One of the biggest problems that in my opinion marriages are facing today is the lack of self-esteem in the parties within the marriage. It is true that self-esteem is the way we think and feel about ourselves and that it is a construction that should begin within our own beings, but it is very naive to think that nothing else and no one else is or should be part of that process. Life is too short and too precious to live it in the way everyone else wants us to live it; even if that other else is your significant other.
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Nobody can say for certain how long they were conducted  and how the Aryans conducted marriages. As a man is married before he has understood nature of life, its problems and its pleasures, he is satisfied with the slavish nature of his wife and the sexual pleasure she gives. Love marriage and Gandharva weddings can give pleasure only as long as there is lust and the ability to satisfsy that lust. When new Acts and amendments are passed regarding ever so many silly matters, what makes the government indifferent to the thousands of self-respecst weddings taking place annually in Tamil Nadu?
If such weddings are legalised, the government will have to face the anger of the Brahmins and earn the curse of the believers of Puranas. Still the self-respect weddings conducted during the past thirty years have some basic limits. Even after the minister has declared that self-respect weddings are not legally valid, thousands of weddings of this kind are taking place.
The poor and the middle class people who form 99 percent of the population do not feel the need for a will or for registration and they want to conduct self-respect weddings.
Therefore, even in the absence of legal support for self-respect weddings, if all people, without exception, venture to have only such weddings, the Brahmin – dominated government will have to pass such an Act voluntarily. Until such a development takes place, I would request the government to offer facilities in all places, including villages, for people to register all weddings easily. Unequal and discriminatory treatment of a section of people based on their birth leads to denial of justice and legitimate rights. When Periyar saw suppressed, oppressed and depressed lot of the helpless and hopeless women, he began to raise his determined voice against all forms of cruelty and injustice to which they were subjected. Women who constitute half of the population of human race are rendered useless, and kept as slaves, as domestic servants and as machines giving birth to children.
We have conducted the marriages of not only widows and those abandoned by their husbands, but also the weddings of devadasis (prostitutes sanctioned by the Hindu scriptures). It is because of our propaganda they have enacted a law that  a man marrying more than one woman an offence, and women now have the right to inherit property and to divorce. They should get married after the age of 20, 22 years; till then they should pursue their studies and find some honourable means of earning their livelihood. The number of children they have should be limited to their ability to bring them up with necessary facilities – good food, clothing, education, medical facilities etc.
Those who spend too much and have too many children cannot remain honest, upright and uncorrupted.
The newly wedded couple should remember that their family is a part of the society, and so they should serve others to the extent possible.
Hindu religion says that Sudras have no right to have regular marriage ceremonies conducted by Brahmins. Religious rites and rituals followed during the wedding ceremony are meant to urge that women to occupy permanently a servile place at home and in the society, and they also make us  do things in superstitious ways. The bride makes a similar affirmation, and put on a garland around the neck of the bridegroom.
Current IssueJanuaryCONVERSION GIMMICKS UNIVERSAL CONDEMNATION OF CASTE SYSTEM HIGHLY COMMENDABLE JUDGMENT OF THE SUPREME COURT TAMPERING WITH SCIENTIFIG TEMPER SHOULD WATER TICH INDIA THIRST FOR WATER? The wives are so petrified the husbands will leave that they turn themselves inside out to try to make sure that there is nothing in their behaviour that the husband could object to. Now, I have spoken at length in this blog about how you have to learn to show your spouse love in their language, and how we need to make sure that we are loving our spouses, even if they are not showing us love. My mother, for instance, when she was married, tolerated really horrible behaviour on the part of my dad, because she was so scared of being left alone. When you bend over backwards and try so hard to become what the other person wants, you cease being yourself. A truly intimate marriage relationship is based on two individuals who can cling to each other, confide in each other, talk to one another, and feel like partners.
Stop bending over backwards, and show them what it will be like if they follow through and leave. Protect yourself and keep your self-respect, because a person cannot fall in love again with someone who has become a doormat and who no longer values herself. God hates divorce, but where Christians err is that we often think that the proper response then when a spouse starts talking about divorce is to try to do everything possible to appease that spouse. When we love inappropriately, by allowing people to walk all over us, we actually encourage them to go further from God.
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We are so aware of the perceptions we create in the people around us that we forget to be aware of what we think about ourselves becoming what people want us to be. A real marriage is based in the support and respect of the parties’ past, personality, weaknesses and strengthens. The accounts of the Aryans, however, indicate that there were eight different methods adopted by them for their weddings.
This is said to be the result of the love generated between a man and woman at first sight, culminating in physical union between the two. The parents and others satisfy themselves that two young persons have come of age and can live independently.
If he finds any incompatibility, he adapts himself to his partner and the circumstances and puts up with his lot. If there is no compatibility between the partners in other respects, such marriages end only in the enslavement of women. For example, partnership in a love marriage or in an arranged marriage is a casual partnership which has happened by chance and there is no firm foundation for this partnership.
Bakthavatsalam said that the government did not intend to legalise the self-respect weddings which did not conform to tradition.
Some may have the courage to conduct it during the time which alamacs indicate as the time of the planet Rahu and that, particularly in the evening.
Though some people may think that wearing a saffron cloth and rolling on the road, alone indicates ideal piety, will Mr.
The minister has said that every self-respect wedding which is registered will be legally valid. It is the duty of all people to raise doubts about the validity of the old superstitious weddings. I would like the government to empower all the Registration Officers, the Municipal Commissioners, Village Officers, and the Co-operative Inspectors to register all weddings conducted without priests.
People have not yet given up the practice of discriminating against others owing to the differences in race, religion, colour; language, caste etc. They have been denied for millennium equal socio-religious, economic, cultural and political rights. He fought stoutly and tirelessly for their equal rights in all walks of life, presenting his arguments frankly, boldly, lucidly, logically, forcefully and convincingly of the need to eliminate the outmoded, traditional, inhuman practices against women and to promote the values and ways that would help them to become equal, free and dignified partners of men. Traditionally, only after we came under the influence of Aryan (Brahminic) religion, we began to have meaningless and degrading rites in our weddings.
It is to overcome this (scriptural) hurdle, they require the bridegroom, during the wedding ceremony, to put on the Poonool (Yagnopavitham or Juneja), a thread worn across the torso by the twice born (dwija) in the four-fold Varna social system. We emphasize that men and women are equal, and husband and wife are equal partners in domestic life. I accept today, in your presence, so and so, daughter of so and so, belonging to such and such place, as my life help-mate. In our life, whatever rights I expect from my spouse, she has equal right to expect the same from me”.
So they have to be solemnised by Brahmin priests, as they are considered to belong to the highest caste (or Varna). When differences arise between them, they should compete with each other to come to a compromise. I introduce a topic, and then you follow up either by commenting or by writing your own post and then linking up! Their husbands blame the wives for everything, but are unwilling to do anything to grow the marriage (date nights, counseling, even just communicating). His central thesis was this: the whole way we do marriage counseling is backwards, because in the vast majority of troubled marriages, only one person is willing to work on things.
They believe that they can keep daydreaming about leaving, and threatening to leave, and talk about being unhappy, because you’ll sit there and take it and bend over backwards to try to satisfy them. We need to show people that if they leave, life will be difficult, but they need to make a choice.
I know we are called to be gracious and to forgive, but I also don’t believe we were called to tolerate indecision or evil. Write your own Wifey Wednesday post that links back to here, and then leave the link of THAT POST in the Mcklinky below.
It seems to never fail, I would run across a meme that some guy has posted with a beautiful plus size model in lingerie and the question proposed was “Men would you date a big girl?” What?! In this home of my mine, I would cook, clean, and await for my absolutely flawless husband to arrive from work.
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Prescribing the procedure for the conduct of a wedding also takes us back to the stage before the dawn of civilization.
Then they are separated from their parents and are enabled to find companionship with each other. The lives of such women resemble the lives of bullocks which are tied to a cart, beaten up and made to labour endlessly until they die. Since suitable partners are not found to achieve their aims, for a long time after the wedding the married woman has to continue to have only the status of a servant or a slave. And the changes and improvements that we are making in weddings affect the way in which the weddings are celebrated; they do not help men and women to find suitable partners and there are many obstacles to the cement and independance of women.
Some others may have just enough daring to avoid the Brahmin priest and his mother tongue the Sanskrit language.
The introduction of Self-respect marriage without any religious ceremonies is a small, but a very significant step that Periyar took to ensure the dignity and equal rights of women. The first aim of this mode of marriage is to give equal rights to women and remove their slavish position. Those who came forward to serve the cause of women had only further tightened their servile condition.
Those who marry at an early age do not have the maturity to understand each other, and that necessitates the parents to select the bride or the bridegroom. Consulting the astrologer to find out whether the bride and the bridegroom will be a suitable match and lead a happy life, and fixing an auspicious time to perform the ceremony are some of the unnecessary and harmful practices we adopt when we conduct the marriage according to religious tradition. So in order to establish a casteless egalitarian society, we have to adopt the procedure of the self-respect marriage.


Today I want to talk about keeping your self-respect in marriage when your husband is treating you badly. She has since become such a strong, wise woman of God, so God brought tremendous good out of a bad period of our life. We may put up with things like affairs, or we stop respecting ourselves or our kids because we don’t want to rock the boat. We need to stop tolerating affairs, or pornography, or flirtations, or addictions, or things which will eventually ruin the marriage anyway. And remember: the best way to get positive change in a marriage is often through realistic consequences, not by becoming a doormat! So if you have any pointers on how to walk that fine line, and do what’s right, please leave a comment! There are tons for us to discuss regarding these big breast that proceed us fashionably and sexually. My imagination comprised a vivid imagery of this tall, hardworking, serious (In retrospect sexy) clean cut, cool man. We become what we perceive of what people see in us, of how people see us and of how or what people think about us. You cannot love if you don’t love and the first one you need to learn to love in order to love some else is yourself.
The Aryan methods are barbaric because the Aryan Religion, Art, Vedas, Sastras, Puranas and Epics belong to the barbaric age. The motive behind such arranged marriages is to enable the couple to live together throughout life and derive happiness, satisfaction and a good reputation, even years after the sexual urge and sexual pleasure are forgotten.
Therefore such women are free to become companions to the husbands only after they started bearing children and after they have ceased to be youthful. Why can't the government pass an Act that legalizes weddings which avoid the above-mentioned superstitious practices? Births and deaths are registered in the municipal offices or in the records of the village offices. Those who are in majority or in some unduly favourable position dominate and exploit others.
Instead, they act miserable, constantly threaten to leave, and even text other women or flirt with other people. Before we start digging into the cups of our chi chi’s, I must share, this is my first discussion blog post.
ZbyZavarra knew what to do for women who want to wear who she is characteristically and physically. We wear one different mask for each person we talked during the day and we construe a different us for each world we want to belong to.
That is the reason why their wedding involves the parents giving a girl as a gift to a man (the bridegroom), selling the girl for a price, prostituting the girl children and allowing some stranger to carry the girl away by force or stealth.
Can love at first sight (which is chiefly lust-induced) ever lead to such a harmonious life? In these circumstances, in many families the couple have to be under the supervision and authority of the parents for a long time, without  proper enjoyment of love. As he quit the office before the Act was passed, Kamarajar suceeded him as Chief Minister, and threw the draft to the dustbin.
Some others may have the rotten thought that conducting a wedding without mangal sutra is disgraceful. If all these details cannot be accommodated in the Act, the latter can legalise weddings which don't have Brahmin priests, the Sanskrit language and the so called holy fire. Why can't the Act enforce that all weddings should be registered like a birth or a death in the above places and also warn any lapse with severe punishment or cancellation of the concerned wedding? I was reluctant to publish this post because this is the first of many discussions that expose my personality and opinions to the world.
During the years pursuing her degrees she focused her studies in the effects of globalization in the dynamics of Family Law and Human Rights in a cross-cultural context.
Such a wedding gives primary importance to sexual union alone and it is doubtful if it indicates an agreement between the couple for a good life.
How can a woman without money, a woman without independence and a woman without equal rights with men in social affairs became free and experience progress?
If this is done, exact statistics will be available for such weddings as for births and deaths. Not only do they suffer from the stunted growth of their physical, mental and moral faculties, but are also unable to contribute meaningfully and substantially to the development and welfare of the society at large. If you are replying to another commenter, please be polite and don't assume you know everything about his or her situation. Her plans are to work as an International Lawyer in order to contribute to the development of International Law in all its facets, but particularly in the field of Private International Law. Sexual compatibility alone does not ensure happy married life; the couple should be able to live together cheerfully.
The hesitation of the government to do this is due to the attribution of an imaginary sanctity or holiness to a wedding ceremony. She is a Research Assistant at the UFL Human Rights, Peace and Development Institute and in collaboration with the Director of the Institute, Professor Winston P. How can the merit of living happily together be associated with love-marriage or Gandharva marriage?
Nagan, she had already coauthor a significant number of articles that are about to be published and is also working as the coauthor of an International Family Law Book. Suitability for life or living together can be determined only if the man and the woman get used to the company of each other, and are satisfied with each other. Sheila Wray Gregoire owns the copyright to all comments and may publish them in whatever form she sees fit.
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