To bring out the best of your children requires specific details, attention and professional advice from the experts. The specialist noted and described confident children are those who are able to interact comfortably with their peers and adults. Although children are by nature temperamental, the specialists believe that confidence can be learned especially at the early school age when these children gather more experiences.
Providing them with various physical and social activities such as sports, determines a big difference in building their self image. The importance of showing appreciation for a child’s achievement even how small these may be is a token of affirmation which the positive component of reinforcing confidence. Giving praises for doing something good can go an extra mile in encouraging a child to excel even more and importantly in building self confidence to your child. This entry was posted by Affleap on April 3, 2010 at 3:04 am, and is filed under Parenting. Thanks for taking the time to share this, I feel strongly about it and love learning more on this topic. This is a picture of my son HaiQal, he is not hurt physically but the reason he is crying is because I stopped him from playing and take a picture of him, I tok him to my favorite spot to photograph him for several times until I get the shot and when he get bored, he cry, I did not abuse my child, actually I did play with him and I do try to capture him playing but unfortunately he is too fast.
It is just an expression of dissatisfaction maybe or an expression of wanted to be free and the moment he is free again playing, he keeps on smiling, I know my son well enough, I’ve photographing him for almost three years already since he was born. I wish I have this kind of a picture myself, I would like to know how do I look like when I was crying. So I think it is very important for us especially parent who have a picture to take as much picture as possible of our own children when they are still baby or toddler, you don’t need super expensive or high performance camera to do the job, any camera will do as long as they can take a photograph. If you are worried about a lack of confidence, low self-esteem or a poor self concept, every word of this article maybe important to your child. I have been helping parents who are worried sick over their child who has low self-esteem for over 20 years. While some children seem to develop their self-esteem naturally, other children need a precise and powerful strategy in order to experience their own strong confidence.
The Confident Child is my most advanced confidence building program, but created with a simple step-by-step formula that is easy to follow.
Even if - your son or daughter is unusually withdrawn or even diagnosed with some other condition.
This approach has tested and proven with hundreds and hundreds of children with all variation of self-esteem problems from the most typical to the most extreme. And some kids just seem to go into a shell when they get around other kids, and yet you see their strength and what they have to offer. Give me 55 minutes of your time, and I'll show you how to use your power as a parent to give your child the confidence they deserve - using my guaranteed 5 step easy to use system. Over the past 23 years of helping families as a Licensed Psychologist, I have listened to thousands of parents worried sick about their children. These life robbing signs of low self-esteem, and the negativity were starting to affect every area of life, at home and at school. For any task that is challenging, they quickly give up or refuse to put forth any real effort.
If you find yourself saying "yes" to even one of these critical indicators of low self-esteem, then you likely have a problem. Ultimately I also found the answer to my prayers, when I took what felt like a chance on your Confident Child program. My biggest question was, "What can I do that will really help her gain self confidence without feeling like I'm singling her out? While in their hearts, they know their child deserves more, these parents clearly understand that life is not kind to those who do not stand up for themselves.
At times, they would take their son or daughter on long walks, or sit with them at night, and offer words of encouragement and support. In fact, these were parents who were working extremely hard at building up their children confidence. In my public speaking, and media interviews, I occasionally get challenged by a parent or interviewer who will assert that the encouragement approach will work. All we have to do is to observe whether or not this seems to make a difference for children. Over the years, I have studied research from many fields, including psychology, child development, family therapy, cognitive therapy, behavior therapy, Ericksonian hypnosis, neurolinguistic programming (NLP), self-development, child psychopathology, and many more.
I have also carefully examined studies on various medications, and medical approaches to helping children who struggle.
When we think of a child having a self-esteem problem, we tend to think that something is wrong with them.
Over and over again, we are programmed by the media into thinking that medications will be the magical cure.
When we understand that we could dissect your child's brain, we would find that there is no self-esteem tumor, or ugly self-esteem tissue growing inside them. All of these lies continue to grow because your son or daughter continues to invest their energy and attention into the lie. The Confident Child Program uses proven techniques that I have developed from my more than twenty years of experience in helping parents. Yet, these same parents have learned from my program that you absolutely can make a difference in creating self-confident children.
I'll show you precisely how to avoid directing your energy towards your child's self-defeating behavior patterns (almost everyone reading this has made this critical mistake). And by the way, that's the only way they really get it is through their own experience of learning to esteem themselves!
The Confident Child Program is a real sanity-saver for parents because the techniques work and the changes are often noticed within weeks. You seeI have been down this path with not one not two not a dozen not a hundred but literally HUNDREDS of families who have struggled with children showing low self-esteem.
I promise, that you will be free of this worry, if you apply the principles and lessons I teach in my program. But here is the bottom line: I have been doing this with families for over twenty-five years. Most parenting books try to convince you that making your kids feel good will make them feel strong.
Reality Check: If you're overweight and out of shape, you need to exercise if you want to get in shape. You could buy some gimmicky thing that tells you you'll get fit by sitting at your desk and moving your little toe, but the reality is it isn't true. If you went to the gym, and someone else lifted the weights for you while you just held your arms there you wouldn't build muscle.
And The Confident Child Program shows you how to help them build this muscle of self-confidence! Because of my expertise and my reputation for getting results, I have been interviewed hundreds of times for TV segments, on a national as well as regional level. I do not repeat all of this to impress you, but rather I want to impress upon you that my opinion is trusted by thousands. Only three weeks ago, I was afraid she would never have friends, be able to assert herself, or smile while doing homework. When I bought the program, I didnt really trust that it would help Samantha had such a huge self-esteem problem.
I hope you do not because the only chance you are taking is the chance of a lifetime to create a healthy child with a strong sense of self-esteem and to live in a home with fewer worries and less fear. But, if you aren't satisfied for any reason, or it doesn't live up to your expectations, you won't be out one red cent.
The Confident Child Program allows you to worry less about your child's future success, and more about just enjoying your child's amazing evolution and growth. You learn to stay out of imaging what you child is thinking, and to focus on what you are thinking and believing that will really help them get stronger fast! You stop trying to control your child, and focus more on what you can really control your home. Your confidence in your child blossoms when you realize what mistakes have stripped them of the opportunity to be confident and strong, and you know what to do instead. You will never be uncertain about what to do or say, and every day awakens you to the comfort of having certainty about your plan and your future. The more confidence you learn to have in your children, the more confidence they'll learn to have in themselves.
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These articles touch upon everything from daily routines, to homework struggles, to responsibilities, to respect and disrespect, and sibling choices. Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, and our behavior clearly reflects those feelings. Allow the child to choose one of the solutions only after fully considering the consequences. Encourage your children to ask for what they want assertively, pointing out that there is no guarantee that they will get it.
Encourage your children to develop hobbies and interests which give them pleasure and which they can pursue independently. Help children learn to focus on their strengths by pointing out to them all the things they can do. Encourage your children to behave toward themselves the way they’d like their friends to behave toward them.
Help your children think in terms of alternative options and possibilities rather than depending upon one option for satisfaction. As parents, we want our children to go into the world of school, peers and friendships, and life feeling happy, confident and valued.
But what happens when they experience real issues that create obstacles to maintaining a good self-esteem?


Of course, if your support isn't helping your child or tween or teen, please reach out and seek professional help. By observing sequences of play, Piaget was able to demonstrate that, towards the end of the second year, a qualitatively new kind of psychological functioning occurs. It was while marking intelligence tests in the early 1920s at the Grange-Aux-Belles street school for boys, founded by Alfred Binet (developer of the Binet IQ Test), that Jean Piaget first noticed that young children consistently gave wrong answers to certain questions. His theory proposes that there are four distinct, increasingly sophisticated stages of mental representation that children pass through on their way to an adult level of intelligence.
In Preoperational thought, centration is the act of focusing all attention on a single characteristic compared to the others. Centration is noticed in conservation: the awareness that altering a substance's appearance does not change its basic properties. Piaget considered that children primarily learn through imitation and play throughout these first two stages, as they build up symbolic images through internalised activity. Studies have been conducted among other countries to find out if Piaget's theory is universal.
The Concrete Operational stage occurs between the ages of 7 and 11 years and is characterised by the appropriate use of logic. Seriation: the ability to sort objects in an order according to size, shape or any other characteristic.
Decentering: where the child takes into account multiple aspects of a problem to solve it. Reversibility: the child understands that numbers or objects can be changed, then returned to their original state.
Conservation: understanding that quantity, length or number of items is unrelated to the arrangement or appearance of the object or items. Elimination of Egocentrism: the ability to view things from another's perspective (even if they think incorrectly). Children in this stage can, however, only solve problems that apply to actual (concrete) objects or events, and not abstract concepts or hypothetical tasks.
The Formal Operational period commences at around 11-15 years of age (puberty) and continues into adulthood. Adolescent egocentrism governs the way that adolescents think about social matters and is the heightened self-consciousness in them as they are which is reflected in their sense of personal uniqueness and invincibility. First, as Piaget himself noted, development does not always progress in the smooth manner his theory seems to predict. More broadly, Piaget's theory is 'domain general', predicting that cognitive maturation occurs concurrently across different domains of knowledge (such as Mathematics, logic, Physics, language, etc.).
Additionally, some psychologists, such as Lev Vygotsky and Jerome Bruner, thought differently from Piaget, suggesting that language was more important than Piaget implied. Parents should give them the guidance and assurance, which given more often will give children a healthy projection of themselves. To help parents give that much needed boost to their children, a Developmental and Behavioral Specialist to share some insights on how parents can make their children face the challenging world with confidence.
These children, as the specialist further noted, can easily articulate and express what they like at levels that are appropriate or sometimes even above of what is expected of their age. Children discover their physical strengths and they also learn how to interact when they are expose to people of all levels and not confine them in the same age group.
If possible, as you gain expertise, would you mind updating your blog with more information?
It is not the Megapixel quality of the camera that matters, it’s the moment that matters the most. Many of this parents work hard to encourage their children, support them daily, and work hard to build their self-esteem.
If you want a proven psychological strategy that you can put to work in your home today, The Confident Child contains my secret "behind confidential doors" strategy that you must master if you want to quickly eliminate low self esteem, and build your child's confidence.
In the classroom, these confidence starved children were hesitant to raise their hand or offer an answer. Their lives were good but the lack of confidence was robbing them of opportunities for enjoyment and friendship. You may have tried conventional approaches, and you find nothing works and in fact, things are getting worse. They often find themselves talking about their son or daughter who has no confidence, and trying to find ways to build them up. I have been observing for twenty-five years, and I have noticed that the only thing that happens here is that children become more and more dependent upon their parents for esteem and less independent in believing in their own self-worth and self-esteem. It just means that we want a different mind set, that embraces your child's wholeness and completeness, as a healthy starting point to build their self-esteem. I can promise you this: there is no medication that will make a difference in your child's self-esteem. This understanding can help us gain clarity, as it points us to the thinking problem that exists.
Healthy thoughts tend to produce positive emotions and that internal chemistry is of one form.
As time goes on, if we end of working harder than our children do at anything, they become weaker the harder we work.
You'll learn that a completely distinctive response to your children can really make all the difference between their self-confidence and their self-doubt.
I show you how to make certain that your child has the right experiences to learn to esteem themselves and not rely upon others to make them feel good! You will feel less frenzied when you see that your follow-through to the lessons in the program gets real, tangible results and your child's confidence is improving daily.
You get exact easy-to-follow, proven advice for increasing your child's confidence while avoiding common mistakes.
You have been burdened with this feeling much of your life, and you dont want to pass it on to your children.
In other words, you dont have to worry that your personal thoughts and emotions will continue to interfere. I have helped thousands of families nurture homes with children who are more responsible, happier, and eager to engage fully in their lives. I give you the exact tools to make certain that every day provides opportunity after opportunity for your child to develop their confidence.
Of this, I feel confident not because I know you personally, but because I do know many of the mistakes you are making. I have literally helped raise thousands of children with results that regularly transform lives. My advice is sought out because I speak in a manner that is solidly grounded in the research, yet the parenting tools I offer are not filled with psycho-babble, but are understood by all.
It's a no risk chance to see your child blossom into a remarkably confident and focused student who could take on the world if they just believe in themselves.
If for any reason you are not satisfied, just return the program and I will personally buy the entire program back from you and you will receive a full refund. There you will find a state of the art shopping cart, where you will need to check out by entering your credit card information. Since I know it's 100% to your benefit to act right away, I want to sweeten the pot and give you every possible reason to decide now you want this premium program!
This is the same clinical advice I have offered to parents in my practice, and the results will amaze you. This is a manual of published articles that I have selected from hundreds of articles I have written over the years.
While not a comprehensive guide book with all these topics, each article does give you a clear sense of the mistakes that you can make, and how to correct them. The Confident Child Program techniques have helped so many parents help their children reach their full potential.
The Confident Child Program cant be found anywhere else, and no one gives you such a powerful, yet easy to implement game plan. The development of a positive self-concept or healthy self-esteem is extremely important to the happiness and success of children and teenagers. Parents are often quick to express negative feelings to children but somehow don’t get around to describing positive feelings.
Use what is called descriptive praise to let your child know when they are doing something well. Sometimes it is necessary to criticize a child’s actions, and it is appropriate that parents do so. Ask him questions that pinpoint how he sees, hears, and feels about a situation and what may need to be changed. Usually there is more than one solution or choice to a given dilemma, and the parent can make an important contribution by pointing out this fact and by suggesting alternatives if the child has none.
The best solution will be one that solves the problem and simultaneously makes the child feel good about himself or herself. Point out to children that there is no reason they must get everything they want and that they need not feel angry either. People who take themselves very seriously are undoubtedly decreasing their enjoyment in life. We do our best to fortify their self-confidence within the home so that they are equipped to be strong and successful in the rest of the world. Anxiety is common in young people's lives, especially in the school arena where they are under constant pressure to get good grades and perform. Piaget did not focus so much on the fact of the children's answers being wrong, but that young children kept making the same pattern of mistakes that older children and adults did not. Children tend to grow very curious and ask many questions; they begin the use of primitive reasoning. Patricia Greenfield & Rodney Cocking (1996) reported Greenfield conducting a task similar to Piaget's beaker experiment in the West African nation of Senegal. For example, the child will no longer perceive an exceptionally wide but short cup to contain less than a normally-wide, taller cup. For this reason, a child will be able to rapidly determine that if 4+4 = t, ta?’4 will equal 4, the original quantity.
For instance, show a child a comic in which Sally puts an object important to her under a box, leaves the room, and then Anne moves the object to a drawer before Sally comes back. In this stage, individuals move beyond concrete experiences and begin to think abstractly, reason logically and draw conclusions from the information available, as well as apply all these processes to hypothetical situations.
I like to get an expression of him, whether he is playing or crying, we seldom have our own pictures crying like this, usually all we have is a picture of ourselves smiling and happy.


Without photograph, nobody can tell exactly and a picture is really worth a thousands words.
It's not easy when you try your best to build up their confidence, and all you hear is constant negativity and putting themselves down. On the ball field, they would never think about leading, and often refused to keep playing sports unless they were better than everyone. They would try to correct their son or daughter every time they made such negative comments. They would attend all of these activities, and constantly support their child with encouragement.
Notice whether you see signs of more confidence and greater self-esteem when you take this approach. Because you (unintentionally, of course) teach your child to rely upon the opinions of others to find good feelings about themselves. On the other hand, unhealthy, negative thinking produces negative chemical effects that feel yucky.
Its not that you are intentionally doing that it's just the consequence of you working harder their esteeming themselves than they do. Self-esteem is like a muscle that they have to develop, and most other approaches don't get it. They were exhausted from endless daily efforts to help, and many had tried years of therapy all failing so obviously that their hopes of a confident child were being squashed. However, you can set up the right conditions so that your child learns how to build confidence from how you handle things (and with my Confident Child Program you will know exactly how to handle things in the right way Guaranteed!). Most importantly, you will be equipped with the tools for setting up the conditions that allow your child to get it on their own.
You will be able to relax as you see your son or daughter growing stronger, and more self-confident.
The good news is that I give you the tools to release your worry and fear because you will know exactly what to do, and how to do it so that your limiting beliefs are not passed on to your children! With no real change in the game plan, you just keep doing the same thing over and over, its not really going to make a difference. You instead want to teach them to be strong and then they will feel good about themselves rather than just feeling good about a new toy. You need a program that tells you what to do, when to do it, what to say and how to say it. Most importantly, my guidance works because it is based in the fundamentals of learning, behavior management, and neuropsychology, while educated with the life lessons and the wisdom of seeing many families walk through my door. We tried so many other approaches, and it turns out that the secret was right inside her all along.
Not just a change, but all of the whining, the negativity, and the endless self-criticism is gone. The goal is to give you as much information as possible to help you get through every future obstacle you may encounter. No one really believes that all we did was adjust how we responded to him and now he has blossomed into his own. I hope you accept this offer today and help your child start increasing his or her self-confidence very soon.
If fact, most parents do it without even realizing that their words and actions have great impact on how their child or teenager feels about himself. A child doesn’t know when you are feeling good about him or her and he or she needs to hear you tell him or her that you like having him or her in the family. You must of course become in the habit of looking for situations in which your child is doing a good job or displaying a talent.
When, however the criticism is directed to the child as a person it can easily deteriorate into ridicule or shame. There are a number of ways parents can help children improve their ability to consciously make wise decisions. Encourage them to work against anger by setting a good example and by reinforcing them when they display appropriate irritation rather than anger. A good sense of humor and the ability to make light of life are important ingredients for increasing one’s overall enjoyment. A little stress is normal, perhaps even healthy, but what happens when your child's life is dominated by worry? You can also do this by helping your child to try something new -- take a new class, go to a new place, try a new activity. The more confident your child feels about his or her ability to solve problems and handle situations, the better he or she will feel inside -- and this strength will show up on the outside.
This led him to the theory that young children's cognitive processes are inherently different from those of adults.
There is an emergence in the interest of reasoning and wanting to know why things are the way they are. They are unable to grasp the concept that a certain liquid be the same volume regardless of the container shape. Her results stated that only 50 percent of the 10-13 year olds understood the concept of conservation.
A child in the concrete operations stage will say that Sally will still think it's under the box even though the child knows it is in the drawer.
The abstract quality of the adolescent's thought at the Formal Operational level is evident in the adolescent's verbal problem-solving ability.
In this vein, many current Cognitive developmentalists argue that rather than being domain general learners, children come equipped with domain specific theories, sometimes referred to as 'core knowledge', which allows them to break into learning within that domain. For many of you, your children are also overly sensitive -- the least little thing just sets them off.
At home, they were pleasant, but when challenged, simply seemed helpless and easily gave up.
They can only imagine that their child will be robbed of success for the rest of their life.
And the correct adjustment on your part will completely change the trajectory of their life.
I have more experience in this area than just about anyone you can get your hands on, and every ounce of my knowledge is poured into this program. When you buy this program from me, its risk free so why not take this opportunity to find a peaceful way out of this daily worry over a lack of confidence? I have personally edited this manual to include commentary, highlighted points, and exercises.
When your child completes a task or chore you could say, “I really like the way you straightened your room.
The key thing is for your child to experience a victory -- knowing that they can do it -- in the face of something seemingly hard or scary. Piaget called it the Intuitive sub-stage because children realise they have a vast amount of knowledge but don’t know how they know it. In Piaget's most famous task, a child is represented with two identical beakers containing the same amount of liquid. The logical quality of the adolescent's thought is when children are more likely to solve problems in a trial-and-error fashion. Our character, our personality and it is good to have a visual memory of ourselves while we are growing up. I could see her life full of disappointments, doors that she would never be able to open, and joy she just couldna€™t touch.
In this one-of-kind home study program, I teach you how to coach your child to build their own muscle of self-confidence and unstoppable self-esteem. It is the perfect complement to the audio program and it is included with the audio program.
It will make a difference, and if it doesnt, you have 365 days to send it back and I will buy it back from you if it doesnt work for you.
Whenever you think there is only one thing which can satisfy you, you limit your potential for being satisfied! As a result, they often feel less confident in their abilities to solve problems and manage every day situations. This will help them feel stronger internally and motivate them to try something else which will also increase their self-esteem and confidence in themselves.
These basic assumptions may be the building block out of which more elaborate knowledge is constructed. Once you've used these strategies in your own home, I'm confident you'll NEVER want send it back. Just simply whip off an email to me and I'll happily refund your money in full (in fact, I'd be embarrassed to keep it). The more you help your children realize that there are many options in every situation, the more you increase their potential for satisfaction. When one of the beakers is poured into a taller and thinner container, children who are typically younger than 7 or 8 years old say that the two beakers now contain a different amount of liquid. It combines relaxation techniques along with positive self-statements and mental pictures to help kids  develop their self-esteem. The child simply focuses on the height and width of the container compared to the general concept. More importantly, I want your child to have the opportunity for a richer, fuller life overflowing with moments of satisfaction and happiness. Piaget believes that if a child fails the conservation-of-liquid task, it is a sign that they are at the Preoperational stage of cognitive development.
Another example is when a child is shown 7 dogs and 3 cats and asked if there are more dogs than cats.
However when asked if there are more dogs than animals, the child would once again respond positively.
Such fundamental errors in logic show the transition between intuitiveness in solving problems and true logical reasoning acquired in later years when the child grows up.



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