In just a moment, I’m going to show you how to get your ex girlfriend back… so buckle up, because there’s a lot to cover. If you recently split up with your girlfriend then you’re probably hurting REAL bad right now.
I know the pain you’re going through right now and I know that it won’t stop for a LOOOOONG time. Sure you can carry on with your life… bang a few new girls at a party, go out with your friends and try to forget about the girl you lost.
OR you can use proven techniques that thousands of guys are using right now to get their girlfriend back fast. There are a few areas of “getting your ex girlfriend back” which I want to cover, so by all means skip to the section that makes most sense to your current situation. It’s been a few days, weeks, maybe even a month and the wound is still raw… now what do you do?
Understand why she left you – The first step is to understand why she dumped you in the first place dude!
Leave it at least 2 weeks – Don’t be needy or act desperate, it’s not going to help you. Get back in touch – After a couple of weeks, get in touch either with a text or a Facebook message.
Keep it casual – Always meet up with her in the day for lunch or coffee so it’s casual, like you’re meeting a friend. Go in for the kill – After several casual meetups, invite her along on a night out with your friends or say to her that you’re going to be somewhere and she should come along. The key to remember here is that you’re laying down the important groundwork with the casual meetups.
Pimp up your Facebook profile – Your Facebook page is a constant message that your closest friends and acquaintances are reading. Get in touch – Go back to “situation 1” and follow all the steps from “Get back in touch”. Right then, you haven’t spoken to her in months, you know that she doesn’t have a boyfriend and you’re still kicking yourself about the breakup. Write to her – The very first thing you need to do is write to her, Facebook, email even a freakin hand written letter dude.
Rinse and repeat – Follow everything from the first and second situation, until she takes you back. There are a few ground rules you MUST follow that I haven’t mentioned yet, they are solid mindset tips that will help you get her back (trust me they work). Be persistent – Think alpha male who knows what he wants, not a pathetic needy loser who’s begging for attention.
Embrace change – Show her that you’re willing to be a better you by changing your ways. Don’t sulk – The moment you accept your defeat, is the moment you will never get her back, so stay positive and know that you’re going to get her back in time. So as I said earlier, I used Text Your Ex Back which really helped me get my girlfriend back. But I did try a another product that I think is seriously worth mentioning because I picked up some killer tips from it. I got some really great tips from this guide, if I hadn’t have gone through the other two then I would have just used this one but it would have taken me a while longer to get her back.
Then you’re not doing the steps correctly or you’re still portraying the same crappy qualities that she dumped you for in the first place. So there you have it, this is without a doubt the best advice you will get on understanding how to get your ex girlfriend back in the fastest way possible.
My girlfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago, we were talking frequently until 3 weeks ago when she moved to Portland, OR (we lived in California together). Hay, I broke up with my girl like for 2 years now, but it’s all coming back to me, it was my fault, I physically assaulted her. Im a lesbian and was with this girl for four years going 5 on july.she ask space for 3months no communication,no seeing each other so I gave her space but i broke my promise not to call,text and see her.
I had already been arguing with my girlfriend for awhile, I had been sick and on alot of medication one night when she called and tho has got heated.
I have been in a releshp wth my ex grlfrend for 4yrs she was my school sweethert we came from far she loved meh soo much we did everythng toghet na untll she had a crush on some guybt she found out the guy is in arelshp wth anther person she came back to meh cryng i accpted her back bt then after a mnth se change start sayng we break up bt then she apologies back for her word iknw ehe was up2 smthng i broke up wth her she didnt even say why or sory she said alryt naw its been 3weeksi tryed callng her bt she nat intrested shes is sayng she want to be single an forcus… so do you think she is a relshp wth smeone else i need advice shoild i just move on? I recently lost, my girl it was my fault I got hooked up in internet adiction, porn sites and dating sites, she read my corespondance to the other women and even contacted them to see if we had met up. I wanted to create a guide that can teach men how to make their ex girlfriends miss them the way that they miss their ex girlfriends. I suppose the best way to start this thing is to talk about the feeling of missing someone.
It’s called Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO and it is probably the best book online right now for winning back your ex girlfriend or husband.
A clear precise step by step game plan that will walk you through every single part of the ex recovery process. We have all been in relationships here so we all understand what it’s like to miss someone. This may sound a little strange but I feel it is very accurate with how relationships work now-a-days.
If I can get my partner to say these things then I know I have made an amazing impact on their life and I like this fact. If a girl actually verbalizes that she misses you then it means that in that moment she is indeed probably missing you. The non verbal missing emotion is something I made up based on my own experience with missing someone.
This emotion literally never goes away until you are with that person and the second that you leave them the emotion lingers and doesn’t go away until you see them again. Lets say that your ex girlfriend got used to the routine of texting you every morning and every night.
Well, according to a study done by Maxwell Maltz, a cosmetic surgeon, it takes 21 days to form a new habit. If we apply this information to what we already know about your ex girlfriends interrupted routine we can assume that after 21 days it is possible that she won’t miss you as much. Of course, there will always be those girls out there that are ready to move on immediately after a breakup.
The thing you have to understand about women and relationships is that most of them aren’t very logical when it comes to their relationships.
Forget about how hard you think it will be to make your ex girlfriend miss you for a moment.
As long as you are able to tap into her emotions you have the ability to make her miss you.
Before I give you the actual plan to make your ex girlfriend miss you lets talk about what the overall goal of this page is.
If you want a clearer game plan on how to get your ex girlfriend back I suggest you read my monster guide.
So, the game plan that I am about to unveil strictly focuses on one thing, figuring out how to make your ex girlfriend miss you. Now, I have written a lot of content for this site already so one of my greatest fears is repeating myself and not giving you enough valuable insight into how you can improve your situation. However, if you sense that my stuff is too generic please make me aware of it in the comments section and I will do my best to improve my writing in the future.
Now, there have been plenty of studies also refuting this habit rule but lets take a leap of faith and assume that it is correct.
If we assume that the 21 day habit rule is true (which we are assuming it is.) It would take 21 days for your ex girlfriend to not miss you anymore.
This means that during that 21 days it is up to you to do things that forces your ex to remember that she misses you.
Is it possible to make your girlfriend miss you if she has forced herself to move on from you via the habit rule? I thought a lot about this predicament when I was researching the stuff on habits and I came to one simple conclusion. While making her miss you after she has moved on is very possible the percentage of being able to pull it off drop. After you do this you are going to be greeted with 10 organic results (on the first page) from my peers trying to teach you their own methods of making your ex miss you. For example, if your ex were to call you ten times in a row you wouldn’t be allowed to pick up on any one of her calls until the time period of the rule is completed. I have a lot of experience dealing with ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends since I run two websites dealing specifically in these situations. Of course, there is one thing I think you need to take into account if you want to maximize your chances of making your ex girlfriend miss you. Of the 10 results on the first page, 7 experts talked about utilizing the no contact rule to make your ex girlfriend miss you. Of course, I like to think that I try to be a bit more insightful than the average expert out there. You see, when I was brainstorming for this page I realized that there is a bit of a dilemma that you can potentially face if you use the no contact rule. With the habit rule I hypothesized that if your ex girlfriend wanted to she could potentially get over you in 21 days which will drastically decrease your chances of getting her back and making her miss you. The real dilemma here is that sometimes the best way to make an ex girlfriend miss you is to ignore her for a little bit via the no contact rule. This puts the two rules at odds with one another because if you are ignoring your ex aren’t you technically giving her time to get over you via the habit rule?
I am sure that when you read about the habit rule you automatically assumed that immediately after a breakup the habit rule goes into effect. Trust me when I say that women don’t want to stop missing you until some time after the breakup.
Now, while this would be incredibly rare and probably won’t happen in your situation lets assume the worst case scenario occurs and your ex girlfriend tries to break her habit of missing you immediately after the breakup. What are you supposed to do if she is trying to miss you and you aren’t able to contact her?
Well, the smartest thing you can do is to do things during NC that you know for a fact will remind her of you.
The reason I won’t be going into all of the detail that the no contact rule requires is that I am just going to be focusing on what you can do during the no contact rule to make your ex miss you. Right now lets pretend that you are in the midst of a 21 day freeze out with your ex girlfriend (the 21 day no contact rule.) It is your job to do subtle things during this time to remind your ex girlfriend that you are still out there.
I don’t know if you and your ex are still Facebook friends after the breakup but I sure hope you are.
So, its not a stretch to assume that your ex girlfriend will be keeping an eye on your Facebook profile.
I guarantee you if you posted something like that on Facebook your ex girlfriend would sit up and notice. I want you to always remember that the chances are very high that your ex is looking at your profile. For a long time I have peddled the theory that women had to make up for their lack of physicality by learning to be more social. You are going to use this knowledge to your advantage when you are trying to remind your ex girlfriend that you are still out there. Because I guarantee you that, that best friend is going to go running to your ex girlfriend and give her all the precious little details of the interaction.
She is going to have no choice but to think of you and as long as you are on her mind it will increase your chances of making her miss you. I have found that the smartest way to approach this situation is to be a little vague and confusing. Oh, and when you add in the fact that you are doing the no contact rule it could make your ex feel a little upset that you ended up contacting her best friend as opposed to her. At this point it might be a good idea for me to explain how you can kind of be vague and confusing which will ultimately cause your ex and her best friend to dissect your discussion. So, lets pretend that you decide that you are going to text your ex girlfriends best friend. Because the best friend will probably say something about the breakup and this is exactly what you want to happen. The more confused you can make your ex girlfriend the better because she will probably run to the internet and read a million advice columns trying to figure out what you were doing. The underlying point I am trying to get at here is you are forcing her to think about you continuously thus interrupting her habit change.
Before I dive into this section lets do a quick recap of everything that is supposed to have occurred before this point.
Eventually your own no contact rule is going to come to an end and that is when you can start communicating with your ex to re-spark that non verbal missing emotion. This section is going to be dedicated to teaching you exactly what you can do through text messages to maximize your chances of making your girlfriend miss you. I have found that when you are talking to someone you are in love with (and make no mistake about it you are probably in love with your ex girlfriend still) it is very hard to remain patient.
The second that you receive a response to a text message from someone like this you probably want to respond to it within seconds. No, it’s to make your ex girlfriend miss you and that is going to require patience on your part when it comes to text messaging. Lets say that you send your ex girlfriend a text message and she responds to it 5 minutes later.
As some time passes she will be checking her phone wondering when you are going to text back. As more time passes she is going to be getting impatient that you haven’t texted back. After 20 minutes she will have convinced herself that you aren’t ever going to respond to her text. The key underlying principle to achieving this roller coaster effect is by having the patience to spread your text messages out, to not be too available for her. In other words, give her some time to miss you and worry that she will have lost you from the conversation.
In this section I am going to go over a few of the text messages that you can send to your ex girlfriend if you want to make her miss you.
The truth of the matter is that if you really want your ex girlfriend to miss you, you have to earn that right. Rather, it is going to take a combination of many text messages to hit all the right emotional buttons. Really what I am trying to drive home here is that if you really want an ex girlfriend to miss you then you almost have to master her emotions. Sure, there are a lot of men out there that can make her laugh and probably make her very happy.
However, if you can drive her emotions absolutely wild (make her laugh, make her sad without you, make her happy, make her sad, make her feel cared for.) If you have the ability to do that, well, then no one is going to be able to compare to you. So, your goal when you text your ex girlfriend is to take her on a POSITIVE emotional roller coaster. In this section I am going to show you the exact type of text messages you should be sending to your ex to make her miss you. Now, before I get started it is important for me to mention that I am focusing specifically on the type of messages that will make a girlfriend miss you. If you don’t know any of that I suggest you read my texting guide before continuing on here. This is one of the most challenging messages to pull off because our goal here really isn’t to make her sad. In other words, you have to find a way to make her feel that her life really sucks without you in it. Well, it’s to take a risk and talk to her about something that will force her to want to care for you.
This is a bit of a risky message because it is a little sappy but if you have done a good job of giving her that roller coaster ride of course she is going to want to be there next to you and care for you. If you can successfully make her feel like she wants to take care of you that is a very good sign because it means she wants you in her life. Jealousy can be a very powerful emotion and while it’s not absolutely perfect for making someone miss you it is perfect for the emotional roller coaster that leads to someone missing you.
So, by the time you actually send this text message make sure you know for a fact that your ex girlfriend is ready to hear it.
No, the truth is that talking to your ex on the phone can be one of the most effective ways to make her miss you.
When I have fallen for someone I always feel more when I talk on the phone as opposed to texting.
Therein lies the problem though, playing your cards right on the phone is extremely challenging. Did you know that there is such a thing as overstaying your welcome when it comes to the delicacies of getting your ex back? Lets pretend for a moment that we outlined your entire phone conversation with your ex girlfriend on a graph. Now, I understand that this graph is for financial analysis and not for talking to your ex on the phone but it actually illustrates the point I am trying to make perfectly so I chose it.
Unfortunately, as I stated above, it is possible to wear out your welcome on the phone and with the pace and intensity that the two of you were going at, at the beginning of your conversation it is going to be impossible to maintain forever. Continually ending the conversation at the high point is going to really tap into your ex girlfriends non verbal missing emotion and trust me when I say that things become much easier from here on out. Well, we know that there is a non verbal missing emotion that women have to have in order to miss a man on a deep level. However, it also highlights the fact that every moment you do spend with her in person is that much more important because what you do in that time is going to be a springboard for how powerful her NVME is. No, I am talking about how the majority of them are looking for something deeper than a physical connection.
If you really want her back take advantage of the fact that you have a better emotional connection with her than anyone she can think of. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back.
Would i t be ok to send her 3 white roses with a message explaining… ( symbolizing 3 weeks of not drinking?) the day will the 18th of No contact. Almost a year ago I wrote an article on how to get your ex boyfriend back if he has a girlfriend. The how to get your ex boyfriend back if he has a girlfriend article is a total of 1728 words. While I am definitely going to be writing a lot in this guide it is not going to compare to the 20,000 word behemoth I put together outlining every single little step that you have to take if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. Learn More About Ex Boyfriend Recovery PROWant to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? The point I am trying to get at here is that human being are going to do what they want to do no matter what. I am the type of guy that has never really cared about a potential girlfriends past or future relationships.
I have a lot of experience dealing with women who have been hurt by a boyfriend in this situation (1700 comments of experience ;).
Well, the first factor is the amount of time that elapsed before he started dating the new girl. Lets take a few moments and dive into each of these factors so we can determine why each of them are so important. Now, even though I admit to wanting to feel validated by other women I am proud to say that I have never rebounded before.
One thing I do want to point out is the fact that everything I just described is assumed to happen in under a month.
Well, I would be lying to you if I said you had as good a chance as you did with him getting a girlfriend in the 3 week example above. So, let me break all of this down for you because what we just covered may have been a lot to swallow.
If you would like to learn more about rebound relationships I urge you to check out my guide on them.


Actions vs Words- In order to truly understand what someone is thinking it is smarter to look at the actions they take rather than the words they say. This invariably means that the longer they date the worse your chances are of getting your ex boyfriend back. While it is true that the more time that your ex dates his new girlfriend the worse your chances become of getting him back it is also true that the less he dates the new girl the greater your chances become of getting him back. Well, I am a guy and I can tell you that every girl I date I always compare to the previous girl I have dated.
The trick to giving yourself the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back is to have a very logical mindset. I had the ability to think ahead to how those actions may affect me and the other person involved in the future.
In order to be logical you almost have to have this special ability, the ability to think ahead and see the future.
Attempting to get an ex boyfriend back who has a new girlfriend is one of the hardest things to do. The gameplan for getting an ex boyfriend with a new girlfriend back is not a particularly easy one to understand. Each of these parts are equally important so don’t skip over them if you think they are not.
I have been thinking a lot about desperation lately because I have been answering so many desperate women and I have come to one big conclusion. The reason that men don’t like desperate women is that a desperate woman are easy to get.
The problem with desperation is that it makes you come off like you aren’t of high value or that you may act like this with any guy you deal with. Yet I always find it so interesting that the script completely flips after a breakup occurs.
I mean, he is dating another girl right now so you must have strong enough feelings for him to want him back. I know it seems like I am being really hard on you and I am but I am doing this for your own good. Seeing your ex boyfriend date another woman is not going to be an easy thing to live through.
Doing everything in her power to discredit anything positive left over from your previous relationship with your ex. To that I have one simple response (well really three but who’s counting?) Lets look at your options here.
Look, what you are doing now obviously isn’t working because you felt the need to search the internet for further advice.
This only works in one case, if you are actually dating the person and they want to hear from you.
You could do what I am recommending throughout this gameplan and work to slowly make your ex realize that the new girl isn’t anywhere near the woman that you are.
No contact is important throughout this process because it will allow you to evolve and give you time to reacquire that logical mindset that you need.
Simply doing a no contact rule isn’t the end of your job during this phase of the process.
Striving towards becoming an UG (ungettable girl) during your no contact rule is going to do two things for you. Well, that is what I am basically trying to give you by urging you to achieve the ungettable girl status. Look, I am not going to lie to you because a lot of the women who visit this site are incredibly intelligent.
This final section, after the no contact period, is probably going to be the longest of the three that we will be talking about today.
Obviously this section is going to deal with the period of time that occurs after the no contact rule.
It is only human to compare the person you are currently with to the person you used to be with. Now, I want to hit the pause button for a moment and go over what I just covered because it is important for what we are going to be trying to do here.
What we are going to be trying to do is highlight your best aspects so he uses this theory (setting the bar) to compare you to his new girlfriend. I want to especially cover this because there is still a lot of confusion among the visitors of this site on how to properly approach an ex after the no contact rule.
The key to really making this work is having something really interesting to say after you send the text above. How can you highlight your strong points while at the same time highlighting his new girlfriends weaknesses? I felt I was in a good mood any time I saw that person and this person was in a good mood when they saw me. Once you have your list of good qualities in front of you it is time to integrate those into your conversation with your ex boyfriend. I think if I had to choose any of the qualities I listed above I would choose the one about being in a good mood. Actually it is over seven thousand words so I am impressed you read all the way to the end. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. Naturally, I lose it because I have a horrible temper and have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder that causes me to manically lash out with blind rage. I also should add that here are a number of relatively unimportant details that go on with this chronically, including him bad mouthing me to his (and her) friends to the point where his roommate now hates me. So you called it quits with your girlfriend and now you feeling it was so not a good idea to have let her go? Now moving on to step number two…, move over from the simple text message zone into the ‘calling her zone’. Owning up to your shortcomings in the relationship, and apologizing for the pain caused is the next step to take now.
Try not to bring in the past, while establishing new grounds for re-building your relationship with her.
Forget about what happened while you two were apart…, who dated who or who slept with whom. No one ever feels happy when they get dumped by their partner, and so does your girlfriend.
As you can see, Option Three provides the only option in which you do not end up crying softly. You’re texting your ex for a very specific reason (ahem Step 1) so get on with it already. Getting to the point leave no room for uncertainty or grey area and prevents you from getting sucked in to an awful long texting conversation.
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You feel sick to your stomach, with no energy, you can’t be bothered to see anyone and you just want to be left alone. Let’s say that you broke up, it’s been a few months, maybe even a year and you’ve heard through friends that she’s got a boyfriend (perhaps you even saw it on Facebook which would really suck). Get some new threads, workout at the gym (get the body most women want), eat right and drum some positive thoughts into your head. It’s crucial that they see the guy you want to be seen as… which is a confident, independent, happy and outgoing guy.
It’s vital that you find out why she hates you… because this will help you to build a solid action plan. Apologise for what you did wrong and say to her that you respect her wishes, also that you truly wish that she finds a guy that will make her happy. If you did, then that’s awesome, keep the communication flowing and suggest meeting up for a coffee because you want to stay friends with her. It took me exactly 4 weeks, but I have a friend who used the same techniques and it took him 7 months. He started stalking and harrassing me, and would harrass any guy I dated.I told him never to speak to me again, but he still tried to get me back, was watching and following me in person and on line ,so I called the police and filed a report, and later filed a no contact order. We broke up because she got jealous about other women who were giving me attention, and i lied about one of these girls at a party and i just got too comfortable and didn’t show interest. My gf mentioned to break up due to another man and no more feeling with me, I’ve stopped this action taken as I can’t take it!
In the mean time go and get your self together work out hang with friends and make your self happy. You are her comfort zone you know each other so she is just there with you after what she thinks is good is not. The next day I saw she had took us off of a relationship on Facebook and I lost it, I gave her my password and she out of current mistrust searched through my emails. Express your self about what was the underlying problem with the situation between you both. I spent two weeks compiling research and prepping for how I want this guide to be set up and I feel I have enough to say about the topic to get some amazing results for people.
What I would like to explore is what this emotion means and how you can use it to your advantage. That means that probably at one point of your relationship with her she has already felt this non verbal missing emotion for you. So, it is up to you to do things during this 21 day period to make sure she misses you continuously. I am not saying this to be sexist or anything like that (I am probably more of a feminist than anyone you know.) No, I am saying this because it is the truth. Generally speaking it isn’t that hard to make your ex girlfriend miss you if you know what you are doing.
I took the liberty of going through each of these results to see just how many of them recommended the no contact rule as a way of making a girlfriend miss you.
Well, those differences often come in the form of how long the actual time period of the no contact rule is. You are going to have to trust your gut on this one since you know your specific situation much more intimately than I ever could.
That’s a whopping 70% of experts who say that NC is essential for making a girlfriend miss you.
Well, if you are asking my opinion on which timeline you should choose to best maximize your chances of making your girlfriend miss you I would say that the 21 day no contact rule is ideal. Of course, you want her to miss you more so you decide it would be a good idea to implement a 21 day no contact rule immediately after the breakup. If you would like more information on the full details of what you are supposed to be doing during the no contact rule I suggest you visit this page.
One of the things I found very interesting about my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, was the fact that the word of mouth was incredible. When your exes best friend reports back to her you want them to sit for hours dissecting everything trying to figure out why you even texted the best friend in the first place.
Good or bad, whatever she says relating to the break up I want you to simply duck out of the conversation and not respond. Of course, I am always a fan of taking things slow as opposed to fast when it comes to stuff like this so I think the next step in the logical progression is to text with her a little bit first before you try to ask her out or call her. While this can be good for keeping a conversation fast paced the main goal we are trying to accomplish here isn’t being able to keep a conversation going quickly. Well, if you respond to her response within a minute it isn’t giving her a lot of time to miss you is it? Well, if you are responding super quickly to text messages then that is a strong statement that you are missing her back and while that can be a nice feeling for some women, deep down most of them won’t be adding anything to their NVME. Well, if you are patient and wait 25 minutes to respond she will be thinking a lot of thoughts during those initial 25 minutes. You see, as much as the gurus out there want you to believe that there is a magic text message that you can send to suddenly open your exes heart the truth is, is that it is going to take a lot more than one text. Lets say that you send this text message to your ex girlfriend and she absolutely loves it. If you have read this far down the page then one thing I know for a fact is that you want your ex girlfriend back really badly. The two of you will probably have a lot to talk about and it may almost feel like you two are dating again.
The decline that comes after that is going to be slow but it signifies that the conversation won’t ever be as good as it was during the high point.
We also know that the only time that this emotion can develop is actually when she is not around the man (or you in this case.) This is all pretty much common sense really. This is your opportunity to shine and you aren’t going to do it by immediately going in for the kiss, trying to cop a feel or go for the grand slam. Have your own life so, when things are okay for her it would be easier for you to get back together.
Just seems like that is a little bit of game playing to me, I don’t want to put her friend in the middle. I wanted to give you a guide that would take you from A to Z and show you exactly what you needed to do to get there. Deep down I know that there are a lot of people in this world and there is probably someone out there better than me but I always convince myself that I am the best. Oh, and writing a book.) One thing I constantly notice is that women in this situation have really low self esteem. Sure, he is dating another girl and sure it hurts but the more reliant you become on him and his actions the less likely you will be to get him back.
These factors are so important that they will dictate how you approach your particular situation. Lets go back to the example I gave above (you and me dating and breaking up.) Lets imagine for a moment that after our breakup a total time of 3 weeks elapsed before I got a new girlfriend. Now, I was in no mood to talk so I am sure I was incredibly rude to them but I did start to get some confidence back.
However, there will always be some men that refuse to face their pain head on and deal with it.
It just likely means that him getting a girlfriend 7 months down the road increases the chances that his new girlfriend is not a rebound. The shorter amount of time that elapses the more likely it is that he just got into a rebound relationship. You see, you are trying to get an ex boyfriend back who probably just got into a relationship with a new girlfriend. I know that is probably not what you want to hear right now but I am not in the business of telling you what you want to hear. However, the reason I trotted it out in this guide is because YOU are in a situation where your emotions are probably going to trump your logic a lot. I have been through some dark times in my life (mostly my own doing I might add.) You don’t think I wanted to pick up the phone and beg for my ex back? I was only able to come to this conclusion by setting aside my emotions and thinking logically about the situation.
Even if deep down he is just using the new girl to fill the void that you left it still won’t be easy to get him back. All this stress you are feeling about the new girl and your ex, leave all that stuff up to me.
I am going to break this gameplan up into three different parts and break it down from there. The thing I want to talk about specifically is that your ex is going to start dating someone new BUT a lot of things are going to occur during this time as well.
I was having a pretty bad day and feeling bad about being rejected by a girl in my personal life. Not only did I find it incredibly insightful but I also began to realize that all I wanted to feel was that I was the center of a girls universe. All of a sudden the woman becomes reliant on the man whereas at the beginning of the relationship it was probably the guy who was chasing the girl.
This will probably be the shortest section out of the three I talk about because there isn’t too much to go into. You are super emotional and a lot of the decisions you are making are not based on logic with a future in mind.
Isn’t it ironic that probably the smartest thing you can do to get your ex boyfriend back (and get him to dump his ex girlfriend) is to NOT care.
But if you do strive towards becoming the ungettable girl not only will it act as a goal to achieve but it will act as a backup plan if this gameplan doesn’t work out for you. This means that you are going to have to figure out how to initiate contact with your ex again after a lot of time off from talking to them. Eventually a girl is going to come close to his idea of the perfect woman but we are talking about a member of the male species here so something is going to go wrong in that relationship (usually because of something he did.) Anyways, after a breakup occurs every single girl is going to be compared to the standard that the best girlfriend he ever had set. This can be especially effective if you do this right because not only will he begin to realize that the new girlfriend can’t compare to you but he will think that leaving her is his idea when really you were the one to plant the seed. However, at the same time it has to be really interesting (to get him to respond.) One of the best ways to do that is with the following text message.
Notice how the tone of the messages that were sent was really friendly (almost playful.) This is a good opener because it yielded a response. The first thing I think you need to do is think back to your relationship and list all the high points you can.
So, basically any time my (now) ex girlfriend and I saw each other we always seemed to be in a good mood.
Now, it is risky to send that alone because it may cross over some lines in your exes mind. I realize I left out a lot of the steps to accomplish the goals you need to accomplish but I gave you the overall gameplan that you need to succeed.
We start sleeping with each other again; he invites me to thanksgiving dinner with his extended family. You want her back in your life, but just don’t know how to get your ex-girlfriend back strategy’?
I call this a re-connection strategy because you guys might have gone off for quite a while, and just barging in un-invited back into her life without any prior permission may put her off.
At this point, she may have gotten your message, and is probably expecting you to call her.
This stage provides you with the platform to bear out all you wish to attain by re-initiating a relationship with your ex- girlfriend.
It doesn’t matter how long it has been, how bad your break-up was or the number of years since you both agreed to never speak again.
While there are many times you might want to text your ex, it’s rare that you truly need to. If your ex-girlfriend has recently lost a loved one it is much more appropriate to call or send a condolence card than a tacky text message. Texting her instead of a friend with the same name can lead to some really awkward situations. Something like “Hey, so I got the job… (yay for me) starting in a week” fancy a celebratory coffee?
This means you need to upload pictures of you partying with other pretty girls, smiling, traveling, doing things that you NEVER did whilst in your relationship with your ex. Well then after we broke up i made out with one of the girls and i told her about it and it devestated her. She she leave it becaue she thinks she found the one to replace you then she finds out the grass is not greener on the other side so she comes back. She took a light hearted conversation to be factual and believes that I am a cheater and our relationship was over a long time ago.
Yes, I understand you want your girlfriend to miss you but just making her miss you probably isn’t going to be enough.
However, the problem with a girl verbalizing that she misses you is that she is talking specifically about that moment in time.
She is the first thought on my mind when I wake up and it literally feels like I am obsessed with her.
Since the two of you are no longer together do you think she feels this level of “missing” for you?


Every single step outlined above is a small stepping stone that will increase your chances of making your ex girlfriend miss you. However, it is possible that if you wait too long to put your plan into effect her habits will change and she will have forced herself to not miss you as much. As the days progress she discovers that she kind of misses you but she feels kind of bad about it since she was the one who broke up with you. However, the one thing that all of us experts agree on is that the no contact rule is a period of time where you aren’t allowed to talk to your ex in any way. Any time you receive messages through these mediums you will not be allowed to respond until the time period is completed.
For example, some ex girlfriend experts swear by a 90 day no contact rule while others will live and die by the 60 day no contact rule.
Not to mention they give your ex girlfriend plenty of time to get over you and lower your chances for making her miss you. In fact, she loves it so much that it sparks an amazing conversation between the two of you for the next few hours.
You can touch them on an emotional level so much easier when you talk on the phone as long as you play your cards right. That means that when you do finally advance to a point where you can talk to her on the phone and thing start going well you aren’t going to want to get off the phone. Women are way more emotional than us and I am not talking about them crying or acting crazy during that time of the month. As she was in college and i was working usually we would chat at evening time as she stays in hostel and cannot use her cellphone during daytimes. Right now there are 1700 comments on the page and it doesn’t look like that number will stop anytime soon.
Honestly, every time I open this site and think back to the early articles I wrote I am actually ashamed because I felt like I dropped the ball for you guys. There is a lot to talk about here but I think what I want to tackle first has to do with your fear of other women. I don’t think I do it because I am trying to be conceited I am doing it because it will give me the mindset I need to have to be the best boyfriend I can possibly be. No matter who broke up with who the fact of the matter is that there is going to be pain on both sides of the breakup (both yours and his.) Most men will look to fill this pain by using other women to make themselves feel better. So, instead of doing that they rebound with a girl who can constantly fill their need to feel validated. The more time that elapses the higher the chances are that their relationship could become serious. Out of all the situations you will encounter on this website this will probably be the one that has the lowest chances of success. Now, before we really start to move on I want to let you into my personal life for a moment which is something that I rarely do.
Believe it or not she is probably going to be threatened by you just like you are threatened by her.
Make no mistake about it, right now your ex boyfriend chose the new girl over you (rebound or not.) If you do get into a negative exchange with the new girlfriend you are probably going to accomplish one thing, bring your ex closer to her. While I may have been slowly coming to the realization that the new girl wasn’t for me you did something that was a massive mistake, you engaged my new girlfriend on Facebook and had a Facebook war.
Well, I am going to show you how to make him decide all on his own to do it and you won’t even have to do anything crazy.
However, imagine if a few months down the road your ex is still dating this new girl but he happens to run into you and you have achieved this UG status I keep going on and on about.
Not to mention, the complexity of the new girlfriend is added into the fray so you have found yourself in quite the pickle. Now, I do realize that in the example I provided above the responses aren’t exactly what you would call positive but this kind of opener is not conducive of a positive response. In addition, you can’t say anything that he will view as you trying to break him and his new girlfriend up.
We didn’t speak for a few weeks until I found out that they were still seeing each other.
Anyway, truly two days after my birthday I discover she’s stayed the night at his house.
He could have saved me sleepless nights, nightmares, panic attacks, emotional break downs in my work setting if he just talked to me like I asked.
I shouldn’t, but I quietly creep on their social media occasionally, and, shocker, this girl STILL stalks me (on the Internet AND in the real world).
I’m disappointed our conversation ended so poorly, but he did text me saying he was trying to calm down and gave me the links to all of her fake accounts for me to block.
I told my friends I will marry this man someday after just 1 date and he told the same thing to his friends. So by actually calling, you better your chances of talking to her and initiating a proper conversation.
Maybe you were a jerk, fine, but you realized how empty your life is without her in the picture. Breaking her heart was just enough to kill her, but going on and on about what happened, could even kill her more. The two of you thought you were never going to get back together, so you tried out new and fun stuff with other people. She may have taken revenge on you, tried to destroy your life, or just made your life downright miserable.Or, she may have seemed strong and independent in your relationship, but texted you 1000 times per day after you broke up with her.
You may push her limits till she is afraid of you or hates the very thought of you.If you are a good man, she will miss you and call you. I made a lot of mistakes after the breakup, begging to come back to her, argued a couple times, freaked about her dating. She is blaming you for cheating because she is not being 100% with you about what she is doing. I just started the no contact phase and am giving her time it’s been 3 days no contact. It’s still fresh, I have sent her a very brief letter trying to keep an image that I have calmed down now, and apologized once again for how cruel I was, and for even saying the things I had. I understand how you are feeling because I deal with so many men and women that go through your situation on a daily basis. No, you are going to need a more complete game plan for that and that is what Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO can provide for you,Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? Your best bet of making her miss you is during that short time frame (21 days immediately after a breakup) where her mind is constantly on one thing, YOU!
Facebook is at the top of the food chain when it comes to social media and we are going to use Facebook to our advantage.
I know it can be a little annoying to post pictures on Facebook but bear with me for a moment here. Remember, all that matters here is that you want your ex girlfriend to be tapping into her emotions.
Whenever she texts me i was at office and could not reply her back at the same time and after that we used to have usual talks. How would the 21 days off work to my advantage and still have the great possibility of getting her back in my life. Correct me if I’m wrong but isn’t using her friends and Facebook playing games?
Now, lets say that the rebound doesn’t even compare to the standard that the old girlfriend set. It is human nature and everyone is going to make impulsive decisions based on emotions at times. All I want you to focus on is successfully implementing the gameplan I am about to give you. While I am going to tell you exactly what you need to do to succeed in your campaign to get your ex boyfriend back there is a concept you first need to understand.
I have established throughout this site that men usually only respond positively to good memories so I don’t want you to touch the bad ones with a ten foot pole. I truly and honestly believe he has some serious emotional and mental health problems that he will not address. Keep it real and simple as much as possible, but at the same time bringing out how you really feel about the way you treated her and how you want things to be in the present circumstances.
Be sure to let her know she’s the one you want and feel remorse for hurting her the way you did. Let your emotions be felt at this point, because it could do a lot to change her mind about taking you back. And if you’ve already made the (possibly inadvisable!) decision to do so, then at least you can do it in the least life-damaging way possible. If you hem and haw for too long your ex might get the wrong message and respond accordingly. We’ve hung out like 7 times since the break up and things got pretty affectionate 4 out of the 7 times.
I was leaving the state around half year and she had ask me to stay but, I insist to leave due to good opportunity. I sent her mother a 4 pg front and back letter explaining in order of occurrence everything, assuring I am not a cheater and just everything, I was completely honest, and mature in every way. I thought thst i could not get over my ex but I am living and making the best of the situation everyday. She begins to wonder about that Martha girl and takes another trip on the emotional roller coaster.
Now after that when she had holidays and when she came home which is near to me she texted me that she wants to quit this relationship as she wants to concentrate in her studies.
In my case my ex is already upset that I asked her friend why she was upset before the breakup, then used that as further ammunition to breakup. The ironic part about all of this is that if you do try to control another human being they immediately resent you. It creates this strange confidence in myself and I rely on that confidence to get me through any interaction I have with a potential girlfriend. I needed to be told that I was still worth something since I felt I wasn’t in that relationship. The problem is that at the beginning of this process, especially in your case, emotions are usually not your friend. While I suppose this is a possible outcome the chances of it happening are below one percent probably. I have cared for this site from the beginning back when no one heard of it or cared about it.
However, it will also give you the ability to figure out what you need to do at every single juncture of the gameplan.
Once you have the conversation open with an ex you can text back and forth for a little bit and then I would like you to end the conversation. If he responds positively (like the person in the example above did) I would move on to the next part. Not only did I paint the current relationship between you and your ex in a positive light (you two still get along) but I also acknowledged something that maybe the two of you were afraid to admit, that whether you like it or not you actually still think about each other. I planned on leaving a calm voicemail regarding my frustration to these stalker like tendencies of his group of friends but instead I panicked.
He’s even reached out to my friends, telling them how he feels awful for being terrible to me.
Tag along and follow through with these simple steps, and you’ll win her heart back without even knowing it. A re-connection can be created by sending her a message that reminds her of the fact that you still have her in your thoughts, though you guys broke up. Don’t be too emotional about it, but if you get to break down in the process, don’t worry about it. It’s just been a rough past summer for me in general with my grandpa passing away and adjusting to all this change. One is a love letter and the other is an apology letting her know I accept the breakup and wish her the best. When we were together I was a jerk and didn’t make a big deal about it and it hurt her.
I’m not sure if this method of using her friend is a good one in my case, any suggestions?
Now, if person A imagined a logical future to begging they would probably see the bad consequences that begging has towards re-attracting an ex.
She hugged me and apologized profusely and swore she didn’t want me to see her as a home wrecker.
I am his rock, I am his light, he knows I will never hurt him or use him like all of the others.
I had explained to him (post mania) I wanted to drop some of his stuff off at his back door and when wont he be home? Most importantly, is there someone else you can contact about this issue other than your ex?
I do love the girl and I’m attempting to get her back by going to her school which is an hour away and serenading her wih a guitar right on campus haha. So now what Idk is should I text her the night before and say something about it like goodluck don’t be nervo use it’ll be okay, just good luck or nothing at all? She also used to tell that her parents will not accept the relationship and her father will sue her for doing this. Nearly a year and a half ago, out of the blue, he called me up to tell me he met his soulmate, the love of his life and he didn’t want me around anymore. He drops 400$ on my birthday, not including a totally separate date he had taken me on a week prior. We’ve broken up before about 2 years ago and I did the same thing just outside of her house. I’m running on very little sleep right now due to my jam packed work schedule that I filled to the brim since he last left. In fact, it can be downright devastating.Getting over a breakup is like getting over an addiction to cocaine. She keep saying no more feeling with girl, what can I do to get her back again coz I too love her. I am being very emotionally reactive and have been obsessively mulling over the past six months.
She has me blocked on facebook and snapchat, yet we still keep in touch through text and phone calls and shes friends with my mom on facebook still haha.
I say it with 100% honesty, at this point I had given up and truly was very, very calm regarding my actions.
You don’t obsessively post things about yor rebound relationship on social media if you are confident and happy. Never saw her again, but sent a letter admiting my fault, compromising myself that I will change and asking for another chance.I sent anotherone saying I was selfish, guilty and that I willl understand whatever she decides, just want to see her happy. He swears she is more of a friend with benifits, while she considers them to be in a relatively serious relationship.
He told me he’s going to make her understand that he only wants her companionship at this point, and would like to fix things with me.
I want him to panick over my loss, but I feel as though it will just push him toward her and more shallow relationships to fill the gap. Most people don’t change too much because of a relationship, so after the breakup they revert back to their old ways.
And on the day of break up, she still had it on the wall, when she already had packed my bags, and put away my other picture. This is a great chance to see your ex-girlfriend for who she really isA when she is not responsible to anyone but herself for her behavior.You take your rose-colored glasses off.
There’s a part of me that still wants things to work out, but i still have a lot of resentment towards him. A womanA who is not naturally vengeful will NOTA take revenge on you after a breakup, however, a woman who feels the need to take an eye for an eyeA will definitely do something to hurt you after the breakup.
But speaking from experience, when your moral compass is on right, you may think about doing something evil, but that’s all it leads to. Atleas give a consideration that i was a faithful dude down to be in it for the long hall .
I know if i pull at her more while she still mad and bitter shes just going to pul away more.
If you beat her or abused her in some way, then she may need to act tough or be bold to get out of the relationship. On top of that ahe has the type of girlfriends who like bashing dudes cause thwy dont have one or not satisfied qjth the ones they have.
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Check your inbox to confirm!Something went wrong.We respect your privacy and take protecting it seriously Tweet Pin It Related Posts 1154 The Ex Girlfriend - How To Win Her Back, Get Over Her, and MoreHere Are 3 Good Reasons To Quit Stalking Your Ex Girlfriend 477 Self-Improvement Topics For Men10 Tweets From Dr. Phil That Can Help You Be A Better Man Comments(6) Mark Stone March 10, 2016 Hello Bellaisa, this was a nice read. Many a times both the partners understand what’s best for them and they move on with their life without hurting each other. I said that how she and you act during the breakup says a lot about who you really are and whether or not you would want to get back together. So, a girl who is rational and still treats you well after a breakup is obviously a good person who realized that you were not the love of her life in that way – and vice versa.
Reply john lopez April 1, 2016 My Ex girlfriend blamed for everything, things that I did four years ago, little things. She told me she was disappointing because I did not get married the at the time she wanted. Anyway she was always sweet and caring, a beautiful girl but when i saw her after we broke up, she was a completely different person as described. Reply admin April 2, 2016 I think, John, that she is showing you how she feels quite clearly now. Reply john lopez April 6, 2016 I hurt my girlfriend after she missed a flight to spend Christmas with me and my family. On December 18th I paid for my girlfriend to take a flight to my hometown to meet me there. On December 18th she was supposed to take the flight, but was distant and decided no to take it at the end.
She sent me a message that she tried to catch the flight last minute but was unable and wished me merry Xmas and god blessing. I unfriend her from Facebook, I said many hurtful things and told her I wish no to see her again. I was so mad because she didna€™t even tried to change the plane ticket she just told me she didna€™t feel like flying. I called her a week later to say sorry but she wished no to see me, she did even wanted to take my calls, she send me a six page email with lots of drama, with issues that I tough we fixed three years ago. She was about to move in with me and get marry, but she told me she didnt wish that anymore. I took a flight a month later to see her, we didna€™t talk during that time, she blocked me of everything, whatsapp, facebook, she wouldna€™t take my calls. She was more calm, but told she wished nothing with me, that she was going to unblocked me but that doesna€™t mean nothing.
She disappeared from the first moment we broke up and told me she holds a lot of resentment against me and herself for not concluding all of her dreams in our marriage. Once you accept the fact that it’s over with her, you will have an easier time moving on.



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