Sure we claim success upon the completion of a task, at the end of an assignment, and at fulfillment of a service obligation. In an effort to help the team to which I currently belong better assess the success we may or may not be enjoying, I have initiated a little experiment.
Like a growing number of teams in the Department of Defense, we are required to do more and more without the benefit of additional resources. Charlie – Just the fact that you care enough to question whether or not you delivered value speaks well (and comes as no surprise). Coming from a South Asian family it started off by thinking in terms of exams and qualifications.
Then there is the constant allure of measuring success by money and the things that money can buy – vividly described as bright shiny objects. The other side of that is it is so easy to then become successful at those things that in the end don’t really matter – which is really failure!
Or more famously, “What good is it for a man to gain the whole world yet forfeit his soul? Yes playing the comparison game is very dangerous as there will always be people ahead of you in some way, as well as those who are less fortunate.
I agree with Sunil, and looking at how we have improved is a great way to bring contentment. So you combine contentment with how far you have come with a hunger to grow and develop further in your life.
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Disclaimer The contents of this blog are mine personally and do not reflect the views or position of Kellogg, Northwestern Law, the JD-MBA program, or any firm that I work for. Success has random phenomenon, it comes and goes, it may stay, but that totally depends on you. So, if you can make these dots and join them, I am quite sure that you will definitely start progressing towards your aim. The “10,000-hour rule” -- that this level of practice holds the secret to great success in any field -- has become sacrosanct gospel, echoed on websites and recited as litany in high-performance workshops. If you are a duffer at golf, say, and make the same mistakes every time you try a certain swing or putt, 10,000 hours of practicing that error will not improve your game. Ericsson argues the secret of winning is “deliberate practice,” where an expert coach takes you through well-designed training over months or years, and you give it your full concentration. For instance, in his much-cited study of violinists – the one that showed the top tier had practiced over 10,000 hours – Ericsson found the experts did so with full concentration on improving a particular aspect of their performance that a master teacher identified.

Daydreaming defeats practice; those of us who browse TV while working out will never reach the top ranks. The experts, in contrast, keep paying attention top-down, intentionally counteracting the brain’s urge to automatize routines. First, they represent the milestones, large and small, happy and sad, we enjoy throughout the journey of life. It got me thinking and made me realise how much my understanding of what success is has evolved and changed over the years.
Surely, it seemed at the time, the better the exam results meant that the more successful you were and even more so if you got into a respectable profession like medicine! Advertising and the media keep on trying to tell us that if only you had that car or those clothes or that highly prized real estate then you would know you are successful. Wanting more is certainly not the answer and yet that is what is so often what is presented to us in society and through the media. You might say you mean your contentment assumes that the people around you are also content but that can’t last for long.
Unfortunately it is much easier to focus on those who have more than we do than those who have less. Please ask your physician about any health guidelines seen in this blog, as everyone is different in his or her medical needs.
While novices and amateurs are content to let their passive, bottom-up systems take over their routines, experts never rest their active concentration during practice. Neuroplasticity, the strengthening of old brain circuits and building of new ones for a skill we are practicing, requires our paying attention: When practice occurs while we are focusing elsewhere, the brain does not rewire the relevant circuitry for that particular routine.
Paying full attention seems to boost the mind’s processing speed, strengthen synaptic connections, and expand or create neural networks for what we are practicing. But as you master how to execute the new routine, repeated practice transfers control of that skill from the top-down system for intentional focus to bottom-up circuits that eventually make its execution effortless. They concentrate actively on those moves they have yet to perfect, on correcting what’s not working in their game, and on refining their mental models of how to play the game.
They additionally symbolize disparate pieces of data that by themselves mean far less than they do in the aggregate.
In hindsight I got there by playing the system so as to get top grades in subjects I knew I was best at to be accepted into medical school. The opportunity to interact deeply with patients and their carers in a holistic way at times of deep need I began to find enormously satisfying. The challenge, as I see it, is to have worthy goals and ambitions while at the same time being content with how far you have come. Contentment is important I guess it’s a question of the things we find our contentment in. On the other hand, there are some things you can do to ensure you maximize your chances of doing well.

People only criticize your abilities and try to push them down because either they are your competitor or your foes.
Well, it is one of the best therapies by which you can directly make your mind more concentrated, focused and leaned.
At that point you don’t need to think about it – you can do the routine well enough on automatic. After about 50 hours of training –whether in skiing or driving – people get to that “good-enough” performance level, where they can go through the motions more or less effortlessly. The secret to smart practice boils down to focus on the particulars of feedback from a seasoned coach.
This forum is all about celebrating the lessons of life, enjoying the journey, and making sense of things along the way. However, I quickly became unstuck as I found myself struggling to keep up with the work and failing most of my exams! Fast forward another 10 years or so to become a consultant and there is the realisation that lasting success, whatever, that was, appeared somewhat elusive.
And no matter what you get, there will always be somebody who has more or something better than what you have got.
Start analyzing your thoughts, what you did right and what you did wrong and how can you correct the mistakes. This should be done frequently every time your minds gets out of thoughts or when you get free from other tasks. They no longer feel the need for concentrated practice, but are content to coast on what they’ve learned. Rate your abilities, at first it might be wrong but implementing this activity in your habit will help you to get accuracy. After some time your mind will start throwing answers about how you can achieve your target and you will start to plan your future. No matter how much more they practice in this bottom-up mode, their improvement will be negligible. Listening to other’s remarks might let you down and blow your confidence but if you realize and improvise, you will become confident and feel good about yourself.
Eventually, it will develop experience and potential for you, which is going to stay with you whenever you need it. You can join three dots to get a triangle, but it needs a lot of pressure on these three points. So, if you work on these three points you will ensure the first transformation needed to achieve success.

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