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Nothing creates separation and discord among human beings more than when we judge each other.  While this is true, judge is a word that causes confusion for many of us. On one hand, for centuries humanity has received countless messages through spiritual masters from all walks of life instructing us not to judge. On the other hand, most of us would agree that we certainly need to use our judgment skills to navigate through this very complicated, polarized physical world of experience. Wow!  When we apply these definitions to how we engage with other people, it brings up a lot of questions.  For example, who among us is the one person who is supremely qualified to decide on the worth of anything?  Who among us appreciates being criticized or censured? In order to understand what is meant by letting go of judgment of others, we need to adopt a more neutral interpretation of the word judge.
I welcome your comments, insights, and experiences on how we can let go of judgment of others. I make this explanation for the reason that without it many readers would suppose that all these characters were trying to talk alike and not succeeding.
YOU don't know about me without you have read a book by the name of The Adventures of Tom Sawyer; but that ain't no matter. Now the way that the book winds up is this: A Tom and me found the money that the robbers hid in the cave, and it made us rich. The widow she cried over me, and called me a poor lost lamb, and she called me a lot of other names, too, but she never meant no harm by it. Her sister, Miss Watson, a tolerable slim old maid, with goggles on, had just come to live with her, and took a set at me now with a spelling-book. I set down again, a-shaking all over, and got out my pipe for a smoke; for the house was all as still as death now, and so the widow wouldn't know. WE went tiptoeing along a path amongst the trees back towards the end of the widow's garden, stooping down so as the branches wouldn't scrape our heads.
Tom he made a sign to mea€”kind of a little noise with his moutha€”and we went creeping away on our hands and knees. As soon as Tom was back we cut along the path, around the garden fence, and by and by fetched up on the steep top of the hill the other side of the house.
We went to a clump of bushes, and Tom made everybody swear to keep the secret, and then showed them a hole in the hill, right in the thickest part of the bushes. Everybody said it was a real beautiful oath, and asked Tom if he got it out of his own head. They talked it over, and they was going to rule me out, because they said every boy must have a family or somebody to kill, or else it wouldn't be fair and square for the others. Then they all stuck a pin in their fingers to get blood to sign with, and I made my mark on the paper. Little Tommy Barnes was asleep now, and when they waked him up he was scared, and cried, and said he wanted to go home to his ma, and didn't want to be a robber any more.
So they all made fun of him, and called him cry-baby, and that made him mad, and he said he would go straight and tell all the secrets. Ben Rogers said he couldn't get out much, only Sundays, and so he wanted to begin next Sunday; but all the boys said it would be wicked to do it on Sunday, and that settled the thing. WELL, I got a good going-over in the morning from old Miss Watson on account of my clothes; but the widow she didn't scold, but only cleaned off the grease and clay, and looked so sorry that I thought I would behave awhile if I could. Pap he hadn't been seen for more than a year, and that was comfortable for me; I didn't want to see him no more.
I thought all this over for two or three days, and then I reckoned I would see if there was anything in it. I went down to the front garden and clumb over the stile where you go through the high board fence. Miss Watson's nigger, Jim, had a hair-ball as big as your fist, which had been took out of the fourth stomach of an ox, and he used to do magic with it. I stood a-looking at him; he set there a-looking at me, with his chair tilted back a little. He took it and bit it to see if it was good, and then he said he was going down town to get some whisky; said he hadn't had a drink all day.
Next day he was drunk, and he went to Judge Thatcher's and bullyragged him, and tried to make him give up the money; but he couldn't, and then he swore he'd make the law force him. Ganglion Cyst Cure: Complete guide to ganglion cyst causes, types, symptoms, treatment and prevention. If you have a ganglion cyst* on your hand or foot, the treatments can be painful, if not dire:  you can go to your doctor who will insert a big needle and drain the cyst (ouch!), you can have surgery- expensive and painful a€“ double ouch or the old folk remedy is to hit it with the family bible a€“ triple ouch! Popped in to see you all after a brief visit to see Phil Taylor and be interviewed by BBC Radio Jersey about Poppy Day to talk about my composing of songs for Poppy Day. I look forward to seeing you on Red Nose Day for the cake sale and to be part of the all round charming ethos that is Helvetia House School. Hi Lindsey a€“ It was a really beautiful show that Helvetia produced yesterday evening and you must all be very proud of yourselves. May they go from strength to strength giving sound foundations to their pupils and happy memories for all who cherish and attended. My other half and I had the absolute pleasure of attending your 125 year celebration at Haute Vallee School last night, to watch our niece Kathryn Haynes perform.
The last thing I want to become is a pest of a parent who emails after Helvetia's specialA occasions. It is not just the quality of the show but the obviousA affection and respectA between all the girls and their teachers, it is wonderful to see.
Even our son Tom, who as you know was only supposed to come the first night, said he was pleased he saw the show a second time.
Once again many congratulations to all the teachers, I hope you have a glass or two of your favourite tipple over the weekend and celebrate you pulled off yet another superb performance.
Really well done to all the girls on their splendid performance today, it really was super!A  They must all be so proud of themselves!
I must just take this opportunity to thank you and your team for such a wonderful evening last night.
It really was the best production I have seen from a school in quite some time and I just wanted to say well done to all involved. Please pass on my thanks to all your lovely teachers, what a wonderful open evening and all the girlsa€™ work looked amazing. And thank you Mrs Woodward for being such a positive influence on the whole school it really shows in how happy all the girls are at school. We wanted to write you a quick note to express our delights in our daughtera€™s progress since she has been in Form 2. We will continue to encourage our daughter from home so that hopefully she will continue to flourish for the rest of the school year. My eldest daughter, Jade (another old Helvetian) was only saying that if she had little girls (she has 2 boys) then she would send them to Helvetia. Thank you so much for forwarding on the Souvenir Programme my Gran was thrilled and still clearly remembers her head teacher Mrs Haines!! I attended your school from approximately 1967 leaving in 69 (age 7 years) when my family moved to England, where I have lived since. From memory the school had only just started to take boys back then and we were definitely in a minority!
I still have my old cap badge a few pics of me in my uniform a€“ very dark navy and pale blue. I remember the school with fond memories - my mother driving to school each day from St Peters a€“ both of us singing Winchester Cathedral a€“ passing the statute of Queen Victoria and visiting the beach on summer afternoons.
My own son age 7 is attending a private school (Holme Grange School in Wokingham, Berkshire) which in many ways reminds me of Helvetia a€“ hopefully, he will also look back with fond memories of his early school years.
The following are extracts from several letters received from one of the schoola€™s first pupils who, after a brilliant scholastic career, has settled in Melbourne, Australia and is still teaching.
In those days there were three - not two a€“ granite steps leading from the front gate to the garden where flowers flourished under the care of Miss Joste. This was in 1890 and I was learning to subtract and multiply, using weird numbers like 57,003 by 3,006 !
There was a large garden with a lawn, a conservatory, several fruit trees a€“ particularly a Morello cherry tree a€“ and I remember the acid taste of the many cherries, big, black and juicy, but seldom ripe, I have had from it. On wet days and in cold weather we played in the laundry and must have been a nuisance to Mrs.


I remember two cats and a collie dog about the house a€“ one tom, a slate grey beauty of extreme dignity who basked equally well in the sunshine as in the homage of at least one of the scholars. I believe Nan and I first came to school about my fifth birthday.A  We arrived under the escort of my two bothers, making our entry at the side door in the front garden near the gum tree. The annual concerts were a trial of skill and patience.A  A cold sinking at the pit of the stomach preceded them but the plays were joy unconfined.
Such were the beginnings of our School!A  We open wide the doors of Memory and glimpse the childhood days of sixty years ago.A  Let us turn to the activities of the school today and then quietly remember the life-time of service and devotion given so generously by the two sisters we older ones remember, honour and revere. Rather than construing the word judge in a polarized way that involves attacking or assessing the value of another person, we can rise to a higher perspective by perceiving judgment as an act of discernment. Whatever we find annoying in another person is an aspect that, to a greater or lesser degree, we need to heal within ourselves. A on the other hand, there are so many relatives and their pictures are in so many different rooms - trying to design minimalist will be difficult with unmatching frames and backgrounds of dozens of relatives. The shadings have not been done in a haphazard fashion, or by guesswork; but painstakingly, and with the trustworthy guidance and support of personal familiarity with these several forms of speech. She put me in them new clothes again, and I couldn't do nothing but sweat and sweat, and feel all cramped up.
A She said all a body would have to do there was to go around all day long with a harp and sing, forever and ever. A By and by they fetched the niggers in and had prayers, and then everybody was off to bed. Well, after a long time I heard the clock away off in the town go booma€”booma€”booma€”twelve licks; and all still againa€”stiller than ever. A Well, likely it was minutes and minutes that there warn't a sound, and we all there so close together. A He leaned his back up against a tree, and stretched his legs out till one of them most touched one of mine.
A Tom said he slipped Jim's hat off of his head and hung it on a limb right over him, and Jim stirred a little, but he didn't wake. A We went down the hill and found Jo Harper and Ben Rogers, and two or three more of the boys, hid in the old tanyard.
A He said, some of it, but the rest was out of pirate-books and robber-books, and every gang that was high-toned had it. A But Tom give him five cents to keep quiet, and said we would all go home and meet next week, and rob somebody and kill some people. A They agreed to get together and fix a day as soon as they could, and then we elected Tom Sawyer first captain and Jo Harper second captain of the Gang, and so started home.
A I says to myself, if a body can get anything they pray for, why don't Deacon Winn get back the money he lost on pork?
A He used to always whale me when he was sober and could get his hands on me; though I used to take to the woods most of the time when he was around.
A He said there was loads of them there, anyway; and he said there was A-rabs there, too, and elephants and things.
A I got an old tin lamp and an iron ring, and went out in the woods and rubbed and rubbed till I sweat like an Injun, calculating to build a palace and sell it; but it warn't no use, none of the genies come.
I had been to school most all the time and could spell and read and write just a little, and could say the multiplication table up to six times seven is thirty-five, and I don't reckon I could ever get any further than that if I was to live forever.
Whenever I got uncommon tired I played hookey, and the hiding I got next day done me good and cheered me up. A I reached for some of it as quick as I could to throw over my left shoulder and keep off the bad luck, but Miss Watson was in ahead of me, and crossed me off. A His hair was long and tangled and greasy, and hung down, and you could see his eyes shining through like he was behind vines.
When I'd read about a half a minute, he fetched the book a whack with his hand and knocked it across the house. When he had got out on the shed he put his head in again, and cussed me for putting on frills and trying to be better than him; and when I reckoned he was gone he come back and put his head in again, and told me to mind about that school, because he was going to lay for me and lick me if I didn't drop that.
So he took him to his own house, and dressed him up clean and nice, and had him to breakfast and dinner and supper with the family, and was just old pie to him, so to speak. A He said he reckoned a body could reform the old man with a shotgun, maybe, but he didn't know no other way. You and your staff ably supported by your parents provide an exemplary teaching and learning environment. My camera takes a NEFF file, which basically means that I have to edit every photo individually. And it was lovely to see the affection that all the girls showed toward you and the other teachers a€“ Helvetia is a very special place. However after the last two nights I just had to contact you to congratulate you and all the wonderful teachers and of course all the fantastic girls. I know Steve and I say it many times but it really does warm our hearts and we feel great pride that Emily is lucky enough to be part of the school. Considering my kids spend the majority of their time arguing(!) I think this has to be the biggest compliment of all!! Thank you so much for another wonderful production from all the amazing and gorgeous girls. We credit you and the wonderful school for all the progress she has made so far and also for the noticeable increased self-confidence that she is showing in her learning. As always please let us know if you think there is anything we can do to support you in her learning. I have such fond memories of your school, and it certainly gave my girls the best grounding ever, I am so pleased you are carrying on with it.
She has asked me to pass on her thanks to you and also to say she has very happy memories of her time at Helvetia. We need to use our skills of judgment to discern situations, opportunities, agreements, and decisions to determine what is in our greatest good. Stated simply, when we let go of judging others, we focus on the goodness (Godness) within everyone, rather than what is wrong with them.  When we practice being non-judgmental, we offer others the opportunity to find themselves and to meet us partway.
Pretty soon I heard a twig snap down in the dark amongst the treesa€”something was a stirring. A But I said no; he might wake and make a disturbance, and then they'd find out I warn't in. Afterwards Jim said the witches be witched him and put him in a trance, and rode him all over the State, and then set him under the trees again, and hung his hat on a limb to show who done it. A So we unhitched a skiff and pulled down the river two mile and a half, to the big scar on the hillside, and went ashore. A It swore every boy to stick to the band, and never tell any of the secrets; and if anybody done anything to any boy in the band, whichever boy was ordered to kill that person and his family must do it, and he mustn't eat and he mustn't sleep till he had killed them and hacked a cross in their breasts, which was the sign of the band. A I was most ready to cry; but all at once I thought of a way, and so I offered them Miss Watsona€”they could kill her. A Well, about this time he was found in the river drownded, about twelve mile above town, so people said. A They had come up from the quarry and stood around the stile a while, and then went on around the garden fence. A So I went to him that night and told him pap was here again, for I found his tracks in the snow.
A And after supper he talked to him about temperance and such things till the old man cried, and said he'd been a fool, and fooled away his life; but now he was a-going to turn over a new leaf and be a man nobody wouldn't be ashamed of, and he hoped the judge would help him and not look down on him. The show was brilliant, the songs and performances so enjoyable and learning about the history of the school was veryA interesting. Ia€™ve enjoyed watching the girls take part in the various performances - they were brilliant.
You may remember that she wrote the liberation song that was played for Prince Charles when he visited Jersey. A Well, Judge Thatcher he took it and put it out at interest, and it fetched us a dollar a day apiece all the year rounda€”more than a body could tell what to do with. A Then I set down in a chair by the window and tried to think of something cheerful, but it warn't no use.
A Miss Watson's big nigger, named Jim, was setting in the kitchen door; we could see him pretty clear, because there was a light behind him. Then Tom said he hadn't got candles enough, and he would slip in the kitchen and get some more.


A And next time Jim told it he said they rode him down to New Orleans; and, after that, every time he told it he spread it more and more, till by and by he said they rode him all over the world, and tired him most to death, and his back was all over saddle-boils. Tom poked about amongst the passages, and pretty soon ducked under a wall where you wouldn't a noticed that there was a hole.
And nobody that didn't belong to the band could use that mark, and if he did he must be sued; and if he done it again he must be killed. A We used to hop out of the woods and go charging down on hog-drivers and women in carts taking garden stuff to market, but we never hived any of them. A He said if I warn't so ignorant, but had read a book called Don Quixote, I would know without asking. A I started out, after breakfast, feeling worried and shaky, and wondering where it was going to fall on me, and what it was going to be.
A But he said HE was satisfied; said he was boss of his son, and he'd make it warm for HIM.
I started the process yesterday, and will work as quickly as possible to get a disc of images to you. The money she won for the school was used to buy the play equipment in the little ones playground. Ivatt for Maths and Latin, and Miss Ann Joste for Sewing Class on Wednesdays a€“ I disliked sewing and made canvas samples in lines and squares of violent purples, greens an blues which in memory still pursue me. When you got to the table you couldn't go right to eating, but you had to wait for the widow to tuck down her head and grumble a little over the victuals, though there warn't really anything the matter with them,a€”that is, nothing only everything was cooked by itself. A I asked her if she reckoned Tom Sawyer would go there, and she said not by a considerable sight.
A Jim was monstrous proud about it, and he got so he wouldn't hardly notice the other niggers.
A We went along a narrow place and got into a kind of room, all damp and sweaty and cold, and there we stopped. A And if anybody that belonged to the band told the secrets, he must have his throat cut, and then have his carcass burnt up and the ashes scattered all around, and his name blotted off of the list with blood and never mentioned again by the gang, but have a curse put on it and be forgot forever. A Living in a house and sleeping in a bed pulled on me pretty tight mostly, but before the cold weather I used to slide out and sleep in the woods sometimes, and so that was a rest to me. A There is ways to keep off some kinds of bad luck, but this wasn't one of them kind; so I never tried to do anything, but just poked along low-spirited and on the watch-out.
A Jim got out his hair-ball and said something over it, and then he held it up and dropped it on the floor. A The old man said that what a man wanted that was down was sympathy, and the judge said it was so; so they cried again. Then they tucked the old man into a beautiful room, which was the spare room, and in the night some time he got powerful thirsty and clumb out on to the porch-roof and slid down a stanchion and traded his new coat for a jug of forty-rod, and clumb back again and had a good old time; and towards daylight he crawled out again, drunk as a fiddler, and rolled off the porch and broke his left arm in two places, and was most froze to death when somebody found him after sun-up.
Would it be an idea for me to do a downsized version of each file and put it onto a Flicker slide-show so that everyone can have a look?
A I never seen anybody but lied one time or another, without it was Aunt Polly, or the widow, or maybe Mary. A In a barrel of odds and ends it is different; things get mixed up, and the juice kind of swaps around, and the things go better. A Here she was a-bothering about Moses, which was no kin to her, and no use to anybody, being gone, you see, yet finding a power of fault with me for doing a thing that had some good in it.
A If you are with the quality, or at a funeral, or trying to go to sleep when you ain't sleepya€”if you are anywheres where it won't do for you to scratch, why you will itch all over in upwards of a thousand places. A Niggers would come miles to hear Jim tell about it, and he was more looked up to than any nigger in that country.
A He said there was hundreds of soldiers there, and elephants and treasure, and so on, but we had enemies which he called magicians; and they had turned the whole thing into an infant Sunday-school, just out of spite.
A He had one ankle resting on t'other knee; the boot on that foot was busted, and two of his toes stuck through, and he worked them now and then. A And when they come to look at that spare room they had to take soundings before they could navigate it.
A Aunt Pollya€”Tom's Aunt Polly, she isa€”and Mary, and the Widow Douglas is all told about in that book, which is mostly a true book, with some stretchers, as I said before.
A But Tom Sawyer he hunted me up and said he was going to start a band of robbers, and I might join if I would go back to the widow and be respectable. Then away out in the woods I heard that kind of a sound that a ghost makes when it wants to tell about something that's on its mind and can't make itself understood, and so can't rest easy in its grave, and has to go about that way every night grieving. A But Tom wanted to resk it; so we slid in there and got three candles, and Tom laid five cents on the table for pay. A Strange niggers would stand with their mouths open and look him all over, same as if he was a wonder. Then we got out, and I was in a sweat to get away; but nothing would do Tom but he must crawl to where Jim was, on his hands and knees, and play something on him.
A Niggers is always talking about witches in the dark by the kitchen fire; but whenever one was talking and letting on to know all about such things, Jim would happen in and say, "Hm! A I went out in the woods and turned it over in my mind a long time, but I couldn't see no advantage about ita€”except for the other people; so at last I reckoned I wouldn't worry about it any more, but just let it go. A Well, I couldn't see no advantage in going where she was going, so I made up my mind I wouldn't try for it.
A Pretty soon a spider went crawling up my shoulder, and I flipped it off and it lit in the candle; and before I could budge it was all shriveled up. This miserableness went on as much as six or seven minutes; but it seemed a sight longer than that. A What you know 'bout witches?" and that nigger was corked up and had to take a back seat. A Sometimes the widow would take me one side and talk about Providence in a way to make a body's mouth water; but maybe next day Miss Watson would take hold and knock it all down again. A He never could go after even a turnip-cart but he must have the swords and guns all scoured up for it, though they was only lath and broomsticks, and you might scour at them till you rotted, and then they warn't worth a mouthful of ashes more than what they was before.
A I didn't need anybody to tell me that that was an awful bad sign and would fetch me some bad luck, so I was scared and most shook the clothes off of me. A Then I slipped down to the ground and crawled in among the trees, and, sure enough, there was Tom Sawyer waiting for me.
A Jim always kept that five-center piece round his neck with a string, and said it was a charm the devil give to him with his own hands, and told him he could cure anybody with it and fetch witches whenever he wanted to just by saying something to it; but he never told what it was he said to it.
A I judged I could see that there was two Providences, and a poor chap would stand considerable show with the widow's Providence, but if Miss Watson's got him there warn't no help for him any more. A I didn't believe we could lick such a crowd of Spaniards and A-rabs, but I wanted to see the camels and elephants, so I was on hand next day, Saturday, in the ambuscade; and when we got the word we rushed out of the woods and down the hill. I got up and turned around in my tracks three times and crossed my breast every time; and then I tied up a little lock of my hair with a thread to keep witches away. A I reckoned I couldn't stand it more'n a minute longer, but I set my teeth hard and got ready to try.
A Niggers would come from all around there and give Jim anything they had, just for a sight of that five-center piece; but they wouldn't touch it, because the devil had had his hands on it. A I thought it all out, and reckoned I would belong to the widow's if he wanted me, though I couldn't make out how he was a-going to be any better off then than what he was before, seeing I was so ignorant, and so kind of low-down and ornery.
A I told him I had an old slick counterfeit quarter that warn't no good because the brass showed through the silver a little, and it wouldn't pass nohow, even if the brass didn't show, because it was so slick it felt greasy, and so that would tell on it every time.
A Just then Jim begun to breathe heavy; next he begun to snorea€”and then I was pretty soon comfortable again. A Jim was most ruined for a servant, because he got stuck up on account of having seen the devil and been rode by witches. A (I reckoned I wouldn't say nothing about the dollar I got from the judge.) I said it was pretty bad money, but maybe the hair-ball would take it, because maybe it wouldn't know the difference.
A You do that when you've lost a horseshoe that you've found, instead of nailing it up over the door, but I hadn't ever heard anybody say it was any way to keep off bad luck when you'd killed a spider.
A Jim smelt it and bit it and rubbed it, and said he would manage so the hair-ball would think it was good. A He said he would split open a raw Irish potato and stick the quarter in between and keep it there all night, and next morning you couldn't see no brass, and it wouldn't feel greasy no more, and so anybody in town would take it in a minute, let alone a hair-ball.



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