My name is Kevin, and I am here to help you through this painful breakup and hopefully get your ex back. Similarly, your instincts will also make you believe that if you just show your ex that you cana€™t live without them, they will take you back. Your instincts will tell you that if you just agree to everything your ex wants, they will come back. However, if your ex is currently calling you everyday or texting you everyday, then yes you should let them know that you dona€™t want them to contact you for a short period of time. You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you. If he wants a divorce even if your relationship is better than before, then it means he doesn’t want to be with you. If you still want to fight for him, you should do no contact (or minimal contact with your communications being only about your child). Thank you Kevin, I found out he deleted all our pictures but he has also been lying to his girlfriend about us who had no knowledge of anything. I think everything you are saying, about your culture and your personality being difficult to get along with, are just excuses you are giving yourself because it is scary to put yourself out there. But anyways, if you are satisfied with your current arrangement with your ex, then I don’t see any harm with continuing with it. I m not even sure if i can implement minimal contact starting now coz i really love talking. After hearing from your suggestion, it seems that minimal contact is the only way the go as the first step. Sure you can carry on with your life… bang a few new girls at a party, go out with your friends and try to forget about the girl you lost.
Get back in touch – After a couple of weeks, get in touch either with a text or a Facebook message. Go in for the kill – After several casual meetups, invite her along on a night out with your friends or say to her that youa€™re going to be somewhere and she should come along. Right then, you havena€™t spoken to her in months, you know that she doesna€™t have a boyfriend and youa€™re still kicking yourself about the breakup.
Rinse and repeat – Follow everything from the first and second situation, until she takes you back. So there you have it, this is without a doubt the best advice you will get on understanding how to get your ex girlfriend back in the fastest way possible.
Your ex needs some space and time to remove all the negative associations from the breakup and start missing you. You need to realize that happiness and confidence is something that you can get by working on yourself. And the only way you can do it is by realizing your purpose and your goals in life and pursuing them. An empty message is something that doesna€™t say anything and doesna€™t give your ex anything to talk about. Like I said before, it’s your decision and if you want him back, you should go ahead and with minimal contact for a few months.
You feel sick to your stomach, with no energy, you cana€™t be bothered to see anyone and you just want to be left alone.
We will get into that but before that that leta€™s take a look at how your instincts react when you find out your ex is dating someone else. You need to analyze what went wrong and realize whether or not ita€™s a good idea to get back together. You know your situation and your ex better than anyone, so ita€™s your decision whether or not you want to use just text messages, just the letter, or both. If used correctly, you can condition your ex to light up in excitement whenever they see a message from you.
The reason why these everyday emails are so effective is because you get a small dose of inspiration, motivation and useful information every day.The no contact period is the most important part of the plan and with Part 5, you will get support during the no contact period.
There are a lot of great guys out there who are caring, thoughtful, loving, loyal and more compatible with you than your ex.
Let your ex know that you need space and time for yourself and I am sure he will understand. She she leave it becaue she thinks she found the one to replace you then she finds out the grass is not greener on the other side so she comes back. And during this state of confusion, you are bound to make a lot of mistakes that will actually hurt your chances of getting back together.
Your instincts tell you that if you stay in contact with your ex, they will not forget about you and hopefully come back. Yes, you need to grieve after a breakup and yes, there’s some benefit in spending some time alone, grieving and analyzing your relationship. They will slowly start to forget that image of yours (the needy desperate one) and start remembering the things they liked about you. I didna€™t sleep properly, didna€™t eat properly, and I was just thinking about my ex girlfriend all day.
When you start being happy in life without your ex, you will realize whether or not getting your ex back is the right decision. And that is extremely important before you move on to the next step, which is contacting your ex. It helped a lot that you said Ia€™m better off without him because although I love him and still want him back, Ia€™m ok now if it doesna€™t happen. Its hard to explain but in other words I still would like for us to get back but if it doesna€™t happen Ia€™m ok with moving on. Did not enter a relationship with others after needed to practice with the help of Tantrik in place. Out of these three breakups which “situation” do you think has the least chance of success and which do you feel has the best chance of success? Well, if an ex girlfriend breaks up with you then that probably tells us that something (for her) isn’t going right in the relationship. HOWEVER, there is a huge misconception that men have when trying to get an ex back in this situation. The same cannot be said in the situations where you break up with an ex or where she breaks up with you.
Usually I start off these guides with a massive insight into the actions that brought you into this situation.
In fact, I have written multiple books (Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and The Texting Bible) based on these incredible insights. I don’t think you need me to create this laundry list of reasons for why you broke up with your ex girlfriend. Heck, YOU know why you broke up with your ex girlfriend and while I am a huge proponent of trying to get your ex back for the right reasons it seems like no matter what I tell you, your mind is already made up and you want your girlfriend back.
So, instead of focusing on why you broke up with your ex girlfriend I want to talk about her and what she is feeling. I suppose the most logical place to start is immediately after the breakup and why your actions will actually work against you. And it’s definitely not the fact that you believe that the Karate Kid is the bad guy of the movie.
Now, I don’t know what you said or what you did after the breakup but the mere fact you broke up with her is going to upset her and it creates this invisible headwind that you have to somehow get around if you want to have any chance of getting her back.
Obviously in this graphic you are the sailboat and you are sailing towards a destination which I have marked on the far left of the graphic. As you can see, I have labeled the headwind as your ex girlfriends anger with you since YOU broke up with her. Well, usually they turn their sails to the headwind and move from right to left kind of zig zagging their way forward.
I guess what I am trying to say is that they almost get by the headwind by going around it.
Alright, so what I established above was the fact that your ex girlfriend is going to be upset that YOU were the one that broke up with her.
Your first instinct tells you to apologize or make some grand gesture but that doesn’t work. Let’s say that you were walking down the street one day and you were looking at your cell phone.
Seriously… My daughter has kept me up all night because of colic and is screaming behind me as we speak and my wife is trying to console her.
It’s that simple act of consoling a crying baby that makes us human because we know the baby is in pain and we want to help make it feel better. Well, your ex girlfriend is subconsciously expecting the same thing to happen to her after a breakup.
One day the two of you are getting along swimmingly and then all of a sudden you break the news to her that you don’t want to be with her anymore. Now, If you have ever been blindsided in a relationship by something then you probably know what I am talking about.
She doesn’t want to experience this feeling ever again so if she were to decide to take you back then she would always be living in fear of having that feeling of being blindsided again. Seriously, what is the first thing that friends say to a woman who has had a boyfriend who just broke up with them. Getting an ex back isn’t very popular and the closer you are to the breakup the more intense these feelings of anger are and then you have the added benefit of dealing with the taboo of taking an ex back so fast.
This is one of the many reasons that I advise that you go into a no contact rule after a breakup NO MATTER WHAT. I think it’s a universally agreed upon fact that in most cases time going by can diffuse anger.
Thus, by that logic if we let some time go by due to the no contact rule your ex girlfriend won’t have the same anger that she was having towards you right after the breakup. Obviously your ex girlfriend is going to be super upset after the breakup and after some time goes by (preferably by a NC rule) she isn’t going to be as upset. Look, one of the biggest misconceptions about the no contact rule is that it’s going to solve all of your problems. That if you use the no contact rule on your girlfriend she will somehow magically forgive you and everything will go back to the way it was before.
Well, before I get into that lets talk about the advantage that you do have over other men.
Now, I have already talked about the disadvantages you are faced with if you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back if you broke up with her but what I have yet to talk about is how good of a chance you have of getting her back and if you have any advantages over any of the other situations out there. Lets hit the pause button, zoom out and take a look at the big picture of the situation you are in. Thing #3- The best way that you can combat this anger right now is to implement the no contact rule. The fact that you were the one who broke up with her can actually serve as an advantage when it comes to getting her back.
I often use this example to describe men for the women on my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery but I am going to reverse engineer it for you since I feel it applies to women and I even mentioned this little example a bit in my last article. Lets pretend that a woman is faced with the very tough decision of choosing between you and your clone.
The ONLY thing that differs between the two of you is that she dated you and she hasn’t dated your clone yet.
Now, I don’t know about you but that automatically puts her in a position where she is going to have to seek YOUR approval to get you back. One of the things I like doing here at Ex Girlfriend Recovery is assigning a certain percentage value to a certain situation.
Oh, and just so we don’t get out of hand with percentage the max percentage you can get is 100%. In fact, I would say that if you had something like a 40% chance of success that, that would be an amazing number.


One of the biggest advantages that I have over other people in my field is that I interact with a lot of men and women in the comments of my articles. Now, some people are willing to get their exes back but they have problems following instruction. Lets say that I am trying to teach two men to get back with their ex girlfriends after they broke up with them. Now, lets also say that I come up with the very best strategy for getting an ex back in this situation and I teach it to both men. Man A listens very intently but when push comes to shove he falters from the game plan and ultimately fails to get his ex back.
Man B, on the other hand, not only listens to the game plan but implements it to a T and gets his ex back. I taught this very same strategy to both men so that means that my strategy had a 50% success rate, right? When I talk about the percentage of success I am only taking into account the people who followed the strategy perfectly. In other words, if any alterations were made from the strategy I taught it doesn’t count because those alterations can really matter to your ex girlfriend. A situation where YOU broke up with your ex girlfriend has the best chance of success out of all the situations out there. I would say that if 100 men attempted to get their exes back in this particular situation 40 of them would succeed if they used my strategy. This is the premise of the strategy that I teach in Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and I am not going to be teaching you all of it today. Yup, I already talked a lot about this and told you how important it was to diffusing your ex girlfriends anger.
This is because I want to make sure your ex girlfriend is at a place emotionally where she will at least be responsive to you.
Like I said above one of it’s many purposes is to get your ex girlfriend at a place emotionally where she will accept messages from you. Once she is in this place that’s where we can turn our attention to part two of the process.
Then you move to phone calls and then to the small in person interaction and finally the romantic in person interaction. You get your ex girlfriend all worked up to where she is hanging on your every word and then at the climax you suddenly just end…. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back. After 3 days i regret that so i wrote sms that i forgot few things, we met for a few minutes, it was cold short conversation. Then she told me how she had a thing with this guy and they slept together ( fuckfriends ) because my ex had feelings for the guy because she told me that he understood her … bullshit. I recently got dumped by my girlfriend, After valentine day we haven’t talk but on that day she seem a little bit off. I was searching for help for getting my ex fiance back when I found your site and I am hoping you can help me.
I started to realize that the grass isn’t always greener, and we did have a great thing going and the relationship probably just needed some work and better communication. It’s like that but the difference now is that you already know what she loves and likes talking about.
We have been texting a little more and I have been throwing in a lot of humor which is one thing she always liked about me – she has been more receptive lately.
Based on how emotional she gets when we argue through text, I don’t think she is over our relationship yet. Yeah – they started dating almost immediately after her and I saw each other and I was still unsure about getting back with her and wanted to wait a little longer. Your instincts tell you that if your ex just realizes how much you love them and how much you care about them, they will come back. If you and your ex were in any type of serious relationship, then they will not be able to move on so quickly.
You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness. I really appreciate your response as i am looking for some guidance during my critical moments. I do still love him and want him back but I don’t know if I should get space or get closer. In just a moment, Ia€™m going to show you how to get your ex girlfriend back… so buckle up, because therea€™s a lot to cover.
OR you can use proven techniques that thousands of guys are using right now to get their girlfriend back fast.
Pimp up your Facebook profile – Your Facebook page is a constant message that your closest friends and acquaintances are reading. Write to her – The very first thing you need to do is write to her, Facebook, email even a freakin hand written letter dude.
There are a few ground rules you MUST follow that I havena€™t mentioned yet, they are solid mindset tips that will help you get her back (trust me they work). My girlfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago, we were talking frequently until 3 weeks ago when she moved to Portland, OR (we lived in California together). No contact will be of no use unless you try to make a positive change in your life during this time. Do it for a couple of months and try to make some positive changes in your life during this time.
Anyways he came to visit her and so he was around me but we decided to hang out at my best frienda€™s house, since I moved back in with my mom. Get some new threads, workout at the gym (get the body most women want), eat right and drum some positive thoughts into your head. Including begging, using pity, telling them how much I love them, agreeing to all their conditions (be a doormat). Any type of positive changes will help in not only getting him back but also getting over him in case you are not able to reconcile.
Tell him that it was his decision to be separate and you have to learn to take care of yourself and not depend on him.
I really love him and want to be with him, but I dona€™t understand why he is acting like this. And even if they do come back, they will leave shortly realizing they have no respect for you as a person.
Your friends and family are the people who are always there for you and who always love to spend time with you. But I highly recommend you use either one or both of these before actually calling your ex. That relationships is over and if you two do get back together, it will be a new relationship. One is a love letter and the other is an apology letting her know I accept the breakup and wish her the best. They will be thinking about whata€™s happening in your life and will want to call or text you to talk about it. She keep saying no more feeling with girl, what can I do to get her back again coz I too love her.
It feels nice to know we can get along after he swore we couldn’t and thats why he broke up with me.
Therefore it is going to be a bit harder because the headwind that you have to overcome is whatever feelings you gave her that made her think that she didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. They honestly believe that the entire process of winning an ex back (if they broke up with that ex) is going to be a cakewalk. Nope, you are here because YOU broke up with your ex girlfriend and now you are regretting your choice and want her back but you haven’t quite figured out what you need to do to get her back. So, you are traveling down your merry way when all of a sudden you hit this really strong headwind.
Especially if you made it known that you still care about her but just didn’t want to be with her.
As you were looking at your cell phone you accidentally bumped into a person walking down the street. However, if you haven’t experienced what this is like then lets let you in on the experience. She will always be under the assumption that she wasn’t good enough and there is nothing more than women love to prove to men that they are good enough. Of course, when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back there is no percentage that is that high.
It is through these interactions that I am able to preach my message and see the kind of results they yield. Instead, he opted to follow his own and while that can work sometimes it didn’t in this case. I think i’m mentally prepared to be in good mood and to spend time with her and i believe she would agree.
But around january 2016 , she came back to talk to me … she asked me if I was still her friend.
The problem, that not even 3 weeks after our date, she starts telling me she is seeing someone and is falling for them. If this was all like starting from the beginning, and you know she doesn’t like you, what would you do to keep her interested in you? She didn’t respond and I said this is tearing me up, but I need to move on because this is dumb. The truth is, they already know that you love them, how much you adore them and how much you care about them. Being a happy and confident person is probably the most important thing when it comes to getting your ex back. A hand written letter is a great way to contact your ex right after youa€™ve finished no contact. If that is your reason for wanting to be with your ex, then I must say that I don’t agree with your decision. I am thinking would it be because i keep on pestering him to move back in with me, thas why he is defensive in making a move to get back with me. If you recently split up with your girlfriend then youa€™re probably hurting REAL bad right now. There are a few areas of a€?getting your ex girlfriend backa€? which I want to cover, so by all means skip to the section that makes most sense to your current situation. Get in touch – Go back to a€?situation 1a€? and follow all the steps from a€?Get back in toucha€?. Embrace change – Show her that youa€™re willing to be a better you by changing your ways. Hay, I broke up with my girl like for 2 years now, but it’s all coming back to me, it was my fault, I physically assaulted her.
You dona€™t want to make any physical changes right now that you might regret for the rest of your life (like getting a tattoo of a broken heart). And if you want him back, I’ll recommend you continue with minimal contact for a couple of months. He started stalking and harrassing me, and would harrass any guy I dated.I told him never to speak to me again, but he still tried to get me back, was watching and following me in person and on line ,so I called the police and filed a report, and later filed a no contact order.
People have a common misconception that if you dona€™t contact your ex, they will forget about you. This means you need to upload pictures of you partying with other pretty girls, smiling, traveling, doing things that you NEVER did whilst in your relationship with your ex.
But in reality, if you dona€™t contact your ex, you will give them time to miss you more and they will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting them.


Ita€™s absolutely imperative for you to get some perspective right now and meeting new people is the best way to do it.
Let him know that it’s not your intention to hurt him with this action or prove something to him. Like I said in my last comment, you should act like you don’t want him back instead of making it obvious that you want him back.
I do love the girl and I’m attempting to get her back by going to her school which is an hour away and serenading her wih a guitar right on campus haha. Again I love him with all my heart but I find myself not worried so much about his social media or thinking about what hea€™s doing.
Again not going to lie to myself or anyone by saying I don’t want him back because I still do and I still love him but yeah I just wanted to update you a little on what’s been going on and to thank you!
Heck, I would say it’s one of the prime reasons that Ex Girlfriend Recovery has become so popular.
Your ex girlfriend will still probably be upset after the no contact rule but she will be nowhere near as upset as she was immediately after the breakup before you did the no contact rule.
In my mind this ruins things because the strategy that I taught him is very different than the strategy that he actually employed. I felt that as time passed by she wasn’t as happy, and I guessed it was because of the long distance.
Then I said is there anything we could do about our relationship and she told she doesnt want to get back, maybe sometimes meet for a weekends. My ex and I dated for about 11 months, and only 2 months into it she started staying at my place. It makes me jealous, sad, and shocked at the same time that she would move on that quick…her replies are a lot shorter now, but she does remind me of the hurt I caused her very often.
I don’t want to look desperate, nor do I want to say anything bad and become a common enemy of her and her new bf.
When it came up today, i just asked her to talk and she said she was busy…am I rushing this ? She claims she is in love with this new guy after dating him for a month, which to me is immature, and a sign of a rebound.
If I dona€™t do anything right now, they’ll fall in love with this new person and forget about me forever. Instead of sitting at home eating ice cream and watching TV, go out and do something to make yourself feel better.
Text messages should ideally be used after sending the hand written letter to build up attraction. So an unknown person anonymously let him family and girlfriend know about the pregnancy and he played as if he had just found out too, acting shocked.
Given you have been separated for the past 2 years and he still doesn’t want to get back together, I still think you should consider moving on. Dona€™t sulk – The moment you accept your defeat, is the moment you will never get her back, so stay positive and know that youa€™re going to get her back in time. I had already been arguing with my girlfriend for awhile, I had been sick and on alot of medication one night when she called and tho has got heated.
He was getting very agitated and he pushed and swore at his closest friend who started defending me.
In the mean time go and get your self together work out hang with friends and make your self happy. The only exception to this is if you are close to ending your no contact and you are already feeling great about your life. If you think that talking to your ex will have you obsessing about them again, dona€™t answer their call. I made a lot of mistakes after the breakup, begging to come back to her, argued a couple times, freaked about her dating. Regardless, let him know clearly that you do not intend to get back with him and you are only concerned about your well being and doing what’s best for you. So, I thought I may never be able to implement the correct procedure in winning my ex back. On top of that ahe has the type of girlfriends who like bashing dudes cause thwy dont have one or not satisfied qjth the ones they have. Also we have a trip in few months and she said that there is one bed, so i should sleep somewhere else, i said nope problem, but then she told she is kidding. He also doesn’t seem like a quality guy in terms of education and lifestyle, which her and I value greatly. If you didn’t realize it by now, your instincts and your mind go into panic mode when you find out your ex is dating someone new. For example, even if your relationship with your ex was abusive, you might want to rekindle it just because you are missing. It doesn’t matter where they are, your text will reach them and they will be excited to get a text from you. According to him his girlfriend wasnt shocked or upset and is acting like I am not pregnant and getting more possessive. I got some really great tips from this guide, if I hadn’t have gone through the other two then I would have just used this one but it would have taken me a while longer to get her back.
I have done so because this way you have a step by step plan that you can follow to get your ex back. He explained how he doesn’t know how to handle any of this, and though he did bring up his girlfriend once, we ended up finishing our conversation laughing and on a good note. Express your self about what was the underlying problem with the situation between you both.
Besides, you have to prove to yourself that you can live without your ex for at least 30 days. The alternative to no contact is being a creep and texting and stalking your ex all the time, which will probably lead to a restraining order against you. It’s still fresh, I have sent her a very brief letter trying to keep an image that I have calmed down now, and apologized once again for how cruel I was, and for even saying the things I had. I sent her mother a 4 pg front and back letter explaining in order of occurrence everything, assuring I am not a cheater and just everything, I was completely honest, and mature in every way. She would always tell her friends about me and how much she loved me and even tod them all about our sexual life. I already feel the chill down my spine, on that day my love come to a end she said she want to break up with me. She thinks I’m trying to sabotage her and her new bf, which I have said nothing negative about her new bf. Assuming I should start NC over….for how long ?Do you think she is using these tactics to make me want her more? The most important thing for you to do while your ex is in a rebound relationship is be cool about it.
If you think with your heart, you will just hear that you love your ex and you want them back.
If you’ve done your homework correctly, you will be oozing confidence and attractiveness out of every inch of your body. He told me he liked his girlfriend and planned on hooking up with her before I came in his life and he fell in love with me. Your instincts will tell you that your needs, your values, your desires, your goals dona€™t matter.
I can, however, guarantee that if you follow this plan, your chances of getting your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back will increase significantly. This is also great for your mental health as working out releases endorphins which make you happy.
The most important thing for you to do right now is to realize that these mistakes will not help you get him or her back and stop doing them right away.
I thought thst i could not get over my ex but I am living and making the best of the situation everyday. If youa€™ve been searching about breakups and getting your ex back online, youa€™d know that there is a thing called no contact rule. You should actually bring a positive change in your life and become a confident, happy and attractive person. Since trying to get your ex back takes time and going through the no contact period is an everyday struggle, I’ve designed Part 5 of this guide to be an email series. He still holds to not loving me or wanting to go back because of the past and because he has his current girlfriend. You just need to make them believe that no one in the world will ever love them the way you do. A plan will give you something to look forward to when you are feeling down and unsure about yourself. This is absolutely essential and if you are reading this, then I will recommend that you definitely go out on a few dates before ending no contact with your ex. And you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex is in your best interest. I noticed how unhappy she was, but I never asked her why, since I had a plan to surprise her.
I started feeling less attracted to her overtime and missed being single and hanging out with my friends. Basically, the no contact period should be as long as it takes you to get yourself together and feel great about your life without your ex. Before you contact your ex, here is a checklist of things you need to make sure you’ve done. I think at this point, you should concentrate more on what’s best for you and the baby than getting him back. Because my reasons were i couldnt imagine myself living with this person in the future so I decided to break up.
I really though we would get back together yet she kissed the guy and few weeks ago she told me she still has feelings for the guy.
And sometime i know i forget little things about her like what time she get off school, i’m always working, always want to spend time with her. 8 months into it, she wanted to move all her stuff in officially, and that scared the crap wasn’t sure based on how things had been going lately. I am stopping contact for about 3-4 weeks and going to enjoy my life and date other women, start some more hobbies, travel, etc. Now shes gone i want her back, after couple days have pass she text me back saying she feel really appreciate what i did for her and said i was a good guy and wishing me find a better girl, she wanted to give me the stuff back that i gave her for christmas and her birthday. I told her how I felt and that for the time being I wanted space, and she stormed out saying she was done.
I sent her a message on facebook saying I made a mistake and that I got emotional and said things I didn’t mean. We got into some heated arguments and I might have said I didn’t see a future with her, but was just missing my own space more than anything.
I told her didn’t want to break up, and that I had decided to move back to her city, and part of the reason was for her.
I just had to cut her off because my feelings were involved the whole time and I got hurt real bad.Then she got mad at me because I was gonna leave her again as a friend and she was blaming everrything on me. She said she didn’t really feel like talking to me right now and that I really hurt her. Im shouting to the whole world that i’ve moved on with her that im doing ok and fine. I always thinking about her and now these thoughts that i want her to comeback is starting to pop on my mind.



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