But what does she really mean when she says she wants space?Do You Even Have a Chance of Getting Your Ex Back? When a woman goes through a breakup, when it’s fresh, how many of those 12,000 thoughts a day are dedicated to thinking about the person she broke up with? Speaking from experience, people can get a little obsessive when it comes to their breakups and it causes this interesting effect where all of their thoughts are hijacked for a while.
Lets dive a little deeper here since I want to explain why your ex girlfriend wants space from you. So, you have a thought and then that thought immediately gets categorized into one of the two categories above.
So, what does this theory have to do with your ex girlfriend telling you that she needs space? Yup, your ex girlfriend is going to have a thought (square one) that makes her think about the breakup with you. Well, the act of her having to tell you that gives her another thought and guess what that thought is about? Now, it’s my job to get you out of this cycle because make no mistake about it, it is the one that you are in right now. You definitely noticed that these texts were almost a guy begging for his ex girlfriend back but take a look at the last text. Now, just so we don’t hurt YOUR feelings we are going to use a hypothetical situation with your ex girlfriend. You would get annoyed to if you told a child to stop screaming in the middle of a crowded store and they refused to do so. Now, most men freak out upon hearing this and determine that they have little to no chance of succeeding in their quest to win the love of their life back.
You still do have a chance of getting your ex girlfriend back but you need to do exactly as I say because we are walking a very fine line here and one misstep and you could screw the whole thing up.
Are you ready for me to teach you how to get your girlfriend back if she says she needs space from you? Ok, the first thing you need to understand are the two approaches that men usually employ in situations like this.
One of the coolest things about running a successful website in the relationship niche is the fact that I get to talk with a lot of you.
For example, one of the things that I have learned about you is that I can tell you right here, right now that you will have NO shot of getting your ex girlfriend back whatsoever and you will still try to get her back. This is all fake of course (you probably really do have a good shot of getting her back) but it’s kind of impressive when you think about it. I mean, how many people out there are willing to put this type of effort into their relationships?
Oh, another thing I have learned about you guys is that when a woman tells you that she needs space and you determine that you want to get her back you will try to get her back in one of two ways. In order for me to fully explain this to you we are going to have to operate under a few assumptions. Because what I am about to talk about is something that is a little more advanced so if you haven’t read any of my books, EGR PRO or The Texting Bible I suggest you drop what you are doing right now, read them, and then come back to this article since what I am about to say next will make more sense to you. Alright, now that we have the two assumptions out of the way lets talk about the aggressive approach. Hardcore No Contact- The type of no contact where a man (or woman) enters and doesn’t come out until the other person contacts them after the designated day they have set.
Of course, we all know what happens to the GNATS of the world when it comes to ex girlfriends. Notice how the value chain slowly intensifies as it moves from texting to phone calls to a small in person interaction and then ends with a romantic interaction. I am talking about little bold things here or there like building attraction in the right way.
And this is a problem when it comes to getting a girlfriend back who told you that she needed space. Well, I think it’s arrogant and your ex girlfriend is definitely not going to find this attractive at all. The truth is that the passive way of getting an ex girlfriend back is a dumbed down version of the aggressive method of getting your ex girlfriend back.
Fun fact, I once had a guy contact me (via email) with a 30 day plan on how he was going to improve himself during his no contact rule. Well, I am going to reserve that for later though I promise that it’s going to be good. You see, passive men would opt for indirect actions as opposed to direct actions when it comes to building attraction and that’s simply not going to cut it.
Well, that means that when it comes to the value chain (which I posted a nice little graphic on above) the passive men take too long. Sure, giving a woman her space when she tells you that she needs it is probably a good idea BUT you can’t ever get her back if you give her too much space.
Was said to describe how opposite or contrary forces are actually complimentary and interconnected. Well, I can’t think of a better way to describe what I am about to teach you than using some basic Chinese philosophy. But what if I told you that there was a way that we could take the best aspects of each plan so that they complimented each other (just like Yin and Yang are supposed to in Chinese Philosophy) to create the perfect game plan.
A hybrid game plan that works perfectly for getting your ex girlfriend back if she told you that she needs space?
I have had to stay up every single night with her just so my wife can get sleep and it prevents me from getting any sleep. Now, I had an opportunity to go to bed three hours earlier BUT I wanted to make sure that I got this article out by the time the weekend started and to be honest I really do enjoy writing these articles but I am running out of steam here.
The first thing it is going to accomplish is give your ex girlfriend the space she says she wants. Basically you want to improve yourself to become the best version of yourself that ever existed. Now, according to people who peddle the law of attraction stuff you basically are born with a superpower.
You think something and if you believe it enough and feel the emotions in your heart then it will become a reality for you. Nevertheless, I read up about it and was trying to figure out why so many people seem to be claiming that they were having success with the law of attraction. This struck me as interesting as I had once heard about the power of visualization with Olympic athletes. You see, scientists were interested in seeing how powerful visualization in athletes was so they decided to monitor brain activity of an athlete actually competing in their sport and an athlete not doing anything but visualizing it.
So, why not use the visualization aspect of the law of attraction to your advantage when trying to get your ex girlfriend back?
Now, I talked about the value chain above with the aggressive strategy and the passive strategy and how each of those strategies failed to properly utilize the VC to it’s fullest. The key to the value chain is finding a happy medium somewhere in between the aggressive and passive styles. Now, I have written how to properly utilize the value chain here so I recommend you check out that guide if you want a more in-depth look at how VC is supposed to work.
What I would like to do now is talk about where boldness and confidence comes into play here. If you look at the graphic of the value chain above you will notice that there are two big parts to it.
Part One: The fact that you cannot advance to the next level without first completing the level that you are in. Part Two: In order to complete the level that you are in you need to build attraction with your girlfriend.
It’s always scary taking a risk from jumping from the comfort of texting to the uncertainty of talking on the phone and that is one area where the aggressive strategy shines.
If you look at the value chain graphic I posted above you will notice there are only three big level jumps. So, you have to be bold to make those jumps and men who are passive aren’t bold enough to make them. My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back. So I lied to my girlfriend and she caught e going online talking to women and through thr course of a year we broke up and got back together very quickly until now.March 1st we broke up and she had me move out and said she couldnt trust me and she was so upset because she loves me and never wnted this and either did I.
I met this girl online we became friends and talked on facetime for 7 months until I flew out to meet her.
In his eBook, Michael Fiore shows people why text messaging is a very effective tool in reconnecting couples following a break up and how it can be used to heal a broken relationship, resolve problems in the relationship and ultimately help create a stronger long lasting relationship. One of the hardest things when trying to get your ex back is getting your ex into conversation mode.
Michael Fiore shows how sending text messages to your ex is a much more effective way of getting your ex back rather than talking over the phone or face to face. Other systems out there claim to offer “step-by-step” guides on how to get your ex back, but, fall short when it comes to actually showing you in practice how to go about getting your ex back.
The system itself contains a great deal of useful material, which is organized in small “modules” that you can easily understand and start putting into action right away. The type of text messages that you should avoid and that may hinder you in the process of getting back with your ex. How to maintain a positive loving relationship after getting your ex back using text messages. Finally, the Text Your Ex Back system only cost a one time fee of cost price of $47 US dollars and comes with a 60 day money back guarantee, so if you are not fully satisfied with the program for whatever reason, you can always seek a full refund within 60 days of your purchase. In just a moment, I’m going to show you how to get your ex girlfriend back… so buckle up, because there’s a lot to cover. If you recently split up with your girlfriend then you’re probably hurting REAL bad right now. I know the pain you’re going through right now and I know that it won’t stop for a LOOOOONG time.
Sure you can carry on with your life… bang a few new girls at a party, go out with your friends and try to forget about the girl you lost. OR you can use proven techniques that thousands of guys are using right now to get their girlfriend back fast.
There are a few areas of “getting your ex girlfriend back” which I want to cover, so by all means skip to the section that makes most sense to your current situation. It’s been a few days, weeks, maybe even a month and the wound is still raw… now what do you do? Understand why she left you – The first step is to understand why she dumped you in the first place dude!
Leave it at least 2 weeks – Don’t be needy or act desperate, it’s not going to help you. Get back in touch – After a couple of weeks, get in touch either with a text or a Facebook message. Keep it casual – Always meet up with her in the day for lunch or coffee so it’s casual, like you’re meeting a friend. Go in for the kill – After several casual meetups, invite her along on a night out with your friends or say to her that you’re going to be somewhere and she should come along. The key to remember here is that you’re laying down the important groundwork with the casual meetups. Pimp up your Facebook profile – Your Facebook page is a constant message that your closest friends and acquaintances are reading.
Get in touch – Go back to “situation 1” and follow all the steps from “Get back in touch”. Right then, you haven’t spoken to her in months, you know that she doesn’t have a boyfriend and you’re still kicking yourself about the breakup. Write to her – The very first thing you need to do is write to her, Facebook, email even a freakin hand written letter dude. Rinse and repeat – Follow everything from the first and second situation, until she takes you back.
There are a few ground rules you MUST follow that I haven’t mentioned yet, they are solid mindset tips that will help you get her back (trust me they work).
Be persistent – Think alpha male who knows what he wants, not a pathetic needy loser who’s begging for attention. Embrace change – Show her that you’re willing to be a better you by changing your ways. Don’t sulk – The moment you accept your defeat, is the moment you will never get her back, so stay positive and know that you’re going to get her back in time. So as I said earlier, I used Text Your Ex Back which really helped me get my girlfriend back. But I did try a another product that I think is seriously worth mentioning because I picked up some killer tips from it.
I got some really great tips from this guide, if I hadn’t have gone through the other two then I would have just used this one but it would have taken me a while longer to get her back.
Then you’re not doing the steps correctly or you’re still portraying the same crappy qualities that she dumped you for in the first place. So there you have it, this is without a doubt the best advice you will get on understanding how to get your ex girlfriend back in the fastest way possible.
My girlfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago, we were talking frequently until 3 weeks ago when she moved to Portland, OR (we lived in California together). Hay, I broke up with my girl like for 2 years now, but it’s all coming back to me, it was my fault, I physically assaulted her. Im a lesbian and was with this girl for four years going 5 on july.she ask space for 3months no communication,no seeing each other so I gave her space but i broke my promise not to call,text and see her. I had already been arguing with my girlfriend for awhile, I had been sick and on alot of medication one night when she called and tho has got heated. I have been in a releshp wth my ex grlfrend for 4yrs she was my school sweethert we came from far she loved meh soo much we did everythng toghet na untll she had a crush on some guybt she found out the guy is in arelshp wth anther person she came back to meh cryng i accpted her back bt then after a mnth se change start sayng we break up bt then she apologies back for her word iknw ehe was up2 smthng i broke up wth her she didnt even say why or sory she said alryt naw its been 3weeksi tryed callng her bt she nat intrested shes is sayng she want to be single an forcus… so do you think she is a relshp wth smeone else i need advice shoild i just move on? I recently lost, my girl it was my fault I got hooked up in internet adiction, porn sites and dating sites, she read my corespondance to the other women and even contacted them to see if we had met up. Men, in their majority, leave the relationship as they start finding it monotonous and boring. In both cases, you will need to wait for a while until a certain time passes before you can contact your ex again. In case you are winning your woman back, you will need to show her that you have deep respect to her feelings, emotions and opinions and that you are being attendant to what she tells you. For the women, who wish to get their men back, a great variant will be to get their ex partner into the activities that they have enjoyed doing together as a couple. Remember if you make any changes to reconcile with your ex partner, they  should be maintained in your relationship started afresh. Every single article that has ever been written for this site has centered on an area of the overall ex recovery process.
In fact, not only is it a bit old but I know a lot more about getting exes back than I did in the early stages of last year. What would happen if I wrote another large guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back that completely updated my philosophy? If you aren’t already aware I would like to tell you that I have written two books on ex boyfriends. Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO – A step by step guide that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? The Texting Bible – A guide about how to text your ex boyfriend in any situation you can think of. If you really want to have everything you could ever want when it comes to getting your ex back those are probably the two best resources available right now. As you learn in my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO getting your ex boyfriend back is not an exact science. Well, something I was shocked to learn was the fact that most women fail to get their exes back because they are undisciplined. If you look at the list above and find that you have done one or more of the things there you may be freaking out.
The first step to weighing your chances is asking yourself if a happy ending is in sight for you and your ex. If things like cheating, emotional abuse, BAD fighting have occurred then your chances of success will not be as high.
It has been about a year since I last put my original game plan for getting an ex boyfriend back into writing.
While this new game plan is very similar to the old one found on my very first guide on getting an ex boyfriend back there are a few major differences.
In my infinite wisdom ?? I have learned that the best way to get your ex back is to slowly build attraction. However, the mistake that most women make is the fact that they just want the pain they are feeling (the lonliness, depression, etc) to stop as soon as possible and they rush the ex recovery process. There is a certain way that you need to send a text message after the no contact rule has been completed.
Once you establish a texting conversation with your ex it is your goal to build attraction in that conversation to make him want you. If you have built enough attraction through texts and phone calls it is only inevitable that you will get a date.
The No Contact Rule – This article is basically an introduction into the no contact rule.


The Male Mind During No Contact – This one basically talks about everything that is going on inside your exes mind once you perform the no contact rule on him.
The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you aren’t allowed to respond to phone calls, texts, facebooks, snap chats, emails or anything else from your ex.
However, now that I have seen so many people try the no contact rule I have decided that in some cases a shorter no contact period may be best. Lets pretend that you decide that you want to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend. Believe it or not this is the type of message that I have seen multiple women get during the no contact rule. Actually no, it meas that your ex boyfriend wants to talk to you more than anything and that is a good thing. When your ex boyfriend threatens you in this way I view him, and this may be a little extreme, but I view him as a terrorist and we don’t negotiate with terrorists. I already know this is going to confuse the heck out of people so I really want you to pay attention to what I say here.
If this happens then you should feel proud of yourself because that means that I desperately want you to talk to me.
A lot of people don’t realize this but the no contact rule is meant to work in two different ways. The first way that no contact is supposed to work is that it’s supposed to have an affect on your ex boyfriend. The key to a successful no contact rule is combining the two which is something that I am going to talk about right now. Self improvement during the no contact rule is all about starting at point A to get to point Z (point Z obviously being your ex.) It always irks me when women come to this site, read about the no contact rule and then completely disregard the fact that self improvement is a part of it.
The ungettable girl is a concept that I came up with to describe a girl that can pretty much make any man crazy. I think the first thing that you have to understand is that every man out there loves the chase. Ok, I guess that is more than a few “aspects” but you want to do this right, right? Now, if you are sitting here reading this and you feel a little overweight then consider this your wake up call.
Let me tell you a little story and trust me when I say that everything I talk about below really happened to me.
I have debated telling this story for months because the truth is I am not fond of telling personal stories that talk about other people but this one so clearly illustrates the point I am making here that I can’t resist. Slowly but surely I started to get to know the real her and I learned that her personality was very unstable.
Well, the book is basically about this tree that loves this little boy with all it’s heart. Essentially, the boy had taken so much from the tree that the tree had nothing left to give. The point was that eventually I stopped being friends with her because I learned she treated everyone like this. Well, after I learned about her personality every time I looked at her picture on Facebook I no longer found her attractive. The two will always be linked and the key to an ungettable girl is that she has high marks in both looks and personality. If I had to take a guess I would say that right now your confidence is pretty much down in the dumps. Even more important, there is no way in he** you are going to become an ungettable girl without confidence.
Some are the perfect amount of confidence and some are way too confident that it is off-putting. I once knew this woman who would always tell me that she was the most confident person ever.
The point is that someone who is truly confident doesn’t need to say that they are confident they just are. If you can master these two things then don’t worry, you are well on your way to becoming confident.
Well, it is an idea that I picked up from probably the strangest community ever, pickup artists.
Well, I don’t think it is any coincidence that every single ungettable girl out there is well liked by all of her friends and is extremely popular. I recommend that you use this no contact period as a time to socialize and have amazing experiences your friends. So, while you are working on self improvement the no contact rule should simultaneously be having an effect on your ex boyfriend.
Now, before I start getting into specifics someone in the comments section of this website made me aware of a big flaw with the no contact rule.
That means if you and your ex had a major fight you would be going into the no contact rule for 30 days on the heels of that major fight. Anyways, this concept basically says that the things that people remember the most when it comes to relationships are the beginnings and endings of that relationship. I have been on this planet for quite a while and have dealt with my fair share of women who aren’t classy.
While that text message may look like an apology it really isn’t if you read it carefully. There is only one way I know how to describe this bond but it is going to require some role playing from you and I. I know we have gone over a lot so take a moment and catch your breath because we still have a lot to cover.
If you have picked up my book, The Texting Bible then you may have seen me mention that text messaging is non threatening. However, one of the things I have learned through helping thousands of women is that you should really only have two goals when it comes to text messaging after the no contact rule. Your entire game plan when it comes to text messaging is going to revolve around two goals. Often times the best way to get an ex boyfriend on the phone is to build attraction with him and if you happen to be very successful in building that attraction you may luck out and he could ask you on a date.
One thing I do want to say is that many women make the mistake of skipping goal one and going straight to goal two before building attraction.
If you follow that simple structure during your texting phase then I guarantee you are going to have some nice success. When it comes to building attraction (or in your case re-building attraction) you can’t be overeager.
The number one mistake I see from women when it comes to this phase of my philosophy is that they are too eager to see an end result. I guess the point I am trying to make here is that if you follow my advice in this section you should be able to re-build attraction with your ex boyfriend. You have essentially ignored your ex for 30 days (or 21 days depending on some situations.) How in the world are you supposed to approach this situation? Seriously, I roll my eyes and put my phone down for a few moments whenever I receive responses like these. I don’t recommend you copy my doppelganger story word for word but you can use it as an idea of the type of interesting thing that should get your ex to bite.
When I originally came up with the idea for a first contact text message I advised people to end the conversation immediately.
Rather than immediately ending the conversation I think it is a good idea to go a little deeper into the conversation. Before you can start getting into the more emotional type of text messages you are going to have to get on friendly terms with your ex boyfriend again. Lets say that you are ready to talk about your old relationship but you are unsure if your ex is.
Ok, the one thing we already know is that you can’t jump into an emotional topic (like your old relationship with your ex) right off the bat. The way you do that is by starting off very slowly and then casually upping the intensity of the type of messages that you send. The other day I happened to stumble across a picture that is meant to be funny (but I actually found it to be true.) It is on how people view success. A meme text message is perfect to start off your priming because it isn’t meant to be serious at all.
This type of a text message was something that I came up with after a friend of mine continually sent me memes.
There is a lot to balance when it comes to the initial stages of priming isn’t there? The moment of realization came that I was in the women’s bathroom when I heard two women voices approaching and I quickly ran to hide in the stall until they went away. I had no choice but to open the stall door, reveal that I was in the wrong bathroom and then of course I ran for my life!
Do you see how that story was both intriguing and funny (all of it true by the way.) These are the types of stories that keep a persons interest. If your ex boyfriend responds pretty positively to that then you can advance to the next section.
If you have properly primed your ex boyfriend then you can move on to the emotional messages. Now, the thing you have to remember when you text your ex boyfriend is that your main goal is to use the attraction you build with him to get him on the phone with you.
This is your ex boyfriend we are talking about here so there is no doubt that he is going to have some negative memories. I want him to know that you are thinking of him that way and I want him to feel good about it. How To Make Your Ex Call You – A guide that will teach you what you need to do to make an ex call you or pick up the phone. What To Do On A Date With Your Ex – I created this guide to teach women what they should do on a date with their ex. Ideally, what you want to have happen is that you build up so much attraction from the text messages that your ex just calls you.
Seriously, I hate calling first because I never know if the girl is going to be busy or if she will just blow me off. The sexiest woman in the world is one who has the guts to cut through all this nonsense and call herself.
If you have built up enough attraction through text messages and phone calls then you should be able to get a date relatively easily.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. No, you want to do everything in your power to win her back and if that means being aggressive then so be it. Now, as I explained above, thoughts are very powerful as they can make you either feel good or bad. Causing your ex girlfriend to go through this process is not a winning strategy to get an ex back. And as a result of the conversations that I have had with you guys I have learned a lot about your mentality.
For example, if they are doing a 30 day no contact rule and their ex contacts them on day 15 then they ignore.
Now, I suppose that isn’t anything too out of the ordinary but what was remarkable was the fact that he created a graphic to go along with it.
They wanted you to feel the feelings that you would feel and they wanted you to do this continually. I’m just trying to understand the why and the psychology of giving the space and why it works better. Before, it was platonic but then we had sex twice while I was out there and everything was fine until I flew back home.
We broke up four months ago and since then I have been on the quest to get her back and I have been very successful thanks to your advice. The idea is based around the use of certain kinds of text messages which have the desired effect of helping you to get your ex girlfriend back or get your ex boyfriend back following a relationship breakup. However, the great thing about texting your ex back is that it can help you slowly rekindle your relationship with your ex with the use of specific text messages designed to invoke certain positive emotions in your ex partner. Another benefit of text messaging is that you can plan beforehand and be certain about what you have communicated to your ex, unlike in the case of a face to face or phone conversation where you are more prone to saying the wrong things which can ultimately harm your cause. Michael Fiore’s system on the other hand shows you exactly (in simple practical steps) what you have to do to get your ex back.
You feel sick to your stomach, with no energy, you can’t be bothered to see anyone and you just want to be left alone. Let’s say that you broke up, it’s been a few months, maybe even a year and you’ve heard through friends that she’s got a boyfriend (perhaps you even saw it on Facebook which would really suck).
Get some new threads, workout at the gym (get the body most women want), eat right and drum some positive thoughts into your head. It’s crucial that they see the guy you want to be seen as… which is a confident, independent, happy and outgoing guy. It’s vital that you find out why she hates you… because this will help you to build a solid action plan. Apologise for what you did wrong and say to her that you respect her wishes, also that you truly wish that she finds a guy that will make her happy. If you did, then that’s awesome, keep the communication flowing and suggest meeting up for a coffee because you want to stay friends with her.
It took me exactly 4 weeks, but I have a friend who used the same techniques and it took him 7 months. He started stalking and harrassing me, and would harrass any guy I dated.I told him never to speak to me again, but he still tried to get me back, was watching and following me in person and on line ,so I called the police and filed a report, and later filed a no contact order. We broke up because she got jealous about other women who were giving me attention, and i lied about one of these girls at a party and i just got too comfortable and didn’t show interest. My gf mentioned to break up due to another man and no more feeling with me, I’ve stopped this action taken as I can’t take it! In the mean time go and get your self together work out hang with friends and make your self happy. You are her comfort zone you know each other so she is just there with you after what she thinks is good is not.
The next day I saw she had took us off of a relationship on Facebook and I lost it, I gave her my password and she out of current mistrust searched through my emails.
Express your self about what was the underlying problem with the situation between you both. Your life has changed drastically and all you have on your mind is the question of how get things back to normal and get your ex back. That is why if you are looking to reconcile with your ex girlfriend or wife, you will need to work on how to meet her emotional needs.
So, if you are looking to get back with your ex man, you need to show him you have changed and that this time your relationship is going to be different from what you had. If your initial contact is successful, work on the frequency of your meeting and conversations, but take it slowly in order not to scare away your ex partner.
Thus, he will realize what he misses in his life at the moment and will recollect how much fun you two had when you were together. A great way to get your ex back, is getting fit, if you previously let your figure go, so work on improving your shape. If you fail to do this, your new relationship will see the same outcome as it once did and all your efforts to save it would make no sense. One of the books is about the complete step by step process to getting an ex boyfriend back (something that goes in far greater detail than I will be going into here.) The second book is all about the texting process.
I am sure if you go back to the original guide you will find a section similar to this one and you may find some major similarities between the two but I guarantee you that there are a lot of new concepts to teach. I want you to get married, have kids and pretty much have the absolute best outcome possible after implementing this game plan.
Well, I didn’t say it was impossible to get your ex boyfriend back if any of the things on the list above were committed.
However, I will tell you in all honesty that your chances may be seriously hurt if any of the things above happened. If your ex has gotten a serious new girlfriend then your chances of success will not be very high. That means that I have had an entire year to make tweaks and evolve my philosophy to improve your chances of getting him back.
When you help hundreds of women succeed in getting their boyfriends back you learn a thing or two about what works and what doesn’t work. Essentially, we are slowly working our way to a date where you can reconnect with him on an emotional and physical level. If you are new to this site then let me say up front that I have written a lot about the no contact rule. What I am going to do now is give you a few quick links to some of the most popular no contact pages I have written.
However, watching people do it for the last year I have learned some very interesting things that I didn’t know when I first talked about no contact.
In addition to that you are not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact time frame. A message like this is essentially a hissy fit where he is going to threaten you by cutting you out of his life.


However, the sheer fact that he is so upset about you using the no contact rule on him tells us that no contact is working it’s magic on him faster than normal. In this particular case you can have the option to shorten your 30 day no contact rule to 21 days.
In other words, you are going to be fighting a battle on two fronts at the same exact time. You are emotional, your life is out of balance and quite honestly your confidence is probably lower than ever. They may say that they hate it but the truth is that deep down we all kind of like it when we can’t get the girl at first. A year ago I met this beautiful girl.  Now, let me tell you that I am quite picky so this girl was really something looks wise to catch my attention.
The little boy keeps asking the tree to give him things and the tree, since it loves the little boy, gives the little boy everything he asks for. While I was definitely not in love with her (didn’t even date her) I did have feelings for her and she knew that and used them to take advantage of me. Every single friend she had she would just take and take and take until the friends had nothing left to give and I refused to have that happen to me.
I am a guy so I feel I can bring a unique perspective when it comes to confidence for women.
Women who try too hard to be confident and feel the need to prove it is a total turn off to men.
Well, in the warped mind of men a girl who is actually hit on a lot by other men is perceived as higher value and more attractive.
Besides, a little jealousy never hurts to make an ex realize how much he truly cares for you.
Heck, I don’t even think its a bad idea to go on a date with someone new to just to test the waters. While doing that would certainly give you and your ex time to cool down it also means that your ex has a lot of anger towards you. Well, if you have a major fight at the end of your relationship and you immediately go into the no contact rule then the last thing that your ex is going to remember is that major fight. If your ex is super angry with you during the no contact rule then the chances of it working on him the way that it is supposed to will be decreased. If you can get your ex into a positive mindset as opposed to a negative one before you go into the no contact rule then the chances of no contact working will be greatly increased. No matter what they say or do their ex may be so stubborn he will refuse to calm down until the no contact rule is completed. Let me tell you that it is actually a really nice thing to encounter one who is extremely classy.
You want him in that positive mindset before you go into the no contact rule and a message like this may do the trick to get him in that mindset. About 7 minutes pass and I decide that I can’t bear to be without you so I decide to follow you to the kitchen to talk to you. First though, I want to take a moment and explain why text messages are preferred over a phone call. For example, whenever I care about someone I notice everything when it comes to text messaging. I would rather you go with what society has dictated the most personal form of communication, the text message. Of course, when you take a step back you will learn that the two goals really compliment each other. Let’s assume the worst though and assume that the best you can do is get an ex boyfriend on the phone. This is a major mistake because this is the very definition of rushing the process and trust me when I say this is a process that can’t be rushed.
I always find myself telling people to make their text messages so interesting that their ex has no choice but to respond to it. The problem was that by the time they were done two more women came in and eventually the bathroom go so crowded there were women waiting on the stall that I was in. This is the first time that you are going to be sending a text message about you and your ex. Of course, there are a few things I want to discuss with you on how both of these subjects relates to my overall philosophy on getting an ex boyfriend back. Unfortunately, the thing that these women don’t take into account is that transitioning from text messages to talking on the phone is a pretty big deal for us guys too. I am like 100% of guys out there in that I am scared to death of rejection and I do feel rejected every time I put my neck on the line to call a girl and she doesn’t pick up. In other words, if you have compelling information to share (like an interesting story) your ex is going to naturally be curious and you can use that curiosity to get on the phone with him.
Well, going on a date is a pretty big deal because this is where a big opportunity to get your ex back can occur.
Of course, since the thought that your ex had was about the breakup it is going to make her feel bad (square two.) Now, I also explained that human beings run towards good feelings and away from bad feelings. Now, the way I teach the no contact rule is a lot different than most people but men who employ the aggressive strategy don’t often heed my advice and go into a hardcore no contact. However, if their ex doesn’t contact them until day 61 then that would be when they end their hardcore no contact. I broke up with my 3.5 month long girlfriend two days ago because of repeat offenses of the same things (ignoring me for long periods of time, promising to contact me at certain times and then not doing so, backsliding on a couple other things she said she would stop, avoiding my confrontation of her actions even when I did it peacefully), and because of numerous hours of not communicating with me or answering any questions, I assumed an unspoken breakup and removed her from my contacts and friends. And then right away instead of giving her space I got her to go on a date with me asked her out again way too quick broke down like crazy (while also going to sex addict anonymous meetings) and now she really needs space. Then this last month april i finally started to listen and gave her space and went two weeks with out texting or calling no contact until 15 days out and i broke and text her to see if she could talk.
She said she regretted it but we both agreed we had feelings for each but because of our distance we should be friends with benefits. She liked me again and wanted to start talking again, I was so happy but I told myself not to rush things. Michael Fiore refers to the idea as the ‘best of the relationship’ text messages which are texts that are worded carefully to open up your ex to the idea of reconciliation.
All the work is actually done for you: The program provides you with exact texts messages that you can send to your ex, so you don’t need to worry about saying the wrong things.
Something like “Hey, so I got the job… (yay for me) starting in a week” fancy a celebratory coffee? This means you need to upload pictures of you partying with other pretty girls, smiling, traveling, doing things that you NEVER did whilst in your relationship with your ex. Well then after we broke up i made out with one of the girls and i told her about it and it devestated her. She she leave it becaue she thinks she found the one to replace you then she finds out the grass is not greener on the other side so she comes back.
She took a light hearted conversation to be factual and believes that I am a cheater and our relationship was over a long time ago. This is also a great time to show that you worked hard on yourself and have changed – a great improvement for the future possible relationship. So, make sure you would be able to sustain all the chances before the process of getting your ex back to you. That 10,000 word guide detailed a step by step process that helped women get their ex boyfriends back. It is essentially a bible of text messages that you can use during the texting phase of getting your ex boyfriend back.
Now, I am pretty good at making complicated subjects easy to understand so I promise you that you will understand everything in this guide.
I created this section in the guide because I feel that sometimes going after an ex boyfriend isn’t always going to benefit you in the end and I want to help you determine which situations are like that.
In other words, that means for 30 days you can’t call, text or respond to your ex at all. You have 21-30 days of time to do something about it so don’t just sit there and waste that time. However, once you got to know him you learned that all he seemed to talk about were his muscles.
The only reason I researched tactics there was to find stuff that I could use to help YOU to get your ex back.
When I watch a movie that I really like there are certain phrases or quotes that stick with me for life. Every time they talk to someone you take note of it and every time they do something it affects you. The idea is to make him think back to the days where he didn’t have you and make him realize how miserable he was without you in his life.
Now you have to come up with a compelling story that will cause your ex boyfriend to respond to you. The key to sending a successful meme message has to be the fact that the meme has to be funny. Just saying something general like I did in the message above with the boardwalk is enough. The thing that you have to understand about emotional messages when you are dealing with your ex is that they can’t bring up negative memories.
The idea here is to get him to associate the good feelings he gets when he thinks back to those memories with you. Even though I know logically that she may be busy and get back to me later the emotion of initial rejection always kind of hurts. Unfortunately, I have reached my limit on typing as this guide is already close to 10,000 words. You can only talk about the kids and other important stuff but no small talk or about each other and you have to be busy and try to do other things, improve your look and other aspects in life.. You may push her limits till she is afraid of you or hates the very thought of you.If you are a good man, she will miss you and call you.
I made a lot of mistakes after the breakup, begging to come back to her, argued a couple times, freaked about her dating.
She is blaming you for cheating because she is not being 100% with you about what she is doing.
I just started the no contact phase and am giving her time it’s been 3 days no contact. It’s still fresh, I have sent her a very brief letter trying to keep an image that I have calmed down now, and apologized once again for how cruel I was, and for even saying the things I had. Never try to discuss the cause of your separation and refrain from asking about his feelings, thus you risk scaring him away from you. If you absorbed the information and knew exactly what to do to raise your chances of getting your ex back you still might fail because YOU failed to put the information into practice.
However, it is also going to give you a chance to work on yourself and get your mind in the right place. Early within that no contact period (lets say around day 6) I start to send you a lot of text messages asking you where you are. Use this time to get in the best shape of your life because you know what, things are going to start falling into place for you if you do so. By the end of the book the boy has grown into an old man and the tree is nothing but a stump. In the movie Inception there is a certain phrase that Leonardo DiCaprio’s character mutters that I still think about today. Oh, and if he does respond to a message like this you aren’t supposed to respond to him. So, as you can see every step in this process is meant to get you that date so you can get him back. It isn’t something that you cant just manufacture overnight with a few text messages. Second, you can use priming as a way to test to see if he is ready to advance to emotional things.
I want your ex to put himself back in time where he was when this emotional memory occurred.
I am a fan of giving someone a warning before you call that way they can prepare themselves. When on the phone she said she was starting to heal and i told her look im sorry and i reall love you and want to live the rest of my life with you.
We’ve hung out like 7 times since the break up and things got pretty affectionate 4 out of the 7 times. I was leaving the state around half year and she had ask me to stay but, I insist to leave due to good opportunity.
I sent her mother a 4 pg front and back letter explaining in order of occurrence everything, assuring I am not a cheater and just everything, I was completely honest, and mature in every way. I thought thst i could not get over my ex but I am living and making the best of the situation everyday.
I want you to become someone so incredible that not only can your ex boyfriend NOT resist you but pretty much every other man on the face of the earth too. Shelistened to me go on and on and was crying saying she was just so sad and didnt know how she could possibly believe me again. It’s just been a rough past summer for me in general with my grandpa passing away and adjusting to all this change. One is a love letter and the other is an apology letting her know I accept the breakup and wish her the best.
When we were together I was a jerk and didn’t make a big deal about it and it hurt her. That when people break up they don’t get back together because that was the way the world worked. Remember, the goal of becoming the ungettable girl isn’t to just please your ex boyfriend.
It is something that requires discipline and patience and even though I am about to show you exactly what you need to do to build attraction I am positive that 90% of the women reading this will fall victim to their own emotions and desires and fail to do things correctly. She said you are still thinking about yourself when i asked you for space so i could heal, I said i was sorry i just want to show you who i really am and i want to be true to you forever. They did but not because I slept with her, I noticed she had a box of condoms in her room, I tried to ignore it but I couldn’t help it. I do love the girl and I’m attempting to get her back by going to her school which is an hour away and serenading her wih a guitar right on campus haha. So now what Idk is should I text her the night before and say something about it like goodluck don’t be nervo use it’ll be okay, just good luck or nothing at all?
She has been unresponsive (and I do believe she’s already talking to other guys online). One day I texted her about it and she said we weren’t exclusive yet and that she can still do what ever she wants. We’ve broken up before about 2 years ago and I did the same thing just outside of her house.
So I agreed and said I would do anything for her, but i am so sad I know she was the one and Im affriad that ill let go now and Im scared of what will happen. I lost it, I told her I never want to speak to her again and told her how cold she was knowing that I has feelings for her. She keep saying no more feeling with girl, what can I do to get her back again coz I too love her.
The next day I apologized telling her I miss understood what we had, she just told me she needed space. She has me blocked on facebook and snapchat, yet we still keep in touch through text and phone calls and shes friends with my mom on facebook still haha.
Look I know I will treat her right im ready for that but here i am 2 days no contact again and scared of how to handle this.
I tried to convince her not to leave but nothing I said worked, she said she will contact me when she is ready.
Whenever I am hurt by someone who wrongs me, the longer they go without apologizing or making it right the more resentment builds up inside me. If I prevented them from doing so or ignored them doing so, that just seems outright counterintuitive.
When she does contact me, should I just start over or should I ask her what her reason for contacting me again, to be friends or to try to work things out? I know a lot of this getting your ex back stuff is counterintuitive, but this one thing seems really out there. I thought we humans want broken things fixed asap, and if they aren’t fixed soon enough, THAT’S when we go looking for something else? Atleas give a consideration that i was a faithful dude down to be in it for the long hall . I know if i pull at her more while she still mad and bitter shes just going to pul away more. On top of that ahe has the type of girlfriends who like bashing dudes cause thwy dont have one or not satisfied qjth the ones they have. She would always tell her friends about me and how much she loved me and even tod them all about our sexual life.



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