I know it sucks and I know you feel like that there is nothing more important in your life than getting your ex girlfriend back. You probably feel like you’d do anything to get your ex girlfriend back, don’t you? The first step of this plan is a list of deadly horrible mistakes that will push your ex girlfriend (and possibly every other female) a mile away. I don’t know why, but it’s the most common advice that people give to guys who want their ex girlfriend back. I knew this guy who was ready to leave his job, his career, and move to another city and join college just to be with his ex.
If you are agreeing to everything your ex says, then you are just showing how much desperate you are to be with her.
So, there is no point in telling her how much you love her or how much you miss her, or how much you can’t live without her. When my girlfriend started dating someone after the breakup, it felt like someone stabbed me in the heart. Note: I know that for many guys it’s a lot harder to deal with when you find out your ex is sleeping with someone else, especially if you are in love with her. You just have to stay no-contact with her till the time you can handle communications with her and still make progress in your life. If you are in school or in college and you have to see her everyday in class, you can still apply no-contact. This is the part of the plan where you have to learn to take care of yourself without your ex-girlfriend and start being a happy and confident guy; not the needy, desperate imbecile who was ready to do anything just so a girl would accept to be with him.
First of all, you need to understand that you will feel a lot of emotions during this period.
After my breakup, I was such a mess that I had no idea when I was eating, when I was sleeping and what I was doing with my life. I know that sometimes, all you want to do is just lay in bed, watching TV or just sit on your couch and play video games all day long.
While, that may be a good line in a cheesy romantic movie; it’s not a good reason to rekindle a dead relationship which was making both of you miserable. It will be a little hard for you since she is going to go out there and get involved with other guys.
Then, there can be the case where she wanted something else in life and you wanted something else. So, you were out with your friends, you met this cute girl, you started drinking and before you know it, BAM you cheated on your girlfriend.
On the other hand, if this was just a onetime occurrence, and you just did it because you were drunk or you were to tempted; then you have to consider the fact that it will extremely tough to build trust with her again. On the other hand, there are times when you are the one who broke up with your girlfriend and you want her back. If you broke up with her, then chances are, you want to get her back just because you miss her or because you feel lonely. After my breakup, there were times where I just felt like the only thing I want in my life is her. You also need to develop a mentality that there is an abundance of love and happiness out there. After you’ve finished the no-contact period, it’s time for you to start contact with her again. The letter needs to be short explaining how you have accepted the breakup and you also think that it’s for the best. Now, these text messages don’t work unless you have completely stopped texting her prior to this. Now, you have to keep the conversation short, so make sure when whatever she answers, you tell her that you have something to do.
The best way to ask your ex out is by calling her and asking her if she’d like to hang out with you. A few alternatives are shopping, dancing (if you are into it), a football game (if she is into it), a theme park, mini golf etc. If she brings up the relationship, just tell her that it’s all in the past and you don’t want to talk about it.
You might also want to learn a few things about attraction and seduction before going on this date.
Use your judgment to determine where she is at, and whether or not she is attracted to you enough to pop the question.
To Get Access To Step 5 (email-series) Please Enter Your Name And Email And Click On Submit. My ex girlfriend of two months dumped because she felt we were more like friends than a couple. Since you were in a relationship for only two months, I suppose you two weren’t too much invested in each other. I wrote the letter about how I am now at peace with the breakup and i even aplogized for how I acted after the breakup. Of course, as time ticks by you begin to realize just how much she meant to you.  How in love with her you really were. Before you sent that text your hopes were so high, you were daydreaming of your future together with her.
So, the question you are probably wondering is how the heck are you supposed to navigate a situation like this where you want your ex girlfriend back but she has moved on to a new boyfriend.Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? I suppose the best place to start is by taking a look at the potential risks of trying to get an ex with a new boyfriend back.
For example, you obviously came to this page because you want your ex girlfriend back and she has a new boyfriend.
Men, by nature, are very protective of their women so I guarantee you that to the new boyfriend you trying to get his girlfriend back is going to paint you in a light where you are an enemy.
So, obviously the big risk you run by trying to win your ex girlfriend back in this case is that you could become a common enemy between your ex and her new boyfriend which will ultimately cause them to be closer together. Being a common enemy between your ex and her new boyfriend is one of the worst positions that you could possibly be in. If you can be subtle but effective in your intentions to win your ex girlfriend back you will most likely NOT be looked at by your ex as a common enemy. Lets say that you are very subtle in your intentions to get your ex girlfriend back but over time your methods start to work.
Inevitably she is going to talk to the one person who is supposed to support her and understand her no matter what, her boyfriend.
She may not be completely honest with him about what is going on in her mind but she is going to say things to him to try to test him to see if he is ready for the truth. Eventually the truth is going to come out and how do you think the new boyfriend is going to react to discovering that his girlfriend (your ex) is still hung up on you? In fact, a massive fight or breakup might occur and now you are looking like you are in a really good position.
Again, YOU didn’t physically cause this breakup or fight, your ex did because of her feelings for you. So, I am not going to sit here and tell you that if you follow every little step I outline on this page that your ex girlfriend is going to break up with her current boyfriend and come running back to you. Ok, let me put this in simpler terms so you really have a good grasp at what this page is going to do for you. Imagine for a moment that in every single breakup that occurs between a couple a certain percentage is assigned to it. You may have noticed that I gave people whose exes have moved on to another man a 20% chance of getting back together. Well, that 20% number is based on you trying to get your girlfriend back without any of my advice. Imagine that you follow the advice on this page and get to a place where your ex girlfriend is confused about her feelings for you and her new boyfriend. Anyways, I think it’s safe to say that your ex girlfriend is going to be comparing her relationship with her new boyfriend to her relationship with you. If your ex girlfriends new boyfriend does that during their relationship and you didn’t during yours with her then when she is going to make the comparison between you and her new guy she is definitely going to think the new guy is better and that is going to put you at a disadvantage. Because usually a girl who has a better guy isn’t going to leave him to put herself back in a situation where she is treated poorly. One of the biggest assets I can bring to you with this page is my experience in dealing with thousands of couples. That some of these women want their exes back even after they have done HORRIBLE things to them. For example, there was once a girl that came to my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, who was dating a new guy but wanted her ex back even though he cheated on her six times with six different women. So, what did this guy (who had done horrible things to her in the past) have that drew her in so much that she wanted to leave her perfectly good boyfriend? At first that was what I thought but the more I talked to her about her particular situation I began to realize that there was something else going on in her head. In other words, even though some women find themselves in a situation where they are clearly better off relationship wise sometimes the appeal of the connection can trump everything. For example, if your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend that treats her like a queen she may still be more drawn to you because she has a connection with you that the new boyfriend can’t top. So, if you were to ask me how to get your ex girlfriend back in a situation where she has moved on and her new man treats her well then I would say you would have to hit her where she will be affected most, her romantic feelings for you. Like I said, a comparison between you and the new guy is eventually going to happen no matter what it just a question of when.
Well, lets pretend that your ex girlfriend has been dating her new boyfriend for 2 months exactly. Then that is a very good sign because it means you are winning the comparison battle against her new guy. If your ex girlfriends new boyfriend isn’t treating her the way a woman should be treated in a relationship then she could soon be maneuvering to go back to the thing that makes her feel better than anything, YOU!
Believe it or not but your ex girlfriend moving on may actually be a good thing in the long run. For example, if your ex girlfriend breaks up with you and starts dating someone new who treats her really well like we talked about in the comparison section above your exes GIGS is going to be verified and as a result it is going to be much harder to get her back. I want you to be aware that the GIGS exists and could have been a possible reason for the breakup between you and your ex.
The game plan is divided into four major steps and as usual I will be giving you a lot of in-depth insight into each one of these steps. First though, lets take a look at the steps you will need to successfully complete to even have a chance of getting your girlfriend back. I have been doing this for quite some time and I have seen firsthand how hard it is for some men to stay in NC when they see their woman with another man. If you could compare a relationship to a fire a woman would expect the man to start that fire.
One of the greatest fears for men who enter into the NC rule during this situation is that their exes are going to get so close to their new man that they will completely forget about their old one.
Ok, imagine if you completed your no contact rule and called your ex and begged for her back. I know that may sound a little controlling or possessive but the truth is I honestly don’t care at this point. I know that may sound weird and counterproductive but if you really think about it, it’s not. Like I said above, it is very rare for a man to be ok with the fact that his girlfriend or wife is good friends with her ex. In other words, you becoming friends with your ex is going to cause your exes new man to go absolutely ballistic when he finds out that she is talking to you and this is what you want. Providing emotional support for your ex girlfriend (when you become friends) is really where you are going to shine. If she can’t get the emotional support she needs from her own boyfriend but from you then when she makes that inevitable comparison between you and the new guy she is going to take that into account. A big mistake I see a lot of men making is the fact that they jump into the deep end instead of wading into the shallow one when it comes to building attraction.
Ok, lets say that you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back and she has just gotten a new boyfriend. I am a fan of a subtle build up with text messages which eventually lead to phone calls which eventually lead to a face to face meeting.
Using the guide in the link above you should be able to properly build attraction with the build up technique.
So, don’t take it personally if your ex declines your offer to meet up for a hang out. Because a woman who is truly in love with a man wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize that relationship.
Luckily for you, if she accepts your offer for a casual hang out, it means that she doesn’t care enough about her current boyfriends feelings to not hang out with you.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back. My question is do i give her a hundred percent NC with the possibility she will think i have moved on and confirm the thought of me being only jealous.
Welcome to the ultimate guide to using text messages to get back together with your ex girlfriend. Naturally, I got curious to see if such a guide existed online right now and I was shocked to learn that one hadn’t been created yet.
Look, I am going to get bold here and say that never before has a guide this in-depth been created (and given out for free on the internet) for men wanting to understand exactly what to text to their ex girlfriends. With that guide not only will you gain more insight into what you should text your ex to get her back but it will show you everything that you need to do in order to win her back. Not to mention that it has over 250 example texts that you can use!Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? You can spam your ex girlfriend with text messages and leave her thinking that you are a psycho. You can send a bunch of really hateful messages to your ex girlfriend and hurt your chances of getting her back.
So, explain to me your reasoning behind sending someone, who you desperately want back, really mean messages that could potentially drive them away? In other words, the more your ex girlfriend associates bad feelings with you the less likely she will come back to you.
Look, with this guide I am going to teach you to do something so much more powerful than begging. I am going to be teaching you how to influence your ex to take you back so she thinks it was her idea when the fact was that it was your influence that got her to get back with you.
The No Contact Rule- A set period of time where you don’t talk, text or call your girlfriend at all. The advantage of using a no contact rule before you text your ex is the fact that you can kind of get her on the ropes a little bit.
For the next few hours she is constantly checking her phone waiting for a response except you are doing the 21 day NC which means a response won’t come.
Of course, since you didn’t respond to her emotional message she is hurt and promises to never text you again for the rest of her life which she articulates to you in a text ?? .
While this page is dedicated to text messages it is important to remember that the overall goal you are trying to achieve here is not to just learn how to text your ex girlfriend it’s to actually get her back. While it is not impossible to get your ex girlfriend back through text messages it is highly unlikely. Getting an ex girlfriend back is probably not going to be done strictly through text messages. In my massive 12,000 word guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back I talk a lot about having a game plan. After the no contact rule you will use texts to build attraction which should eventually lead to a phone call where you will build attraction and by then you will have built up enough attraction to earn yourself a date. While rebuilding attraction is essential for getting your ex girlfriend back it isn’t the main goal you are trying to accomplish here.
It just so happens that building attraction through texting is how you advance to the next level of the game plan.
Again, you should really check out that massive guide I put together because it will explain things better than I can in the short amount of space I dedicated to it here. Before I can start getting into the tactics that you can use to help move the reconnection process along there are a few things I need to teach you about text messages. My point here is that word count and how interested a person is in what you have to say can have a direct correlation most of the time. It’s interesting to me that no one really ever talks about the importance of response time when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. In this section I am going to teach you everything that you will need to know about response time when it comes to using text messages. Now, before I really get started here I do want to say that not everything I say in this section will hold true to you.
It is best to look at response time as a gauge of how interested the other party is in what you are saying (just like word count.) For example, in my book, I give an example where I was texting a girl and I responded to her texts every few hours. Sure, she may have texted her friends a lot but during the high point of your relationship you were probably priority number one to her. Don’t worry, that is what this entire guide is for and I will be giving you the step by step plan on texting her a little later. There is a way in which you can do this through the use of a text message to get a quick response and ironically it all has to do with your own response time. Well, putting it into practice can be really tough because there are two battles that you are going to be fighting. What you will have successfully done if you pull this off is that you just made her realize how much she wants to hear from you and her response time should be quicker from that point on. You wait for what seems like an eternity (5 minutes) and you constantly check your phone waiting for that text message to hit but it never does. Essentially, if you are put in this position where you desperately want a text response you are left wanting more. You know, the part where I go on and on about how you desperately want a person to text you back but they won’t.
No, I am afraid I am going to have to give credit to pretty much every girl that has ever rejected me because every single one has successfully been able to do this to me.
If you end a texting conversation with your ex girlfriend and you successfully leave her wanting more here is what will happen. Second – When you do decide to message her again (either later in the day or the next day) she will respond very quickly to your text message. As you can see there are a lot of advantages to ending a conversation where she wants more. Let me start off by saying that in order to leave your ex girlfriend wanting more she is going to have to be invested in a texting conversation. Lets pretend that the string of text messages that have all three characteristics but are a bit negative (again, this is something you have to feel out.) Do you think you should end the conversation there? The four responses is something I covered in the how to get your ex girlfriend back guide pretty intensely. Well, since the four responses directly relates to texting it only makes sense that I talk about them again within this guide.
Every single time you get a positive response to a text message you are slowly inching closer to your goal of getting your ex girlfriend back. The challenge that you are going to face is that you are going to have to decipher if the message you got was a neutral response or just a fake neutral response. However, when you are starting a conversation and you get a neutral response then you need to pay attention because that means you probably shouldn’t engage her for a while.
If you are getting a response like that from your ex then you have some serious work to do. In my experience, negative responses (when dealing with exes) usually always revolve around how bad the breakup was. If there was a lot of yelling, name calling, things thrown and mental warfare from both sides then I think you had yourself a pretty bad breakup. Don’t worry, you will text her eventually but it is going to have to be later down the road when her emotions have settled in a bit.
What you really need to watch out for is the NR when you reach out to start a conversation.
Coincidentally that is what the next section is all about, the first text after no contact. Assuming you have followed my instructions (by implementing a no contact rule) the first type of communication you are going to have with your ex girlfriend after the no contact rule is going to be done through a text message. Generally speaking a text message will yield a higher response rate and also a phone call after a no contact rule may seem out of place. Hey, I am a huge fan of surprises but when it comes to this stuff surprises are never a good thing.
Oh, and in case you forgot the main goal of this entire guide is to use text messages so you can advance to a phone call or a date. This leads us back to the first text message you send after the no contact rule has been completed. When it comes to first text messages your main goal is to get a positive response from your girlfriend.
In other words, your text message has to be so intriguing that she can’t not respond to it. Basically the way it works is that you say that a TV show that you and your girlfriend used to watch reminded you of her.
That means you need to slip back into no contact for 7 days (EVEN if she gets back to you on day 5 of that no contact.) After the 7 days is up it is time to send something that should yield a response 95% of the time. Now, I don’t know about you but if someone texted this to me I would respond immediately fearing the worst.
If your ex girlfriend receives this text then it will only be natural for her mind to be racing with possibilities. However, if you really want my opinion I think you should end the conversation immediately. Rapport is something that you have to earn and you earn it with a slow ascent of text messages that build trust. The situation you find yourself in now is that a breakup occurred between you and your ex girlfriend and that can cause some awkwardness when it comes to texting. I want to give you a brief overview of what you should do to rebuild the rapport with your ex. You send your first initial text after the no contact rule and ended the conversation very quickly. Your next text message should be sent about 1-3 days after the first initial text message after no contact. After that conversion ends I want you to wait a day before you start up another conversation. I want to take a moment and give you some examples of the most interesting type of texts I have come across. I am sure if you think hard enough you can think of some bizarre stories in your life to share. Talking about your previous relationship with your ex girlfriend can be pretty tricky because it is bound to bring up old memories and not all of those old memories are going to be very good.
I would first like to turn our attention to how you should approach talking to your girlfriend about your previous relationship. In fact, there is one particular exercise that I want you to take advantage of during your no contact period. Since we are specifically focusing on your ex here I want you to be prepared when your old relationship comes up.


You know how successful musical artists have a “greatest hits collection” right? Rule 3: None of these memories can be about sex they have to be more about emotional connection type things. You see, you should be talking about how cuddling made you feel and the specific things you liked about. Yes, I get that there are going to be some guys that read this and think it is the lamest thing ever. Ideally, what we hope happens is that you do such a good job texting that your ex girlfriend will want to talk to you on the phone naturally. One of the biggest concerns that most men have when they are about to call a woman is the fact that they are worried that she may be busy or preoccupied. Well, what if I told you that I had discovered a way in which you can transition from a text message to a phone call seamlessly and have a super high success rate. When I was researching ideas on how to transition from texting to phone calls I came across this book that actually recommended that you call your ex during the day (when she could be potentially busy at work.) That is officially the dumbest idea ever. Assuming you want this phone call with your girlfriend to go well you want her to be alone in her room or something like that. Ok, now that you know when to set up a phone call with your ex girlfriend lets talk about how you actually set one up. I have always been of the mindset that you should give a girl a warning before you call her.
Lets say that I am in your shoes and I send the text above to an ex girlfriend I am trying to get back.
If I gradually begin contacting my ex via Text after NC and she generally responds positively, but is not ever the one initiating contact, should I continue to reach out, or at a certain point should I go back to NC?
It happened all of a sudden and no matter what I try to do, she has turned into a complete rock. She gets irritated by my name and she gets blown out if someone takes my name in front of her. She has abused my degree, spoke in harsh way to anyone related to me and main she has hurt me in almost all possible way.
I have been in your shoes and that’s why I’ve written this guide to get you through this difficult time. After my breakup, I read tons of books on breakups, female and male psychology and getting your ex back. Each step is crucial and you must go through each step and be confident enough before moving on to the next one.
I know you wish there was a magic button you can press that will make your ex girlfriend come back in your arms right away.
It’s not attractive and to be honest, after a while it becomes very irritating for your ex. If you were, and you had done some terrible mistake, you could’ve begged for her forgiveness.
Moreover, you are showing to her, that your life, your career, your ambition and your values mean nothing in front of her.
They think if they become friends with their ex girlfriends and listen to all her problems, she will eventually get attracted to you again and want to come back. You have to reach a point where you value your happiness, your life goals, and your mental peace more than her. The best way you can apply no-contact in this situation is you don’t talk to her unless it’s absolutely necessary and its work related.
You don’t really have to talk to her in class and you don’t have to talk to her outside class. You can talk to your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife as long as the conversation is strictly related to the child.
You are going to work on becoming an attractive man, not just to get your ex girlfriend back, but for yourself. You will feel guilt, anger, depression, sadness, loneliness, shock, confusion, denial, fear, jealousy, love and even hate during no-contact.
It’s great for your mental peace and you are going to learn a lot about yourself and your body while doing it.
Believe me, your ex is trying to figure out what you are upto and they will find out that you are putting yourself out there.
Try to highlight your attractive qualities and forget about everything unattractive you have. If you are just answering that it was great and she was perfect, it’s still your breakup brain talking.
Either she was not happy with you, or you two had a fight; in either case, she decided to end the relationship instead of talking about it rationally. She realizes that she has not discovered herself yet and she should probably break up with her boyfriend and explore a little more. However, if you two had a good relationship together, then you still have a pretty solid chance. Girls need to be constantly admired for their beauty and they need to have at least some sort of attraction with their boyfriends. Since you want something completely different in your life, you must stick to the decision of breaking up. Well, she found out and now you are here, reading this long ass article about how to get your ex girlfriend back; hoping there will be something for a cheating sleaze ball like you(no offense, I am just using the words she used while breaking up with you). I’ll highly recommend that you stop all contact with her and start working on becoming happy without her.
There are many ways to do this, but in my experience, the best way to do it is by using a hand written letter followed by text messages. Apologize for your creepy or inappropriate behavior that might have happened after the breakup. If you want a more detailed explanation on how to build attraction with text messages, check out this program from my friend Mike. Unless she has already brought up the topic of you getting back together, you should not rush it. You can have fun and if you want to escalate things from there, you can go to a bar after that.
You want to build positive association with her and any talk about the past relationship and breakup is going to build up negativity. This is why there is big section in the article talking about getting back together for the right reason.
I managed to get her to admit she still loved me many times but before i found any of these websites I made every mistake in the book trying to win her back.
The problem im running into is my friends and family are telling me that if I send the letter it will make me look desperate and clingy.
Time has a funny way of making us realize our mistakes and without a doubt letting your ex girlfriend go was a big one.
You figure the easiest way to do this is to send her a non threatening text message to check up on her.
Of course, after you sent the text that daydream was shattered and replaced with anger, heartache and jealousy.
Well, what do you think would happen if the new boyfriend caught wind of the fact that you wanted your girl back?
Of course, sometimes you will get a boyfriend who can tell when something is off without her even having to say a word.
Of course, the situation you currently find yourself in is one of the hardest to experience as your chances for success are slightly lowered. While that is certainly the outcome that you are praying for it isn’t realistic to assume that, that is going to happen 100% of the time.
However, with that being said it doesn’t hurt to have an expert on your side (me) who has seen so many situations and put so many relationships back together that he can drastically increase your chances of succeeding in almost any situation. Now, most of you who are in that situation are going to see that number and immediately freak out because it’s pretty darn low. Well, all of a sudden that 20% chance of success is bumped up to 50% because you know eventually she is going to have to choose between you and her new boyfriend. I am talking about someone who provides emotional support, someone who listens and tries not to judge, someone who truly cares about her and she realizes it. You see, I have a sister site to this one called, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, where I have helped thousands of women. You will need to find a way to get her to tap into those feelings for you and when she does that is going to dramatically increase your chances of having her run back to you. Humans in general are drawn to things that make them feel good and flee from things that make them feel bad. If your ex broke up with you because she thought she could do better and discovers that she can’t then all of a sudden she is going to be scrambling to get YOUR approval.
Well, if you find yourself in a situation where you are trying to get a girlfriend back who has a new boyfriend you may find that waiting 45 days in no contact is too long. While I am not a fan of becoming overbearing or annoying but I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing very subtle things to remind your ex that you are out there.
Perhaps I am a bit jaded because I have seen so much with regards to exes and I know that any time that exes are friends it usually doesn’t work out.
If you can get her to open up to you and trust you enough to let you in then I guarantee that you are going to come out looking like a star.
When I talk about providing emotional support I am not talking about helping her with her own relationship. Of course, in order to do that successfully you have to create this build up to gain the attraction momentum that you need. It just means that she is being a good girlfriend to her boyfriend and she shouldn’t be punished for that. If she says she wants to get back yes, but other than that, if it’s just a casual hi, nope.
During this time i tried a few times to get back together, but never really putting much effort.
I try to give her space recently because the prom is coming up and he asked her but i keep getting told everything thats happening with them and i gave after a few days of not talking and text her. Basically, I was quite aloof in any relationship, – you could say defensive, so I dont get hurt and a relationship adds on to my life and not be my life in total.
I just want to make it clear, the other guys started texting her while you remained texting even after you called off the engagement right? She started with asking for a piece of clothing and I said that I would look for it (in our final phone call a few days ago, she said to throw away all her things). Either she loves you both and she prefers to stay with the current because she feels more secured with him.. However, with that being said there is a flaw with this guide, that’s all that it covers. While knowing what to say to her via text messages is an important part of the process there is a lot more to winning her back then that. When you go through a breakup do you honestly think that at that moment you are thinking logically? However, you start bordering on the pathetic when you send your ex 20 text messages back to back to back.
In other words, this is the go to guide for teaching you exactly what to say through text messages to start the overall process out.
If you are consistently getting a one word text message response from her THEN you have a right to be worried. Look, your ex girlfriend is a human being and human beings are notoriously hard to predict. Since you dated this girl we can assume that at one point you were her top priority when it came to texting. Obviously if the breakup was really bad then she may not want to talk to you and you will have to earn the right to get those quick responses from her again.
The fastest way to get a quick response from a girl is to build up the anticipation through text messages so that she is constantly waiting for your response to her text. The first battle is going to be the most obvious one in that you have to get her connected in a conversation with you.
This is a concept that I want you to wrap your head around because it is so important when it comes to ending texting conversations with your ex girlfriend. In other words, if she is responding quickly with rather long messages it still might not mean she is emotionally engaged in the conversation. Generally, if you are responding emotionally to her messages then she is probably responding emotionally to yours. Once you find it then that is when you should end the conversation on a high note because that is how you leave someone wanting more.
Of course, I am going to be going a lot more in-depth on them and I will also teach you exactly what you are supposed to do when you get each response.
You send a text message to your ex girlfriend and instead of responding positively she responds in a neutral type of way.
The mistake I see most men making is the fact that they are unable to remain classy when they get a negative response. It basically means that you send a text message and your ex girlfriend doesn’t respond to it. Remember, this is not meant to be a process where you accomplish everything you want to accomplish in a matter of hours. Now, I have thought about how best to explain this to you and finally I settled on this statement.
Seriously, don’t underestimate the negative impact that a breakup can have on text messaging. However, to a woman having a man remind her of something that she would genuinely appreciate being reminded of means that, that particular man cares enough to look out for her.
The more details that you can bring to the table about how you felt, how she felt and about what happened the better. Let me go through a few examples with you so I can show you how to properly use a relationship text. While it’s not anything HUGE about your relationship it is an aspect that filled both of you up with good feelings. I mean, I am sure if a girl I really liked told me that she loved cuddling with me I would be over the moon but the truth is that this text could be so much better. However, it is my experience that most women wait for men to make the first move and that is not a problem because I know exactly what you can do to get your ex talking on the phone in no time. Not in a stalkerish kind of way I just mean you have to be aware of when she will be at work, out with friends or basically any time that it is not socially acceptable to take a phone call. However, in my experience when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back surprises are your enemy. Ive done all the work on myself and I want to start dating my ex again because I feel I am better person today than I was a few months ago. My ex just dropped me a message that we have different expectation and hence she is breaking off. But before we begin, you should know there is no guarantee that you will get your ex girlfriend back. One of the reasons girls leave is because somewhere along the lines, their boyfriends stop being a man for them.
Every inch of your body will tell you to do these mistakes and to the broken heart, these look like the logical thing to do.
Whatever damage you might’ve done till now can still be repaired if you just stop doing them right now.
You don’t want them to think of you as someone who just calls them constantly despite them telling you not to do it anymore. Look at this way, she slept with other guys before you and she will sleep with other guys after you. Every time you contact her, she makes herself believe that you are miserable without her and can’t live without her (and rightfully so). In fact, if you stop contacting her, I can almost guarantee that she will contact you after a while. It will give you the space and time to process all the emotions and the thoughts that you are left after the breakup. You can have a casual “Hello” or “how are you” here and there but try to keep the conversation as less as possible.
It will be hard in the starting but you have to go out there and do some physical activity to keep yourself fit.
Not only it’s a great work out, it’s also great way to socialize and hang out with your friends. You are going to become more aware about yourself and it’s only going to make you more confident and happy.
It could be anything like playing video games or playing the guitar, to building model airplanes.
Go out with your friends as much as you can and force yourself to socialize even if you don’t want to. Most of the time, girls already decide to breakup and they just use the fight as an excuse to breakup. If you want to have a relationship in the future then you both need to work on your communication skill. If your relationship went completely stale, she might leave you in search of happiness and excitement. She decided that it was more important for her to get married or have kids than be with you. If she decides to give it another chance, you will have to be cool with her checking your phone, your emails and your computer for a while. You feel like you’ve made the biggest mistake of your life but you can’t do anything to rectify it. If you get past all this emotional phase of the breakup, and you still want her back, only then you should try to reconcile. Even if things don’t work out with her, there will still be many opportunities for love and happiness in your life.
However, if one of your dates leads to sex, then you can go ahead and ask her the next day.
It’s been 5 days now, and I just know she will contact me soon, and probably want to get together and fix things up. It helped me a lot to understand why when we become very close with our partners the desire goes. I actually feel better writing the letter and would like her to see it but will sending this letter make me look desperate and clingy? You see, on the one hand she has strong feelings for you and on the other hand she has strong feelings for her current boyfriend.
Obviously we are hoping that the new boyfriend is treating her horribly so you look like a prince but lets just say that, that doesn’t happen. I think it’s safe to say that I have heard just about every single story there is when it comes to breakups. Besides, men often have to be the hunters when it comes to relationships so that means that we have to do all the work to get the relationship started or re-started in your case. You have done a shortened NC rule, you have worked on re-establishing your friendship with your ex. What I want to do now is to show you how you should go about creating this perfect build up. Keep building the attraction until she chooses to leave her current man in favor of the better option, you.
Back in December, 2011, I convinced this friend of mine to be my girlfriend, and then the next day, I got too nervous and chickened out of the relationship.
I was trying to give her space to figure out her feelings for herself but instead she got the impression that i wanted nothing to do with her. She also said she would not date him but i can tell that she has fallen for him probably because of my pushing. But, there this girl happened and she swooped me, demanded I give her more attention, and infact I did like someone bothering me much and making me show the love. If you would like the actual step by step method that you should employ to get her back I suggest you take a good hard look at a guide called, The Texting Bible.
For example, if you send a text message to your ex girlfriend that is about 25 words and she responds with a 1 word answer that might be a little troubling. However, just figuring out what type of text messages to send is not going to help you understand the entire situation. What I will be talking about in this section should give you insight into your ex but in the end every single man reading this will be in a different position because every girl out there is unique and what is talked about in this section is a generalization of women. However, if I was texting a girl that I was very interested in and I responded to her texts every few minutes then I am definitely engaged in what she is saying. However, I would say that in most cases she will be willing to talk to you and respond pretty quickly if the breakup wasn’t horrible. This text message has to be sent from her and it has to be one where she opens up emotionally or really wants an answer from you about something. Now, imagine if you could do that to your ex girlfriend so she is literally anticipating your text. Simple, if you leave her wanting more then that means to her YOU are the only want who can satisfy her emotional hunger.
The key to leaving her wanting more is finding the high point of the emotional conversation.
Eventually I get to a point in the conversation where I find a string of text messages that satisfy all of the three characteristics I just talked about. The idea is to end the conversation on a positive note because then she will associate the good feelings she has gotten throughout the conversation with you. For the past month you have essentially ignored her and then all of a sudden she gets a phone call.
While it may cause her extreme anxiety for a while it will also make her realize how much she cares about you and that is what you want.
Essentially, you have followed the plans I have laid out here to a T and they worked for you perfectly. Rather, you accomplish it in a matter of weeks or months but trust me when I say if you are patient the strategies outlined on this page can be extremely effective. Re-building rapport with your ex when it comes to texting is almost the same as re-building trust. At the beginning you would only talk once every three days and towards the end you were talking every day. Now, lets pretend for a moment that you were able to think of something like 15 memories that you could use. If you are going to be talking about an aspect of your old relationship with your ex girlfriend I want you to pay attention to the details and that is something that this text lacks. Now, tell me, what is a bigger surprise to a girl than an ex boyfriend calling her up out of the blue with no warning at all? Nobody wants a person who doesn’t have any ambition, any goals, any values, or any boundaries in his life. In fact, no romantic gesture (even the non-creepy ones) right now will make her believe that you love her. She is in a relationship because leaving you left a huge hole in her life and she is trying to fill it with someone else.
And how long it takes her to forget all the negativity of the breakup and start missing you. After that, even if you are still in the no-contact period, you can (only if you choose to) pick up her calls.


Because somewhere along in the relationship, you stopped being attractive to your girlfriend. I know smoking gives the illusion of relieving stress, but in reality it’s only making you more stressed. It’s hard to obsess over your ex if you are surrounded by people who love and appreciate you. But it can also be an enjoyable experience if you go in with a light heart and without any expectations.
If you don’t get what you want, you still carry on with your life with your head held high and a smile on your face.
I know you might feel like she is the one, and you love her with all your heart and you can’t live without her.
It could be that she was not happy in the relationship and just couldn’t find a reason for the breakup.
If you want to spend your life with this girl, she must learn to communicate her problems and so should you. If she stays in a relationship with you, she is going to have this in the back of her mind for the rest of her life.
Still, you can give her the benefit of the doubt since she was confused and she probably discussed the problem with her friends.
It’s better to go through the pain of breaking up and find someone whose life goals and opinions match with yours. Once she starts to trust you again, you can again have your privacy, but her trust will never be a 100% again.
In fact, I had a lot of goals in my life at that moment which I was totally ignoring because I was just obsessed about my ex-girlfriend.
Do you want her to remember all the negative things that happened in the past, or do you want her to remember the amazingly positive and confident person you are right now? Since, you two were together at one point, she is not going to feel uncomfortable asking you to be with her.
From your comment, I can sense that you are still needy and if I can sense it from a comment, then she can definitely sense it if you talk to her or see her. I was maintaining no contact, and after 15 days she contacted me, I answered but kept it cool and short. Let’s go to the worse case scenario (for you) where the new boyfriend is treating her incredibly well. If she asks you for relationship advice on him I want you to decline as politely as possible. Eventually the new boyfriend got so upset about this that it has caused a bit of a rift in their relationship. I fear through my attempts to try and talk to her I have made myself a common enemy of both of them, as she has blocked me on all social media (Facebook, instagram, and snapchat).
I know i wasn’t the best partner and i made a lot of mistakes but nothing really bad but i know what i have to do if i get a chance.
Do i step back and let her see that or do i try to show her the person she feel in love with and hope she comes back?
This month of April, I started showing signs of disinterest while still together, I felt she was so needy and emotional. She told me how she is finally doing the things she wanted, that she woke up crying this morning because she realized how happy she is now.
There were a couple of bad nights like 2 or 3 during that time but they had to do with drinking.
Now, I do realize that logically you may realize that this is the case but when you are actually in a situation that you have so much invested in it is hard to take a step back and think logically. Sure, maybe she was busy when you sent that text and she didn’t have time to write a proper response but imagine if this trend was consistent throughout the history of your conversations as of late. In other words, you need to keep an eye out for a text message that satisfy all three characteristics. It is at this point that I should end the conversation because that girl would be left wanting more. If you do get a negative response apologize for the inconvenience you caused and then do not text her back.
First things first, in the event that she completely ignores your text message wait about a week before you try anything else. It isn’t going to happen overnight but if you slowly advance things you can see some fantastic results.
Any girlfriend I have had is always there to remind me when important stuff is about to come up. In fact, it’s only going to make her think that her decision to leave you was the right one. Of course, she will soon realize that jumping into another relationship is not going to fill that hole and she will end the relationship again. It didn’t bother you if she had sex before she met you, so why should it bother you if she has sex with someone after she broke up with you?
You will be stuck hearing her complain about the guys she dates while you are feeling miserable inside. All you have to do is follow the rest of the steps carefully, and without making any mistake. And you have to give yourself time to pull yourself together and become that attractive man again that she fell in love with the first time. There is no written rule for it but around 1-2 months is a good start if you had a rough breakup. Try to give your best at work and it will only help increase your chances of reconciliation.
If you really think she is a person who can accept this and work on her, then you should get back together.
Some girls usually think that attraction is just something they feel and there is nothing you can do about it. If she was heavily invested in you, she will find a way to forgive you and accept you in her life.
You want her to associate text messages from you as something exciting, something fun and something positive. However, she might just be shy and confused about your feelings so in many cases, you will have to make the first move. I have a fear that not answering her will push her far away from me, and she will continue on without me in her life. Should I go with the letter, or I can skip to texting her, I will wait a little more since it has been only 15 days.
After 22 to days I sent a message like you suggested in article, and in comment, I skipped the letter part.
Now, a really good girlfriend wouldn’t see her ex boyfriend out of respect for her new boyfriend.
Fast forward to the beginning of last year, I realized I still loved her, and then in the fall, I asked her to dinner and she said yes. How do I get her to realize that I truly do need her in my life and get her to start talking to me again and get her back??
I like to believe i have become a better person and know how to treat her now but i think she is scared knowing who she is.
I ended breaking up with her again mid month because I did not like that she never put up pictures of us on instagram and facebook.
She said she is even going in a trip to new mexico… that got me curious and I asked if it was with her new guy. She may be busy at that particular moment or you may not have built up enough attraction yet.
You deserve someone who respects you and appreciates you for who you really are, not the condition you are in. I called her up and she started behaving in a happy way, talking about random topics and stuffs. Right now, just understand that everything will not be over in a second and you will have to work and possibly go through a lot of pain to get her back.
She is going to assume that you just want what you can’t have and everything you do is because of your narcissistic personality. In fact, if you ever see both of them together, you should act cool.  That’s the only thing you can do that will increase your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back. Being in friend zone with an ex you are in love with is a terrible idea and you should not fall into that. And if you do quit smoking, it’s going to show your ex that you are making positive changes in your life and that’s definitely going to make her second guess her decision of breaking up.
Your breakup brain is a state of mind which will do anything to avoid dealing with the pain of breakup. But if she does go out there, and learn that her life is better with you, she will come back and never leave again. And it’s hard to tell your boyfriend that you are not attracted to him anymore without breaking up. However, if it was just a casual relationship and you have been together for a short while, your chances are pretty slim, since she will rather invest her time and energy on someone who didn’t cheat on her. But if you decide to open yourself to everything this world has to offer, you will receive love and happiness and everything else that you ever wanted. Just simple touches like, a slight touch on her lower back if you want to lead her outside the door. So, as you can see just calling a girl up and asking her out without any of the romance or build up doesn’t usually work. Now she has fallen for him and tells me she doesn’t feel the same but sends mix singles when ever i see her. She said it was because she didnt feel we went out a lot and felt I didnt put enough effort. If even after reading this, you insist on sticking to your old ways, then no one can help you. If you try to tell her that he is wrong for her, you are just going to make her want to date that guy for even longer. You have to be friendly with her and you will at one point ask her to be friends again, but make sure you don’t become her sexless friend. You feel like asking her the recipe of that delicious pancakes she used to make, DON’T CONTACT HER. So, yes, even though leaving you wasn’t the perfect decision, from her point of view it made sense. But if you are like this, you are probably better off being in an open relationship or just have multiple casual relationships.
It could be small or big, it doesn’t matter as long as it’s meaningful to you and it makes you want to get up in the morning.
Reason she broke up is she lost interest in me, cause I opened to her completely, my mistake, I know… She got sick of all the loving, caring, attention. She also showed me trough conversation that she was watching my every move, she is well informed of what I am doing with whom and where.
She says the only reason she talks and flirts with me is because she doesn’t want to hurt me and wants to make it easier for me.
Well after I broke up with her, she would text me to make sure we are still single, she also wanted to hangout at one point but I kept neglecting her. She also asked me, how was it that I saw her new pictures of her new guy on social media when she made sure she took me off (but no blocking). But she stood by my side all the way up untill I got out than she broke up with me over the phone when I called her. You have to follow what this article says and you will not only become a more confident and attractive man for your ex girlfriend, you will also discover yourself along the way. But you will have to face your fears, your pain, your emotions, your jealousy, your guilt, your anger, and everything else you will feel during this process.
Trying to get her to call you back, or just constantly asking what she is doing is only going to make you look desperate in her eyes.
Well, because every time you contact her or she contacts you, you start obsessing over the conversation and the breakup and your relationship with her. Be more aware of yourself, your needs, your desires, your weakness and don’t be ashamed of anything in you.
Since there is no way you can avoid this pain, let’s first make sure that you are getting back with her for the right reason. The problem is that I will keep bumping into her cause we are living in the same street, we go to the same college, and knowing her if I don’t answer her she will ask me why when I bump next time into her. We kept talking, I noticed she already made her decision, but she kept asking me what will we do. Well later that day, I was kinda upset by her words and I asked her to explain me what she meant whe she said that she waited to see if I’ll do the things right way, and she was dissapointed, cause I started going out, with other people.
She texted me a few days later and asked if I was mad at her and I responded with a simple no. Once i heard my friend was going for her i decided i couldn’t wait anymore and did just about everything wrong.
Both were in love and we had to call it off since it wasn’t a practical choice for us. I wanted to make her miss me and want me, and get back together and start putting me up on social media. That way, let’s hope she misses you, and sees the change and starts to take a chance when you get to talking again.
I could write a lot more in this section but I am going to leave it at this, love yourself and everything in you. But if you do, you have to understand that you’ll always have to be on top of your game and work on maintaining the love and attraction between you two. These simple touches build attraction and if used correctly, it can be used to escalate attraction level with her during the time.
Also she said she wanted me in her life, but she started to look at me like a friend, a person who she needs in her life. She also kept mentioning other girls, some particularly which she hates, which always were around me, even if I tried to prove her that I am running away from them as hard as I can.
I really want to ask her one more time to reconsider before she gets too serious with the new guy.
We did take the call, but then we still kept in touch and we were looking for other opportunities simultaneously, but we still knew where our hearts were.
Now I know what was causing me to drink a lot had to do with the fact I was somewhat insecure because I had a devistating break up summer of 2013 with the woman who I thought was my soulmate and it took me a year and some change to get over her.
You have to stop yourself from becoming the needy, desperate, sorry excuse for a man that you were when your girlfriend left you. But she was aware I’m not gonna be for that since I cant look at her like a good friend, and I told her that. I did spend many weeks trying to figure out whether it was jealousy or if my feelings were real.
The funny thing is that she still asked why I deleted her on facebook and instagram a day later. I gave her the apology about everything that happened that was said and that I wish her well. Anyway, she tells me she knows its not jealousy but she said in our last conversation that why now. I asked her if she wanted to be friends and she said yes, I decided to only add her on facebook. I said I dont want to hold any grudges towards you and that she is a great person and doesnt deserve that. So while I was locked up I had time to think and I realized how much my new girl meant to me and that I really loved her and was ready to let my gaurd down and give love another chance. Later that day I went out with our mutual friend, I asked her if she wants to go out for a drink, she refused, but later she called me and asked if she can come. So I dint comment much, but i ensured she made the right choice (not him thought) but you know, continuous talking and sharing stuff will eventually lead you there (this was as well long distance) – Things were fine but then he made a trip to meet her and she infact did like him as well.
But seems I was a day late and a dollar short cause after she broke up with me we were still friends on fb and my other ex that I was dating summer of 14 seen I was single again and friend requested me on fb and since my ex broke up with me I accepted.
And everything that happened after she didn’t return my feelings happened LONG before I even knew that there was a way to get an ex girlfriend back. Now I dont get those texts which i used to get annoyed about before like why is she texting me so muchhh ?
And she commented on something I posted and my ex seen it and got super upset and sent me a message saying she was done and she just wanted her stuff.
During the night we were drinking, and having fun, I was playing cool, and I didn’t push her to do anything, meanwhile she was flirting with me like hell, and in the process she got drunk, I could have used her that night but I didnt even try, and I was fighting with myself. She did contact me a couple of times during the No Contact period, but I didn’t respond either time. My biggest problem is i gave her time before and she thought i hated her and says she forced herself to lose her feelings for me.
When we had breaks, she would always make it so that I wanted her back, like she did earlier. I told her that Im doing ok and that I stopped doing many of the things the she didnt like, like smoking weed – her voice cracked a little and said oh really?
So I told the other ex its best if we just stay friends but had to block her on fb cause I didnt want to upset the one I was still in love with anymore than she aready was. She said to him that she doesn’t have a wish for me, to be with me or to see me, and that I smothered her with constant asking where is she, who is she with. So day after she again contacted me and talked about last night, she couldn’t remember some events, and I told her pretty much everything she was doing. She called me a couple of times post NC, but she said she pocket dialed me both times and I know she called me on purpose both of those times. Knowing who she is, she does’t like to get hurt, so she tries to avoid it and to me and a few other people, it seems as if she is confused because her friends are telling her to go with this new guy but it seems like she has feelings for me still by the way she acts. I miss talking to her – She made me zone out from the entire world and give her the attention which she needed and I did give and got back the love as well.
I then told her that if i could go back, I would change everything to change the outcome of what happened, that it is my burden to hold and that I will live with it for the rest of my life. Well about a week later March 7th (got out on Feb 23 just a lil time frame) my ex changed her fb status to in a relationship and changed her profile pic to her kissing this new guy. I kept trying to text her about things that she likes and how they made me think about her, but I would keep getting a neutral response. She never really opens up in this type of situation, we broke up once before and i was able to show her the fun we had together by hanging out and talking and eventually got back together.
I told her that im not holding any ill feelings towards her and that im even open to the idea of being friends. During that time she would never she how she felt, she just would give me a dry answer and one day wanted to get back together. But I handled the situation maturly and didnt text her anything rude as a matter of fact I only texted her on Easter wishing her and her daughter a happy Easter. The new guy when they start talking was planning to go to college half way across the country, so he has no plans to have a committed relationship. She then said she was thankful for the 5 year experience and she learned a lot, that she now knows what she wants and she is doing everything she wanted to do with me, that she was happy. I would really like you to help me, because I am a foreign student in another country, pretty much away from home, and for the last year she was everything to me. I asked her if she can dropped the books at my place or to give me tomorrow on our college. I decided to end the phone call be telling her I had to go, i said i wish you well, take care and bye. I was still kinda heartbroken over everything but was starting to move on even though I still thought about her all the time I was starting to heal. I already started to go to the gym, but the constant thinking and emotions are killing me. I ended up messaging her that I still loved her and that I wanted her to have my kids like we planned, that we said forever. So we had a 3 hr long conversation and it went great we talked we had some laughs and it was like we were together again. She gave me a huge paragraph of what I did wrong, and that she did not love me anymore, that she moved on quick, because she realized how ive treated her all these years.
She knows that saying that saying she is happy now with her new guy will hurt me although i never showed that pain on the phone call. So we texted a couple times over the past couple of weeks and than she called me on Friday telling me she was bored so I was working at the time and told her I would call her back after work and I did. She said I am definitely not her soulmate and neglected anything i said to get her back, complete opposite of what she would normally do. She ended up calling me at work to tell me to stop messaging her about our relationship, even though I stopped an hour earlier already. So I picked her up after work I offered to let her sleep in my bed and I sleep on the couch but she insisted I sleep in the bed with her so yeah we made love the first night than we woke up and did it again she came to help me on one of my jobs as I have my own construction company and she used to work with me sometimes when we were together. The following morning she left a voicemail saying that she read over our messages and said that she hopes i move on quick and recuperate, that she was concerned about how i sounded over text since she has never heard me talk like that. Than I took her to a carnival we ate some food and went on a ride and I won her a stuffed furry animal.
Two days pass and Im starting to hurt more, now i want her back really badly so at night i asked her to talk to me over the phone. Than we woke up the next day and I had to go out to look at a job and she stayed at my house while I was gone. I came back and we went out to eat at our favorite restaurant for lunch than went over to my cousins house she is close friends with them and she wanted to see theyre baby which she loves.
I ended spilling my heart out on that phone call, asking her to come back to me, that ive never been hurt by her like this. She said she no longer loved me, when i would bring up making love she said to stop because it made her cringe. We held hands the whole ride and she told me she loved me when I dropped her off and she told me she left me a note on my dresser mirror to read when I got home. That what she said just a month ago about forever was only because she didnt realize how much i hurt her over the years. The note said my name, I love you with all my heart no matter what we have been through 4ever&always yours, love her name. That she found someone who always listens to her and doesnt criticize her when she needs comfort. The call ended on bad terms, i told her to tell me that she is going to have sex with her new guy eventually one day at the end, so that i can feel numb and try to let her go completely. She didnt want to at first because it was none of my business, but she ended up saying it after I pleaded for it. Im so depressed, thinking that she is really happy and I that I wont be able to get her back.
I plan on talking to her in 2 more days to try to briefly make amends and work my way to friendship.
She is the type of person who doesnt like to hurt anyone, so it makes me think she wont want to leave her new guy for me.



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