There’s no doubt that many people who start a home business are told that they don’t need to sell.  The tools, the product, their up line etc.
Do you ever find yourself at a bar, standing around alone wishing you could approach that cute girl? Or maybe you’re at a networking event and you really want to speak to a VIP, but then you just talk yourself out of it.
Our nerves get the best of us, our confidence takes a shot and we just can’t seem to muster up what we need to make connections we really want to make. As a communication coach, I’ve learned that your confidence and social skills are highly intertwined. Think about it – doesn’t it feel good when you make someone laugh or you approach a stranger and have an awesome conversation?
Today I’m going to share six actionable tips that you can use to build your confidence and begin approaching people to have successful conversations. You begin thinking about all the ways it could go wrong. The girl may reject you, the VIP may not think you’re worth his time, that coworker you pass in the hallway may not smile back. Here are three ways to boost your confidence before approaching someone you may find intimidating. Those who held high power poses (prideful, relaxed, taking up space like putting their feet on the desk) showed lower levels of cortisol and increased testosterone levels, making people feel more confident, more willing to take risks and less stressed. The above illustration shows 5 poses done from the study that you can emulate when you need a confidence boost! High power poses consist of simple poses where you’re taking up space or feeling relaxed or victorious. You can stand with your arms in the air as if you just completed a marathon and crossed the finish line or you may be relaxed with your feet on a desk and your body relaxed.
Another option is to stand proud like Superman with your feed wide apart and your hands on your hips.
You may think this is cheesy, but top athletes and performers use visualization as a way to win Olympic events and perform at peak levels. Visualizing in vivid detail is a great way to build motivation towards doing something you may find intimidating because you activate the same sensory and motor parts of the brain that are involved with the action you’re visualizing.
This means that when you’re visualizing you’re activating the parts of the brain as if you were actually doing what you want to do. In both groups, the same physical changes in the brain were found in the motor cortex and after three days their accuracy was exactly the same regardless of how they practiced. That’s the strength of visualization, it’s a way to activate the areas in your brain as if you were actually performing the action itself.
When you feel the urge to approach someone you may hear that inner-critic in your head that speaks up and tells you things about how you’re not good enough or how the interaction will go wrong. In order to convey confidence, you’re going to have to control what is going on in your head. You may find that that inner-voice is beating yourself up over little things or causing self-doubt. This is not a quick fix, building your confidence takes time, energy and effort but it’s important to take the first step and begin identifying the types of stories you’re telling yourself. If you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough, you’ll convince yourself of this and never become the best version of the person you can be.
So put a reminder on your phone for once every few hours to start off as a reminder to observe what is going on in your mind.
If you double check yourself and realize that your mind has wandered, don’t beat yourself up about it. You may want to take a few deep breaths to get back into the moment or you may want to begin visualizing what the other person is talking about, imagining their story in your mind to feel engaged again. Now that we’ve covered systematic ways to start boosting your confidence, the next three tips cover how to make the approach. Think about it, have you ever met someone and immediately formed a strong opinion about them?
Of all the characteristics we use to judge people, researchers found that attractiveness and trustworthiness are the characteristics we judge the quickest. Once you decide whether or not you like someone, it’s pretty hard to change your mind. Well, humans are lazy and after forming that opinion, there’s a ton of cognitive processing (aka brain power) involved in figuring out whether your snap judgements are accurate or not.
Instead, confirmation bias gets the best of you so that you seek information that confirms what you already think about someone and that strengthens the initial judgement. Now that you understand the science behind first impressions, let’s talk about the most effective ways to make the impression that you want to make.
As a communication coach, I always hear people complain about how small talk sucks, but guess what guys? When people make first impressions, they’re largely looking for two main characteristics that account for 80-90% of their impressions and that is trustworthiness and confidence.
The mistake that most men make is that they’re so obsessed with showing power and confidence that they forget about the importance of trustworthiness. Amy Cuddy, the Harvard social psychologist recommends using small talk to build trust by genuinely trying to learn about someone else, it conveys trust and warmth. Find out what the person you’re speaking to is interested in and what their passions are.

The other thing to notice is that the questions are about them, making them the center of the conversation. Research has shown that clothing is another key factor when it comes to making first impressions. Since your goal is to make an effective first impressions that conveys trust, one of the best ways to show trust is to use eye contact.
It helps show someone that you’re present and paying attention, thus making them feel important.
Studies show that adults make eye contact between 30-60% of the time, but people should be making eye contact 60-70% of the time to create a sense of emotional connection which is what you’re looking for. Your social skills and confidence are intertwined, by actively working on improving these aspects of your life, you’ll find yourself feeling naturally confident in social situations.
In order to improve your confidence, use the strategies we discussed like visualization, power poses and becoming aware of what is going on in your mind. Katrina helps people who struggle with social anxiety and social confidence by sharing strategies using change psychology, confidence building and habit transformation. If you have even the smallest understanding of the real estate industry, you’ve probably heard that spring is the best time to sell.
There are both seasonal and fiscal reasons why waiting until spring to list your property is beneficial. While spring can be very advantageous for investors, it can also be challenging due to an increase in competition. Advertise: When you embark on your journey into the real estate investing world, your first step should be to choose a niche. After selecting a niche, you must then determine your target market and decide what types of properties or opportunities you will be seeking. During spring selling season, your competition will consist of both experienced and novice investors. Track Your Results: If your phone is ringing off the hook with leads due to your well executed marketing system, that is fantastic. Remember that starting with a small campaign will bring beginner leads with less engagement. Build A Strong Team: Your success in this business is dependent on the team you surround yourself with.
If you possess any of these mindsets, you’re on your way to becoming a successful real estate investor.
Actively investing in real estate, FortuneBuilders is uniquely built to provide investors with the right education and systems for success. The Voice Dialogue Online Program enables you to understand the origins of low self-esteem and lack of confidence. The role of your Inner Critic is to act as a kind of internal policeman and have you follow the rules of your family, society and culture so that you will “fit in” and be accepted. The way to overcome this self-sabotaging behaviour is to learn how to separate from your Inner Critic, find the rules that it is trying to enforce, and then consciously decide whether there is any merit in them. I wonder what other people would think of me if they really knew what I was like underneath. When I think about self-improvement I feel that there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed.
The Inner Critic is just one of several inner voices that can influence our lives in a negative way. When that happens you tend to take less “social risks,” fear builds up because you don’t want to feel that way again. If you want a more powerful pose, you can lean forward with your hands on a prop like a table.
If you don’t want to be obvious about it, simply go to the bathroom and stand like Superman (with your hands on your hips for 2 minutes). One group was told to physically practice, while the other was told to “mentally” practice by visualizing playing the piano.
Staying present means being in the moment versus ruminating about the laundry you have to do when you get home or all the negative self-talk about how the person you’re speaking with may be judging you. Snap judgements are made extremely quickly – studies have shown that these opinions form in one-tenth of a second.
If you’re looking for a framework on asking people good questions, check out this post.
If you live in an area with a strong seasonal climate, it’s pretty easy to see how springtime affects buyer’s attitudes. By the time March and April roll in, people have recovered from the holiday hustle and bustle. Because there are so many avenues available to take in the industry, finding the place where you fit in and where you can make the most profit it crucial. If you are on the latter end of that spectrum, focus on techniques that perhaps the experienced investors disregard. However, the plus side is that you were able to send less money with less risk, which is a great way to practice. However, if you notice that you are missing any of the above traits, you now know how to build your team to make up for what you lack. However, if you commit to focusing on your marketing strategy, you will blow your competition out of the water.

It gives you a simple, clear strategy for increasing self-esteem, building confidence and leading a happier, more fulfilling life. With so many of them to follow, your Inner Critic is in a constant state of anxiety and always on your case.
This Voice Dialogue Online Program will show you how you can take charge of these voices and lead a less-stressful, more empowered life.
Being vulnerable is scary and when you’re conditioned to avoid it, your confidence suffers.
In order to build your confidence, you have to master your story by gaining control over that inner-voice. You can do this by using small talk, making sure you look presentable and maintaining eye contact.
The winter months are long, cold and dreary, and therefore not the optimal time to convince buyers that your property is the best. If other properties are going up for sale in your area, your property’s valuations will also rise if comparable homes are selling for more.
When it comes to marketing, it is important to make sure that your techniques are consistent across all platforms and that you start with a solid foundation.
A sphere of successful marketing that people often forget about, or choose to disregard, is networking. Now it’s time to elect the marketing strategies you want to implement, whether it be direct mail, email marketing, bandit signs, etc. Consider posting an ad on Craigslist, buying a magnet ad for your car, or investing in a cheap bandit sign campaign. The “business focused mindset” defines a person who has the ability to make decisions based on observed or anticipated effects on a project.
Adverts set the standard for how you should look, what you should wear, how you should smell, what you should eat, how you should relax. It is easy to see why “should” and “shouldn’t” are two of your Inner Critic’s favourite words - sometimes whispered sotto voce, sometimes bellowed full force. Instead of your foe, your Inner Critic transforms into a trusted adviser and friend, and the self-sabotaging stops. You will discover how you can befriend your Inner Critic and deal effectively with the underlying vulnerabilities that fuel its anxiety. Just look at a picture of a home in the winter versus the same shot of the home in spring; that alone could boost the property’s value substantially. It’s also far enough away from summer that people tend to focus on vacations and relaxation.
Properties sell up to 37 percent faster in spring – an average of 34 days on the market, which allows investors more time to close the deal on their next property. The size of your real estate investing network directly correlates to the size of your bank account.
If you try to conquer rehabbing, wholesaling, rental properties, or short sales all in your first few months of starting your business, I can guarantee you will feel overwhelmed and be unable to complete any sort of deal to the best of your ability. Remember, you don’t need a large budget to launch a successful marketing campaign; you just need to keep your target audience in mind and be sure that you advertise in a median that they will see.
Try starting with something small, like handing out business cards at your local REI club or displaying a few bandit signs in your neighborhood.
If you are ready to take your campaign to the next level, there are more complex and expensive options like direct mail, or TV and radio ads. The “confident mindset” is an individual who not only has a significant amount of self confidence, but also has the ability to transmit that confidence to others. Films show you the perfect male and female physiques, the perfect way to kiss and make love, the perfect romantic relationship you should have. Prolonged daylight hours also allow your property to be seen by more prospective buyers each day. For homeowners with children, spring is much closer to the end of the school year as well, likely making a move much easier. When those strategies begin to generate leads, make sure to be tactical with how you track which campaign the lead came from.
Personal development programmes exhort you to be more sensitive, more assertive, more sensual, more aware….. It’s important to remember that it is not just about attending a networking event, it is about going in with a purpose; offering solutions to other people’s problems.
Once you verify which of your small-scale campaigns was most successful, tweak them if necessary, and then go big.
I don’t care if public interaction isn’t your strong suit, nor do I care if you’re an introvert; getting your name, face, and brand out in the world of like minded individuals is what will take your business to new heights.
This individual knows his or her strengths and the strengths of others, and is therefore able to assign tasks appropriately and effectively. A “knowledge seeker” is a person who is always looking to expand their education to see how they can better their business. Finally, there are the “promoters” or “relationship builders.” These folks are passionate about working in the field, getting their hands dirty, and engaging with potential clients.

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