boy with all it’s heart. Essentially, the boy had taken so much from the tree that the tree had nothing left to give. The point was that eventually I stopped being friends with her because I learned she treated everyone like this.
Well, after I learned about her personality every time I looked at her picture on Facebook I no longer found her attractive. The two will always be linked and the key to an ungettable girl is that she has high marks in both looks and personality.
If I had to take a guess I would say that right now your confidence is pretty much down in the dumps. Even more important, there is no way in he** you are going to become an ungettable girl without confidence.
Some are the perfect amount of confidence and some are way too confident that it is off-putting. I once knew this woman who would always tell me that she was the most confident person ever. The point is that someone who is truly confident doesn’t need to say that they are confident they just are. If you can master these two things then don’t worry, you are well on your way to becoming confident. Well, it is an idea that I picked up from probably the strangest community ever, pickup artists. Well, I don’t think it is any coincidence that every single ungettable girl out there is well liked by all of her friends and is extremely popular.
I recommend that you use this no contact period as a time to socialize and have amazing experiences your friends.
So, while you are working on self improvement the no contact rule should simultaneously be having an effect on your ex boyfriend. Now, before I start getting into specifics someone in the comments section of this website made me aware of a big flaw with the no contact rule.
That means if you and your ex had a major fight you would be going into the no contact rule for 30 days on the heels of that major fight. Anyways, this concept basically says that the things that people remember the most when it comes to relationships are the beginnings and endings of that relationship. I have been on this planet for quite a while and have dealt with my fair share of women who aren’t classy. While that text message may look like an apology it really isn’t if you read it carefully.
There is only one way I know how to describe this bond but it is going to require some role playing from you and I. I know we have gone over a lot so take a moment and catch your breath because we still have a lot to cover. If you have picked up my book, The Texting Bible then you may have seen me mention that text messaging is non threatening. However, one of the things I have learned through helping thousands of women is that you should really only have two goals when it comes to text messaging after the no contact rule.
Your entire game plan when it comes to text messaging is going to revolve around two goals. Often times the best way to get an ex boyfriend on the phone is to build attraction with him and if you happen to be very successful in building that attraction you may luck out and he could ask you on a date. One thing I do want to say is that many women make the mistake of skipping goal one and going straight to goal two before building attraction. If you follow that simple structure during your texting phase then I guarantee you are going to have some nice success. When it comes to building attraction (or in your case re-building attraction) you can’t be overeager.
The number one mistake I see from women when it comes to this phase of my philosophy is that they are too eager to see an end result.
I guess the point I am trying to make here is that if you follow my advice in this section you should be able to re-build attraction with your ex boyfriend. You have essentially ignored your ex for 30 days (or 21 days depending on some situations.) How in the world are you supposed to approach this situation? Seriously, I roll my eyes and put my phone down for a few moments whenever I receive responses like these. I don’t recommend you copy my doppelganger story word for word but you can use it as an idea of the type of interesting thing that should get your ex to bite. When I originally came up with the idea for a first contact text message I advised people to end the conversation immediately.
Rather than immediately ending the conversation I think it is a good idea to go a little deeper into the conversation. Before you can start getting into the more emotional type of text messages you are going to have to get on friendly terms with your ex boyfriend again. Lets say that you are ready to talk about your old relationship but you are unsure if your ex is.
Ok, the one thing we already know is that you can’t jump into an emotional topic (like your old relationship with your ex) right off the bat.
The way you do that is by starting off very slowly and then casually upping the intensity of the type of messages that you send. The other day I happened to stumble across a picture that is meant to be funny (but I actually found it to be true.) It is on how people view success.
A meme text message is perfect to start off your priming because it isn’t meant to be serious at all. This type of a text message was something that I came up with after a friend of mine continually sent me memes. There is a lot to balance when it comes to the initial stages of priming isn’t there?
The moment of realization came that I was in the women’s bathroom when I heard two women voices approaching and I quickly ran to hide in the stall until they went away. I had no choice but to open the stall door, reveal that I was in the wrong bathroom and then of course I ran for my life! Do you see how that story was both intriguing and funny (all of it true by the way.) These are the types of stories that keep a persons interest. If your ex boyfriend responds pretty positively to that then you can advance to the next section. If you have properly primed your ex boyfriend then you can move on to the emotional messages.
Now, the thing you have to remember when you text your ex boyfriend is that your main goal is to use the attraction you build with him to get him on the phone with you. This is your ex boyfriend we are talking about here so there is no doubt that he is going to have some negative memories. I want him to know that you are thinking of him that way and I want him to feel good about it. How To Make Your Ex Call You – A guide that will teach you what you need to do to make an ex call you or pick up the phone.
What To Do On A Date With Your Ex – I created this guide to teach women what they should do on a date with their ex. Ideally, what you want to have happen is that you build up so much attraction from the text messages that your ex just calls you. Seriously, I hate calling first because I never know if the girl is going to be busy or if she will just blow me off. The sexiest woman in the world is one who has the guts to cut through all this nonsense and call herself.
If you have built up enough attraction through text messages and phone calls then you should be able to get a date relatively easily. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. I have seen women try everything there is to try (one woman actually did a love spell.) I have seen women do everything right and fail.
Knowing when to let go is a tough thing to decipher because often times you are so close to your own situation that you are blind to the truth. Lately I have gotten a lot of women requesting a guide on how you should know when it is time to stop trying to get your ex boyfriend back.
The funny part about this is that this is the first guide in the history of this site that I have put together without research.
Heck, I believe this so much I wrote a book trying to teach people the correct way to win an ex back.
Then I see no reason for why you shouldn’t give it your all in trying to get him back. Sure, you may have tried to get your ex back but can you honestly say that you did the best you could? Look, I realize that it is weird to dedicate so much time on getting your ex back on a page about knowing when to give up BUT sometimes in order to know when to give up you have to try to get your ex boyfriend back.
I am basically telling you that in order to know for sure if you have a shot at making this work again you have to try to get your ex boyfriend back. One thing that you are going to realize really fast is that things are never as simple as black and white when it comes to determining if you should give up on getting an ex back. Most people believe that you should either try to get your ex back or you should just simply move on. A lot of what I talk about in this section of the guide is going to tie directly into the methods of getting an ex back. Well, I am going to list (one by one) the signs that an ex boyfriend might exhibit that will give you an indication on if you should give up or not. Obviously the text message should be really good and I give plenty examples on how to compose one throughout this website and even in my E-Book. Sure, it can sometimes be normal for an ex boyfriend to miss a text or two from you but if he literally cuts you out of his life by not responding to anything you send.. Of course, the thing that you are probably wondering is what can you do to get him to contact you again? Again, I want to reiterate it is not a good sign if he ignores you every time when you are reaching out..
This is another one of those situations where we are going to be focusing on what happens AFTER the no contact rule is successfully completed. However, what if an ex boyfriend of yours responded but only responded to you in a negative manner?
Perhaps it could be that he is just taking his frustrations out on you because of his own inability to hold together your relationship.
However, if I were a betting men I would say that it all comes down to the feeling he gets when he thinks back to your relationship. It shouldn’t exactly be a shock that a lot of the time the better your relationship with your ex was the better the shot you have of getting him back.
However, I know that it is a normal part of the relationship process so you should come to expect them.
In the last section we briefly discussed how men can sometimes have negative responses based on the bad feelings they had in their previous relationships.
One thing that I see happen far too often is that when a no contact rule is completed a couple can sometimes pick up right where they left off with the fighting.
As I said at the beginning of this section, fighting is a natural thing for relationships but what we are talking about here is an excess of fighting. There is no doubt in my mind that YOU are capable of trying to create a better relationship but you are only one side of the equation. The thing you really have to keep in mind when you deal with a man who says something like this is that you have to figure out if he means it or not.
The thing that you have to remember is that if these words are muttered to you by an ex you need to determine if he means them or not.
I can’t tell you how many times I have muttered this phrase throughout my life and throughout this site. If you ever want to see what a person TRULY wants (their words aside) you need to look at their actions.
However, when it came down to crunch time and advancing the relationship forward she would always cancel on me. Now, when you read the two (obviously fake) simulations of the relationships what did you notice? Well, for starters the first example seemed a lot healthier and pleasant whereas the second example seemed really stressful and unhealthy.
The worse your relationship was with your ex boyfriend the more fallout you are going to have following you around after the breakup. For example, if your previous relationship was pretty good then you can expect a positive fallout to follow you around after the breakup. Another thing that a lot of people tend to forget is the fact that your breakup can be a huge fallout indicator. For a while at least the negative connotation of a bad breakup will always be in the back of an ex boyfriends mind. Again, this is another one of those sections that isn’t really resistance you are getting from your ex boyfriend. What does this any of this have to do with knowing if you should give up on your ex boyfriend?
When you take a step back and look at your relationship with your ex boyfriend do you think any of the effort is worth it? Eventually when you do meet that someone who is twice as amazing as your ex was your world gets rocked all over again and you start to gain perspective. How are you supposed to take a step back and determine if a relationship is worth fighting for with your ex boyfriend? If you just want him back to make the pain go away then you are being a coward and taking the easy way out. Me and my boyfriend has been in a relationship for 2 years 2 months (First 1 year under same roof, 1 year 2 months LDR) until we broke up yesterday. I think it was unfair of him because whenever he told me not to go out with other men, I obliged. I didn’t see my comment published but I saw comments from others get published, even when they were after me.
No matter how hard you look you are going to be hard pressed to find an article covering the topic of how you can keep an ex boyfriend once you get him back. Oh, it might be a good idea for me to introduce what we are going to be covering on this page. This very long and in-depth page is going to teach you exactly what you need to do to keep your ex boyfriend once you get him back. Everything that is going to be talked about on this page is going to done under the pretense that you have already gotten your ex boyfriend back. Look, if you are wanting to get your ex back but you find yourself confused by where to start let me make your life a million times easier. When you meet someone for the first time there are probably a certain set of rules that you apply to paint yourself in the best light possible so that person will want to date you. So, when it comes to keeping a boyfriend vs keeping an ex boyfriend the same type of logic applies.


One of the advantages to dating someone the first time around is that your record is completely clean. I think the fact that everything is so new and unknown can become pretty exciting in a relationship. Of course, there will always be a certain segment of men who jump from relationship to relationship just to feel that newness but eventually the newness will wear off and therein lies the ultimate problem. You see, it is really easy to keep a relationship going when everything is new and exciting. The newness principle is the biggest advantage that women who want to keep their boyfriend (that they are dating for the first time) have over women who want to keep their ex boyfriend. So, this begs an interesting question, what is the allure of getting back in a relationship with your ex boyfriend?
In my opinion it all has to do with the emotional connection that you felt with your ex during your first relationship. The number one mistake I see couples making when they get into a relationship with their ex is picking up right where they left off. In other words, if the reason a couple broke up in the first place was because of arguments the same exact arguments will occur all over again the second time around. How can you create a new relationship when you and your ex boyfriend have so much negative history already? The truth is that you are going to be wasting your energies if you focus on trying to get your boyfriends forgiveness. Sadly this is a pretty common occurrence when you get back into a relationship with your ex.
It’s like this is the dark side of getting an ex boyfriend back that no one really like talks about. When you get into a new relationship with your ex boyfriend you cannot run the same type of a race again. This is the one that I am the most familiar with because it is the one that I have a lot of experience with.
Well, let me start off by saying that I think fighting and arguing is normal for any relationship.
In fact, I remember I was so disappointed with how that relationship went that I made a pact with myself.
The point of this is that the fighting and arguing that occurred with my very first girlfriend was very cruel. It was because of this and a lot of other little reasons that I took my frustrations out on her in the form of fighting and arguing.
My dad, who has been married to my mom for close to 30 years told me something once that really stuck with me. If you have a lot more good experiences than fights and arguments then the chances are high that you are in a very good relationship. I have thought a lot about what I want to talk about here so I am just going to hit you with it. This whole guide was created with one goal in mind, to teach you how you can keep an ex boyfriend.
Well, I would like to call upon our favorite new couple Mike and Jenny to act out another example for us. They overreact over something very tiny and have this overemotional outburst which in turn starts drama. Personally, I think this is the biggest mistake that gets made over and over again in a new relationship. Now, I don’t know about you but most women I know are NOT comfortable with the mock situation I just presented you with. The first thing I would like to touch on is the fact that men are going to look at other women no matter what. While I am an extremely loyal type of person I will admit that I might look at another woman here and there.
Here is the important thing to remember though, most of the time this fantasizing is harmless. I am not exactly an expert at this particular subject because I have never cheated on anyone. I think if your ex boyfriend cheated on you then you are going to have a hard time trusting him.
Look, we are all humans here and one thing I have learned about humans is that we all make mistakes. No matter what there will be some guys that don’t treat women the way they should be treated. If he cheated on you three times with three different women I want you to take a good hard look at your relationship. You may think that this is a little demeaning to say but I assure you there is a method to my madness.
Sometimes an ex boyfriend who has been cheated on will have a lot of doubts so you need to clear his mind of those doubts. What if I literally wrote an entire section in the guide on how to become the perfect girlfriend? Well, it basically means that after you read this section you are going to understand exactly what you need to do to keep your boyfriend intrigued. Oh, and I am not talking about good memories like that one time that you both went to the movie.
Imagine if every time your boyfriend thought of you he thought of that ONE time where you gave him butterflies. Now I want you to imagine if every time your boyfriend thought of you he thought of the HUNDREDS of times where you gave him butterflies.
In this section I would like to tackle an area that may be considered a little controversial, how men think a perfect girlfriend needs to look. Women have a tendency to look amazing when they are single but they kind of don’t when they are dating a guy. One of the biggest complaints that my male friends and I have when we are in relationships is the fact that women no longer dress up for us. Look, I am not saying that you have to dress up every single time you see your new boyfriend.
If you dressed up super nice for your boyfriend every single day then there is no intrigue anymore. The only woman in the house was my mom and I seriously don’t know how she put up with us all. Here is the deal though, I am a guy, I know NOTHING about perfumes or whatever it is that makes you ladies smell so good. I think everyone who has learned a thing or two about living in this crazy world tries to surround themselves with a small inner circle of friends. I don’t know how else to put this other than YOUR LIFE WILL BE SO MUCH EASIER IF THE INNER CIRCLE LOVES YOU! Well, in the movie there is a scene where Will Smith is teaching Kevin James what he needs to do to successfully date a woman. One thing I have learned through interacting with tens of thousands of women on this site is that being at a mans beck and call can be a dangerous proposition. But I think the biggest issue with having a man be the center of your world is that if he does leave you the effect it can have on your life is devastating. Every once in a while tell your boyfriend that you can’t hang out with him because you have to catch up with the girls. Who knew that such a simple word could have such a huge impact on almost every relationship you have in your life. I am going to get bold for a moment and say that over half of the relationships that I deal with (through this website) could have been saved if one person was a better communicator. That means that for you to have a long lasting relationship with your boyfriend BOTH of you have to learn to communicate.
So, when it comes to communication I think you need to focus your efforts on being the best communicator you possibly can. What I am about to talk about may not technically apply to your situation but the overall idea does. I play video games, watch cartoons and sometimes even go on the marathon movie watching sprees for Star Wars and Harry Potter. Now women constantly look to me for advice and on more than one occasion I have had women actively pursue me romantically. Hi there, ok so just under 3 months ago my boyfriend left me to be with another girl and she was pregnant (to him) and he ended up getting engaged after pressure from her family.
One of the books is about the complete step by step process to getting an ex boyfriend back (something that goes in far greater detail than I will be going into here.) The second book is all about the texting process.
I am sure if you go back to the original guide you will find a section similar to this one and you may find some major similarities between the two but I guarantee you that there are a lot of new concepts to teach. I want you to get married, have kids and pretty much have the absolute best outcome possible after implementing this game plan. Well, I didn’t say it was impossible to get your ex boyfriend back if any of the things on the list above were committed.
However, I will tell you in all honesty that your chances may be seriously hurt if any of the things above happened.
If your ex has gotten a serious new girlfriend then your chances of success will not be very high. That means that I have had an entire year to make tweaks and evolve my philosophy to improve your chances of getting him back.
When you help hundreds of women succeed in getting their boyfriends back you learn a thing or two about what works and what doesn’t work.
Essentially, we are slowly working our way to a date where you can reconnect with him on an emotional and physical level. If you are new to this site then let me say up front that I have written a lot about the no contact rule. What I am going to do now is give you a few quick links to some of the most popular no contact pages I have written. However, watching people do it for the last year I have learned some very interesting things that I didn’t know when I first talked about no contact. In addition to that you are not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact time frame. A message like this is essentially a hissy fit where he is going to threaten you by cutting you out of his life. However, the sheer fact that he is so upset about you using the no contact rule on him tells us that no contact is working it’s magic on him faster than normal. In this particular case you can have the option to shorten your 30 day no contact rule to 21 days. In other words, you are going to be fighting a battle on two fronts at the same exact time. You are emotional, your life is out of balance and quite honestly your confidence is probably lower than ever. They may say that they hate it but the truth is that deep down we all kind of like it when we can’t get the girl at first. A year ago I met this beautiful girl.  Now, let me tell you that I am quite picky so this girl was really something looks wise to catch my attention. The little boy keeps asking the tree to give him things and the tree, since it loves the little boy, gives the little boy everything he asks for.
While I was definitely not in love with her (didn’t even date her) I did have feelings for her and she knew that and used them to take advantage of me. Every single friend she had she would just take and take and take until the friends had nothing left to give and I refused to have that happen to me.
I am a guy so I feel I can bring a unique perspective when it comes to confidence for women. Women who try too hard to be confident and feel the need to prove it is a total turn off to men. Well, in the warped mind of men a girl who is actually hit on a lot by other men is perceived as higher value and more attractive. Besides, a little jealousy never hurts to make an ex realize how much he truly cares for you. Heck, I don’t even think its a bad idea to go on a date with someone new to just to test the waters. While doing that would certainly give you and your ex time to cool down it also means that your ex has a lot of anger towards you. Well, if you have a major fight at the end of your relationship and you immediately go into the no contact rule then the last thing that your ex is going to remember is that major fight.
If your ex is super angry with you during the no contact rule then the chances of it working on him the way that it is supposed to will be decreased. If you can get your ex into a positive mindset as opposed to a negative one before you go into the no contact rule then the chances of no contact working will be greatly increased. No matter what they say or do their ex may be so stubborn he will refuse to calm down until the no contact rule is completed.
Let me tell you that it is actually a really nice thing to encounter one who is extremely classy. You want him in that positive mindset before you go into the no contact rule and a message like this may do the trick to get him in that mindset.
About 7 minutes pass and I decide that I can’t bear to be without you so I decide to follow you to the kitchen to talk to you. First though, I want to take a moment and explain why text messages are preferred over a phone call. For example, whenever I care about someone I notice everything when it comes to text messaging. I would rather you go with what society has dictated the most personal form of communication, the text message.
Of course, when you take a step back you will learn that the two goals really compliment each other. Let’s assume the worst though and assume that the best you can do is get an ex boyfriend on the phone. This is a major mistake because this is the very definition of rushing the process and trust me when I say this is a process that can’t be rushed. I always find myself telling people to make their text messages so interesting that their ex has no choice but to respond to it. The problem was that by the time they were done two more women came in and eventually the bathroom go so crowded there were women waiting on the stall that I was in. This is the first time that you are going to be sending a text message about you and your ex.
Of course, there are a few things I want to discuss with you on how both of these subjects relates to my overall philosophy on getting an ex boyfriend back. Unfortunately, the thing that these women don’t take into account is that transitioning from text messages to talking on the phone is a pretty big deal for us guys too. I am like 100% of guys out there in that I am scared to death of rejection and I do feel rejected every time I put my neck on the line to call a girl and she doesn’t pick up. In other words, if you have compelling information to share (like an interesting story) your ex is going to naturally be curious and you can use that curiosity to get on the phone with him. Well, going on a date is a pretty big deal because this is where a big opportunity to get your ex back can occur.
I usually spend a day or two looking online for other ideas to incorporate into my writing but I wasn’t able to find a guide covering this topic because it is one that very few people want to talk about. Stop what you are doing for a few moments and search through some of the other guides on this site and look at the comments. Then you should try everything you can (in the smartest way possible) to try to get them back if something happens that causes you to break up. Throughout the course of your attempt things aren’t going exactly as you planned so you give up.
You have to keep trying until you are absolutely sure that your attempt isn’t worth it anymore.
You will notice that I talk about a lot of the signs that an ex boyfriend is no longer worth pursuing. What I would like to talk about is what happens after the no contact period and it is probably one of the most negative outcomes that can occure.
After the initial 30 day period was up you decided to compose a text message to send to your ex boyfriend. Imagine for a moment that your relationship with your ex boyfriend was filled with nothing but negativity. The most successful couples are the ones that can navigate through the fights and take something positive from them. While their relationship was good in almost all the other areas they have one major problem, they fight a lot.
Well, I don’t know about you but fighting can create some pretty bad feelings so not only can it lead to more negative responses (like we discussed above) but it can cause more fighting AFTER the breakup occurs.
Sometimes no matter how calm one party remains the chemisty and history between the couple will trump all logic and you will find yourself in an emotional fight. It really doesn’t matter who broke up with who all that matters is the fact that we did indeed break up.
Usually, if the words are muttered during a super emotional time you can disregard them because deep down he may not mean it.
While those words may mean something what you really need to be looking at are his actions. One thing I have been noticing more and more is that I can almost predict which women have the best chances of getting an ex boyfriend back and it all has to do with the relationship they had with their ex. Just by knowing what you know about relationships which “fake couple” do you think has a better chance of getting back together? When I talk to women who get their exes back one common thread I see between the many successes is the fact that a lot of them had very good relationships with their ex boyfriend.
In this case every time your ex boyfriend thinks back to your relationship instead of being filled with a bunch of bad feelings he is going to be filled with good feelings.
Meaning that all we are interested in is finding out the latest information, the newest stuff if you will. I actually have some experience with this phenomenon as I have been through a very bad breakup in my life. In fact, out of everything that I have ever talked about on this website this concept in this section is the thing that many people fail to really see through.
Determining how to figure out if your relationship with your ex boyfriend is worth it is not a particularly easy process.
We got back together 4 days later and he broke up with me another 3 years later, this time with reasons even he was unsure about until recently, after some soul searching I guess you could say. Many people make the mistake of thinking that keeping an ex boyfriend is the same thing as keeping a boyfriend that you are dating for the first time, it’s not. What makes this site different from the thousands of others out there is the fact that I don’t pull any punches.
When you are trying to get an ex boyfriend back there are a different set of rules that you have to follow in order to get that person back. New TV shows, new episodes, new video games, new relationships, the newness of a relationship, etc. It’s like you go through this period of obsessiveness where every little thing your significant other does just fascinates you. You see, with ex boyfriends your biggest disadvantage is that in a way your story with your boyfriend has already been written.
Likely your ex boyfriend would want to come back to you because he knows he can’t do better. The keyword here is forgiveness and in case you are wondering I am not talking about forgiveness from his side I am talking about it from YOUR side!
A few months ago I was talking to one of the women who actually got her ex boyfriend back and she was explaining to me that the relationship that she was experiencing was different. When I first started this site I didn’t even comprehend that stuff like this could happen. In this section we are going to spend our time talking about how you can establish a better relationship.
If you were running a race and you lost you are going to want to prepare to make sure that you don’t lose again. I would now like to talk a look at the type of behaviors that you cannot fall back into if you want to create that new and better relationship. Now, I will admit I never try to make a mistake but when I do I always try to take a glass half full approach.
Believe me, the first three years I went to that school I was sure I was never going to get a girlfriend so I was more than thrilled that I got a girl to care enough to date me.


For the rest of my life I will never yell at a woman (no matter how much she may deserve it). Eventually I got so fed up of the endless process and what it was doing to me emotionally that I ended the relationship.
I had just come home after a really bad fight with that girlfriend and he had noticed that I was down.
However, if your relationship is riddled with more fights than good experiences then that relationship can be ruined. You see, even a year ago I would have told you that I can’t stand over emotional people but this site has changed my mind a little bit.
I remember thinking that there must be something wrong with her because no normal person is this emotional this soon. This means we are talking about a situation where you are already in a relationship with your ex. They are on the same wavelength on a lot of different things and both see themselves being together for a long time.
Being able to trust a man you are dating essentially means that you are comfortable with him being in a room full of beautiful beautiful women.
My friend has been dating his girlfriend for about 5 years and let me tell you that they absolutely adore each other.
The main point I want you to take away from this is the fact that even though your ex boyfriend may be fantasizing about other women YOU are the one that he wants to be with at the end of the day. It is plausible that your ex boyfriend made a mistake and it was a one time thing and that was it. These are the types of guys that will cheat on their girlfriends and have no problem with it. To be honest, I didn’t think it would be this much work to get to this section but here we are. I thought maybe I could list qualities one by one that you need to display but where is the fun in that? However, while you may understand what you need to do actually doing it is not going to be as easy as you think. Most likely, he will think something like “I have seen her dress up like this a million times. If you were to dress up nice only every once in a while (but enough to keep your boyfriend thinking that you still dress up for him a lot) you have found a sweet spot that will cause him to just fall for you even more.
They are my best friends and I take their advice seriously because I know they care about my well being. You were there for him when he wakes up in the morning, you cooked for him, followed him around to parties, had sex with him whenever he wanted. Having him as the center of YOUR world is not a good idea because a couple of things are going to happen. I have had to talk too many women down from the edge in my life because of men trouble and quite frankly I am tired of it. It’s funny though, before this crazy ride started I was under the impression that women were incredible communicators. What I have found is that if one person is a good communicator it opens the other person up a lot more and allows them to communicate better. Don’t hide things, just give him the hardcore truth and I promise you that he will respect you for it. 3 weeks after we had broken up and after I did no contact with him, he started texting me again telling me he still loved me etc. But we got back together since we ended up in the same country again after 6 months of being separated. That 10,000 word guide detailed a step by step process that helped women get their ex boyfriends back.
It is essentially a bible of text messages that you can use during the texting phase of getting your ex boyfriend back.
Now, I am pretty good at making complicated subjects easy to understand so I promise you that you will understand everything in this guide.
I created this section in the guide because I feel that sometimes going after an ex boyfriend isn’t always going to benefit you in the end and I want to help you determine which situations are like that. In other words, that means for 30 days you can’t call, text or respond to your ex at all. You have 21-30 days of time to do something about it so don’t just sit there and waste that time.
However, once you got to know him you learned that all he seemed to talk about were his muscles. The only reason I researched tactics there was to find stuff that I could use to help YOU to get your ex back. When I watch a movie that I really like there are certain phrases or quotes that stick with me for life. Every time they talk to someone you take note of it and every time they do something it affects you.
The idea is to make him think back to the days where he didn’t have you and make him realize how miserable he was without you in his life. Now you have to come up with a compelling story that will cause your ex boyfriend to respond to you.
The key to sending a successful meme message has to be the fact that the meme has to be funny. Just saying something general like I did in the message above with the boardwalk is enough. The thing that you have to understand about emotional messages when you are dealing with your ex is that they can’t bring up negative memories. The idea here is to get him to associate the good feelings he gets when he thinks back to those memories with you.
Even though I know logically that she may be busy and get back to me later the emotion of initial rejection always kind of hurts.
Unfortunately, I have reached my limit on typing as this guide is already close to 10,000 words. Now, the one wrinkle in this philosophy is that sometimes what you want isn’t always the best thing for you in the long run. For example, sometimes the only way to tell if a situation is helpless is for you to actually try to get your boyfriend back. However, just because I do my best to lay things out for you doesn’t mean that its going to be easy. In other words, these are signs of resistance that an ex boyfriend will give you when things aren’t going well. Now, most ex boyfriends are going to respond after the no contact period BUT lets say that your ex boyfriend doesn’t.
This is why I usually recommend to the women reading this site to never get in a fight with your ex boyfriend no matter what.
Do you honestly think that you would be able to create that “new and better” relationship that I am always going on about? So, when you really take a step back and look at the situation objectively do you see him being able to put in the amount of effort you are when it comes to bettering the relationship? It all ties into the bad feelings that your ex may associate with you when he thinks back to your relationship. Then he will think back to the time that you got jealous over something that wasn’t that big of a deal and associate that with a bad feeling.
All I can tell you is that still even to this day I think about how bad it was and it is one of the reasons that I would not consider getting back with that particular ex. I go into this mini depression thinking that the world had ended and that I will be alone for the rest of my life. He was truthful about it, even telling me that he was going out for a lunch with the other girl before they went out.
That means they have a previous comment than the comment that you were named Summer so, when filtered tbe newest comments also appeared too, that’s why their latest got answered. I talk about it a lot on this site because it is truly THE blueprint for getting an ex boyfriend back.
That’s when things like fights, disagreements, arguments, cheating and jealousy all start to creep in. You know what being in a relationship is like with your boyfriend and he knows what being in one is like with you. The challenge that you are facing when you get back with an ex boyfriend is to NOT fall back into old habits.
I always tell people that what you are trying to create here is a new and better relationship.
If you have baggage from your previous relationship you are not going to be able to do that.
It wasn’t like this when he was practically begging for me back but now he is just so distant. Of course, doing the same thing you did before will likely yield the same failed racing result so you are probably going to train in a new way. Like I said above, I am basically giving you a blueprint for what NOT to do if you are able to get your ex boyfriend back. Now, at 18 years old I was not what you would call the most mature human being in the world. For one, I was very young and immature so I didn’t know how to properly handle the situation I was in. I remember hating how I felt during arguments with this girl but at the same time I couldn’t bring myself to stop. You see, my dad and I have an interesting relationship in that I never talk to him about girls so this was probably the first time that I had ever had a serious talk with him about a girl and he laid out some serious knowledge for me. You see, at their core over emotional people just want one thing, to be accepted for who they are.
I remember thinking that she was actually not bad looking so I quickly got her number… BOY WAS THAT A MISTAKE! When you are in a relationship with somebody there are two types of emotional women that can turn a guy off.
For example, within day 3 of their relationship Jenny had already told Matt that she was in love with him the problem was Matt wasn’t anywhere close to feeling the same type of feelings that Jenny was.
However, throughout the course of the relationship Mike begins to notice these red flags with Jenny. You are comfortable with it because you know that since he is dating you he will have the self control to not pick up any of those girls’ numbers. Look, I am one of the most loyal people in the world and I am not just saying that to say it. It is probably going to be a long drawn out process that is going to require one thing from you, patience.
The point of creating these emotional memories in him is that they evoke an emotional response. You see, any pretty girl can give a guy butterflies but it takes a really special one to be able to consistently do it. I think I spent maybe 70% of my high school career as the quiet kid in the corner not saying a word. Admittedly I have an advantage because I know women a bit more than the average man but still, most women are used to men lying to them or just saying things to get them in bed.
He had bitterness towards me for breaking up with him and hasn’t returned the ring or even mentioned it. If you can talk about it calmly and present solutions that good but it’s better if you just act on making the relationship better.
So a week ago he called off the wedding (2 weeks before the wedding was to take place) and yesterday he told me he wanted to get back together. When we were in the same city, we started communicated again and got back together within a week.
If you absorbed the information and knew exactly what to do to raise your chances of getting your ex back you still might fail because YOU failed to put the information into practice. However, it is also going to give you a chance to work on yourself and get your mind in the right place. Early within that no contact period (lets say around day 6) I start to send you a lot of text messages asking you where you are. Use this time to get in the best shape of your life because you know what, things are going to start falling into place for you if you do so. By the end of the book the boy has grown into an old man and the tree is nothing but a stump. In the movie Inception there is a certain phrase that Leonardo DiCaprio’s character mutters that I still think about today.
Oh, and if he does respond to a message like this you aren’t supposed to respond to him. So, as you can see every step in this process is meant to get you that date so you can get him back. It isn’t something that you cant just manufacture overnight with a few text messages.
Second, you can use priming as a way to test to see if he is ready to advance to emotional things. I want your ex to put himself back in time where he was when this emotional memory occurred.
I am a fan of giving someone a warning before you call that way they can prepare themselves. So, being the smart woman that you are, you decide to wait a week and then text your ex again. The chances are very high that the two of you will talk again but it needs to be on his terms and not yours.
I am talking about the type of fighting where they are both yelling at the top of their lungs and saying the most hurtful things they can think of to each other. She was saying all the right things and making me feel like I was the only one she cared about.
Eventually the stress of the relationship gets to be too much for both of us and we break up. The process will go on and on and it all ties into how bad your relationship with your ex was before the breakup. For instance, if you and I had amazing conversations for two weeks straight but had one fight the next week for some reason all that we would focus on is the pain that, that fight causes us and not the amazing conversations that we had prior to the fight. The trick is to find a perfect balance between living in the now while thinking towards the future.
When we first met, he tried to convince me that the age gap was not a big deal, and now this happened.
If you are looking for a gameplan that literally lays everything out for you step by step then I recommend you start by getting the E-Book. It is because of the mistakes I have made in the past (and witnessing my friends make many of the same mistakes) that this site even exists.
In other words, these are the common mistakes that people fall back into when they find themselves in a relationship with their ex again. I am going to admit right now that I did not treat that girlfriend anywhere near as well as I should have treated her. Things began to get weirder when within first month Jenny had told Matt that she wanted to marry him. For one, she overreacts a lot over very silly things like him going out to see his friends one night instead of spending it in with her. Whenever they tell him something he is going to perk up and listen and sometimes even make decisions based on their recommendations. I am not expecting it at all because I felt like neither of us were ready, we were fighting way too much and we both felt a lot of pressure from our families.. I want you to become someone so incredible that not only can your ex boyfriend NOT resist you but pretty much every other man on the face of the earth too. Do you think you could fight in a way where something gets accomplished rather than in a way meant to hurt the other person? However high that bar was set is going to determine that guys next pick of the girl he dates. This little overreaction turns into an over emotional outburst which eventually leads to an argument. However, when you finally do get that boyfriend slowly but surely you stop dressing up, you stop looking nice because you don’t see the need to anymore.
We also have a 4 year old son I might add, which is another reason this whole situation hurts me more. We were in a 5 year relationship with the normal amount of arguing… never screaming but once we broke up the first time 10 months ago, our arguing is a lot worse. Ok, so I am taking back an ex boyfriend who cheated on me and left me for the girl he cheated with. We had met up the night before to have one last dinner so I am wondering if he thought that was his goodbye? That when people break up they don’t get back together because that was the way the world worked. Remember, the goal of becoming the ungettable girl isn’t to just please your ex boyfriend. It is something that requires discipline and patience and even though I am about to show you exactly what you need to do to build attraction I am positive that 90% of the women reading this will fall victim to their own emotions and desires and fail to do things correctly.
However, every time I would try to take the next step and ask her on a date she would either say she couldn’t or she would accept the date and cancel it at the last minute. If you want to try again before moving on, you have to take it slow and instead of asking him, make him feel he would want you back by building rapport and attraction by being the ungettable girl But the tricky part is, ungettable girls always show their valuable and that they can walk away if the guy doesn’t present equal value.
Oh, and not to mention all the other guys she was flirting with but again, that’s another story. I want to handle everything right and don’t want to get overemotional but I am trying my hardest not to let little things bug me. These actions would suggest that he feels an attraction for you and may still want you back. Since getting back together, I have told myself to trust him, give him space and let him do what he’s gotta do, if it was meant to be, it will be.
I would just like to get back to the point of having a good time, laughing and not arguing.
Like his facebook status he changed to single, a girl writing on his facebook organising to meet up etc.
I know we have only just got back together and I don’t want to make drama but it really bugs me because the next day I saw photos of him on facebook and he was out with his friends at the same time I was about to catch my flight. I don’t want to force it back to how it used to be but I feel like he is a little disinterested.
I’m not sure if I should be concerned that he told me in the same conversation that he might come back if we call it quits but when he saw me (I stopped by his place) he asked me if I wanted to try us again.
I love him very much still but its been a day of no contact ( i had to speak with him because we needed to move his stuff out). I have really worked on myself while being on my own, my insecurity since he cheated and trying to gain back that trust again, which is why we split up also, because I couldn’t let the past go.
He has always been guilty of taking me for granted but I know that’s my fault too because I am always too available to him. He is very angry (understandably), and i really do love him, and i want to be there for him.
We are also long distance, in 2 different countries and I will be in his country next week. He is spending a lot more time with his friends or even just staying home when we’re both free. We’ll last night and today he started messaging me thinking that I had gone out with friends. I can’t do NC for very long because i need to speak to him about the rest of his stuff. Just straight forward “please give me a time and day you can come by and grab your stuff.



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