January 5, 2014 By Mike Cernovich 21 Comments How do you approach hot chicks when hot chicks seem so intimidating? If you saw this hot chick, you’d likely stop in your tracks and feel a pang of anxiety at the thought of approaching her. When you start out in the game, approaching nearly any girl takes a bit of courage, which is why most men cannot do sober approaches. If you have a decent opener that doesn’t scream sleazy pick up line, approaching is much easier.
Approaching, especially at a young age, is usually all the contextual alpha you need to get things off the ground. Breast implants, lots of makeup, overly concerned with the picture on the phone versus her own facial expression in the mirror.
She is very beautiful, so I would have no hesitation wanting to escalate quickly, plus, since my first impression was a lack of attraction to violence, which the boyfriend picture confirms, I don’t have to worry about him really being a threat. Approach anxiety for me boils down to a quick calculation of hotness divided by probability of violence.
That’s literally a false perception your mind created to try to justify with this girl is with this ugly ass guy, but as no bearing on reality.
Read previous post:How Did I lose 80 pounds of Fat and Gain 30 Pounds of Muscle Without Steroids?The discussion of going from fit to big left out the prequel.
The reason your heart gets broken each time a new guy disappears is because you are SURPRISED when he disappears. Men may still frustrate you, but I can make things easier, especially if you use online dating as a means to meet men.
He texts you the next day to say he had fun, and instantly makes plans for the following Friday evening. He checks in during the week – a call here, an email there – not too needy, not too distant. I wrote her profile, got her professional photos, and started our weekly coaching sessions. Soon, they were bantering back and forth multiple times a day, and he started to plot their first date. When the cute guy Googled Sandy’s hometown, he was surprised to learn that she lived 3 hours away. Even though she’d only exchanged a few emails, she’d gotten excited about this cute, successful, articulate, enthusiastic man. If 9 times out of 10 (in real life), the special guy doesn’t turn out to be all that special, it may be smarter to reserve judgment for later.
As a result of this wishful thinking, Sandy was as hurt by this man’s simple email as she would have been if they’d been dating and broken up. It’s not that Sandy was wrong to look at all the available signs and conclude that she had special connection with a special guy. It’s that, if 9 times out of 10 (in real life), the special guy doesn’t turn out to be all that special, it may be smarter to reserve judgment for later. I’ve had women tell me to chastise men to start following through more, to stop being so nice if they’re not ready for a relationship, to promise to call after having sex. I hear you, and I agree that men could stand to do hundreds of things better to improve your relationships. As such, your lesson, as a woman, is not to wish men acted another way, but to understand how they DO act and prepare yourself emotionally.
Because a man can be really interested in you, sleep with you, act like a future boyfriend for a few weeks, and be doing the EXACT SAME THING with another woman simultaneously. Or he could seem like a great guy, make a great effort for you, and then realize, when it’s time to commit, that he’s just not ready for a commitment. The point is that, by getting too excited about a promising dating prospect, you’re emotionally setting yourself up for heartbreak. When you choose to be devastated by a man who is NOT your boyfriend, what you’re really doing is holding onto the loss of your fantasy. Until then, each promising man is not actually “real.” He is merely hope, potential and fantasy. I hate spam as much as you do, therefore I will never sell, rent, or give away your email address. So, when my now-fiance announced pretty early on that he wanted to be my boyfriend, I was in a state of very pleasant shock.
I think all of the fantasizing becomes a problem because so many of us have turned to online dating when we’re already desperate for a relationship.
Sandy’s predicament is a very different scenario than the one you outline, Evan, in your opening introduction, where the woman has gone on several great dates and the guy just disappears. I have never had this happen to me when I was doing online dating, the disappearing act after few dates.
I, too, see a big difference between what happened to Sandy, and the men who disappear after a few great dates. But how can you not be disappointed when someone disappears after a few actual promising dates without a word? When that woman disappeared (after six weeks of dating), I was moderately irritated (at how she handled it), but not disappointed or hurt. You don’t need to have those expectations in order to have a successful relationship.
Last Saturday a friend reminded me of something that happened 1 or 2 months after I started dating my fiancee.
I didn’t need to create an unfounded expectation in order to make the relationship work. There aren’t any good explanations for this, without knowing more, although even then there might not be any good explanations! I know women (myself included) have disappeared on men before too…we can all be very contrary when it comes to dating.
Clearly it is harder for some people, of both genders, to be so rational and detached about all of this, even if you get it. I think that to make this work, a lot of us have to fake it until we make it, and stay in the game. Have you ever started a relationship and been sure that you wanted to marry that person within the first few dates?
And when you do understand, you have to constantly remind yourself of it during the initial excitement of a new relationship.
But I’m capable of dating an amazing woman, having her vanish after six weeks, and walking away without disappointment (much less devastation). This is really the first time Justin is taking the more adult approach compared to what he has sounded like in the past. Approaching a chick like her, even if you’ve been at this for a while, is going to give you a bit of an adrenaline rush. You didn’t really state how to approach a girl like that though, and that is practice.


First is impression is she’s lacking self esteem, not vindictive, and not attracted to violence, so no approach anxiety. They seem so intimidating but it’s just projection because we put them as high value.
I just like that blonde Aryan man (bit of sarcasm but I think Hitlers view on keeping clean blonde hair blue eyed genes was not a shabby idea otherwise everywhere looks like India or Brazil) supreme look far better. In that picture she is about 16 or 17 ( she should be legal by now) and she was actually kind of a loner.
What I want to do is show you how to manage them – to protect yourself from continual heartbreak. By mastering this medium and understanding male behavior, you can finally be in control of your own love life, and not a victim of disappearing men. You play mini-golf and grab two rounds of drinks at a nearby bar, after which you go back to your place and make out on the couch for an hour. He knew he didn’t want to get into a long-distance relationship, and so, instead of trekking to go on a first date, he emailed Sandy to apologize and wish her well in her search for love. However, as you know, I can no more stop men from being men than I can stop the earth from turning. When the contract is signed, the ink is dry, and you know, without a doubt, that your dating prospect has become your BOYFRIEND. But I do understand how devastating it can be for the woman who have had several dates with a guy, then he disappears. Online dating has given men so many choices, and there is so much anonymity in cyber-world, that some men feel they no longer have to show any consideration for another’s feelings. I later found out that there were other (external) factors which contributed to her decision, but HJNTIY is a safe bet. I could keep a realistic view of where things stood at that point in time, act like a boyfriend, and create something based off reality, not fantasy.
Of course, there is no actual verbal promise in the dates, but there is hope and encouragement of a potential relationship. Blaming my date after the fact (even if she vanished after 6 weeks) is completely pointless. Violence is more important, for the obvious reason, and because the more dancing monkey I have to do, the less I want the girl. But it’s obvious that he never grew up with teen nerd neurosis and had a healthy youth with good social and physical development. My friends and I have all dated men who have brought up future plans with us numerous times during the date, and then don’t follow through later on.
I would tell her that she was just a horny little girl whenever she dressed like that and she’d lit up with a smile (she knew it).
She could have that sick feeling in the pit of her stomach and lose sleep over how she’s going to replace him.
I did get caught once or twice building air castles, but the sooner that can be nipped in the bud, the better.
In the end I ended up with a man who never disappoints me, was always there when he said he would and did not disappear.
When he asked for the next date, I was pleased but didn’t expect anything more than a fun time. Her boyfriend on the other hand was such a gigantic tool that you couldn’t grasp your head around how he could be tapping that georgeous piece of ass, talk about chicks with horrible taste.
But I know enough about chemistry to know that a chemical by itself may be poisonous but not poisonous when in a compound with other chemicals. If you just scroll through this blog, you’ll see this seems to be fairly common as to how a lot of men treat women. But you should be aware that the story of Chicken Little is notA  a "fable character." While he did say "The sky is falling" quite a bit, this was only because he had difficulty making contact the his agent provocateur whose actual physical appearance had changed over the years.
The video faculty includes Eric Hulsizer, a former Channel 8 cameramanA who photographed "Channel 8 On Your Side," and Lisa Inserra of Cox Media (the company that owns Valpack) who is active in producing television commercials for her company's clients.az?i»? In my program, I've studied drawing, camera operation, scripting, digital imaging, programming basics, copyright law, video editing, website design, sound production and editing. One of myA professors says the program is the best of its kind in the Tampa Bay area and I think he's right.az?i»?i»? Please, please, put the word out to others so that this fine program will be better known. It doesn't matter what your heritage is or whether you are still in high school or old enough for Medicare.
Petersburg Collede digital arts program is filled with both talented professors and students.
In your story on stadium horns, you called them vuvuzwelas, what is that funny looking symbol after the photo credits. The image can be used freely, subject to some restrictive terms in the license, including crediting the photographer.
It looks to me like he called on Curtis LeMay, Colonel Clearwater - and then realizing he had made a mistake - schluffed it into Colonel Kilgore.
Here's a photo of American school children using the original Bellamy salute:A I think the photo speaks for itself.
Colonel Clearwater Dear Colonel Clearwater: What do you think about the Egyptian revolution?
Fundamentalists, in any religion, are usually a reaction to what the followers perceive as injustice. This doesn't mean Egyptian society and culture will necessarily change; it is still their culture and values. But in the long run any thing they make of it will be for their benefit (and not the benefit of the United States). Not by rampeling down the side of the building like Tom Cruise, but by sliding in with a tourist visa when it was not open to tourists. Clearwater: Republicans are betting that your readers don't care - that after all you did to beat them in 2006 and 2008, you're going to sit this one out. So they're whipping up their base by blocking help to unemployed workers, blocking summer jobs for teens, apologizing to the big companies that gave us the spill in the Gulf, and doing anything else they can do to stop progress. Yes, that Rand Paul, who says freedom means a private business can discriminate against African-Americans, and that President Obama holding polluters accountable for the mess in the Gulf is "un-American." And he's not alone. One candidate calls Social Security "horrible policy," while another has said that Americans will turn to "Second Amendment remedies" against Democrats.
In New Hampshire, Paul Hodes is running neck-and-neck with his Republican opponent to take this seat for the Democrats. We've just started to turn our country around, passing healthcare reform, working to hold the big banks accountable for the Wall Street meltdown, pushing legislation to address climate change and end our addiction to oil. The GOP is betting big that saying "no" and blocking progress is a path to success in November.What bet will you make? I think the Republicans should adopt as their emblem the condom because it more clearly reflects the party's political stance.
A condom stands for inflation, halts production, destroys the next generation, protects a bunch of pricks, and gives one a sense of security while screwing others.


Colonel ClearwaterDear Colonel Clearwater, Last week, my friend and colleague, Congressman Anthony Weiner, did something very good, and very gutsy. Weiner's report showed that this firm, which sells gold coins, rips off its customers while benefiting directly from Beck's Chicken Little lunacy about the economy. Every time Beck screams that there is an impending Obama-led government takeover of the economy and your savings aren't safe, he's making a sales pitch for this sleazy advertiser. You see, Beck's ratings have recently crashed, and most of his reputable advertisers have deserted him.
Now that he's been exposed, Beck has spent the last week using his big media platform to attack and undermine Weiner - he even set up an attack website designed to damage Weiner's political standing.
This collusion between big media, conservative commentators, and quack economics is a scam, but it is powerful if it remains unopposed. And we need to support people like Weiner, who have the guts to go after right-wing lunacy at the source.
Consider his statement: "I beg you, look for the words 'social justice' or 'economic justice' on your church Web site.
That oil disaster must be stopped, and a way must be found."I am not the original author of that sensible thought, but it has been my favorite definition of faith for a while.
While we have no way of certainty for moving past them, working to find a pathway that takes us beyond our doubts is the best option in my view. Then how come Congress starts each session with a prayer and the president is sworn in on a Bible? Wants to KnowDear Wants to Know, As I said in an earlier reply, our countrys laws and structure are not based on the God of the Bible and the Ten Commandments, as Sarah Palin and others claim. So most of us do not work on Sunday and some businesses are not open for business on Sunday. So we have a religious custom of not working on Sunday and a secular custom of watching football on Sunday. The Constitution states that the president must take an oath, but it does not mention anything about a Bible. Colonel ClearwaterDear Colonel Clearwater, I understand you answer, but you say customs and traditions. Wants to Know MoreDear Wants to Know More, It is important to realize the difference between a custom and a tradition. It is a custom at my house that every year we watch football on Thanksgiving Day after we eat.
A tradition is a ceremony invented for the purpose of commemorating some historical event or to develop a sense of binding in a community or religious group. Thanksgiving Day is a tradition in America that serves the purpose of reminding us of what we have from God for which to be thankful and is loosely based on the first harvest feast of the Pilgrims to celebrate their first year of survival in the New World. It is a tradition; a ceremony we use to create a common bond among Americans by commemorating our heritage. When Congress meets, the first thing that happens is that the designated speaker calls the group together. Colonel ClearwaterDear Colonel Clearwater, I have just seen a video about an organization called the Council on Foreign Relations.
This organization has members who were past Presidents and past Secretary of States of the United States, plus leaders in the fields of finance, industry, and other important positions in society. The spokesman on the video has concluded that this organization must be a part of world conspiracy to take over the world and put the entire world under a one-world socialist government and I agree with him. The Council on Foreign Relations (CFR) is an organization of foreign policy experts, people concerned with international trade, prominent historians and writers, as well as others who are involved with foreign policy and international affairs. The CFR hold speaking events with question-and-answer periods which are usually televised on CSpan or other cable stations. The speakers are usually world leaders, historians, writers, or others involved in international affairs. Some of the speakers have included such figures as Nelson Mandela, George Soros, Thomas Friedman, Mikhail Gorbachev, and Ronald Reagan.
The journal, which I have subscribed to and read for over 25 years (plus you can buy it at the newsstands in Borders or Barnes and Noble) provides a forum for contrasting views and opinions regarding issues affecting foreign policy. Some people have made a nice living scarring others with conspiracy theories about the CFR. My advice to you is to go to the store, buy and read their journal, watch their events on CSpan, and be wary of people who wish to sell you on the idea that other people are out to get you. Colonel Clearwater________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Dear Colonel Clearwater: Cancel my subscription to your liberal rage. And no matter how great the obstacles may seem, we must never stop our efforts to reduce the weapons of war. We must never stop at all until we see the day when nuclear arms have been banished from the face of this earth." Ronald Wilson Reagan, 1984 Colonel ClearwaterDear Colonel Clearwater: Liberals? I realize that there is collateral damage in war, but this is no less than cold-blooded genocide. They were shooting at insurgents who, upon later investigation, turned out to be civilians. By saying the soldiers were shooting civilans implies that they knew they were shooting civiliansj. The real guilty party are those who convinced the American public that this war was necessary and just. Can you tell me how the "Smallest of the World's Leading Newspapers" managed to scoop "Florida's Best Newspaper?" Pedro TechadorDear Pedro, Always nice to hear from one of the Techadors.This was a WikiLeak scoop.
Palin:Your statement reminds me of what Republican Congressman, Devin Nunes said during the health care vote. And now you are bringing the ghosts back into this chamber." There is no polite way to get around this. Tea Party Patriots are morons when it comes to history, economics, and how to run a society.
Much like the resurgence of the Ku Klux Klan after World War I, the Tea Party Patriots are people who believe they have lost their privileged status in American society and wish to thwart others hopes for the American dream. Unfortunately, or fortunately (depending on which editor yells loudest) President Obama considers Wall Street, the banks, the Republicans in congress, and those with tea party policies as necessary players in the solution when they are, in fact, part of the problem. Both the Senior Citizens' Right to Work Act and the Family Medical Leave Act were passed this way.



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