The only way that I can justify giving you my help is if you have a legitimate reason for getting back together with your ex. Here is the deal, before you try to get your ex boyfriend back (if he cheated on you) I am going to ask you to do something that may be a little unorthodox. You are in a very unique situation so I am going to ask you implement the no contact rule for an entirely different reason.
If after that amount of time you still want to get your ex back then I say you should go right ahead. Since we are dealing with someone who cheated on you the thing you really need to figure out is if he is the type of person that will cheat on a moments notice. The time has come, you have waited, hopefully 45 days, and it is finally time to try and start getting your ex boyfriend back. Alright, now that I have that out of the way lets dive in to how you should contact your ex boyfriend after 45 days.
What is going to happen is that when you finally do decide to contact them they are going to be filled with joy. Before I move on I am going to take a few moments to go through each of the choices and explain why texting is the way to go.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. But if I did want him back would asking him to leave ruin my chances of getting him back or make him miss his comfort of his previous living arrangements with me (increasing the chances of him coming back)?
Me and my boyfriend been dating for only 4 months now but during this time we argue and fight about one thing all the time which is his ex. Probably is, I begged and constantly messaged and texted him non stop and he told me he wouldn’t read any of my emails and going to change his number.
My ex cheated on me and I knew about the other woman but he insisted there was nothing going on. Seriously though, if you see any book, product or article that guarantees that it can get you your ex back 100% of the time you should stop and realize that you are probably about to look at something that was made up just to get you to buy it or read it. Don’t worry though, I saw this problem and spent two months creating that step by step plan people were clamoring for. You are going to discover that this page is really long, in-depth but more importantly, it is going to help you to not only get your boyfriend back but to rediscover yourself in the process.
I thought the best way to go about the rest of this page would be to take an in-depth look at each step of the ex recovery process starting with your break up and what to do immediately after it. Ok, before we do any soul searching or serious strategizing you are going to have to implement the no contact rule.
If you don’t believe in the no contact rule then all I can say to you is that you had better start believing in it. Right after a break up is when you are at your emotional peak and I don’t mean a good emotional peak, I am talking about anger, hate, basically everything that Yoda from Star Wars said to avoid. Your ex boyfriend is probably going to start wondering why you aren’t talking to him and possibly may even begin to miss you. Knowing what caused your breakup is important because it can give you an idea of where your relationship went wrong and how you can possibly correct it in the future. However, I would say that the average man will leave a relationship when his is no longer getting what he needs.
Another thing that you always hear guys saying is the fact that they are constantly nagged to death by their girlfriends.
Nagged To Death = A man looks at this as if his woman no longer is satisfied with what he has to offer or bring to the table.
Ouch, I know this one must definitely sting to hear but it is a legitimate REAL reason for why he may have broken up with you. A lot of times what can happen is an ex can realize what they missed about you once they are settled in with their new person. A huge misconception out there is that because you did the dumping it is a lot easier to get back with your ex. Everyone always thinks they could do better until they go out and realize that the relationship they had before wasn’t so bad.
A while back I was dating someone and it always seemed that we would fight over the silliest things.
One thing that needs to be made clear is that if you are going to seriously invest the time and effort to get your ex boyfriend back you are going to have to adopt a new mindset. The big goal that you should strive for is to create a relationship with your ex boyfriend that is not only new but better. To a casual observer that may sound really risky but personally I love women with that belief that after they get their boyfriend back they will be with him forever.
So, the big take away that I want you to get from this section is that your ultimate goal assuming this process works for you is that you are discarding your old relationship and creating a new one that is stronger. If you can’t already tell I truly do enjoy helping women strategize on how to get their ex boyfriends back. As a general rule it is good to have a legitimate reason for getting back together with your significant other. If you break your no contact period agreement (talking to him in any shape or form before the 30 days are up) then you have to start your 30 day no contact period over. Ok, so those are pretty much the most basic things of the big NO-NO’s of the no contact period. Alright, so the biggest thing I want you to focus on for the no contact period is the fact that you are using this month to become the best version of yourself that you have ever been. First things first, you are going to become the sexiest version of yourself that the world has ever seen. You can change your hairstyle- I’ll admit, I am not a hairstyle guru but everywhere I researched claimed that this was an excellent tactic to looking good for your man so who am I to argue with the experts. Get in shape- There is no argument that you can make to me to say that this isn’t a good idea. Clean up your diet- Again, this is another great way to feel better about yourself and notice how it is the opposite of sitting around eating ice cream all day. Clean up any skin problems you have- If you have excessive acne or any unwanted moles you can get those taken care of. So, now that you know what changes you need to make physically lets talk about arguably the harder thing to improve, your mental state. Focus on work- It is good to distract your mind for a while and what better way to do that than with work. Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal.
Have fun- If your friends invite you out to a party or club I would recommend that you go out and have fun with them. It shows you are moving on- In a strange way you kind of want your ex to know that you are on a date with someone.
It can build up your self confidence- Dating other people helps you feel a little bit more confident. It will help keep your mind off your ex (probably)- When you are busy you have less time to mope around or think about your ex. It will cure any phobias you may have developed- Women who haven’t been in a relationship for a long time may feel a little worried about meeting someone new. Studies have shown that 90% of rebound relationships don’t work out in the long run so the odds are probably in your favor. You may notice that a lot of what you are doing during the no contact period is working on bettering yourself. As stated above, I personally prefer texting over any method of contact for a number of reasons. Actually, in my research I found that a lot of experts recommend calling (after the no contact period.) I have read multiple stories of women who have actually had some success with this method.
I don’t know about you but if I got a letter out of the blue from an ex girlfriend I might be a little creeped out.
You should try to create a message that is so interesting it is impossible for your ex boyfriend not to respond. Since things went positively you can contact them again in a few days and talk for a little bit longer. Alright, assuming you successfully engaged your ex boyfriend and got a decent response you can move on to this section. First things first, this is not the part where you are going to try to get your ex boyfriend back. Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were. When you write your text message to him you are going to have to go into details instead of just writing something general.
Alright, lets say that I was trying to get an ex girlfriend back and I had made it this far into the step by step process I am outlining here. Choice 2: “Do you remember the night where I loaned you my jacket at the football game?
Sometimes asking your ex a question can work well to get them to remember a good experience.
More often than not if you have gotten this far in your conquest to get them back they are going to respond back positively.
Ok, so you sent out your text to remind them of the good ole days where the two of you were as thick as thieves but they haven’t responded yet.
If you haven’t heard anything from them yet and it has been past a couple of days then this could mean a couple of things.
Whatever the case is just simply take things down a notch and start a few more harmless text messages where you just make first contact. You have to be really careful because if this is done wrong then your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back drop drastically. Well, now you are going to implement a number of small heart to heart chats in various different ways that are going to change your fortune in a positive way. One of the little things I always love about relationships that are going well is how you are constantly helping each other remember things.
This tactic may be a little harder to implement because it can sometimes depend on the situation that your ex is currently in.
Your best bet here is to take out a sheet of paper and write down all of the things that you have ever appreciated about your ex so you have an inventory to dive in. Plan your phone call when you know that your ex boyfriend will have a moment to talk privately. I researched a lot on this section and discovered there are two types of very different methods to making this important phone call. This one is risky and may not get you a yes to a meet up but it allows you the ability to try again later whereas the method below this one pretty much lays your cards on the table. This is going to sound really weird but for the next month I don’t want you to talk to your ex boyfriend. WHAT???Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Yup, I know it sounds ridiculous but trust me, doing this will stack the odds in your favor in a very unique way. Now, that is wrong on so many levels but you are going to use this type of thinking to your advantage.
One of the most interesting things about text messaging is the fact that every holds their texts as sacred. IMPORTANT – You cannot move on to this text message until you successfully complete the first text message above. The key with this type of text is to get your ex to remember the good parts of your relationship. If you haven’t already realized this, getting your ex back can be a very complicated process. Forgot to mention the conversation did not end well as I replied ok and it just ended as he was trying to make a effort to talk! Almost a year ago I wrote an article on how to get your ex boyfriend back if he has a girlfriend.
The how to get your ex boyfriend back if he has a girlfriend article is a total of 1728 words. While I am definitely going to be writing a lot in this guide it is not going to compare to the 20,000 word behemoth I put together outlining every single little step that you have to take if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. Learn More About Ex Boyfriend Recovery PROWant to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
The point I am trying to get at here is that human being are going to do what they want to do no matter what. I am the type of guy that has never really cared about a potential girlfriends past or future relationships. I have a lot of experience dealing with women who have been hurt by a boyfriend in this situation (1700 comments of experience ;). Well, the first factor is the amount of time that elapsed before he started dating the new girl. Lets take a few moments and dive into each of these factors so we can determine why each of them are so important.
Now, even though I admit to wanting to feel validated by other women I am proud to say that I have never rebounded before.
One thing I do want to point out is the fact that everything I just described is assumed to happen in under a month.
Well, I would be lying to you if I said you had as good a chance as you did with him getting a girlfriend in the 3 week example above. So, let me break all of this down for you because what we just covered may have been a lot to swallow. If you would like to learn more about rebound relationships I urge you to check out my guide on them. Actions vs Words- In order to truly understand what someone is thinking it is smarter to look at the actions they take rather than the words they say. This invariably means that the longer they date the worse your chances are of getting your ex boyfriend back.
While it is true that the more time that your ex dates his new girlfriend the worse your chances become of getting him back it is also true that the less he dates the new girl the greater your chances become of getting him back. Well, I am a guy and I can tell you that every girl I date I always compare to the previous girl I have dated. The trick to giving yourself the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back is to have a very logical mindset. I had the ability to think ahead to how those actions may affect me and the other person involved in the future. In order to be logical you almost have to have this special ability, the ability to think ahead and see the future. Attempting to get an ex boyfriend back who has a new girlfriend is one of the hardest things to do. The gameplan for getting an ex boyfriend with a new girlfriend back is not a particularly easy one to understand. Each of these parts are equally important so don’t skip over them if you think they are not. I have been thinking a lot about desperation lately because I have been answering so many desperate women and I have come to one big conclusion. The reason that men don’t like desperate women is that a desperate woman are easy to get.
The problem with desperation is that it makes you come off like you aren’t of high value or that you may act like this with any guy you deal with.
Yet I always find it so interesting that the script completely flips after a breakup occurs. I mean, he is dating another girl right now so you must have strong enough feelings for him to want him back.
I know it seems like I am being really hard on you and I am but I am doing this for your own good. Seeing your ex boyfriend date another woman is not going to be an easy thing to live through. Doing everything in her power to discredit anything positive left over from your previous relationship with your ex. To that I have one simple response (well really three but who’s counting?) Lets look at your options here. Look, what you are doing now obviously isn’t working because you felt the need to search the internet for further advice.
This only works in one case, if you are actually dating the person and they want to hear from you. You could do what I am recommending throughout this gameplan and work to slowly make your ex realize that the new girl isn’t anywhere near the woman that you are. No contact is important throughout this process because it will allow you to evolve and give you time to reacquire that logical mindset that you need. Simply doing a no contact rule isn’t the end of your job during this phase of the process. Striving towards becoming an UG (ungettable girl) during your no contact rule is going to do two things for you. Well, that is what I am basically trying to give you by urging you to achieve the ungettable girl status. Look, I am not going to lie to you because a lot of the women who visit this site are incredibly intelligent.
This final section, after the no contact period, is probably going to be the longest of the three that we will be talking about today. Obviously this section is going to deal with the period of time that occurs after the no contact rule. It is only human to compare the person you are currently with to the person you used to be with. Now, I want to hit the pause button for a moment and go over what I just covered because it is important for what we are going to be trying to do here. What we are going to be trying to do is highlight your best aspects so he uses this theory (setting the bar) to compare you to his new girlfriend. I want to especially cover this because there is still a lot of confusion among the visitors of this site on how to properly approach an ex after the no contact rule. The key to really making this work is having something really interesting to say after you send the text above. How can you highlight your strong points while at the same time highlighting his new girlfriends weaknesses? I felt I was in a good mood any time I saw that person and this person was in a good mood when they saw me.
Once you have your list of good qualities in front of you it is time to integrate those into your conversation with your ex boyfriend.
I think if I had to choose any of the qualities I listed above I would choose the one about being in a good mood. Actually it is over seven thousand words so I am impressed you read all the way to the end. Naturally, I lose it because I have a horrible temper and have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder that causes me to manically lash out with blind rage.
I also should add that here are a number of relatively unimportant details that go on with this chronically, including him bad mouthing me to his (and her) friends to the point where his roommate now hates me.
We all like to pride ourselves on having an honest and truthful relationship with no secrets or lies. Whether you’re referring to your ex in a good or bad way, this is never the smartest of ideas. Follow these ten rules, and you’ll soon be well on your way to the blissful, make-other-people-jealous relationship that we all deserve! Three Dates Equals Sex is the social standard in Western culture whereby on the 3rd or 4th date the new couple start having sex. China has a lot of single women in between the ages of 27 and 35 who can't find a husband. If a girl starts chewing gum near the end of a first date it means she is expecting the guy to kiss her.
Gifts really makes a woman’s day special when you take her out on a date - but only if you put thought into the gift. In this section I am going to give you some insight into the male psyche so you can understand why a man will cheat on you. As stated above, you are going to have to decide if you want to take your ex boyfriend back.
Now, before I go into some long explanation about each step you should take I do feel it is important to mention that I have put together a HUGE resource on how to get your ex back here. They have waited all this time to hear from you and when that moment finally comes they are going to be so excited that they will probably run up and down the stairs and do all the things that guys do when they are happy.
As I have said multiple times throughout this site, you have to earn the right to call your ex or in this case, your ex has to earn the right to call you. Can you imagine getting a letter after 45 days of no contact from someone that you thought didn’t want to talk to you? I had been dating this guy for 6 months and everything has been pretty good for the most part.
We’ve been in a long distance relationship but seeing each other once or twice every month and using Skype to communicate every day in between.
We are not living together, we just see each other at school, in our dates, and in family occasions. And by seeing, do you mean they’re togerher for sure or he’s just talking to her?
I guess its not so effective coz im still somewhere around… He still lives here coz of contract for apt. Finally I ended our 5 year relationship one day when she called his cell phone when we were together and he tried to lower the volume and act like it was someone else.


Just be consistent and be clear with yourself with what you want and what you can’t control. Ironically, a lot of the stuff out there that makes these ridiculous claims offer no value and leave you feeling taken advantage of. This page, while amazingly detailed, won’t have every single step that you will need to successfully get him back.
I put a lot of work into this page (1 full month to be exact.) I read relationship books, I took notes on speeches that dating experts gave, I bought online products, I listened my friends tell me stories about what they did to reunite with their exes and tested out some of the things I learned.
The no contact rule is going to give you time to work on yourself and calm down a little bit so you can think more rationally instead of emotionally. Make sure any interactions you do have with the person are short, pleasant and to the point. Thus, it is entirely possible that whatever reason they gave you for the breakup may not be completely true. No I am not talking about sex here (although that can lead to problems for some men.) I am talking about admiration.
They love the newness of a relationship, want respect and like to see significant interest coming from females. I feel for you but don’t worry we are going to take a look at your breakup and figure out the best way to approach things. This is a common complaint among men who are dating someone who let themselves go a little bit in the relationship. Unfortunately, in my personal opinion it says more about of his lack of character (unless you were really boring but I doubt that) than anything you actually did. Now, I like to think that I am generally a calm person but for whatever reason my girlfriend and I would always fight.
This may sound goofy but I like those women who so strongly believe that they are going to be together with their exes for good that they are willing to try anything.
Those are the type of women who work really hard to create that NEW and BETTER relationship.
However, one thing that I have neglected to mention so far is that there are certain women (not you) that don’t have legitimate reasons for wanting to get back together with their boyfriends. The fact of the matter is that you can be perfectly fine without this person if you are citing any of these.
Remember how you are going to implement the no contact rule for a month (30 days?) Yes, well you are not going to just sit on your butt and twiddle your thumbs during this time.
There is a 100% chance, especially if you are ignoring him, that your ex is going to check up on you during this period and instead of sulking around feeling sorry for yourself he is going to see a strong, sexy, fun-having woman!
I know it may be uncomfortable to talk about but in this case you need to suck it up and get the proper treatment if you don’t want them. One of the biggest assets about the no contact period is that it gives you time to calm down a bit from the mental tension that was your breakup. Careful though, you don’t want to be one of those career first women and lose sight of your goal. Ok, basically if there was anything fun that you used to do (tennis, golf, puzzles, collecting, hiking, photography, music) renew it. Honestly time is the number one thing that can help you get over a break up but the second best thing is definitely having fun.
Instead of being completely miserable and depressed you are doing something constructive and dare I say having a bit of fun? I am not saying it’s going to be easy but doing what I recommended above will really help to heal you. The last thing you want to be is perceived as creepy or stalkerish and writing a letter the wrong way can definitely hurt you. Well, it just so happens I have come up with the ultimate game plan for getting your ex back. Controlling the conversation is key that means that you should always be the one who brings the conversation to a close, YOU WANT TO BE IN CONTROL. Typically you want your ex to only think about the most positive experiences during your relationship.
Don’t expect him to be receptive of your messages right off the bat, it may take a while. DO NOT SPAM YOUR EX WITH TEXTS… if he doesn’t respond to your first one just wait a couple of days and try again. It really sucks and can feel like the end of the world especially if you put a lot of work into getting your ex boyfriend back. I’ll admit that you will have a distinct advantage here if you had a long relationship and made a lot of great memories.
I took out a sheet of paper and wrote down what I thought our best couple experiences were together. Except this time you are going to engage them in a conversation but make sure that you don’t go too fast.
They are either extremely excited by the prospect of moving forward with things and they can sense that you are trying to move things along but this also makes them extremely nervous. You spent that entire time working on yourself becoming more and more confident as the days past. I don’t have any research to back it up but I feel it will work because it worked on me.
You just planted a seed of doubt in your ex boyfriends head and now he is going to wonder if you saw a romantic movie with a friend or with a date. This tactic is no different and can definitely earn you some huge brownie points if you remind him about something he forgot. Basically you are going to bring up a stressful event very gently and show that you are going to be supportive no matter what with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. Except this time instead of slipping in a compliment during a conversation you are going to slip in something that you have always appreciated about your ex. Ok, basically this is a tactic where you tell your ex boyfriend what you miss about your relationship. In fact, if done correctly, a text message can bring up reminiscent feelings that can set you on the right path to getting your ex back.
Now, out of those suitors, throughout your years in the dating realm there has had to be one guy that didn’t pick up the hints. The text receiver was clearly ignoring the sender but they refused to accept that fact so they kept texting until they they could get a response. The better idea is to wait until the opportune moment where can maximize the power of the text message.
By completely taking 30 days to yourself without texting him or talking to him at all you are slowly taking control of the situation. It is basically the ultimate way to get him checking his phone every five minutes to see if today is the day that YOU will text HIM. The way you accomplish this is by going into great detail on one of the most positive experience that you had together as a couple.
Well the idea behind it is pretty simple, send a text message to your ex that could potentially get him jealous and bring up some of the lovey dovey feelings that he felt during your relationship.
He broke up with me because he didnt felt anything for me anymore, one week after our breakup he started to date all of a sudden another girl. I wanted to give you a guide that would take you from A to Z and show you exactly what you needed to do to get there. Deep down I know that there are a lot of people in this world and there is probably someone out there better than me but I always convince myself that I am the best. Oh, and writing a book.) One thing I constantly notice is that women in this situation have really low self esteem.
Sure, he is dating another girl and sure it hurts but the more reliant you become on him and his actions the less likely you will be to get him back. These factors are so important that they will dictate how you approach your particular situation.
Lets go back to the example I gave above (you and me dating and breaking up.) Lets imagine for a moment that after our breakup a total time of 3 weeks elapsed before I got a new girlfriend. Now, I was in no mood to talk so I am sure I was incredibly rude to them but I did start to get some confidence back. However, there will always be some men that refuse to face their pain head on and deal with it.
It just likely means that him getting a girlfriend 7 months down the road increases the chances that his new girlfriend is not a rebound. The shorter amount of time that elapses the more likely it is that he just got into a rebound relationship. You see, you are trying to get an ex boyfriend back who probably just got into a relationship with a new girlfriend. I know that is probably not what you want to hear right now but I am not in the business of telling you what you want to hear. However, the reason I trotted it out in this guide is because YOU are in a situation where your emotions are probably going to trump your logic a lot. I have been through some dark times in my life (mostly my own doing I might add.) You don’t think I wanted to pick up the phone and beg for my ex back?
I was only able to come to this conclusion by setting aside my emotions and thinking logically about the situation. Even if deep down he is just using the new girl to fill the void that you left it still won’t be easy to get him back.
All this stress you are feeling about the new girl and your ex, leave all that stuff up to me.
I am going to break this gameplan up into three different parts and break it down from there. The thing I want to talk about specifically is that your ex is going to start dating someone new BUT a lot of things are going to occur during this time as well.
I was having a pretty bad day and feeling bad about being rejected by a girl in my personal life. Not only did I find it incredibly insightful but I also began to realize that all I wanted to feel was that I was the center of a girls universe. All of a sudden the woman becomes reliant on the man whereas at the beginning of the relationship it was probably the guy who was chasing the girl. This will probably be the shortest section out of the three I talk about because there isn’t too much to go into. You are super emotional and a lot of the decisions you are making are not based on logic with a future in mind. Isn’t it ironic that probably the smartest thing you can do to get your ex boyfriend back (and get him to dump his ex girlfriend) is to NOT care. But if you do strive towards becoming the ungettable girl not only will it act as a goal to achieve but it will act as a backup plan if this gameplan doesn’t work out for you. This means that you are going to have to figure out how to initiate contact with your ex again after a lot of time off from talking to them.
Eventually a girl is going to come close to his idea of the perfect woman but we are talking about a member of the male species here so something is going to go wrong in that relationship (usually because of something he did.) Anyways, after a breakup occurs every single girl is going to be compared to the standard that the best girlfriend he ever had set. This can be especially effective if you do this right because not only will he begin to realize that the new girlfriend can’t compare to you but he will think that leaving her is his idea when really you were the one to plant the seed. However, at the same time it has to be really interesting (to get him to respond.) One of the best ways to do that is with the following text message. Notice how the tone of the messages that were sent was really friendly (almost playful.) This is a good opener because it yielded a response. The first thing I think you need to do is think back to your relationship and list all the high points you can. So, basically any time my (now) ex girlfriend and I saw each other we always seemed to be in a good mood. Now, it is risky to send that alone because it may cross over some lines in your exes mind. I realize I left out a lot of the steps to accomplish the goals you need to accomplish but I gave you the overall gameplan that you need to succeed. We start sleeping with each other again; he invites me to thanksgiving dinner with his extended family. If your man does need a bit of guidance in the right direction (possibly quite literally), find a less heart-breaking way of phrasing this.
We all dream of being happily married with two kids, a big house and a dog, but bringing these things up too early on in the relationship will only scare your man away, meaning none of the above, anytime soon. Your man will just wonder why you felt the need to bring your ex up and why you’re still thinking about him.
Start by getting more practice and reading the list below so you can master the best ways to kiss. I have found that a lot of the women who I have worked with who have been cheated on decide not to get their ex boyfriends back because they feel a lot better about themselves after they read the process on this page. If that is really what you are looking for then I urge you to check out the Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO system that I am always going on and on about. Obviously, there are a lot of different reasons that a man will ultimately decide to cheat on his girlfriend but I would have to say that the most common reason would be because he is just plain horny. You clearly came here because you want your ex boyfriend back and I want to help you do that but above all I want to help YOU. If you are familiar with my site then you know I am a really big believer in the no contact rule.
You may find that after 45 days you just don’t have the same desire you did to get him back when you first started the NC period.
I can go days, sometimes months without checking certain emails (I have multiple.) Secondly, there is no way that you can get an instant response. He has never introduced me to his family but talks about them all the time as he is really close to them.
We are just any other couple, we have some fights but i know we are happy until one day everything changes. Then it seems everything was getting better but when I asked him if its fine with us, he replied not really.
I’m devastated we are both madly in love with each other and our 1st loves I just don’t understand how u can leave the love of your life for someone u just met ! I asked whether he still like her and want to be with her or not he said no they just friend.
Either you continue doing this until you get fed up, or muster up the courage to respect and love yourself.. He said after the fact that he felt all the constant talking and texting we did felt forced and obligated.
The keyword there being SIGNIFICANTLY and before you get all argumentative I have seen the tactics outlined on this page work time and time again.
It is such a complicated process that even the 10,000 words on this page can’t cover everything you need to know.
Yea well, I only took a look at credible sources and every one and I mean EVERY SINGLE ONE recommends the no contact rule. You are constantly complimenting him and giving him acknowledgment that he is wanted by you. Again, I want to reiterate this point- don’t assume that the reason your ex gave you for the break up is really why they broke up with you. You may have to put in some extra work here but trust me when I say that your physical appearance is easier to improve than your personality so don’t let his thoughts get to you. The last thing they want is to hurt you so they will just break up with you and give you some general reason. Trust me, your going to have to do a lot of work, perhaps more than the women who were dumped. First off, your boyfriend surely will feel worried about incurring your wrath whenever they want to do something. I would say think very carefully if this person is worth getting in a relationship with again. Make sure that you are very serious about wanting to get back with this person before you keep reading. No, you are going to work towards your goal of a new and better relationship by focusing on the one thing you can control, yourself!
Honestly, I am getting excited here because this is where you start taking the first steps of getting your ex boyfriend back.
The first thought I have of our encounter will be based on the choices that you made during the 30 day no contact period. I was dating a girl and after we broke up I happened to run into her at a Starbucks and even though we had a short friendly conversation I couldn’t take my eyes off of her because she just looked so gorgeous.
However, even if you are a workout fanatic don’t let your breakup change that side of you. This section is going to be all about how to get through your breakup and heal emotionally. Remember, focusing on work in this particular case should be used to take your mind of your ex boyfriend. Don’t worry though because I am going to go through every single step in a very-in depth manner. Every single relationship is unique and may require unique steps that I haven’t outlined. How you approach this first contact message is almost as important as the text messages later in this process.
Your best bet in these situations is to simply not respond at all and understand that your ex is still processing their emotions. If your relationship was brief then this part of engaging your ex may be a little bit more challenging. For the sake of this page lets say that me and my ex had an experience where we were watching a football game outdoors and it was really cold. Everything seemed to be going fine until you hit your first road block with a negative response. Nevertheless, if you get a response like this you just have to be polite, positive and collected. Some of you may not agree with this but everywhere I researched said that using your ex boyfriends jealousy to your advantage is one of the most powerful things you can do. I am recommending that you drop certain hints in your communication with your ex boyfriend that you are out meeting new people.
One thing that always made me a bit jealous (even though I never voice it) was when a girl I felt really strongly about has a bunch of pictures with a bunch of different guys on her Facebook profile. Knowing when to slip them in will depend on your gut feeling and the context of the conversation you are having. Your ex boyfriend might not be as receptive to meeting you somewhere extravagant and out of his way. The obvious advantage to this is that he has time to clear his schedule and make time for you ;). However, there seems to be a huge misunderstanding among the women out there on how to actually use text messaging effectively. Most women fail at texting their exes for the simple fact that they commit this texting sin and quite honestly it’s not even their fault. First though, before we can do that, we are going to have to figure out how to create that opportune moment. After basically blowing off your ex for a month straight your first text to them better have some substance to it. It is like their phone is their own personal sanctuary holding all their secrets and feelings about things. If you do this correctly you will bring up his most positive feelings about the relationship and get him thinking about you in a different more positive light.
As a guy I can tell you that nothing makes you want a girl more than when you see her talking with another guy that is even moderately attractive.
Don’t worry, I got your back and I want to help you understand the best way you can get him back. I told him I had been busy he said i could of replied obviously I would see his messages and calls and ask why I ignored him also we have had came to terms to be friends and then I done the the nc and he started missing me but I broke it because he message my sister asking where I was and then asked why I had been ignoring him what should I do? Right now there are 1700 comments on the page and it doesn’t look like that number will stop anytime soon. Honestly, every time I open this site and think back to the early articles I wrote I am actually ashamed because I felt like I dropped the ball for you guys. There is a lot to talk about here but I think what I want to tackle first has to do with your fear of other women. I don’t think I do it because I am trying to be conceited I am doing it because it will give me the mindset I need to have to be the best boyfriend I can possibly be. No matter who broke up with who the fact of the matter is that there is going to be pain on both sides of the breakup (both yours and his.) Most men will look to fill this pain by using other women to make themselves feel better. So, instead of doing that they rebound with a girl who can constantly fill their need to feel validated. The more time that elapses the higher the chances are that their relationship could become serious.
Out of all the situations you will encounter on this website this will probably be the one that has the lowest chances of success. Now, before we really start to move on I want to let you into my personal life for a moment which is something that I rarely do. Believe it or not she is probably going to be threatened by you just like you are threatened by her.
Make no mistake about it, right now your ex boyfriend chose the new girl over you (rebound or not.) If you do get into a negative exchange with the new girlfriend you are probably going to accomplish one thing, bring your ex closer to her. While I may have been slowly coming to the realization that the new girl wasn’t for me you did something that was a massive mistake, you engaged my new girlfriend on Facebook and had a Facebook war. Well, I am going to show you how to make him decide all on his own to do it and you won’t even have to do anything crazy. However, imagine if a few months down the road your ex is still dating this new girl but he happens to run into you and you have achieved this UG status I keep going on and on about.


Not to mention, the complexity of the new girlfriend is added into the fray so you have found yourself in quite the pickle. Now, I do realize that in the example I provided above the responses aren’t exactly what you would call positive but this kind of opener is not conducive of a positive response. In addition, you can’t say anything that he will view as you trying to break him and his new girlfriend up. We didn’t speak for a few weeks until I found out that they were still seeing each other. Anyway, truly two days after my birthday I discover she’s stayed the night at his house. He could have saved me sleepless nights, nightmares, panic attacks, emotional break downs in my work setting if he just talked to me like I asked.
I shouldn’t, but I quietly creep on their social media occasionally, and, shocker, this girl STILL stalks me (on the Internet AND in the real world). I’m disappointed our conversation ended so poorly, but he did text me saying he was trying to calm down and gave me the links to all of her fake accounts for me to block. Enjoy the relationship for what it is then eventually these subjects will come up naturally, when the time is right. Of course, I still want you to read this page because it contains valuable information on understanding the mind of a cheating boyfriend and how to approach the situation you are in. While I think it says a lot about the advancement of humans that we have slowly developed into a race that seeks out a significant other we weren’t originally intended to do so. Which leads us to the next section.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
Now, the whole point of the no contact rule was to NOT contact your ex so you aren’t exactly allowed to respond to them after they contact you during the initial 45 day period. You have to say just the right thing at just the right time for things to work out the way you want them to. He has also never met my family but in my culture it’s improper unless marriage is around the corner. Three weeks ago, just before we even had our 8 month celebration, i’ve found out that she has another girlfriend, they have been in relationship for a month. How to say in a best way I don’t like the situation we are at at the moment without giving him ultimatum?
He says he has a better connection with her than me and that I should move on and start a new relationship. But to me and everyone else they more like they in a long distance relationships more than a friend ?? I want to break up and end everything with my boyfriend but I can’t i keep going back and forgove him.
I can understand that because ldr is hard, and it was easy to be with her while I was far away. It isn’t necessarily a fast process but there is proof out there to back up the claims being made. I have been running this site for quite some time and get an incredible amount of emails and comments every single day. This may sound a bit mean but you are going to have to be completely honest with yourself and possibly look at things that may make you uncomfortable.
Personally, cheating to me is a big no no and I don’t think I could forgive that so easily. Careful though, don’t let them talk you into calling him before the no contact period is up.
The second your ex boyfriend picks up (if he even picks up) you have to be on your toes and there is a lot that can go wrong. To make matters more complicated you can’t get into a full blown conversation with him yet. It doesn’t necessarily mean that all hope is lost it just means you may need to be more patient and try again in a week or so. However, that doesn’t mean anything bad it just means you might have to get more creative. This just means you misread the situation and you moved a little to fast to start bringing up your relationship. The obvious disadvantage is that you are laying a lot of your cards on the table and rejection will certainly hurt your feelings.
I suggest getting coffee at Starbucks with chairs and couches where the two of you can just sit and talk. The key is to just do something that the two of you will both enjoy where you can have fun and talk. I am not going to lie to you, sending a text message is a huge risk, if done incorrectly you will decimate any chance you have of that happy reunion you keep daydreaming about. Right after a break up everyone involved is out of whack emotionally and are prone to do some really stupid things.
In fact, you have to slowly lead up to the moment where he or you will hopefully go out on a date again. I always like to say that you should make your first contact text so interesting that they have no choice but to respond. Now, while it is important that you get him to think positively about you it is also extremely important that you remain as positive as well. I remember once that one of my married friends told me something very interesting about the male psyche. There is a lot more to this process and quite frankly this page doesn’t do a great job of describing exactly what you do step by step. I still love him i’ve been chasing him for over 2years right now and sometimes our chats go okay and sometimes it turns into a fight. Now, lets say that the rebound doesn’t even compare to the standard that the old girlfriend set.
It is human nature and everyone is going to make impulsive decisions based on emotions at times. All I want you to focus on is successfully implementing the gameplan I am about to give you. While I am going to tell you exactly what you need to do to succeed in your campaign to get your ex boyfriend back there is a concept you first need to understand. I have established throughout this site that men usually only respond positively to good memories so I don’t want you to touch the bad ones with a ten foot pole. I truly and honestly believe he has some serious emotional and mental health problems that he will not address. Try to work on your relationship with her if possible, but if that’s not an option, just grin and bear it.
If it is true that your man has put on a few pounds since you’ve been together, try suggesting joining the gym or taking up a more active hobby together. If you are new to my site then just a warning, every single page I write goes far more in-depth than my peers. That means you can’t text, email, facebook, google plus or talk to your ex on the phone. However, the biggest disadvantage for calling an ex is the fact that you could potentially get angry, raise your voice and start a fight if something is said that you don’t like. He said that he wants to be with me,but he doesn’t know about the love thing because he recently got his break up.
I have been to his house a couple times, but since he travels a lot for work, I usually just travel with him or he comes to my state to visit me.
The girl was into him and I felt a bit threatened… Fortunately the girl left the country and our relationship were back to good sweet days.
Is it just sign of feeling guilty or he has strong feelings for me and still wants to take care of me? We haven’t talked for a month, barely seen each other coz I made myself extremely busy! Each person wants me to give them a detailed step by step plan that they can follow to get their ex back. Every time you have a good experience or something of that nature you are putting money into the account.
A lot of times women make the mistake of picking up right where they left off whenever they do get their ex back. The further away from the breakup your ex gets the more nostalgic he will become about your relationship.
So, from this point on I am just going to be focusing on that method and the best practices using it.
So, if your gut is telling you that a particular tactic I have outlined won’t work for you I would definitely trust it.
Because, if you screw this part up you can kiss your chances of getting your boyfriend back goodbye. This is simply a small baby step that you are using to test the waters and gauge where you are at. If your ex boyfriend would get jealous every time you would talk to another man or every time you went out then I would say you should really revisit your thinking on getting back together with him. Do you think you will get very far if you rub the fact that you are out and about with other guys? More specifically, setting up a date with your ex boyfriend for the first time since your break up. I have heard plenty of stories where women, in the heat of the moment, texted their exes multiple times, even after getting no response. So, if you are intrigued by this method but very confused I urge you to visit get my guide, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.
I was attatched to him and that was my fault i dont talk to him only if he starts talking to me because i dont want to scare him off. The ironic part about all of this is that if you do try to control another human being they immediately resent you. It creates this strange confidence in myself and I rely on that confidence to get me through any interaction I have with a potential girlfriend. I needed to be told that I was still worth something since I felt I wasn’t in that relationship. The problem is that at the beginning of this process, especially in your case, emotions are usually not your friend. While I suppose this is a possible outcome the chances of it happening are below one percent probably.
I have cared for this site from the beginning back when no one heard of it or cared about it. However, it will also give you the ability to figure out what you need to do at every single juncture of the gameplan. Once you have the conversation open with an ex you can text back and forth for a little bit and then I would like you to end the conversation. If he responds positively (like the person in the example above did) I would move on to the next part. Not only did I paint the current relationship between you and your ex in a positive light (you two still get along) but I also acknowledged something that maybe the two of you were afraid to admit, that whether you like it or not you actually still think about each other.
I planned on leaving a calm voicemail regarding my frustration to these stalker like tendencies of his group of friends but instead I panicked.
He’s even reached out to my friends, telling them how he feels awful for being terrible to me. It may be hard, but at the end of the day, you’re going out with her son, not her, so who really cares? This way, you get to spend more time with your man and improve your fitness – A double winner!
Every page draws upon in-depth research (from experts), stories from women who have had success and my own personal experience.
He seems to be moving further away from me day by day, which means getting more involved with that girl.
Just like any normal girlfriend I harras him by text message begging him to take me back and all I did was get ignored. But he was very absent there, didn’t even keep an eye contact with me, seems to be a totally different person. The fact of the matter is that it is such a complex process that I really can’t give you everything you need in a post, email, comment or Facebook chat.
However, every time you have an argument or a fight you are taking money out of the account. Every expert (myself included) seems to have a different opinion on the method you should use for contacting an ex. However, I would say the biggest advantage to text messaging would be the fact that you can take your time and think everything through. The main takeaway here is that you are going to have to get creative and sometimes even skip entire skips depending on how fast you are moving.
Honestly, the dates I have enjoyed the most wasn’t anything super romantic it was just when I was enjoying the company of someone else and walking around.
Handle every single text and interaction you have with your ex with as much grace as possible. It may take you a while to read through the entire thing but it will break every step of the ex recovery process down for you, in-depth. Now, if person A imagined a logical future to begging they would probably see the bad consequences that begging has towards re-attracting an ex. She hugged me and apologized profusely and swore she didn’t want me to see her as a home wrecker.
I am his rock, I am his light, he knows I will never hurt him or use him like all of the others. I had explained to him (post mania) I wanted to drop some of his stuff off at his back door and when wont he be home? Slagging her off to your man will only ruin your relationship, meaning (obviously) no boyfriend and that she wins, and we don’t want that now do we?
Again, try to get on with them, but if that’s just not do-able, at the end of the day, who cares?
Enjoy your sex life and have as much fun, as you both want, whilst respecting each other’s boundaries. So, rather than write more filler content I would prefer to talk about the stuff that can actually do something for you!
In fact, there is a time and a place to use calling as a way to contact your ex but only after your ex earns the right for you to call them. Problem is this is the 2nd time (first time was after the first year) I acknowledge that I may have driven him to think about cheating.
When I went to his house he was still at the office (unbeknownst to me) and another girl answered the door and proceeded to tell me she was his girlfriend. It’s a bit awkward to txt him, because I can just talk to him if I want since we still live in the same apartment. The key thing here is to have more green deposits than red withdrawals in your relationship bank account. Some recommend writing a get your boyfriend back letter, some say you should give them a call and some even say you should text. There is a subtle art to incorporating jealousy texts into your conversations and I am going to teach you that art.
The key is to be really subtle about it but trust me if your man has a Facebook I promise you he will check your profile from time to time. The truth of the matter is that if you played pretty close to the game plan I laid out for you, your ex boyfriend will probably have suggested to meet up IN PERSON by now. Since you are on my site I am assuming that you are interested in somehow trying to get your boyfriend back. It will also go into extreme detail about how you can use text messages to get your ex boyfriend back. Nearly a year and a half ago, out of the blue, he called me up to tell me he met his soulmate, the love of his life and he didn’t want me around anymore.
He drops 400$ on my birthday, not including a totally separate date he had taken me on a week prior.
I feel I do a good job of explaining when the proper time to call is in the link I provided at the beginning of this section. I prevent breaking up saying I do not believe in all of this and that he is confused now and I wait for him to be back to his old self.
No matter how hard it is or how much you want to talk to him DO NOT DO IT, even if he responds you have to ignore it. I’m running on very little sleep right now due to my jam packed work schedule that I filled to the brim since he last left.
Your relationship with your boyfriend is totally separate from that that he has with his friends.
Each time it happened after I had pushed every possible button I could, simply because I felt I was not getting enough attention & then I even resorted to flirting subtlely on fb with someone in a mutual group. I exchanged numbers with her and left as I was in a rush to get out and she kept asking me questions. I am being very emotionally reactive and have been obsessively mulling over the past six months. I acknowledge I have a problem & I need to work on that but I love him so very much but unsure of what to do.
There are few more factors as well, he recently graduate and didn’t get a job he dreams about. Is it because he somehow miss me or used to know about every of my step, or just checking out of curiosity.
I say it with 100% honesty, at this point I had given up and truly was very, very calm regarding my actions.
You don’t obsessively post things about yor rebound relationship on social media if you are confident and happy. He wants me to beg for him back and said I have tall orders to ask for anything for myself right now since he is still deciding on rather or not he wants a relationship with me.
Should I wait a bit more before I reveal I know about everything and hope that newest and excitement factor wear of and he will give up on her?
Someone please give me some guidance or motivation he is the love of my life and I’m so crushed that he’s left me for a girl he just met !
He swears she is more of a friend with benifits, while she considers them to be in a relatively serious relationship.
When i asked him as to why he did that, he said that he came to a point where he got confused, he questioned his self if this is still what he wants, if we are really for each other. Or tell straight away and tell him he has to make up his mind what he wants to do with his life? He told me he’s going to make her understand that he only wants her companionship at this point, and would like to fix things with me. I want him to panick over my loss, but I feel as though it will just push him toward her and more shallow relationships to fill the gap.
She had been living with him since after we had started dating, and apparently I had been the other girl at the time. Should I still confront him about the other girl or just leave it and wait if he comes up with breaking up?
I’m going to continue NC mostly to help me with my problem but should I forgive the cheating & try once more? Meaning, he was sleeping with the both of us up until the time the two of us became official. All the fights we had because of school, the pressure to graduate, the moments we didn’t have time for each other because of our situation, and the lost in communication.
Then it transitioned and he tried to break it off with the ‘original girl’ and had even stopped sleeping with her (this was confirmed by her as well). I blame myself because i didn’t saw what he is going through before, but i still think it is not right that he cheated on me. There’s a part of me that still wants things to work out, but i still have a lot of resentment towards him. He was basically living with a girl who was his ex in his eyes, but she still wanted him even though they weren’t having sex after he and I became official and he asked her to leave multiple times (this was also confirmed by her).
Unfortunately I told him he means all to me, and I’m willing to work on our relationship to get it back on the track (probably another mistake). We were about to move back to his home town together and that would be a huge change for me. Oh and I should mention, 2 days after I left from driving to surprise him, he finally made her move out since she lives in a whole other country. I personally want to forgive him, i still love him, and i want us to have our second chance but i want it to come from him coz he is the one that caused this. Since he didn’t initiated anything for us, i just want to be distant, to show him that im strong.
I think he got scared of us getting too serious since he is not ready for getting married yet and he is thinking this is the think I really want now or I will want if I move in with him to his hometown(which means moving the country). We are still in our last year in college, we are thesis partners and we are required to do it together, see each other every now and then..
Especially since they were among a list of things I told him men usually do to apologize since he wasn’t doing anything but explaining or more defending himself (which was the most annoying). He was living a double life, and had even given the girl one of his cars (a Benz) thinking she would leave more easily.
Sorry for the rant, next question: how do I know he’s sorry?… I don’t feel he’s working hard to get me back. Before I forget, even though they weren’t intimate, he admitted they had been sleeping in the same bed the whole time even though there are four other bed rooms in the house.



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