This is going to sound really weird but for the next month I don’t want you to talk to your ex boyfriend. WHAT???Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Yup, I know it sounds ridiculous but trust me, doing this will stack the odds in your favor in a very unique way.
Now, that is wrong on so many levels but you are going to use this type of thinking to your advantage. One of the most interesting things about text messaging is the fact that every holds their texts as sacred.
IMPORTANT – You cannot move on to this text message until you successfully complete the first text message above. The key with this type of text is to get your ex to remember the good parts of your relationship. If you haven’t already realized this, getting your ex back can be a very complicated process. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. Forgot to mention the conversation did not end well as I replied ok and it just ended as he was trying to make a effort to talk!
Of course, for all the things that you can control there are things that you can’t control on the opposite side of the coin.
Not only are they essential to helping you get your ex boyfriend back but they can be life changing.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Maureen implemented the advice in PRO and The Texting Bible and not only got her ex back but married him!
I guess what I am saying is that if you want your ex boyfriend to love you again those are your tools to accomplish that.
It is really important that you write all of these down because I need you to answer them as honestly as you can. First lets take a look at what I consider to be the correct answer for all of these questions.
Getting an ex boyfriend to fall in love with you again isn’t going to happen in a couple of days. Simple, it will give you insight on what behaviors that you need to avoid if you plan on making him fall for you again.
This is important to know because the process of making him like you again isn’t going to be a short and easy one. While that may be true (the problems caused by him part.) I can tell you right now you were not perfect in your relationship. This kind of ties in to our first question above (expecting results.) Like almost everything in life there is a right way and a wrong way to communicate with your ex boyfriend.
Essentially, they want results too fast and don’t have the discipline to tell themselves to slow down.
Before I really dive into specific strategies for making your ex fall for you all over again this is a concept that I need to hammer into your head. It is impossible for every single girl to become an UG (ungettable girl) otherwise every woman walking this planet would be an UG. In the beginning for me and most men it is all about looks and yes, your weight plays into that.
Luckily, if you are a bit chubby or overweight this is something that is completely in your control. I told you that story because I want you to know that I understand what it is like to be called ugly.
The sad truth is that with some girls no matter what they do they cannot change the way they look. I think the reason I have so much trouble with this one is the simple fact that some women can annoy me and I just don’t know why. Maybe for me it is a specific way they talk, a specific attitude they are projecting that I don’t like or just the way they carry themselves.
Biology was over for me… For the next week any time I would walk into that class I could only focus on one thing, that girl. This quality, the daydream thing, has been present in me every single time I have met an ungettable girl. A sad truth about life that I have learned is that a daydream world is a lot nicer than the realty world.
It is your job to leverage the high points in your previous relationship and recreate them. At the end of season 5 a sacrifice is made that literally brings me tears because you have so much invested in the characters. In season 6 the best musical episode ever created happens and I giggle like a little school girl every time. In season 7 you are just in awe of how far all the main characters have come and you begin to get sad because you know the end of the series is near. I am a MALE that comes back and watches Buffy every single year because of the high points.
Because that show did such an amazing job of highlighting the high points I come back over and over again. That is what the Buffy phenomenon is, using the high points of your relationship to your advantage.
There are actually a lot of different ways that you can use your high points to your advantage. Control Theory is something I talk a lot about in The Texting Bible so make sure you check that out.
That is why we are obsessed with watching sports, playing video games and making the most money as we possibly can (to brag about it.) While I am not going to give my personal thoughts if too much competition is a good or bad thing I just want you to understand that men at their core are competitive creatures.
Well, our whole goal here is to highlight the emotional high points of your relationship with your ex boyfriend. It sounds pretty simple when you put it in a bulleted list like the one above but I promise you it is not. If this happens then what you are doing is working and keep doing it because he is going to view you as an ungettable girl. I am not going to cover when to use emotional memories because that would take about another 3,000 words which I don’t have. Next, I want you to go through those list of 20 memories and pick out the ones that have an immediate emotional effect on you.
IF you can pick out two of those memories that you know for a fact he will be affected by then you can move on to step 5! While I will admit that, that is kind of a lame memory to choose the reason I picked it is because I know for a fact she enjoyed that specific aspect of our relationship. It is important to write these types of words down because you are going to be using them in your memory text message. I have found the best way to use emotional text messages to your advantage is to find a way to get the biggest bang for your buck. I would like to use my example above to further describe the correct way to come up with this text message.
The truth is that there is only one relationship that you will ever have that lasts for your entire life. Well, I have done a lot of research and have a lot of experience with in person tactics and I can tell you that you are going to fail if you aren’t comfortable in your own skin.
You can use this to your advantage when you are trying to make your ex boyfriend love you again. I was kind of getting tired writing about the same old boring stuff so new territory is exciting for me. Ahhh… it is a lot harder than you think because the holding hands part has to be his idea.
Well, I think it is safe to say that if you two are holding hands you can progress to kissing. Not because of everything I have written up until this point but because of the knowledge I am about to unleash in this section. In the end you have to remember that while you want to date your ex boyfriend again you don’t need to date him again. Whatever your specific case is one thing is guaranteed, you are here because your ex won’t recommit to you when you want him to and need advice on how to get him to do that.
A man won’t commit to a woman unless he feels like he has to in order to keep him from losing her. I want you to put your ex boyfriend in the friend zone and before you get confused I am talking about putting him in the real friend zone that everyone is so afraid of.
If I was a betting man I would say that she hasn’t and if she has the guy was a complete jerk. When he is in the friend zone do not respond to his advances at all (if he gives you any.) Reaffirm your decision to put him in the friend zone by subtly sprinkling in variations of the tactics I described above.
Once you feel you have done a pretty good job of putting your ex in the friend zone I want you to start flirting with him.
Once you have him hooked in the flirting I want you to put him back in the friend zone and stop flirting with him.
I have completed NCR and from getting either ignored or getting rude responses, he now replies neutrally..
The thing is, I am very confident that I can execute all your advice if I can actually get him to start replying enthusiastically. So I really really need help in Breaking that wall down and actually getting him to reply enthusiastically, could you please help? I have seen women try everything there is to try (one woman actually did a love spell.) I have seen women do everything right and fail. Knowing when to let go is a tough thing to decipher because often times you are so close to your own situation that you are blind to the truth. Lately I have gotten a lot of women requesting a guide on how you should know when it is time to stop trying to get your ex boyfriend back. The funny part about this is that this is the first guide in the history of this site that I have put together without research.
Heck, I believe this so much I wrote a book trying to teach people the correct way to win an ex back. Then I see no reason for why you shouldn’t give it your all in trying to get him back. Sure, you may have tried to get your ex back but can you honestly say that you did the best you could? Look, I realize that it is weird to dedicate so much time on getting your ex back on a page about knowing when to give up BUT sometimes in order to know when to give up you have to try to get your ex boyfriend back. I am basically telling you that in order to know for sure if you have a shot at making this work again you have to try to get your ex boyfriend back. One thing that you are going to realize really fast is that things are never as simple as black and white when it comes to determining if you should give up on getting an ex back. Most people believe that you should either try to get your ex back or you should just simply move on.
A lot of what I talk about in this section of the guide is going to tie directly into the methods of getting an ex back.
Well, I am going to list (one by one) the signs that an ex boyfriend might exhibit that will give you an indication on if you should give up or not.
Obviously the text message should be really good and I give plenty examples on how to compose one throughout this website and even in my E-Book.
Sure, it can sometimes be normal for an ex boyfriend to miss a text or two from you but if he literally cuts you out of his life by not responding to anything you send.. Of course, the thing that you are probably wondering is what can you do to get him to contact you again? Again, I want to reiterate it is not a good sign if he ignores you every time when you are reaching out.. This is another one of those situations where we are going to be focusing on what happens AFTER the no contact rule is successfully completed. However, what if an ex boyfriend of yours responded but only responded to you in a negative manner? Perhaps it could be that he is just taking his frustrations out on you because of his own inability to hold together your relationship. However, if I were a betting men I would say that it all comes down to the feeling he gets when he thinks back to your relationship. It shouldn’t exactly be a shock that a lot of the time the better your relationship with your ex was the better the shot you have of getting him back. However, I know that it is a normal part of the relationship process so you should come to expect them. In the last section we briefly discussed how men can sometimes have negative responses based on the bad feelings they had in their previous relationships.
One thing that I see happen far too often is that when a no contact rule is completed a couple can sometimes pick up right where they left off with the fighting.
As I said at the beginning of this section, fighting is a natural thing for relationships but what we are talking about here is an excess of fighting.
There is no doubt in my mind that YOU are capable of trying to create a better relationship but you are only one side of the equation. The thing you really have to keep in mind when you deal with a man who says something like this is that you have to figure out if he means it or not. The thing that you have to remember is that if these words are muttered to you by an ex you need to determine if he means them or not. I can’t tell you how many times I have muttered this phrase throughout my life and throughout this site. If you ever want to see what a person TRULY wants (their words aside) you need to look at their actions.
However, when it came down to crunch time and advancing the relationship forward she would always cancel on me.
Now, when you read the two (obviously fake) simulations of the relationships what did you notice? Well, for starters the first example seemed a lot healthier and pleasant whereas the second example seemed really stressful and unhealthy. The worse your relationship was with your ex boyfriend the more fallout you are going to have following you around after the breakup. For example, if your previous relationship was pretty good then you can expect a positive fallout to follow you around after the breakup. Another thing that a lot of people tend to forget is the fact that your breakup can be a huge fallout indicator.
For a while at least the negative connotation of a bad breakup will always be in the back of an ex boyfriends mind.
Again, this is another one of those sections that isn’t really resistance you are getting from your ex boyfriend. What does this any of this have to do with knowing if you should give up on your ex boyfriend? When you take a step back and look at your relationship with your ex boyfriend do you think any of the effort is worth it? Eventually when you do meet that someone who is twice as amazing as your ex was your world gets rocked all over again and you start to gain perspective.
How are you supposed to take a step back and determine if a relationship is worth fighting for with your ex boyfriend? If you just want him back to make the pain go away then you are being a coward and taking the easy way out. Me and my boyfriend has been in a relationship for 2 years 2 months (First 1 year under same roof, 1 year 2 months LDR) until we broke up yesterday.
I think it was unfair of him because whenever he told me not to go out with other men, I obliged.
I didn’t see my comment published but I saw comments from others get published, even when they were after me. Essentially I try to take an outsiders view and look at Ex Boyfriend Recovery’s overall weaknesses.
More specifically, how to make an ex boyfriend answer the phone and what to do once you are talking to him.
If you are an avid reader of this site then you know that I am not a huge fan of calling an ex boyfriend right off the bat.
Before I really dive in to the phone call stuff there is something I need to explain to you.
I want you to stop for a moment and really think about how many decisions you made based on emotions today.
So, the seemingly innocent decision to get in my car and drive to school can be traced all the way back to an emotion that I want to feel. While I realize a first grader could figure this out I would still like to take a moment to define what is considered a good feeling vs a bad one. The thing that I find most interesting about good feelings is the fact that we all tend to gravitate towards them. The whole point I am trying to make here is that no matter what we will always be drawn to things that make us feel good.
Above I talked about how both men and women tend to gravitate to things that make them feel good. Anyways, the feeling I felt after the verbal lashing from those football players shaped my perception of the weight room in high school. When you are dealing with an ex boyfriend the task can seem impossible but I assure you that it’s not. Remember above when I was talking about all that “good feeling, bad feeling” stuff? As long as you can find a way to shape his perception and have more pros than cons then you have a really good shot at talking to him on the phone.
That all depends on your ability to understand that calling an ex right off the bat is NOT a good idea. In fact, when I first started this site I used to believe that as long as you could think logically and push the right buttons you could make an ex boyfriend call you and eventually get him back. It was only through interacting with you and seeing different situations that I realized that I was wrong. You see, you need to find a perfect balance between logical thinking and emotional output if you want an ex boyfriend to call you or to pick up the phone when you call.
Not only does it have advantages for making an ex miss you but it allows you enough time to get in the logical mindset that you need to get an ex boyfriend to call you. A few sections ago I talked about a major concept that ties directly into making an ex boyfriend call you.
Well, one of the main questions you were probably wondering was how you can get rid of some of the cons. Now, before I talk to you about what you need to do specifically to get him to call I would like to take a look at the reasons why he WON’T call you.
Anyways, after talking with me she was feeling pretty down about her chances and then she said something that I found fascinating.
I remember when I was first trying to think of a word to describe how annoying it is to get text after text from someone you don’t want to hear from. Seriously, I remember when I was a teenager walking with a group on a mountain trail and gnats started buzzing around everyone’s heads. We have already established that an ex boyfriend is likely to run away from things that will give him bad feelings. In this (made up) scenario your ex boyfriend now views you calling him as a con on the pros vs cons list?
Lets switch gears here and focus on those women who are trying to call their ex boyfriends.
First off, there is a specific way that you have to call your ex boyfriend to ensure maximum success.
It’s funny, out of all these mistakes this is the one I think I feel I have the most insight into because in a way I live it every single day. Your ex boyfriend may find it very annoying if you were to force him to do something that he doesn’t want to do. Right off the bat I will tell you that I sense the person who is saying it is extremely desperate.
Any time anyone ever texts this to me I start freaking out and wracking my brain with everything that could have possibly gone wrong to cause the emergency.
Well, when it comes to relationships men don’t negotiate with women who give them ultimatums.


Funnily enough, you would probably do what I wanted so you could get your phone back but you would always hold the fact that I gave you an ultimatum against me. This is the part where I am going to give you in-depth instructions on how you can make an ex boyfriend potentially call you or pick up your calls. I am assuming that getting an ex boyfriend to call you is just one little aspect of your overall goal which is probably to get him back. All of these concepts are going to tie into a deeper gameplan with one goal in mind, to make your ex want you so bad that he calls you. For one, it is really important for you to obtain that logical mindset that I keep talking about. What I would like to do now is go into the specifics of the gameplan so you have a really good idea of what to do to make your ex boyfriend call you.
I love it when you meet someone new and you are literally on the edge of your seat anticipating their next text.
There is something magical that happens when you actually build an emotional connection with the person you are texting. If you ever get to know me really well then you would know that I am the type of person that needs to get my beauty sleep.
You see, at that time I was a senior in high school and I really wanted to see my girlfriend more than once a weekend. Seriously, if you were to walk into my room tomorrow at 5:30 in the morning and poured cold water on me I would still be sleeping. THAT is how you make him call you and you are going to do it through the least threatening way possible, through texting. A guide that is supposed to be about phone calls and we are going to spend a huge chunk talking about texting. In other words, you are going to get your ex used to associating you with good feelings before you talk on the phone so that when you do things will go extremely well. Below I have compiled a lot of text messages that you should use to get your ex to associate you to good feelings. If there is one thing I have learned about the women visiting my site throughout this past year it is that they want results fast. If your ex does respond positively to the first texting example that will give you the ability to use another texting example on this page.
Now, if your ex does NOT respond positively to the first texting example then you need to take a step back and realize that he isn’t ready to build an emotional connection yet.
That means YOU have to have the willpower to cut the conversation off right when it is starting to get good. That will make him associate that good feeling with you since YOU were the one that gave it to him.
Another important thing that I would like to mention is that you shouldn’t continue the conversation too much longer after you send this initial text. Because your ex is likely going to fish for more compliments and you want to leave him wanting more.
I love receiving messages from a girl that I am interested in and I am going to guess that your ex is the same way.
Another great message I received was a girl walking down a hotel hall just talking about what she did all day. One of the best video messages I received was a girl masterfully flirting by commenting on something I said.
Do you remember when you read that get your ex boyfriend to call you guide on your phone or computer? This text message is all about making your ex boyfriend remember a good time the two of you had together. Lets move on and talk about the two types of phone calls you really want to receive or make! I would like to now turn our attention to the real reason this guide was created, phone calls. But really at the end of the day the main goal here is to get on the phone with your ex boyfriend so you can work on getting him back. More specifically, have you ever gotten a phone call out of the blue from a guy you had feelings for? Of course, if this type of phone call is done correctly it can be a very powerful way to get your ex boyfriend on the phone.
Leading Phone Call- A type of phone call where you lead him or warn him that you are going to call.
Up until this point we have been talking strictly about how to get an ex to call you (or to pick up your calls) but one thing I haven’t gone into is what you are supposed to do once you get them on the phone.
This is going to be the final section of the guide and arguably the most important one so make sure that you are paying attention. I have thought a lot about how to structure this category and I decided to start with two general ideas.
I have talked on the phone with a lot of people in my life so this is really something that I consider myself to be an expert on. Of course, in order to control someone you have to really get them hooked into your conversation first.
I have never met any of these celebrities in real life and yet somehow I am fascinated by them. Of course, you don’t have to tell a Hugh Jackmanesque story to hook your ex into the conversation.
The Afterthought Effect- The emotional feeling your ex boyfriend is feeling towards you after he hangs up the phone from your phone call. This would be considered to be a negative AE and something that you need to avoid at all costs. A week or so later he calls to congratulate me on my new job, we chatted he smiled and laughed, I smiled and laughed.
Most experts agree that there are five stages of grief experienced by at least one person in every break-up. But the modern break-up has a sixth undiagnosed stage – just as certain as all the others, and one that we all have to deal with at some point.
How you react to the ex text is totally up to you, but if you’re casting about for ideas, here are some fantastic (and, in some cases, classic) examples.
This one’s a little tricky to pull off but you can rest assured that the text will end the moment you hit the send button on this sweet baby. When faced with a situation that is turning against you, sometimes there’s no other way around it. Like the double bluff (see above), sometimes you realise too late that the ex text was a bad idea – but this way will cause less friction and may win you some points further down the line. Gets the point across in a slightly circuitous way… but is very effective if your ex is a Republican. Slideshare uses cookies to improve functionality and performance, and to provide you with relevant advertising.
After you have supplied your ex boyfriend some distance and time, you can start out comingup with the right arrange available on texting him again. Clipping is a handy way to collect and organize the most important slides from a presentation. In fact, if done correctly, a text message can bring up reminiscent feelings that can set you on the right path to getting your ex back. Now, out of those suitors, throughout your years in the dating realm there has had to be one guy that didn’t pick up the hints.
The text receiver was clearly ignoring the sender but they refused to accept that fact so they kept texting until they they could get a response. The better idea is to wait until the opportune moment where can maximize the power of the text message.
By completely taking 30 days to yourself without texting him or talking to him at all you are slowly taking control of the situation.
It is basically the ultimate way to get him checking his phone every five minutes to see if today is the day that YOU will text HIM. The way you accomplish this is by going into great detail on one of the most positive experience that you had together as a couple. Well the idea behind it is pretty simple, send a text message to your ex that could potentially get him jealous and bring up some of the lovey dovey feelings that he felt during your relationship. He broke up with me because he didnt felt anything for me anymore, one week after our breakup he started to date all of a sudden another girl. This is the moment of truth because just ONE wrong answer on the five questions above and I can tell you right now you are probably going to fail at re-attracting your ex boyfriend. Not because of the question itself but the people asking the question really get under my skin. I do my best to calm them down, which can be a challenge in and of itself and then I start asking them about their situation. It should also give you a good idea on what went wrong in your relationship the first time around. I can tell you right now that any girl I date I am a very good boyfriend to but I am not conceited enough to believe I am a perfect boyfriend.
Whenever he messes up (and I mean messes up bad) I take a mental note to make sure not to make his mistake in any future relationship. It is shocking to me because you absolutely need to know what one is if you plan on even having a chance to make your ex boyfriend fall in love with you again.
The reason most people fail to increase their chances of making their ex have feelings for them again is because they communicate with him the wrong way.
Results won’t occur overnight like you are hoping them to but the sooner you accept that fact and understand the basics of how to contact him (and what to say) the sooner you are in business! Becoming one is your ticket to success not just in making him fall in love with you again but in making any man weak in the knees.
Not because they lack the effort but because they physically and mentally can’t look and feel the part.
Remember above when I said that generally women are more mean in a more vocal way than men are. Granted, being called ugly by a 13 year old girl probably doesn’t sting as much as compared to coming from a 25 year old but still, I do know what it is like.
However, there have been plenty of gorgeous girls that I have met over the years with horrible personalities that completely turned me off.
I don’t want to bad mouth anybody here but to me a high maintenance girl is someone like Kim Kardashian.
As I stated above, the ungettable girl is the ultimate goal that every woman on this planet should strive towards.
I recognized her as ungettable immediately just because I have an eye for these things trust me. The thing you have to understand about ungettable girls is that men will actually picture themselves on a date with them. Thus, we can come to the conclusion that having a guy daydream about what it is like being with you is a lot more powerful than the guy actually experiencing it. I am guessing that like every relationship on this earth yours had it’s ups and downs. So essentially, I have turned your biggest disadvantage into an advantage because now you have something to shoot for. I have just hit you with the knowledge that the best way to get your ex boyfriend to love you again is to recreate the high moments of your previous relationship. Imagine if you could highlight the high points of your previous relationship with your ex and get him coming back over and over again. For now, I am just going to be focusing on the most popular way which is through text messaging. In fact, most women can’t get their exes back because they are not able to properly do the things on the list above.
Either he will be very engaged in the conversation with very positive responses or he will put forth more effort than you in the conversation. So, instead of explaining when to use emotional memories I am going to show you HOW to use them correctly. For example, if you go down the list and get to memory #3 and you start getting butterflies then you can put a check mark next to that memory. Now I want you to switch places with your ex boyfriend and comb through them with HIS POINT OF VIEW. Take one of the two emotional memories you picked and think back to how you felt during that moment. Your message can’t be more than 160 characters long but still has to pack a punch while describing the details. Why did I mention that “the only relationship you have that lasts your entire life is the one with yourself” stuff? If you are inexperienced at being social with other people, specifically people who you have strong feelings for then you are at a disadvantage. They send the right text messages, they get the date but they end up falling flat on their faces because they don’t know how to recreate attraction in person. Below I have devised a method to integrate touch into your person to person communications with your ex boyfriend. Alright, the second time you see your ex boyfriend in person I want you to try to hold hands with him again. So, all you can do is put yourself in a position by dropping subtle hints that will hopefully cause him to take the bait.
You are going to have to drop subtle hints and put yourself in a position where he will have to take the step to kiss you.
I bet you didn’t know this but you can actually use the friend zone to your advantage. Well, before I actually give you advice I think it is important to study WHY he won’t commit to you.
I want to repeat that the only time you should use this tactic is if you have tried everything else above.
This will take an amazing amount of discipline on your part because the truth is that you still have feelings for this person and putting him in the friend zone goes against everything you think is right. It is kind of mean and again, will take a lot of discipline on your part BUT it can be highly effective. First off, it might make him a little bit jealous and jealousy is never a bad thing because it just proves he does have feelings for you.
The truth is that men who go after easy women don’t want a real relationship with them, they just want a one night stand with no strings attached.
I usually spend a day or two looking online for other ideas to incorporate into my writing but I wasn’t able to find a guide covering this topic because it is one that very few people want to talk about. Stop what you are doing for a few moments and search through some of the other guides on this site and look at the comments.
Then you should try everything you can (in the smartest way possible) to try to get them back if something happens that causes you to break up.
Throughout the course of your attempt things aren’t going exactly as you planned so you give up.
You have to keep trying until you are absolutely sure that your attempt isn’t worth it anymore. You will notice that I talk about a lot of the signs that an ex boyfriend is no longer worth pursuing. What I would like to talk about is what happens after the no contact period and it is probably one of the most negative outcomes that can occure. After the initial 30 day period was up you decided to compose a text message to send to your ex boyfriend. Imagine for a moment that your relationship with your ex boyfriend was filled with nothing but negativity. The most successful couples are the ones that can navigate through the fights and take something positive from them.
While their relationship was good in almost all the other areas they have one major problem, they fight a lot. Well, I don’t know about you but fighting can create some pretty bad feelings so not only can it lead to more negative responses (like we discussed above) but it can cause more fighting AFTER the breakup occurs. Sometimes no matter how calm one party remains the chemisty and history between the couple will trump all logic and you will find yourself in an emotional fight.
It really doesn’t matter who broke up with who all that matters is the fact that we did indeed break up. Usually, if the words are muttered during a super emotional time you can disregard them because deep down he may not mean it. While those words may mean something what you really need to be looking at are his actions.
One thing I have been noticing more and more is that I can almost predict which women have the best chances of getting an ex boyfriend back and it all has to do with the relationship they had with their ex.
Just by knowing what you know about relationships which “fake couple” do you think has a better chance of getting back together?
When I talk to women who get their exes back one common thread I see between the many successes is the fact that a lot of them had very good relationships with their ex boyfriend. In this case every time your ex boyfriend thinks back to your relationship instead of being filled with a bunch of bad feelings he is going to be filled with good feelings. Meaning that all we are interested in is finding out the latest information, the newest stuff if you will. I actually have some experience with this phenomenon as I have been through a very bad breakup in my life. In fact, out of everything that I have ever talked about on this website this concept in this section is the thing that many people fail to really see through. Determining how to figure out if your relationship with your ex boyfriend is worth it is not a particularly easy process.
We got back together 4 days later and he broke up with me another 3 years later, this time with reasons even he was unsure about until recently, after some soul searching I guess you could say. It is through these weaknesses that I can learn more about how to improve the site as a whole for you. While I am sure this is an inappropriate example nothing can illustrate my point better than it. Once that drug user uses that drug and gets the good feeling they don’t just stop there. This is especially true when it comes to relationships but before I go into that lets talk a little about bad feelings. The reason this is a major mistake is that right after a breakup there is no logical thinking. However, there is one aspect of NC that I really haven’t ever gone into, the stabilization effect. Admittedly, after a breakup your cons are going to be a lot higher than your pros on your exes list.
Doing that is essentially the same thing as poking a bear, eventually the bear is going to explode but if you wait until the bear calms down he is going to be much more receptive of you.
Look, I am going to make this really simple for you, the key to getting any guy to call you is to give him a reason worth calling. This particular woman really wanted to get her ex boyfriend back but there was just one problem, she made every mistake in the book. In fact, I have made so many mistakes in my own personal relationships that I sometimes wonder why my (now) ex significant others stayed with me as long as they did. Gosh that was so annoying because no matter how many times you swatted at the gnats they just kept coming back for more.
Unfortunately, the more you call or text when he doesn’t want you to the more likely it is that you are going to reinforce his decision of why you give him bad feelings. Every day I get women contacting me trying to force me to answer them and help them with their problem.
That is essentially what an ex boyfriend would feel if the above statement was said to him. Before I get started I do just want to say that everything from this section on is going to be very important so make sure that you are paying attention. Also, the act of entering into a no contact period alone can sometimes cause an ex boyfriend to call you. However, at the same time you want an emotional mindset to bring out the good feelings that he associates with you. In fact, there have been times where I anticipate a text message so much that I get angry when I don’t receive a message as fast as I want it to come.
It’s almost like everyone starts out with a very logical brain but the more and more you build an emotional connection with someone your brain becomes more and more emotional and the most ironic part of it all is that we love it when it happens.


Instead, I want the phone call to be like old times, to help rebuild the emotional connection that you both used to cherish. If this is the situation you find yourself in DO NOT use the texting example in the same conversation you used the first example. That is completely ok it just means that you need to go back into no contact period for a while and give him more time. Yes, for the first time during this entire process you are going to talk about your feelings! Essentially, you are going to say something semi sweet, as I will demonstrate in the graphic below, but what you are really looking for here is to see if he says something sweet or semi sweet back. It is through those text messages that you can tap into your ex boyfriends emotions and cause him to replace his bad feelings towards you with good ones. But you also have to take into account the fact that most guys don’t call girls unless they like them in some shape or form. It’s important for you to realize that with this type of phone call we are flipping the script. However, if he makes up some excuse for why he can’t talk you then you need to hit the reset button and try again at a later date. When I am interested in a girl there are two important things I do to keep them coming back for more.
That means that you are going to dictate where the conversation goes and how long it will last. You can be sure, however, that your name is going to come up in conversation over the coming weeks. An enigmatic, impenetrable and disturbing response that, if repeated without explanation for every ex text, is guaranteed to extinguish any former flame. Aside from the mere need to earn him back, you will also have to system detailsout well in buy to essentially be successful. Simply, what your program has to dois confirm that you have modified and will no longer make the same exact issues as prior to.This is convinced to desire your ex boyfriend and make him curious about you again. However, there seems to be a huge misunderstanding among the women out there on how to actually use text messaging effectively. Most women fail at texting their exes for the simple fact that they commit this texting sin and quite honestly it’s not even their fault.
First though, before we can do that, we are going to have to figure out how to create that opportune moment.
After basically blowing off your ex for a month straight your first text to them better have some substance to it.
It is like their phone is their own personal sanctuary holding all their secrets and feelings about things.
If you do this correctly you will bring up his most positive feelings about the relationship and get him thinking about you in a different more positive light. As a guy I can tell you that nothing makes you want a girl more than when you see her talking with another guy that is even moderately attractive. Don’t worry, I got your back and I want to help you understand the best way you can get him back. I told him I had been busy he said i could of replied obviously I would see his messages and calls and ask why I ignored him also we have had came to terms to be friends and then I done the the nc and he started missing me but I broke it because he message my sister asking where I was and then asked why I had been ignoring him what should I do? You see, every once in a while I decide to put a lot of effort into making a long in-depth guide on a particular subject. Now, before you spend the rest of your day crying I can tell you that there are certain things you can do that can increase your chances of getting him to fall for you again.
In most successful cases I have found that it can take months and sometimes years to finally re-attract them.
Using this valuable knowledge you can figure out if your ex is worth pursuing again and if you can potentially have a long lasting relationship with him.
So, figuring out if you can have a successful and long lasting relationship with this person again is kind of an important thing to figure out.
So, the point I am really trying to make here is that there is always something to improve on if you look hard enough.
After you have a good grasp at that I am going to teach you what you need to do to become the UG for your ex boyfriend which should spark his interest in you again.
Maybe they want to spare your feelings, maybe they just don’t think a conversation is worth the effort, maybe they are just insecure about themselves and project that insecurity onto you. It is important that you understand this because what I am about to do is pull back the curtains and tell you some of the cruel thoughts I have thought about women over the years.
Cruel thoughts are replaced with fantasies and weak knees which I will talk about a little bit later. I am not trying to make you self conscious or anything like that but this is the gods honest truth. For now, I want you to throw the low points of your relationship away (no matter how low.) I want you to close your eyes and think back to the high points of your relationship.
We have already established that an ungettable girl will maintain control in conversations causing the man to chase her (reigniting his competitive desires) but we haven’t discussed how to know if you are maintaining control correctly.
The problem with this guide is the subject matter is so complex I know you are going to have a lot of questions, questions that I simply can’t cover. This is going to take some work on your part but I think you might actually have fun with it. Do not move on to the next step until you have 5 emotional memories that make your heart skip a beat.
Go through the five memories that you picked out and think if he will be affected as much as you were by the memory. It was nothing sexual (though there were times) but it was just a feeling of being together that she and I both enjoyed. In this section I am going to be talking about something I have never talked about before on this site….
Have you ever wondered why I spend so much time on this site constantly telling women to work on themselves first before they try to get an ex back?
Well, that ends today because I am about to give you a brief overview of what you need to do to recreate that attraction.
I have kissed girls who I had no feelings for before but I have never held hands with one I didn’t. Yup, there is a specific way that you can get your ex to want you back using the friend zone and I am about to teach it to you. The reason this is so hard is that there will be moments where you will be really tempted to break because your ex (who you have feelings for) will be right there in front of you. Essentially, this is your last ditch effort to reignite his feelings and make him fall in love with you all over again. This is really important because you want to start to give him some hope that he has a chance with you when before in the friend zone he didn’t feel he did. Now, the one wrinkle in this philosophy is that sometimes what you want isn’t always the best thing for you in the long run. For example, sometimes the only way to tell if a situation is helpless is for you to actually try to get your boyfriend back. However, just because I do my best to lay things out for you doesn’t mean that its going to be easy.
In other words, these are signs of resistance that an ex boyfriend will give you when things aren’t going well. Now, most ex boyfriends are going to respond after the no contact period BUT lets say that your ex boyfriend doesn’t. This is why I usually recommend to the women reading this site to never get in a fight with your ex boyfriend no matter what. Do you honestly think that you would be able to create that “new and better” relationship that I am always going on about?
So, when you really take a step back and look at the situation objectively do you see him being able to put in the amount of effort you are when it comes to bettering the relationship?
It all ties into the bad feelings that your ex may associate with you when he thinks back to your relationship.
Then he will think back to the time that you got jealous over something that wasn’t that big of a deal and associate that with a bad feeling.
All I can tell you is that still even to this day I think about how bad it was and it is one of the reasons that I would not consider getting back with that particular ex.
I go into this mini depression thinking that the world had ended and that I will be alone for the rest of my life.
He was truthful about it, even telling me that he was going out for a lunch with the other girl before they went out.
That means they have a previous comment than the comment that you were named Summer so, when filtered tbe newest comments also appeared too, that’s why their latest got answered.
After all, the main point of this site is to prepare you so that you have the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back. I know at times I can get a little bit wordy but I really want to push the importance of you reading this entire guide and not skipping a section.
While I certainly do it for entertainment purposes I also do it because I know that if a show or movie is written well enough it is going to make me feel good. Anyways, I had a bad experience while I was there when some of the fitter football players made fun of my appearance. However, the main reason for that is the fact that emotions are heightened after something emotional happens (like a breakup.) Of course, with time that emotional headwind you are facing from him is going to lessen. Of course, it wasn’t until she stumbled across Ex Boyfriend Recovery that she realized that her behavior was not ideal.
So, as you read the list of mistakes I am going to compile below I don’t want you to freak out if you have made one or all of them. That feeling of nagging can sometimes burden a man and unfortunately that burdening can lead to pain. For now, I want to point out something incredibly annoying that women can sometimes do when they get desperate for an ex boyfriend to pick up their calls. While I respond to every single person in the comments section of this site I no longer respond to emails (unless they have to do with the E-Book.) If I responded to every single person through email I would literally get nothing done. It is through your exes emotions that you will get him to call you or pick up your phone calls. More specifically, consistently hooking him into conversations that reinforce your good feeling vibes. The reason I like this text message so much is that it gets your ex used to comparing you to a good feeling. So, I am going to recommend that you use this text message as a way to open the conversation. For example, you can pretend like you forgot something about the memory and are asking him to recount it for you. I do want you to tap into your emotions but I want you to be really conservative on how you display them. Instead of looking for a way to make HIM call you, you are going to take the reins and call him! What if you and I were to talk on the phone and you did an amazing job of hooking me into a conversation.
We recently just talked on the phone for the first time in a long time but instead of me being left with positive thoughts of you I was left with negative ones after we hung up. If you get back together with your ex with nogaining knowledge of anything from the past, then you will more than likely just end upbreaking up all over once more. I am not going to lie to you, sending a text message is a huge risk, if done incorrectly you will decimate any chance you have of that happy reunion you keep daydreaming about.
Right after a break up everyone involved is out of whack emotionally and are prone to do some really stupid things.
In fact, you have to slowly lead up to the moment where he or you will hopefully go out on a date again.
I always like to say that you should make your first contact text so interesting that they have no choice but to respond. Now, while it is important that you get him to think positively about you it is also extremely important that you remain as positive as well. I remember once that one of my married friends told me something very interesting about the male psyche.
There is a lot more to this process and quite frankly this page doesn’t do a great job of describing exactly what you do step by step.
I still love him i’ve been chasing him for over 2years right now and sometimes our chats go okay and sometimes it turns into a fight.
Out of all the articles I have written for this site it is the guides that visitors get the most out of and I expect this one to be no different.
In this guide that is what we are going to be focusing on, how to best improve your chances of making him have feelings for you again.
I kind of still do but here is the thing you have to understand about cruelness between women and men. I know this paints me in a shallow light but this is the truth, this is how my brain literally works. The only problem was that at 13 you really don’t know what to do when you have a crush on someone. To me, biology is a very boring subject so as you can imagine I was struggling to stay awake. There is just one problem, all the other men at this public event are drawn to you as well. So, if you are confused at any time just leave a comment or get my E-Book because everything is explained in there perfectly. So, how this works is that you basically go to hug him except this isn’t a normal hug this is a more passionate one. So, being the smart woman that you are, you decide to wait a week and then text your ex again. The chances are very high that the two of you will talk again but it needs to be on his terms and not yours. I am talking about the type of fighting where they are both yelling at the top of their lungs and saying the most hurtful things they can think of to each other. She was saying all the right things and making me feel like I was the only one she cared about. Eventually the stress of the relationship gets to be too much for both of us and we break up. The process will go on and on and it all ties into how bad your relationship with your ex was before the breakup.
For instance, if you and I had amazing conversations for two weeks straight but had one fight the next week for some reason all that we would focus on is the pain that, that fight causes us and not the amazing conversations that we had prior to the fight. The trick is to find a perfect balance between living in the now while thinking towards the future. When we first met, he tried to convince me that the age gap was not a big deal, and now this happened.
I have been thinking a lot lately and have noticed one area where this site really lacks is when it comes to phone calls.
The decision that I made to watch a TV show on my iPad is done with the end goal in mind, making me have a positive feeling. Your goal with every interaction you have with your ex boyfriend is to leave him wanting more. Doing this will give him a mental visual of the memory and hopefully bring up those good feelings from within.
All I am saying is that you have to do a good job with the text messages in the section above for this to work. Add in the fact that I don’t like drama or confrontation and you have me sitting through one of the most boring dates of my life.
I have heard plenty of stories where women, in the heat of the moment, texted their exes multiple times, even after getting no response.
So, if you are intrigued by this method but very confused I urge you to visit get my guide, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. I was attatched to him and that was my fault i dont talk to him only if he starts talking to me because i dont want to scare him off. It doesn’t just end there though, you can actually get a lot from watching other people in relationships.
The way she talks is annoying to me and I just get this sense that she would stab anyone in the back to get ahead. Not only will your value increase because of this but men will get competitive over each other for you. I don’t want you to hold hands I just want your hand so close that they touch every once in a while. You hold it a little longer and then once the time comes you pull away a little bit as he pulls away and then you look into his eyes for a while, get a little closer to him and see if he takes the bait! Do you think you could fight in a way where something gets accomplished rather than in a way meant to hurt the other person? Instead, you will just be reinforcing the emotional mindset that you probably already have.
Seriously, if you have never seen this guy interviewed before stop what you are doing and go watch him. Be exceptionally cautious whenthinking about what to say in your text messages to guarantee that you seriously triumph atgaining your ex boyfriend again how to text your ex because of text.If you are nevertheless in ache from your separation, then you quite likely want to gainknowledge of how to text your ex boyfriend back.
Handle every single text and interaction you have with your ex with as much grace as possible. It may take you a while to read through the entire thing but it will break every step of the ex recovery process down for you, in-depth.
However, every time I would try to take the next step and ask her on a date she would either say she couldn’t or she would accept the date and cancel it at the last minute.
If you want to try again before moving on, you have to take it slow and instead of asking him, make him feel he would want you back by building rapport and attraction by being the ungettable girl But the tricky part is, ungettable girls always show their valuable and that they can walk away if the guy doesn’t present equal value. Accomplishing this can be dishearteningand cumbersome, while, most of all if the breakup was your fault to start with. Since you are on my site I am assuming that you are interested in somehow trying to get your boyfriend back.
It will also go into extreme detail about how you can use text messages to get your ex boyfriend back.
She can walk into the room and men will look at her and know that there is an aura surrounding her.
These actions would suggest that he feels an attraction for you and may still want you back. Every time I check my phone for a text message from my best friend I am still thinking of you.
In fact, youhave in all likelihood previously experimented with just about everything in your electricpower to rekindle the connection so far. No matter how hard it is or how much you want to talk to him DO NOT DO IT, even if he responds you have to ignore it.
If you nonetheless havent succeeded, then youmust have to get individuals emotions in check out and get started imagining obviously in thepast you test to text your ex boyfriend again yet again.Frequently, talking, psychological gals are significantly increased susceptible in comparisonto girls who are thinking plainly. I love him very much still but its been a day of no contact ( i had to speak with him because we needed to move his stuff out). Sadly, getting psychological wont assistance you text yourex boyfriend back again in any way, so never plead or beg for him to appear back again intoyour arms.
He is very angry (understandably), and i really do love him, and i want to be there for him. Undertaking so will only make you appearance emotionally and mentally unstableand will not assist you out in the operation.Instead, what you need to do is produce some distance amongst you and your ex boyfriendfor now. As brought up earlier, you want to get management of your feelings prior to whenmaking an attempt to deal with things for good quality. In other phrases, you have to be incomplete command of you and your intellect previous to grabbing your cell cell phone.
I can’t do NC for very long because i need to speak to him about the rest of his stuff. Just straight forward “please give me a time and day you can come by and grab your stuff.



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