According to Time Magazine, the act of love seems to be the driving force in almost every human being’s life.
The sub-continent - where most of us Sikhs trace our origins - and the Western world, have differing views on finding this very love. This process is the opposite of the system traditionally followed on the subcontinent - through arranged marriages. As Sikhs make their home in Western countries, their kids experience the dating system first hand.
A notable cause for this is because turbaned adolescents do not feel confident with their image.
With hours of research and copious amounts of interviews behind me, I hope to prove my point in this paper. The challenge for many young Sikhs is that they are part of families new to Western culture. Another challenge faced by young Sikhs is that they do look different, even though not all males wear turbans and have unshaven facial hair. 4   He cannot talk to his father because the father has had no previous experience on the topic.
To those Sikh adolescents that are currently having this self-conflict - you need to deal with it headlong and conquer your feelings. However, the key factor that needs to be taken into account is that most non-Sikh males with facial hair typically do not have unshorn facial hair. It is comments like these that build up SELF-CONFIDENCE - another thing a man needs to attract women. As stressful as it may be, be sure to not blame it on your identity or appearance, and remember that it was the very same identity and appearance that once attracted her to you in the first place! In order to gain information on this little-explored topic, I had to interview an abundance of people. When interviewing Sardars, all but one mentioned that they feel like the beard and turban detracts them from girls. Harjit Singh of Florida claimed that, “Yes, it [turban] does [detract] for some women. Amit Singh of New York said, “A lot of guys feel like women are turned off to them for reasons like looks, financial status, height, physical fitness, etc.
Lastly, fifteen out of twenty-four (62%) of the full Sardars said that they have had a self-conflict with their identity.
All of the eight interviewees that have modified their identity have said that, since they have changed, many girls do seem to like them more. Six out of eight (75%) of these interviewees claim that they have once regretted changing their identity.
All fifteen girls said that they would still date a man despite how unattractive he may seem to them. For the girls who are attracted to Sikhs, all eleven wrote that they never minded the turban and beard.
All the non-Sikh women I interviewed said that they did not want to change anything physically in their partners, and that the unique look is what attracted them in the first place.
Daniela Malo again said, “Your culture, beliefs, and pride are worth a lot more than an ignorant girl who cannot accept you for who you truly are. Of course, this is a new topic of research that has little evidence to confirm or refute my statements. In conclusion, many Sikh youth have been disbanding their traditions due to self-confidence issues. Everytime I  see a Sikh friend change his identity, I am horrified at the ignorance that precedes it and worry about its potential in the future. We need to address dating issues because it is the source of much of the angst experienced by our youth.
My conclusion that a Sikh young man will not be confident with his identity until he is comfortable with the dating scene and has the confidence that he is as attractive as any other male of the species. On Vaisakhi Day, 1699, Guru Gobind Singh initiated the Khalsa to prepare Sikhs to serve humanity for ages to come.
If a person doesn't feel proud of his identity and doesn't respect his culture and faith, he will not get respected anywhere in the world.
Very well done, Sahib Singh, you really did an appreciable job not only for just discussing Sikhism, but also you have thrown light on the deep corners of human nature which tells how to keeps yourself intact with your roots. But it's not just about wearing the Sikh turban and beard - wearing the articles of faith, first and foremost, Sikh men should act with integrity. This is a great article for youngsters to build self-confidence and give a serious thought before altering their appearance.
I lived for sometime in South Africa in the aparthied era of the 1980s and was the only person I could see with Sikh identity around.
Okay, there are many things I could bring up after reading this, but I won't get into all of them.
Re Aman (#30): It appears that you're intent on finding every negativity you can in life and are not going to let any facts come in your way. Shed your turban and you break the link with the House of Guru Nanak and its glorious history.
Frankly speaking, a thaatha may be okay at home but does not look proper in public, whether you are in your own car, taxi, bus, train, plane, etc.
I think this is a great article because it does address a lot of the concerns Sikh youth face. I like your article and feel like it is 100 percent true because I as a Sardar kid born and raised in the United States and went through these same experiences. And yes, some women adore that Sikh men are color-coordinated and not afraid to wear pinks and purples. To help us distinguish between comments submitted by individuals and those automatically entered by software robots, please type the letters shown in the image. Please note: your email address will not be shown on the site, this is for contact and follow-up purposes only.
A tactical officer walks past the Sikh Temple of Wisconsin where at least one gunman fired upon people at a service August, 5, 2012 Oak Creek, Wisconsin. Sometimes it takes a father to know when a young man is ready to step into adulthood by stepping to the plate of holy matrimony.
FRIDAY Henna ceremony, where guests are painted with the dye, a symbol of prosperity and happiness. The traditional grand procession, known as the barat, through the streets with a marching band, horses, dancing, and men wearing chandeliers on their heads.
This is when couples form intimate relationships with each other that may or may not blossom into a marriage. An interviewee of the article, Balbir Singh, claimed that he cuts his hair because he feels out of touch with the fashions of the Western world. The implied reason for this loss in self-confidence is because a young Sardar may feel that he cannot attract girls.
Through this paper, young Sikhs will see that objective evidence points to the fact that they ARE considered attractive, and that they should not disband their traditions, influenced by this myth. They typically do not have that father figure that went through the same process during their childhood. A razor strokes down the face, clearing off all of the Guru’s teachings hair by hair. Like all other youth, we just have to be patient, faithful, and continue looking for the right ones in a larger batch of incompatible ones. Sure, ample stats can be found to provide some back-up for such a claim, if that's your goal. Things like different colors and matching clothes or accessories creates a unique and added sense of style. When that time comes, the stress is almost unbearable as one feels as if one has lost someone perfect. I broke them down into four categories - twenty four full Sardars from around the country, eight Sikhs who modify their beards or used to be Sardars (the majority of my offers were rejections as the topic seemed too controversial), fifteen girls who have not dated Sikh men, and eleven girls (five of which were not Sikh) that have previously dated or are dating Sardars. However, sixteen of these twenty-four (66%) say that this does not interfere with their dating lives. However, twelve of that fifteen (80%) said that, once they gained confidence with dating, they did not have a conflict anymore. I am attracted to the way he stands out and keeps his head up regardless of the looks he gets.
In fact, they claimed that their bond with their partner was stronger because of the difference. People who cannot appreciate and treasure the admirable qualities you convey are not worth anyone's time. A relationship only has the potential to last if both partners can love one another because of who they are, not who their partner would like them to be. These issues arise from a bad experience with the dating process, as well as the lack of a western fatherly figure. To any person that thinks I may be preaching to young Sikhs and telling them to date rather than wait until marriage - this is not my aim.
The Khalsa articles of faith are prescribed so that a Sikh stands out from among a hundred thousand others. From what I have seen, in Western culture, there are people not serious about marriage, but engage in dating for something more than just friendship.
Moreover, it teaches a lesson that if the lady is attracted to you only after modification in your looks, then I must say that some day your changed looks will again make her feel bored, like an old desktop wallpaper. But it is very disheartening when Sikhism is portrayed only in terms of turban, kes and beard. I have lived in India and I have spent four decades in North America, and I have met Sikhs in more than 60 countries around the world, and I can state quite unequivocally that the best-dressed and smartest Sardars have always walked away with the smartest, sexiest women anywhere.
There are many others who must have similar observations but did not take the lead in bringing them to open discussions. What a sad state of affairs, when our goal is casual relationships rather than finding one true companion, with whom we can walk on the path of truth. On especially humid days, I do tie my thaatha (much to my wife's displeasure) as I drive to work - until the air conditioning dries the gel! I am 44 years old and have not used any hair fixer or gel even once and have kept my beard as natural (may be because of this my beard has not grown very long). Dating shouldn't be considered a taboo but a practical reality of the modern-era that we all have to go through in our lives. When I tell the well-meaning elders around me that I want a Sardar, they look at me as if I am a weirdo.


However, I'd like to point out (as another commenter did above) that it's also Sikh girls who keep their hair that face this problem. It sucks when one is in high school and all of the Sikh girls are dating only Sikh guys who have that have haircuts. However, as a western woman who grew up Christian, I can't think of anything "hotter" than a Khalsa lion with integrity who embodies Sikh spiritual values. This sends a message that Sikh men are secure in their masculinity but also thoughtful and respectful of themselves and others!
At least six people were killed when a shooter, who was later shot dead by a police officer, opened fire on congregants in the Milwaukee suburb. The place has also been highly honored by the visit of Guru Nanak Sahib and Guru Tegh Bahadur Sahib. Situated on the banks of Yamuna River in Sirmour, this place commemorates the stay of Raja Maidini Prakash at this beautiful place. This was the case with Vikram Chatwal, the 34-year-old scion of a sprawling, multicontinental hotel-and-restaurant chain, Hampshire Hotels, controlled by his father, Sant. He’s also a Bollywood actor, better known for dating Gisele—he got a G tattooed on his arm—and hitting New York nightclubs in a red or white turban with P. To Sant, however, the day when Vikram would choose a wife and settle down wasn’t coming fast enough. As the male is typically supposed to be the initiator, his gender unfortunately gets the harder job; they usually have to do most of the work in order to woo the female.
This father figure is necessary, as a role model and mentor, to teach his children about life's lessons - which include the lesson that most initial attempts to attract a girl are failures. The young Sardar, who is most likely a teenager going through puberty, has a rather fluid mindset. I myself have had this self-conflict countless numbers of times throughout my life, and have been on the brink of disbanding my identity.
According to my interviews and findings from the Internet, men typically need four things to attract a woman: self-confidence, personality, interest, and attractiveness (good-looks). I cannot count on all of my fingers and toes how many times a day I get complemented on my matching outfits!
The fact that a Sikh has a different religion, culture, look, life-experience and language is an advantage, not a setback! The top answers, as I stated previously, were interest, self-confidence, attractiveness and personality. The person you date should admire you, treasure you, appreciate you, and respect you to their full potential. As long as a Sikh has certain innate qualities, he truly does not have a problem with women. And then there are others that are ready for marriage and date to find a prospective life partner.
Incidents of disrespect to hair or turban by Sikh youth are increasing alarmingly and there is no honest analysis of the same.
I used to cry for not wanting to wear my dastaar and did not want facial hair, for vanity mostly. In the past many girls wouldn't go out with me for the fact that I wore a turban, but with Waheguru's grace I remained firm in my faith in Sikhism and today I am in a relationship with my girlfriend and she doesn't mind me being in a turban.
In younger people's terms she has to be "HOT!" Now the question arises that how many fully bearded young male will accept a girl who does not look like all the images that we see on TV everyday?
Saabat soorat Sikhs have never had any difficulty in attracting the most gorgeous, the most intelligent women around.
Surely our governments could find a few million dollars somewhere and get to the bottom of these enigmas. If I were you, I'd plunk myself before a mirror and ask myself the following questions: If I've lived in the West for more than five years, do I still speak like I'm from Jhumri Talayee-ya? A turbaned Sikh has all the attributes of being human, the best and the worst - so what makes him special is that turban. It reminds me of a Sikh missionary who was in England in the first few decades of the twentieth century - he fell in love with an English girl, it was reciprocated, the marriage date got fixed.
In fact I have seen girls, or rather, know non-Sikh girls attracted towards Sikh guys because of their USP ("unique selling point"). If your personal reasons for keeping your kes (both men and woman) are not strong enough, so that they are dependent on popular perceptions of "attractive" or "unattractive", you'll forever face these issues badly. The goal of marriage in Sikhi is to become one light in two bodies - if your goal is dating, attracting women for casual relationships, having a girlfriend, etc.
I'm not Sikh, nor Indian, but I as a woman, I can say that it is not facial hair or turbans or lack thereof that impresses the opposite gender. It's a given that the Sikh way of life is to conquer our instincts such as Kaam, and to focus on God and life in general.
Many of us feel very self-conscious with our body-hair and (sometimes) turbans, and how they don't fit with the Western image of beauty.
There are a few fundamental issues which influence the dating debate: 1) Too many men are keeping turbans for the wrong reasons, which is why I personally subscribe to the view that this decision should be made as an adult, rather than have it forced upon a child (although I do recognize the benefit of a child having experienced wearing one). Sorry to objectify, but the idea of letting down that uncut hair in private makes me swoon. The family owns eleven hotels in Manhattan, including the Majestic and the Dream in Times Square, which has a Deepak Chopra spa and a Serafina restaurant. It is a tumultuous conflict, and many young Sardars, unfortunately, hastily and erroneously conclude that it is their identity to blame. Yet here I am with both, still getting smiles and comments from females of all ages across the globe.
Initially, I was in a lot of self-conflict, because a girl belonging to a Sikh family didn't seem to be accepting me as a date. It all comes down to if you are strong in your values and beliefs, eventually you will get the recognition you seek. It is equally important to encourage the young generation to follow the principles of Sikhism, as emphasizing the physical aspects of being a Sikh. With the grace of God, I have been single for three decades now, and all the women I've dated have been "hot" both in physical attraction and intelligence - both Sikh and non-Sikh.
Am I the smartest dressed man around (and it doesn't take money to dress well, certainly not in this era of grunge fashion and beyond)? A day before the ceremony, the lady asked the young man to shave off before he came for the ceremony and he did and appeared for the marriage. I am sure that these experiences will discourage young men from changing their person on the false assumptions of what is attractive to women.
I understand that people want to be beautiful (I call it hygiene) but your perception of beauty is not supposed to be dependent on others, it's supposed to be what you think. The only reason we are enjoying the free air of the countries in the diaspora as full-fledged first-class citizens, while being full-fledged Sikhs, is solely because of the hurdles faced and overcome, at great personal sacrifice, by our elders and forefathers who have preceded us in recent decades, including the 1980s, all the way back to the early 1900s. It's self confidence, self-respect, personality, sense of humor, and all kinds of other things that factor into attraction. However, as I said in the article, I'm not preaching to young kids to go out, date, and have sex. I personally never felt attracted to cropped guys, no matter how good looking they think they are. I'd like for Sikh females to also understand that conforming to the Western ideals of beauty is not all that matters. Sometimes, I would feel like Sikh girls were doing this on purpose by ignoring Sardars, but honestly I realized that they were not doing it on purpose, it was just what they were naturally attracted to. I think dating can be perfectly healthy, having known people who ended up divorcing because they entered marriage too hastily with incompatible partners out of cultural tradition.
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I have heard numerous times that my turban seems rather elegant with intricately placed layers upon layers of cloth. I believe you'll find a higher rate of success in dating when both people are serious about marriage. Each of them, particularly the non-Sikhs I dated, respected Sikhi as much as I did, some were attracted to it ever so more.
Men become as colourful as they can be for that reason only - nature gives the male species more colours to be attractive to the female.
To look different is expected to magnify one's personality in both its good and its bad attributes.
It was the era when South Africa was dominated by whites and Indians living there were called coolies. In the same way that men should respect their hair by tying a turban, women should do the same. We are living in a totally different world and it's not fair to the youngsters of today that we compare the old times with the new. I wrote this article because I see more and more young Sardars cutting their hair simply because they feel - erroneously - that they're attractive to females. Without meaning to be preachy, I do want to say that we must try to keep our kesh in natural form.
We need to dwell on and discuss this topic more often since this is the single biggest reason (Yes, even way more than racism!) why Sikh youngsters (mostly boys) are shedding away the unique identity bestowed upon us by our Gurus. I am not saying that there are no Sikh girls that would date a Sardar but the majority in my experience have given preference and shown their attraction for mona (haircut) Sikhs. There is subsequently, and rightly so, a reasoned conflict in people's minds - between following tradition and what they perceive as being 'normal' (for the purposes of attracting a mate), which brings us onto the question of dating itself. I was drawn to Sikhi for the love of Waheguru but would be honored to find a Sikh husband as well. Irrespective of this, the turban gives us a royal look and I don't think it brings any sense of inferiority. However, many sincere Sikhs and non-Sikhs will appreciate and respect the Sikhs with full Sikh form.
I have come to the conclusion that in order to be a companion, partner, friend, one first needs to be build a relationship with both mind and brain.
That should compel one to culture good attributes and then see rewards of its magnifications.
I may be wrong but I feel that comments of the positive experiences of wearing the turban are coming from older people.
There's nothing wrong with dating to find a marriage partner, but having a sexual relationship before marriage is far from the principles of the Khalsa.


Western teens of both genders suffer the same angst as described by turban-wearing boys in the article when they stand on the threshold of dating.
If this happens, it most likely means that their children, and their children's children, too won't maintain their kes.
We will be in trouble if topics like this aren't discussed openly and maturely, instead of getting bogged down in katha-style lectures like some of the comments above! I know there are girls out there that would date Sardars but it sucks when you don't meet them at school or at work or with your friends because most Sikhs have become laid back about the hair stuff and their sons have haircuts, so Sikh girls go for them. 2) 'Dating,' etc., as is the norm in the West, and now also increasingly so in urban centres in India, begins at an early age, and mostly to satisfy natural needs of companionship and sex. Some of us American women want a family oriented man who takes a stand for equality and justice. These "attractive" girls don't care for religion and therefore may dislike the turban also. So yes, put on your colourful turbans, men, and strut your best form - you might just get lucky. Singh, I am sorry, if you cannot be true to your faith, how can you be true to me?" The idea was probably picked up by the script writer of the Film "Kambdi Kalaai". The article talks about trying to attract women, isn't this falling into kaam, didn't Guru Sahib tell us to stay away from that?
So, for guys like me that ended up with parents strict about the Sikh identity, I am a young college-going Sardar but sometimes I hate it because the majority of Sikh guys I know and meet all have haircuts, it's like being a minority in an already minority community and the stupid elders keep saying dumb things to young Sardars like me that only make me angrier because they can't even relate to the stuff I go through.
Although the author points out more than once that he's not attempting to encourage frivolous behaviour, he can't paint over this fact by pointing towards this as being a method to find 'the one'.
For dating or courtship, he'll attract the opposite sex if he can help bring harmony to that person. Yes, we are born in the West and have to deal with this culture, but why are we forgetting Guru ji's message?
Older Sikhs are likely successful and therefore associate with smarter, more well-rounded people. Look around you: there is no earthly reason why any Sikh, male or female, cannot handle the normal slings and arrows of life today, a fair share of which come in any and every person's way everywhere in this world. Boys fear they aren't buff, athletic, or cool enough or they wrongheadedly think that girls want "bad" boys.
We have to find our strength in our connection to Guru Sahib, our daily practice and our ongoing quest to learn more about Sikhi and how it relates to life. For some unknown reason, both genders misguidedly think if they are too smart, they won't find a boy or girlfriend. However, most of us have became too engrossed with the distractions in the West that we fail to even want to heed our Guru's message.
But when you guys were growing up in Punjab back in the 60's or whatever, turbans were considered cool, it was like having the hottest hairstyle ever and all the girls were into turbans.
The majority of young people date for the sake of dating, without a steadfast objective of a stable long-term relationship made at the outset (as is more common in the case of dating in older adults who want to 'settle down'). So clearly if goals are similar, their thinking matches, only then a relationship will be successful. Dating is a way of interviewing others to learn if they are suitable, tolerable, if they fit in your family. If I could have, I would most definitely address the youth and simply say, "don't forget about the morals of Sikhi".
I'm talking about - your dad wore a turban, your brother wore a turban, your friends had turbans, your uncles, your cousins, hell! Now that we've established this, it is only right to point out as a few commentators have done so above (and been belittled for it), that, assuming that a man keeps his turban because of his devotion to Sikhi, rather than mere tradition, then he would (i) be looking for someone to share his spiritual journey with and (ii) make a conscious effort (and it can be difficult) to control his strong feelings of lust and ergo begin a serious relationship only with someone who accepts and respects him for who he is and what he believes in rather than his appearance. So the idea is to be confident of your identity, your desires and your ultimate aim, you'll meet your ideal one, sooner than you know. The general rule of thumb is that one should know by date #3 if one wants to invest any more time in that person. Do I display my liberalism by decorating my apartment with idols of petty hindu devis and devtas? We're young kids who are naturally rebellious, and we want to go out and experiment things. Girls were so used to seeing turbans that they couldn't even think of not being with a turban guy.
It stands that these people should cease to call themselves Sikh as this propagates the image of Sikhs with shaved beards or no turbans at all, as being trendy and desirable to a female group increasingly surrounded by them and accepting it to be the norm, and even preferring it, which leads us onto the role of women in a Sardar's dating issues. We have to trust that Guru Sahib will join us with a partner who will help us along this journey back into the Guru's arms.
What is important is how strongly one can stand up for him or herself, because neither male nor female want to pair themselves with another who lacks the courage of his or her beliefs and who can't take a stand. And now these elders are so ignorant that they don't even see how different it is in America where everyone has a haircut and on TOP of that like the cousins have haircuts, my uncles have haircuts, all of my girl-cousins have married hair-cut Sikh guys so how the "F" is that supposed to make Sardar guys like me feel?
3) In my experience women who aren't Sikh can be more accepting of facial hair and a turban than those who claim to be Sikh.
If someone cannot stand for what he or she believes in, that person won't be able to stand up for their mates. While inspecting a guard of honour at an American base, he was surprised to find a Sikh in the troop. For this group, it really would be a question of finding a partner who loves you for who you are.
Doing more simran, sangat, listening to katha, etc., will help your mind to break it's thought process of seeking acceptance from others.
I'm not saying that Sikhs should focus on dating, but it definitely gives a great amount of self confidence in one's image, and if one is on the brink of disbanding one's identity, then this is helpful. However Sikh women are hardly rubbing their hands in glee over turbans and beards, nay, quite to the contrary.
The same insecurities tend to rear their ugly heads for adults who find themselves back in the dating world as it is for teens. In addition, if a person becomes more proud of their identity, maybe it'll be easier for them to dwell more into Sikhi?
For a religion that professes equality, there is too much emphasis on the male's, shall we say, ritualistic obligations. They do not feel connected to their roots and do not see the invaluable gift that they have been given of being born into a Sikh family. But being married to the wrong person is worse, Dante's 9th ring of hell, whether the marriage came about via an arrangement or from failing to get to know the other person well enough before tying the knot. To be honest, I wasn't exactly a great Sikh for a good part of my life and was considering modifying myself. You may be born into a Sikh family, but Sikhi is a lifestyle, you have to live it in order to experience it. To young Sardars and Sardarnis, the best and most powerful way to be, always - whether dating for the first time or in a serious relationship - is be yourself. It was until I met my first girlfriend, a Spanish girl, who practically fell for me because of how beautiful she thought Sikhism was. It's so funny, some are so dumb and stupid, the elders and parents want TURBANS AND BEARDS so badly that they can't even think of the thought of letting their son cut their hair but I, having grown up in America, haven't ever heard a SINGLE Sikh girl say that she finds Sardars attractive or that she would ONLY MARRY A SARDAR guy because it is her responsibility as a Sikh girl to marry a guy with the Sikh identity, heck no! Women who wear dastaars or at the very least maintain unshorn hair (by choice rather than family pressure or tradition), are very rare indeed. That means getting past the fear of loss if the person you are with does not respect who you are or begins engaging in behaviors you find offensive or opposite of what you find acceptable. After that, I indulged more into my religion and became more of a Sikh.A Though we may have ended badly, I'm grateful for her because she made me proud of my identity, which in turn made me a better Sikh. The overwhelming majority of Sikh women let down the cause by openly modifying their hair and expressing desire in shaved men and rejecting Sardars. The person who is right is that person who is proud to stand with you as you are - good qualities and not so good qualities for no one is perfect - and who knows you at your best and worst and who stands stalwart next to you anyway. They are marrying haircut Sikhs left and right and no one calls them bad Sikh girls for marrying haircut Sikhs but if a turban guy like me cuts my hair then all of a sudden I'm a bad Sikh. One need only look at popular matrimonial websites where Sikh women expressly ask for the shaved variety, or don't have a preference in faith at all. Why is the whole identity of the Sikh religion thrown on us guys when our own GIRLS don't even like it! The only sort of women who appear to actually desire a man with a turban would appear to be either those steeped in family or being the Khalsa dastaar-wearing variety. I just wish Sikh girls would straight up reject to date or marry haircut Sikhs and say "I'm sorry, you do not have the identity of a Sikh so I cannot date you." But that is a fantasy that will never happen because the opposite is happening. The fact that it's so hard to find women in the Sikh community who expressly desire Sardars is extremely disheartening to the turbaned male, who is then left questioning his faith. 4) Physical attraction as the key criterion in women choosing a mate is here to stay and issue of shaved Sikh men furthering the popular image was discussed above, however the role of the media and popular culture in general also needs to be noted.
Beards, long hair and chest hair was actually seen as quite desirable in the 80s, furthered by popular culture with rock and pop stars with unruly beads and hair abound. You would think the community would make a big deal of Sikh girls cutting their hair but they only do the guys because we got stuck with the identity!
Going further back in time, beards and long hair was seen as a sign of masculinity right up to the early 20th century. Anyways, all I want to say is that I just wish Sikh girls would actually say they like Sardars and find Sardars attractive. I hate it when Sikh girls ignore me and treat me differently just because I wear a turban and have a full beard. Just because I'm not a haircut Sikh guy with a lined up beard and earrings doesn't mean I don't have feelings. Social historians agree that the early 20th century brought with it a new era of globalization with media and popular culture which influenced attitudes towards perception of beauty, and indeed the importance of attraction in a relationship, quite heavily.
One just has to go to any big city nightclub or university to see young Sikh men and women with the only telling features being designer beards, karras and stylish khandas.
Both sexes are freer in expressing their sexuality and are heavily influenced by the media and popular culture. Males further the image of shaved being the trend and females find it sexy and cool and often date outside of the community.



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