I know that’s a strange statement for me to put out there but if you really think about it there is truth to it.
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For most of the women who visit Ex Boyfriend Recovery this is the story they are currently experiencing and this story frightens the living daylights out of them. I want you to take a wild guess at which story we are going to be focusing on throughout this page? There is only one purpose of this page, to teach you what makes an ex want to come back after a breakup. Of course, becoming someone that he will want back is only one step in a very complex process. Now, before you roll your eyes and click the back button on your browser or phone I want to make you aware that I have already created a guide that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back, STEP BY STEP.
In this section I am going to go over every possible reason I can think of that would make an ex boyfriend want to come back to you after a breakup.
This section is going to cover every single positive reason I can possibly think of that would make an ex boyfriend want to get back together with you. In this section we are only going to be focusing on the positive reasons that an ex boyfriend wants to come back. Of course, I have also seen a lot of couples that get back together break up again and when I ask for the details on why I always seem to determine that the overall mindset of the man when he re-enters the relationship is extremely important.
All of the reasons below are positive because they will give you the best chance for sustaining a long relationship with your boyfriend. One day we got to talking about his history with relationships and he said something that struck me as fascinating. Sometimes an ex has to go out into the world and experience new relationships for himself before he can come to the realization that you were the best girlfriend he ever had.
Of course, there are some men out there that are completely aware that you are the best girlfriend they will ever have.
According to the Huffington Post, the average age that a man starts looking to settle down has been on the rise.
Ideally, what you want to do is set the bar so high that no one will be able to compete with you in the relationship.
With all that experience in the dating game there is only one girl that he constantly thinks about.
Have you ever been so angry at someone that you said a bunch of things that you didn’t mean? In the end my anger took over and I blurted out a bunch of insults that deep down I really didn’t mean.
After I was done with my little outburst the look on her face pretty much said it all as I came to reality and realized that I had hurt her on a very deep level. Now, what I want to do with this section is take this same concept, the immature outburst, and apply it to your situation to see if your boyfriend had one right before he broke up with you. The thing I have always found fascinating about relationships is the fact that they have the ability to make you magnify every little thing that the person you are dating does.
However, a large portion of men aren’t very mature in how they handle the magnification. Lets say that you harmlessly take a picture with one of your guy friends during a birthday party that his girlfriend set up. Now, since we already know that everything is going to be magnified for your boyfriend it is pretty much a given that he could freak out if he sees the picture which can lead to an argument which can lead to a fight which can lead to him saying things he doesn’t mean.
Lets make another leap here and say that this little incident with the picture was what caused your relationship to end. He is going to see the situation from a more logical perspective and realize that you are a gem and he is a fool for letting you go. This is really the ultimate position to be in because you control the entire game at this point. However, if you are asking my opinion on whether or not to take a boyfriend back in this exact situation (with the picture fight, etc, etc) I would have one piece of simple advice.
Yes, this is a positive reason for him wanting you back but if this reason causes you to continually break up and get back together then there may have a deeper problem.
Have you ever noticed that when you date someone there is a certain routine that you get into? For example, the first thing that you may do when you wake up is check your phone to see if your boyfriend texted you. My point is simple, this is the routine of your relationship and I have found that people like routines.
It could be entirely possible that the drastic change of a breakup is very hard on your boyfriend because all of a sudden he is ripped away from the routine that he has gotten so used to.
So, why is it a good sign if your ex boyfriend comes back to you because he misses the routine?
So, if your ex boyfriend begins missing the routine of your relationship it is really like saying he is missing you. In fact, I didn’t think it was possible to have as many fights in a relationship as I did with this person. Think of it this way, if I had gone back to her when I missed her right after the breakup would I have been giving the relationship the best chance in the long run? Now, I know that pretty much every woman prowling this site would sell a small piece of their soul to get back with their exes.
If there is anyone you should listen to when it comes to the topic of exes it should be me. Well, if you get back with a boyfriend because of any of the reasons below then the chances of your relationships succeeding long term aren’t going to be very high. Lets say that you and I dated for about a year and I broke up with you citing some ridiculous reason about my feelings not being the same. Of course, we are talking about me here and I can be stubborn sometimes so rather than crawling back to you with my tail between my legs I decide to see if I can get away with making you my booty call and I do… for a while. He became extremely jealous of the fact that I had this video game system and he didn’t. A common trend I see here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is that women who try to get their ex boyfriends back end up failing but rather than letting that failure make them miserable they decide to pick up the pieces and move on. Of course, the initial ex that they were trying to get back in the first place is watching all of this and begins to grow jealous. A few months ago you literally prayed every night for this to happen but now that you have moved on you are filled with confusion on whether or not to give it a try with the new man or go back to the old one who broke your heart.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
He also had done many things to make it seem like he loved me and didn’t know how to admit it. I don’t know if he is my ex really since we dated for a very short time but we have known each other and been intimate for the past 3 years(no strings attached). Anyways it was very drastic and very sudden but I had a feeling it was coming the second he had shared with me that she had slept with so and so guy.
I found this page and went into no contact in the middle of Jan, and broke it about 3 weeks ago.
When you are in a serious relationship with someone it can sometimes feel like you are giving a part of your soul over to them. I can’t tell you how many women I have heard from describing how horrible they feel about a breakup. There is no doubt in my mind that nothing (and I mean nothing) affects you as emotionally as a breakup. I also do want to point out that once you start the steps that I outline on this page there is no going back. Well, in this section we are going to be discussing exactly what you can do to move on with your life leaving no sign of your ex boyfriend. This section is going to be controversial and when I say controversial I mean REALLY controversial. That means for the next year, starting today, you are going to not contact your ex boyfriend in any shape or form. Since you are reading these words I know you are interested in getting over your ex boyfriend.
Now, I gave you the correct answer to the fork in the road above if you want to get over your ex in the long term. In this section we are going to be focusing more on what YOU need to do during the year long no contact to properly get over your ex boyfriend. While there are always exceptions to every rule I have found that women, when it comes to getting over someone, require more time than men. So, her estimation is that if a relationship lasted 6 months it would take 6 months to get over it. When I brought this point up to my buddies girlfriend she stood firm but expanded her claim to say that every guy that the girl in the 8 year relationship would date in that time frame before the 8 years after the relationship ends would be a rebound.
Rebound Relationship- A relationship starting at least 2 months after a breakup and lasting for only a total of 3-5 months. In this section I am going to give you a game plan that you can follow to get over your ex in a healthy way. There is one truth that I have personally experienced when it comes to getting over someone who you were in a relationship with.
No matter how many things you do to get over him you won’t truly get over him until your soul lets you and the only way that your soul will let you is with time. Now, while I do admit that nothing can help you get over an ex more than time there are things that you can do that can speed up the process. If I am being completely honest it was kind of cool at first but now you guys can get a little annoying sometimes.
Why am I telling you to think of making him regret the breakup when I want you move on from him? Simple, sometimes in order to get in a better place physically you have to use your breakup as fuel.
If you haven’t already noticed from my silly Yoda reference above I am a bit of a nerd. First off, you aren’t supposed to have any contact with your ex for a year so already you messed up and there is no way you can get over him if your mind is constantly on him. Doing things outside your comfort zone is the scariest thing in the world to some people and I don’t understand why. The most complete people I have ever met were the ones who figured out how to push that uncertainty out of the way and step outside their comfort zone. People who choose to run away from their fears tend to exhibit the unhealthy ways of getting over a breakup that I talked about before. People who choose to face their fears are the ones who can get over an ex in a healthy and timely way.
If you are afraid you are going to end up alone I want you to take a massive action and go out and date more people when you are ready. If you are afraid that guys just want to use you for sex then maybe you need to sit back and rethink your selection of men.
How can you successfully move on from an ex boyfriend when the friendship door is always open for a possible reconnection? The trick to answering the question I posed above is to set specific boundaries when it comes to you and your ex boyfriend. Here is a list of things that you need to avoid if you want to properly define your new relationship with him.
When you do talk to him in person or over text message I want you to make it clear to him that you are friends and nothing more. I am not interested in getting my ex back, but ever since we broke up, he has been acting strange. It might be important to know that when my ex boyfriend and I got back together, no one (including the friend and sister I mentioned).
My ex girlfriend broke up with me about one week ago but I did everything you said not to do.
My ex broke up with me 6months ago, and I said that we wouldn’t communicate once I moved out. Essentially I try to take an outsiders view and look at Ex Boyfriend Recovery’s overall weaknesses. More specifically, how to make an ex boyfriend answer the phone and what to do once you are talking to him. If you are an avid reader of this site then you know that I am not a huge fan of calling an ex boyfriend right off the bat.
Before I really dive in to the phone call stuff there is something I need to explain to you.
I want you to stop for a moment and really think about how many decisions you made based on emotions today.
So, the seemingly innocent decision to get in my car and drive to school can be traced all the way back to an emotion that I want to feel. While I realize a first grader could figure this out I would still like to take a moment to define what is considered a good feeling vs a bad one. The thing that I find most interesting about good feelings is the fact that we all tend to gravitate towards them.
The whole point I am trying to make here is that no matter what we will always be drawn to things that make us feel good.
Above I talked about how both men and women tend to gravitate to things that make them feel good.
Anyways, the feeling I felt after the verbal lashing from those football players shaped my perception of the weight room in high school. When you are dealing with an ex boyfriend the task can seem impossible but I assure you that it’s not. Remember above when I was talking about all that “good feeling, bad feeling” stuff? As long as you can find a way to shape his perception and have more pros than cons then you have a really good shot at talking to him on the phone. That all depends on your ability to understand that calling an ex right off the bat is NOT a good idea. In fact, when I first started this site I used to believe that as long as you could think logically and push the right buttons you could make an ex boyfriend call you and eventually get him back. It was only through interacting with you and seeing different situations that I realized that I was wrong. You see, you need to find a perfect balance between logical thinking and emotional output if you want an ex boyfriend to call you or to pick up the phone when you call.
Not only does it have advantages for making an ex miss you but it allows you enough time to get in the logical mindset that you need to get an ex boyfriend to call you. A few sections ago I talked about a major concept that ties directly into making an ex boyfriend call you.
Well, one of the main questions you were probably wondering was how you can get rid of some of the cons. Now, before I talk to you about what you need to do specifically to get him to call I would like to take a look at the reasons why he WON’T call you.
Anyways, after talking with me she was feeling pretty down about her chances and then she said something that I found fascinating.
I remember when I was first trying to think of a word to describe how annoying it is to get text after text from someone you don’t want to hear from.
Seriously, I remember when I was a teenager walking with a group on a mountain trail and gnats started buzzing around everyone’s heads. We have already established that an ex boyfriend is likely to run away from things that will give him bad feelings.
In this (made up) scenario your ex boyfriend now views you calling him as a con on the pros vs cons list?
Lets switch gears here and focus on those women who are trying to call their ex boyfriends. First off, there is a specific way that you have to call your ex boyfriend to ensure maximum success. It’s funny, out of all these mistakes this is the one I think I feel I have the most insight into because in a way I live it every single day.
Your ex boyfriend may find it very annoying if you were to force him to do something that he doesn’t want to do. Right off the bat I will tell you that I sense the person who is saying it is extremely desperate. Any time anyone ever texts this to me I start freaking out and wracking my brain with everything that could have possibly gone wrong to cause the emergency. Well, when it comes to relationships men don’t negotiate with women who give them ultimatums.
Funnily enough, you would probably do what I wanted so you could get your phone back but you would always hold the fact that I gave you an ultimatum against me. This is the part where I am going to give you in-depth instructions on how you can make an ex boyfriend potentially call you or pick up your calls.
I am assuming that getting an ex boyfriend to call you is just one little aspect of your overall goal which is probably to get him back.
All of these concepts are going to tie into a deeper gameplan with one goal in mind, to make your ex want you so bad that he calls you.
For one, it is really important for you to obtain that logical mindset that I keep talking about.
What I would like to do now is go into the specifics of the gameplan so you have a really good idea of what to do to make your ex boyfriend call you.
I love it when you meet someone new and you are literally on the edge of your seat anticipating their next text. There is something magical that happens when you actually build an emotional connection with the person you are texting. If you ever get to know me really well then you would know that I am the type of person that needs to get my beauty sleep. You see, at that time I was a senior in high school and I really wanted to see my girlfriend more than once a weekend. Seriously, if you were to walk into my room tomorrow at 5:30 in the morning and poured cold water on me I would still be sleeping.
THAT is how you make him call you and you are going to do it through the least threatening way possible, through texting.
A guide that is supposed to be about phone calls and we are going to spend a huge chunk talking about texting. In other words, you are going to get your ex used to associating you with good feelings before you talk on the phone so that when you do things will go extremely well. Below I have compiled a lot of text messages that you should use to get your ex to associate you to good feelings. If there is one thing I have learned about the women visiting my site throughout this past year it is that they want results fast.
If your ex does respond positively to the first texting example that will give you the ability to use another texting example on this page. Now, if your ex does NOT respond positively to the first texting example then you need to take a step back and realize that he isn’t ready to build an emotional connection yet. That means YOU have to have the willpower to cut the conversation off right when it is starting to get good.
That will make him associate that good feeling with you since YOU were the one that gave it to him.
Another important thing that I would like to mention is that you shouldn’t continue the conversation too much longer after you send this initial text. Because your ex is likely going to fish for more compliments and you want to leave him wanting more.
I love receiving messages from a girl that I am interested in and I am going to guess that your ex is the same way. Another great message I received was a girl walking down a hotel hall just talking about what she did all day. One of the best video messages I received was a girl masterfully flirting by commenting on something I said. Do you remember when you read that get your ex boyfriend to call you guide on your phone or computer?
This text message is all about making your ex boyfriend remember a good time the two of you had together.
Lets move on and talk about the two types of phone calls you really want to receive or make! I would like to now turn our attention to the real reason this guide was created, phone calls. But really at the end of the day the main goal here is to get on the phone with your ex boyfriend so you can work on getting him back.
More specifically, have you ever gotten a phone call out of the blue from a guy you had feelings for? Of course, if this type of phone call is done correctly it can be a very powerful way to get your ex boyfriend on the phone. Leading Phone Call- A type of phone call where you lead him or warn him that you are going to call. Up until this point we have been talking strictly about how to get an ex to call you (or to pick up your calls) but one thing I haven’t gone into is what you are supposed to do once you get them on the phone. This is going to be the final section of the guide and arguably the most important one so make sure that you are paying attention.
I have thought a lot about how to structure this category and I decided to start with two general ideas. I have talked on the phone with a lot of people in my life so this is really something that I consider myself to be an expert on. Of course, in order to control someone you have to really get them hooked into your conversation first. I have never met any of these celebrities in real life and yet somehow I am fascinated by them.
Of course, you don’t have to tell a Hugh Jackmanesque story to hook your ex into the conversation.
The Afterthought Effect- The emotional feeling your ex boyfriend is feeling towards you after he hangs up the phone from your phone call. This would be considered to be a negative AE and something that you need to avoid at all costs. A week or so later he calls to congratulate me on my new job, we chatted he smiled and laughed, I smiled and laughed. It is also one of the most challenging strategies to get through due to a variety of reasons.
I talk about it extensively in my PRO System and here, here and here.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? So, to continue my total dominance over the internet I figured I would give you another glimpse into my magnificent brain with it’s knowledge over the no contact rule.
In order to understand this article you first need to understand the context of what it is talking about. Those of you who are up to date on my most recent thoughts regarding getting your ex back can probably skip this next section but for those of you who aren’t then you would do well to listen up. The more we live in this earth the more we experience and the more we experience the more we learn. So, it would make sense that the more time I dedicate to helping people get their exes back the more I learn. I have been doing this for the last several years and I have LITERALLY seen thousands of situations and the more I have seen the more I have learned about what works and what doesn’t work. While no two campaigns will ever be alike generally you can locate these four things within them. Since this is an article that focuses on what to do if you get no response after no contact where do you think that, that falls in this graphic?
In order to answer that question we are going to have to take you back and explain what the no contact rule is. When I first started this article I mentioned to you that I have a ton of information on this website about the no contact rule so if you want an in-depth explanation of the no contact rule I suggest that you take a look at those links above. I figured the best way to do this would be with some role playing so I would like you to meet Bob. Now, Alicia, as you may have guessed, has decided that she wants to get Bob back so she decided to use the no contact rule. The No Contact Rule- A period of time (ranging from 21 to 30 days) where you ignore your ex on purpose in an effort to get him back. I will just post it below again so you don’t have to go through the annoyance of scrolling up and then down again. Well, what is supposed to happen in the grand scheme is that Alicia would complete the no contact rule and then use text messages to re-attract Bob. That little circled area above is supposed to represent the sending of the first text message after the no contact rule.
In a perfect world Alicia would send a text message to Bob and Bob would respond to it happily.
I am basically going to teach you what to do in this circumstance and how to improve the odds of having your ex boyfriend respond to you but we don’t just want him to respond to you now do we? Now, as much as I would love to eat up another thousand words talking about the four responses I can’t do that since we are here to talk about one type of response, the positive one.
The ultimate goal of this page is to help you get a positive response from an ex who isn’t so positive. However, it is also a great resource for figuring out what works and what doesn’t work.
Basically when I have an idea about getting an ex back I write about it and wait to see what happens when people implement it. From there I gather research and if I find out that enough people are implementing it and having success I let you guys know about it.
Since we have a big international audience I am going to use a soccer analogy to explain this so buckle up.
Imagine for a moment that you were playing soccer on a team and you were your teams best player. From everything I have seen you only have three chances at a text message after the no contact rule to get a positive response from him and if you don’t get that positive response then your chances drop dramatically.
But you will notice when you turn your attention to the goal that just getting a response isn’t enough.
In fact, I bet that if you were using an ironclad no contact rule on me I could get you to break it and respond to me.
Well, I am pretty sure you would respond to me even if you were doing no contact but your response wouldn’t be positive would it? But not everyone can get a positive response and when you add in the fact that realistically you only have three chances to get a positive response you can see why this article is super important.
Since this is an article about navigating a situation where you have already reached out to your ex after the no contact rule and have gotten no response you have already take one or more shots on goal and missed. In other words, if you only had three shots to start out with now you have one or two left.
Anyways, let’s assume that you do a no contact rule on your ex boyfriend and then after that no contact rule is up instead of taking three shots at goal you take ten. Well, if you recall my earlier statement I said that your chances of success drastically decrease but I didn’t say it was impossible. Now, lets get back to the non-GNATS out there who may have already taken one or two shots at goal.
In order to give yourself the best chance of success you need to make sure that these shots are solid attempts. Are you paying attention or are you still scrolling up to figure out if the dinosaur is real? Yup, the monkey somehow shot the gun (at the ground) and all the men started taking off running.
As long as human beings rule this world they will always be fascinated with interesting things.
I will admit that crafting the most interesting text message that your ex boyfriend has ever encountered is a bit of a challenge. Because oftentimes people respond to stories better than anything but this is a text message we are talking about here. In other words, your text message can be no more than 160 characters and that may even be pushing it. Not only is this not going to be an interesting topic for your ex boyfriend but it will automatically tip your hand that you are wanting him back.
How are we going to craft the perfect text message to your ex boyfriend to get him to respond in a positive manner? Well, in order to understand that you need to understand the template of an interesting text.
Again, if you want a more thorough breakdown of text messages I suggest you take a look at the Texting Bible.
What I want you to do is determine the interesting type of text message that you are going to send. Now, since we are dealing with text messages here one of the funniest things that you can do is send a funny picture.
In fact, I would say that it’s one of the reasons that Ex Boyfriend Recovery is preferred over all the other websites out there teaching people to get their exes back. I have done research on this website to show that most of my readers are between the ages of 18 and 34.
Anyways, when you apply for a job you have to create a resume that essentially pitches yourself and why you are the right person for the job. So, imagine that you are an interviewer with one hundred resumes on your desk that all look like the boring resume template and then you happen to stumble across the resume above. It’s basically anything that you can send to your ex boyfriend that is out of the ordinary to get him to respond to you. Lets pretend that you heard this fact that the sky actually wasn’t blue but it was (sticking to the theme here) pink.
This would be classified as a weird interesting type of text message that probably would get a response. Anyways, my point is that I am a big fan of GOT and anytime someone says anything about it I get stopped in my tracks and listen. In other words, if someone were to send me a text message about something I found interesting (game of thrones) the chances are high that I will give it a response. If you take a look at the graphic I created above we are at the point where you have chosen the type of text message that you want to send but need to craft a shocking opening. There are two keys or lessons that I am going to have to teach you if you are going to craft a perfect shocking opening. The first one is deciding on whether you want your shocking opening to be a part of your overall interesting text message or if you want it to be a separate text message in and of itself. However, the shocking opening, substance middle and leave him wanting more close can be either combined into one massive action packed message or three separate text messages. Yup, I like it when these three text messages are separated from one another in three texts.
Now, this may come as a shock to you since I clearly state in my book, The Texting Bible that after the no contact rule when trying to make your first contact you should just send one singular text message but your situation is a bit different isn’t it?
Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result so that’s why I am taking the constraints of how many texts you can send after no contact off for now. I am definitely in favor of sending the shocking opening as one text in and of itself instead of packing it in as one massive super text. When a man receives something like that what are the first three things that are going to pop into his head?
Now, thought two is really kind of clever because it is also human nature to put yourself above all others. People opened up an email with this title because they thought the bad news would be about them.
If you can get your ex boyfriend to ask these questions during your own shocking opening text then you will be well on your way. For example, if you picked the funny text then the substance that you are going to deliver is going to be funny. Before I get into this I want to remind you that I am a believer of NOT cramming this into one massive text that you send to your ex.
Of course, in order to do that we need to figure out the type of text message you wanted to use.
You can either tell a ridiculous story OR you can add some creativity into the mix and craft a funny video for your ex to watch. Now, it’s kind of hard for me to give you an example of a funny video so I am going to stick to the ridiculous story but if there was ever a time to think outside the box this would be it.
Remember, the more ridiculous you get with this story the better and no doubt about it the story I just told is absolutely ridiculous. Can you imagine being on the beach, minding your business and all of a sudden a truck comes into view chasing you with a bunch of teenagers with pole vaults? So, that’s substance in a nutshell but there is still one last thing I have to teach you. In episode 29 (this episode) we are going to be talking to Brandiwine, a woman who is wondering how she can get her ex back if he is angry with her. Too often I have seen an ex boyfriend hit the wrong note of an ex girlfriend and a fight occurs because of it. Rule 2: Apologize When The Time Is RightWant to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Instead, it is a better idea to utilize the no contact rule to let enough time go by so he is in a place to be accepting of your apology. Rule 3 and rule 2 actually go hand in hand because in order for you to apologize to your ex boyfriend properly you have to build enough rapport.
Instead of talking to your ex boyfriend like you want him back talk to him like you would anyone else.
When Taurus get really angry and are pushed to the breaking point, they have an anger that’s like a raging bull’s anger. Through it all, I managed to get some counseling and found out that I did have some issues going on. My question to you is, I know how to get in touch with him through his family, but what can I do to make this situation better, to at least get our friendship back if we don’t get everything that we had back?
I would have to say, Brandywine, even though you admitted that you have some issues, if you’re in a relationship for 16 or 17 years without a ring or a deeper commitment, that is bound to make any woman crazy. The good news is the fact that you have been in this on-and-off relationship with him for 16 or 17 years. A lot of times, women come to me and say, “My ex-boyfriend said this or that.” I say, “Hey, chill out.
This is why the no contact rule is such a good idea if you’re trying to get back with someone who is super angry with you. The problem with that is you are trying to get your ex-boyfriend back at a point in the situation where he is most angry. What’s more likely to happen—an ex-boyfriend accepting your apology after you’ve primed him, built some rapport and you’re on decent terms or an ex-boyfriend forgiving you right after a breakup when you haven’t done any of those things? It’s not just texting him, “Hey, let’s go out for a cup of coffee,” or “Hey, I’ll buy you a beer,” or “Hey, let’s go out and have dinner and a movie.” No. You’ve taken necessary steps to improve yourself, look at your own issues and improve upon your values. But (for example) my boyfriend was outraged after I didn’t take him back (third time break up, his choice, not mine, I was devastated every time) and out of anger he decided to burn my belongings, my art and tell everyone that the sexual abuse, that I am now in therapy for, never happened. One minute he tells me loves spending his time with me and then the next causing a fight and tells me he hates me.
Another minute he tells me he misses me and loves me and the next wants nothing to do with me.
I feel like he says what he thinks I want to hear and I don’t know what to believe anymore. I think my feelings are changing because I want a good, nice, respectful man who treats me good. And then when we are not of a break he tells me how much he misses me and girls don’t even compare to me. What if he’s really mad at me that he even said that he dont wanna reconcile with me anymore that he dont wanna see me anymore? My boyfriend and i broke up at the beginning of march (he broke up with me and moved out) and we were together three years, the beginning was exquisite and then deteriorated over that three years especially after moving in together after one year, but got really bad towards the end when his resentment of just about everything was just too overwhelming. I was beyond devestated and cried and begged for 5 weeks, i discovered NC too late i think. If you want your ex boyfriend to miss you (after your breakup) then you definitely came to the right place. Now, I know that’s a bit of a shocking statement to make especially when you consider the state of the “get your back niche” these days.
That everyone who comes to the site to read, watch, or comment should be helped and attended to. Now, throughout this article you may notice that a few of our team members chime in and offer little tidbits of advice on top of the advice that I am dishing out. You are still learning from me, Chris Seiter, it’s just that I always think five heads are better than one.
So, since you are inquiring about how you can make your ex miss you this page is going to be focused solely on that.
So, lets do a little role playing here and assume that you end up taking the advice I teach on this page to heart and successfully make your ex boyfriend miss you.
Don’t get me wrong, you will absolutely have to make your ex miss you if you want any chance of winning him back but it isn’t going to be enough alone. However, simply getting your ex boyfriend to miss you is essentially like trying to put a puzzle together with just one piece.
But you are probably getting bored of hearing me talk about Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO aren’t you? One of the things that I have always found fascinating when it comes to researching breakups is the scientific data that I come across. And perhaps that’s a little strange for the profession that I have chosen since a lot of getting an ex back is all about believing in an outcome that hasn’t occurred yet. Nevertheless, I think it would be wrong of me to try to teach you something without having proof it works which is why I find the scientific research done on breakups so fascinating.
In 2005, psychologist Art Aron, neurologist Lucy Brown, and anthropologist Helen Fisher all teamed up to do an interesting study on individuals who had just recently gone through a breakup. They decided to have the individuals put a brain imaging tool on and then showed them pictures of their ex.
The scientists were trying to determine what was happening in the brain of the people who just went through the breakup. The part of the brain that lit up was the same part of the brain that is commonly present in drug addicts who are going through withdrawal.
Facebook Creeping = Spying on an exes Facebook profile after a breakup to see what they are up to. Well, it means that there is a nearly 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is going to come strolling by your Facebook profile assuming you are still friends there. But again, I still feel this incredible need to provide you with overwhelming statistics before I specifically talk about the advantage you have. Now, does that necessarily mean that if your ex falls into the 71% category that he is going to be missing you? No, remember, this statistic is basically just saying that 71% of people think about their exes too much. But it gets even better, 60% of people who are married or dating say that their ex is on their mind too much.
Well, I think the important distinction that has to be made is if they are thinking about their ex TOO MUCH or just a little bit. Hell, I am sure even my own wife has had this happen from time to time but it’s not like she can turn her mind off. But there is a definite difference between having your mind take a small trip down memory lane and thinking about an ex all day every day. So, if your ex is thinking about you too much then you can ultimately use that to your advantage, right?
Well, there is still one more thing that I think we need to cover before I can give you the strategy you should implement and this is something that is going to be important for you to understand because it’s going to directly affect your chances for making him miss you.
Without a doubt the number one factor that determines whether a man will miss you or not is always going to be your past relationship with him. Now, I am not like those other relationship experts out there that will tell you what you want to hear 100% of the time.
If you had a horrible relationship with your ex your chances of having him miss you is going to be lower. Ok, one more thing to talk about before we can start getting down to the actual strategy of making an ex boyfriend miss you. Did you know that you have a “secret advantage” if you were actually the one to initiate the breakup with your ex? We have already established above that you have an advantage in the fact that most people say that they still think about their ex too much but when you add in the fact that you initiated the breakup your advantage is going to be a little more distinct. When I get to talking about the no contact rule (really soon) I am going to talk about psychological reactance. Psychological reactance theory basically states that when you take away someones options to do something their attraction to gain their freedom to get that option back increases.
Well, now that, Ricky’s freedom to have that toy has been taken away what does he want more than anything?
So, by breaking up with your ex you actually increase the chances that he will miss you because his freedom to have you has been taken away. Easy, it’s hard because I am the one that has to come up with the game plan for putting a “cheating couple” back together. So, like I said above, you probably aren’t going to have this secret advantage if you broke up with your ex if he cheated on you.
No, Esther Perel, has dedicated pretty much her whole life to studying infidelity and she has found that oftentimes men and women who cheat are still in love with their partner. I am going to take it as if there is a fundamental problem with your relationship because in my mind a man who is fully satisfied with his relationship will be excited and engaged in his sex life with his partner.
Nevertheless, if you broke up with your ex because he cheated then you aren’t going to have this small little advantage that I am talking about.
And to be honest I can’t think of situation that screams “taking a mans freedom to have you away” more than this one. If you broke up with your ex boyfriend when he didn’t want you to break up with him then you have definitely left him with the impression that you are a very rare commodity. You will find that the more scarce you are the more attractive you will be to men in general. I mean, something tells me that you wouldn’t find a diamond so attractive if you go buy it for a dollar at the dollar store.
Because a portion of the success stories that I had recorded didn’t give me much information.
Not really deep enough for me to determine what that particular person did to succeed in getting their ex back, huh? So, if you were to ask my opinion on how many of the successes used the no contact rule I would put the number closer to 90%. You are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook or Google your ex for a specific period of time. Hell, all you have to do is visit one of my “no contact rule” pages to see just how many women are struggling with it.
No, you care about the psychology behind why the no contact rule can make an ex boyfriend miss you, right? The question = Chris, what is the number one mistake you see people making after a breakup. I mean, put yourself in your ex boyfriends shoes for a second assuming that you were bugging the hell out of him after a breakup with you.
Would you find it attractive if someone you didn’t have feelings for anymore was bugging you every five seconds trying to convince you to do something you didn’t want to do?
Truthfully, I watch the movie at least once a year and you know what causes me to watch it?
By not giving your ex a chance to miss you, via the no contact rule, you are shooting yourself in the foot. With psychological reactance in play, your Ex is secretly thinking, “I want what you say I can’t have. I have this theory that the harder you make it for him to get you back the more he will appreciate you when he has you. The harder you make it for him to get you back the more he is going to appreciate you once he gets you back. And the no contact rule can provide that difficulty for him to succeed in getting you back.
Now, if you are confused as to what this is let me give you a quick history of social media. So, if you don’t know my wife she is in charge of our YouTube channel and our marketing experts.
Well, one day she decided that we should be featured on “Ted Talks” so she started trying to network with some of the people over at “Ted Talks” and she managed to locate one of the person’s Facebook profiles. So, rather than asking me to reach out directly she decided that since this person was a man it would be better if she reached out since she knows she is a very beautiful woman. Anyways, what do you think happened to her after she changed her profile picture on Facebook from our child to a sexy looking picture of her. I am going to teach you my two best methods for catching a mans attention via social media. Now, even though this picture isn’t bad it isn’t earth shatteringly amazing which is what I should be going for. This is the kind of picture that I want you to be posting to your social media profile as your profile picture. So, I guess what I am saying is that you should hire a professional photographer to take your picture. Often times it’s the things that make us step outside our comfort zone that yield the best results. But when I would spy on her Facebook profile and see that she wasn’t depressed it would drive me nuts.
Anyways, one trend that I began to notice with a lot of my success stories was the fact that the women who ended up succeeding were actually completely moved on from the break up and living successful lives.
Anyways, I kept seeing this phenomenon pop up again and again so when I did an audit of my success stories last month I learned that a lot of women who had actually completely moved on from their exes were able to get him back.
In this section we are going to look at a number of things that you can specifically do to make him miss you while in the midst of the Frank Sinatra Effect.
When it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back you have to accept the fact that there are a certain amount of factors that are completely out of your control.
I explained that she didn’t look like that back when I knew her but now that I saw this new and improved version I wanted her immediately.
During the day of the date I had reached out to her to ask if we were still on (BIG MISTAKE) and got no response….
It was starting to become clear that I was going to get stood up if I went to the restaurant but I figured I would give it one more try. If you were to ask me what I thought one of the biggest mistakes that I see women engaging in are I would definitely have to say that becoming to obsessed with their ex is at the top of the list. In order to truly “move on, without moving on” you can’t be too worried about what your ex is doing.
I haven’t talked a lot about this yet because maybe I am trying to save something for my book. If you really want to make the most of the Frank Sinatra effect I am going to teach you an amazing strategy. Basically if you want to utilize the Frank Sinatra effect to the fullest I recommend that you try to maximize these three areas of your life. What you are trying to do here is find a perfect balance between your health, wealth and relationships.
I am a guy and let me tell you that I do not find it attractive when someone, who after a breakup, sits on the couch all day and eats ice cream. Here is the kicker though, a few days later when I logged on Facebook I found that she wasn’t quite as devastated as I thought.
It probably won’t go over too well if he checks on your Facebook profile and sees you making out with three different guys. In this example I am going to show you a specific text message that is meant to make your ex a little jealous.
This is going to sound really weird but for the next month I don’t want you to talk to your ex boyfriend. WHAT???Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
Yup, I know it sounds ridiculous but trust me, doing this will stack the odds in your favor in a very unique way.


Now, that is wrong on so many levels but you are going to use this type of thinking to your advantage.
One of the most interesting things about text messaging is the fact that every holds their texts as sacred. IMPORTANT – You cannot move on to this text message until you successfully complete the first text message above. The key with this type of text is to get your ex to remember the good parts of your relationship. If you haven’t already realized this, getting your ex back can be a very complicated process.
Forgot to mention the conversation did not end well as I replied ok and it just ended as he was trying to make a effort to talk! However, if I have learned anything from my tenure here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery it is that what people say and what people do can sometimes be completely different things.
Through this page I am going to show you exactly what you need to do in order to leave your ex with feelings of regret. I know that what everyone on this site really wants is a step by step plan tailor made to help them get their ex boyfriends back.
One of the biggest concerns from visitors to Ex Boyfriend Recovery has to be if their ex boyfriend would even consider a reconciliation. Of course, what you say in public, or on the internet and what you know to be true can be completely different.
So, when I started reading all of these forum comments of guys saying that they didn’t ever regret letting their exes go I got curious to see just how many of them were searching the internet for advice on how to get their girlfriends back. In the example I gave a few sections above I literally proved that there are actually more men regretting letting go of their exes than women.
It all seemed so fun in your head yet after your breakup things aren’t going exactly how you thought they would go. The Quick Way- Essentially regret will kick in 1-4 weeks after the breakup of a relationship. Well, when you date someone for close to a year you get used to talking with them every single day.
I want you to imagine that in every relationship you get into with a man you are going to be given a number between 1 and 10. The only problem with that is the fact that sometimes men don’t realize how good they had it with you. Now, I want you to imagine that he dated another girl and she doesn’t compare to the standard you set. Right now the goal you are shooting for is to become someone that your ex would regret letting go.
It shouldn’t come as a shock that men are attracted to beautiful and intelligent women.
If I were to take these two women and line them up against a wall and ask random men to meet each one of them separately something tells me that most of the men would choose the intelligent woman over the non intelligent woman for a long term relationship.
Throughout my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO you constantly hear me talking about the Ungettable Girl. Because if a girl is like this then that means she isn’t going to be overly available to a man. So, the first big thing I think you need to realize is to STOP making everything in your life about your ex boyfriend.
Every woman who I have advised to master the art of moving on to create an opportunity to get their ex back has been given an opportunity to get him back. Now that you have the basic principles down one pressing question remains, when do you put all this moving on to get an opportunity into effect? If you have never heard of the no contact rule then I am just going to let you know that it is an ESSENTIAL part of making an ex regret leaving. The no contact rule is a widely accepted philosophy that after a breakup you should enter into a period of no contact with your ex. However, if you have some weird circumstance where it’s not possible for you to complete the 30 day period then just run it by me in the comments section of this page and I will get back to you within a day and give you some help on what to do. I can tell you that as smart and clever as I am when it comes to dealing with people it drives me up the wall when I know for a fact that someone is ignoring me. When I started this section I talked about how the no contact rule can work on two fronts to incite regret. Getting an ex boyfriend back is hard work and most of the women who fail on here fail because they are lazy. Look, you can’t expect to just do the no contact rule and wake up one day to have him at your doorstep. In other words, you need to use that time of solitude to become someone that he will regret.
Remember, life starts at the end of your comfort zone so it is time to step outside the comfort zone and make yourself into the best version of you that has ever existed. So far, this whole guide has been about one thing, making an ex boyfriend regret his decision to leave your relationship. Many of you probably think I am going to give this huge monologue on power and how you must always have the upper hand but I promise that this isn’t a mistake because of not having the power. Now, I know the two of you are broken up right now but if you think back to your relationship were you constantly talking his ear off?
Now, lets fast forward to the present where you are bombarding him with text messages and calls. With every text or call bombardment by you, you are further cementing his position that he is glad that the two of you don’t date anymore.
However, every time you break no contact to selfishly feel better just to talk to him you could be damaging your chances at making him truly regret letting you go. While it has opened up my life in many different ways it has also forced me to dissect every little thing that happens in my personal life. But for me it is literally like torture because I know whats happening while its happening and I can’t do anything about it. Because you waited so long to respond I was constantly checking my phone for your response.
Can you imagine what would happen if you got a guy used to a certain schedule when it comes to texting you and all of a sudden you interrupted that schedule? The second a guy feels that he has something to lose (which would be you in this case) is the second he realizes just how much he cares for that something or someone ;).
I guess the ultimate trend is that you have to have moments where you are very available to a guy and then suddenly become unavailable and then swing back to available and then back to unavailable and so on and so forth. I guess the question on the table right now is how do you implement this trend to re-attract your ex boyfriend? I would like you to take a moment and revisit the section I wrote about on the no contact rule and how it can help you. You want this to happen because if he gets antsy about you contacting him it means he wants it to happen deep down. Remember, the point of this is to spread your interactions out so you leave him wanting more. One of the biggest mistakes I see women make after the no contact rule is going from zero to sixty way too fast. Yes, the ultimate goal we are trying to achieve here is to put you in a position where you and your ex can chat all day long without a hiccup. So, the smartest way is to slowly work your way to a point where you can talk for a long period of time throughout the day. I am a guy so I can tell you that most men daydream and usually when we really daydream about a girl we like it can be a powerful way of igniting our true feelings for that girl.
One of the most powerful ways you can re-ignite your exes feelings for you is through the power of daydreams. In other words, you are going to cast your daydream bait out there and hope he bites the line and starts daydreaming about a future with you and him in it.
The daydream that someone would want their ex boyfriend to daydream about if they were to use this particular text should be a romantic getaway in Hawaii. If you don’t leave your ex boyfriend wanting more during an interaction with him (texting, calling or in person) then that interaction should be viewed as a failure. Well, the idea is to really get them hooked into what you are saying and then all of a sudden end the conversation…. So after a year of dating, my boyfriend and I slowly started getting distant because baseball started for him and track and work took up a majority of my schedule. Last Sunday, No Contact finished, so I decided to send an interesting text… no response. So the next day, I send a heartfelt message saying how I apologize again for how things went down and that I wanted to start over and sent hopeful wishes that his semester is going well. So later on that day or the next day (I forget), I respond say I’m doing well and ask how his work has been. So then I skip a day because it was the third day and respond the next day (Friday, saying how I really like the album and I ask how he’s been), no response.
My boyfriend of six months dumped me a few days ago because he didn’t fall in love with me, but he said he loves me and cares about me. First though, this page is obviously going to be about how to make your ex boyfriend commit. This begs the question, if you are trying to get your ex back will this guide even relate to you? A lot of people rely on me for advice so naturally I see what happens in a lot of relationships on a daily basis. Of course, most of my audience are only interested in one thing, getting their ex boyfriend to commit to them. I guess the point I am trying to make is if you want EXACTLY what to do (and not just the big picture perspective) you should seriously consider checking out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-book. Now, before I can give you any helpful advice I think it is important to look at your view of commitment versus his view of commitment. In other words, we are going to be taking a look at those official definitions right now :).
Typically, one of the most annoying situations I encounter are those women who do everything right and still can’t get a guy to commit to them. When I was doing research for this particular problem (when a guy says he wants to commit just not right this moment) I ran into a lot of angry women experts claiming that if a man says this it means he NEVER wants to commit to you. Why is it that some men have no problem committing to other women when they couldn’t commit to you? It must feel like a punch in the gut to watch someone you clearly have strong feelings for be with someone else when they refused to commit to you. This is a fun little topic that I cover exclusively in my PRO System but I figured I would give you a little tease here! Now, if we apply what we know about men wanting the bigger and better deal which girl do you think the majority of men in the bar will choose as the most attractive mate? Well, at one point you were the bigger and better deal (when you dated him.) However, now that the two of you are broken up you have some work to do to reclaim the bigger and better title. If you want to get a man to commit to you then you have work to do in the most unlikeliest of places, within yourself.
You see, if I were to look at a big picture of my life I could divide everything I do up into three categories. Every single important action (excluding free time) I take can be put into those three categories. Now, probably the most impressive insight I can bring to you here would have to do with how money can affect your mental health (which you will learn all about next.) Maybe this is more of a guy thing than a girl thing but I can tell you that men pride themselves on how much money they make. If a man who makes six figures a year walks into a room there is a certain confidence about him that is unexplainable. If a man who can’t even cover the rent on his apartment walks into the room there is a certain uneasiness about him.
Yes, romantic relationships are included here but there is more to this than the romantic partnerships in your life. For example, the last time you got into a screaming match with your ex boyfriend the chances are high that it really hurt you emotionally. In this case the person can become extremely lonely and their mental health can be compromised.
No doubt that is probably the weirdest title to a section that I have ever created but I promise that there is always a method to my madness. The question that you are probably wondering is how all of this stuff relates to you, your ex and how to make him to re-commit to you. Take me for example, lets pretend for a moment that I was dating you and all three areas of my life were really firing on all cylinders. Throughout this page I talked a lot about how men usually only commit to women who they view as the bigger and better deal. Well, even though I don’t know you personally I can make a few assumptions about you. Now, I could be completely off here but something tells me that I am probably pretty close.
The number one thing that women on this site fail to grasp is that no guy wants to commit to you unless you get all three areas of your life back on track. It’s no coincidence that the most emotional women who tend to fail at winning their exes back are the ones whose entire life is out of wack. The first piece of advice I can give you if you want to make your ex or any man for that matter commit to you is to make sure that each of the three major areas are back on track. Before we can get to the good stuff about making any man commit to you there are a few things we have to get out of the way first.
Since this page is designed for exes (but the material can be used for just about any man.) I feel the need to point out some of the challenges you will face if you attempt to get an ex to recommit to you. If you say one wrong thing that thing could stick with the person for the rest of their life. Seriously, I remember a girl once told me that I tried too hard to make things work once and even to this day that has stuck with me. If you and your ex boyfriend had a bad breakup one of the problems that you are going to have to overcome is the sour taste left in his mouth. This can be a really tricky problem to overcome but it is my job to find the solution for you so here it is. While it may be possible that he will look back to your relationship with fond memories something tells me that right at this moment that isn’t the case.
Women who sense that their ex boyfriend is holding resentment towards them after a breakup will do everything they can to fix the situation as soon as possible. In other words, the more you push to communicate with your ex boyfriend the more he may push you away.
Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is give him time to sort out his feelings which will take amazing discipline from you.
I mean, how in the word are you supposed to make anyone commit to you if they don’t have feelings for you anymore? Usually what can make a man lose his feelings for you is something that you do that he deems as extremely unattractive. So, what I would like to do now is talk about some of the behaviors that most men will see as unattractive.
First things first, if I dated someone and she was getting drunk every day, doing drugs or just a HUGE party animal I would lose feelings for her really fast.
With that being said, if a girl I date is talking to a lot of guys (in person) all the time it is going to make me more paranoid than I need to be. However, probably the most common thing that gets on my nerves is REALLY overemotional women.
If I am in a relationship and all I seem to be doing is helping a person feel better all the time I don’t see how that can benefit me at all? How in the world do you make someone fall back in love with you if they fell out of love with you in the first place? Well, the first thing I think you need to do is identify the problem areas where you went wrong the first time around. Now that is a complicated question and coincidentally it is also the next major section of this guide! Heck, I even talked about a few of the major problems that cause cause a man to freeze at the idea of commitment. In other words, they all talk about what you need to do to make a man commit to you but they never talk about HOW you are supposed to do it. Imagine if you could make your ex boyfriend or just an on again off again lover feel that about you? I feel when you are in a situation with your ex or with a guy who you desperately want to commit to you, you revert back to this mode where your heart is on your sleeve and you let your feelings pour out. Are you starting to realize the difference between you and women who are successful at making guys feel something towards them? Why don’t we work to reignite his feelings for you and also create new feelings at the same time. Well, in my experience reigniting old feelings can be done through texting, calling, facebook, etc, etc. While creating new feelings can be done through those mediums it is so much easier to generate them if you see your man in person and experience something new. We are going to attack his commitment-phoebe personality with his feelings for you and we are going to do that through two ways. Obviously what you are doing to try to get him to commit to you isn’t working so you are going to have to change things up. If you plan on writing a one word text or if you plan on being a bore on the phone then leave this page immediately. I think the best time to have a conversation like the one I am about to show you is in the middle of an existing texting conversation. That is how intriguing you have to make your first contact text message in a conversation like this.
When I think back to my last relationship I can highlight the high point of the relationship exactly to the moment.
I don’t know how to explain it but it was like this light bulb went off in my head and I was filled with this feeling of happiness, excitement, contentment and seriousness. It was like the moment I began to realize for the first time in my life I felt completely comfortable with another human being.
The point is that if you could send a text that can tap into deep feelings like the ones I gave above then you are really onto something. Well, I would actually recommend that you keep the conversation going for 2-3 more texts and then after that simply don’t respond to his texts.
This is getting to be pretty long so I want to take a moment to make sure everyone is still with me here.
Talking on the phone can be very tricky for one big reason, it requires you to think on your feet. When the two of you start having your conversation don’t think about saying a specific thing. Eventually, when the nerves have calmed down and the two of you feel comfortable talking to each other I want you to start an old trip down memory lane. The point of a comment like this is to force him to recall whatever trip happened in Colorado (assuming it was an incredible trip.) This way he will associate the good feelings he gets from that memory to you.
Don’t be afraid to push him by being more specific about things that happened on the trip.
Without a doubt the hardest part about talking on the phone is the fact that when you really want to talk on the phone you don’t want to get off of it. This is so hard to do because if things are going well your heart is going to want you to keep going but you can’t listen to it. Imagine if you could have a new experience with your ex on a date that would cause him to generate new feelings for you. If you can think of an experience that you and your ex haven’t already had together I would suggest doing it.
If you have any ideas for new experiences feel free to leave them in the comments to not only get my thoughts on them but give other people ideas!
Then the shit hit the fan, while I was at a concert a friend of mine came up to me and said my ex boyfriend wasnt a good guy that on good authority the ex has been texting another girl for the last month and showed me a picture… this friend did not know the details but just thought that i should know. Your suggestion of having me as an option down the line is especially interesting however, it also pisses me off.
I guess I just need some advice on how long should this go on, this hanging out without commitment? As far as half contact, my plan was to be civil reply to his communication attempts (assuming he will make some) and play it cool if you will but avoid seeing him. I don’t like waiting and hoping for something that may never happen… how do you deal with that? The reason you found this page is probably because you want to better understand your ex boyfriend. Specifically, I want to focus on what goes through a mans head that makes him want to go back with his ex girlfriend or you in this case. What I am hoping happens is that you will use the knowledge I give you to become someone that your boyfriend will want to come back to. My E-Book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO will take you through every step of the reconnection process and show you everything you will need to do to get your ex back.
In other words, if you do everything that book says then you will become exponentially more attractive to your ex boyfriend. If you can successfully get your ex boyfriend to want you back for these reasons then you could be well on your way to a long lasting relationship. Can you and your ex boyfriend have a happy and healthy relationship going forward if you were to get back together?
Out of all of the women he has dated in his life there is one that stands out above all the rest. He talked about how beautiful she was, how his heart would beat uncontrollably at the sight of her and how if he could go back in time he would do everything in his power to keep her. Ironically, by the time he actually realizes that it’s too late you will have already moved on.
This is important to keep in mind because it can actually explain why your ex may have broken up with you in the first place. At 15 years old I was absolutely thrilled that I got a member of the opposite sex to like me. For example, before you dated your now ex boyfriend I bet you that you really didn’t care as much if he took a picture with another girl. All of a sudden, you care very much on whether or not he takes a picture with another girl. The picture is completely harmless meaning that you aren’t sitting in this guys lap, kissing him on the cheek, having your hands on him or anything that can be considered controversial.
If your entire relationship has been like this with him overreacting, causing a huge fight and never having any empathy then you might want to think twice before getting yourself into another situation where you let history repeat itself.
Heck, it can even be argued that the routine and your relationship are closely intertwined. Every time I think back to that relationship it literally hurts my stomach because of how much stress it gave me. After a few hours of reading the material here she decided that the smartest thing to do going forward was to implement the no contact rule. Essentially what your ex is saying here is that there is no one else around so you are the best option that they know they can get. Pretty soon you start to develop those inevitable feelings and demand that we become an item again.
I was so excited to play with it that I would literally invite all of my friends over and all we did during Christmas break was play on this thing. So, he went home and threw a temper tantrum until he got his parents to buy the same video game system that my parents had gotten me for Christmas. We had been together for about 5 years and had already broken up before for about 3 months. All this time he had a girlfriend and also had a kid with her which I never knew about because tbh I did not care to know what his romantic life was like as I had no interest other than sex. He was clearly jealous about it but he gave me other reasons which could possibly be a factor but it was def not the main reason. I’ve had an on-off relationship with my ex for about a year and a half before he called it quits last December. Things have been going okay, we talk now more than ever, but I do have moments where I turn into an obsessive freak. You are trusting that person to be careful with it, to ensure that it is protected at all times. Ex Boyfriend Recovery is fast becoming known as one of the most insightful websites online teaching women how to get their ex boyfriends back. I like to look at it like this, only begin this page if you are sure that you DO NOT want your ex back. Some of them were good, some of them had problems and a lot of them will probably make you cringe. I wanted to create this section for women who literally want nothing to do with their exes anymore.
In fact, I would say that if you want to get over your ex boyfriend then no contact is essential.
It really is important that you cut him out of your life this way if you want to get over him forever. Through these interactions I get to experience thousands of different relationships and breakups.
You have already made a choice on your first major fork in the road and didn’t even realize it. However, me telling you what to do and you actually doing it are two entirely different things. There are going to be times where you will be tempted to contact your ex during your year long no contact. However, your situation is different since you have accepted that all you want to do here is to move on from your ex. I asked my buddies girlfriend how long she thinks it takes a girl to get over a long relationship and date again. You already know what not to do so avoiding those behaviors will help you a lot but it’s really not enough, you need more.
If you are trying to get over your ex boyfriend and are committed to doing so then I want you to stop whining. One of my favorite series of movies to watch is the dark knight trilogy (Batman, hey some kids never grow up ?? .) In the third installment of the series, The Dark Knight Rises, Bruce Wayne is a recluse at the beginning of the movie.
That fear of not knowing what will happen to you in the future or how you will feel about it.
Yup, as talkative and conversational as I am there are times where I can be in front of a girl and freeze up because I have a fear of what this girl is thinking about me.
They will drown their sorrows with alcohol, meaningless sex, countless rebound relationships and let themselves go in the process. I want you to look fear in the eye and give him the finger (fear is definitely a guy by the way.) This is a time to get strong by facing those fears AND DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT. By now you should already realize that being friends with your ex can complicate things when it comes to moving on from him.
Essentially in this case it is ok to be a little selfish and not think of your exes feelings.
So, you should still do the ex boyfriend cleanse, you should still avoid the bad behaviors after a breakup and all that I talked about above. Follow the steps on this page and I promise you can get over your ex boyfriend in a fast and healthy manner.
We broke up well over a year ago, but not long after we tried to get back together, which failed. I removed him from all my social media, but didn’t block his number from texting and calling me( and he would always message and call me on a fortnightly basis).
Although I’ve worked since i was 17 to provide for my family (once three jobs to pay for my own apartment).
It is through these weaknesses that I can learn more about how to improve the site as a whole for you.
While I am sure this is an inappropriate example nothing can illustrate my point better than it. Once that drug user uses that drug and gets the good feeling they don’t just stop there. This is especially true when it comes to relationships but before I go into that lets talk a little about bad feelings.
The reason this is a major mistake is that right after a breakup there is no logical thinking. However, there is one aspect of NC that I really haven’t ever gone into, the stabilization effect. Admittedly, after a breakup your cons are going to be a lot higher than your pros on your exes list. Doing that is essentially the same thing as poking a bear, eventually the bear is going to explode but if you wait until the bear calms down he is going to be much more receptive of you. Look, I am going to make this really simple for you, the key to getting any guy to call you is to give him a reason worth calling.
This particular woman really wanted to get her ex boyfriend back but there was just one problem, she made every mistake in the book. In fact, I have made so many mistakes in my own personal relationships that I sometimes wonder why my (now) ex significant others stayed with me as long as they did.
Gosh that was so annoying because no matter how many times you swatted at the gnats they just kept coming back for more. Unfortunately, the more you call or text when he doesn’t want you to the more likely it is that you are going to reinforce his decision of why you give him bad feelings. Every day I get women contacting me trying to force me to answer them and help them with their problem. That is essentially what an ex boyfriend would feel if the above statement was said to him.
Before I get started I do just want to say that everything from this section on is going to be very important so make sure that you are paying attention. Also, the act of entering into a no contact period alone can sometimes cause an ex boyfriend to call you. However, at the same time you want an emotional mindset to bring out the good feelings that he associates with you. In fact, there have been times where I anticipate a text message so much that I get angry when I don’t receive a message as fast as I want it to come. It’s almost like everyone starts out with a very logical brain but the more and more you build an emotional connection with someone your brain becomes more and more emotional and the most ironic part of it all is that we love it when it happens. Instead, I want the phone call to be like old times, to help rebuild the emotional connection that you both used to cherish.
If this is the situation you find yourself in DO NOT use the texting example in the same conversation you used the first example.
That is completely ok it just means that you need to go back into no contact period for a while and give him more time.
Yes, for the first time during this entire process you are going to talk about your feelings! Essentially, you are going to say something semi sweet, as I will demonstrate in the graphic below, but what you are really looking for here is to see if he says something sweet or semi sweet back.
It is through those text messages that you can tap into your ex boyfriends emotions and cause him to replace his bad feelings towards you with good ones. But you also have to take into account the fact that most guys don’t call girls unless they like them in some shape or form. It’s important for you to realize that with this type of phone call we are flipping the script.
However, if he makes up some excuse for why he can’t talk you then you need to hit the reset button and try again at a later date. When I am interested in a girl there are two important things I do to keep them coming back for more. That means that you are going to dictate where the conversation goes and how long it will last.
There is one thing that I need to talk about right now and that is for the GNATS of the world. It was this video where these men (who looked to be guerrillas) were making fun of a monkey. That means that the text message that you send your ex boyfriend has to be as interesting or MORE interesting than all of the things I just talked about. While you know you are just watching a man or woman on a stage with a microphone talking there is something about it that makes you unable to turn away. In other words, most of you are at the stage of life where you are going to have to start applying for jobs.
In fact, all that happens is they scan the endless piles of resumes for something that looks interesting and once they find something that looks interesting they will pick it to read through fully.
In the episode I talk about how apologizing after a breakup is a mistake because an ex boyfriend is not ready to accept an apology. There is a lot of ideas and strategies that I teach around how to build the right type of rapport. If you go back to the beginning of your relationship when you were in the honeymoon period and you were kissy and lovey, you were saying, “I love you.” He was experiencing love. A breakup is one of the most highly emotional times that a human can go through in a relationship.
If you let enough time go by or give your ex-boyfriend what he wants, he will stop being angry with you.
I don’t have enough time in my schedule to give you the real in depth game plan that I’m assuming you would want. You mentioned that you wanted to apologize or talk about your perspective of the breakup to your boyfriend, Brandywine.
I waited three days and asked if we could meet up and talk and he just ignored me… We would run into each other at parties and stuff, but he seems to be sending mixed signals.
I’ve tried to see him as often as possible, but the process of booking a flight was so hard for him.
During the argue (via emailed) I told him I was more than just a person with whom he would be and have holidays.
2 weeks passed and I receive an sms saying he had canceled my presence in an event we had in october because he doesn’t feel like going together. He spent the whole summer reassuring me that the distance(500 miles) was only temporary and would make our relationship so much stronger and solidify our future together. I don’t know what to think when it comes to US and our relationship when its a bunch of mix signals.
The long break could mean theres another girl but the best thing you can do is be the ungettable girl. I was making slow but steady progress then I really mucked things up yesterday – I dunno if I can ever repair things Chris! We went out for about a year (not long but it was serious – more serious on his part than mine back then), then we were LDR and a few months later he broke up with me. Then I found your website Chris and did NC for almost 7 weeks (again not on purpose but i had other family issues to tend to). His birthday is in 28 days time, would it be appropriate to use that as an excuse to break NC at that stage? He wanted to meet in person to give it back but I told him I was really busy and it would just be easier to mail it. It was his idea to break up and the whole week after we broke up he called every day like nothing was wrong or changed. To be honest, I always felt our break up had more to do with him being mad at the world and just pushed every thing out of his life. I actually called for something business related and tried to end the conversation after I said my piece, but he kept me on for almost 30 minutes lol. I think women who really understand and put in practice what you say are bound to get their confidence and self-respect back even if they don’t get their ex boyfriends back, and in the end, that’s far more valuable! He told me he had fallen out of love with me sometime since Christmas — while the whole time, he was still telling me about how he wanted to go on trips with me, talking about his proposal plans and our future together.
You will find that my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery is a lot different than the rest of my peers. I mean, just the other day I was doing research on a forum and I saw hundreds of women NOT getting answered. Don’t be alarmed by that.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
So, without further ado, I give you the method in which you should employ to make your ex miss you. Oh, and one thing we are really good about here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is answering people’s questions.
Just ask Veronika Lukacs who conducted the study as part of her Media Studies Masters thesis, in which she looked at how many people have admitted to “Facebook Creeping” on an ex.
So, this basically tells us that even if you are married you may still think about your ex too much. He Can Break Up With You- Where your ex boyfriend actually is the one to initiate the break up. You Can Break Up With Him- Where YOU actually are the one to initiate the break up with him. And for a man to cheat on you generally means that the wasn’t fully satisfied with the relationship.
The no contact rule is without a doubt one of the most successful strategies for getting an ex back.
If during that “period of time” you are contacted by your ex you are not allowed to respond. Behavioral freedoms vary in importance, with some being highly important because they deal with critical survival.
In other words, the probability that your ex boyfriend is going to peek at your profile at some point post breakup is high.
In other words, if we want to get featured anywhere popular she is in charge of making that happen. You can potentially make your ex boyfriend one of those men and show him what he is missing out on by posting strategic pictures on your social media profiles. Here is my general rule of thumb, any picture that makes you look like you belong in a magazine is definitely the one you should have as your profile picture. Now, for those of you who don’t want to step outside the comfort zone and hire a photographer I have one piece of advice to you.
I want this exact thing to unfold for you when your ex boyfriend snoops around your profile. To me, teaching people to get back with their exes is my passion and in order for me to give people advice I need to understand the trends. However, when it comes to making him miss you there are a lot of things you can do that will improve your chances. The plan was that we were going to meet there and we would probably go for a walk after that.
During your no contact period (which is when you should probably be in the Frank Sinatra mindset) make sure you don’t focus on your ex too much. It is important to remember that the two of you broke up and while you may want him back you need to understand that rome was not built in a day and you won’t get him back in a day. She had posted pictures of her having fun with friends and basically having a really fun social life. Notice how in the example below you didn’t specify if your movie date was with a male or a female. In fact, if done correctly, a text message can bring up reminiscent feelings that can set you on the right path to getting your ex back. Now, out of those suitors, throughout your years in the dating realm there has had to be one guy that didn’t pick up the hints.
The text receiver was clearly ignoring the sender but they refused to accept that fact so they kept texting until they they could get a response.
The better idea is to wait until the opportune moment where can maximize the power of the text message.
By completely taking 30 days to yourself without texting him or talking to him at all you are slowly taking control of the situation. It is basically the ultimate way to get him checking his phone every five minutes to see if today is the day that YOU will text HIM. The way you accomplish this is by going into great detail on one of the most positive experience that you had together as a couple.
Well the idea behind it is pretty simple, send a text message to your ex that could potentially get him jealous and bring up some of the lovey dovey feelings that he felt during your relationship. He broke up with me because he didnt felt anything for me anymore, one week after our breakup he started to date all of a sudden another girl.
Imagine if you could be such an influence on your ex that you could make him choose to come back to you. I am sure that you have probably spent an hour searching for one and then you came across this site and saw that my guides were insightful and helpful. I called it Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO and basically put all of my knowledge down for you to absorb. Many of these sources were forums full of women asking men if they ever regretted breaking up with their exes. Saying in public that you really regret letting go of your ex girlfriend can be perceived as a weakness but I know enough about the way relationships work to know that a lot of what men say publicly is meaningless. That means that every month about 9,900 women are typing that particular phrase into Google.
In other words, statistics say that more men than women actually regret letting their exes go. I think the best way I can explain this to you is to explain the regretting process of men. I remember after I broke up with a girlfriend I started regretting my decision a bit later I think it was predestined though. One of the biggest problems I think that women have when it comes to getting an ex back revolves around how much effort you put into getting him back.
I love the effort I really do but the fact of the matter is that you are putting your effort in the wrong place.
Both of these women were considered to be the same level of attractiveness except there is a huge difference in personality between the two of them.
In other words, the guy is always having to work to get her attention and while many guys whine about the chasing process deep down we all kind of like it. I know that is a weird thing to say for a site that specializes in reuniting women with their exes but it’s almost like you have to train yourself to NOT want your ex boyfriend.
You still want your ex boyfriend back but you have accepted the fact that even if you do everything right things might not fall in your favor. If you are faking moving on then it is really not happening and you are more likely to be insincere. However, experience has taught me that nothing should ever be set in stone and there are certain situations where 30 days isn’t practical.
If you are able to lull a men into a sense of false security where he is hopeful for the future and can see happiness with you and then you sweep the rug out from under him something amazing happens. In other words, as long as you do the no contact rule with no breaks it should stir up some type of regret within your ex boyfriend. When I first started this site I was a little afraid to speak up and hurt your feelings so I let it slide but I am not like that anymore. There are things that you can do that can cause an ex boyfriend to NOT regret letting you go. While there is still a lot more to cover on that subject I think it can speak volumes to look at some of the most common mistakes people make. It’s not like you are doing anything too crazy like throwing a rock through his house window.
I am not saying that this was the reason he broke up with you but it was an annoyance that factored into his decision. You may feel something inside of you that tells you to talk to him because he is your “best friend” right? In this section I am going to literally teach you what you need to do to make any man regret leaving you. Believe me, if it was easy then every broken hearted girl would have the ability to wrap a man around her finger.
However, if you are willing to put in the work then I assure you that you are going to put yourself in the best position to get an opportunity to win him back. Yes, I am going to literally tell you how you need to interact with me in order to get me to fall for you.
For example, if I really like someone I try to figure out exactly what they did to make me like them.
Now, I do feel it is important to hit the pause button here so I can explain exactly why I chose to use an example of us meeting for the first time.
Lets say that the two of us found each other attractive, we talked for a few hours and exchanged numbers so we can stay in touch. This is a really good sign because any time that you can get a guy to check his phone for a response it means that you have value to him in someway.
I know it is a messed up game to play but it’s worked on me every single time and its worked on billions of other men too. Actually, lets move on so we can see how we can apply this new found trend to your ex boyfriend.
One of the hidden aspects of the no contact rule is the fact that it allows you to ramp up the tension. Well, you can’t leave your ex boyfriend wanting more if he knows he can have you all the time.
However, it is more powerful if you do it the way I am trying to show you as opposed to doing it right out of the gate. If I go on a date with a girl I like and I am so enthralled about my dating experience with that girl that I daydream about her when I am trying to fall asleep then that is a really good sign for her because it means that the next day I am going to wake up and the first thing I think of will be her. You get a fishing pole, put some bait on a line and then you cast that line into the water in the hopes that a fish will bite the bait and get hooked on your line. Notice how it is not specified if it is you or your ex who will be taking this trip to Hawaii. Eventually we barely hung out and I understood he was genuinely busy because of colleges, baseball, and having guy time with his friends. In hindsight I should have lengthened the response a bit more to seem like I’m busier. One of the most frustrating circumstances that I typically come across are the women who have done everything right and they STILL can’t get a guy to commit to them. While this site will always have an intense focus on exes this particular page can be extended to men in general. My goal here is to make this the best resource that has ever existed when it comes to ex boyfriends. I mean, this is an essential part of getting an ex back so it is definitely an important piece of the puzzle. Yes, there will always be some men that won’t ever want to commit to you, that just goes with the territory, but I think there is some truth in the statement. But you want to know what I think the most interesting part of him wanting to have the option of you down the road is? This definition revolves around what your ex (or any other non-committal guy) thinks about commitment.
However, they only believe in it as long as they think the person they commit to is beneficial to them in some way. I am here to help you understand how to make your ex boyfriend commit to you and the best way to do that is to look inwards with self improvement. Before you can do anything YOU have to be in the right frame of mind and that is what this entire section is all about, getting you in the right frame of mind. I am not saying this to sound arrogant I am saying it because I have a very unique view on life. In fact, if all of these three categories are fulfilled to their highest potential then I will truly be happy with myself and my life. The point is that if you don’t make enough money it can have an impact on your mental health and confidence. Now, since I have already told you that all three areas of your life blend together what will happen next can only be described as a domino effect.
So, what we have here is a trifecta of badness in which all three categories can be put out of wack by just one bad thing happening. While there is a lot more to making a man commit to you this is one of the biggest steps you can take and I think you should start right now! For example, after a really bad breakup you are probably going to be left with a really bad taste in your mouth. Sure, there are men that just suddenly lose their feelings but these men are very rare and I would say most of the women reading this aren’t with a man like that.


In fact, I would say, if anything, I should be more jealous because if a girl really wanted to she could crush my heart by cheating and I wouldn’t have the faintest idea because I am very trusting.
Now, I am all for a girl hanging out with a guy friend now and then but if a girl ends up spending more time with guy friends than with her actual boyfriend I would have a serious problem. In fact, a relationship like that is completely one sided and that really isn’t a relationship at all.
I know women better than probably any man you have ever met before so I have an idea of what you ladies need to be happy in a relationship but don’t think I am any different from any other guy out there.
Secondly, I want you to never make these types of errors again either in a renewed relationship with your ex boyfriend or a new relationship down the road. That is how you make a man commit to you and that is what we are going to be covering here. I also want to point out that if you use the examples I give below word for word then you aren’t going to do well. During your normal conversations with your ex if he is taking forever to respond to your texts then I wouldn’t recommend trying anything like this. The perfect way to start any serious conversation is with a statement that could potentially drive a man nuts if he doesn’t find out. Throughout that relationship I am guessing a lot of things happened that made the two of you feel good.
So, we are going to leverage this fact by looking at his best experience in the relationship.
While I am extremely careful to separate my personal life from this site I can’t help but think of an extremely good example using one of my past relationships. I felt that any flaws I had were gone and I could just be myself and the feeling was liberating.
Either he is going to bite the bait and you are going to have one of those super long text conversations or he is going to give you a negative response. In other words, make him feel so much for you that he has no choice but to recommit to you.
I have talked to people on the phone a lot in my life and I have found the best way to deal with any phone conversation is to remain upbeat and positive. If you go on a date and you are super nervous and you can’t think straight then that date will probably suck. You really want to force him to remember an incredible memory and associate that memory with you.
This causes a problem because part of the goal with talking on the phone is to leave a guy wanting more.
For example, if the two of you were going to have a 45 minute conversation on the phone then I would say you should cut your conversation short at 30 minutes so you can leave him wanting more.
Sure, you can watch it multiple times after you see it for the first time and enjoy it but generally speaking, nothing is going to trump that first time seeing it. My ex and I split about a month ago he broke it off with me after I brought up ( several times during our 9 month relationship) that I wanted a deeper connection with him. After thinking about this and believing it I attempted to sever all ties with my ex boyfriend after multiple attempts from him to contact me the next day.
I decided to just call it quits as he swore up and down and had valid explanations for all of the above accusations.
He texted back right away letting me know he was at the gym… he called and acted like nothing even happened. What is this no contact backfires and he never contacts me… where is the line with no contact when he contacts me?
Well, if your ex wants you back for any of the reasons in this section then that means that your chances of having that happy and healthy relationship are going to be harmed. He is currently 31 years old and has experienced probably over a dozen relationships AND he has even been married. Of course, the biggest issue here was the fact that I was very immature and didn’t understand how to deal with the feelings that you get in a relationship.
Now, some men understand this and deal with it in a very mature way by not overreacting over every little thing that you do. In fact, you didn’t even want to take the picture with him in the first place because you knew it could potentially upset your boyfriend.
When he comes down off his anger trip he is going to realize that he may have potentially made a mistake. Well, the problem with this is that the only reason you were suddenly attractive to your ex again is because he saw you with another guy. For christmas he bought me a lot of bath soaps and lotions to keep at his house along with a tooth brush and a towel. The reasons he gave for his decision were that he did not want to be in a relationship, he wanted to be alone with his friends and that he still has not gotten over his mom’s death. When the person (who you gave your soul to) decides it is best to break up you will probably be left with an empty feeling. If you are ready to move on from that phase of your life then this page will pretty much do the trick for you.
In the end, I decided that the best way to set this page up was to divide it up into two separate categories. Either they were so hurt by him that they don’t even want to think of him anymore or they feel no need to be friends with him every again.
I do want to say that just because I say something on here doesn’t mean you have to do it. Essentially the no contact rule is something I recommend doing if you want an ex boyfriend back. So, based on my own experience with truly being over a relationship I am going to recommend that you do a year long no contact.
However, experience has taught me that in certain cases it is never good to burn any bridges. So, if he has your stuff make sure you call him to get it back and likewise, if you have his stuff make sure you give it back. By getting rid of all the things that have accumulated over your time together you are essentially telling yourself that you are ready to move on with your life and you don’t need him anymore and this is completely ok.
That person can either stay and try to work on things or choose to break up with their partner. One thing that I have learned occurs with a breakup is that the person (in the trenches) experiences a fork in the road and doesn’t even realize it. She told me that to get over it and be ready to date again, it would take the amount of time that relationship lasted. My goal for you is that down the road in a couple of years you look back on your relationship with this person and say “Because of him and what he did to me I became a better person.
Now, if I was consulting him on how to get over an ex I would have slapped him upside the head. So, all of the information from this point on will be aimed at giving you a strategy to getting over your ex while still remaining friends with him.
On the other hand as long as you are friends with him the door is always there for a reunion.
At the same time you want to be friends with your ex and an extended no contact rule could potentially harm your chances of making that happen. The only time you are allowed to break the no contact is if you or your child has an emergency that you have to absolutely talk to your ex about. Shortly after she made a video on social media stating to leave her alone and stop harassing her. Less than a week ago, he told me that he is now is a relationship, and suddenly a sickening pain hit my stomach. It was at a really hard time in my life, and I was suddenly unable to work because of a health crisis. After all, the main point of this site is to prepare you so that you have the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back.
I know at times I can get a little bit wordy but I really want to push the importance of you reading this entire guide and not skipping a section. While I certainly do it for entertainment purposes I also do it because I know that if a show or movie is written well enough it is going to make me feel good.
Anyways, I had a bad experience while I was there when some of the fitter football players made fun of my appearance. However, the main reason for that is the fact that emotions are heightened after something emotional happens (like a breakup.) Of course, with time that emotional headwind you are facing from him is going to lessen. Of course, it wasn’t until she stumbled across Ex Boyfriend Recovery that she realized that her behavior was not ideal.
So, as you read the list of mistakes I am going to compile below I don’t want you to freak out if you have made one or all of them.
That feeling of nagging can sometimes burden a man and unfortunately that burdening can lead to pain. For now, I want to point out something incredibly annoying that women can sometimes do when they get desperate for an ex boyfriend to pick up their calls. While I respond to every single person in the comments section of this site I no longer respond to emails (unless they have to do with the E-Book.) If I responded to every single person through email I would literally get nothing done. It is through your exes emotions that you will get him to call you or pick up your phone calls. More specifically, consistently hooking him into conversations that reinforce your good feeling vibes.
The reason I like this text message so much is that it gets your ex used to comparing you to a good feeling. So, I am going to recommend that you use this text message as a way to open the conversation. For example, you can pretend like you forgot something about the memory and are asking him to recount it for you.
I do want you to tap into your emotions but I want you to be really conservative on how you display them.
Instead of looking for a way to make HIM call you, you are going to take the reins and call him! What if you and I were to talk on the phone and you did an amazing job of hooking me into a conversation. We recently just talked on the phone for the first time in a long time but instead of me being left with positive thoughts of you I was left with negative ones after we hung up. The main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.” I’ve found this to be quite true in my own life. This episode is all about how to navigate the situation where you’ve made your ex so angry that he doesn’t want anything to do with you.
Hopefully, we can keep the roller coaster going up so you can get some good things happening for you. I sat in my chair for 10 minutes, pondering, “What can you do to make an ex-boyfriend stop being angry at you?” There are only two things that I could think of. Most likely, the chances are highest to get him back when he’s not angry, when he has mellowed out and calmed down. I’m going to give you five rules that you need to follow to maximize your chances of, not just getting him back but getting back on speaking terms with him, and increasing your chances of winning him back in the future.
I would recommend picking up my book, Ex-Boyfriend Recovery Pro, to get a game plan that you can follow.
If you have an astrological sign and want to share it or say how accurate it is about you, feel free to comment in the show notes of this episode. He made sure all our friends deleted me from Facebook and spoke nasty about me to each other, publicly with my name tagged in every insulting message. So why is this article assuming that it was the womans fault and that she should apologize, or am I missing something here?
And I was really looking forward to finally meeting him in person, so I really don’t know what possessed me to be so emotional. He got really angry about this and it’s been almost two weeks since the day he told me he would mail it. I haven’t received any calls or texts since starting NC but I have received multiple snapchats. I still ended the talk first but it was like he wanted me to stick around…you know, without actually outright saying it. Three months ago, all he could insinuate was I was being evasive, when that wasn’t true. Can being depressed (like in the case Zoe just mentioned up above) confuse the person into thinking they are not in love?
So, that puts you in a pretty good place because many of you will find that it’s not going to take too much to get him to miss you.
A few weeks ago I compiled all of my recorded success stories to try to determine any correlations that I could find between what the people who had actually won their exes back were doing that the people who were failing weren’t.
Stephen Worchel (2004) suggested that these freedoms help define the individual’s self-identity.
But lets take a trip to fantasy land (your favorite place in the world) and say that you successfully get your ex back. I am saying that this tactic (getting in shape) will be beneficial to you in not only making your ex boyfriend miss you but it will be beneficial in helping you with future relationships (if you have them.) How effective is this tactic? You basically leave it up to your ex to assume if you went to see a romantic movie with a guy or a girl.
However, there seems to be a huge misunderstanding among the women out there on how to actually use text messaging effectively. Most women fail at texting their exes for the simple fact that they commit this texting sin and quite honestly it’s not even their fault.
First though, before we can do that, we are going to have to figure out how to create that opportune moment.
After basically blowing off your ex for a month straight your first text to them better have some substance to it.
It is like their phone is their own personal sanctuary holding all their secrets and feelings about things. If you do this correctly you will bring up his most positive feelings about the relationship and get him thinking about you in a different more positive light.
As a guy I can tell you that nothing makes you want a girl more than when you see her talking with another guy that is even moderately attractive. Don’t worry, I got your back and I want to help you understand the best way you can get him back.
I told him I had been busy he said i could of replied obviously I would see his messages and calls and ask why I ignored him also we have had came to terms to be friends and then I done the the nc and he started missing me but I broke it because he message my sister asking where I was and then asked why I had been ignoring him what should I do?
In essence, I suppose it can be argued that this guide is all about improving your chances of making an ex want you back which is what almost everyone on this site wants.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Heck, a lot of people have already succeeded in trying to get their exes back through my guides.
Of course, as I predicted above most of the men that chimed in said that they didn’t.
Now, obviously if a breakup occurs the number that you were given has fallen below a satisfactory level. We are always obsessed with getting the newest things and sometimes that carries over into our relationships.
One thing that I constantly notice about these type of women is the fact that have more in their life than men.
So, while you have hope alive you don’t want to be caught in limbo land so you start doing things to kind of move on. The point of this exercise isn’t to tell you that you have no hope or anything morbid like that. Every single one who has done this successfully (that I have heard back from) has always said to me that their ex started chasing them again. I am still a fan of the 30 day no contact period so if it is within your power to complete one I would say to complete it. Instead of walking home depressed and with his tail between his legs, you sweeping the rug out from under his feet will create this sense that he lost something and this sense makes a man realize how much he really liked you in the first place.
When the two of you were first dating he was probably on the edge of his seat for every text response.
With this in mind you are going to have accept that fact that you may have to make some major changes and put in some major work. I can’t promise that you will succeed but I can promise to raise your chances substantially. After a while I started to become hyper aware of these trends that women do during interactions that work almost every single time. The reason I did this as opposed to using one where the two of us are imaginary exes is that I want you to grasp the concept first.
In other words, your ex boyfriend is almost expecting you to become annoying and beg him to take you back at some point. You want him to wake up the next day and be checking his phone every five seconds hoping that you will text him. So, the day after your initial first communication (which wasn’t supposed to last all that long) I want you to enter into a full no contact mode for a day.
Now, you have waited 30 days for this moment and now that it is finally here you just let loose and we talk all day long. Well, the fishing analogy holds true to what you are going to be trying to do with daydream bait. Me and him are both going to prom with different people and I just miss him so much and I want to be with him again but idk if I should wait till after prom before I contact him or try to talk to him more before prom so we can hangout there.
But eventually it got to the point where the love he gave to me was vanishing and I became very needy and sad. He texted twice in these two months saying that I shouldn’t keep thinking about it and that I should move on in life, because he wants to see me happy.
Lately we’ve been fighting over everything and one day the fight was large and he told me the doesnt love me like before and he wants to break up.
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While I understand this can feel like a slap in the face I honestly don’t think you should get overly angry about it. So, he doesn’t want to commit to you right now, ok, well that means that YOU are going to have to become someone he HAS to commit to.
The point is that sometimes the best solution to get what you want is to take a step back and remove yourself from the situation for a little bit.
In other words, what would a girl have to do (while dating me) for me to lose my feelings for her? Look, I am all for having a good time but there is a line that can be crossed and I honestly don’t know if I can trust someone with my heart who is drunk all the time.
Before I talk about anything I think it’s important to tell you about how important feelings are to make a guy commit.
You think about it throughout the day and sometimes it is so prevalent that you can’t even concentrate on day to day activities. In other words, when I liked a girl I would just let the feelings pour out and trust me it creeped a lot of girls out. Wait until he is very responsive because this is as much about timing as it is about saying the right stuff. Sure, a lot of stuff happened that made you feel bad too but we aren’t focusing on that. Lets assume you follow the directions I gave above and you yielded a positive response to the deep memory you chose. However, if you are super calm and you just focus on having fun the date has a good chance of  going well.
If there are a lot of awkward silences then don’t be afraid to get in there and fill them.
If he didn’t want to be with me and wants to play around he had his opportunity why not just let me think he cheated and not spend hours convincing me he didn’t?
This puts me in a very interesting position since I hear all the little details behind the mans reasoning for re-entering the relationship. Of course, when that time is over you go home and probably text him again or talk to him on the phone. I am in a very unique position in that I have seen a lot of relationships succeed and fail. When we last spoke it felt like a forever goodbye and he told me he might be losing the best thing that could have possibly changed his life positively but he needed to do this because he loves her and their child. I made all the common mistakes that could have been made – constant texting, showing up, calling! As unfortunate as that may be I think it is important to remember that no matter how you are feeling right now there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Of course, if there is still a doubt, a hungering that maybe you and your ex could work out in the end I recommend you read this site, post to post. Maybe it is because I run a site where I get questions all day long about how to get an ex boyfriend back. You are going to be faced with two choices very soon and what you choose to do is going to be essential in your recovery process from your ex. You are at another fork in the road (yes, I pulled out the analogy again.) You can let the breakup beat you OR you can beat it. Instead, we are looking at how drunk dialing can affect your progress in getting over your ex and let me tell you, it is not a roadblock that you should have to go around.
You are telling me that for the next 8 years after that relationship ended the girl wouldn’t date anyone?
I wish I had a chart that I could give you to tell you exactly how long it will take to get over your ex but I don’t.
There is only one time where I think it is ok to feel sorry for yourself and that is literally the day after the breakup.
There are going to be days where you just want to curl up in a ball on your bed and just tell everyone and everything to leave you alone. Now, most guys probably wouldn’t admit that to you but I want you to realize that everyone in this world is carrying fears around with them. I was unaware of what was happening until my friend told me he changed his relationship status on Facebook to being in a relationship with another girl. She said that she didn’t miss their relationship because it was shitty but she missed her personality, but not as a friend. This was my first relationship and I was devastated that she gave me no notice of ending the relationship.
Anyways we had a great relationship, hardly ever fought, was really sweet to each other all tge time but after having on and off ideas about taking a break he didnt break up with me but he treated me like we were already broken up (no kissing, staying out late or not coming back home at all, not saying he loved me, no lable, strictly sex) so i told him going back home was the best thing for me and i asked him what he thought and he agreed. I have been thinking a lot lately and have noticed one area where this site really lacks is when it comes to phone calls.
The decision that I made to watch a TV show on my iPad is done with the end goal in mind, making me have a positive feeling. Your goal with every interaction you have with your ex boyfriend is to leave him wanting more. Doing this will give him a mental visual of the memory and hopefully bring up those good feelings from within. All I am saying is that you have to do a good job with the text messages in the section above for this to work. Add in the fact that I don’t like drama or confrontation and you have me sitting through one of the most boring dates of my life.
Anyways, while they were making fun of the monkey one of them had the genius idea to give his gun up to the monkey.
However, during our last fight, he blocked me from all of his social media pages and changed his phone number.
You are trying to convince this person to come back into your life, to make their life a part of yours at the most highly emotional time. You can re-approach the situation at a time when you have a much higher likelihood of getting through to that person. Sometimes I find that walking away from a situation is the best thing you can do, especially when you’re angry. Never answer an emailed and after my apology 2 days later he sent me an email saying he didnt want to keep a relation with a person that things is time waisted and that he had realised that I was right. On the fourth day I called him and my number had been blocked naturally I called him about ten times and left countless messages and then later apologized.
Anyway, the first thing out of his mouth was how he wanted me to continue my story from yesterday, he was curious about what I had to say! It gives both of you a “cool off period” to calm down from the breakup, it gives you the opportunity to improve yourself during the “cool off period” and it raises the chances that he will miss you.
Her active social life made me realize what I was missing out on and made me a little jealous and angry that she wasn’t as devastated. Of course, if you are going to use jealousy on your ex boyfriend it has to be done a specific way. I am not going to lie to you, sending a text message is a huge risk, if done incorrectly you will decimate any chance you have of that happy reunion you keep daydreaming about. Right after a break up everyone involved is out of whack emotionally and are prone to do some really stupid things.
In fact, you have to slowly lead up to the moment where he or you will hopefully go out on a date again.
I always like to say that you should make your first contact text so interesting that they have no choice but to respond. Now, while it is important that you get him to think positively about you it is also extremely important that you remain as positive as well.
I remember once that one of my married friends told me something very interesting about the male psyche.
There is a lot more to this process and quite frankly this page doesn’t do a great job of describing exactly what you do step by step.
I still love him i’ve been chasing him for over 2years right now and sometimes our chats go okay and sometimes it turns into a fight.
However, as time went on I found that people wanted more and more of these step by step guides.
Now, maybe when you were planning the breakup of your relationship in your head you thought it would be a good idea. It is only until he goes out into the world and experiences the horror that is other women (who are not you) that he will finally realize what a mistake he made.
It isn’t impossible that a long lasting relationship can become boring and sometimes if a guy feels like this he may want something new.
Look, I totally have your back when it comes to getting him back or making him regret letting you go.
You see, more often than not these type of women really want to feel loved by a man but their whole life doesn’t revolve around that principle. The point of this is to put you in a position where you have an opportunity to reignite a connection and the best way to do that is to show your ex that your world doesn’t revolve around him. For example, if I were to be invited to a party and meet a very pretty girl I am sure that I would like her within minutes. However, somewhere along the way it changed and he started getting annoyed with all the attention he was getting.
While the texting between the two of us commences we are going to have a long conversation.
So, when he sees that the opposite is happening, you ignoring him, he begins to get antsy and may even want you to message him a little bit. I miss him so much I get sick to my stomach and cry myself to sleep I really don’t know what to do.
I would always mention how things were different and he apologized and said he would work on it better.
T was cousins with a guy I had an one night stand with so I thought it would be weird is I had a relationship with T and I didn’t try anything. The first 1 month, there was no contact between us but he felt that I want him back from my posts on facebook and told my friends that he doesnt want me back. Well, when I did I was greeted with two opposing definitions and it gave me an idea which I will explain a little bit later. If your ex asks you one question that catches you off guard and you say something wrong you could screw up your chances entirely.
I have taken him to the airport picked him up, slept with him once over the last month (very early on when i thought we were just in a fight and things were going to go back to normal).
Why after I acted like an absolutely mental case when thinking he did this not cut me off completely? We continued to date exclusively, but in my mind I felt him pulling away and becoming more and more distant. The day after valentines day we had an argument because he told me he knew he really liked me but didnt know if he could love me.
But I also know if he wants to come back to me he will really really have to redeem himself because I know I will not settle for any less.
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It is true that I probably see women at their most emotional peak where some have no control over what they are doing or thinking, they are simply acting on impulse. The truth of the matter is that your overall success rate would drastically increase if you just got out of your own way.
I was really confused and upset because she said she was still in love with me and I made her way happier than anyone else ever did. I don’t want the blocking to give him any indication that I still care( even tho I do and am devastated).
Although we had great meaningless sex after that -_- We both cried and he told me it was really difficult for him but he must happen he still wants to be friends. Instead, you will just be reinforcing the emotional mindset that you probably already have.
Seriously, if you have never seen this guy interviewed before stop what you are doing and go watch him.
Speaking personally, when someone makes me so angry, I seem to say things that I don’t mean.
This is for the people listening who are trying to get their ex-boyfriend back and they know for a fact that he’s angry. The two ways you can get this angry baby to stop crying and yelling are to leave it alone and let enough time go by or give the cookie back.
After enough rapport has been built and you’ve primed him enough to react positively to your apology. I have heard plenty of stories where women, in the heat of the moment, texted their exes multiple times, even after getting no response. So, if you are intrigued by this method but very confused I urge you to visit get my guide, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.
I was attatched to him and that was my fault i dont talk to him only if he starts talking to me because i dont want to scare him off. Maybe you thought that you would spend all of your time with your best friends hopping from bar to bar meeting new girl after new girl.
It is a period of complete silence where you don’t talk or respond to your ex in any way shape or form.
Now, that doesn’t mean I am going to date her because I am smart enough to know that there is more to a relationship than just sheer looks.
Eventually I said we needed a break to breathe and figure things out which he disagreed and said we could work it out. But all of a sudden, one day he called to tell me he slept with someone and hence not sure of his feelings towards me. He keeps posting on social media hinting that he misses what we had but I am not sure if he is really sincere. When I knew I stopped my posts on facebook and deleted our pictures and deleted his number from my whatsapp so I show him that I dont care. While some of us like to communicate the vast majority don’t like to vent about their feelings.
It should be driving him nuts as he goes to bed and as he wakes it up it should be on his mind. She just cuddled up to me and it felt great to have another human being consciously just want to be there to cuddle with me.
I want both of you to get your teeth into the conversation and kind of get a feel for each other.
How YOU choose to go about every fork in the road will define where you end up romantically in the future. After all of this I found out while we were in the talking stage she just broke up with her ex girlfriend. I am also an over analyser and perfectionist; traits that have not helped e relationship at all. I really don’t know why I did that, but I became difficult and said some mean things to him. This happened one other time, it was funny because this is such a turn around from three months ago!
Handle every single text and interaction you have with your ex with as much grace as possible. It may take you a while to read through the entire thing but it will break every step of the ex recovery process down for you, in-depth. So, every interaction I have with her after the initial meeting is going to shape my perception of her.
I did this for 3 weeks after that he called me because he knew that my father is in hospital so I sounded cool. On the 1st of this month I texted him asking for a favor, and when he failed to reply in what I thought was a reasonable amount of time, I blew up his phone.
When we had to conversation he said that I was different from the past girls he had been with. If he really felt I was the best thing that has happened to him since sliced bread then he would not have gone back to her. With that being said, the two categories I chose for this page I think should cover about 90% of the situations you have found yourself in.
Since you are reading this website you are probably feeling the emotional fallout from your most recent breakup. My friend says that he is constantly complaining about nearly everything in his life, which is odd to me since people are generally really happy right away in a new relationship. We have decided to be best friends and she’s still messaging me constantly and replying quickly, and wants to come to see me in my prom dress and take pictures with me before I go, and go to a festival we planned to camp at together. I had no friends in Virgnia, no job, and was unable to do a lot of the things i previously loved while i recovered. Every time I check my phone for a text message from my best friend I am still thinking of you. If you’re sincere in how you’re talking to him and you don’t want to win him back, you’re just having a sincere conversation with him, things will go better with him. He told me that i was the one not respecting him and he had never even thought about waiting time with me. Anyways, this girl had a very pretty face but I am not afraid to say that she was a little… chubby and for me it took away from her looks. Since you are on my site I am assuming that you are interested in somehow trying to get your boyfriend back. It will also go into extreme detail about how you can use text messages to get your ex boyfriend back. He added me on Facebook and we talked there a few times, we met again without arraging it though and we teased each other. I ended it as I have been in an abusive relationship before and could see us heading that way. I know getting back together will need some time for the both of us to realized what we made our mistakes on. We had a really great relationship, rarely fought, but towards the end I became emotionally withdrawn and kept pushing him further away, meanwhile he did the best he could to be patient with me.
He did say he wasn’t opposed to being friends again, but that both of us need a little space before that happens. I asked him multiple times if he thought I was wasting my time and that our relationship would just end over nothing. He responded saying I really really hope it works out with her and it terrifies me the day I have to come clean to her about you. After sometime as i was about to leave he asked my number and from that day we started to text each other.
Besides, now is the time to focus on YOU getting to a better place in your life and you can’t do that by constantly worrying about him. He had told me that he doesn’t wanna be with him and that I should just go find someone else for me to get over him.
I was very independent before, while he was the one who was struggling to become a well adjusted person.
Let’s see what we can do about giving you more stability today and hopefully getting back on speaking terms with your ex-boyfriend.
You will increase your chances of building the right rapport that you need, not just to apologize to him, but to get back on speaking terms and potentially win a date that can lead to a reconnection.
You’ll increase your chances of getting a date 10 times more if you build the right rapport. I am in the first week of the NCR and I’ve realized a lot of things because I am really using this time to better myself mentally and physically. He was initially apologetic, but I kept pushing (again I really don’t know why I did that).
No matter how hard it is or how much you want to talk to him DO NOT DO IT, even if he responds you have to ignore it. So, maybe the next day I decide to send you a text to say hello hoping to have another amazing deep and insightful conversation.
I have been single for a very long time and have had my fair share of flings and people I sort of liked. They are doing couples counselling and trying to figure things out but cut me out because he cannot do this with all honesty if I am still involved. His profile picture on social media is just a picture of himself whereas his girlfriend’s is of the two of them. Today she told me that I should move on because there is no chance of us ever being together. The problem is he doesn’t wanna move out, and I feel bad that he has no where to go and he also have the right in the house cuz we got it together. I’m ready to talk to him about how we ended things and let him know where I was coming from with that. It’s to build attraction and reignite the feelings that will cause your ex to come back to you. But suddenly he snapped and sent me a long nasty text saying he’s trying hard to slot me in his busy schedule.
And so we talked on the phone, got everything out and he genuinely seemed like we would be together again.
Skip forward to beginning of February (almost 9 months) we went on a vacation together in January which was good, but my attitude had been getting worse because I just couldn’t seem to get him to open up to me and talk about things that were bugging me. After we broke up I immediately did no contact for 30 days, during that time his relationship status still showed he was still in a relationship with me for that first month, however when he deleted it, I panicked so I texted him and drove to his house and ended up talking for a bit, but we also ended up having sex. The day I realized I had feelings and strong feelings for this guy I felt like the earth shifting from underneath me. That gives me an interesting perspective on breakups and allows me to see things that you wouldn’t think of. What is odd to me is that pretty much ever since he started the new relationship, I have caught him staring at me multiple times. Suddenly prom tickets were going to be on sale and he said he didn’t know if he wanted to go with me because everything was confusing right now. The next day, he seemed a bit distant with me thru text, when I asked him about it he said he wasn’t trying to be cold, but he just didn’t know what he wanted and that he wasn’t sure where he was at, but he said he didn’t regret the night before and that he still loves me and thinks of me. The past week was my birthday and for my birthday he decided we could drive three hours back to my hometown to go to dinner. I have never pictured introducing a guy to my family or wanting to have his children someday.
I am stubborn and my pride is hurt so I know I will NEVER call him even though I constantly want to.
And within some days i started feeling that this is the guy i want to be with my whole life. Pretty much every time we are in the same vicinity, he will stare at me for much longer than what would be considered a glance. He told me I should go with my friends because he thinks I would have a better time with them and he said he wasn’t sure if he was going to go but if he did he would ask another girl.
I stopped texting him, but then a few days later he texted me again and I ended up rushing over to his house and had sex with him again. I have younger baby siblings and I wanted to visit them because they were going to visit me in my college town if I didnt come home. Prior to this brave face … I begged for 8 hours on and off for him to come see me and to pick me and referred to her as a cunt who is only using him and has trapped him into staying. I know he will not call me but everyday I check my phone a million times to see if he has called.
This is another reason why I think he is unhappy in the new relationship, because if he was extremely satisfied it seems like he wouldn’t stare at me all the time. He didn’t seem as bad as the first time, in fact he initiated a text the next day and we exchanged a few texts, but then he went silent on me again. The next day I sent him a text, apologizing for my behavior, apologizing for being pushy, and I went on to AGREE with the breakup, telling him I realized that he and I wanted different things. When he and I were dating, he and my sister never talked at all, but ever since our second attempt at a relationship ended, he talks to my sister whenever they see each other in person, and he has even texted her just to talk for no reason at all.
He said nothing about it besides why I didn’t tell him earlier and a few days later we were at a bar each one on his own and he texted me to say he liked me too but he was scared of the distance (because I was leaving) because he just got out of a long distance relationship at the start of the summer. A few days later, I saw his truck at a restaurant, we didn’t see each other though, but I did text him drunk that night to tell him I saw him and that I wished him the best and was happy for him.
What makes no sense is the fact that only a month ago, he renewed his 2 year phone contract and bought a brand new nice smart phone. That was the first time he met my family, he seemed quite sketched out about it the any time I would bring it up. He was shocked at my behaviour because I am always positive, level headed and understanding.
I am saying this because I knew what a messy situation i was getting myself into and I chose to take the risk because he really really was worth it. It kills me how easy it was for him to erase me from his life and act like everything we had never happened and so easily cut me out and forget me as if he never really cared in the first place.
I got so upset because I would be there with my friends while he would be with his date and it made me so mad. Why on earth would he abandon his shiny new phone for a flip phone and drop off of social media for a month? I asked him if he didnt want to meet them and that that was ok but he agreed to going anyways. My sister said that they have never talked about me, but my best guess as to why he even texts my sister is to either make me jealous or to keep tabs on me. Getting through nc has good and bad days but I want him back when the 30 days is up and I’ve grown mentally, physically, and emotionally and know I am happy on my own.
A senior boy then asked me to prom and i said yes because one it would make him jealous and two I would have sometime to take nice pics with and just have a good time with a friend. That was the last time I talked to him, it’s been about 2 weeks since, I’m doing no contact again for 30 days, although he called me a few days ago, the phone only rang once and he hung up, I didn’t react or text him though, I wasn’t planning on talking to him.
My friends tell me that I created so much damage that night at the bar with him that I should never text him again, but if I do I need to wait several MONTHS.
My friend suggested that possibly it was too much seeing me on social media, and he needed a break.
For these various reasons, I suspect that he at least misses me and at the extreme, wishes we were together. When my ex found out about the senior he deleted all our pictures except for one from prom last year and unfollowed me on Instagram and Twitter.
I am working on myself right now, learning why I became so needy & pushy and how to correct that. But after completing six months i felt the spark which took place on the first stage was fading away.
It literally broke me because I feel like there is no way of getting back together because he unfollowed me. I have faith that if we can get back together I can focus on building our relationship again, but I’m not sure if he would take me back as I hurt him a lot.
I texted him the other day (it’s been like 3 weeks since the breakup) just to ask how baseball was going and he responded within 30 seconds and sent long paragraphs about it and asked me how track was going. How long should I do No Contact and are my friends right that I should do NC for several months? The convo lasted 30 minutes and I told him I had to go to bed and I’d see him the next day. I got back for Christmas and a friend that was his friend too told him he was about to make a move. I know he’s always loved Japanese culture, and has always wanted to visit, but it just totally came out of the blue.
The night before the same situation happen, he was being quite and I got mad got up and left in the middle of the night.
And I’ve been going out more than usual with my friends and having a great time with them but I have moments where I just get sad and miss him so much. We texted all day long and we met once outside his house for a quick kiss because he just came from work.
When he said I had crossed a line I couldn’t come back from, does that most likely mean that my fate is sealed and he will never even speak to me again?
His best friends and family confirmed this, and I just have ways of knowing, so I’m positive that has nothing to do with it. Finally that third day roles around and I stop by his house to apologize for abruptly moving my things from his house. I told him to come with me and my friends for coffee but he was already out so we said to meet up later. Whatever that means he said that we were fine but that he thought history was going to repeat itself. He didn’t answer the next day when I called him to meet up and discuss this so I went to find him. He said we had nothing in common, that our interactions were weird, and that I was more invested than he was. I asked him to tell me why he did this and he said I didn’t deserve to know because I spoke to him badly. When I asked him why he did kiss me if he wasn’t sure about it he said that he wanted to be sure and now he is. My ex said he didnt want a relationship to be like that and I asked him how it should be and he couldnt tell me.
Not to mention I signed a lease to live with his roommates girlfriend for the whole next year because my ex thought it was a good idea. After one more time I accidently saw him we didn’t see each other or talked to each other for about a month and a half. I just want to understand if he broke up with me to protect himself since it was unfamiliar territory or what?
I think him meeting my family triggered something that made him think history was going to repeat itself, or that we had nothing in common. About two weeks ago I went to the hospital and when he learned about it from a common friend he showed he cared about me for the first time, not to me though, to our friend. Now I’m in my home town for the holidays and I walked by his shop a couple of days ago with some friends.
We stopped a little further to take something to eat and we saw him crossinf the street twice looking our way. Later I found out from my best friend that happens to be sisters with his best friend that her sister asked her a lot all that time when I was going to go to my home town and that means he asked.
Even though I am still in love with him I don’t want him back right now but eventually I will, I just want him to realise he did wrong and what he lost and come back begging.
My bff told me to be friendly but not to much, distant but not mean and not to show my feelings to him. She says that when I meet him I should said hi and even talk to him a little, just the basics.




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