While I do not find either the term ‘girl’ or ‘woman’ objectionable on any count whatsoever, I am not blind to the way these terms have been misused and abused by the patriarchal society we live in. Woman– A knowing, self-respecting, independent, and in-control female who has reached the place by treading the irregular and tortuous roads of being a feisty teen, with ‘girly’ habits. Now, don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong with ‘girly’ habits per se, and I am not implying that a woman won’t ever have ‘girlish’ tendencies, but more often than not it takes a LONG time to get to being an adult who is not only mature but has a deeper understanding of the world and perceives and interacts with it at a more than a superficial level.
The foremost attribute that differentiates the girls from women is explained by the reaction vs.
A girl deems herself entitled and owed, and thereby ‘expects’ to receive more than she has the capacity to appreciate.
A girl deploys her looks and sexuality as a primary tool of validation and uses them to get what she desires.
A girl waits for her knight in shining armor and awaits her own fairy-tale romance to weave itself magically out of thin air. Tying in closely with point 7 is the fact that girls tend to seek happiness from factors external to themselves.
Girls refrain from stepping out of their comfort zones whilst women are not afraid to experiment and expand their horizons.
Having written all of the above personality traits that separate women from girls, I am compelled to add an integral part of the post as a sort of parting thought.
So, kindly understand that a woman who is the CEO of a multi-million dollar company might do well to have a ‘girls’ night out’ where she might shop and then sit and put the world to right with her besties over tequila shots. A lover of love, I am forever looking for ways to garnish the ‘elation’ on the ‘relationship’ platter. No matter how much a woman achieves, she is still judged on her looks, clothes or her personal life. It would not be too far from the mark to suggest that she still lives in a fairy-tale land and expects to have the princess-treatment extended towards her.
A woman, on the other hand, places a premium on her intelligence, her integrity, her values, and never loses sight of her moral compass whilst etching out her contributions towards self-growth and to humanity. She is financially independent and seeks out much more important qualities in a man like his treatment of her and the amount of respect he shows rather than an unnecessary interest in the wads of green that stuff his wallet. A woman knows that real relationships thrive on mutual trust, respect for each other, commitment, and a lot of hard work.


A woman has introspected enough to develop her own vision for life, delineate her own course, and chart out who she wants to be. Whether it be topics for conversation or places to visit, adventure or a professional task, girls are too chicken to try and experiment lest they fail or worse, appear foolish or incompetent. A woman refuses to conform, if her mind does not believe in the laid-out tenets for conformity. Please remember that it isn’t strident feminism if I insist that a female who exhibits all of the above tendencies be called a ‘woman,’ or even that girls who’ve outgrown their teen years be deemed ‘women’ (regardless of whether or not they exhibit the above traits).
She loves who she is, she believes she is the best and for this, she sees no reason to live a life of pretence.2.
Of course, attitudes are changing and women empowerment and gender equality have come to occupy center stage with a bang. A person might not grow up, ever and a teenager might surprise you with her perceptive and penetrative grasp of life! On the other hand, a woman holds herself to certain standards and does not project any ‘expectations’ onto others. A woman is aware and comfortable in her sexuality and doesn’t find the need to use it as a validation tool. Therefore, whilst you’d find a bunch of girls flocking to lay their hands on the latest pair of dungarees, women shall be confidently strolling about in comfortable jeans and a tee.
They devote themselves to building, nurturing and nourishing their relationships and know that no magic wand shall be able to sustain it save for the efforts of the two people who build it. A woman understands that true happiness stems from self-love and self-assuredness and that she is responsible for her own happiness.
As such, a girl is yet to learn to rebel while a woman values her individuality and thought-process over rules and regulations. My rationale behind the same is very simple – if the term ‘girl’ is being continually equated with the diminutive social value it has in terms of being associated with a female prone to giggling, flirting, twirling her hair or even gossiping, there is no reason why we should encourage the inherently insulting label.
Similarly, a girl who hasn’t quite wrapped herself around to ‘communicating’ well in lieu of the ‘silent treatment’ should not be demeaned for being so.
SHE KNOWS HER STRENGTHSWe all know at least one confident woman, and she somehow manages to pass that message of being perfect, or rather, it’s easier to see her as perfect because of the confidence she exudes. However, it is still a long way before the perceptions about the ‘wow girl’ you are eyeing across from the bar counter who suddenly becomes a ‘bloody woman’  when she refuses your overtures or happens to question your flimsy assumptions or erroneous logic undergo a change (reverso, as it were).


Similarly, girls might make a big fuss about fad diets but women know their healthy meals and eat in moderation.
She values the intrinsic essence of such complete, wholesome bliss, and never allows anyone to jeopardize that. Of course, it does not mean that my sixteen-year-old sister is a woman yet, but what I intend to point out is this – despite its colloquial usage as an affectionate social term, it continues to carry the reverberations of the aforementioned misleading euphemism. We are all individuals, unique in our own right, and our trajectories to ‘maturity’ are self-fueled. As such, it is important that we strip off the ‘patriarchal’ veneer that masks what these labels of a ‘girl’ and ‘woman’ actually imply and understand them for what they are.
They choose to communicate and bring the areas of ‘disagreement’ to the table for an adult discussion. Women refuse to deprive their body of essential foods while girls bear the angry pangs of hunger whilst chewing on salad. Not only does the apparent ‘endearing’ label masquerade around as an affectionate term, it also counters any disagreement with patriarchal society’s use of this apparently ‘harmless’ term with a dismissive cover-all rebuttal (‘don’t be a humorless feminist’) that might well be called hackneyed. One cannot impose the ‘traits’ that shall make a ‘girl’ a ‘woman’ and there isn’t a need to, either. The confident woman understands these and takes time out to reflect — this builds her confidence the more.4. The confident woman pushes and supports others to be better and this spurs her to be better even more.5. SHE’S DEDICATED AND DETERMINEDDedication and determination are two powerful characters of a confident woman. SHE POSSESSES CERTAIN STRONG CHARACTERS   She’s also a strong woman and she possesses strong characters such as being unafraid of failure, being supportive, having drive, desire and strong will.



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