To this day I can’t think of a more helpless feeling than sending a text message or calling your significant other and being ignored on purpose.
I can’t tell you how many times I get this question on a daily basis from desperate men out there. Ok, I went through the emails and comments from yesterday and I received this question in some way, shape or form twelve times. So, if you are one of these 4,380 men wondering why your ex girlfriend is ignoring or avoiding you allow me to tell you what I tell every one of these men.
Now, since I am such a stand up guy I am going to give you in-depth analysis of the most common reasons your ex girlfriend may have for ignoring you. Well, for starters the two of you just broke up and many experts say that going through a breakup is sometimes worse than losing a job and if any of you have lost a job when you absolutely needed money then you will understand the pain that goes along with that. Of course, usually women focus in on something specific that you did wrong during the breakup and remain angry at that. For example, if your ex girlfriend walked in on you and her sister in bed then she is absolutely going to have all the motivation she could ever need to stay angry at you and ignore you. One time there was this guy that became so desperate to get his ex back that he crashed her wedding and tried to break it up.
If your ex girlfriend views you as that crazy ex then that could be a motivating factor in her attempts to ignore and avoid you. Have you ever had a girl that was head over heels for you to the point where it was kind of creepy. Apparently, the crazy Dutch woman in the story above got arrested for stalking but that isn’t really what I am getting at here.
Though, I will admit that if you call your ex that much you should be arrested for stupidity AND stalking.
Anyways, if you show up at your ex girlfriends house unannounced and uninvited multiple times then congratulations you are the stalker guy pictured in the gif above. Batman Shooter (Not Even Worth Mentioning This Guys Name)- I am sure you remember the day the Dark Knight Rises came out in theaters and some nut ball went in with a machine gun and shot people. Columbine Shooters- Two mentally unstable young men go into school one day and essentially start a massacre.
So, if your ex girlfriend perceives you as emotionally or mentally unstable then you have a serious problem because she put you in the unstable category with the people mentioned above.
Lets say that I call your ex girlfriend like crazy, I show up unannounced, I threaten to hurt myself if she doesn’t cooperate and the list just goes on and on.
I know, I know, it sucks to even think about this possibility but it is a possibility so I can’t leave it out. As many of my informed readers know this isn’t the only self help relationship website I own. So, it could be possible that your ex girlfriend is ready to move on from you entirely and that is why she is ignoring or avoiding you. In my experience, in helping people with relationships for three years I have learned that it is extremely hard for people to cut their exes out of their life entirely. So, the odds are in your favor that your ex girlfriend won’t be able to move on from you by cutting you out of her life entirely.
Now that we understand the main reasons for why your ex girlfriend may ignore you lets shift our focus to what you need to be doing to prevent that from happening.  Now, in my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO, I go through a specific set of steps that you have to follow in order to get your ex girlfriend to NOT ignore you.
In other words, if you follow the advice laid out on this page you will most likely move from your ex girlfriend ignoring you to her not ignoring you.
Ok, now that we have that out of the way lets take a look at how the three steps above can help you regain your exes attention.
Right now your ex girlfriend is ignoring you (on purpose) and you are kind of freaking out about it. I have been through my fair share of experiences in which someone I really care for ignored me on purpose and let me tell you it is a very disheartening feeling. What do you think happens to most men when an ex girlfriend they really want to talk to ignores them on purpose? They become super desperate and turn into those calling and texting terrorists that I mentioned above.
I am always telling the women over on my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, that men are the ones that crave admiration but the truth is that human beings in general love to feel admired and the last time I checked human beings also included women. So, why is it that woman are constantly chasing the guys that don’t make them feel loved or admired?
Well, it’s because they think that eventually a guy is going to change and show them the admiration and love they feel they deserve. An underlying reason that your ex girlfriend could potentially be ignoring you is that she knows it will illicit a reaction from you. In his mind she would come home, feel horrible about the whole situation and apologize profusely to him. Now, what ended up happening was that when his girlfriend came home and realized he wasn’t there she decided to go out and spend some time on herself which essentially crushed my friend. In other words, the expectation that you are going to be like every other guy in the world is there. So, if you can overcome that expectation and do the opposite of what she is expecting all of a sudden it will be her who starts to rethink things and realize the mistake she has made.
In my E-Book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO, I recommend something I like to call the no contact rule. If you are successful in your attempt to turn the tables on your ex girlfriend then congratulations, you have completed the first step of the process. Step one (turning the tables on your ex) was all about putting her in a frame of mind where she is wanting to hear for you or wanting to message you. Well, if you have read this far down on the page then I am assuming that your ex girlfriend is currently ignoring or avoiding you. Probably because she isn’t really looking forward to your text messages or phone calls.
It basically primes her so that she is looking forward to your text messages or phone calls. Once you feel you have your ex girlfriend properly primed or looking forward to hearing from you (step one) you can go ahead and reach out to her to test and see if she is going to ignore you anymore. Your text message has to be so interesting that it would be impossible for your ex NOT to respond to it.


My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back.
The next day I send her a text explaining how I thought a lot about the night before and I would like a proper talk about it.
I know this seems like a lot of texting her, and I wish I had gotten the idea of messaging her in a way that she could read the message without letting me know last night. After the breakup we did No Contact during December, but then I contacted her by her birthday on January.
I am currently going through the avoiding period with my ex fiancee and am highly doubtful that she’s trying to remove me from her life completely as her and I have a two year old daughter together. Its been a 5 month now, grl who cheated with other man, didnt cme back to me bt i stil love her, i thnk we’ re completly finish, there is no geting back.
Anyway, at the end of phase 2 one day I just got impatient and texted her something like ‘ for the past few months we have been spending a lot less time together. For the next month I tried (2 times) to pin down a time and location for us to meet and discuss but she always had some reason (probably legitimate) for those times to not work, e.g.
I kept waiting to hear from her about when she wants to meet up till the middle of month 3 (because I was not sure when she returned from her trip abroad).
I know I may appear to be a very sore loser so far but here is the thing: I want this relationship to grow and I would still like to get back with her because she did not technically cheat on me. I do not plan to have any contact of any manner EVER with her, unless of course, she clearly expresses her desire to meet. Does our reader’s ex have a case of dumper’s remorse, or is he just messing with her head? I do have some advice here, and it’s advice it took me a long time to be able to follow myself.
I know you want to read his behavior and his inability to go without talking to you as a sign that he still has feelings for you, and, yes, he probably does in his own small, messed-up way. You could try just ignoring him, but I’m getting a persistent vibe from this guy that tells me you might need to spell it out first. If you and your girlfriend were one of those couples, it's going to be hard for her to quit texting you cold turkey. This creates a type of reliance on text-messaging; both you and your girlfriend might develop an unwanted insecurity in going hours and now even days without knowing what the other person is up to.
If you're trying to get your girlfriend back, any text-message you get from her is good news.
This is true in a lot of cases; your ex will text you because she doesn't want to talk to you on the phone. Most of all, your ex wouldn't be blowing up your phone at all if she'd found someone else, or had some other guy in mind that she possibly wanted to date.
Knowing that your exgirlfriend is still interested in your life can be a valuable tool while trying to get her back. Learn these timing methods to find out when it's okay to take a step in your ex's direction, and when it's better to hang back and wait for her.
Before doing anything, you need to understand something about the art of reversing a breakup. In other words, the more of yourself you reveal to your ex girlfriend, the less she's going to need more of you. The longer you can go without answering her, and the more you can actually skip over her attempts at contacting you through text? Ignoring your ex's text-messages long enough will result in something even better and more valuable: the ex girlfriend phone call.
Close your eyes for a moment, and imagine how much courage and nerve it took for your ex girlfriend to actually send you a text message. Imagine the questions that run through her mind when she doesn't immediately get a response from you.
Your ex will automatically assume the worst: it's an unfortunate aspect of human nature to assume the most negative possible scenarion when trying to make something happen. When she doesn't hear from you, your ex girlfriend will instantly wonder if you've completely moved on.
Once you know that your ex is still interested in you, it's time to accelerate the process of getting her back. Additionally, if you need help in getting her attention, there are methods and techniques you can use to do that too.
Instead of leaving it at just one missed text or phone call you up the count to thirty and it’s almost like someone else is controlling your actions. More specifically, I am going to let you in on why your ex girlfriend is ignoring you or avoiding you on purpose.
So, if twelve is my daily average of receiving this question then that means that this question is asked a total of 4,380 to me every single year by 4,380 different men. Another common thing that I know women get angry about is something you said about them during a heated argument or fight. You know, the ones where the crazy ex boyfriend stalks the ex girlfriend until she has to take out a restraining order. Sure, as men we all like to feel admired by the opposite sex but there is a point where it can become too much.
It’s a creepy looking guy that just follows one specific person around without being seen.
In fact, I also own another website called Ex Boyfriend Recovery in which I help women try to get back with their exes.
In fact, I wasn’t even close to the second person to have this epiphany about moving on. Only a select few can do it successfully and guess what, yours truly couldn’t do it during his first breakup. However, if you want her back in your life permanently there is a lot more you have to do than to just regain her attention. Seriously, there are moments where you just want to scream at the top of your lungs at how unfair your love life is. Now, my friend (who worked from home) was absolutely furious that he decided to one up her by not being there when she showed up at home. You see, my buddy was sure that when he came home he was going to teach his girlfriend a lesson and she was going to apologize to him.


Your ex is trying to teach you a lesson by ignoring you so she is going to have a similar expectation that my friend had about his girlfriend. However, if you want more advice on what length of time you should use when you implement the no contact rule I recommend reading my book or checking out this article.
While this is essentially in making her not ignore you it doesn’t necessarily mean that she will stop ignoring you.
That means that whenever you do reach out to her via a text message or a phone call she isn’t responding or picking up.
So, don’t even think about reaching out to your ex until you have successfully turned the tables on her. That made her very upset and sad and we had a short talked were she again asked me to stay over, which I declined because I was confused about my feelings. Last night I messaged her on facebook again, this time being a bit more open about my feelings and opening the possibility of us working things out. We have been talking a bit and I become the terrorist exboyfriend, I got really, really nervous about her new relationship (which was a friend of mine and is no longer) and an surgical intervention she had so she told me not to talk to her anymore and has been ignoring my text since then (two weeks ago). We had a great time and we talked a lot via text messages, but then I became the GNAT and acted irrationally, she was hot and cold and used mixed messages which drove me mad. That may partly be because we never really spent a lot of time together for extended periods, except for the start of the relationship. From my experience in failing to set up a time in the previous month, I responded ‘sure, let me know when you would like to meet’ so that she could pick the time that works best for her. I reached out to her around the middle of the month to check if she was back but got no response. What surprises me is the fact that she could not find find any time for us to meet and talk but she found time to find this new guy. I told him OK and let it be, but ever since he’s been contacting me every two or so weeks. Of course, in addition to that I will also be giving you a game plan on what to do going forward if you are currently in a situation where you are being ignored or avoided.
Well, sometimes when women get fed up with their exes they decide that they want to move on with their lives instead of being hurt all the time by an unresponsive ex boyfriend. No, there are a lot of capable people out there that can come to this conclusion on their own. She is hoping that it will draw out that admiration and love that she so desperately wants. He went to the movies, ate at a nice restaurant and by the end of the day, when he felt enough time had passed, he decided to come home.
Recently I said some hurtful things about her body that really made her mad and didn’t want to talk to me but later on did.
Im done healing myself, i thnk i realy love her, and i want her back in my life please Christ help me. For the first 6 months, she was unemployed so we spent about 80% of the weekends (fri-sun evenings) together.
But I found it hard that in the next month (even with 2 weeks going to trips) she never could find any time to meet – and I had basically opened up my entire calendar for her. The next thing I heard from her was in the second half of the month wishing me a happy birthday. A week later, I got impatient and wrote a page long “emotional” email explaining my situation and angle to her also detailing that I want us to be together and the ‘breakup text’ was because I was upset at the time.
Would you really want to be in one with someone you couldn’t read even when you were in the same place? Not prepared for that talk I didn’t express my feelings very well, and hurt her very bad.
Her and I broke up last June and were back together briefly in late October (briefly as in like two weeks) and we never really went public with it.
After the first 6 months, she got a good job and our frequency of meeting up decreased – drastically in my opinion.
I had been told that she would go abroad for another work trip around this time for a couple of weeks in the later part of the month. Regardless, I still think she looks cute but she told me once that she is never approached at bars by guys. I just recently sent him a quick email about something funny on a trip we went on last winter, and his response was kind of short. Even if I give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he really just cares about you as a friend and wants to keep you in his life, there are two major problems with that.
Upon seeing no lights in there I started walking back but saw from across the street that she was returning home holding hands with another guy. He contacts me and wants to talk, but when I contact him, it’s not the same conversational outcome. But since she wasn’t willing to take me back and I ws getting frustrated with insecurities and maybe one day she could find someone and leave me I decided to give her the break up she wants. The only bad thing I started feeling in the last 2-3 months of this phase is that our conversations were always centered around her – her boss, her job, things she does, where she wants to go, what movie she wants to watch, etc.
Near the end of phase 2 I felt like I had been attempting to have an in-depth conversation with her about a semi-serious topic (in my opinion) for nearly 2 months but the low frequency of meeting up made it impossible to finish the regular chit-chat and still have time for semi-serious discussions. The next day, I wrote another page long email explaining to her that I still want our relationship to work out. Also, hinting at the fact that the other guy did not bother me while not hinting at my thoughts about him being a rebound. The handful of times I did call her, most of the times she did not pick up and never called me back either.
Next day, I texted her a simple message that I hope we could be friends (signalling my acceptance of the fact that she has moved on). I tried sending a few light-hearted messages to her as you suggest on your blog (2 in the course of the following week) just so we could get talking again but still no response.. And then day before valentines day ? texted her ( didnt text her in between 2 weeks ) what an amazing time we had together and i wish everthing could be better.



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