All of these text messages are from all of Ruby’s ex boyfriends or people she had a love relationship with. Posted under Grade 8 Humanities and tagged with 8-1, E.Lockhart, Exposition, Independent Reading, Multimedia, Person vs. I just wish you would keep the conversation going a bit more, because at the end of each text message it jumps to a conclusion.
This was a very great post and I liked the idea of using text messages as a multimedia response to the book. Of course, for all the things that you can control there are things that you can’t control on the opposite side of the coin. Not only are they essential to helping you get your ex boyfriend back but they can be life changing.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Maureen implemented the advice in PRO and The Texting Bible and not only got her ex back but married him! I guess what I am saying is that if you want your ex boyfriend to love you again those are your tools to accomplish that. It is really important that you write all of these down because I need you to answer them as honestly as you can.
First lets take a look at what I consider to be the correct answer for all of these questions.
Getting an ex boyfriend to fall in love with you again isn’t going to happen in a couple of days. Simple, it will give you insight on what behaviors that you need to avoid if you plan on making him fall for you again. This is important to know because the process of making him like you again isn’t going to be a short and easy one. While that may be true (the problems caused by him part.) I can tell you right now you were not perfect in your relationship. This kind of ties in to our first question above (expecting results.) Like almost everything in life there is a right way and a wrong way to communicate with your ex boyfriend. Essentially, they want results too fast and don’t have the discipline to tell themselves to slow down.
Before I really dive into specific strategies for making your ex fall for you all over again this is a concept that I need to hammer into your head.
It is impossible for every single girl to become an UG (ungettable girl) otherwise every woman walking this planet would be an UG.
In the beginning for me and most men it is all about looks and yes, your weight plays into that.
Luckily, if you are a bit chubby or overweight this is something that is completely in your control.
I told you that story because I want you to know that I understand what it is like to be called ugly.
The sad truth is that with some girls no matter what they do they cannot change the way they look.
I think the reason I have so much trouble with this one is the simple fact that some women can annoy me and I just don’t know why.
Maybe for me it is a specific way they talk, a specific attitude they are projecting that I don’t like or just the way they carry themselves. Biology was over for me… For the next week any time I would walk into that class I could only focus on one thing, that girl. This quality, the daydream thing, has been present in me every single time I have met an ungettable girl. A sad truth about life that I have learned is that a daydream world is a lot nicer than the realty world. It is your job to leverage the high points in your previous relationship and recreate them. At the end of season 5 a sacrifice is made that literally brings me tears because you have so much invested in the characters. In season 6 the best musical episode ever created happens and I giggle like a little school girl every time. In season 7 you are just in awe of how far all the main characters have come and you begin to get sad because you know the end of the series is near.
I am a MALE that comes back and watches Buffy every single year because of the high points. Because that show did such an amazing job of highlighting the high points I come back over and over again. That is what the Buffy phenomenon is, using the high points of your relationship to your advantage. There are actually a lot of different ways that you can use your high points to your advantage.
Control Theory is something I talk a lot about in The Texting Bible so make sure you check that out. That is why we are obsessed with watching sports, playing video games and making the most money as we possibly can (to brag about it.) While I am not going to give my personal thoughts if too much competition is a good or bad thing I just want you to understand that men at their core are competitive creatures. Well, our whole goal here is to highlight the emotional high points of your relationship with your ex boyfriend. It sounds pretty simple when you put it in a bulleted list like the one above but I promise you it is not. If this happens then what you are doing is working and keep doing it because he is going to view you as an ungettable girl. I am not going to cover when to use emotional memories because that would take about another 3,000 words which I don’t have. Next, I want you to go through those list of 20 memories and pick out the ones that have an immediate emotional effect on you. IF you can pick out two of those memories that you know for a fact he will be affected by then you can move on to step 5!
While I will admit that, that is kind of a lame memory to choose the reason I picked it is because I know for a fact she enjoyed that specific aspect of our relationship.
It is important to write these types of words down because you are going to be using them in your memory text message.
I have found the best way to use emotional text messages to your advantage is to find a way to get the biggest bang for your buck.
I would like to use my example above to further describe the correct way to come up with this text message.
The truth is that there is only one relationship that you will ever have that lasts for your entire life. Well, I have done a lot of research and have a lot of experience with in person tactics and I can tell you that you are going to fail if you aren’t comfortable in your own skin.
You can use this to your advantage when you are trying to make your ex boyfriend love you again.
I was kind of getting tired writing about the same old boring stuff so new territory is exciting for me. Ahhh… it is a lot harder than you think because the holding hands part has to be his idea. Well, I think it is safe to say that if you two are holding hands you can progress to kissing. Not because of everything I have written up until this point but because of the knowledge I am about to unleash in this section. In the end you have to remember that while you want to date your ex boyfriend again you don’t need to date him again. Whatever your specific case is one thing is guaranteed, you are here because your ex won’t recommit to you when you want him to and need advice on how to get him to do that. A man won’t commit to a woman unless he feels like he has to in order to keep him from losing her. I want you to put your ex boyfriend in the friend zone and before you get confused I am talking about putting him in the real friend zone that everyone is so afraid of. If I was a betting man I would say that she hasn’t and if she has the guy was a complete jerk.
When he is in the friend zone do not respond to his advances at all (if he gives you any.) Reaffirm your decision to put him in the friend zone by subtly sprinkling in variations of the tactics I described above. Once you feel you have done a pretty good job of putting your ex in the friend zone I want you to start flirting with him. Once you have him hooked in the flirting I want you to put him back in the friend zone and stop flirting with him. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
I have completed NCR and from getting either ignored or getting rude responses, he now replies neutrally..
The thing is, I am very confident that I can execute all your advice if I can actually get him to start replying enthusiastically.
So I really really need help in Breaking that wall down and actually getting him to reply enthusiastically, could you please help? If you want to get your ex boyfriend to talk to you again then you are going to have to do some work. What is the first thing that you want to do after a breakup, especially if you aren’t ok with it? So, if you want to get on speaking terms with your ex again you are going to have to do things that aren’t perceived as needy or desperate. Rather than texting or facebooking your ex every five minutes, a woman who wants to take control of the situation with her ex will implement something called a no contact rule.
The no contact rule is supposed to accomplish more than just cutting yourself off from your ex. Of course, I will admit that the probability of a friend seeing you and squealing to your ex that you look amazing isn’t very high. If you implement the no contact rule like I suggest above I would estimate that 40% of the time your ex will reach out and try to talk to you.
The goal of this page is to get your ex to talk to you again and as you can see, the no contact rule alone can accomplish that feat. In the event that your ex doesn’t get back in touch with you then you are going to have to take matters into your own hands a little bit. Before I dive in to the rules of texting your ex I think it is important to mention that YOU SHOULD ONLY TEXT YOUR EX AFTER THE NO CONTACT RULE. It’s all about control, you want to control every aspect of the conversation you can. If you want to get back on speaking terms with him then you have to understand that you need to keep your first few texts to him very short. No matter what he says to you DO NOT fall into the trap of responding to him, not yet anyways. His interest is already raised because you sent him the confession text already but I want his interest raised even more.
Look, I am a guy and when I really like a girl that I am texting I can’t help but look at my phone every five seconds waiting for her response to my most recent text. So, he’s responded to your confession text, you’ve waited the full hour, now what? There will be a small percentage of women whose boyfriends are so angry with them that they won’t respond even if they have waited a month via NC and sent the ideal text message. I want you to understand that I wrote this page with it’s sole intent being to help YOU get back on speaking terms with your ex. I did the NC rule and when i contacted him he replied within second, we always have good conversation but I’m the first one who always initiate the conversation. What if he says the reason why we broke up is because I’m too affectionate do I still do Nc rule?? We had a good story I don’t know why is so reluctant and why one month ago he answered also to see each other! At least he has his mother: This boyfriend failed to win back the affection of his one-time flame by sharing that his mother had made him a 'delicious' meatloaf out of a gift of meat from his ex before their split. Not so pukka: Handing back each others possessions can be one of the hardest parts about a break up.
The views expressed in the contents above are those of our users and do not necessarily reflect the views of MailOnline. Believe it or not but there are actually a lot of different ways to discover why your ex boyfriend may be ignoring you. In this article I am going to be helping you understand why your ex boyfriend is ignoring your numerous attempts to reach out and contact him. If you have read my site then you would know I am a big fan of texting to get an ex boyfriend back. The main problem here is that if you are sending that many messages without any responses it makes you look totally desperate. I want you to really notice here that in this example the other person is actually engaged in the messaging and that means it is ok to keep messaging them without seeming desperate or needy. The second really unattractive quality that women can display when texting too much is the fact that there is no chase involved. I hope you read the section above because this one is almost exactly the same except you are dealing with calling instead of texting.
I used to think I was alone in this but I soon learned that other guys are exactly like me.
Generally speaking, someone who is calling you a lot (back to back to back.) Has two types of news.
Since you are an ex girlfriend of his I am betting that your call is going to be filled with emotion and bad news. Sadly I have personal experience with a girl calling too much and I can tell you there is nothing more unattractive and annoying. Part of the problem that men have with women calling too much is that they know if they pick up the phone they are going to have to talk to a really emotional human being and while some men will get off on it most of us despise it.
Again, the one thing that all of this stuff (texting, calling, letters, emails) have in common is the fact that they are all actions taken out of desperation and que the Jaws music! Unfortunately, I don’t have much personal experience with ex girlfriends writing me too many letters or sending too many emails.
In the section above I talked about some of the main reasons that an ex boyfriend would ignore his girlfriend (desperation, neediness that whole thing.) I am not going to lie to you, in 85% of the cases everything I discussed above is the main reason that he would want to ignore you.
When men start ignoring you on purpose it is coming from a place of rage just because they know it will punish you. It is not something I am very proud of and I would handle that situation completely differently now but I wanted to prove to you that deep down all men are capable of something like that so it could be a reason that he is ignoring you. All I can tell you is that it is highly unlikely (but still likely) that your ex is ignoring you for this reason. It might be possible that your ex boyfriend wants nothing to do with you anymore which is why he is ignoring you. Anyways, the real warning sign that you can use to figure out if this is the reason your ex is ignoring you is to think back to your relationship and figure out the ways in which you wronged him. Realistically, the only way I would NOT talk to an ex girlfriend is if she wronged me in a horrible way.
I can honestly say that in all my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I have never encountered a situation where an ex boyfriend never talks to an ex girlfriend again. When your ex finally does contact you he can contact you the good way, the bad way or the ugly way (see what I did there ?? .) I am going to take a moment to explore each one. The first step to getting your ex boyfriend to respond to you in a positive manner is to implement the no contact rule.
The first thing I want you to realize is that the general texts that you are used to sending aren’t good enough. Actually, to be honest, I have never talked about this text before so this is the first time I have ever made it live. Take notice how I included an innocent but pleasant memory from a past relationship in this example.
Now, once he does respond positively you have accomplished your mission and he isn’t ignoring you anymore! In the end of February , he decided to breakup with me saying that he wasnt sure and that he couldnt see any future on our relationship.I did the NC for 2 weeks , after that time, I texted him asking how he was and he replied after a day . I had been in a bumpy long distance relationship for about 3 years and a half, and last December I ask him to decide whether or not he wanted to continue our relationship. I’ve seen him each Thursday at a group event, when everyone leaves him and I have stayed in the parking lot for another 2 hours talking until 930pm.
Later i realized that my friends were having fights over my situation, almost all the circle became tense without me knowing what is going on!!! I have seen women try everything there is to try (one woman actually did a love spell.) I have seen women do everything right and fail.
Knowing when to let go is a tough thing to decipher because often times you are so close to your own situation that you are blind to the truth.
Lately I have gotten a lot of women requesting a guide on how you should know when it is time to stop trying to get your ex boyfriend back. The funny part about this is that this is the first guide in the history of this site that I have put together without research. Heck, I believe this so much I wrote a book trying to teach people the correct way to win an ex back.
Then I see no reason for why you shouldn’t give it your all in trying to get him back. Sure, you may have tried to get your ex back but can you honestly say that you did the best you could?
Look, I realize that it is weird to dedicate so much time on getting your ex back on a page about knowing when to give up BUT sometimes in order to know when to give up you have to try to get your ex boyfriend back. I am basically telling you that in order to know for sure if you have a shot at making this work again you have to try to get your ex boyfriend back. One thing that you are going to realize really fast is that things are never as simple as black and white when it comes to determining if you should give up on getting an ex back. Most people believe that you should either try to get your ex back or you should just simply move on. A lot of what I talk about in this section of the guide is going to tie directly into the methods of getting an ex back.
Well, I am going to list (one by one) the signs that an ex boyfriend might exhibit that will give you an indication on if you should give up or not. Obviously the text message should be really good and I give plenty examples on how to compose one throughout this website and even in my E-Book. Sure, it can sometimes be normal for an ex boyfriend to miss a text or two from you but if he literally cuts you out of his life by not responding to anything you send.. Of course, the thing that you are probably wondering is what can you do to get him to contact you again? Again, I want to reiterate it is not a good sign if he ignores you every time when you are reaching out.. This is another one of those situations where we are going to be focusing on what happens AFTER the no contact rule is successfully completed. However, what if an ex boyfriend of yours responded but only responded to you in a negative manner?
Perhaps it could be that he is just taking his frustrations out on you because of his own inability to hold together your relationship. However, if I were a betting men I would say that it all comes down to the feeling he gets when he thinks back to your relationship.
It shouldn’t exactly be a shock that a lot of the time the better your relationship with your ex was the better the shot you have of getting him back.
However, I know that it is a normal part of the relationship process so you should come to expect them. In the last section we briefly discussed how men can sometimes have negative responses based on the bad feelings they had in their previous relationships. One thing that I see happen far too often is that when a no contact rule is completed a couple can sometimes pick up right where they left off with the fighting. As I said at the beginning of this section, fighting is a natural thing for relationships but what we are talking about here is an excess of fighting. There is no doubt in my mind that YOU are capable of trying to create a better relationship but you are only one side of the equation. The thing you really have to keep in mind when you deal with a man who says something like this is that you have to figure out if he means it or not. The thing that you have to remember is that if these words are muttered to you by an ex you need to determine if he means them or not.


I can’t tell you how many times I have muttered this phrase throughout my life and throughout this site. If you ever want to see what a person TRULY wants (their words aside) you need to look at their actions. However, when it came down to crunch time and advancing the relationship forward she would always cancel on me. Now, when you read the two (obviously fake) simulations of the relationships what did you notice? Well, for starters the first example seemed a lot healthier and pleasant whereas the second example seemed really stressful and unhealthy. The worse your relationship was with your ex boyfriend the more fallout you are going to have following you around after the breakup. For example, if your previous relationship was pretty good then you can expect a positive fallout to follow you around after the breakup. Another thing that a lot of people tend to forget is the fact that your breakup can be a huge fallout indicator.
For a while at least the negative connotation of a bad breakup will always be in the back of an ex boyfriends mind. Again, this is another one of those sections that isn’t really resistance you are getting from your ex boyfriend. What does this any of this have to do with knowing if you should give up on your ex boyfriend? When you take a step back and look at your relationship with your ex boyfriend do you think any of the effort is worth it? Eventually when you do meet that someone who is twice as amazing as your ex was your world gets rocked all over again and you start to gain perspective. How are you supposed to take a step back and determine if a relationship is worth fighting for with your ex boyfriend?
If you just want him back to make the pain go away then you are being a coward and taking the easy way out. Me and my boyfriend has been in a relationship for 2 years 2 months (First 1 year under same roof, 1 year 2 months LDR) until we broke up yesterday. I think it was unfair of him because whenever he told me not to go out with other men, I obliged. I didn’t see my comment published but I saw comments from others get published, even when they were after me. For a safer, faster, more enjoyable user experience, please update your browser today or try a newer browser. This is the moment of truth because just ONE wrong answer on the five questions above and I can tell you right now you are probably going to fail at re-attracting your ex boyfriend. Not because of the question itself but the people asking the question really get under my skin.
I do my best to calm them down, which can be a challenge in and of itself and then I start asking them about their situation. It should also give you a good idea on what went wrong in your relationship the first time around.
I can tell you right now that any girl I date I am a very good boyfriend to but I am not conceited enough to believe I am a perfect boyfriend. Whenever he messes up (and I mean messes up bad) I take a mental note to make sure not to make his mistake in any future relationship. It is shocking to me because you absolutely need to know what one is if you plan on even having a chance to make your ex boyfriend fall in love with you again.
The reason most people fail to increase their chances of making their ex have feelings for them again is because they communicate with him the wrong way. Results won’t occur overnight like you are hoping them to but the sooner you accept that fact and understand the basics of how to contact him (and what to say) the sooner you are in business! Becoming one is your ticket to success not just in making him fall in love with you again but in making any man weak in the knees.
Not because they lack the effort but because they physically and mentally can’t look and feel the part. Remember above when I said that generally women are more mean in a more vocal way than men are. Granted, being called ugly by a 13 year old girl probably doesn’t sting as much as compared to coming from a 25 year old but still, I do know what it is like. However, there have been plenty of gorgeous girls that I have met over the years with horrible personalities that completely turned me off. I don’t want to bad mouth anybody here but to me a high maintenance girl is someone like Kim Kardashian.
As I stated above, the ungettable girl is the ultimate goal that every woman on this planet should strive towards. I recognized her as ungettable immediately just because I have an eye for these things trust me.
The thing you have to understand about ungettable girls is that men will actually picture themselves on a date with them. Thus, we can come to the conclusion that having a guy daydream about what it is like being with you is a lot more powerful than the guy actually experiencing it. I am guessing that like every relationship on this earth yours had it’s ups and downs. So essentially, I have turned your biggest disadvantage into an advantage because now you have something to shoot for. I have just hit you with the knowledge that the best way to get your ex boyfriend to love you again is to recreate the high moments of your previous relationship. Imagine if you could highlight the high points of your previous relationship with your ex and get him coming back over and over again. For now, I am just going to be focusing on the most popular way which is through text messaging. In fact, most women can’t get their exes back because they are not able to properly do the things on the list above.
Either he will be very engaged in the conversation with very positive responses or he will put forth more effort than you in the conversation.
So, instead of explaining when to use emotional memories I am going to show you HOW to use them correctly. For example, if you go down the list and get to memory #3 and you start getting butterflies then you can put a check mark next to that memory. Now I want you to switch places with your ex boyfriend and comb through them with HIS POINT OF VIEW. Take one of the two emotional memories you picked and think back to how you felt during that moment. Your message can’t be more than 160 characters long but still has to pack a punch while describing the details. Why did I mention that “the only relationship you have that lasts your entire life is the one with yourself” stuff? If you are inexperienced at being social with other people, specifically people who you have strong feelings for then you are at a disadvantage. They send the right text messages, they get the date but they end up falling flat on their faces because they don’t know how to recreate attraction in person.
Below I have devised a method to integrate touch into your person to person communications with your ex boyfriend. Alright, the second time you see your ex boyfriend in person I want you to try to hold hands with him again. So, all you can do is put yourself in a position by dropping subtle hints that will hopefully cause him to take the bait. You are going to have to drop subtle hints and put yourself in a position where he will have to take the step to kiss you. I bet you didn’t know this but you can actually use the friend zone to your advantage. Well, before I actually give you advice I think it is important to study WHY he won’t commit to you. I want to repeat that the only time you should use this tactic is if you have tried everything else above.
This will take an amazing amount of discipline on your part because the truth is that you still have feelings for this person and putting him in the friend zone goes against everything you think is right. It is kind of mean and again, will take a lot of discipline on your part BUT it can be highly effective.
First off, it might make him a little bit jealous and jealousy is never a bad thing because it just proves he does have feelings for you. The truth is that men who go after easy women don’t want a real relationship with them, they just want a one night stand with no strings attached.
I am assuming, since you are reading this page on my site, that right now you and your ex boyfriend aren’t on speaking terms. You probably want to contact your ex, ask how he is doing, beg a little bit and eventually get upset because he isn’t giving you the time of day.
Most people don’t respond well to silence and if your ex feels like you are ignoring him, which you are, he will go a little crazy trying to get a hold of you.
If you weren’t on speaking terms with him immediately after the breakup then hopefully the minimum time frame of 30 days will have settled him down enough for him to accept and respond to your texts.
By sending him the confession text and getting him to check his phone every five minutes waiting for your response you are going to reinforce the behavior that he is used to when he has strong feelings for a girl. I feel I have accomplished that by showing you some very effective methods to get him to talk to you again.
In that time I said to him that we could see each other when I was free… to not appear too needy and too available to see him but a week after when I asked him to go out he said that maybe we could see after my graduation. Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I am sad to say that I see a lot of this (ex boyfriends ignoring their ex girlfriends) thus it would be an understatement to say that I am experienced at diving in to the male mind and dissecting it. In the movie John Williams composed a score for Steven Spielberg that has gone on to become a classic. Anyways, any time women call, text or show up unannounced to their ex boyfriends house I picture that music playing.
I really want you to understand this section so I am going to define common desperate actions that ex girlfriends take and look at them from a males perspective. A girl who has to message someone that much is displaying two qualities that are a turnoff to every human being on this planet. It is like they hand you a cheat code and you lose all your interest after a certain amount of time.
So, the other big mistake that women make that can cause their ex boyfriend to want to ignore them is spamming his phone with calls.
Not only will it creep me out on a level I have never known before but I am really not going to pick up a phone now. You can tell all of that over the phone (and with a text you would have no clue.) I wanted to point this element out because I feel it adds to the fact that he may be ignoring you.
I think back and those experiences and just cringe because that is how uncomfortable they made me. He didn’t laugh to her face, he laughed behind her back and even showed me the letter making fun of some of the heartfelt words that she had said.
If they don’t get their way in a relationship (or even after one) they will find ways to manipulate you emotionally. It was in my very first relationship ever and as you can imagine, that version of me was not a great guy. Women who wind up in situations like this have typically wronged their ex in horrific ways. Of course, I said that above but I failed to go into the actual ways in which women can wrong men. It is highly unlikely that your ex is going to drop off the face of the earth and never contact you again. An ugly response isn’t one where he just dismisses you it is one where he also disses you. What if I told you that I have found a way that allows you to accomplish that while remaining in control?
The experts will tell you that you have to send interesting texts that will capture his attention.
This is important because it will bring up nostalgic feelings in your ex and he can’t help but want to respond positively!
Just a little information: in October last year he joined the military and we were unable to communicate until December when he had two weeks off for Christmas.
The first month was amazing, spent tons of time together talked about a lot of life wants, goals, great chemistry.
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago because he said he just didn’t feel the same way he did when we first started going out. I usually spend a day or two looking online for other ideas to incorporate into my writing but I wasn’t able to find a guide covering this topic because it is one that very few people want to talk about.
Stop what you are doing for a few moments and search through some of the other guides on this site and look at the comments. Then you should try everything you can (in the smartest way possible) to try to get them back if something happens that causes you to break up. Throughout the course of your attempt things aren’t going exactly as you planned so you give up.
You have to keep trying until you are absolutely sure that your attempt isn’t worth it anymore.
You will notice that I talk about a lot of the signs that an ex boyfriend is no longer worth pursuing. What I would like to talk about is what happens after the no contact period and it is probably one of the most negative outcomes that can occure.
After the initial 30 day period was up you decided to compose a text message to send to your ex boyfriend. Imagine for a moment that your relationship with your ex boyfriend was filled with nothing but negativity.
The most successful couples are the ones that can navigate through the fights and take something positive from them. While their relationship was good in almost all the other areas they have one major problem, they fight a lot.
Well, I don’t know about you but fighting can create some pretty bad feelings so not only can it lead to more negative responses (like we discussed above) but it can cause more fighting AFTER the breakup occurs. Sometimes no matter how calm one party remains the chemisty and history between the couple will trump all logic and you will find yourself in an emotional fight. It really doesn’t matter who broke up with who all that matters is the fact that we did indeed break up.
Usually, if the words are muttered during a super emotional time you can disregard them because deep down he may not mean it.
While those words may mean something what you really need to be looking at are his actions. One thing I have been noticing more and more is that I can almost predict which women have the best chances of getting an ex boyfriend back and it all has to do with the relationship they had with their ex. Just by knowing what you know about relationships which “fake couple” do you think has a better chance of getting back together? When I talk to women who get their exes back one common thread I see between the many successes is the fact that a lot of them had very good relationships with their ex boyfriend. In this case every time your ex boyfriend thinks back to your relationship instead of being filled with a bunch of bad feelings he is going to be filled with good feelings.
Meaning that all we are interested in is finding out the latest information, the newest stuff if you will.
I actually have some experience with this phenomenon as I have been through a very bad breakup in my life. In fact, out of everything that I have ever talked about on this website this concept in this section is the thing that many people fail to really see through. Determining how to figure out if your relationship with your ex boyfriend is worth it is not a particularly easy process. We got back together 4 days later and he broke up with me another 3 years later, this time with reasons even he was unsure about until recently, after some soul searching I guess you could say. Descriptions could have been more detailed to give better understanding ?? but overall a very great and interesting post! You see, every once in a while I decide to put a lot of effort into making a long in-depth guide on a particular subject. Now, before you spend the rest of your day crying I can tell you that there are certain things you can do that can increase your chances of getting him to fall for you again. In most successful cases I have found that it can take months and sometimes years to finally re-attract them.
Using this valuable knowledge you can figure out if your ex is worth pursuing again and if you can potentially have a long lasting relationship with him.
So, figuring out if you can have a successful and long lasting relationship with this person again is kind of an important thing to figure out.
So, the point I am really trying to make here is that there is always something to improve on if you look hard enough. After you have a good grasp at that I am going to teach you what you need to do to become the UG for your ex boyfriend which should spark his interest in you again. Maybe they want to spare your feelings, maybe they just don’t think a conversation is worth the effort, maybe they are just insecure about themselves and project that insecurity onto you.
It is important that you understand this because what I am about to do is pull back the curtains and tell you some of the cruel thoughts I have thought about women over the years. Cruel thoughts are replaced with fantasies and weak knees which I will talk about a little bit later. I am not trying to make you self conscious or anything like that but this is the gods honest truth.
For now, I want you to throw the low points of your relationship away (no matter how low.) I want you to close your eyes and think back to the high points of your relationship.
We have already established that an ungettable girl will maintain control in conversations causing the man to chase her (reigniting his competitive desires) but we haven’t discussed how to know if you are maintaining control correctly. The problem with this guide is the subject matter is so complex I know you are going to have a lot of questions, questions that I simply can’t cover.
This is going to take some work on your part but I think you might actually have fun with it. Do not move on to the next step until you have 5 emotional memories that make your heart skip a beat.
Go through the five memories that you picked out and think if he will be affected as much as you were by the memory.
It was nothing sexual (though there were times) but it was just a feeling of being together that she and I both enjoyed. In this section I am going to be talking about something I have never talked about before on this site…. Have you ever wondered why I spend so much time on this site constantly telling women to work on themselves first before they try to get an ex back? Well, that ends today because I am about to give you a brief overview of what you need to do to recreate that attraction. I have kissed girls who I had no feelings for before but I have never held hands with one I didn’t.
Yup, there is a specific way that you can get your ex to want you back using the friend zone and I am about to teach it to you. The reason this is so hard is that there will be moments where you will be really tempted to break because your ex (who you have feelings for) will be right there in front of you.
Essentially, this is your last ditch effort to reignite his feelings and make him fall in love with you all over again. This is really important because you want to start to give him some hope that he has a chance with you when before in the friend zone he didn’t feel he did.
Every single day I get a minimum of at least twenty emails from women who are all over the place emotionally because they aren’t on speaking terms with their ex. I want to tell you something about men, seeing as how I am one and know what it is like when a girl contacts me in the way I described above.
However, you have to send your text a certain way and you have to understand that the more disciplined you are during your conversation with him the better off you will be. Even if you came up with the most fascinating text in the world you wouldn’t be his top priority.
I have wished him happy easter and nothing, today I have asked him how’s going his thesis because he will get graduate and nothing.


Oh, and it also helps that I am a male myself so I kind of know what I am talking about ;).
I want to give you a few steps going forward that you can implement to improve your chances of getting him to speak to you. Men can sense desperation and your desperate activities are the equivalent to blood in the water for a shark. Given a choice between someone texting too much vs someone calling too much I would always choose texting too much.
Now, if she had tried a different approach she would have had him on his hands and knees begging for her back (I know my buddy, trust me it is possible.) However, she tried the desperate approach and this is what happens when you go full on desperate, you get laughed at behind your back. Anyways, I didn’t like the way the relationship was going so I ended up ignoring my girlfriend for an entire day. Essentially how this works is that your ex boyfriend is using the no contact rule on you on purpose. I have a buddy whose wife actually cheated on him eight different times with eight different men. If a woman did any of the following things to me I would seriously consider cutting her out of my life. First off, remember way back when I talked about how desperate women are the number one turnoff that makes men ignore their exes?
By essentially implementing a no contact rule you can get him to scramble for your approval instead.
If you have successfully completed the no contact rule for thirty days then you are going to go on the offensive again but this time you are going to do it my way. Initially, when you send this text message out you aren’t going to get a positive response right off the bat. If he does respond then you are going to take out a stopwatch or phone and wait between 30-60 minutes.
It is the equivalent to having an audience on the edge of their seat waiting to find out what happens next. The second month he became a little distant and shared he was afraid he was falling into the same pattern and wasn’t ready for a serious relationship.
We met about a year ago when we started working together and I liked pretty much from the first time we talked and I’m thinking it was the same for him. Back in January, we stopped talking for a month which was the longest we hadn’t talked in two years. I do not know what to do, I want to talk to him but at the same time the whole situation I’m lost. I became messed up and finally my bf , after having a nice and quiet day staying in, and spending time with me, left the house and in 2 hours texted me and broke up!!! Now, the one wrinkle in this philosophy is that sometimes what you want isn’t always the best thing for you in the long run.
For example, sometimes the only way to tell if a situation is helpless is for you to actually try to get your boyfriend back.
However, just because I do my best to lay things out for you doesn’t mean that its going to be easy. In other words, these are signs of resistance that an ex boyfriend will give you when things aren’t going well. Now, most ex boyfriends are going to respond after the no contact period BUT lets say that your ex boyfriend doesn’t. This is why I usually recommend to the women reading this site to never get in a fight with your ex boyfriend no matter what. Do you honestly think that you would be able to create that “new and better” relationship that I am always going on about? So, when you really take a step back and look at the situation objectively do you see him being able to put in the amount of effort you are when it comes to bettering the relationship? It all ties into the bad feelings that your ex may associate with you when he thinks back to your relationship.
Then he will think back to the time that you got jealous over something that wasn’t that big of a deal and associate that with a bad feeling.
All I can tell you is that still even to this day I think about how bad it was and it is one of the reasons that I would not consider getting back with that particular ex. I go into this mini depression thinking that the world had ended and that I will be alone for the rest of my life.
He was truthful about it, even telling me that he was going out for a lunch with the other girl before they went out. That means they have a previous comment than the comment that you were named Summer so, when filtered tbe newest comments also appeared too, that’s why their latest got answered.
However she was ignoring him, and she ended up spilling everything about his and her past to her friend. However, I don’t really get who’s texting and there are still some misunderstanding to who’s the text is to and what links they have together before. The descriptions you included in the pictures were short, but elaborate so it really helped when I needed to understand. Out of all the articles I have written for this site it is the guides that visitors get the most out of and I expect this one to be no different.
In this guide that is what we are going to be focusing on, how to best improve your chances of making him have feelings for you again. I kind of still do but here is the thing you have to understand about cruelness between women and men. I know this paints me in a shallow light but this is the truth, this is how my brain literally works.
The only problem was that at 13 you really don’t know what to do when you have a crush on someone. To me, biology is a very boring subject so as you can imagine I was struggling to stay awake. There is just one problem, all the other men at this public event are drawn to you as well. So, if you are confused at any time just leave a comment or get my E-Book because everything is explained in there perfectly. So, how this works is that you basically go to hug him except this isn’t a normal hug this is a more passionate one.
To men, any sign of neediness or desperation, and make no mistake about it, begging and crying display those qualities, are a complete turn off.
Men are very visual creatures and I am not going to lie to you, they will have no problem breaking up with a girl if they are… overweight, have skin issues or if they consider them to be too ugly.
Because if there is anything I have learned in my years here on earth it is that friends are blabber mouths ;).
You have his attention and now it is time for you to send him something positive that will fill him with good romantic feelings towards you. He needs more space and you are going to have to wait some more time before you reach out to him again.
If you want to learn more about how to get your ex back then I suggest you visit my complete guide on doing so.
Essentially, this is a person who texts multiple times, even though they don’t get a response. However, when I get too much attention from them (in the form of texting) it becomes a complete turnoff.
I understand that women are emotional by nature but when you show that much desperation, guys begin to get really scary thoughts. Unfortunately, a lot of times what happens is when you get a girl who sends a lot of unanswered texts that leads to her calling way too much. One way that exes know they can get under your skin is to simply ignore you for a couple of days.
I didn’t do it because I needed a break or a refresh, which I think would be ok, I did it from a place of anger to punish my girlfriend.
It is one of those rare cases where you kind of want him back and he kind of wants you back.
So, this is one case where I am the exception to the rule and my insight kind of suffers because of it. I like to tell my visitors that any text you send him has to be so interesting that it would be impossible for him to ignore it.
I was always honnest with him saying that I wanted a serious relayionship and that I wanted to have children. A few days later I texted asking him again how he was and since then he never replied , it has been nearly 4 weeks . He had a girlfriend at the time but after about 3 months of knowing each other, he kissed me. Before that happened I was always complaining about him not having enough time for me for months because of his job. So, being the smart woman that you are, you decide to wait a week and then text your ex again.
The chances are very high that the two of you will talk again but it needs to be on his terms and not yours.
I am talking about the type of fighting where they are both yelling at the top of their lungs and saying the most hurtful things they can think of to each other. She was saying all the right things and making me feel like I was the only one she cared about. Eventually the stress of the relationship gets to be too much for both of us and we break up. The process will go on and on and it all ties into how bad your relationship with your ex was before the breakup. For instance, if you and I had amazing conversations for two weeks straight but had one fight the next week for some reason all that we would focus on is the pain that, that fight causes us and not the amazing conversations that we had prior to the fight.
The trick is to find a perfect balance between living in the now while thinking towards the future. When we first met, he tried to convince me that the age gap was not a big deal, and now this happened. And, I praise you for doing text message multimedia response’s because (from my class view) it’s different and new to me. It doesn’t just end there though, you can actually get a lot from watching other people in relationships.
The way she talks is annoying to me and I just get this sense that she would stab anyone in the back to get ahead. Not only will your value increase because of this but men will get competitive over each other for you. I don’t want you to hold hands I just want your hand so close that they touch every once in a while.
You hold it a little longer and then once the time comes you pull away a little bit as he pulls away and then you look into his eyes for a while, get a little closer to him and see if he takes the bait! Of course, before I dive in to the good stuff there are a few things that I need to make you aware of. Of course, there will always be the oddball guy that is so pathetic that he actually feeds off of making women beg and cry but usually those are very rare.
Successfully completing the NC rule for a minimum of 30 days is going to take a tremendous amount of discipline. That means, if his friends think you are looking better than ever then he will eventually hear it and get curious. You can bet your butt that your ex boyfriend, no matter how bad the breakup was, will be looking at your profile. By waiting an hour the chances of him checking his phone for your response every five minutes is raised drastically. Now, no matter what happens after that I want you to end this conversation thread with him by not responding. Also, I am very involved with this site so if you leave a comment I will be responding to it. The conversations seemed mechanical, sometimes emotional but he never wanted to discuss what happened etc. I took the liberty of locating a text gnat for you so you can better understand what I am talking about here.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
However, if someone were to give me all the cheat codes to the game it no longer becomes as fun.
Now, I do want to point out that this is essentially the same thing I recommend doing with the no contact rule. In the end, I think he was just confused about what he wanted and he stuck with his girlfriend.
I broke the ice sending him a picture of something i knew he liked and telling him i thought he might like it.
During the past year we were on the rocks for almost like 40percent of time; and we lived in the same house. Do you think you could fight in a way where something gets accomplished rather than in a way meant to hurt the other person? So, what better way for you to show off the new you to him by taking a picture and posting it on your profile? Sure, it may be a little fun at first but eventually when the cheat codes make it that easy to complete I will lose interest. If you acted desperate your ex would have gotten into the routine of ignoring you because you were desperate. He helped me with a fundraiser I was putting on and was so helpful and supportive, over the summer we’d see each other or text every week.
I tried not to be needy and I did good for a while but he never gives me answers to any of my questions and he rarely replies to me. The once a week call would nor even reach 1 hour because he’s tired and had to work overtime. So after we have been apart for three months due to some administrative paper work that he needed to take care of, he came back to me so awkwardly, full of complexes and saying stuff from here and ther..
However, every time I would try to take the next step and ask her on a date she would either say she couldn’t or she would accept the date and cancel it at the last minute. If you want to try again before moving on, you have to take it slow and instead of asking him, make him feel he would want you back by building rapport and attraction by being the ungettable girl But the tricky part is, ungettable girls always show their valuable and that they can walk away if the guy doesn’t present equal value. She can walk into the room and men will look at her and know that there is an aura surrounding her. It’s unfortunate too because the NC rule is probably the most effective tactic that you can use to not only get your ex boyfriend back but to get on speaking terms with him. If I am in that kind of mood then trust me, you aren’t going to get me to talk on the phone. When you do something like the no contact rule you really don’t want to ignore your ex boyfriend, you want to give him time to calm down and also improve yourself in the process. So, when you stop acting desperate he is going to perk his head up and try to sniff out the reason why you stopped being desperate. The end of summer he dropped away and when I reached out he didn’t respond then at an event he ignored me all day. We started talking again and then slowly started flirting again (really, the attraction has always been mutual and there) and became pretty close.
Last week I ended up losing it and sent too many texts which led him to say that I’m cut off but I called 5 days later and he answered.
I saw him a couple of weeks ago (by accident) and we exchanged a couple of words and he seemed friendly and interested in my life. These actions would suggest that he feels an attraction for you and may still want you back.
I want you to show that you are in control of the conversation and you have the power, not him.
I reached out One last time and he said he was leaving town for a month and to have a good rest of summer.
I called once everyday for three days and on the third day he just didn’t seem interested in calling so I lost it again and called many times.
The day after I texted him again just to see how he was and I was getting pretty neutral responses.
That situation made me texted him and asked him if it could be possible to meet to catch up and he answered he is out of town and when he comes back he’ll be busy. He used to initiate but for the past month, it seems like I’m the only one initiating.
He told me he didn’t have an answer yet, and he said he would be able to talk to me in a month or so when he has a weekend off.
Fall came around and I needed closure so I wrote him an email sharing my thoughts and how I had feelings that whole time. I asked him if everything was okay with us and he told me that yes and that hes good but that he texted me on this day and never got a response so he wasn’t sure. I love him very much still but its been a day of no contact ( i had to speak with him because we needed to move his stuff out). I asked me what situation we were in, and he said I wanted to take a break, so we were taking a break. A couple of days after I accidentally found out that he has a facebook account without my knowledge when I installed facebook messenger but when I asked him about it, he simply changed his account name and privacy setting. I kept listening and he confessed that he was worried and it is time for me to consider my future options to settle down, cuz of my age, and he is not ready to do so ( i never ever mentioned getting serrious even in future). He is very angry (understandably), and i really do love him, and i want to be there for him. When I initiate, he would respond late, the next day, carry on the conversation for a bit and then just stop replying me. A month passed by and he didn’t contact me, so I emailed him saying that I was done waiting for his answer that never came. We talked for maybe half the day but I feel like I was the one trying to keep the conversation alive.
Oh, I did that because he was constantly posting things on Facebook, so I knew he had free time.
Then I said sorry and brought up the facebook thing saying that he must be hiding something from me. I can’t do NC for very long because i need to speak to him about the rest of his stuff. He got extremely upset when he found out she had a new boyfriend so I thought I should back off a little.
And two weeks after I sent him a message about something that remind me of him, and I asked him if this is really what he wanted.
Then after 2 months he started to get so close to his girl best friend which is a close friend of mine, and she is 33!! He said that I didn’t make an effort and I never made a move on any of the hints he was giving me. Just straight forward “please give me a time and day you can come by and grab your stuff. But once i brought the issue to my friend to help me realizing the situation by giving some time to me and take one step back so that i can understand my feelings for the whole situation( i have been under deppression for arround 6 months), i wanted to prevent complications by missjudging the stuff. I was so worried about how he was feeling and giving him space that I never thought about voicing what I wanted. Nothing crazy, just the kind of upset you’d be when you find out someone you really wanted to be with is with someone else because you were too afraid to make a move.
He told me that if I thought it was unfair that I should’ve done something about it and that I needed to be an adult and accept it. I just want to end this but I’m not sure if writing a break up letter would be the best thing to do. I’ve went by work a couple of times and just tried to have a casual conversation and it was the worst. I helped him through a lot, was there listening to his problems, helped him get someone to talk to. I think maybe part of it is that he still has feelings for me, that doesn’t go away after two weeks.




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