Our goal is to help you by delivering amazing quotes to bring inspiration, personal growth, love and happiness to your everyday life. Lets say that you and your boyfriend go through a breakup (arguably one of the most emotional experiences a human being can go through.) During the breakup talk your (now) ex boyfriend mentions that he believes you cheated on him. Now, you being very proud of how faithful you are in relationships immediately deny this accusation from your ex but no matter how many times you insist that you are innocent in this your ex simply won’t believe you.
So, you decide to do a little detective work to find out why your ex believes that you were unfaithful. Welcome to the ultimate guide to getting an ex boyfriend back if he thinks you cheated on him but you really didn’t. If you aren’t too familiar with Ex Boyfriend Recovery (this website) then I would like to inform you that usually at the beginning of every article or guide that I write I like to include a brief outline. I am not going to do anything to re-invent the wheel here but I still feel its important to stay on top of things so we have a clear path to follow when we are talking about a complex situation like this. Speaking of the cheating situation at hand lets talk a little bit about the sections I am going to be covering today. After 4 days of planning this guide I have decided to divide this page up into three sections.
Specifically a situation where your ex boyfriend believes that you cheated on him when you really didn’t. So, before we can really take a look at his insecurities and feelings around his false assumption we must first understand what your ex boyfriend believes cheating to be. The problem is that things get a lot more complex when you take into account that every single person walking this earth has their own unique definition for cheating. So, from your perspective the only thing that matters is how your ex boyfriend defines cheating. Would you like to know the thing that separates Ex Boyfriend Recovery from all the other ex recovery websites out there? Basically what I am getting at here is that I think like your ex boyfriend so I am the ultimate benchmark for understanding his beliefs on cheating. Oh, but before I get into that I do want to have a quick discussion on the levels of cheating. I guess the first thing that I would like to talk about is the fact that not all cheating is created equally.
Simple, a woman who has an emotional affair with a man is going to be forgiven a lot easier than a woman who has a physical affair with one. So, what we are going to do now is go down the list of what I (and by default, your ex) considers to be cheating and I will talk about how hard it will be for a man to forgive in each instance. Look, having sex with someone else who isn’t your significant is the ultimate betrayal to your significant other.
I mean, there is a reason why women who sleep around on their boyfriend have the hardest time in getting him back. Oh, and lets not forget that it’s also going to be the hardest thing for your ex to forgive. Ok, this is a step down from actually sleeping with someone else but not much farther down.
If you could chart a man’s anger in relation to how he was cheated on then his girlfriend sleeping with someone else would be a 10 out of 10. It means that forgiveness won’t be easy to achieve but much more possible than if he thinks you slept with someone else. Of course, lately you have been feeling a little lonely in the relationship so you decide to engage some light flirting with one of your guy friends.
If you tell another man that is not me that you miss him, that you want to have sex with him or you send him naked pictures then I consider it to be cheating.
Now, since there is no actual physical cheating going on the anger level isn’t going to be as high as if there was.
And lets say that one day I log on to Facebook and I am greeted with this picture in my feed.
Oh, in case you have a sudden onset of blindness this is a picture of you holding hands with another guy very romantically. I find these couple like pictures disrespectful to the man in the relationship if the man is the one in them. For the longest time I used to think I was alone in this irrational fear of being cheated on until I mentioned it to a few friends of mine.
My other friend who had a girlfriend of six years (at the time) mentioned that he wouldn’t know what to do if he caught his girlfriend being unfaithful.
The question we are asking here is do all men worry about being cheated on by their significant others? Lets pretend that you are grading a mans fear of being cheated on, on a scale from a 1 to a 5.
With a 1 being that a man isn’t too scared of being cheated on and a 5 being that he is absolutely terrified of it to an unhealthy extent. Take my friend who was cheated on by his wife (8 times.) Well, this ruined him for future relationships because he was always on Red Alert for cheating. I have a feeling that, that is what we are dealing with here if your ex boyfriend thinks you cheated on him when you really didn’t.
We are dealing with a man who is at a 4 or 5 on the suspicion scale and may have been actively looking for things that make you look like you are cheating on him.
In fact, this fear is so deeply ingrained in his mind that he feared it long before you came along. Generally speaking during this feeling out process you kind of give cliff notes of your past relationships.
Nothing too in-depth (for fear of hurt feelings) but it’s natural to be curious about a persons past right. Now, lets say that your ex boyfriend (during the courtship phase) asked you if you had ever cheated on a boyfriend before.


Anytime a man asks you that he is trying to determine if history is going to repeat itself again where you cheat on him.
Of course, since you don’t believe in lying during moments like this you decide to tell the truth.
You then go on to describe the horrible boyfriend you had and how you just couldn’t figure out how to escape him so you cheated as a way of dealing with the pain.
Lets fast forward a few months to when he actually does date you and his fears of being cheated on start to manifest.
Lets say that you have been dating him for around 6 months and in those 6 months the two of you have gotten extremely close to one another and with that closeness his fear of being cheated on has slowly started to manifest itself.
Again, usually this fear starts out very light and then as time moves on (and the two of you become closer) you start to see him do things that are out of character. For example, he will ask more specific questions about your past cheating experience which eventually will lead him to spying on you through your phone or Facebook and ultimately end up with him doing some very questionable things like causing fights (over you cheating) or accusing you of cheating when you really haven’t. I guess the first thing that I want to tell you is that his false assumption about you cheating on him is partly his fault and partly your fault.
Well, it’s your fault because you did something to make him think you cheated on him.
Granted, it’s probably not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things but to him in this moment it is.
Of course, when I read the text message I don’t look at it like an innocent encounter between two friends.
So, you can see that innocent little things like the text message above can be taken the wrong way by a boyfriend who is looking for evidence against you. Before I get into the meat of this small section I want you to take a moment and re-read the section before this one. The whole point of that section is to explain to you how a mans fear of being cheated on can take control of his life in certain instances. This makes him finding something elementary like a text between two friends exchanging pleasantries much worse than it really is. It’s a combination of a man being controlled by his fear coupled with something that a woman did to light the fuse of the accusation. In those cases where the accusation is false I am going to go out on a limb here and say that its more his fault than yours since the evidence he finds on you is kind of lame. He has a great career for which he just got honored for and it looks like his wife is incredibly turned on by it. The man, pictured above, has stripped to his underwear and keeps yelling at Willis for letting him down. Now, I bet your are wondering how the heck this all ties in to overcoming a false accusation from an ex boyfriend. Well, trying to reason with an ex boyfriend who has falsely accused you of cheating is a lot like trying to reason with a gun wielding mentally disturbed person.
Except instead of physically like in Bruce Willis’ case you are going to get shot emotionally. I am going to teach you how to properly overcome a situation where you have been falsely accused. What do these additions mean and how can we employ them to help your ex boyfriend believe you when you say that you didn’t cheat on him? Remember at the beginning of this section I mentioned that we are going to start operating under a certain assumption.
I know some people can hold grudges for a long time but no one can stay angry at the same level forever.
I was furious when I found out that my ex girlfriend was flirting with another guy but the level of anger I had in the moment where I found out that she was flirting with another dude did not hold. Around the same time the next week I was still upset about it but I was nowhere near the level I was at when I initially found out.
Now, I don’t want you thinking that if you wait long enough his anger will go away completely.
HOWEVER, him being at a 6 on the anger scale as opposed to a 10 is a much better place to make progress in regards to forgiveness. If I were you I would let two weeks go by before you start in with the hardcore convincing.
Well, what if you did all that and let him be by himself for two weeks but around day 7 or 8 you find that he is constantly texting you or calling you. This is his subtle way of letting you know that he may be ready for the next steps of this process. So, if you find that you use a shortened version of the no contact rule and your ex is constantly contacting you almost begging for you to apolgoize to him for your fake cheating then it’s his weird way of telling you that his anger has subsided a bit and he wants to see you beg for him back.
For example, if we were dating and I were to tell you that I love you then I am sure you would feel pretty good about it.
However, if I were to show you that I love you by taking you on elaborate trips, spoiling you rotten and taking care of you in every way you would have ever wanted a man to take care of you (assuming that you wanted to be taken care of) something tells me that you would feel better about that when compared to me just telling you I loved you. Ok, now that we have that little explanation out of the way lets turn our attention to the task at hand. Our job here is to move from point A on the graph above where your ex is angry at you because he thinks you cheated on him to point B on the graph where he forgives you. Well, in order to do that effectively you are going to have to take a pretty massive action. Your ex boyfriend is clearly peeved at you because he thinks you cheated on him when you really didn’t. I need you to locate the behavior that you engaged in that made him think that you cheated on him and stop that behavior. For the sake of this article I am going to just pretend that he looked through your phone and caught you flirting with a male friend.
Now, I know that you may not be so thrilled with this because you are losing out on a friendship with the male friend but sometimes a sacrifice has to be made for the greater good.


These things always work better when I give examples so I am going to construct a little scenario for you.
Lets pretend that you took a picture with a guy friend and made it your profile picture on Facebook while you were dating your boyfriend.
Now, your ex boyfriend sees that you have made this picture your profile picture on Facebook and immediately becomes very angry with you. In fact, he becomes so angry that he suspects that you are cheating on him and breaks up with you.
You take down the profile picture (and any pictures you have taken of the guy friend.) You even go as far as to cut the guy friend out of your life.
The point is that you need to have some type of evidence to show your ex that he is completely wrong about you cheating. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
My ex was told by some of our old coworkers that I was having an affair with one of our coworkers for 3 months into my ex and my relationship. I dated my boyfriend (Now ex) For 3 years and after a while we decided to move in with each other.
Sorry, for rambling but two days after we broke up I found out I was pregnant… I told him and he was happy.
I promise you're gonna miss me being there, putting up with you, refusing to give up on you. I do this because I think it is helpful for people skimming to understand how my pages are going to flow. Each of these sections is meant to really take an in-depth look at everything that is going through an exes mind (assuming he thinks you cheated on him when you really didn’t) and teach you the things you need to do to raise your chances of getting him back. Remember, we are operating under the assumption that your ex thinks you cheated on him so understanding his willingness to forgive will give you insight to how angry he is with you and how hard it will be to convince him that you didn’t actually cheat on him.
So, if your ex thinks that you cheated on him by sleeping with someone else you are going to have your work cut out for you in convincing him otherwise. Eventually the flirting leads to heavier topics like sex, telling each other that you miss one another, sending naked pictures back and forth. However, there are certain factors that come into play that can make him more afraid of it. For example, maybe he cracks your Facebook password one day and decides to take a stroll through your Facebook messages and finds some flirty messages between you and a friend (a guy friend) and makes some very wrong assumptions about the two of you. Now, lets back up to the courtship phase of your relationship where both of you were feeling each other out to see if you wanted to be in a relationship with one another.
In this case I would say you should send your ex boyfriend screenshots of any communication between you and the guy friend on the phone or on Facebook to prove without a doubt that you are innocent and did NOT cheat on your ex boyfriend.
The thing is my ex and I work in the same building, but I really haven’t talked to him and have barely seen him at work since I started dating my current bf (5 months ago). We have our spot spats every now and then but are completely inseparable and can’t keep our hands off of each other.
Today, I really really really almost desperately needed some papers signed and I knew he could get them signed faster because of his position there. I had slept with this coworker once, before my ex and I were together, and I had told him about it. Everything was seriously going great, yes we had a fights and arguments here and there but who doesn’t, right?
And his family started putting stuff into his head, telling him I cheated when I never did. So I wrote to him asking if he could do me that favour, and left the conversation on my phone.
Anyway, towards the last month of our relationship, I started going through his phone, which I never had done before.
That same night I went out to dinner with my bf, but I didn’t want to tell him that in a restaurant so I decided to wait until the next day to tell him.
After 30 days of NC he had contacted me wanting the truth, and after I told him he called me a liar, and that he could never forgive me.
So, at one moment I went to the bathroom and he grabbed my phone and checked my conversations, of course finding that one.
He comes across a text that I sent to my friend basically saying that I was meeting a guy for a date.
Called me a whore and a prostitute, told me he wanted to smash my face and spit at me, that I was worthless, that I deserved to die, among other things.
The next few times I saw his facebook messages I saw about 2 or 3 messages he hasn’t to girls. When he left me at my place, he pushed me out of his car and threw my phone out of the window, called me a whore and left. It was nothing to fight over but it still bothered me realise he had sent THEM messages, that means he put in the effort. But what really set me off was the last message I read the last time I checked his phone, it was to his ex.
Later that night he called me crying to tell me he would never forgive me or believe me ever again, that he loved me but we were over for good because I was a liar. I don’t know hat he said since he deleted the message he sent to her but I did read hers. It baffles me, we always had a great relationship, this reaction makes me think of when I just met my current bf, I was also talking to my ex at the same time, when it wasn’t official with none of them, but he knew that.
I brought it up to him right away and he just told me to brush it off, because “These feelings come and go once in a while.



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