The Voice Dialogue Online Program enables you to understand the origins of low self-esteem and lack of confidence. The role of your Inner Critic is to act as a kind of internal policeman and have you follow the rules of your family, society and culture so that you will “fit in” and be accepted. The way to overcome this self-sabotaging behaviour is to learn how to separate from your Inner Critic, find the rules that it is trying to enforce, and then consciously decide whether there is any merit in them. I wonder what other people would think of me if they really knew what I was like underneath.
When I think about self-improvement I feel that there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. The Inner Critic is just one of several inner voices that can influence our lives in a negative way. If you’ve been around children’s sports in the last ten or fifteen years, you might have noticed a strange trend, there is no score-keeping. So why have we shielded our children from experiencing losing the game or getting a “C” in math?  Self-esteem. While one could argue a lot of reasons for an increase in the use of anti-depressants, I believe our culture has defined self-esteem and the basis for it incorrectly. If you listen to our culture, it tells you that how you feel about yourself is the most important part of self-esteem, but our feelings will carry our mind and attitudes from highs to lows and back again, day in and day out. Do you see how extremes of self-esteem lead to a selfish heart and ultimately a “me” focused attitude?
In the next two lessons, I will focus on this last point a lot more, and in the last lesson, I will examine our ultimate example of someone with perfect self-esteem, Jesus Christ.
About Latest Posts Erynn SprouseErynn and her husband, Jeremy serve with the Patrick Street church of Christ in Dublin, TX . There are lots of ways to improve your self-confidence over the long-term – but sometimes you need an instant boost. Most of us have a critical inner voice that tells us we’re stupid, not good enough, that we’re too fat, thin, loud, quiet… Being able to change that inner voice is key to feeling self-confident on the inside, which will help you project your confidence to the world. Whatever the situation that’s causing you a crisis of self-confidence, you can help yourself immeasurably by holding yourself to your own standards alone.
Even if you’ve only got a minute or two, duck into the bathroom to make sure you’re looking your best. If you believe in a higher power, whether God, or another spiritual force, it can be a real boost to self-confidence to say a silent prayer.
Keep your self-confidence up by taking gradual steps forwards, rather than freezing when faced with what seems like a giant leap.
Have you ever sat through an entire class at college or meeting at work without saying a word? About Latest Posts Ali LukeAli writes about personal growth and development on her blog, Aliventures. Sometimes people just drag their confidence downhill because they are always repeating negative thoughts to themselves and our thoughts define our reality.
My confidence tip is to maintain a Universal Perspective, remember how small we all are and how fleeting our lives are. And I am also interested on speak slowly point, because all this time I have been speaking quickly. Confidence, I agree about the smile, in Chinese the character for confidence and faith are the same. Once you are comfortable saying the words to yourself, ask a friend to listen to you say the phrase. When you have completed all of that, break out of your comfort zone and speak to people you don’t know.
Here are just a few examples of recent designs from the Keep Calm-o-Matic creative community. It gives you a simple, clear strategy for increasing self-esteem, building confidence and leading a happier, more fulfilling life. With so many of them to follow, your Inner Critic is in a constant state of anxiety and always on your case. This Voice Dialogue Online Program will show you how you can take charge of these voices and lead a less-stressful, more empowered life.
Please enjoy and carefully consider this first lesson in our new series on Biblical self-esteem. We must train our thoughts to anchor our self-esteem so that it is not tossed about by feelings. There are two extremes when it comes to self-esteem, those with too much and those with too little.


She doesn’t feel like she should have to do anything for the church unless she gets the starring role and lots of recognition. I pray that you might find these lessons encouraging and a radically different message than what you hear in our world.
We are dealing with this a lot with our teenage girls at church right now and I needed this! You can’t walk into an important work meeting, (or a class at college or a room full of strangers at a party) whilst frantically re-reading a self-help manual, or making a last-minute phone call to your life-coach. You don’t just smile because you are happy and confident – you can smile to make yourself feel better. Give them your smile; you’ll almost certainly get one back, and being smiled at is a great self-confidence boost.
Make your inner voice a supportive friend who knows you fully but also recognizes your talents and gifts, and wants you to make the best of yourself.
Other people have different values from you, and however hard you try, you’ll never please everyone all of the time. Brushing your hair, giving your face a good wash, retouching your makeup, straightening your collar, checking you’ve not got a bit of parsley stuck between your teeth … all of these can make the difference between feeling confident in your physical appearance and feeling anxious about an imagined flaw.
Perhaps you spill your drink on someone, you arrive late for the big meeting because of traffic problems, or someone who you wanted to speak to gives you a cold brush-off.
If you’re not sure what to do, look for one simple step that you can take to make progress. If you gabble, you’ll end up feeling worse as you know you’re being unclear to your audience or to the person you’re in a conversation with.
Have you had an evening out where friends chatted happily while you sat and stared silently at your drink?
By changing our inner voice and speak to ourselves in a more positive way, it will definitely boost our self confidence. That brings up all of the feelings of success and confidence which at least put me in a positive space.
Taking an extra few moments to take a total account of appearance, loose ends, accessories etc, has made a huge difference for me. This may at first feel intimidating but once you get past the ego and accept this, you will be able to rise above the Battle of the Egos out there and smile at it all (because it is all so, so silly) and this will give you immeasurable self-confidence. Up until now- I thought that a sign of intelligence was being able to speak quickly, as if you know everything about the topic that you were speaking about. I used to think that by speaking fast, you will picture urself as if you have command over what your are talking and shows your confidence. It suprises me how so many people complain about nothing, they’re warm, they have a roof over their heads, their healths fine. I find that expecting myself to do a piece of work and expecting to do it successfully is critical when it comes to saying no to the inevitable distractions that the mind throws up to derail my efforts.
If you want to start to speak out and be heard, you have to practice hearing your own voice first. Click through to see more designs, create your own, share designs and purchase customised products. Adverts set the standard for how you should look, what you should wear, how you should smell, what you should eat, how you should relax. It is easy to see why “should” and “shouldn’t” are two of your Inner Critic’s favourite words - sometimes whispered sotto voce, sometimes bellowed full force. Instead of your foe, your Inner Critic transforms into a trusted adviser and friend, and the self-sabotaging stops.
You will discover how you can befriend your Inner Critic and deal effectively with the underlying vulnerabilities that fuel its anxiety. God does not expect us to feel good about ourselves; He expects us to feel right about ourselves.
The world tells you self-esteem is found in externals, looks, children, intelligence, husband, marriage, home, job, etc.  But God tells us that our self-esteem is found in the cross and what it represents.
It seems that I quickly become frustrated with my family and myself, and that leads me to questioning is there a problem with me or my family. The act of smiling is so strongly associated with positive feelings that it’s almost impossible to feel bad while smiling. Don’t worry that people will think you’re too overweight, underweight, too feckless, too boring, too frugal, too frivolous … hold yourself to your standards, not some imagined standards belonging to others.
That might mean making eye contact at a party, introducing yourself to a stranger, breaking the ice in a meeting, or asking a question of your interviewers that shows your knowledge of their industry and company. Chances are, you weren’t feeling very self-confident at the time – and you probably felt even worse afterwards.


As a corporate trainer, the first the my audience perceived was the image I presented to them…followed by my presentation. But that is so wrong, I was often told by people to slow down, never thought that my fast pace is sounding like jibberish to them.
We should be able to enjoy the lush things, a plunge in a pool, an ice cream, life’s a sensual experience.
And you build up your affirmations and their strength overtime you get into a power mode that you can’t conceive of today. Films show you the perfect male and female physiques, the perfect way to kiss and make love, the perfect romantic relationship you should have. Most of the time feeling right about ourselves should lead us to positive thoughts, but sometimes feeling right about ourselves should lead us to repentance.
It requires constant dedication and attention to our moods with Biblical thoughts to counteract feelings. High class on Sunday mornings and leads the Children’s Bible Hour program on Sunday nights.
I think a lot of poor choices that we make as women come back to believing Satan’s lies about who we are and what we should be. And remember that commonly-held values and standards vary from society to society: you don’t have to accept them just because the people around you do. If you’re giving a talk or presentation, pause at the end of phrases and sentences to help your audience take in what you’ve said. Personal development programmes exhort you to be more sensitive, more assertive, more sensual, more aware….. Once you actually spend a day paying attention to the things you say to yourself in your mind, you might be shocked at how much your feelings hurl insults at your self-worth. You might find it odd to read a verse talking about humility of mind when self-esteem is the topic, but the two are completely intertwined.
But we should find ourselves becoming more and more like Louise and less and less like Mary and Sandy. She is a full-time mom who homeschools their three children: Grace (8), Sophia (4), and Levi (2). Even if you don’t think you have much to say, your thoughts and perspective are valuable to those around you.
Make them the centre of your being and who you are, when you invest who you are into something it’s something deep like your identity, so your bound to go at things with enthusiasm then. Practice saying it out loud in front of the mirror until you really start to hear yourself saying the words. We go to therapy or take medications if we don’t (I am not talking about clinical depression!).
Something described as “deceitful” and “desperately sick” in God’s word is not something we want to heed in our lives!
Everything should be focused on them, their abilities, their lives, etc.  The second group has low self-esteem. Thanks so much for writing this series and helping us get back on track with a Christ-centered esteem.
You would think in the richest, most free country in the world, we would have more self-esteem than anyone else in history. The cross will tell you that you are undeserving and a sinner, that you still have things to work on that God wants to perfect in you. My husband is always amazed by our daughters’ ability to be extremely upset and sobbing one minute, then laughing and smiling the next! If only they had been prettier, a better mother, a better wife, a better whatever, then xyz wouldn’t have happened.
You are a Christian woman made to serve a God who wants you to realize that you are fabulous, wonderful, and purchased at a great price so that He can make you into what He wants you to be.
She doesn’t necessarily like cleaning, but she does like helping others and the Lord’s kingdom. She knows that she is defined by more than the job she is doing tonight, so she goes about cheerfully doing what needs to be done even if no one thanks her or even notices.



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