Some time passes and with it, it seems as if your ex boyfriend has gained a new lease on life. So, you agree to start a new relationship with your ex and things are great between the two of you. All in all, things are looking pretty good in relationship land for the two of you.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? In fact, I am pretty sure if you were to ask my wife she would describe me as a stereotypical male in a lot of ways. Granted, I do have my AWESOME moments but for the most part I am just an average joe with the body of a greek god ?? . I feel it’s very important for you to understand who I am so you know who you are learning from.
I currently own and operate two major websites focused specifically on helping men and women repair their relationships with their exes. To date, I have 3,940 clients who have purchased one of my best selling books on getting an ex boyfriend back.
So, using this knowledge and insight I am going to be able teach you a lot about what to do to get your ex boyfriend back if the two of you are constantly getting back together and breaking up again because I know how pretty much all men think.
I also promise to use this page to do everything in my power to substantially raise your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back.
Well, if we were to have an on and off relationship it would mean that we would be dating, go through a breakup and start dating again.
Sometime in the middle of May you beg for me back and being the great guy that I am I decide to give our relationship another chance. 120 of the women were able to get their exes back and at the time the study was conducted the couples were all together. The numbers above certainly seem to point towards the fact that my hypothesis is true and even a lot of the success stories I have had here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery seem to point that way. The woman on the other hand makes the claim that the guy she wasn’t flirting and the guy she was talking with was just a friend and that her boyfriend (the man) needs to trust her.
The woman believes that she didn’t do anything wrong since the guy she was talking with was just a friend and nothing more. It’s funny, a few days ago I was watching one of those old timey game shows called the Newlywed Game. Now, the thing you have to remember is that this show was set all the way back in the 70’s.
His wife, clearly embarrassed by her mistake said that she was sorry but that she wasn’t always wrong about things. A lot of us really believe in arguments like the one that I gave in the example above that we are right and our significant others are wrong.
A man is clearly upset because he believes that his girlfriend is flirting with another guy. The woman does not believe this is the case since the guy is just a friend and she can never see herself with him. He knows it will hurt you and he knows it will most likely get you to stop the behavior he doesn’t want to see anymore. Of course, he is just shooting himself in the foot because deep down he didn’t really want to break up with you at all. Being in a relationship of this nature is damaging because eventually if you keep spinning around in this merry-go-round you are going to crash and burn and your relationship will be too damaged to recover from. Well, when you are dealing with the situation we are talking about in this particular article the rules above no longer apply.
I took the liberty of putting stars above the aspects of the game plan that have been altered or added when compared to the previous general game plan.
So, what I would like to do now is go over every alteration in the new game plan one by one and explain my reasoning behind it. In all re-connections where a couple gets back together there is always one person that is pushing for the reconnection and one person that is agreeing to it. So, assuming that you are in a position like this where your ex boyfriend is thinking that he can get you back no matter what (based on the past) what can you do to overcome this? The general no contact rule that I typically recommend to women is a 30 day no contact period. Part of the reason you are in this predicament is that deep down you know that the potential to get back together is always there if the two of you ever break up.
The two of you have already given each other plenty of chances in the past and they all failed. Make your ex boyfriend understand that you are serious about this and that you mean it when you say that this is your last chance together. She basically found that couples who were in these types of relationships reported less behaviors to help maintain the relationship.
Below I have compiled a small list of the most common complaints from men and women in these types of relationships. Yes, a relationship is a two way street that requires both of you to put in effort but the fact of the matter is that you can’t control what your boyfriend says or does. However, you can control your own actions and in my experience a man is going to treat you a lot better if his needs are being taken care of in the relationship.
For example, if my wife treats me really well one day then I am more compelled to spoil her. The point I am trying to make here is that by making sure your boyfriends needs are met you can almost get him to treat you the way you always wanted to be treated by him. To be honest it’s a bit complicated and it would take me tens of thousands of words to describe.
So, my recommendation is that you check that guide and put the information that you read there into action.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. Dear Chris, my ex and I broke up first time after we hit 6 months mark, then I followed your advice and did no contact, eventually he came back. So my boyfriends birthday was Monday we have been dating in a long distance relationship for 11 months.
Talking on the phone is one of those strategies and today I intend on remedying this mistake. This article is going to teach you everything I know about talking to your ex boyfriend on the phone from start to finish.
In fact, some of the closest people to me have told me that I should be charging you for this information. BECAUSE IT IS THAT GOOD!Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
While this whole website may be dedicated to that this guide is just focusing on one piece of the puzzle, talking on the phone.
When you just generally look at the process of getting an ex boyfriend or husband back you can typically divide the process up into three main parts after the no contact rule. Alright, so the thing to remember about this graphic is that all of these building blocks occur after the no contact rule. So, priority number one is always going to be the no contact rule and what to do during it. Do you see how each building block builds upon one another until the ultimate goal of winning an ex back is accomplished? So, that means that if you are wanting the full step by step process of getting an ex boyfriend or husband back then you are going to have to find a guide that merges these three building blocks together. Remember, this particular page is only focusing on building block two or the phone call portion of the process.
In the section above we discussed the three building blocks of getting an ex back after the no contact rule. Well, that means that this guide is going to be focused specifically on building block two or talking on the phone with your ex.
Transitioning from a texting conversation to a phone call isn’t as hard as you may initially think. Of course, the thing to remember is that it’s not a great idea to call your ex out of the blue and expect to have an amazing conversation with him.
What I would like to do now is show you how to turn the conversation above into a full blown phone conversation. The beauty of a transition story is the fact that its ten times more effective than just calling your ex out of the blue.
After the story is complete then you are golden because you have succeeded in getting your boyfriend on the phone and you can take the conversation anywhere you want from there.
Of course, before you go crazy with your newfound tactic here lets set some guidelines for talking on the phone with your ex. I don’t want to chain you down with too many rules so I am going to keep this as brief as I can. Below I have compiled a list of the three major guidelines that you need to follow when you are on the phone with your ex boyfriend. Maybe you say something that sets him off or he says something that sets you off and before we know it the two of you are red in the face and screaming at each other over the phone.
Ideally I would like you to have more attraction built before you bring your past relationship up. Because men are more accepting of things that make them upset when they have STRONG feelings for someone.
Of course, if she waited to tell me until I was in the best mood ever then I probably wouldn’t be as upset.
I have a very unique way of teaching women to end conversations first on the phone and I am going to teach it to you on this page, just not right this second. The truth is that I am not talking about any of those things when it comes to building attraction on the phone. Take me for example, I was in a long distance relationship with my wife for close to six months which meant that we had to talk exclusively on the phone and build attraction that way. Our phone conversations would start by talking about our days and then somehow we would wind up discussing tsunamis and what we would do if we ever encountered one. The point I am trying to get at here is that we always seemed to have something interesting to say and quite honestly it created this bond between the two of us that proved to be unbreakable.
You and your ex boyfriend are about to talk on the phone and you are super excited about this fact. Once you are on the phone you realize that you don’t have anything to talk to him about and you panic. If you go into talking on the phone with your ex boyfriend without being prepared it’s like bringing a knife to a gun fight. Before you call your ex boyfriend make sure you have a list of at least 5 interesting things to say while you are on the phone with him. Below I am going to tell you five things about myself and using these five things we are going to come up with an interesting script to use against me if you were hypothetically trying to get me back instead of your boyfriend. I am fascinated by Entrepreneurship specifically people who make a living selling products over the internet. So, I just gave you a run down of five topics that I would enjoy discussing if I was on the phone with someone. You: Oh, nothing much… I actually just got done binge watching the latest season of House of Cards! Now, obviously this conversation could be fleshed out even more but if I actually fleshed it out we would be here all day. Do you see the advantage to having these strategic “interesting points” to talk about on the phone? The real challenge you face is that you are going to have to put together a list like the one I gave you for your ex boyfriend. In other words, I find them interesting and as a result I will associate you as an interesting person if you bring them up. No, it’s to build up so much attraction that either he asks you out on a date or says yes to you asking him out on a date.


Obviously in a perfect world it would be HIM asking you out but there are cases where you will have to take the bull by the horns and ask him out but more on that later. I can tell you from personal experience that I have never asked a girl out who I thought was uninteresting. Umm… I am afraid to break it to you but no man in the history of the universe has ever done that.
How do you become interesting to an ex boyfriend when he already knows everything there is to know about you. There are a couple of major things that you can do that stand out in my mind to accomplish this task. What I am about to teach you about ending conversations prematurely on the phone is truly a game changer. I have to give credit to my wife for using this on me to build attraction when we were still dating. Now, I would never admit this to my wife in person (can’t let her get a big head) but she was a master on phone tactics to build interest and attraction. There was actually one time before my wife and I got married that we were having a conversation on the phone that was absolutely amazing.
I must have called her 8-10 times trying to get a hold of her and each time there was no answer. Even if her phone was bad it was an ingenious tactic because she left me always wanting more. It was something I haven’t ever experienced before and on some level it fascinated me and made me want to work until I was the most important thing to her. So, the lesson I want you to take from this is the fact that it’s not just about leaving the conversation early. The conversation starts out kind of slow with both parties feeling each other out and then with enough attraction or interest being built the conversation picks up. Of course, if you stay on the phone with someone too long then you will wear out your welcome. The conversation starts to dip as you run out of ideas on what to talk about or you simply just get tired of talking.
This part of the conversation is represented in the dip after the high pint in the graph above.
This is exactly where my wife used to kill our conversations and let me tell you it was the most effective tactic ever.
It’s funny, the very first article I ever wrote for this site was a 10,000 word guide to getting your ex boyfriend back.
For example, that guide is predicated around the idea that if you build up enough attraction through text messages (building block one) you are supposed to call your ex boyfriend and ask for a date on the spot.
It’s been close to three years since that guide has come out and I must admit that, that is not the best way to approach getting a date with your ex.
Instead, the smartest thing you can do to get a date with your ex boyfriend is to build attraction through texting AND phone calls and once you feel you have hit a point where he won’t say no that is when you pull out the date card. In a perfect world you will have built up enough attraction to where your ex would ask you out on a date on his own accord without you having to take charge and make a date.
So, that means that your chances of success for a date are completely reliant on how well you build attraction not just in text messages but on the phone as well.
Before I get into the meat of this section I feel compelled to mention that if your ex boyfriend asks you out say yes. What I would like to talk about now is what to do if your ex boyfriend has not asked you out on a date yet.
A woman will come to this site, read about my no contact strategies, implement them and then when her ex doesn’t contact her during the no contact period she freaks out and promises not to break down and contact him first.
Sometimes he is too scared to do it himself so you have to tell him its ok with your actions by asking him out.
Well, firstly there is the fact that usually the only way an ex will say yes to a proposed date is if enough attraction is built on your part. If your ex boyfriend has the qualities above in his communications with you then you can move on to the phone tactic that I am about to explain below.
Now, before I move on I do want to mention that 8 times out of 10 if you do build enough attraction your ex boyfriend WILL be the one to set up a date on his own accord. If you do decide to opt for option B (which we are for the purposes of this article) then you can only do it when the conversation is going well. Because your ex is more likely to say yes to a date when he is having fun in a conversation as opposed to when he isn’t. Now, I realize that this script is very specific and not every couple has a bakers together but this can work with anything. Now, the funny trick here is that your favorite place together doesn’t really have to be closing down. So, pick a favorite place the two of you constantly frequented when you were dating and go from there.
Once you plant the date seed he should catch on and take the reigns about asking you out even though technically you made him do it! Hey Chris, what do you when you have followed all the steps, but cut the no contact rule about a week early?
If I was Cordy and I got stabbed through the stomach after searching for my boyfriend only to find him kissing his best girl friend, I’d tell him to take a hike too.
2- The reason for the break up was not clearly stated by him, but did end fairly amicably (no intensely heated arguments, he even said for me to try calling him in two months…oddly specific).
Lately, I’ve had a lot of women coming to me and asking if they can use Facebook in any way to get back with their exes. According to a recent study conducted by a Western University student completing her Master’s thesis nearly 9 out of 10 Facebook users keep an eye on their exes profiles. I wanted to create a page on how you could best optimize your Facebook profile to give yourself the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back. Speaking of getting your boyfriend back, I would like to clear up some confusion about this page. In this section I am going to talk about some of the things you can do to improve the chances of your ex stopping by your profile. Do not contact him via Facebook- Not only could this be viewed as desperate but as you are about to find out, actually not contacting your ex is a smarter strategy.
Implement A No Contact Rule- I actually recommend doing this in almost every situation to get your ex back.
So, I want to take a moment now and discuss how important the no contact rule can be to your Facebook efforts. By essentially ignoring your ex boyfriends texts, you have forced him to come over to Facebook and check your profile out. The key point I am trying to make here is that your Facebook profile is a reflection of you. I am going to be completely honest with you, using Facebook to get your ex back isn’t ideal.
Here is the deal, if I find the girls I chose to be attractive then you can bet your ex boyfriends would be as well. I ended up choosing 20 women, I will not be giving you their names though so don’t go fishing around here because you will be disappointed.
I am not kidding when I say that, the mock story I told above (shout out to Rick ?? ) is exactly how 99% of men operate. Why would you even give an ex the satisfaction of knowing that his actions are hurting you? And since I am the voice of the average male, I think it is safe to say that your ex boyfriends would also find these women and their active social lives attractive as well.
Now, it is probably important to point out that there is a right way to display your social life and there is a wrong way to. Photos where you are out on a boat with a group of people and showing off your hot body in a bikini ;). I hope by now I have convinced you that the chances are very high that your ex boyfriend will be visiting your profile at some point in the future. There is nothing really more I can do to try and prove I’m doing well without him is there? Life is too short to spend SO MUCH TIME on the Internet (FB and other social media debacles) when most people have lost touch with the world and reality.
30 months to the day after I initiated no contact (with someone I never thought would have the balls to contact me after he ghosted on me) he did.
I took the advice of the moderators and the website and just ignored him liking my fb posts about my personal achievements over the last month (it was difficult and infuriating ) .
I haven’t responded to him contacting me because the one thing no contact has given me is distance and clarity .
When I do respond I’m just going to act like nothing happened and be nice and short . Hey Chris, I made a mistake of messaging him a few days and then it ended up turning into a call, at first it seemed like nothing happened and that we were still dating, then he got angry when I asked if he was feeling better (happy) then he said i got to call you later. It depends, adding him and then doing nothing can just leave him thinking or maybe he’ll just shrug it off or message you after that. Just when it seems like the two of you have hit your stride as a couple he drops a bombshell and breaks up with you. In fact, the respect has grown to a level where he is willing to give a relationship with you another shot. However, the one above (on my wedding day) I absolutely love because I didn’t even know it was being taken so I look natural.
Lets say that the disagreement revolves around the woman getting caught flirting with another man through text messaging. After all, men are hardwired to hunt and a woman flirting with one can sometimes be the equivalent of a shark picking up the scent of blood in the water. They don’t like it when they feel they are in the right and their significant other is in the wrong. He was then called on stage and asked the same question and gave a completely different answer. So, when these disagreements do occur and both people are stubborn about sticking to their views they tend to get into some pretty epic fights. Unfortunately, our relationship doesn’t last long and we break up again a few weeks later. Please note that we were long distance most of the time, and he came back to me when he moved closer to me again(same continent), we decided to give it a try. Thank you for getting back to me, I did that and it seems that he is scared of the idea that he will need to commit to a future of us eventually being together in the same place right now. Instead the smarter play is one where you take an existing texting conversation and leverage it to turn it into a phone call. With a transition story you are going to be keeping things relevant and transitioning from a text to a phone call is going to seem completely natural. That is the part that is supposed to catch your ex boyfriends interest enough to want to talk on the phone with you. For example, if my wife spent $1,000 on something and then the next day broke it if she were to tell me right there and then that she broke it I guarantee you I would not have a good reaction. You can just binge watch an entire season in a day and then you have to wait another year for that to happen. I mean, if you really think about it no man has ever asked a girl out who he thought was uninteresting. Very important to keep it short and think of interesting things to talk about before you get on.
Conversely, we haven’t talked in a month, so would it be weird to just call out if the blue? I know we haven’t talked in a while, but I have a bunch of exciting news to tell you about! I broke up with my boyfriend after an evening that I had dinner with friends and he couldn’t come because he was too busy with a business dinner.


From a distance it seemed like he gave a girl a kiss on her mouth a big hug and he started to dance with her. I will admit that when I did all the research for this site it never occurred to me to dive that deep into the ex recovery process.  I did think about it but I never really thought it was important enough to research. Since I am a guy I have a pretty good idea on what the perfect Facebook profile should look like to give yourself the best chance to reignite your exes feelings and ultimately get your ex boyfriend to come back to you.
I want you to remember that this page is dedicated solely on FACEBOOK and how you can use it to improve your chances of getting your ex back.
Unless you completely skipped the first few paragraphs of this page then you know that there is pretty much a 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is stalking your profile ;). However, you need to start looking at Facebook as a tool that can be used to further your chances of getting him to have those romantic feelings towards you again.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Obviously, the no contact rule is exactly what it sounds like, having no contact with your ex boyfriend for a set amount of time (usually 30 days.) The question is, why is it so important when it comes to Facebook? Figuring out how to become the sexiest version of yourself that ever existed and NOT contacting your ex no matter what. I could give you all the rules about how to approach the situation but it isn’t ideal. Nevertheless, I like to think that I am a pretty good indicator of the average guy (or in this case your ex boyfriend.) I decided that the best way to approach this was to go through the friends on my personal Facebook profile and jot down some of the women that stood out to me.
I don’t think it takes a genius to recognize how important your profile picture is to catching someones attention. When I go through my friends pictures there were some women who had profile pictures that rivaled this one. As I go back I count three women who I chose for this case study who employed that very method. Yes, it’s space, its actually kind of pretty but it is a completely missed opportunity.
While she didn’t have the best profile picture I think she knocked her cover photo out of the ballpark. Men are very visual oriented so while all that other stuff matters to us the first place we go is to check out your other pictures.
That is a really bad thing because it means he is in a position of power and he knows that anything he does is going to have a certain amount of sway over this girl.
This means, if you don’t have an active social life I think it is about time for you to get one.
Not only is that poor taste but your ex will view you as trashy and once you get that label it is really hard to shake it. Then after the call we started messaging back and forth joking around and then another call started. I really thought everything will be alright again, but after we hit our one year anniversary, which we celebrated together with a vacation, he broke up with me again 2 weeks after. For him, he sees that this would be a big commitment that might eventually lead to marriage. He replied saying thank you for loving me more than I have ever been loved and for understanding me more than anyone else. Well, using the above knowledge (the 5 things I just told you about myself) what would you talk about on the phone with me? He had ended things with me a few months prior and we were still in touch and I was down so I called him to speak to him, we ended up talking about our past relationship and I kinda told him I still had feelings for him and wanted him back. The breakup was one-sided and I was definitely desperate afterwards and made a lot of mistakes before finding your website ?? I felt like his reasons for the breakup didn’t make any sense and was really obvious and up-front about wanting him back. I kept it short, he seemed really happy and excited to hear from me, and it seemed like old times. Try to take the focus off of you for a first contact text and put it on something else that he is interested in.
It might not have been the strongest, but I still wanted to sound like “me,” you know? There are still a lot of things you can do to improve your chances of getting your boyfriend back. The second thing is pretty self explanatory but lets take a moment to focus on what you can do physically to become an uber hottie! So, from this point on I am going to be defining how your Facebook profile should look like to him when he comes stopping by.
I want your profile to not only make your ex go “WOW” but I want other guys to give you the attention you deserve! Let this be a lesson, women who went the extra mile with their profile picture will catch a mans attention. In fact, when I was pre-writing this page I almost skipped the cover photo section because I thought it was insignificant.
Now, most women I speak with think that Rick will read their wall, see if they are single or see how many guys are commenting on their status updates. I want you to look amazing in all of your pictures so by the time your ex comes around his jaw will literally hit the floor.
Well, I am one of the few men that could actually tell you that because I deal with so many women on a daily basis. Think about that for a second, I went out searching for women that I straight up found attractive and each one looked like they were having a blast in their photos with friends.
He continued the joking around and then I asked him what is with all of the mix messages lately? What is going on… is this a rebound or has he wanted her the whole time we’ve been together? Thus, his responses are short in length (like 1-3 words) or he doesn’t respond at all and ends up just calling anyways. I walked up to him and told him I never wanted to see him again and even slapped him in the face. I have heard stories of exes getting family members phones to get a hold of you, showing up at doorsteps and even spamming your FACEBOOK!
That is really the most powerful thing that Facebook can do for you, paint you in the best light possible. The big thing I began to realize right off the bat was how important it is for you to take a close up of your face. However, my mind changed when I logged on to Facebook and started screening my women friends. The only missing component for her was that she didn’t find a way to make her great cover photo and her profile picture to work together.
However, I can tell you that if you use Facebook for jealousy in a tasteful and smart way the results can be tremendous.
It was because of the long distance relationship since he lives in UK and I live in Singapore.
He also seemed like a different person within the last week, he was cold, emotionless when he broke up with me.
When I tried to convince him, but he still stood by his beliefs strongly like last time that he broke up with me. Prior to that I went and spent the weekend with him 2 weeks ago everything was fine and I really thought we were heading to a good place.
I am just kind of depressed that we are going to have to wait an entire year for the next season to start. If you are interested in a truly in-depth method to getting him back then I suggest you visit this page and this page.
So, if a lot of the attractive women I chose did something then you should probably do it too.
The thing that caught my eye the most was women who had the confidence to look at the camera for a close up.
I don’t care how nice a guy is, somewhere, deep down, he is thinking shallow thoughts. He saw the first picture she had to offer in her album and it did not paint her in the best light.
When they hear the news, his two adult daughters, Dom, who is trying to adopt, and Justine, who goes from one boyfriend to the next, are totally shaken. My question is do you think these “tactics” would work on a couple with such a serious issue? Since he already broke up with me this time, do you still think I should go back and try to convince him or I should do NC and see what happens?
Yet I have stuck to my guns and not called him because this shouldn’t be a one sided relationship. I caved and texted him really short that he’s killing me and also for her to never contact me again. Again, maybe not the strongest first contact, but it might have piqued his interest a bit since I had ceased to be productive in my craft lately. And since he’s not a text-er anyways, and my so-called lack of calling him was apparently a source of contention with him, when should I just call him in this case? I know that is a horrible thing to say BUT if you truly want to get your ex boyfriend back this is something you absolutely need to understand.
Of course, it is like hitting gold when you click on a girl who has a tastefully done profile picture and her cover photo reflects really positively on her.
However, not only did she miss on her profile picture but the cover photo made her profile unattractive to look at. Nevertheless, I don’t think it was a mistake that I found women attractive who all looked like they had active social lives. The only time I deviated from the positive and I’m enjoying life social updates was when I asked for advice on a subject at uni. I am willing to do long distance for however long, and maybe someday move for him, but he seems scared to make such a big promise.
And actually, I’m trying to build up to something major because there has been a couple of life-changing events that happened that do involve my works. I don’t necessarily wanna keep texting him, but I also have no idea what his state of mind is right now. Rather than rambling on and on I am going to give you an example of what I considered a bad cover photo and a good one.
From my side, I think when we are together we are amazing with each other, but I understand that long distance is a tough situation.
But when Justine falls in love once again and Eli nearly ruins everything, the family is about to explode.
After I am done with my initial rant I decide to log onto Facebook to see if you are still alive.
Honestly, I think he only uses messenger on his phone so he won’t see my Facebook at all. He was my first boyfriend in highschool and we seem to get back together every ten years or so.
One who is more my contact but has ended our friendship (glad it’s over to be honest. Very poisonous relationship) and the other who is his friend and I only speak 5 words to every week due to classes. So its not like I can use them to sneakingly send him information or even fathom them sending information to him. I’ve got 8 more days left of no contact and am feeling so much better than I was 3 weeks ago.



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