If you’re one of the millions of users on Facebook (predicted to reach it’s billionth user in August) , you’re probably aware of what your Facebook friends are up to. A recent study done by Behavioral Scientists Hui-Tzu Grace Chou and Nicholas Edge has shown that Facebook users are more likely to conclude that “Many of my Friends are happier than me”. While social comparisons are normal and can be fairly harmless, we should be careful not to compare ourselves to others with unrealistic or inappropriate standards. Try and remember this the next time you are scanning through the pictures of your friend’s vacation photo album on Facebook, it may just make you happier in the long run.
Do you want to be known as intern number four, or do you want to go above and beyond to learn and become known as intern Emily? In interpersonal communication, our perception is noted as the way we create meaning through selection, organization, and interpretation.
If we allow ourselves to fulfill these stereotypes (whether positive or negative), that is, when we internalize the way other people perceive us, we can end up reinforcing these perceptions by acting in ways consistent with them. I personally have experienced this pressure to fulfill someone else’s perceptions in the past.
Sciencedaily cites that groups who are consistently stereotyped can find it much harder to break away from this self-fulfilling prophecy. This article from The Society Pages links stereotypes to Asian American achievement and success. Steele was one of the researchers who termed the phrase ‘stereotype threat,’ which is the opposite of a stereotype promise.
Stereotypes and other forms of characterization or judgment are almost impossible to avoid. According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, the rate was 8.9% in February of this year. This candidate was probably well dressed so he had one part of nonverbal communication down: artifacts. The man in the interview for the CFO job also broke the cardinal law of job interviews: the handshake. Although the situation in the Foxtrot cartoon above is fictional, family member’s concerns about what they might be revealing to one another is not. In Interpersonal Communication: Everyday Encounters, noted Communication Studies researcher Dr.
However, even though my brother and I share an I-thou relationship, I still want to respect his privacy to choose when (and if) he ever tells me about little Miss Tattoo.  So, as more and more of us select to share our personal details of our lives in the Facebook world, just remember the faceless lurker curiously wondering about your life may not be a stranger at all.  It may be your own sister!
Your Blog URLFeed your entries from your personal WordPress blog to this class blog hub page, so that everyone's blogs will appear together on this website. Over the last few years, Facebook has become a huge part of how people keep in touch- but studies have shown that this intimate look into the lives of our Facebook friends is starting to jeopardize our self-esteem.
Those who spent a significant amount of time on the website felt disappointed with their lives, while those who spent more time in face to face interactions with their friends were less likely to think that other folks have it better.

Comparing ourselves to others is a huge part of life, and helps us develop realistic views of ourselves. It isn’t reasonable, or healthy to judge ourselves against the lives of others based solely on their Facebook profile, as these are not accurate representations of the lives of others. These classifications can mean various things to different people, and generally create a completely different meaning to a person directly associated with said label. James Quillen Dean for the School of Education at Stanford University Claude Steele points out how stereotypes can directly impact us. This could cause someone who is classified as an intern to feel they are only temporary workers and inferior to the other workers.
We organize our perceptions in several ways, and one of these ways is through stereotyping, which is placing people into generalized categories. The author theorizes that Asian Americans benefit from a ‘stereotype promise.’ That is, they are positively stereotyped and this translates into their performance. However, what you do with that interview is key to getting a job in a world where the unemployment rate is at all-time highs.
The research done by Hui-Tzu Grace Chou and Nicholas Edge, has examined the impact that this false perception of the lives of others has on us. He states that if we are characterized in a negative way by being involved in a particular group, this can often become true and keep us from actually going after our true potential. Being looked down upon makes them think they don’t need to demand respect from their more permanent coworkers. The author came up with this phrase through the work of social psychologist Steele mentioned above.
According to this article in Kansas City Star, the unemployment rate among young Americans particularly college graduates was recently 9.4%. They found that the most common trait associated with a good handshake is extroversion and neuroticism.
To get that dream jobs it is important to master a few tricks of interpersonal communication. Wood stated that communication within personal relationships is selective, meaning we pick what type and how much information we are willing to disclose based upon the type of relationship.  Obviously, you would filter some personal stories and ideas differently with your work supervisor than you would with your romantic partner.
Needless to say seeing these pictures of these beautiful places on my Facebook News Feed can leave me a little jealous. Conversely, being positively characterized will encourage individuals to reach their true potential.
They think “Well, I am only an intern.” They become complacent just doing their assigned tasks, and don’t bother attempting to further their knowledge of the specific job they are interning for.
When I turned 16, my mother insisted that I would be a worse driver than my brothers solely because I was a girl.
It is also important for us to not allow ourselves to succumb to the self-fulfilling prophecy.

With those kind of numbers, it is easy to get scared or at least pessimistic about the future.
If you are like Ben Affleck in the picture above then you probably will have less of a chance of giving a good impression at the interview. Turns out that those handful of seconds when you are shaking hands with the interview could be the difference.
These are the things we ask ourselves everyday to help us gauge our abilities against those of our peers.
These threats pose distractions and keep these people from achieving their actual potential. If we put our minds to achieving what we want, and not defining ourselves the way someone else wants, we will end up much happier and more likely to achieve our own personal goals. You may have already started having visions of working at McDonald’s for the remainder of your days. He had plenty of experience, graduated from a prestigious business school, and outstanding references.
This video from the CBS Interactive Business Network and hosted by Carol Kinsey Goman suggests that it is better to lean forward.
In a study done in 2008 by three researchers, students were measured in mock interviews (unknowingly) for how good their hand shake was. Instead of focusing on making their best grade on an assignment, they are preoccupied by these labels associated with them. If we accept the stereotype threat and promise, that means both can have a significant impact in shaping us and our performance in school, work, and life.
Leaning back like Affleck or slouching like the man in the Forbes article give off the impression that you are either too slack or lazy. They measured the students’ completeness of grip, vigor, strength, duration, and eye contact. However, I am now 21 and have never been in an accident or any type of altercation with my car.
In a process of narrowing down candidates, this guy did not get past round one due to his poor nonverbal communication skills.
What they found was that there is not as much of a an expectation for a good handshake for women. Actual dress code for interviews it is universal in western culture: men and women both wear suits (naturally different). Men are expected to have a good handshake so it is exceptionally helpful if a woman has a good hand shake.
My brothers also have pretty good track records when it comes to driving, but by not thinking of myself as a terrible driver, I was able to fulfill my own prophecy.

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