However, if I have learned anything from my tenure here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery it is that what people say and what people do can sometimes be completely different things. Through this page I am going to show you exactly what you need to do in order to leave your ex with feelings of regret. I know that what everyone on this site really wants is a step by step plan tailor made to help them get their ex boyfriends back. One of the biggest concerns from visitors to Ex Boyfriend Recovery has to be if their ex boyfriend would even consider a reconciliation. Of course, what you say in public, or on the internet and what you know to be true can be completely different. So, when I started reading all of these forum comments of guys saying that they didn’t ever regret letting their exes go I got curious to see just how many of them were searching the internet for advice on how to get their girlfriends back. In the example I gave a few sections above I literally proved that there are actually more men regretting letting go of their exes than women. It all seemed so fun in your head yet after your breakup things aren’t going exactly how you thought they would go. The Quick Way- Essentially regret will kick in 1-4 weeks after the breakup of a relationship. Well, when you date someone for close to a year you get used to talking with them every single day. I want you to imagine that in every relationship you get into with a man you are going to be given a number between 1 and 10.
The only problem with that is the fact that sometimes men don’t realize how good they had it with you. Now, I want you to imagine that he dated another girl and she doesn’t compare to the standard you set. Right now the goal you are shooting for is to become someone that your ex would regret letting go. It shouldn’t come as a shock that men are attracted to beautiful and intelligent women. If I were to take these two women and line them up against a wall and ask random men to meet each one of them separately something tells me that most of the men would choose the intelligent woman over the non intelligent woman for a long term relationship. Throughout my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO you constantly hear me talking about the Ungettable Girl. Because if a girl is like this then that means she isn’t going to be overly available to a man. So, the first big thing I think you need to realize is to STOP making everything in your life about your ex boyfriend. Every woman who I have advised to master the art of moving on to create an opportunity to get their ex back has been given an opportunity to get him back.
Now that you have the basic principles down one pressing question remains, when do you put all this moving on to get an opportunity into effect? If you have never heard of the no contact rule then I am just going to let you know that it is an ESSENTIAL part of making an ex regret leaving.
The no contact rule is a widely accepted philosophy that after a breakup you should enter into a period of no contact with your ex. However, if you have some weird circumstance where it’s not possible for you to complete the 30 day period then just run it by me in the comments section of this page and I will get back to you within a day and give you some help on what to do.
I can tell you that as smart and clever as I am when it comes to dealing with people it drives me up the wall when I know for a fact that someone is ignoring me. When I started this section I talked about how the no contact rule can work on two fronts to incite regret. Getting an ex boyfriend back is hard work and most of the women who fail on here fail because they are lazy. Look, you can’t expect to just do the no contact rule and wake up one day to have him at your doorstep. In other words, you need to use that time of solitude to become someone that he will regret. Remember, life starts at the end of your comfort zone so it is time to step outside the comfort zone and make yourself into the best version of you that has ever existed. So far, this whole guide has been about one thing, making an ex boyfriend regret his decision to leave your relationship. Many of you probably think I am going to give this huge monologue on power and how you must always have the upper hand but I promise that this isn’t a mistake because of not having the power. Now, I know the two of you are broken up right now but if you think back to your relationship were you constantly talking his ear off?
Now, lets fast forward to the present where you are bombarding him with text messages and calls. With every text or call bombardment by you, you are further cementing his position that he is glad that the two of you don’t date anymore.
However, every time you break no contact to selfishly feel better just to talk to him you could be damaging your chances at making him truly regret letting you go. While it has opened up my life in many different ways it has also forced me to dissect every little thing that happens in my personal life.
But for me it is literally like torture because I know whats happening while its happening and I can’t do anything about it. Because you waited so long to respond I was constantly checking my phone for your response. Can you imagine what would happen if you got a guy used to a certain schedule when it comes to texting you and all of a sudden you interrupted that schedule? The second a guy feels that he has something to lose (which would be you in this case) is the second he realizes just how much he cares for that something or someone ;).
I guess the ultimate trend is that you have to have moments where you are very available to a guy and then suddenly become unavailable and then swing back to available and then back to unavailable and so on and so forth. I guess the question on the table right now is how do you implement this trend to re-attract your ex boyfriend? I would like you to take a moment and revisit the section I wrote about on the no contact rule and how it can help you.
You want this to happen because if he gets antsy about you contacting him it means he wants it to happen deep down. Remember, the point of this is to spread your interactions out so you leave him wanting more. One of the biggest mistakes I see women make after the no contact rule is going from zero to sixty way too fast. Yes, the ultimate goal we are trying to achieve here is to put you in a position where you and your ex can chat all day long without a hiccup. So, the smartest way is to slowly work your way to a point where you can talk for a long period of time throughout the day. I am a guy so I can tell you that most men daydream and usually when we really daydream about a girl we like it can be a powerful way of igniting our true feelings for that girl. One of the most powerful ways you can re-ignite your exes feelings for you is through the power of daydreams. In other words, you are going to cast your daydream bait out there and hope he bites the line and starts daydreaming about a future with you and him in it. The daydream that someone would want their ex boyfriend to daydream about if they were to use this particular text should be a romantic getaway in Hawaii. If you don’t leave your ex boyfriend wanting more during an interaction with him (texting, calling or in person) then that interaction should be viewed as a failure. Well, the idea is to really get them hooked into what you are saying and then all of a sudden end the conversation…. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. So after a year of dating, my boyfriend and I slowly started getting distant because baseball started for him and track and work took up a majority of my schedule. Last Sunday, No Contact finished, so I decided to send an interesting text… no response.
So the next day, I send a heartfelt message saying how I apologize again for how things went down and that I wanted to start over and sent hopeful wishes that his semester is going well. So later on that day or the next day (I forget), I respond say I’m doing well and ask how his work has been.
So then I skip a day because it was the third day and respond the next day (Friday, saying how I really like the album and I ask how he’s been), no response.
My boyfriend of six months dumped me a few days ago because he didn’t fall in love with me, but he said he loves me and cares about me. Before you entered into a relationship with your ex boyfriend you knew that deep down being clingy and needy was probably going to be a turn off to him but as you developed a deeper connection with him you couldn’t help yourself. Now, I am not insinuating that you approached anything close to this when you broke up with your ex boyfriend I am just saying that I know what it’s like to be in love and I know that sometimes it can make you do some clingy or needy things.
In this guide I am going to be talking about how you can recover from these clingy or needy things that occurred in your relationship with your ex.
I bet you weren’t expecting me to say that being clingy can have a positive aspect to it, huh?
As it turns out there is a way in which being clingy and needy can be an attractive thing to men. So, if you have ever wondered what kinds of things a stage 5 clinger does to turn off a man then the section entitled, The Negatives Of Being Clingy, is going to be especially interesting to you. Whenever you do research on women who are clingy or overly needy you often hear experts scolding them for that type of behavior. To me if a girl gets a little clingy it means she really has strong feelings for me and I like that. Whenever a girl exhibits clingy behavior like jealousy, constantly wanting to be around me and texting me a lot I kind of like it. I want to tell you about what a girl can do to all of a sudden make those cute little clingy behaviors into overly clingy to the point where it becomes a turn off. One thing we have already established about me and most other men is that we like needy behavior but only to a certain extent. Lets pretend that you and I are dating and at the beginning of the relationship you would exhibit the three clingy behaviors I mentioned above. Of course, as time went on I began to notice a gradual change in the intensity of these behaviors.
For example, any time you would get jealous you would get jealous to the point where you would start a huge argument and you wouldn’t trust me about anything.
You also became so clingy to the point where any time I would go into a room you would have to follow me in there. Of course, as our relationship grew deeper the texting ratio changed completely to a 3:1 ratio.
You see, when most women search the internet for advice on clingy behavior most experts list out all the needy behaviors that you need to avoid but almost none of them do a good job of explaining WHY you need to avoid them. Imagine for a moment that you are walking down the street and all of a sudden you hear this buzzing around your head. It is entirely possible that this is how your ex boyfriend viewed you in your relationship if you were too overbearing with how you texted him. One of the best ways to determine if you were a text gnat or not is to look at your last 100 text messages between you and your ex.
If for example, the texting ratio ends up being something like 70:30 where you have sent him 70 text messages and he has only responded to 30 of those text messages then that probably means you are venturing into text gnat territory where you are becoming kind of overbearing. Someone who is a text gnat screams desperation and no guy wants a serious relationship with a woman who is desperate. In fact, I remember a long time ago there was one girl who had such a crush on me that she would text gnat the heck out of me.
She kept texting me to the point where it really started annoying me and I eventually had to say something to her. Because she seemed totally desperate and if I am going to be attracted to anyone it was going to be a woman who is smart, independent and NOT desperate.
Now, a normal girlfriend should be excited about the prospect of going to a party with her boyfriend. Instead of being excited about the party you get angry at me for texting another girl and accuse me of cheating.
You become so threatened by Tina that you forbid me to ever text another girl for the rest of my life.
In my opinion, extreme jealousy has a direct correlation to a woman trying to control a man and nothing annoys a man more than a woman who tries to control him.
I have only heard of one example of shadowing in my personal life but I have heard of multiple examples through this site which is why I know it exists. Shadowing- Becoming so dependent on another human being that you have to be around them all the time.
If you are still a little confused when it comes to this concept don’t feel bad, it is a little complicated to grasp.
When I was in high school a very long time ago I knew a guy that would get angry at his girlfriend for the dumbest things. When I heard this I was baffled at why he would have to accompany her if she simply wanted to leave the room. What we have here is a case of someone who is so insecure that he wouldn’t even let his girlfriend leave the room without him.
Some of the more common forms of shadowing I have seen is the classic invasion of alone time.
Look, sometimes men need their alone time where you aren’t constantly badgering them with questions or the latest drama that went on at work. Think about it, if your ex wanted to have a guys night out with his friends but you insisted on tagging along you were harassing him with unwanted attention which is technically the same behavior a stalker engages in.
If you were so insecure that you couldn’t even let him have an hour on his own to recharge his batteries then you are technically defined as a talker. That means that every day whenever I read your comments on this site I can kind of get bummed out because, to me, it sometimes feels as if all I see are failed relationships.
In other words, I am basically saying that the only time I would hang around other girls is if my girlfriend (you in this imaginary case) was there. So, lets pretend that you are really insecure about other girls around me, even though I have proven to you multiple times that I am the most trustworthy man on the planet. In fact, you have become so insecure about other women that you constantly try to control me and basically order me to never talk to any of them ever again.
In fact, most of the time by you controlling a man you push him to do the behavior you don’t want him to in the first place.
Now that you have a pretty good idea of what clingy behavior is and why it annoys men lets take a look at what you are going to have to do in order to overcome that clingy behavior to have a chance at getting your ex boyfriend back. Now, before I get started on explaining what I mean by these four pillars I feel it is very important to discuss the point of what we are trying to accomplish here. The point of this section is to show you what you have to do in order to achieve that goal. If the main goal that we are trying to accomplish here is overcoming your exes impression of you then it is probably a really good idea to figure out what that impression is. For example, if you and I dated each other and I was constantly telling you how I hated the fact that you were always trying to control me then you would know that the clingy behavior that you would really have to work on is to NOT be controlling.
In other words, what we are trying to do here is to figure out what behaviors you exhibited that needs to change for you to even have a shot of getting him back. While I never actually was in a relationship with this person (I never even went a date with her actually) she exhibited some super clingy behavior from the get go that made me immediately want to not talk to her. Any time I wouldn’t respond to a text message she would send she would grow frustrated and berate me with insults.
I immediately classified her behavior as clingy and controlling and I did not want a presence like that in my life. They call, text or skype their ex so much that it can sometimes go beyond regular clingyness.
If you need a refresher on how creepy this can be take a look at the very first picture I posted on this page of the woman who called her ex 77,000 times after her breakup with him. A year or two ago one of my friends told me something really interesting about relationships. By being clingy and needy with phone calls or texts you are playing right into what they already believe is going to happen. If I am being completely honest with you it annoys me when I see women begging for their exes back because to me that means they don’t know their own value.
So, rather than playing right into what he already believes is going to happen after a breakup (you getting all clingy with phone calls) I would recommend that you do the exact opposite of that. By doing a no contact rule for either 21 or 30 days (depending on the situation) you are going to accomplish two things.
If you guessed the girl who tries to get her boyfriend back when he is not that angry then you guessed right.
I am going to be talking about this a lot more in-depth in the next section but for now I can give you a little teaser of whats to come. While you are using the no contact rule to give your ex time to cool down you can also be using it as a way to get rid of your clingy habits and reshape your image so that your ex no longer views you as clingy. Self improvement is key if you don’t want to be looked at as clingy or needy anymore.
It’s funny, I was scrolling through Facebook the other day and noticed one of those overused motivational quotes that always seem to get shared. However, when you sit down and really peel back the layers you will find that, that quote has a flaw.
Well, I take offense to that because I personally believe that self improvement should be something every human being should strive for. Now, I am not saying you should compromise your morals or do something your not comfortable with but I think it is completely ok to want to be a better version of yourself. Since this is a page dedicated to eliminating neediness lets focus on how you can improve yourself if your neediness is tied directly to your own insecurities.
For example, we often get overly jealous because we are afraid our significant other might cheat on us. I mean, you can try to turn your feelings off as much as possible but in the end we are all human beings and not robots.
So, what I would like to teach you is the method I try to employ when dealing with my own personal insecurities.
I would have to say that without a doubt the biggest insecurity I have when it comes to relationships would be the fear of being cheated on. The very next day I found out that she started dating another guy, someone who she had been pursuing since I started pursuing her. While she didn’t cheat on me it was my first experience with deception and I did not like how it felt.
As I gained more experience in dealing with the opposite sex I learned more and more about how women could sometimes use deception to get away with things. Unfortunately, this site doesn’t help that insecurity at all when I come face to face with infidelity on a daily basis. However, I figured out an excellent way to deal with this insecurity so it doesn’t make me exhibit clingy behavior. You see, the fear of infidelity can sometimes cause you to get jealous over unnecessary things. Whats even better is that I am using my insecurity to force me to set that type of high standard.
You see, as long as I keep that standard so far out of reach for other men I have nothing to worry about because my significant other would literally have to be an idiot to stray. However, as you fell deeper into the relationship you slowly but surely started losing your hobbies. Thought 1- It’s sweet that you can fall so deeply in love with someone that their passions become yours.
Thought 2- It’s dangerous to fall so deeply in love that you lose yourself in that person. Lately, I’ve had a lot of women coming to me and asking if they can use Facebook in any way to get back with their exes.
According to a recent study conducted by a Western University student completing her Master’s thesis nearly 9 out of 10 Facebook users keep an eye on their exes profiles. I wanted to create a page on how you could best optimize your Facebook profile to give yourself the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back. Speaking of getting your boyfriend back, I would like to clear up some confusion about this page.
In this section I am going to talk about some of the things you can do to improve the chances of your ex stopping by your profile. Do not contact him via Facebook- Not only could this be viewed as desperate but as you are about to find out, actually not contacting your ex is a smarter strategy. Implement A No Contact Rule- I actually recommend doing this in almost every situation to get your ex back. So, I want to take a moment now and discuss how important the no contact rule can be to your Facebook efforts. By essentially ignoring your ex boyfriends texts, you have forced him to come over to Facebook and check your profile out. The key point I am trying to make here is that your Facebook profile is a reflection of you. I am going to be completely honest with you, using Facebook to get your ex back isn’t ideal. Here is the deal, if I find the girls I chose to be attractive then you can bet your ex boyfriends would be as well. I ended up choosing 20 women, I will not be giving you their names though so don’t go fishing around here because you will be disappointed. I am not kidding when I say that, the mock story I told above (shout out to Rick ?? ) is exactly how 99% of men operate. Why would you even give an ex the satisfaction of knowing that his actions are hurting you?
And since I am the voice of the average male, I think it is safe to say that your ex boyfriends would also find these women and their active social lives attractive as well. Now, it is probably important to point out that there is a right way to display your social life and there is a wrong way to.
Photos where you are out on a boat with a group of people and showing off your hot body in a bikini ;). I hope by now I have convinced you that the chances are very high that your ex boyfriend will be visiting your profile at some point in the future. There is nothing really more I can do to try and prove I’m doing well without him is there?
Life is too short to spend SO MUCH TIME on the Internet (FB and other social media debacles) when most people have lost touch with the world and reality.
30 months to the day after I initiated no contact (with someone I never thought would have the balls to contact me after he ghosted on me) he did. I took the advice of the moderators and the website and just ignored him liking my fb posts about my personal achievements over the last month (it was difficult and infuriating ) . I haven’t responded to him contacting me because the one thing no contact has given me is distance and clarity . When I do respond I’m just going to act like nothing happened and be nice and short .
Hey Chris, I made a mistake of messaging him a few days and then it ended up turning into a call, at first it seemed like nothing happened and that we were still dating, then he got angry when I asked if he was feeling better (happy) then he said i got to call you later. It depends, adding him and then doing nothing can just leave him thinking or maybe he’ll just shrug it off or message you after that. Seriously though, if you see any book, product or article that guarantees that it can get you your ex back 100% of the time you should stop and realize that you are probably about to look at something that was made up just to get you to buy it or read it.
Don’t worry though, I saw this problem and spent two months creating that step by step plan people were clamoring for.
You are going to discover that this page is really long, in-depth but more importantly, it is going to help you to not only get your boyfriend back but to rediscover yourself in the process. I thought the best way to go about the rest of this page would be to take an in-depth look at each step of the ex recovery process starting with your break up and what to do immediately after it. Ok, before we do any soul searching or serious strategizing you are going to have to implement the no contact rule. If you don’t believe in the no contact rule then all I can say to you is that you had better start believing in it. Right after a break up is when you are at your emotional peak and I don’t mean a good emotional peak, I am talking about anger, hate, basically everything that Yoda from Star Wars said to avoid.
Your ex boyfriend is probably going to start wondering why you aren’t talking to him and possibly may even begin to miss you.
Knowing what caused your breakup is important because it can give you an idea of where your relationship went wrong and how you can possibly correct it in the future. However, I would say that the average man will leave a relationship when his is no longer getting what he needs. Another thing that you always hear guys saying is the fact that they are constantly nagged to death by their girlfriends. Nagged To Death = A man looks at this as if his woman no longer is satisfied with what he has to offer or bring to the table. Ouch, I know this one must definitely sting to hear but it is a legitimate REAL reason for why he may have broken up with you.
A lot of times what can happen is an ex can realize what they missed about you once they are settled in with their new person. A huge misconception out there is that because you did the dumping it is a lot easier to get back with your ex. Everyone always thinks they could do better until they go out and realize that the relationship they had before wasn’t so bad. A while back I was dating someone and it always seemed that we would fight over the silliest things. One thing that needs to be made clear is that if you are going to seriously invest the time and effort to get your ex boyfriend back you are going to have to adopt a new mindset. The big goal that you should strive for is to create a relationship with your ex boyfriend that is not only new but better. To a casual observer that may sound really risky but personally I love women with that belief that after they get their boyfriend back they will be with him forever. So, the big take away that I want you to get from this section is that your ultimate goal assuming this process works for you is that you are discarding your old relationship and creating a new one that is stronger. If you can’t already tell I truly do enjoy helping women strategize on how to get their ex boyfriends back. As a general rule it is good to have a legitimate reason for getting back together with your significant other. If you break your no contact period agreement (talking to him in any shape or form before the 30 days are up) then you have to start your 30 day no contact period over. Ok, so those are pretty much the most basic things of the big NO-NO’s of the no contact period. Alright, so the biggest thing I want you to focus on for the no contact period is the fact that you are using this month to become the best version of yourself that you have ever been.
First things first, you are going to become the sexiest version of yourself that the world has ever seen. You can change your hairstyle- I’ll admit, I am not a hairstyle guru but everywhere I researched claimed that this was an excellent tactic to looking good for your man so who am I to argue with the experts. Get in shape- There is no argument that you can make to me to say that this isn’t a good idea. Clean up your diet- Again, this is another great way to feel better about yourself and notice how it is the opposite of sitting around eating ice cream all day. Clean up any skin problems you have- If you have excessive acne or any unwanted moles you can get those taken care of. So, now that you know what changes you need to make physically lets talk about arguably the harder thing to improve, your mental state.
Focus on work- It is good to distract your mind for a while and what better way to do that than with work.
Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal.
Have fun- If your friends invite you out to a party or club I would recommend that you go out and have fun with them.
It shows you are moving on- In a strange way you kind of want your ex to know that you are on a date with someone. It can build up your self confidence- Dating other people helps you feel a little bit more confident. It will help keep your mind off your ex (probably)- When you are busy you have less time to mope around or think about your ex.
It will cure any phobias you may have developed- Women who haven’t been in a relationship for a long time may feel a little worried about meeting someone new.
Studies have shown that 90% of rebound relationships don’t work out in the long run so the odds are probably in your favor. You may notice that a lot of what you are doing during the no contact period is working on bettering yourself. As stated above, I personally prefer texting over any method of contact for a number of reasons.
Actually, in my research I found that a lot of experts recommend calling (after the no contact period.) I have read multiple stories of women who have actually had some success with this method.
I don’t know about you but if I got a letter out of the blue from an ex girlfriend I might be a little creeped out. You should try to create a message that is so interesting it is impossible for your ex boyfriend not to respond.
Since things went positively you can contact them again in a few days and talk for a little bit longer. Alright, assuming you successfully engaged your ex boyfriend and got a decent response you can move on to this section.
First things first, this is not the part where you are going to try to get your ex boyfriend back.
Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were. When you write your text message to him you are going to have to go into details instead of just writing something general.
Alright, lets say that I was trying to get an ex girlfriend back and I had made it this far into the step by step process I am outlining here.
Choice 2: “Do you remember the night where I loaned you my jacket at the football game? Sometimes asking your ex a question can work well to get them to remember a good experience. More often than not if you have gotten this far in your conquest to get them back they are going to respond back positively. Ok, so you sent out your text to remind them of the good ole days where the two of you were as thick as thieves but they haven’t responded yet. If you haven’t heard anything from them yet and it has been past a couple of days then this could mean a couple of things.
Whatever the case is just simply take things down a notch and start a few more harmless text messages where you just make first contact. You have to be really careful because if this is done wrong then your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back drop drastically. Well, now you are going to implement a number of small heart to heart chats in various different ways that are going to change your fortune in a positive way. One of the little things I always love about relationships that are going well is how you are constantly helping each other remember things. This tactic may be a little harder to implement because it can sometimes depend on the situation that your ex is currently in. Your best bet here is to take out a sheet of paper and write down all of the things that you have ever appreciated about your ex so you have an inventory to dive in. Plan your phone call when you know that your ex boyfriend will have a moment to talk privately. I researched a lot on this section and discovered there are two types of very different methods to making this important phone call.
This one is risky and may not get you a yes to a meet up but it allows you the ability to try again later whereas the method below this one pretty much lays your cards on the table. Believe it or not but there are actually a lot of different ways to discover why your ex boyfriend may be ignoring you.
In this article I am going to be helping you understand why your ex boyfriend is ignoring your numerous attempts to reach out and contact him.
If you have read my site then you would know I am a big fan of texting to get an ex boyfriend back. The main problem here is that if you are sending that many messages without any responses it makes you look totally desperate.
I want you to really notice here that in this example the other person is actually engaged in the messaging and that means it is ok to keep messaging them without seeming desperate or needy.
The second really unattractive quality that women can display when texting too much is the fact that there is no chase involved. I hope you read the section above because this one is almost exactly the same except you are dealing with calling instead of texting. I used to think I was alone in this but I soon learned that other guys are exactly like me.
Generally speaking, someone who is calling you a lot (back to back to back.) Has two types of news. Since you are an ex girlfriend of his I am betting that your call is going to be filled with emotion and bad news.
Sadly I have personal experience with a girl calling too much and I can tell you there is nothing more unattractive and annoying. Part of the problem that men have with women calling too much is that they know if they pick up the phone they are going to have to talk to a really emotional human being and while some men will get off on it most of us despise it. Again, the one thing that all of this stuff (texting, calling, letters, emails) have in common is the fact that they are all actions taken out of desperation and que the Jaws music! Unfortunately, I don’t have much personal experience with ex girlfriends writing me too many letters or sending too many emails. In the section above I talked about some of the main reasons that an ex boyfriend would ignore his girlfriend (desperation, neediness that whole thing.) I am not going to lie to you, in 85% of the cases everything I discussed above is the main reason that he would want to ignore you.
When men start ignoring you on purpose it is coming from a place of rage just because they know it will punish you. It is not something I am very proud of and I would handle that situation completely differently now but I wanted to prove to you that deep down all men are capable of something like that so it could be a reason that he is ignoring you. All I can tell you is that it is highly unlikely (but still likely) that your ex is ignoring you for this reason. It might be possible that your ex boyfriend wants nothing to do with you anymore which is why he is ignoring you. Anyways, the real warning sign that you can use to figure out if this is the reason your ex is ignoring you is to think back to your relationship and figure out the ways in which you wronged him. Realistically, the only way I would NOT talk to an ex girlfriend is if she wronged me in a horrible way. I can honestly say that in all my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I have never encountered a situation where an ex boyfriend never talks to an ex girlfriend again. When your ex finally does contact you he can contact you the good way, the bad way or the ugly way (see what I did there ?? .) I am going to take a moment to explore each one. The first step to getting your ex boyfriend to respond to you in a positive manner is to implement the no contact rule.
The first thing I want you to realize is that the general texts that you are used to sending aren’t good enough. Actually, to be honest, I have never talked about this text before so this is the first time I have ever made it live.
Take notice how I included an innocent but pleasant memory from a past relationship in this example.
Now, once he does respond positively you have accomplished your mission and he isn’t ignoring you anymore! In the end of February , he decided to breakup with me saying that he wasnt sure and that he couldnt see any future on our relationship.I did the NC for 2 weeks , after that time, I texted him asking how he was and he replied after a day . I had been in a bumpy long distance relationship for about 3 years and a half, and last December I ask him to decide whether or not he wanted to continue our relationship. I’ve seen him each Thursday at a group event, when everyone leaves him and I have stayed in the parking lot for another 2 hours talking until 930pm. Later i realized that my friends were having fights over my situation, almost all the circle became tense without me knowing what is going on!!! Every single article that has ever been written for this site has centered on an area of the overall ex recovery process.
In fact, not only is it a bit old but I know a lot more about getting exes back than I did in the early stages of last year.
What would happen if I wrote another large guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back that completely updated my philosophy? If you aren’t already aware I would like to tell you that I have written two books on ex boyfriends.
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If you really want to have everything you could ever want when it comes to getting your ex back those are probably the two best resources available right now.
As you learn in my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO getting your ex boyfriend back is not an exact science. Well, something I was shocked to learn was the fact that most women fail to get their exes back because they are undisciplined. If you look at the list above and find that you have done one or more of the things there you may be freaking out.
The first step to weighing your chances is asking yourself if a happy ending is in sight for you and your ex. If things like cheating, emotional abuse, BAD fighting have occurred then your chances of success will not be as high. It has been about a year since I last put my original game plan for getting an ex boyfriend back into writing.
While this new game plan is very similar to the old one found on my very first guide on getting an ex boyfriend back there are a few major differences. In my infinite wisdom ?? I have learned that the best way to get your ex back is to slowly build attraction. However, the mistake that most women make is the fact that they just want the pain they are feeling (the lonliness, depression, etc) to stop as soon as possible and they rush the ex recovery process.
There is a certain way that you need to send a text message after the no contact rule has been completed.
Once you establish a texting conversation with your ex it is your goal to build attraction in that conversation to make him want you.
If you have built enough attraction through texts and phone calls it is only inevitable that you will get a date. The No Contact Rule – This article is basically an introduction into the no contact rule. The Male Mind During No Contact – This one basically talks about everything that is going on inside your exes mind once you perform the no contact rule on him. The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you aren’t allowed to respond to phone calls, texts, facebooks, snap chats, emails or anything else from your ex. However, now that I have seen so many people try the no contact rule I have decided that in some cases a shorter no contact period may be best.
Lets pretend that you decide that you want to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend. Believe it or not this is the type of message that I have seen multiple women get during the no contact rule.
Actually no, it meas that your ex boyfriend wants to talk to you more than anything and that is a good thing. When your ex boyfriend threatens you in this way I view him, and this may be a little extreme, but I view him as a terrorist and we don’t negotiate with terrorists. I already know this is going to confuse the heck out of people so I really want you to pay attention to what I say here.
If this happens then you should feel proud of yourself because that means that I desperately want you to talk to me. A lot of people don’t realize this but the no contact rule is meant to work in two different ways. The first way that no contact is supposed to work is that it’s supposed to have an affect on your ex boyfriend.
The key to a successful no contact rule is combining the two which is something that I am going to talk about right now. Self improvement during the no contact rule is all about starting at point A to get to point Z (point Z obviously being your ex.) It always irks me when women come to this site, read about the no contact rule and then completely disregard the fact that self improvement is a part of it. The ungettable girl is a concept that I came up with to describe a girl that can pretty much make any man crazy. I think the first thing that you have to understand is that every man out there loves the chase. Ok, I guess that is more than a few “aspects” but you want to do this right, right?
Now, if you are sitting here reading this and you feel a little overweight then consider this your wake up call. Let me tell you a little story and trust me when I say that everything I talk about below really happened to me. I have debated telling this story for months because the truth is I am not fond of telling personal stories that talk about other people but this one so clearly illustrates the point I am making here that I can’t resist. Slowly but surely I started to get to know the real her and I learned that her personality was very unstable. Well, the book is basically about this tree that loves this little boy with all it’s heart. Essentially, the boy had taken so much from the tree that the tree had nothing left to give. The point was that eventually I stopped being friends with her because I learned she treated everyone like this. Well, after I learned about her personality every time I looked at her picture on Facebook I no longer found her attractive.
The two will always be linked and the key to an ungettable girl is that she has high marks in both looks and personality. If I had to take a guess I would say that right now your confidence is pretty much down in the dumps.
Even more important, there is no way in he** you are going to become an ungettable girl without confidence. Some are the perfect amount of confidence and some are way too confident that it is off-putting.
I once knew this woman who would always tell me that she was the most confident person ever.
The point is that someone who is truly confident doesn’t need to say that they are confident they just are. If you can master these two things then don’t worry, you are well on your way to becoming confident. Well, it is an idea that I picked up from probably the strangest community ever, pickup artists. Well, I don’t think it is any coincidence that every single ungettable girl out there is well liked by all of her friends and is extremely popular.
I recommend that you use this no contact period as a time to socialize and have amazing experiences your friends. So, while you are working on self improvement the no contact rule should simultaneously be having an effect on your ex boyfriend.
Now, before I start getting into specifics someone in the comments section of this website made me aware of a big flaw with the no contact rule. That means if you and your ex had a major fight you would be going into the no contact rule for 30 days on the heels of that major fight.
Anyways, this concept basically says that the things that people remember the most when it comes to relationships are the beginnings and endings of that relationship. I have been on this planet for quite a while and have dealt with my fair share of women who aren’t classy. While that text message may look like an apology it really isn’t if you read it carefully. There is only one way I know how to describe this bond but it is going to require some role playing from you and I. I know we have gone over a lot so take a moment and catch your breath because we still have a lot to cover. If you have picked up my book, The Texting Bible then you may have seen me mention that text messaging is non threatening. However, one of the things I have learned through helping thousands of women is that you should really only have two goals when it comes to text messaging after the no contact rule. Your entire game plan when it comes to text messaging is going to revolve around two goals.
Often times the best way to get an ex boyfriend on the phone is to build attraction with him and if you happen to be very successful in building that attraction you may luck out and he could ask you on a date. One thing I do want to say is that many women make the mistake of skipping goal one and going straight to goal two before building attraction. If you follow that simple structure during your texting phase then I guarantee you are going to have some nice success. When it comes to building attraction (or in your case re-building attraction) you can’t be overeager.
The number one mistake I see from women when it comes to this phase of my philosophy is that they are too eager to see an end result.
I guess the point I am trying to make here is that if you follow my advice in this section you should be able to re-build attraction with your ex boyfriend.
You have essentially ignored your ex for 30 days (or 21 days depending on some situations.) How in the world are you supposed to approach this situation?
Seriously, I roll my eyes and put my phone down for a few moments whenever I receive responses like these. I don’t recommend you copy my doppelganger story word for word but you can use it as an idea of the type of interesting thing that should get your ex to bite. When I originally came up with the idea for a first contact text message I advised people to end the conversation immediately. Rather than immediately ending the conversation I think it is a good idea to go a little deeper into the conversation. Before you can start getting into the more emotional type of text messages you are going to have to get on friendly terms with your ex boyfriend again. Lets say that you are ready to talk about your old relationship but you are unsure if your ex is. Ok, the one thing we already know is that you can’t jump into an emotional topic (like your old relationship with your ex) right off the bat. The way you do that is by starting off very slowly and then casually upping the intensity of the type of messages that you send. The other day I happened to stumble across a picture that is meant to be funny (but I actually found it to be true.) It is on how people view success. A meme text message is perfect to start off your priming because it isn’t meant to be serious at all. This type of a text message was something that I came up with after a friend of mine continually sent me memes. There is a lot to balance when it comes to the initial stages of priming isn’t there?
The moment of realization came that I was in the women’s bathroom when I heard two women voices approaching and I quickly ran to hide in the stall until they went away. I had no choice but to open the stall door, reveal that I was in the wrong bathroom and then of course I ran for my life! Do you see how that story was both intriguing and funny (all of it true by the way.) These are the types of stories that keep a persons interest.
If your ex boyfriend responds pretty positively to that then you can advance to the next section.
If you have properly primed your ex boyfriend then you can move on to the emotional messages. Now, the thing you have to remember when you text your ex boyfriend is that your main goal is to use the attraction you build with him to get him on the phone with you. This is your ex boyfriend we are talking about here so there is no doubt that he is going to have some negative memories. I want him to know that you are thinking of him that way and I want him to feel good about it.
How To Make Your Ex Call You – A guide that will teach you what you need to do to make an ex call you or pick up the phone. What To Do On A Date With Your Ex – I created this guide to teach women what they should do on a date with their ex.
Ideally, what you want to have happen is that you build up so much attraction from the text messages that your ex just calls you.
Seriously, I hate calling first because I never know if the girl is going to be busy or if she will just blow me off.
The sexiest woman in the world is one who has the guts to cut through all this nonsense and call herself.
If you have built up enough attraction through text messages and phone calls then you should be able to get a date relatively easily. I have often wondered if there was a method in which you can employ to regain your ex boyfriends trust.
The majority of the women who visit this website have one goal, to get their ex boyfriend back. This particular guide is going to be focusing on one specific aspect of the entire boyfriend recovery process, trust.
If you are looking for a more complete step by step method on how you can get your ex boyfriend back then you aren’t going to find it on this page.
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The real truth about men is that there will be some that will not trust you no matter what you say or do.
I guess the real question becomes what causes these men to not ever be able to forgive a woman and trust them again? Lets say that I was dating a girl and she cheated on me but she didn’t go as far as to sleep with another guy, she just ended up kissing him. The fact that his girlfriend didn’t invite him to the party really upset him and made him mad. Luckily, she just wanted some time away from my buddy and her friend had invited her to the party.
Well, my buddy got so worked up over it that he crashed the party which in turn caused one of the greatest couple arguments of our time..
The main point here is that for the next few months my friend held this incident against her. Five years later and they are still together and this incident isn’t even mentioned anymore.
So, while it may suck for a guy to hold something against you it is just a matter of expecting it to happen and enduring it, it won’t last forever.
It really is a sick practice but there will be some men that will react this way when they feel hurt. You see, whenever you do something that I don’t like I am going to bring your past mistakes up out of anger as a way to control you. In this section we are going to be talking about all the ways in which a (now) ex boyfriend may have lost trust in you. I think the main point I want to make here is that there are literally thousands of different things that someone can do to make you lose trust in them. Now, before I start getting into the ways that you can butcher your exes trust there is a concept that I need to explain to you. It’s pretty much common sense that if you cheat on your boyfriend it is going to be a whole lot worse than telling a little lie to him.
2 = Regaining trust will be challenging but it can definitely happen if you put work into it.
If you reference the MPI scale above you would notice that this means that if you perform this type of trust mistake you are going to have a very hard time regaining your exes trust. It is going to make him uncomfortable and insecure every time you go out and are around other men. I think that when you are dealing with an ex boyfriend anything from 2nd base or beyond is going to be considered a 5 on the MPI scale.
Just like with the section above an ex boyfriend is always going to have your cheating in the back of his mind so that is some headwind you are going to have to face here as well. Of course, I am the type of person that always tries to find the silver lining in tough situations. While it is never good to cheat (that shatters everyone’s trust) if you cheated just by kissing another guy then you are going to be in a much better position. If you look at the human species purely from an evolutionary perspective you can learn some interesting things.
When you understand these principles it isn’t hard to figure out why men feel the need to cheat. We already know that one of the main reasons that men cheat is because they get horny but women often cheat for other reasons.
Hopefully that sheds some light on a subconscious level on why humans feel the need to cheat. Before I say anything about lying I just want to point out that I created an entire guide on lying here. Every time you say something and want to be taken seriously you won’t be because your ex will doubt how honest you are being. So, I suppose the question becomes how can you make your ex boyfriend believe you when you talk to him about something serious?
At the beginning of every new relationship I think that both the man and the woman are obsessed with eachother. Lately I have been wondering why we as humans feel the need to control people in relationships. The truth is that when it comes to relationships it is impossible to control your significant other. The thing to remember about all of this is that it is very possible to gain your exes trust back. Of course, I do want to point out that there will be one difference in the things that I am going to be covering.
I wanted to start with this one because this is probably the hardest thing to come back from. Because in order to gain back his trust you are going to have to make sacrifices and these sacrifices are going to have to be made with no guarantees that you will succeed in making him trust you again.
Unfortunately, blind faith is something that very few people have but honestly it is the only way. Now, if you had cheated on me (which caused a breakup) I can tell you that I would be checking up on you from time to time. Now, for someone trying to get their ex boyfriend back a little jealousy can be a good thing. Don’t worry all this ignoring other men is going to pay off but you will have to wait a bit to see how.
Some women believe that giving a man some space to work out his feelings is the best way to approach the situation. Well, I am a fan of apologizing if you did something wrong BUT I am a fan of doing it in the right way.
If you don’t know what the no contact rule is then I recommend you visit my guide on it. By cheating on your ex boyfriend you have shattered any fantasies that he has had of you thinking that you were the only one for him.
Everything I do has to be done with one goal in mind, to make him think that I am the only one for him.
It would be a little weird if out of the blue you texted your ex boyfriend this big long apology about how you were wrong and how you feel horrible and blah blah blah. This is why I recommend doing a brief 15 day no contact rule so you can pre-prime your ex boyfriend.
Well, in order to get the best results with anything regarding trust you have to make sure your ex is in the right mindset to talk about it.
I am going to give you an example of how I would compose this message but first there are a few things I want to note. Hopefully if you do this right it will get him thinking that you have turned over a new leaf and he can start taking the necessary steps to potentially start trusting you again.
If you lied to your ex boyfriend getting his trust back is going to be a lot easier than if you cheated on him. You see, women love it because they know when they look a man in the eye and he is telling the truth they can trust him and having that feeling of trust in someone is irreplaceable.
This entire site is all about playing games to get your ex boyfriend back that’s just the way it is.
Lets say that you were to use a 30 day no contact rule after you break up with your ex boyfriend. If you followed it like you were supposed to then you have had absolutely zero contact with your ex for 30 days straight. In fact, one of the reasons I put so much time and effort into this site is that so someday I won’t be controlled by the 9 to 5 lifestyle that so many men my age seemed to get sucked into.


Well, she was a bit of a flirt and after a certain amount of incidents occurred I had a lot of trouble trusting her with anything. I am not like that anymore thankfully but the only reason why I am not is because I felt so ashamed of how I acted that I worked really hard to not be controlling anymore. Controlling someone often leads to a fight and I am not talking about the type of fights where something gets accomplished.
You can do all this work to change but if you can’t convince your ex boyfriend that you have, how is he going to trust you again? I promise you that your ex boyfriend knows this so he is automatically expecting you to come back begging and be overemotional. Of course, the real question you are probably wondering is how do you let him know you are not controlling after the no contact period is up?
This is a clever little text message that I talk about in my book that you can use to demonstrate two things.
Basically what you are going to do is wait until you have established a conversation with your ex. Trust is very important and it needs patience and courage on both sidesion building it up again.
Kidding aside, in building trust, you have to make up with your wrong doings and keep your word this time.
I finally admitted all of that was a lie and then explained the truth but at that point my boyfriend was really mad. My boyfriend of nearly 2 years and close friend for probably 5 years before dating, says he has been hurt very deeply by what I have done. I don’t know what to do besides pray about it, and keep working hard to show him I am not some God-awful liar. If you want your ex boyfriend to miss you (after your breakup) then you definitely came to the right place. Now, I know that’s a bit of a shocking statement to make especially when you consider the state of the “get your back niche” these days. That everyone who comes to the site to read, watch, or comment should be helped and attended to. Now, throughout this article you may notice that a few of our team members chime in and offer little tidbits of advice on top of the advice that I am dishing out. You are still learning from me, Chris Seiter, it’s just that I always think five heads are better than one.
So, since you are inquiring about how you can make your ex miss you this page is going to be focused solely on that.
So, lets do a little role playing here and assume that you end up taking the advice I teach on this page to heart and successfully make your ex boyfriend miss you.
Don’t get me wrong, you will absolutely have to make your ex miss you if you want any chance of winning him back but it isn’t going to be enough alone. However, simply getting your ex boyfriend to miss you is essentially like trying to put a puzzle together with just one piece. But you are probably getting bored of hearing me talk about Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO aren’t you? One of the things that I have always found fascinating when it comes to researching breakups is the scientific data that I come across.
And perhaps that’s a little strange for the profession that I have chosen since a lot of getting an ex back is all about believing in an outcome that hasn’t occurred yet. Nevertheless, I think it would be wrong of me to try to teach you something without having proof it works which is why I find the scientific research done on breakups so fascinating.
In 2005, psychologist Art Aron, neurologist Lucy Brown, and anthropologist Helen Fisher all teamed up to do an interesting study on individuals who had just recently gone through a breakup.
They decided to have the individuals put a brain imaging tool on and then showed them pictures of their ex.
The scientists were trying to determine what was happening in the brain of the people who just went through the breakup. The part of the brain that lit up was the same part of the brain that is commonly present in drug addicts who are going through withdrawal. Facebook Creeping = Spying on an exes Facebook profile after a breakup to see what they are up to. Well, it means that there is a nearly 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is going to come strolling by your Facebook profile assuming you are still friends there. But again, I still feel this incredible need to provide you with overwhelming statistics before I specifically talk about the advantage you have.
Now, does that necessarily mean that if your ex falls into the 71% category that he is going to be missing you?
No, remember, this statistic is basically just saying that 71% of people think about their exes too much. But it gets even better, 60% of people who are married or dating say that their ex is on their mind too much.
Well, I think the important distinction that has to be made is if they are thinking about their ex TOO MUCH or just a little bit. Hell, I am sure even my own wife has had this happen from time to time but it’s not like she can turn her mind off. But there is a definite difference between having your mind take a small trip down memory lane and thinking about an ex all day every day. So, if your ex is thinking about you too much then you can ultimately use that to your advantage, right?
Well, there is still one more thing that I think we need to cover before I can give you the strategy you should implement and this is something that is going to be important for you to understand because it’s going to directly affect your chances for making him miss you. Without a doubt the number one factor that determines whether a man will miss you or not is always going to be your past relationship with him. Now, I am not like those other relationship experts out there that will tell you what you want to hear 100% of the time. If you had a horrible relationship with your ex your chances of having him miss you is going to be lower.
Ok, one more thing to talk about before we can start getting down to the actual strategy of making an ex boyfriend miss you. Did you know that you have a “secret advantage” if you were actually the one to initiate the breakup with your ex?
We have already established above that you have an advantage in the fact that most people say that they still think about their ex too much but when you add in the fact that you initiated the breakup your advantage is going to be a little more distinct.
When I get to talking about the no contact rule (really soon) I am going to talk about psychological reactance. Psychological reactance theory basically states that when you take away someones options to do something their attraction to gain their freedom to get that option back increases. Well, now that, Ricky’s freedom to have that toy has been taken away what does he want more than anything?
So, by breaking up with your ex you actually increase the chances that he will miss you because his freedom to have you has been taken away.
Easy, it’s hard because I am the one that has to come up with the game plan for putting a “cheating couple” back together. So, like I said above, you probably aren’t going to have this secret advantage if you broke up with your ex if he cheated on you. No, Esther Perel, has dedicated pretty much her whole life to studying infidelity and she has found that oftentimes men and women who cheat are still in love with their partner.
I am going to take it as if there is a fundamental problem with your relationship because in my mind a man who is fully satisfied with his relationship will be excited and engaged in his sex life with his partner.
Nevertheless, if you broke up with your ex because he cheated then you aren’t going to have this small little advantage that I am talking about. And to be honest I can’t think of situation that screams “taking a mans freedom to have you away” more than this one. If you broke up with your ex boyfriend when he didn’t want you to break up with him then you have definitely left him with the impression that you are a very rare commodity.
You will find that the more scarce you are the more attractive you will be to men in general. I mean, something tells me that you wouldn’t find a diamond so attractive if you go buy it for a dollar at the dollar store. Because a portion of the success stories that I had recorded didn’t give me much information. Not really deep enough for me to determine what that particular person did to succeed in getting their ex back, huh?
So, if you were to ask my opinion on how many of the successes used the no contact rule I would put the number closer to 90%. You are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook or Google your ex for a specific period of time. Hell, all you have to do is visit one of my “no contact rule” pages to see just how many women are struggling with it. No, you care about the psychology behind why the no contact rule can make an ex boyfriend miss you, right?
The question = Chris, what is the number one mistake you see people making after a breakup.
I mean, put yourself in your ex boyfriends shoes for a second assuming that you were bugging the hell out of him after a breakup with you.
Would you find it attractive if someone you didn’t have feelings for anymore was bugging you every five seconds trying to convince you to do something you didn’t want to do? Truthfully, I watch the movie at least once a year and you know what causes me to watch it? By not giving your ex a chance to miss you, via the no contact rule, you are shooting yourself in the foot. With psychological reactance in play, your Ex is secretly thinking, “I want what you say I can’t have. I have this theory that the harder you make it for him to get you back the more he will appreciate you when he has you. The harder you make it for him to get you back the more he is going to appreciate you once he gets you back.
And the no contact rule can provide that difficulty for him to succeed in getting you back. Now, if you are confused as to what this is let me give you a quick history of social media. So, if you don’t know my wife she is in charge of our YouTube channel and our marketing experts. Well, one day she decided that we should be featured on “Ted Talks” so she started trying to network with some of the people over at “Ted Talks” and she managed to locate one of the person’s Facebook profiles. So, rather than asking me to reach out directly she decided that since this person was a man it would be better if she reached out since she knows she is a very beautiful woman. Anyways, what do you think happened to her after she changed her profile picture on Facebook from our child to a sexy looking picture of her. I am going to teach you my two best methods for catching a mans attention via social media.
Now, even though this picture isn’t bad it isn’t earth shatteringly amazing which is what I should be going for. This is the kind of picture that I want you to be posting to your social media profile as your profile picture. So, I guess what I am saying is that you should hire a professional photographer to take your picture. Often times it’s the things that make us step outside our comfort zone that yield the best results. But when I would spy on her Facebook profile and see that she wasn’t depressed it would drive me nuts. Anyways, one trend that I began to notice with a lot of my success stories was the fact that the women who ended up succeeding were actually completely moved on from the break up and living successful lives.
Anyways, I kept seeing this phenomenon pop up again and again so when I did an audit of my success stories last month I learned that a lot of women who had actually completely moved on from their exes were able to get him back.
In this section we are going to look at a number of things that you can specifically do to make him miss you while in the midst of the Frank Sinatra Effect.
When it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back you have to accept the fact that there are a certain amount of factors that are completely out of your control.
I explained that she didn’t look like that back when I knew her but now that I saw this new and improved version I wanted her immediately. During the day of the date I had reached out to her to ask if we were still on (BIG MISTAKE) and got no response…. It was starting to become clear that I was going to get stood up if I went to the restaurant but I figured I would give it one more try. If you were to ask me what I thought one of the biggest mistakes that I see women engaging in are I would definitely have to say that becoming to obsessed with their ex is at the top of the list. In order to truly “move on, without moving on” you can’t be too worried about what your ex is doing.
I haven’t talked a lot about this yet because maybe I am trying to save something for my book. If you really want to make the most of the Frank Sinatra effect I am going to teach you an amazing strategy.
Basically if you want to utilize the Frank Sinatra effect to the fullest I recommend that you try to maximize these three areas of your life.
What you are trying to do here is find a perfect balance between your health, wealth and relationships. I am a guy and let me tell you that I do not find it attractive when someone, who after a breakup, sits on the couch all day and eats ice cream. Here is the kicker though, a few days later when I logged on Facebook I found that she wasn’t quite as devastated as I thought. It probably won’t go over too well if he checks on your Facebook profile and sees you making out with three different guys. In this example I am going to show you a specific text message that is meant to make your ex a little jealous. In the end, I subscribe to the theory that in order for me to best help you get your ex boyfriend back you need to see the entire picture and that is what I am doing here with this guide, helping you see the parts of the picture you are missing. The no contact rule without a doubt is the most successful strategy that you can use to get your ex boyfriend back. Well, I recently did my very own independent study where I took a look at what the women who have come to EBR and successfully won their exes back were doing and 72% of them had utilized the no contact rule.
Here’s the thing though, most people who try the no contact rule end up failing.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? My vision was that you could use this book to serve as your safety net as you navigate through the treacherous waters of the no contact rule. Every single day I carve out an hour or two to answer comments and questions from the readers of this site. It’s funny to me though that so many women fail at something SO CRUCIAL to get their ex boyfriends back. While I admit there are many constants in the concerns above the correct answer I am looking for lies in a simple truth.
Therein lies the foundation on which this guide was built, helping you to better understand what goes on in your exes mind so YOU can succeed with the no contact rule! To be more specific, I am going to be talking about how a man can possibly react (and what he will think) when a woman implements a no contact rule on him. When it comes to the no contact rule I have found that there are 7 main reactions and thoughts that men will have. What kind of emotional “aftertaste” do you think your ex boyfriend was left with after the two of you broke up? Good or bad, whatever his aftertaste is will cause him to react a certain way to the no contact rule. You are going to play my ex girlfriend (who is using a 30 day no contact rule on me.) Of course, I am going to be playing your ex boyfriend and plan to give you insight on each of my reactions. Of course, every time I send a message that you don’t respond to I am leaving myself vulnerable. Usually, after a certain amount of texts are un-responded to I will start calling you frantically. Frantic Caller Turned Ignorer- A man who will frantically call after NC but will get so angry that you are ignoring him that he won’t call you again. Just like before, you are going to implement the no contact rule on me and just like before I am going to become a text gnat by sending you a lot of different text messages and phone calls. Above I talked about how the more I care about a person emotionally the more I care about a text message response. I am a glass half full kind of guy so I choose to look at it like this: men who take being ignored personally will want to get back at you.
I can’t tell you how often I hear women say this to me when they talk about their ex. The Stubborn Guy- This is a reaction that a certain man will have during the no contact period. It is your greatest fear after all, having an ex NOT contact you at all during a no contact period.
Me having that thought about you is probably your greatest fear when it comes to getting me back.
I think stubborn men as a whole adopt two specific mindsets when they are put in the no contact rule.
Yes, you read that right THEY are going to feel like the victim even though in the grand scheme of things they aren’t one. The Clueless Guy- A legitimate reaction where your ex is entirely clueless throughout the no contact rule. I understand that you may be a little confused at how this reaction will play out in real life. Part of the reason the no contact rule works so well is the fact that the party it is being done to will sense that something is wrong. Men who tend to be clueless are ones that don’t have a lot of experience in relationships.
You see, one thing I have learned about women throughout my life is they tend to drop these little hints when you talk to them. For example, during the NC period a clueless guy will not sense that anything is wrong at all. So, there are aspects of being frantic and stubborn in there but as a whole he will not get any of the hints you drop. Here is the problem though, without the no contact rule you really don’t have any chance to acquire the logical mindset you need.
The Scared Guy- This is a reaction that is the exact opposite of someone who frantically calls or texts. If YOU broke up with me and implemented a no contact rule then I would definitely be afraid to contact you because of the fear of rejection.
If you know for a fact that your ex boyfriend is afraid to contact you then shouldn’t you just break the NC and reach out to him first? If you contact him first during no contact he is probably going to revert to the stubborn mindset of “oh ya!
As always, we are going to let our two favorite actors act out this scene for us so we have a better grasp of how this is all going to go down.
Of course, when you ignore the text he sends he is going to figure out really quickly that something is up. Chances are, if you are doing the no contact rule immediately after a breakup your ex boyfriend is going to be thinking about you a lot. The angry guy reaction is really the reaction that is going to tie into the aftertaste effect the most out of any reaction listed throughout this guide. Except there is something different about the angry guy reaction as opposed to the stubborn guy reaction.
You see, with the stubborn guy reaction I won’t contact you during NC but deep down I will still want to hear from you. Typically, the tell tale sign of an angry guy reaction is when your ex says some very hurtful things to your face repeatedly.
So, I suppose the real question here is, is it possible to get someone back if they exhibit this reaction?
I have been in no contact for five days and he sent me texts on 3rd day, emailed me on 4th day and today he asked me if i want to skype and called me two times.
What I forgot to mention was when he broke up with me it was in the middle of the night and he said he did not love me. I broke up with my bf after a year because he would always tell me that he knows he is going to marry me and constantly told me that he will love me forever. We talked once on the phone which was supposed to be short and he kept me on the phone for an hour. The other day we were chatting and having a good time and I asked if he wanted me to come back. Imagine if you could be such an influence on your ex that you could make him choose to come back to you. I am sure that you have probably spent an hour searching for one and then you came across this site and saw that my guides were insightful and helpful.
I called it Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO and basically put all of my knowledge down for you to absorb. Many of these sources were forums full of women asking men if they ever regretted breaking up with their exes. Saying in public that you really regret letting go of your ex girlfriend can be perceived as a weakness but I know enough about the way relationships work to know that a lot of what men say publicly is meaningless.
That means that every month about 9,900 women are typing that particular phrase into Google.
In other words, statistics say that more men than women actually regret letting their exes go. I think the best way I can explain this to you is to explain the regretting process of men. I remember after I broke up with a girlfriend I started regretting my decision a bit later I think it was predestined though. One of the biggest problems I think that women have when it comes to getting an ex back revolves around how much effort you put into getting him back. I love the effort I really do but the fact of the matter is that you are putting your effort in the wrong place. Both of these women were considered to be the same level of attractiveness except there is a huge difference in personality between the two of them. In other words, the guy is always having to work to get her attention and while many guys whine about the chasing process deep down we all kind of like it. I know that is a weird thing to say for a site that specializes in reuniting women with their exes but it’s almost like you have to train yourself to NOT want your ex boyfriend. You still want your ex boyfriend back but you have accepted the fact that even if you do everything right things might not fall in your favor. If you are faking moving on then it is really not happening and you are more likely to be insincere. However, experience has taught me that nothing should ever be set in stone and there are certain situations where 30 days isn’t practical. If you are able to lull a men into a sense of false security where he is hopeful for the future and can see happiness with you and then you sweep the rug out from under him something amazing happens. In other words, as long as you do the no contact rule with no breaks it should stir up some type of regret within your ex boyfriend. When I first started this site I was a little afraid to speak up and hurt your feelings so I let it slide but I am not like that anymore. There are things that you can do that can cause an ex boyfriend to NOT regret letting you go. While there is still a lot more to cover on that subject I think it can speak volumes to look at some of the most common mistakes people make.
It’s not like you are doing anything too crazy like throwing a rock through his house window. I am not saying that this was the reason he broke up with you but it was an annoyance that factored into his decision. You may feel something inside of you that tells you to talk to him because he is your “best friend” right?
In this section I am going to literally teach you what you need to do to make any man regret leaving you. Believe me, if it was easy then every broken hearted girl would have the ability to wrap a man around her finger. However, if you are willing to put in the work then I assure you that you are going to put yourself in the best position to get an opportunity to win him back. Yes, I am going to literally tell you how you need to interact with me in order to get me to fall for you. For example, if I really like someone I try to figure out exactly what they did to make me like them.
Now, I do feel it is important to hit the pause button here so I can explain exactly why I chose to use an example of us meeting for the first time. Lets say that the two of us found each other attractive, we talked for a few hours and exchanged numbers so we can stay in touch. This is a really good sign because any time that you can get a guy to check his phone for a response it means that you have value to him in someway.
I know it is a messed up game to play but it’s worked on me every single time and its worked on billions of other men too. Actually, lets move on so we can see how we can apply this new found trend to your ex boyfriend.
One of the hidden aspects of the no contact rule is the fact that it allows you to ramp up the tension. Well, you can’t leave your ex boyfriend wanting more if he knows he can have you all the time. However, it is more powerful if you do it the way I am trying to show you as opposed to doing it right out of the gate. If I go on a date with a girl I like and I am so enthralled about my dating experience with that girl that I daydream about her when I am trying to fall asleep then that is a really good sign for her because it means that the next day I am going to wake up and the first thing I think of will be her. You get a fishing pole, put some bait on a line and then you cast that line into the water in the hopes that a fish will bite the bait and get hooked on your line. Notice how it is not specified if it is you or your ex who will be taking this trip to Hawaii. Eventually we barely hung out and I understood he was genuinely busy because of colleges, baseball, and having guy time with his friends.
In hindsight I should have lengthened the response a bit more to seem like I’m busier. This fact was evidenced when I opened up my Facebook Page one afternoon and saw this meme posted by one of my subscribers,Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
Essentially, what I am shooting for here is a way to wipe your slate clean with your ex so that you can give yourself the best shot of getting him back. In this section I am going to talk a little about that but I will also be giving you the low down on all the negatives that go along with being clingy and needy.
In fact, your jealousy got so bad that at one point you literally forbade me to talk to anyone of the opposite sex. It is rare to find someone who will explain why men react badly to clingy behavior but I am going to because I am a man and I know how I would react if someone got overly needy.
They want a serious relationship with a woman who is confident enough to know that she actively chose to be with a guy.
As our relationship wears on I begin to notice that you get jealous any time I mention another girl. In fact, if you ever catch me texting another girl throughout our relationship you threaten to break up with me. In some cases it is so extreme that you can’t even let them leave a room without you going by their side.
I remember he once told me that when he was over at her house she left the room without him. We need time to recharge sometimes before we can consume everything you want us to consume. If you feel the need to accompany him everywhere he goes then that is a form of shadowing and he isn’t going to appreciate it. Lately, in an effort to change this I have been reading up a lot about the most successful relationships so I can get some positivity back in my life which in turn will help me give out better advice.
Whenever I am in a relationship with someone I don’t let anyone threaten that relationship.
I feel this is an extremely rare quality in men now-a-days and it also says a lot about my character. Well, below you will find a graphic that i put together that will teach you how to overcome his reservations about taking you back because of your clingy nature. However, once the relationship has already commenced then the women take over from there and do everything in their power to keep the relationship going.
In other words, they grow lazy and spoiled and get used to women doing everything for them. Well, I am of the mind that giving your ex space (after you have been clingy) is the smartest thing you can do.
Of course, when you shower a man with constant attention that attention is going to lose some of its value over time because he is going to get used to it.
The no contact rule is perfect for giving your ex boyfriend time to cool down which in turn is going to increase your chances to seem less clingy and also get him back. How about the fact that a lot of women don’t believe they are good enough for their boyfriends so they shower them with too much attention which can be viewed as clingy. In fact, I became so frightened of being deceived that I started plotting out worse case scenarios in my head and trying to figure out if I would be able to survive if it ever occurred to me.
You see, it has the ability to make you a little paranoid and that can be extremely unhealthy. This means that for me I can sometimes get touchy when other men are introduced into the equation around my relationship. It’s not ok to just stop something that you love (your hobbies) to make room for all of your boyfriends or husbands hobbies. We were in an on & off again relationship becaus, simply put, I was needy, clingy, controlling while he has always been uncertain about me. I will admit that when I did all the research for this site it never occurred to me to dive that deep into the ex recovery process.  I did think about it but I never really thought it was important enough to research.
Since I am a guy I have a pretty good idea on what the perfect Facebook profile should look like to give yourself the best chance to reignite your exes feelings and ultimately get your ex boyfriend to come back to you. I want you to remember that this page is dedicated solely on FACEBOOK and how you can use it to improve your chances of getting your ex back.
Unless you completely skipped the first few paragraphs of this page then you know that there is pretty much a 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is stalking your profile ;).
However, you need to start looking at Facebook as a tool that can be used to further your chances of getting him to have those romantic feelings towards you again.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Obviously, the no contact rule is exactly what it sounds like, having no contact with your ex boyfriend for a set amount of time (usually 30 days.) The question is, why is it so important when it comes to Facebook? Figuring out how to become the sexiest version of yourself that ever existed and NOT contacting your ex no matter what.
I could give you all the rules about how to approach the situation but it isn’t ideal. Nevertheless, I like to think that I am a pretty good indicator of the average guy (or in this case your ex boyfriend.) I decided that the best way to approach this was to go through the friends on my personal Facebook profile and jot down some of the women that stood out to me. I don’t think it takes a genius to recognize how important your profile picture is to catching someones attention.
When I go through my friends pictures there were some women who had profile pictures that rivaled this one. As I go back I count three women who I chose for this case study who employed that very method. Yes, it’s space, its actually kind of pretty but it is a completely missed opportunity. While she didn’t have the best profile picture I think she knocked her cover photo out of the ballpark. Men are very visual oriented so while all that other stuff matters to us the first place we go is to check out your other pictures.
That is a really bad thing because it means he is in a position of power and he knows that anything he does is going to have a certain amount of sway over this girl. This means, if you don’t have an active social life I think it is about time for you to get one. Not only is that poor taste but your ex will view you as trashy and once you get that label it is really hard to shake it.
Then after the call we started messaging back and forth joking around and then another call started.
Ironically, a lot of the stuff out there that makes these ridiculous claims offer no value and leave you feeling taken advantage of.
This page, while amazingly detailed, won’t have every single step that you will need to successfully get him back.
I put a lot of work into this page (1 full month to be exact.) I read relationship books, I took notes on speeches that dating experts gave, I bought online products, I listened my friends tell me stories about what they did to reunite with their exes and tested out some of the things I learned. The no contact rule is going to give you time to work on yourself and calm down a little bit so you can think more rationally instead of emotionally. Make sure any interactions you do have with the person are short, pleasant and to the point.
Thus, it is entirely possible that whatever reason they gave you for the breakup may not be completely true. No I am not talking about sex here (although that can lead to problems for some men.) I am talking about admiration. They love the newness of a relationship, want respect and like to see significant interest coming from females.
I feel for you but don’t worry we are going to take a look at your breakup and figure out the best way to approach things. This is a common complaint among men who are dating someone who let themselves go a little bit in the relationship. Unfortunately, in my personal opinion it says more about of his lack of character (unless you were really boring but I doubt that) than anything you actually did. Now, I like to think that I am generally a calm person but for whatever reason my girlfriend and I would always fight. This may sound goofy but I like those women who so strongly believe that they are going to be together with their exes for good that they are willing to try anything. Those are the type of women who work really hard to create that NEW and BETTER relationship. However, one thing that I have neglected to mention so far is that there are certain women (not you) that don’t have legitimate reasons for wanting to get back together with their boyfriends. The fact of the matter is that you can be perfectly fine without this person if you are citing any of these. Remember how you are going to implement the no contact rule for a month (30 days?) Yes, well you are not going to just sit on your butt and twiddle your thumbs during this time. There is a 100% chance, especially if you are ignoring him, that your ex is going to check up on you during this period and instead of sulking around feeling sorry for yourself he is going to see a strong, sexy, fun-having woman! I know it may be uncomfortable to talk about but in this case you need to suck it up and get the proper treatment if you don’t want them. One of the biggest assets about the no contact period is that it gives you time to calm down a bit from the mental tension that was your breakup. Careful though, you don’t want to be one of those career first women and lose sight of your goal.
Ok, basically if there was anything fun that you used to do (tennis, golf, puzzles, collecting, hiking, photography, music) renew it.
Honestly time is the number one thing that can help you get over a break up but the second best thing is definitely having fun.
Instead of being completely miserable and depressed you are doing something constructive and dare I say having a bit of fun? I am not saying it’s going to be easy but doing what I recommended above will really help to heal you. The last thing you want to be is perceived as creepy or stalkerish and writing a letter the wrong way can definitely hurt you.
Well, it just so happens I have come up with the ultimate game plan for getting your ex back.
Controlling the conversation is key that means that you should always be the one who brings the conversation to a close, YOU WANT TO BE IN CONTROL. Typically you want your ex to only think about the most positive experiences during your relationship.
Don’t expect him to be receptive of your messages right off the bat, it may take a while. DO NOT SPAM YOUR EX WITH TEXTS… if he doesn’t respond to your first one just wait a couple of days and try again.
It really sucks and can feel like the end of the world especially if you put a lot of work into getting your ex boyfriend back. I’ll admit that you will have a distinct advantage here if you had a long relationship and made a lot of great memories.
I took out a sheet of paper and wrote down what I thought our best couple experiences were together. Except this time you are going to engage them in a conversation but make sure that you don’t go too fast. They are either extremely excited by the prospect of moving forward with things and they can sense that you are trying to move things along but this also makes them extremely nervous. You spent that entire time working on yourself becoming more and more confident as the days past. I don’t have any research to back it up but I feel it will work because it worked on me. You just planted a seed of doubt in your ex boyfriends head and now he is going to wonder if you saw a romantic movie with a friend or with a date.
This tactic is no different and can definitely earn you some huge brownie points if you remind him about something he forgot.
Basically you are going to bring up a stressful event very gently and show that you are going to be supportive no matter what with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. Except this time instead of slipping in a compliment during a conversation you are going to slip in something that you have always appreciated about your ex. Ok, basically this is a tactic where you tell your ex boyfriend what you miss about your relationship. Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I am sad to say that I see a lot of this (ex boyfriends ignoring their ex girlfriends) thus it would be an understatement to say that I am experienced at diving in to the male mind and dissecting it. In the movie John Williams composed a score for Steven Spielberg that has gone on to become a classic. Anyways, any time women call, text or show up unannounced to their ex boyfriends house I picture that music playing.
I really want you to understand this section so I am going to define common desperate actions that ex girlfriends take and look at them from a males perspective. A girl who has to message someone that much is displaying two qualities that are a turnoff to every human being on this planet. It is like they hand you a cheat code and you lose all your interest after a certain amount of time.
So, the other big mistake that women make that can cause their ex boyfriend to want to ignore them is spamming his phone with calls. Not only will it creep me out on a level I have never known before but I am really not going to pick up a phone now.
You can tell all of that over the phone (and with a text you would have no clue.) I wanted to point this element out because I feel it adds to the fact that he may be ignoring you.
I think back and those experiences and just cringe because that is how uncomfortable they made me. He didn’t laugh to her face, he laughed behind her back and even showed me the letter making fun of some of the heartfelt words that she had said. If they don’t get their way in a relationship (or even after one) they will find ways to manipulate you emotionally. It was in my very first relationship ever and as you can imagine, that version of me was not a great guy.
Women who wind up in situations like this have typically wronged their ex in horrific ways. Of course, I said that above but I failed to go into the actual ways in which women can wrong men. It is highly unlikely that your ex is going to drop off the face of the earth and never contact you again. An ugly response isn’t one where he just dismisses you it is one where he also disses you. What if I told you that I have found a way that allows you to accomplish that while remaining in control? The experts will tell you that you have to send interesting texts that will capture his attention.
This is important because it will bring up nostalgic feelings in your ex and he can’t help but want to respond positively!
Just a little information: in October last year he joined the military and we were unable to communicate until December when he had two weeks off for Christmas.
The first month was amazing, spent tons of time together talked about a lot of life wants, goals, great chemistry. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago because he said he just didn’t feel the same way he did when we first started going out. One of the books is about the complete step by step process to getting an ex boyfriend back (something that goes in far greater detail than I will be going into here.) The second book is all about the texting process.
I am sure if you go back to the original guide you will find a section similar to this one and you may find some major similarities between the two but I guarantee you that there are a lot of new concepts to teach.
I want you to get married, have kids and pretty much have the absolute best outcome possible after implementing this game plan. Well, I didn’t say it was impossible to get your ex boyfriend back if any of the things on the list above were committed.
However, I will tell you in all honesty that your chances may be seriously hurt if any of the things above happened. If your ex has gotten a serious new girlfriend then your chances of success will not be very high. That means that I have had an entire year to make tweaks and evolve my philosophy to improve your chances of getting him back. When you help hundreds of women succeed in getting their boyfriends back you learn a thing or two about what works and what doesn’t work. Essentially, we are slowly working our way to a date where you can reconnect with him on an emotional and physical level. If you are new to this site then let me say up front that I have written a lot about the no contact rule. What I am going to do now is give you a few quick links to some of the most popular no contact pages I have written. However, watching people do it for the last year I have learned some very interesting things that I didn’t know when I first talked about no contact.
In addition to that you are not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact time frame.
A message like this is essentially a hissy fit where he is going to threaten you by cutting you out of his life.
However, the sheer fact that he is so upset about you using the no contact rule on him tells us that no contact is working it’s magic on him faster than normal. In this particular case you can have the option to shorten your 30 day no contact rule to 21 days. In other words, you are going to be fighting a battle on two fronts at the same exact time. You are emotional, your life is out of balance and quite honestly your confidence is probably lower than ever.
They may say that they hate it but the truth is that deep down we all kind of like it when we can’t get the girl at first. A year ago I met this beautiful girl.  Now, let me tell you that I am quite picky so this girl was really something looks wise to catch my attention.
The little boy keeps asking the tree to give him things and the tree, since it loves the little boy, gives the little boy everything he asks for. While I was definitely not in love with her (didn’t even date her) I did have feelings for her and she knew that and used them to take advantage of me. Every single friend she had she would just take and take and take until the friends had nothing left to give and I refused to have that happen to me. I am a guy so I feel I can bring a unique perspective when it comes to confidence for women.
Women who try too hard to be confident and feel the need to prove it is a total turn off to men. Well, in the warped mind of men a girl who is actually hit on a lot by other men is perceived as higher value and more attractive. Besides, a little jealousy never hurts to make an ex realize how much he truly cares for you. Heck, I don’t even think its a bad idea to go on a date with someone new to just to test the waters.
While doing that would certainly give you and your ex time to cool down it also means that your ex has a lot of anger towards you. Well, if you have a major fight at the end of your relationship and you immediately go into the no contact rule then the last thing that your ex is going to remember is that major fight.
If your ex is super angry with you during the no contact rule then the chances of it working on him the way that it is supposed to will be decreased.
If you can get your ex into a positive mindset as opposed to a negative one before you go into the no contact rule then the chances of no contact working will be greatly increased. No matter what they say or do their ex may be so stubborn he will refuse to calm down until the no contact rule is completed. Let me tell you that it is actually a really nice thing to encounter one who is extremely classy.
You want him in that positive mindset before you go into the no contact rule and a message like this may do the trick to get him in that mindset. About 7 minutes pass and I decide that I can’t bear to be without you so I decide to follow you to the kitchen to talk to you. First though, I want to take a moment and explain why text messages are preferred over a phone call. For example, whenever I care about someone I notice everything when it comes to text messaging.
I would rather you go with what society has dictated the most personal form of communication, the text message.
Of course, when you take a step back you will learn that the two goals really compliment each other. Let’s assume the worst though and assume that the best you can do is get an ex boyfriend on the phone. This is a major mistake because this is the very definition of rushing the process and trust me when I say this is a process that can’t be rushed.
I always find myself telling people to make their text messages so interesting that their ex has no choice but to respond to it. The problem was that by the time they were done two more women came in and eventually the bathroom go so crowded there were women waiting on the stall that I was in. This is the first time that you are going to be sending a text message about you and your ex.
Of course, there are a few things I want to discuss with you on how both of these subjects relates to my overall philosophy on getting an ex boyfriend back. Unfortunately, the thing that these women don’t take into account is that transitioning from text messages to talking on the phone is a pretty big deal for us guys too.
I am like 100% of guys out there in that I am scared to death of rejection and I do feel rejected every time I put my neck on the line to call a girl and she doesn’t pick up. In other words, if you have compelling information to share (like an interesting story) your ex is going to naturally be curious and you can use that curiosity to get on the phone with him.
Well, going on a date is a pretty big deal because this is where a big opportunity to get your ex back can occur.
No matter what happens all you have to do is talk to a man and he will trust you with his heart and soul. For example, if a woman cheated on me multiple times with multiple different men I am not sure I could forgive her for that. Remember, trust is really important to most guys (especially when it comes to good looking women who get hit on a lot.) I would say that you should expect a guy to hold whatever you did (to cause him to lose trust in you) against you for a while.
He would always bring it up whenever they got into a fight and cited it as a reason for why he couldn’t trust her. These are the type of guys that will literally bring up your mistake for the rest of your relationship. While both of these examples can cause a boyfriend to lose trust in you one is definitely worse than the other. The main problem you are going to be facing is that for the rest of the time that you are with him he is going to constantly think back to that time that you cheated on him. Well, in my opinion for you it’s all about showing your man that he is just that, your man! While it is true that women can get horny they have a problem that trumps their horniness, pregnancy.
Cavewomen on the other hand have to be more selective with who they sleep with because the consequence of being pregnant always looms. So, if you really want an in-depth look at the male mind and lying you might want to check it out.
When you feel so possessive of a person that you feel the need to tell them what to do, how to act and what to wear. Make no mistake about it there is always going to be someone, that deep down, we wish we could control. They like the thought that there is a woman out there that cares enough about them to control their actions.
If you look at the mistake section above you will notice that there are 4 major mistakes that I cover. In other words, you are going to have blind faith that what you are doing is going to work. Well, actually YOU are the reason you are in this predicament if you cheated (in any form) but still, those other men are to blame too. I would do this through mutual friends, Facebook or whatever other social networks you are a part of. However, I think in the case where you cheated on him a little jealousy can quickly turn into anger and leave him with a bad taste in his mouth. It doesn’t have to be forever it just has to be long enough for you to try the method I am about to outline. Others are stern on their decision to contact their ex immediately and go on an apologizing rampage.
In my opinion the best way to handle the situation is to do no contact but knowing all I know now (as compared to when I started this website) I don’t think a full 30 days NC period is required. So, instead of apologizing immediately (when you know that your ex boyfriend is angry at you) you should apologize after the no contact period is up.
That fact alone is some serious headwind that you are going to have to overcome to get him to trust you again. You may have the urge to, right out of the gate, go into some long explanation for why you have changed and how all you care about is him. I have actually gotten these before (after I have been wronged) and I can honestly say that it just annoys me. This means that you are going to have some work ahead of you because right now your ex boyfriend can’t trust anything you say.
So, instead of pretending to be something that they aren’t they just be who they are and aim to be brutally honest with women. How well do you think it would go if you immediately sent him this long message declaring everything you were feeling and being honest about it? Now, we are going to assume that the conversation is stimulating so both of us are engaged in it. So, that automatically makes your ex boyfriend think you are being honest with him (which you are.) Secondly, it also creates a good feeling vibe. If you can’t get rid of it then there is no way you are going to be able to get your exes trust back.
I would talk with the owners of the franchises and they would often tell me that the employees were the problem but after doing some homework it became clear that THE OWNERS were the problem and not the employees.
I am talking about the type of fights where things get thrown and loud voices turn into screaming. Most of you already know that I am a huge fan of the no contact rule but especially in this type of a situation where your ex boyfriend thinks that you were way too controlling.
However, if you are smart and implement the no contact rule for 30 days it is going to start making him think that you have changed.
Maybe in your relationship with your ex boyfriend you weren’t ok with him hanging around a certain friend. We are in a long distance relationship and we were face-timing when my phone vibrated because I had a text message.
I had never lied to him before but now he questions everything I say, because I lied to his face. I don’t think he will ever believe me again and it was all because I did stupid, stupid things… I don’t want to lose him please help! Sometimes, you may have to not talk about things that may trigger the disbelief; even when you really want to share something with the other person. You will find that my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery is a lot different than the rest of my peers. I mean, just the other day I was doing research on a forum and I saw hundreds of women NOT getting answered.
Don’t be alarmed by that.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? So, without further ado, I give you the method in which you should employ to make your ex miss you. Oh, and one thing we are really good about here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is answering people’s questions. Just ask Veronika Lukacs who conducted the study as part of her Media Studies Masters thesis, in which she looked at how many people have admitted to “Facebook Creeping” on an ex. So, this basically tells us that even if you are married you may still think about your ex too much.
He Can Break Up With You- Where your ex boyfriend actually is the one to initiate the break up.
You Can Break Up With Him- Where YOU actually are the one to initiate the break up with him. And for a man to cheat on you generally means that the wasn’t fully satisfied with the relationship.
The no contact rule is without a doubt one of the most successful strategies for getting an ex back.
If during that “period of time” you are contacted by your ex you are not allowed to respond. Behavioral freedoms vary in importance, with some being highly important because they deal with critical survival. In other words, the probability that your ex boyfriend is going to peek at your profile at some point post breakup is high. In other words, if we want to get featured anywhere popular she is in charge of making that happen.
You can potentially make your ex boyfriend one of those men and show him what he is missing out on by posting strategic pictures on your social media profiles. Here is my general rule of thumb, any picture that makes you look like you belong in a magazine is definitely the one you should have as your profile picture. Now, for those of you who don’t want to step outside the comfort zone and hire a photographer I have one piece of advice to you. I want this exact thing to unfold for you when your ex boyfriend snoops around your profile. To me, teaching people to get back with their exes is my passion and in order for me to give people advice I need to understand the trends. However, when it comes to making him miss you there are a lot of things you can do that will improve your chances. The plan was that we were going to meet there and we would probably go for a walk after that. During your no contact period (which is when you should probably be in the Frank Sinatra mindset) make sure you don’t focus on your ex too much.
It is important to remember that the two of you broke up and while you may want him back you need to understand that rome was not built in a day and you won’t get him back in a day.
She had posted pictures of her having fun with friends and basically having a really fun social life. Notice how in the example below you didn’t specify if your movie date was with a male or a female.
I am going to be attempting to explain everything I know about how men react to the no contact rule. Some of the things I talk about may be hard for you to hear but at it’s core it will come from a place of truth. I mean, if I told you that you would get a 100% success recovery rate if all you had to do was make it through 30 days without contacting your ex there would still be some women who would fail at not contacting their ex.


Any woman who implements a no contact rule is uncertain about what is going on in her exes mind.
Everyone knows that at a basic level and yet it is the aftertaste that compels us all to keep eating them. I mean, here you are reading this far down the page because you are hungry for another relationship with your ex.
In this section I am going to outline each of the ways and give an in-depth explanation for what is going on in his head during the reaction. I remember when I first created this site I really thought that women who implemented the no contact rule would see this particular reaction from men but the truth is that not as many men have this reaction as I thought.
So, when I send you a text message and you don’t respond to it I am going to start to get agitated. In fact, I remember the very first day of the breakup I convinced myself that life was better and for a while it was. It’s this weird reality that an ex will create for himself during the no contact rule to tell himself that life is better without you but deep down all he really wants is to talk to you. Here is where the main difference will come into play, instead of me ignoring you (but wanting to hear from you) I am going to be ignoring you out of anger.
This is an important nugget of knowledge to grasp for this reaction because it really goes down to the core of why an ex may potentially ignore you out of spit.
Anyone who frantically calls you definitely has an interest in you (or at least wants to know what you think.) So, while they may take your ignoring personally you have to wonder if deep down (beyond that anger) they still really want to hear from you. Well, I want to make it clear that just because someone is a stubborn person that doesn’t mean that it is impossible to change their mind.
It is a really warped way of looking at things, I’ll admit, but you wanted to know about mens minds right? Every time I talk to a woman that I am dating or a woman I am interested in I look at every single interaction as a power struggle.
Men like this tend to be socially awkward or don’t really sense that anything is wrong. This feeling that they get will create a range of emotions and eventually (sometimes subconsciously) show them how much their ex significant other really means to them.
Before we can answer that we need to study the psychology behind someone with a clueless reaction. Post-breakup is when you are at your emotional peak and while emotions can be good sometimes in this case you are probably too emotional to talk to your ex.
In this section we are going to be covering the range of emotions that will be going through an exes head who feels too scared to even make a move.
I really want to do a good job explaining this so I am just going to cut right to the chase. Instead of frantically calling at the beginning of the no contact rule an ex who has this reaction will call just a few times during the middle of the no contact rule. Your ex is clueless about the whole situation and has no idea that you are doing a no contact rule on him. He may have a little bit of stubbornness in him in that he won’t want to be the first one to contact you. Firstly, he is thinking about you a lot which we can assume means that he still has some deep emotional feelings for you. I just wanted to know, if he tries to contact me a few times and I ignore him, what do I then do when the 30 days are up?
And tried to be strong and not contact him, but failed and sent him 2 angry long text messages and received nothing in response.
In essence, I suppose it can be argued that this guide is all about improving your chances of making an ex want you back which is what almost everyone on this site wants.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Heck, a lot of people have already succeeded in trying to get their exes back through my guides. Of course, as I predicted above most of the men that chimed in said that they didn’t. Now, obviously if a breakup occurs the number that you were given has fallen below a satisfactory level.
We are always obsessed with getting the newest things and sometimes that carries over into our relationships.
One thing that I constantly notice about these type of women is the fact that have more in their life than men. So, while you have hope alive you don’t want to be caught in limbo land so you start doing things to kind of move on.
The point of this exercise isn’t to tell you that you have no hope or anything morbid like that. Every single one who has done this successfully (that I have heard back from) has always said to me that their ex started chasing them again.
I am still a fan of the 30 day no contact period so if it is within your power to complete one I would say to complete it.
Instead of walking home depressed and with his tail between his legs, you sweeping the rug out from under his feet will create this sense that he lost something and this sense makes a man realize how much he really liked you in the first place. When the two of you were first dating he was probably on the edge of his seat for every text response.
With this in mind you are going to have accept that fact that you may have to make some major changes and put in some major work. I can’t promise that you will succeed but I can promise to raise your chances substantially.
After a while I started to become hyper aware of these trends that women do during interactions that work almost every single time. The reason I did this as opposed to using one where the two of us are imaginary exes is that I want you to grasp the concept first. In other words, your ex boyfriend is almost expecting you to become annoying and beg him to take you back at some point. You want him to wake up the next day and be checking his phone every five seconds hoping that you will text him. So, the day after your initial first communication (which wasn’t supposed to last all that long) I want you to enter into a full no contact mode for a day.
Now, you have waited 30 days for this moment and now that it is finally here you just let loose and we talk all day long. Well, the fishing analogy holds true to what you are going to be trying to do with daydream bait. Me and him are both going to prom with different people and I just miss him so much and I want to be with him again but idk if I should wait till after prom before I contact him or try to talk to him more before prom so we can hangout there. But eventually it got to the point where the love he gave to me was vanishing and I became very needy and sad. He texted twice in these two months saying that I shouldn’t keep thinking about it and that I should move on in life, because he wants to see me happy.
Lately we’ve been fighting over everything and one day the fight was large and he told me the doesnt love me like before and he wants to break up. You see, as a man I can tell you that, as weird as this is going to sound, I like a woman to be a little clingy or needy.
On top of that you would literally get angry if I wouldn’t respond immediately to your texts. However, if you have become so clingy or controlling that you literally have to go with them from room to room then that is a big issue. So, when you think back to you and your exes fights what was it about you that he was complaining about that could be classified as clingy.
As a result, when a breakup occurs they almost expect that YOU are going to be the one that contacts them first begging for a second chance.
So, rather than getting overly jealous I am always telling myself that I am setting such a high standard that no other man can compare. The break up struck me as a surprise because a few months before that he was telling me how he’d marry me. There are still a lot of things you can do to improve your chances of getting your boyfriend back.
The second thing is pretty self explanatory but lets take a moment to focus on what you can do physically to become an uber hottie! So, from this point on I am going to be defining how your Facebook profile should look like to him when he comes stopping by.
I want your profile to not only make your ex go “WOW” but I want other guys to give you the attention you deserve! Let this be a lesson, women who went the extra mile with their profile picture will catch a mans attention.
In fact, when I was pre-writing this page I almost skipped the cover photo section because I thought it was insignificant. Now, most women I speak with think that Rick will read their wall, see if they are single or see how many guys are commenting on their status updates.
I want you to look amazing in all of your pictures so by the time your ex comes around his jaw will literally hit the floor.
Well, I am one of the few men that could actually tell you that because I deal with so many women on a daily basis.
Think about that for a second, I went out searching for women that I straight up found attractive and each one looked like they were having a blast in their photos with friends.
He continued the joking around and then I asked him what is with all of the mix messages lately? The keyword there being SIGNIFICANTLY and before you get all argumentative I have seen the tactics outlined on this page work time and time again. It is such a complicated process that even the 10,000 words on this page can’t cover everything you need to know.
Yea well, I only took a look at credible sources and every one and I mean EVERY SINGLE ONE recommends the no contact rule. You are constantly complimenting him and giving him acknowledgment that he is wanted by you.
Again, I want to reiterate this point- don’t assume that the reason your ex gave you for the break up is really why they broke up with you. You may have to put in some extra work here but trust me when I say that your physical appearance is easier to improve than your personality so don’t let his thoughts get to you.
The last thing they want is to hurt you so they will just break up with you and give you some general reason. Trust me, your going to have to do a lot of work, perhaps more than the women who were dumped. First off, your boyfriend surely will feel worried about incurring your wrath whenever they want to do something.
I would say think very carefully if this person is worth getting in a relationship with again.
Make sure that you are very serious about wanting to get back with this person before you keep reading.
No, you are going to work towards your goal of a new and better relationship by focusing on the one thing you can control, yourself! Honestly, I am getting excited here because this is where you start taking the first steps of getting your ex boyfriend back. The first thought I have of our encounter will be based on the choices that you made during the 30 day no contact period. I was dating a girl and after we broke up I happened to run into her at a Starbucks and even though we had a short friendly conversation I couldn’t take my eyes off of her because she just looked so gorgeous. However, even if you are a workout fanatic don’t let your breakup change that side of you. This section is going to be all about how to get through your breakup and heal emotionally. Remember, focusing on work in this particular case should be used to take your mind of your ex boyfriend. Don’t worry though because I am going to go through every single step in a very-in depth manner.
Every single relationship is unique and may require unique steps that I haven’t outlined.
How you approach this first contact message is almost as important as the text messages later in this process. Your best bet in these situations is to simply not respond at all and understand that your ex is still processing their emotions.
If your relationship was brief then this part of engaging your ex may be a little bit more challenging.
For the sake of this page lets say that me and my ex had an experience where we were watching a football game outdoors and it was really cold. Everything seemed to be going fine until you hit your first road block with a negative response. Nevertheless, if you get a response like this you just have to be polite, positive and collected. Some of you may not agree with this but everywhere I researched said that using your ex boyfriends jealousy to your advantage is one of the most powerful things you can do. I am recommending that you drop certain hints in your communication with your ex boyfriend that you are out meeting new people.
One thing that always made me a bit jealous (even though I never voice it) was when a girl I felt really strongly about has a bunch of pictures with a bunch of different guys on her Facebook profile.
Knowing when to slip them in will depend on your gut feeling and the context of the conversation you are having. Your ex boyfriend might not be as receptive to meeting you somewhere extravagant and out of his way.
The obvious advantage to this is that he has time to clear his schedule and make time for you ;). Oh, and it also helps that I am a male myself so I kind of know what I am talking about ;). I want to give you a few steps going forward that you can implement to improve your chances of getting him to speak to you. Men can sense desperation and your desperate activities are the equivalent to blood in the water for a shark. Given a choice between someone texting too much vs someone calling too much I would always choose texting too much. Now, if she had tried a different approach she would have had him on his hands and knees begging for her back (I know my buddy, trust me it is possible.) However, she tried the desperate approach and this is what happens when you go full on desperate, you get laughed at behind your back. Anyways, I didn’t like the way the relationship was going so I ended up ignoring my girlfriend for an entire day.
Essentially how this works is that your ex boyfriend is using the no contact rule on you on purpose. I have a buddy whose wife actually cheated on him eight different times with eight different men.
If a woman did any of the following things to me I would seriously consider cutting her out of my life.
First off, remember way back when I talked about how desperate women are the number one turnoff that makes men ignore their exes? By essentially implementing a no contact rule you can get him to scramble for your approval instead. If you have successfully completed the no contact rule for thirty days then you are going to go on the offensive again but this time you are going to do it my way. Initially, when you send this text message out you aren’t going to get a positive response right off the bat.
If he does respond then you are going to take out a stopwatch or phone and wait between 30-60 minutes. It is the equivalent to having an audience on the edge of their seat waiting to find out what happens next. The second month he became a little distant and shared he was afraid he was falling into the same pattern and wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. We met about a year ago when we started working together and I liked pretty much from the first time we talked and I’m thinking it was the same for him. Back in January, we stopped talking for a month which was the longest we hadn’t talked in two years. I do not know what to do, I want to talk to him but at the same time the whole situation I’m lost. I became messed up and finally my bf , after having a nice and quiet day staying in, and spending time with me, left the house and in 2 hours texted me and broke up!!! That 10,000 word guide detailed a step by step process that helped women get their ex boyfriends back. It is essentially a bible of text messages that you can use during the texting phase of getting your ex boyfriend back.
Now, I am pretty good at making complicated subjects easy to understand so I promise you that you will understand everything in this guide.
I created this section in the guide because I feel that sometimes going after an ex boyfriend isn’t always going to benefit you in the end and I want to help you determine which situations are like that. In other words, that means for 30 days you can’t call, text or respond to your ex at all. You have 21-30 days of time to do something about it so don’t just sit there and waste that time. However, once you got to know him you learned that all he seemed to talk about were his muscles. The only reason I researched tactics there was to find stuff that I could use to help YOU to get your ex back.
When I watch a movie that I really like there are certain phrases or quotes that stick with me for life. Every time they talk to someone you take note of it and every time they do something it affects you. The idea is to make him think back to the days where he didn’t have you and make him realize how miserable he was without you in his life. Now you have to come up with a compelling story that will cause your ex boyfriend to respond to you. The key to sending a successful meme message has to be the fact that the meme has to be funny.
Just saying something general like I did in the message above with the boardwalk is enough. The thing that you have to understand about emotional messages when you are dealing with your ex is that they can’t bring up negative memories. The idea here is to get him to associate the good feelings he gets when he thinks back to those memories with you. Even though I know logically that she may be busy and get back to me later the emotion of initial rejection always kind of hurts.
Unfortunately, I have reached my limit on typing as this guide is already close to 10,000 words.
Everything that I write about on this site is something that I pour my heart and soul into. I would like to introduce you to my complete guide on how to regain an ex boyfriends trust.
My E-Book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO will pretty much teach you everything you need to do to get your boyfriend back. I honestly think that if that happened to me I would be able to forgive a girlfriend for it BUT it would take some time and I would hold it against her for a long while… maybe forever. You may think that the mistake you made hurt them and maybe it did but I think there is more to the pain. So, when a woman actually does something hurtful to them instead of forgiving her down the road they hold it against her to punish her.
So, if you read through this and are unable to find a situation that lines up perfectly with what you are experiencing don’t freak out. That number will dictate how hard it will be to get your ex boyfriends trust back if you committed that particular mistake. As you can see from the title of this section I assigned the cheating by sleeping with someone an MPI rating of 5. It is in a mans nature to find as many partners as possible and ensure the survival of the human race. Even with the introduction of birth control this evolutionary feeling of being pregnant is in the back of the head of every woman. Of course, the initial obsession that both the man and woman feel will eventually die down.
It is up to you to show them that being with you is in their best interest and you know how you are supposed to do that? Trust is something that is earned over time so you are going to have to really put in the work to earn it. Imagine if I checked up on you one day and learned that you were always hanging out around other guys. Of course, if you are a no contact period for 30 full days your ex boyfriend is likely to get very angry at you if you keep ignoring his messages during that 30 days.
Well, this whole site is full of information on getting on good terms with your ex so do some digging. So, the main goal in this section is going to be to find a way to make your ex boyfriend believe you when you talk to him about anything serious. Most of us are still under the impression that all women want is to hear what they want to hear. So, he is going to associate the honesty of the conversation you are having with good feelings and that is an excellent thing.
When I would sit down with the owners and explain to them what needed to change they would generally try their best to change and maybe things did change..
What you need to realize is that being with someone who actually wants to be with you is a far greater reward than being with someone who you controlled to be with you.. You aren’t the person that he thought you were and this is good because the person he thought you were was controlling. Somewhere within this conversation you are going to ask him what he is doing tonight and then you are going to suggest an activity that you may not have been ok with during your relationship. If he was not looking good at a particular day you wouldn’t say he’s ugly straight to his face right? Basically, you have to be honest with almost everything you say and do and convey it in a loving and patient way.
1st time I lied about a stupid issue cz I didn’t want to upset him and he forgave me after. I told the same lies to others to gain the same effect, acceptance via someone feeling sorry for me.
He says he is failing at moving past what I have done, and wishes he could, but is not sure how.
You have to heal yourself from your guilt and the person you hurt will often not be able to see how the situation is hurting you too. So, that puts you in a pretty good place because many of you will find that it’s not going to take too much to get him to miss you.
A few weeks ago I compiled all of my recorded success stories to try to determine any correlations that I could find between what the people who had actually won their exes back were doing that the people who were failing weren’t. Stephen Worchel (2004) suggested that these freedoms help define the individual’s self-identity. But lets take a trip to fantasy land (your favorite place in the world) and say that you successfully get your ex back. I am saying that this tactic (getting in shape) will be beneficial to you in not only making your ex boyfriend miss you but it will be beneficial in helping you with future relationships (if you have them.) How effective is this tactic? You basically leave it up to your ex to assume if you went to see a romantic movie with a guy or a girl. If you aren’t familiar with my website then let me give you a quick breakdown of what I am all about. In fact, if you are a constant reader of this site then you won’t have to look very far either. Now, while you are reading about each reaction I want you to keep in mind that I will be referencing the aftertaste effect a lot. While it may take a while I will finally get the hint and stop calling which will lead me to ignore you completely.
My actions here, once NC was done by you was to spam you with text messages and phone calls. It wasn’t nasty from her end it was nasty from my end and I think it all came down to the insecurity I felt from being alone. I had this feeling of being free but eventually the breakup caught up with me and I had to create this fake reality for myself where I did my best to put on this facade that I was great when deep down all I wanted was to talk to my ex.
However, there will always be a certain portion of men that REALLY don’t like being ignored.
You need to know when you have to be logical and you need to know when you have to be emotional. And how its almost been 3 weeks since the breakup, but only been a solid week since you tried not contacting him.
However, as time went on I found that people wanted more and more of these step by step guides. Now, maybe when you were planning the breakup of your relationship in your head you thought it would be a good idea. It is only until he goes out into the world and experiences the horror that is other women (who are not you) that he will finally realize what a mistake he made. It isn’t impossible that a long lasting relationship can become boring and sometimes if a guy feels like this he may want something new.
Look, I totally have your back when it comes to getting him back or making him regret letting you go. You see, more often than not these type of women really want to feel loved by a man but their whole life doesn’t revolve around that principle.
The point of this is to put you in a position where you have an opportunity to reignite a connection and the best way to do that is to show your ex that your world doesn’t revolve around him. For example, if I were to be invited to a party and meet a very pretty girl I am sure that I would like her within minutes. However, somewhere along the way it changed and he started getting annoyed with all the attention he was getting.
While the texting between the two of us commences we are going to have a long conversation. So, when he sees that the opposite is happening, you ignoring him, he begins to get antsy and may even want you to message him a little bit. I miss him so much I get sick to my stomach and cry myself to sleep I really don’t know what to do. I would always mention how things were different and he apologized and said he would work on it better.
T was cousins with a guy I had an one night stand with so I thought it would be weird is I had a relationship with T and I didn’t try anything. The first 1 month, there was no contact between us but he felt that I want him back from my posts on facebook and told my friends that he doesnt want me back. I liked that you wanted to be around me all the time and I also liked that you texted me a lot.
I have heard stories of exes getting family members phones to get a hold of you, showing up at doorsteps and even spamming your FACEBOOK!
That is really the most powerful thing that Facebook can do for you, paint you in the best light possible. The big thing I began to realize right off the bat was how important it is for you to take a close up of your face.
However, my mind changed when I logged on to Facebook and started screening my women friends. The only missing component for her was that she didn’t find a way to make her great cover photo and her profile picture to work together.
However, I can tell you that if you use Facebook for jealousy in a tasteful and smart way the results can be tremendous. It was because of the long distance relationship since he lives in UK and I live in Singapore. It isn’t necessarily a fast process but there is proof out there to back up the claims being made.
I have been running this site for quite some time and get an incredible amount of emails and comments every single day. This may sound a bit mean but you are going to have to be completely honest with yourself and possibly look at things that may make you uncomfortable.
Personally, cheating to me is a big no no and I don’t think I could forgive that so easily. Careful though, don’t let them talk you into calling him before the no contact period is up.
The second your ex boyfriend picks up (if he even picks up) you have to be on your toes and there is a lot that can go wrong.
To make matters more complicated you can’t get into a full blown conversation with him yet. It doesn’t necessarily mean that all hope is lost it just means you may need to be more patient and try again in a week or so.
However, that doesn’t mean anything bad it just means you might have to get more creative. This just means you misread the situation and you moved a little to fast to start bringing up your relationship.
The obvious disadvantage is that you are laying a lot of your cards on the table and rejection will certainly hurt your feelings.
I suggest getting coffee at Starbucks with chairs and couches where the two of you can just sit and talk. The key is to just do something that the two of you will both enjoy where you can have fun and talk. Essentially, this is a person who texts multiple times, even though they don’t get a response. However, when I get too much attention from them (in the form of texting) it becomes a complete turnoff.
I understand that women are emotional by nature but when you show that much desperation, guys begin to get really scary thoughts.
Unfortunately, a lot of times what happens is when you get a girl who sends a lot of unanswered texts that leads to her calling way too much.
One way that exes know they can get under your skin is to simply ignore you for a couple of days. I didn’t do it because I needed a break or a refresh, which I think would be ok, I did it from a place of anger to punish my girlfriend. It is one of those rare cases where you kind of want him back and he kind of wants you back. So, this is one case where I am the exception to the rule and my insight kind of suffers because of it. I like to tell my visitors that any text you send him has to be so interesting that it would be impossible for him to ignore it.
I was always honnest with him saying that I wanted a serious relayionship and that I wanted to have children.
A few days later I texted asking him again how he was and since then he never replied , it has been nearly 4 weeks .
He had a girlfriend at the time but after about 3 months of knowing each other, he kissed me.
Before that happened I was always complaining about him not having enough time for me for months because of his job. If you absorbed the information and knew exactly what to do to raise your chances of getting your ex back you still might fail because YOU failed to put the information into practice.
However, it is also going to give you a chance to work on yourself and get your mind in the right place.
Early within that no contact period (lets say around day 6) I start to send you a lot of text messages asking you where you are. Use this time to get in the best shape of your life because you know what, things are going to start falling into place for you if you do so.
By the end of the book the boy has grown into an old man and the tree is nothing but a stump. In the movie Inception there is a certain phrase that Leonardo DiCaprio’s character mutters that I still think about today. Oh, and if he does respond to a message like this you aren’t supposed to respond to him.
So, as you can see every step in this process is meant to get you that date so you can get him back. It isn’t something that you cant just manufacture overnight with a few text messages. Second, you can use priming as a way to test to see if he is ready to advance to emotional things.
I want your ex to put himself back in time where he was when this emotional memory occurred.
I am a fan of giving someone a warning before you call that way they can prepare themselves. I am dedicated into making Ex Boyfriend Recovery THE premier ex boyfriend site in the entire world. Probably the coolest thing about the E-Book is the fact that it will guide you through what to do STEP BY STEP! As a way to regain that control I am going to use your past mistakes as a bargaining chip to not only give you a massive guilt trip but as a way of making myself feel better, a way of gaining more control over you. Once we start getting into the actual ways in which you can work on regaining your exes trust you are going to learn that the tactics I teach can be applied in almost every situation. Now, if somewhere down the road you find out that I lied to you it is probably going to hurt your feelings and you may doubt if I am telling the truth from that point on. For arguments sake lets say that the mans feelings start to normalize but the woman still feels the initial obsession. If you are too controlling to a man like this you will probably wind up with a 3 on the MPI scale. The reason for this is that I have combined the two types of cheating that I discuss above into one. He will call you names, say hurtful things and probably not want to talk to you again for a long time.
To make matters worse any time I checked your Facebook account I would see you out with with other guys.
He definitely won’t think that you only have eyes for him if he sees you eying other guys.
Keep working on you and how you can be a better partner (not just brutal honesty, but your appearance, your level of support for them, and your compassion for them). This brings about doubt, and it will bring everything back to the surface again … which takes you on an emotional roller coaster as you so desperately want to be forgiven and move forward.
They believe they were hurt, and don’t know that your heart is aching for the hurt you caused them that you want to fix so badly. It gives both of you a “cool off period” to calm down from the breakup, it gives you the opportunity to improve yourself during the “cool off period” and it raises the chances that he will miss you. Her active social life made me realize what I was missing out on and made me a little jealous and angry that she wasn’t as devastated. Of course, if you are going to use jealousy on your ex boyfriend it has to be done a specific way. To be more specific, you can’t talk, text or respond to any type of communication from him.
This puts YOU in a very unique position because I am spreading all of our dirty little secrets. Personally, the more I care about someone the more I care about getting a response to a text message. However, the more you send attention my way the less likely I am to give you that attention back.
Obviously, this is not what you want to have happen but the fact of the matter is that some men will react this way to the no contact rule. I would say that there is a 95% chance that your ex boyfriend is NOT going to have this reaction. If you can find the perfect combination between the two (remaining logical while using your emotions to tap into your exes emotions) you have a really good chance to get your ex boyfriend back. If I broke up with you under those pretenses then the chances are high that I left the relationship with a really bad taste in my mouth. Maybe you thought that you would spend all of your time with your best friends hopping from bar to bar meeting new girl after new girl. It is a period of complete silence where you don’t talk or respond to your ex in any way shape or form.
Now, that doesn’t mean I am going to date her because I am smart enough to know that there is more to a relationship than just sheer looks. Eventually I said we needed a break to breathe and figure things out which he disagreed and said we could work it out. But all of a sudden, one day he called to tell me he slept with someone and hence not sure of his feelings towards me. He keeps posting on social media hinting that he misses what we had but I am not sure if he is really sincere. When I knew I stopped my posts on facebook and deleted our pictures and deleted his number from my whatsapp so I show him that I dont care.
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So, if a lot of the attractive women I chose did something then you should probably do it too. The thing that caught my eye the most was women who had the confidence to look at the camera for a close up. I don’t care how nice a guy is, somewhere, deep down, he is thinking shallow thoughts. He saw the first picture she had to offer in her album and it did not paint her in the best light.
Each person wants me to give them a detailed step by step plan that they can follow to get their ex back. Every time you have a good experience or something of that nature you are putting money into the account. A lot of times women make the mistake of picking up right where they left off whenever they do get their ex back. The further away from the breakup your ex gets the more nostalgic he will become about your relationship. So, from this point on I am just going to be focusing on that method and the best practices using it.
So, if your gut is telling you that a particular tactic I have outlined won’t work for you I would definitely trust it. Because, if you screw this part up you can kiss your chances of getting your boyfriend back goodbye. This is simply a small baby step that you are using to test the waters and gauge where you are at. If your ex boyfriend would get jealous every time you would talk to another man or every time you went out then I would say you should really revisit your thinking on getting back together with him. Do you think you will get very far if you rub the fact that you are out and about with other guys? More specifically, setting up a date with your ex boyfriend for the first time since your break up.
I took the liberty of locating a text gnat for you so you can better understand what I am talking about here.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? However, if someone were to give me all the cheat codes to the game it no longer becomes as fun.
Now, I do want to point out that this is essentially the same thing I recommend doing with the no contact rule.
In the end, I think he was just confused about what he wanted and he stuck with his girlfriend. I broke the ice sending him a picture of something i knew he liked and telling him i thought he might like it.
During the past year we were on the rocks for almost like 40percent of time; and we lived in the same house. I want you to become someone so incredible that not only can your ex boyfriend NOT resist you but pretty much every other man on the face of the earth too. This can become dangerous because that obsessiveness can evolve into possessiveness and that is not a healthy place to be. Remember, lying is what got you in trouble in the first place so you need to take the opposite approach here and just be honest with him.
I know that it took my boyfriend finding out to stop this very bad behavior I had developed at some point (likely after my first marriage, in which I was involved with a much older man that was a petafile.). In the end, we agreed to disagree but I think this little anecdote proves an interesting point. There are a complex range of emotions that go on here so I am going to be dividing this overall category into multiple sections. When I read the comments and inquiries I get from readers every day I feel bad for some of the women I communicate with. I bet that the girl that I am talking to is getting the shakes because she is afraid of what I think about her. If that was the case, then I probably will not want to contact you during the no contact period. Also I have blocked him on all social media except facebook (I unfriended him though so he cant see my stuff) so the only way he can really contact me is by text.
But then after another 2 phone calls over the next few days he seemed more and more confused and more into hanging out with his friends and his friends are not good influences. So, every interaction I have with her after the initial meeting is going to shape my perception of her.
I did this for 3 weeks after that he called me because he knew that my father is in hospital so I sounded cool. I know that is a horrible thing to say BUT if you truly want to get your ex boyfriend back this is something you absolutely need to understand.
Of course, it is like hitting gold when you click on a girl who has a tastefully done profile picture and her cover photo reflects really positively on her. However, not only did she miss on her profile picture but the cover photo made her profile unattractive to look at. Nevertheless, I don’t think it was a mistake that I found women attractive who all looked like they had active social lives.
The only time I deviated from the positive and I’m enjoying life social updates was when I asked for advice on a subject at uni. The fact of the matter is that it is such a complex process that I really can’t give you everything you need in a post, email, comment or Facebook chat. However, every time you have an argument or a fight you are taking money out of the account. Every expert (myself included) seems to have a different opinion on the method you should use for contacting an ex. However, I would say the biggest advantage to text messaging would be the fact that you can take your time and think everything through. The main takeaway here is that you are going to have to get creative and sometimes even skip entire skips depending on how fast you are moving. Honestly, the dates I have enjoyed the most wasn’t anything super romantic it was just when I was enjoying the company of someone else and walking around. Sure, it may be a little fun at first but eventually when the cheat codes make it that easy to complete I will lose interest. If you acted desperate your ex would have gotten into the routine of ignoring you because you were desperate.
He helped me with a fundraiser I was putting on and was so helpful and supportive, over the summer we’d see each other or text every week.
I tried not to be needy and I did good for a while but he never gives me answers to any of my questions and he rarely replies to me.
The once a week call would nor even reach 1 hour because he’s tired and had to work overtime. So after we have been apart for three months due to some administrative paper work that he needed to take care of, he came back to me so awkwardly, full of complexes and saying stuff from here and ther..
That when people break up they don’t get back together because that was the way the world worked. Remember, the goal of becoming the ungettable girl isn’t to just please your ex boyfriend. It is something that requires discipline and patience and even though I am about to show you exactly what you need to do to build attraction I am positive that 90% of the women reading this will fall victim to their own emotions and desires and fail to do things correctly.
When we begin dating for the second time you are under the impression that I have forgiven you for all your mistakes but deep down I have not. I work very hard to gain that kind of trust from women so when they try to control me it really upsets me. Anyway, long story short I bought the car and he said he would help me pay the taxes when they were due totaling $1500.00. But, if the topic comes up again (which begins when something triggers his disbelief) it rips my heart out. If after nc he responds well, then build rapport and attraction through texts and calls so that trip will be like your meet up stage. He began telling people I tried to change him and that it was an unhealthy relationship, and after we got together to give each others stuff back he seemed completely uninterested in me. He added me on Facebook and we talked there a few times, we met again without arraging it though and we teased each other.
Rather than rambling on and on I am going to give you an example of what I considered a bad cover photo and a good one. The key thing here is to have more green deposits than red withdrawals in your relationship bank account.
Some recommend writing a get your boyfriend back letter, some say you should give them a call and some even say you should text. There is a subtle art to incorporating jealousy texts into your conversations and I am going to teach you that art.
The key is to be really subtle about it but trust me if your man has a Facebook I promise you he will check your profile from time to time. The truth of the matter is that if you played pretty close to the game plan I laid out for you, your ex boyfriend will probably have suggested to meet up IN PERSON by now. If I am in that kind of mood then trust me, you aren’t going to get me to talk on the phone.
When you do something like the no contact rule you really don’t want to ignore your ex boyfriend, you want to give him time to calm down and also improve yourself in the process. So, when you stop acting desperate he is going to perk his head up and try to sniff out the reason why you stopped being desperate.
The end of summer he dropped away and when I reached out he didn’t respond then at an event he ignored me all day. We started talking again and then slowly started flirting again (really, the attraction has always been mutual and there) and became pretty close. Last week I ended up losing it and sent too many texts which led him to say that I’m cut off but I called 5 days later and he answered. I saw him a couple of weeks ago (by accident) and we exchanged a couple of words and he seemed friendly and interested in my life.
In fact, I am holding your mistakes against you the entire time we are together in our new relationship.
I know I was wrong and I feel terrible about it, but I was honestly scared to tell him the truth (I did not cheat on him). Anyways, this girl had a very pretty face but I am not afraid to say that she was a little… chubby and for me it took away from her looks. So, maybe the next day I decide to send you a text to say hello hoping to have another amazing deep and insightful conversation.
I reached out One last time and he said he was leaving town for a month and to have a good rest of summer.
I called once everyday for three days and on the third day he just didn’t seem interested in calling so I lost it again and called many times. The day after I texted him again just to see how he was and I was getting pretty neutral responses. That situation made me texted him and asked him if it could be possible to meet to catch up and he answered he is out of town and when he comes back he’ll be busy.
I am not only holding them against you because I am hurt I am also holding them against you as a way to control you.
Well, he knew that was a lie because our phones vibrate once for a mail and twice for a text so he knew it was a text before he even asked.
And so we talked on the phone, got everything out and he genuinely seemed like we would be together again. After I am done with my initial rant I decide to log onto Facebook to see if you are still alive. He told me he didn’t have an answer yet, and he said he would be able to talk to me in a month or so when he has a weekend off. Fall came around and I needed closure so I wrote him an email sharing my thoughts and how I had feelings that whole time. I asked him if everything was okay with us and he told me that yes and that hes good but that he texted me on this day and never got a response so he wasn’t sure. We discussed in June that I did not have the money and he said he could help me with half of the money.
I know it will take me a VERY long time to regain his trust and I am willing to work extremely hard on that to get him back. I don’t want him to walk away because he cannot move past this, and I want to be patient, loving and honest to gain back his trust.
Its only really been a little over a week since I last tried to contact him, but almost 3 weeks since our breakup. Suddenly prom tickets were going to be on sale and he said he didn’t know if he wanted to go with me because everything was confusing right now. I asked me what situation we were in, and he said I wanted to take a break, so we were taking a break. A couple of days after I accidentally found out that he has a facebook account without my knowledge when I installed facebook messenger but when I asked him about it, he simply changed his account name and privacy setting. I kept listening and he confessed that he was worried and it is time for me to consider my future options to settle down, cuz of my age, and he is not ready to do so ( i never ever mentioned getting serrious even in future). In late August he began paying me 100.00 per week from his business because I took care of all billing, phone calls, post office errands etc. At the same time, I was thankful that it was out in the open and I could move past the behavior finally.
You can only hope the person has grace like God, in that, they can give you a chance to be a better person and love you with open arms.
He told me I should go with my friends because he thinks I would have a better time with them and he said he wasn’t sure if he was going to go but if he did he would ask another girl.
Honestly, I think he only uses messenger on his phone so he won’t see my Facebook at all.
A month passed by and he didn’t contact me, so I emailed him saying that I was done waiting for his answer that never came.
We talked for maybe half the day but I feel like I was the one trying to keep the conversation alive. In fact, now I feel very close to him because I am so honest with him and have really let him into my life (like I should have from day one).
Just know, if (and I mean if) you can gain their trust again, you cannot never ever, ever lie again.
He too said he was sad And that it was possible he was going to wake up and realize he made s big mistake but at that moment he could not give me the certainty that I wanted to be able to continue. Oh, I did that because he was constantly posting things on Facebook, so I knew he had free time. My tags expired on my car at the end of August and I would have been driving on expired fictitious tags had they not gotten paid. He said nothing about it besides why I didn’t tell him earlier and a few days later we were at a bar each one on his own and he texted me to say he liked me too but he was scared of the distance (because I was leaving) because he just got out of a long distance relationship at the start of the summer. Then I said sorry and brought up the facebook thing saying that he must be hiding something from me. I got so upset because I would be there with my friends while he would be with his date and it made me so mad.
One who is more my contact but has ended our friendship (glad it’s over to be honest. A senior boy then asked me to prom and i said yes because one it would make him jealous and two I would have sometime to take nice pics with and just have a good time with a friend. Very poisonous relationship) and the other who is his friend and I only speak 5 words to every week due to classes.
He got extremely upset when he found out she had a new boyfriend so I thought I should back off a little. And two weeks after I sent him a message about something that remind me of him, and I asked him if this is really what he wanted.
When my ex found out about the senior he deleted all our pictures except for one from prom last year and unfollowed me on Instagram and Twitter. So its not like I can use them to sneakingly send him information or even fathom them sending information to him. Then after 2 months he started to get so close to his girl best friend which is a close friend of mine, and she is 33!! It literally broke me because I feel like there is no way of getting back together because he unfollowed me. I’ve got 8 more days left of no contact and am feeling so much better than I was 3 weeks ago. He said that I didn’t make an effort and I never made a move on any of the hints he was giving me. But once i brought the issue to my friend to help me realizing the situation by giving some time to me and take one step back so that i can understand my feelings for the whole situation( i have been under deppression for arround 6 months), i wanted to prevent complications by missjudging the stuff. I texted him the other day (it’s been like 3 weeks since the breakup) just to ask how baseball was going and he responded within 30 seconds and sent long paragraphs about it and asked me how track was going. The convo lasted 30 minutes and I told him I had to go to bed and I’d see him the next day. I got back for Christmas and a friend that was his friend too told him he was about to make a move.
I was so worried about how he was feeling and giving him space that I never thought about voicing what I wanted.
Nothing crazy, just the kind of upset you’d be when you find out someone you really wanted to be with is with someone else because you were too afraid to make a move.
And I’ve been going out more than usual with my friends and having a great time with them but I have moments where I just get sad and miss him so much.
We texted all day long and we met once outside his house for a quick kiss because he just came from work.
He told me that if I thought it was unfair that I should’ve done something about it and that I needed to be an adult and accept it. I just want to end this but I’m not sure if writing a break up letter would be the best thing to do. I told him to come with me and my friends for coffee but he was already out so we said to meet up later.
I’ve went by work a couple of times and just tried to have a casual conversation and it was the worst. He didn’t answer the next day when I called him to meet up and discuss this so I went to find him.
I asked him to tell me why he did this and he said I didn’t deserve to know because I spoke to him badly. When I asked him why he did kiss me if he wasn’t sure about it he said that he wanted to be sure and now he is. I helped him through a lot, was there listening to his problems, helped him get someone to talk to. After one more time I accidently saw him we didn’t see each other or talked to each other for about a month and a half. I think maybe part of it is that he still has feelings for me, that doesn’t go away after two weeks. About two weeks ago I went to the hospital and when he learned about it from a common friend he showed he cared about me for the first time, not to me though, to our friend. Now I’m in my home town for the holidays and I walked by his shop a couple of days ago with some friends.
We stopped a little further to take something to eat and we saw him crossinf the street twice looking our way. Later I found out from my best friend that happens to be sisters with his best friend that her sister asked her a lot all that time when I was going to go to my home town and that means he asked. Even though I am still in love with him I don’t want him back right now but eventually I will, I just want him to realise he did wrong and what he lost and come back begging. My bff told me to be friendly but not to much, distant but not mean and not to show my feelings to him.
She says that when I meet him I should said hi and even talk to him a little, just the basics.



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