In February of 2003, we asked Buell's daughter, Janice Elliott Bennett, if she would interview her father for us.
He knew very well that a bomb was being built; however, he said the authorities never really told them anything and if you did know anything, you weren't supposed to tell.
A week before the bomb was dropped, Dad said they called them all in and said Congress was hassling them about all the money they were spending. When I asked him how he felt after Hiroshima, he said "I was never happy over it and I'm not happy now. When I got big enough (I was about three and Buell was about 17) he took me with him to Culberson, North Carolina in a wagon to ship out goods and pick up supplies for our store. Buell was a man with limited formal education but you inquired how he did as well as he did.
I am sort of hitch hiking on Richard Purvis's idea that someone should write up the migration to California from Georgia. I remember about the only mean thing Buell did to me - - he came home for a visit and stayed the summer of 1926 (Dale was 7). I know Buell was out here in 1927, since I've heard the story over and over of him taking my folks and my one-year old sister, Myrtle, on the Cyclone Racer in Long Beach and scaring everyone to death. We came back to California in 1935 and Buell was here during many of those years until the war. I know this is pretty rambling but Buell was a rambler and didn't stay in one place too long except for Oak Ridge.. Monteen immediately recalled that one day, out of the blue, Buell gave her a new watch; a very nice one and it had Roman Numerals as well.
Max fondly remembers as a very young boy being taken out for rides in the oilfields in Daddy's stripped-down flivver with Buell, Tascal and Uncle Bob Chapman - - all bachelors then.
Ruth said Buell seemed very tall, always friendly and had wonderful, curly eyelashes and blue eyes. A small flurry of speculation on the rock's whereabouts among a variety of old timers in this area brought up two or three possibilities with the most votes going for the Carneros Rocks out by Belridge. Hosted by assigned participant players, the Acoustic Live Friday afternoon booth showcases slogged through a constant downpour. I followed them part way, staying inside, next to Jim, the harp player, and Sarah, the fiddler, soaking in their swooping melody lines that helped the song fly.
This was my first close-up taste of this phenomenon; an organically formed band whose disparate pieces meshed as if grown together out of the same soil.
The story, however, begins with husband and wife Mark Miller and Beth Jamie Kaufman, who form the main stem from which the banda€™s other tendrils sprouted. After graduation, Mark went back to Boston, where his degree did not prove to be a job magnet. In spite of an obvious talent in the digital realm, Mark decided to move to San Francisco to become a chiropractor. At that point, as he said, a€?deep in the purgatory of the transition from the mature and peaceful art of analog tape editing to the nuclear fallout caused by the insertion of the first generation of PCs into the recording studio, I got a random phone call asking if I could write music for a video game. Mark spent the next 10 years building the largest independent studio for video game music and produced soundtracks for more than 100 titles.
Early in this period, Mark and Beth played together in a a€?dismal blues band.a€? She said, a€?It was us and a bunch of musician guys that all worked with Mark in the video game scene out in San Francisco.
A job offer from Harmonix brought Mark and Beth back to the East Coast and Mark worked for them leading a€?up to but not including the development and launch of Guitar Hero.a€? Needing out of the game business, he went back for his MBA at Northeastern University. Beth, being very resourceful, managed to find out what the instrument was (a bouzouki a€” leave it to David Lindley), and got Mark one for his next birthday.
In conversation with three of the other band members during our dinner together, I got to see firsthand why these intelligent, articulate, funny people have so much fun making music together and enjoy each othera€™s company off stage as well. Tom Socol is a good guitarist who had played in a lot of bands but hadna€™t played out for a long time.
A good friend of theirs, Steve, a professional bassist, a much more serious musician, joined the group for gigs.
One of the places that the band began to play on a steady basis was the Hastings Farmera€™s Market. Another piece fell into place when, similar to what happened with Tom and Ellen, Lou Gesera€™s wife mentioned to Mark that Lou, needing an outlet, played drums. John Neidhart, the bassist, had started off in folk and blues and had gone through a long rock a€™na€™ roll period.
When Tom couldna€™t attend all of the 2010 NERFA Conference, John suggested that Rik fill in at the remaining showcases and jams.
John Neidhart, theA  bassist, had started off in folk and blues and had gone through a longA  rock a€™na€™ roll period.
It was Christmas of 1939, and Ida and Viola, my two sisters, were working in Salt Lake City. The next thing I knew I received a letter from Ida telling me of her experience that morning. The LaGrande 2nd Ward, of which I was a member and from which I was leaving for my Mission, gave me a farewell party as we customary in those days.
My brother Alex and his wife had not been to the Temple to have their marriage sealed since she had joined the Church a few years before.
Those of us going down to Salt Lake were Alex and Mildred, their two sons, Richard and Gerald, my sister Viola, and Dorothy Richeson, a friend, and myself.
Then, Monday morning, I checked into the Mission Home on State Street for the two weeks training they gave all Missionaries prior to their leaving for their fields of labor. Previous to my going on my Mission and during the time we were making plans to go, I had somewhat of a heavy feeling. Then, the morning of April 25th came and I found myself, along with all, or a lot, of the other Missionaries getting ready to leave on various trains for their mission fields. Upon arriving in Los Angeles, we were met at the Union Station by the District President of the Los Angeles District, Ferris R.
Later in the afternoon, I took the Pacific Electric Train out to Belflower where I met Elder Archibald, my new companion.
For the first few days of our stay in Belflower, I got to meet a lot of people who were members of the Branch. We often went with President Visser to Long Beach to Leadership meetings as that was their stake Headquarters.
Of course, I was ready in the alloted time and on my way to Downey to work with Elder Ray Fransen. Another interesting experience we had was one Sunday when they were having Stake Conference in the South Los Angeles Stake. After visiting with him all afternoon and again in the evening, after Conference was over, Theron took us home. In a couple of weeks we called back to see if she had read the book and to pick it up if she was through with it. After he left, we went out to Sister Mossa€™s place to break the news to her and her husband, because Elder Holt also was being transfered to Compton, California, and there would be no missionaries in Downey at all. Saturday morning, October 12, President Hagey, my District President, came to Downey to take me to Los Angeles to report to President MacDonald for my instructions about the new district. While in Los Angeles getting instructions from the President, I got to visit some with the other missionaries at headquarters.
President Hagey and I stayed in Los Angeles that night and the next morning he drove me out to Riverside, which I greatly appreciated, as I did not have a car then.
We soon moved our headquarters of the Mission (District) to a better location, and the Missionaries started coming into the District.
As soon as I had assigned all of the Elders to their various fields of labor, I wrote to all the Branch Presidents in the District to introduce myself. One of the outstanding experiences I had in that District was holding Cottage Meetings in Hemitt. Needless to say, I was a little nervous also with the minister sitting in the back of the living room staring at me.
A few months later, after I had been transferred up to the Bakersfield District, I received a letter from President Choate, saying that the Rev.
I remember the Easter Sunrise Service we held in Hemitt that year as a District Conference. With two carloads of missionaries from our district plus one carload from the mission office, for we invited them out to speak at our conference, plus all of the people from over the district, we had a real conference. At the end of the first month I was out in Riverside, which was the day before I was to expect Mr. About a month later I was down in the Los Angeles area and went out to call on them for a visit. On one of those subsequent visits I remember telling her that I hated to see them wasting their time outside of the Church. Once, President Durham wrote to me to see if I would come down and speak in the Downey Branch for their Sacrament Meeting. She had originally resigned as pastor of the local United Brethren Church there in Holiday, California when she first decided to join ours; then after backing out of being baptized she went back and accepted the position again.
With this introduction, they all commenced talking at once telling me what a bad thing I was doing, disturbing people who were happy in their own religion until they heard me.
The last time I saw her in the mission field was about three months before I was to be released to go home. While in Riverside, I had the privilege of baptizing a Sister James and her six children into the Church. I have surely been blessed to have the opportunity to meet many of my friends from the mission field. Another interesting experience was when President Blood (Verna€™s next Mission President) called me into his office one day to talk about the Imperial Valley District. Once, when I had gone down there to take over the office from President Burton, I toured the district and visited all the branches in it.
While down there we accompanied one of the local brethren over to Yuma, Arizona to the branch there to speak in Church. I met some wonderful friends down in the Imperial Valley; President Cyril Gardner, and President Lunsford of the El Centro and Brawley Branches.
It was here we met and stayed with a wonderful family by the name of Arthur Lee {LNa€™s note: This man, Arthur Lee was a first cousin to Rhoda Jane Perkins Wakefield, being a descendant of Mosiah Hancock}. At this time of my life my hair was getting pretty thin in front, and in her conversation she turned to Elder Richards and asked him if he was out of high school. As the month of June was drawing to a close, I received a letter from President Blood transferring me up to organize a new district in Bakersfield, California.
They immediately started to explain to me that a€?Eldera€? was not their name, that it was their title.
Both Elders Grant Fisher and Glen Sorenson turned out to be really good missionaries and both served as District Presidents before their missions were finished.
That evening I held a meeting with the missionaries and gave them their assignments as to where they would labor.
After all the elders were assigned and working, I took three Elders with me and drove to Bishop. One day the two Lady Missionaries who were working out in Oildale, came in to the office asking if I would go the next week with them to a Cottage Meeting they had scheduled. We met regularly every week with her in her home and enjoyed the Spirit of the Lord to a very great degree. It had grown into a habit each week that after our subject matter was completed and we had taught them that part of the Gospel plan we had decided on, that Dorothy would bring in some sort of refreshment such as pie and ice cream.
When I arrived in San Francisco it was raining and nearly evening by the time I found the Mission Home. That night and the next day I spent time with President Ellsworth outlining what he had in mind for me to do. On my way up to San Francisco I received a letter as I was going through Bakersfield, from Clayton M.
The last week of my Mission, after having visited all of the districts in the Mission except Reno, Nevada, President Ellsworth called me into his office for a visit. Then, he told me to go to Reno, Nevada, hold the Conference there and instruct the Missionaries.
I was in Reno, Nevada when my release took effect, and with instruction to stop in Salt Lake to be set apart as a Counselor in the Bishopric, it would not allow for me to go back down to Bakersfield to baptize Dr. The next morning, which was Sunday, I went out to go to Church with my sister and brother-in-law, Paul and Helen Zaugg. The first of the week, or Monday morning, I went into the Church Offices to be interviewed and report my mission. Many years ago a friend of mine suggested that I ought to learn this song because he thought it would be a good song for me add to my repertoire.
The theme of the song is inspired by the words of Jesus in the Gospel of Matthew in the Bible, as referenced by Mrs. One day when you are older and your children have started their own families and have moved to another city or state, or when your friends become elderly and pass away, your wife is the one who will still be right at your side. Since my son and son in law has left us, but I know we'll see them again on that GREAT DAY. I never got to be a proper mother,but for 5 weeks,I loved you as much as any parent could in a lifetime.
This was like a separate state, with its own airplanes, its own factories, and its thousands of secrets. Following are our questions she used as a guide for the interview, with Buell's answers and Janice's comments. I, (Janice), remember Grandma Elliott telling me that he would rather fish than go to school. Other than fishing, he liked and had ducks which happily played in a small stream near the house, both of which still exist today. Pearl (his sister) Hill was going to Knoxville on a buying trip for her dry goods store and Dad went along for the ride.


At that time, K-25 was the largest steam electric-plant building in the world under one roof.
He had no idea as to the extent of the knowledge of other employees because nobody talked about what they were doing. I found a humongous trash pile back between the two stores where I found lots of bottle caps and other beauties and a perfectly good sardine can complete with key. Whoever they were, they were so broke and destitute when they arrived that they had to put up a tent or shanty to live in. He told me I could go back with him and I dreamed and planned on the trip as long as he stayed. He lied about his age and said he was 18 in order to get a job at an oil refinery in Ventura. I believe he and Minnie were living on Warren Street in Oildale when Janice was born and we were living across the street from the Poteete's on McCord. When he worked for an oil company while living in Taft, he sometimes pulled a small trailer out in the wilds there where he could camp and hunt certain birds, and that's where he saw the rock. Those rocks happen to be on a large ranch belonging to friends of our neighbors, and some old photos of that place were brought out by the neighbors showing some holes or caves that a person could easily walk into.
Just maybe a DOLOP huntsman will stumble on to it someday, or else Buell is teasing everybody this time! James Buell Elliott, age 99, of Blairsville, GA passed away Saturday, December 18, 2004 in Blairsville. The annual Friday afternoon Emerging Artists Showcase, always eagerly anticipated, ran into rough weather.
The author, having gotten drenched twice while dealing with canopy leaks, disgustedly waited it out inside his car, trying to dry off.
Tom, the guitarist, and John, the bassist, remained behind me, helping to drive the song on its merry way.
Many months later, I would sit down to dinner with the group and learn how they formed and grew together.
She also got involved in musical theater which led to studying and teaching theater, and later, a career in creative education. One exchange captures the disconnect between where he was and what the world was offering: a€?I got one call back from a high school teaching position in religion that did not require a mastera€™s.
Although he says it was a a€?horrible job,a€? it gave him access to the very first personal computer-based digital audio editing system.
When he got there, he got hired by Digidesign, the developer of Protools, to support their sales team. Mark needed something steadier with benefits, so he worked in house first at Sega of America and then at Crystal Dynamics. At a concert at The House of Blues, Mark and Beth saw David Lindley playing a€?lap slide reggae on somethinga€¦ it had eight strings.a€? It sounded amazing and they were both mesmerized.
When Mark got home from work and saw it, he thought, a€?God thata€™s wonderful!a€¦ Now I have to learn how to play this thing.a€? He picked up a copy of Rise Up Singing. One frequent visitor to the market was Jim Meigs, editor for Popular Mechanics and a blues harpist.
He was playing in a cover band and, as a change of pace, was looking for a country band to play with.
That went well, and when the banda€™s second CD New Amsterdam was almost done (the first was an EP called In Spite of the Devil), and something was missing, John suggested that Rik come and add some lap steel. Beth sums up the banda€™s spirit in her own terms: a€?Filling our home with music and singing alongside my husband has been a beautiful gift, enriching our relationship tenfold. The annual Friday afternoon Emerging Artists Showcase, always eagerly anticipated, ran into rough weather.A  Torrential downpours almost completely washed the audience off the hill. Although he says it was a a€?horrible job,a€?A  it gave him access to the very first personal computer-based digital audio editing system. Mark had gotten burned out on music during his time in the digital game business and didna€™t go near it for a long time. Taylor of the First Council of the Seventy, I was asked if I wanted to go to New Zealand, being as that was where my Mother had been made a convert to the Church and had lived all her growing years until she was about twenty one years old. Moss got a little tired of their conduct also, for she reached over and slapped one of the women on the arm who was doing most of the talking and said, a€?Shut up!a€? She told them if they would just listen to me I could explain everything. She had a sister who had been at her home a couple of times when we were there teaching them. Button asked me when I entered with Elder Crandall was, a€?If I should decide I wanted to join your church and asked to, would I have to deny all the spiritual experiences I have had?a€? My answer to her was, a€?Our Church was founded on revelation, which in, and of itself, is a highly spiritual experience.a€? That seemed to strike her very pleasantly and that night we started a very congenial, friendly relationship. Lyle Wynn came in to take my place as District President, and I left along with Elder Sorenson who was transferred with me. Button: As a young girl she met her husband while in a seminary studying for the ministry of the Methodist Church. Button and her membership in the Church: Each year for two or three years she would lock up her office and go up to Salt Lake to do Temple work and research in genealogy. Although today it is a staple of African-American worship services, the song was originally written in 1905 by two white songwriters, lyricist Civilla D. But the husband and wife just needto stay committed to their marriage and seriously work at learning to understand one another.
Buell was a well-loved first cousin of Lowery's & Opla's kids, back in the Taft and early-Bakersfield days. From its inception in 1942 to its conclusion in 1946, one of the greatest technological achievements known to man took place, both in Los Alamos and Oak Ridge, requiring the manpower of thousands and thousands of people.
Following Janice's notes, are anecdotes by Buell's brother, Dale Elliott, and by Buell's nephew, Richard Purvis. Year around he drove two mules and a wagon to Culberson, North Carolina every other week because that was the nearest railhead for selling and getting supplies for his Dad's store and for any other items they needed. He went into the AEC (Atomic Energy Commission) employment office in Knoxville and turned in an application. He said something about starting with methyl chloride and then going on to ammonia before working with freon. The day finally came and he started for Culberson on foot with his 25 cents to look for the circus. They only had $10 and were able to buy a milk cow for $9 and they bought a rope with the remaining $1 to tie the cow and lead her around to graze.
Mom was always aggravated by the age mixup because it made her seem two years older than she was since he was her younger brother. We lived in Georgia until 1935 and I know that Buell lived in Georgia during that period because I remember him visiting us and teasing me. Minnie was very sick after Janice's birth and she came to stay with us for about a month so that mom could take care of her and the baby while Buell worked. Another clear memory was the day that Buell motorcycled from Bakersfield to their house in Taft.
Tac and Buell would always give her five cents if she would let them lift her by her hair - - which she thought was worth it! Nothing was free standing but we thought these might be the same body of rocks that he had visited. Spuyten Duyvil, our first Acoustic Live showcase act of the day, had been one of those acts in Fridaya€™s Emerging Artists Showcase. As the last strains of the blues harp finished the song, Mark swung back into the canopy to change his instrument for the next song. As soon as he saw Digidesigna€™s 24-track recording studio sitting empty all night, he quit his pre-med classes and ended up running their tech support department through the launch of Protools. He became chairman of the Interactive Audio Special Interest Group and helped in the development of standards for a whole lot of digital stuff that, described in a€?Markspeak,a€? is not easily translatable in this publication. For a while it was just the four of them, on the porch, playing traditional songs and Marka€™s originals. Mark had gotten to know Lou, and knew that he wouldna€™t join unless he could a€?cut it.a€? Loua€™s ability to soften the sound to fit the banda€™s concept added the perfect touch. Doing overdubs, without previous accompaniment on that instrument, Mark recalled, a€?he tore up this material.a€? Mark recalled saying, with a Cheshire cat grin, a€?This CD just got a whole lot better!a€? Along with Jima€™s Chicago blues harp, it helped to define what the band is about. Later that evening, the Friday night a€?Most Wanted Song Swapa€? was canceled due to wind-driven sheets of rain. As Beth explains it: a€?It wasna€™t until years laterA that we began to circle back to music again. Moss to come out and get me to take me back to baptize them, back in Downey, I received a letter from Mrs. Unfortunately, my friend, Peter Bovell, is no longer with us, but I'm still thankful to him for suggesting it.
Then as they grow together through the years, they will eventually start to think the same and see things from the same perspective.A When this level of unity is finally achieved, it brings power to a marriage. I questioned god why her lord, my mom said never ask him why cause god makes no mistakes it was just her time. He lives with his daughter Janice and her husband Norm Bennett in the town of Hiawassee, Georgia. Buell, who oversaw the work of some 450 people, has told us in the following section, a little of what it was like to work in his particular arena. I guess his application impressed them enough so that he was immediately driven to Oak Ridge for an interview. Finally, we moved to Tullahoma, TN in 1955 where he worked for Arnold Engineering Development Center on the Arnold Air Force Base. His main meal is in the middle of the day (way too early for us again!) which I prepare using the crock pot most of the time. The wagon was loaded with egg crates, sacks of grain, cow hides, and other produce for a country store. He caught up with the circus about a mile out of town all lined up ready to march into town. They were loading their baggage into a wagon which was waiting between our house and the spring. A band known for its boisterous spirit, theya€™d played before the remaining dozen or so diehards standing in the rain.
Nevertheless, it was a joy making music with my soon-to-be husband.a€? While still living in California, Mark and Beth got married, with the ceremony taking place back in Brooklyn. However, the industry needed no translation and he received the first Lifetime Achievement Award from the Game Audio Guild. I learned how to play it and Beth and I did a lot of singing together.a€? Additionally, Mark found that playing the old traditional music in the book unlocked something in him and he started to write his own music.
After Steve left for California, Mark wanted to find another bassist, happened to be perusing the site and saw Johna€™s information and extended an invitation.
With all the interesting happenings of Buell's life one can see that he can be looked upon as being a library of stories of historical value and pertinent interests to the Poteete's and related clan members.
In winter time he would wrap hot stones in blankets to keep his feet warm (at least on the trip over).
The railroad company, in a gesture of good will, offered free tickets to key employees to go West where they would be more likely to find employment.
I think the huge migration of the Georgians out here is a tremendous story and should be researched while there are still people like Buell around. I believe it was Dale who said it would take Buell about five minutes to start his car because of all the hidden valves and switches. Little Carol, for years pondered about the truthfulness of Buell's and Tac's warning of not to let a Snapping Turtle get hold of a toe because it would not let go until February! I was fearful that the clouds signaled a trend, but Spuyten Duyvil had some magic up its sleeve. Wea€™ve uploaded a video of the song to YouTube, that shows the band playing for Alternate Root TV. He studied ethno-musicology and comparative religions but spent most of his time in the electronic music studio recording songs with his band, music for films and music for modern dance.
He recalled that, a€?I had written hundreds of pieces of incidental music and two or three lame attempts at pop music while I was in college. These guys are really good!a€? Then, a€?Hey, they could really use harp on that song!a€? Then, a€?Wow! Archibald, was transfered into the Mission office, and Elder Lamar Fairbanks came in to replace him. The next day we went with Brother Lee out into the country to visit a man, a non-member of the Church. The song is most associated with actress-singer Ethel Waters who used the title for her autobiography. I suspect they recognized his innate mechanical ability and put him to work sizing up mechanical problems and then fixing them. I thought so much of him that if he had told me to jump off a high bridge I would have done it.
Someone with wagon and mules was going to take them to Culberson where they would board the train for the long, hot journey to Bakersfield. A bunch of us boys would go out to the river with our rifles and shoot everything that moved.
Six of the seven players took shelter in the front end of the 20-foot space created by our two adjoining canopies. Some part of playing all that old-timey stuff flipped a switch and caused me to start writing stuff that had some meaning.a€? Beth was surprised because she was the one who had gotten into folk music at a young age and never expected Mark to get into the folky stuff. Although both couples were great friends, Tom was apprehensive at first because hea€™d been through some really bad musical matchups and knew there was a potential for a vast difference in their musical tastes and styles. They could really use harp on ALL their songs!a€? Mark remembered that a€?this guy would show up with his tweed case of harmonicas.a€? Jim would strike up conversations with Mark and casually drop hints about his musical involvement. Although both couples were great friends, Tom was apprehensive at first because hea€™d been through some really bad musical matchupsA  and knew there was a potential for a vast difference in their musical tastes and styles. He can just about fix anything mechanical -- but all this new digital stuff has him baffled.


Once I shot a quail and was a little worried to walk down the street with it since they were not in season. She saw a a€?sexy, tortured musician guy who was anything BUT boyfriend material,a€? but was drawn to him nevertheless. As Beth described it, a€?The more inspired he became to play and write, the more inspired I became to sing again.a€? Mark drew upon the history of the area for the banda€™s name and for inspiration in his writing.
However, when he heard gospel-tinged songs and saw no beer being consumed during rehearsal, he became afraid that the band was comprised of Bible-thumping fundamentalists. Her husband was an incurable cripple who had to propel himself to and from his business in a wheel chair. Several bars into the song, a€?Halfway Free,a€? it became apparent that the skies were benign, under the spell of a benevolent spirit. It wasna€™t until the band lugged a big batch of a€?crafta€? microbrewed beer (a band staple) to a campsite at Falcon Ridge that he relaxed and told them of his misperception.
It wasna€™t until the band lugged a big batch ofA  a€?crafta€? microbrewed beer (a band staple) to a campsite at Falcon Ridge that he relaxed and told them of his misperception. She said she didna€™t want to have anything to do with the Church, but as she had a brother in the mission field she wanted to do something for us because of him. Despite their afflictions, they lived happy Christian lives, bringing inspiration and comfort to all who knew them.
So he would unhitch the two mules, Old Will and Jack, so they could eat something while they were waiting. He skipped down to the drummer and told him that he had just been hired to be the drum bearer.
He was proud of having educated engineers working for him and asking him how to do various jobs. Beth remembers, a€?That one time was crazy but so fun!!a€? That would be the last time theya€™d play together for many years. He also introduced them to the next member, Rik Mercaldi, who he thought would be a good fit with the band. Moss came over to the door and took my hand, in their presence and with tears in her eyes told me, in a voice loud enough for them all to hear, how bad she felt for me, a servant of God, being persecuted in her home. She did this for sometime and eventually the same feeling came over her, and she said she knew it was not true.
One day while we were visiting with the Doolittles, my husband commented on their bright hopefulness and asked them for the secret of it.
It is the idea of two people who think the same, feel the same, and view things in life the same way. They were well trained and would always come back when he whistled, and they never went far. The bandleader, Mark, and the lead singer, Beth, cautiously walked out into the sunshine, joining their drummer, Lou, who tastefully played a marching band snare with brushes. That would be me [the pet].a€? He was joyfully surprised to discover that he enjoyed what Mark was playing. They are similar in their thinking, reasoning,A and conclusions.A Commitment is required in order for two people to become of one mind. One time, on a previous trip, a hog ran up and started getting Old Jack's nubbins and Jack bit a piece out of the hog's back. The family will receive friends at the funeral home 6-8, Monday, December 20.Cochran Funeral Home of Blairsville, Georgia in charge of arrangements.
Mark played a small tenor guitar in a crisply strummed attack and sang and led the group through a sharp uptempo rhythm with tightly executed starts and stops. Button and told her that she should go ahead and have one of the other Elders baptize her and not wait any longer. This word means to assign, to designate, to allocate, orA to intentionally give something to someone.
Beth did what she always does, belting out each stanza with the ferocity and abandon of a gospel rave-up. It refers to a calculated decision to show attention, awareness,or consideration to someone else. Moss answered the door, I could see she was all ready to leave the house, so I apologized and said I would run on. In this case, it refers to a man purposefully showing attention to and consideration for his wife. Boom!" with the rest of the brass band playing and the supply wagons being pushed by the elephants. Because Peter uses the Greek wordA aponemo (a€?givinga€?), this strongly suggests that the husbanda€™s attention, awareness, and consideration dona€™t occur accidentally. Buell was elated and felt very important especially when they passed a gang of boys who had come for the same purpose he had, but hadn't had the guts to approach the boss and ask for a job. They had been through the Salt Lake Temple and had their marriage sealed for time and all eternity.
Do you regularlyA devote time to one another that is free of the mobile telephone and the children crying out forA your attention? He tells husbands that they are to give honor unto the wife as unto the a€?weaker vessel.a€?A The word a€?weakera€? does not mean inferior or substandard.
This is the Greek word asthenes, which actually carries the idea ofA something that is fragile and of great value, like a priceless, beautiful, hand-painted porcelain vase that must be treated with supreme care. Other timesA you may express yourself over and over again, and your spouse still wona€™t get it.
She is to be given a place of high honor in his life, as if she were a fragile and priceless vessel.
When these two words are compounded together, they literally mean to share feelings and emotions. This refers to one who enters into someone elsea€™s experience to share that experience and to be a partner who understands what that person is going through. When you and your wife approach a door, open the door for her and let her goA through the door first. If you step through the door first and then let the door slamA in your wifea€™s face as she follows behind you, you give her the impression that sheA is of little value to you.
Rather than rush to judgment and get upset when we dona€™t understand what someone else is saying or doing, we need to reach out to that person andA try to understand.
It is absolutely essential that we learn to be sympathetic with our spouses.A When an opportunity arises that would normally cause us to get upset with our spouses, weA need to instead reach out to them and ask how we can help.
And when we see our spouses strugglingA in some area, that isna€™t the time to preach at them or judge them for it.
When your wife walks up or down the stairs or when she gets in or out of the car,A show enough consideration for her to reach out and take her by the hand and helpA her.
Is there anything I can do to help?a€?Lord, help me to put aside my fleshly pride and to do everything I can to understand my preciousA spouse. I confess that there are times when I just dona€™t understand what my spouse isA trying to say or do.
Instead of spending all the extra money on yourself, on your fishing trip, or on yourA personal pleasures, why not sacrifice a few of your own desires and give her thatA extra money to go do something for herself? When you give her a check or cashA and tell her to go buy something for herself, it will probably shock her!
But as sheA realizes that you are making a sacrifice of your own desires to bless her, it will sendA a gigantic signal that you love her and want to bless her.A 4. SheA works hard to be beautiful for you, and it is only right that you acknowledge itA when she looks pretty. We are achieving more unity than wea€™ve ever known in our relationship.A As a result, we are on our way to being happier than wea€™ve ever been at any otherA time in our marriage. If you have sons, you are also providingA a good example to them of the way they should honor their own future wives.A 6.
Would your spouse say that you are the kind and compassionate friend he or sheA needs or that you tend to be preachy and judgmental?A 2. Is it easy for your spouse to open his orA her heart and be totally honest in front of you? When you give her time that is completelyA undistracted, it lets her know that you want to be with her.
What do your answers to the two questions above indicate about the changesA you need to make in your words and actions so your spouse can feel more comfortableA with you? When you are at work, remember to pick up the telephone to call her during the day,A just to let her know you are thinking about her.
It doesna€™t take long for you to makeA a quick phone call, but that moment of consideration means a lot to your wifebecause it communicates to her how much you value her. If you always have time to be with everyone else butA never have time with her, you are sending her the message that she is the lowest priorityA in your life.
So take a few minutesA every so often to write a little note or card and leave it for your wife to find. HowA much time and effort does it take for you to pick up an ink pen and a piece of paperA and write two or three sentences of appreciation to your wife?
Ita€™s a small investmentA of time and creativity that speaks volumes to your wife about your love for her.A 10. Always remember special dates, such as your wifea€™s birthday or your weddingA anniversary.
Men tend to forget these things, but these are special memories to aA wife and it means so much to her when these times are celebrated with her husband.A Also, dona€™t forget to buy her a gift for these occasions. If you do any of theseA eleven things, you are sending a wrong signal to your wife, for none of theseA actions will make her feel cherished and treasured by you.
Even if she smiles and laughs, trying to shrug off your verbal jabs,A this kind of behavior on your part is deeply hurtful to your wife.
If there is a conflict between you, wait until you get homeA where you can talk about it privately, but never make fun of her or put her downA in front of others. And I must ask you again, do you want her to point outA all your flaws in front of other people? You would prefer that she speak to you privatelyA about such matters, so show her the same courtesy.A A 3. Never tell your wife there isna€™t enough money in the budget for her to buy a new outfitA a€” and then turn right around and spend a lot of money on yourself, your fishingA trip, your hobbies, grills, tv's etc.
When she sees you do this, it communicates to her that youA love yourself more than you love her. When you consistently make time for everyone in your life except yourA wife, you are making a very big mistake.
If needed, cancel something in your scheduleA so you can give attention to this most important relationship in your life.A A 5. Too often men act as if they are racing when they walk,A usually leaving their wives to walk five to fifteen feet behind them.
Now, I understandA that you may think your wife walks too slowly, but what is the use of racing in frontA of her if you must then stop, turn around, and wait for her to catch up with you? ItA takes the same amount of time to get to your destination, whether you walk alongsideA your wife or you walk ahead and then wait for her. She wants to be the one and onlyA woman in your life, so comparing her to other women is not wise and shows greatA disrespect.
Your sexual relationship is a time ofA intimacy that is to be shared only between the two of you. Therefore, when youA make jokes about it or talk about it in front of others, you are humiliating your wifeA and making her feel cheap. This is certainly not a way to cherish her or to treat herA like a treasure!A 8.Never lie to your wife or tell a half-truth to cover your tracks. If you violate her trust by lying to her and she discovers it,A your act of deception will affect her ability to trust you in the future.
It may be difficult for her to hear what you have to say, but at least she will know you are being honest with her.
If she discovers you have been lying to her, this will result in a far greater hurt than if you honestly admit to her what you have done wrong.A 9.
Men who consistently forget these twoimportant dates and yet expect their marriage relationship to stay healthy are either ignorant or stupid.
As noted earlier, the word a€?givea€? describesA a calculated decision to show attention, awareness, or consideration to someone else. This pictures a purposeful and premeditated action by a husband to intentionally showattention and demonstrate consideration for his wife.A If these kinds of thoughtful acts dona€™t come naturally to you, ita€™s time for you to learn how to doA them. The truth is that you showA kindness and consideration to other people, so youA can do the same for your wife as well. After you talk to the Lord,A it is also important that you humble yourself and ask your wife to forgive you as well.
Let the Holy Spirit teach you, correct you, and show you how to becomeA more sensitive to the woman you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. I accept responsibilityA for the role I have played in wounding her and making her feel unimportant. As I follow Your leading in this area, please heal my wifea€™s heart andA bring tenderness back into our relationship once more. I accept Your challenge to purposefullyA show the honor, attention, respect, and tenderness she deserves. My wife feels loved, respected, esteemed, andA special because I do the things that communicate value to her.
When is the last time you did something really extra special for your wife toA show her how much you love and care for her?A 2. Have you been guilty of jesting about your wife in front of others or of puttingA her down in front of the children?



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