If you want your ex boyfriend to miss you (after your breakup) then you definitely came to the right place. Now, I know that’s a bit of a shocking statement to make especially when you consider the state of the “get your back niche” these days.
That everyone who comes to the site to read, watch, or comment should be helped and attended to. Now, throughout this article you may notice that a few of our team members chime in and offer little tidbits of advice on top of the advice that I am dishing out.
You are still learning from me, Chris Seiter, it’s just that I always think five heads are better than one.
So, since you are inquiring about how you can make your ex miss you this page is going to be focused solely on that. So, lets do a little role playing here and assume that you end up taking the advice I teach on this page to heart and successfully make your ex boyfriend miss you. Don’t get me wrong, you will absolutely have to make your ex miss you if you want any chance of winning him back but it isn’t going to be enough alone. However, simply getting your ex boyfriend to miss you is essentially like trying to put a puzzle together with just one piece.
But you are probably getting bored of hearing me talk about Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO aren’t you? One of the things that I have always found fascinating when it comes to researching breakups is the scientific data that I come across. And perhaps that’s a little strange for the profession that I have chosen since a lot of getting an ex back is all about believing in an outcome that hasn’t occurred yet. Nevertheless, I think it would be wrong of me to try to teach you something without having proof it works which is why I find the scientific research done on breakups so fascinating. In 2005, psychologist Art Aron, neurologist Lucy Brown, and anthropologist Helen Fisher all teamed up to do an interesting study on individuals who had just recently gone through a breakup. They decided to have the individuals put a brain imaging tool on and then showed them pictures of their ex. The scientists were trying to determine what was happening in the brain of the people who just went through the breakup. The part of the brain that lit up was the same part of the brain that is commonly present in drug addicts who are going through withdrawal.
Facebook Creeping = Spying on an exes Facebook profile after a breakup to see what they are up to. Well, it means that there is a nearly 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is going to come strolling by your Facebook profile assuming you are still friends there. But again, I still feel this incredible need to provide you with overwhelming statistics before I specifically talk about the advantage you have.
Now, does that necessarily mean that if your ex falls into the 71% category that he is going to be missing you? No, remember, this statistic is basically just saying that 71% of people think about their exes too much. But it gets even better, 60% of people who are married or dating say that their ex is on their mind too much. Well, I think the important distinction that has to be made is if they are thinking about their ex TOO MUCH or just a little bit. Hell, I am sure even my own wife has had this happen from time to time but it’s not like she can turn her mind off.
But there is a definite difference between having your mind take a small trip down memory lane and thinking about an ex all day every day.
So, if your ex is thinking about you too much then you can ultimately use that to your advantage, right? Well, there is still one more thing that I think we need to cover before I can give you the strategy you should implement and this is something that is going to be important for you to understand because it’s going to directly affect your chances for making him miss you. Without a doubt the number one factor that determines whether a man will miss you or not is always going to be your past relationship with him. Now, I am not like those other relationship experts out there that will tell you what you want to hear 100% of the time.
If you had a horrible relationship with your ex your chances of having him miss you is going to be lower. Ok, one more thing to talk about before we can start getting down to the actual strategy of making an ex boyfriend miss you. Did you know that you have a “secret advantage” if you were actually the one to initiate the breakup with your ex?
We have already established above that you have an advantage in the fact that most people say that they still think about their ex too much but when you add in the fact that you initiated the breakup your advantage is going to be a little more distinct.
When I get to talking about the no contact rule (really soon) I am going to talk about psychological reactance. Psychological reactance theory basically states that when you take away someones options to do something their attraction to gain their freedom to get that option back increases. Well, now that, Ricky’s freedom to have that toy has been taken away what does he want more than anything? So, by breaking up with your ex you actually increase the chances that he will miss you because his freedom to have you has been taken away. Easy, it’s hard because I am the one that has to come up with the game plan for putting a “cheating couple” back together. So, like I said above, you probably aren’t going to have this secret advantage if you broke up with your ex if he cheated on you.
No, Esther Perel, has dedicated pretty much her whole life to studying infidelity and she has found that oftentimes men and women who cheat are still in love with their partner.
I am going to take it as if there is a fundamental problem with your relationship because in my mind a man who is fully satisfied with his relationship will be excited and engaged in his sex life with his partner. Nevertheless, if you broke up with your ex because he cheated then you aren’t going to have this small little advantage that I am talking about.
And to be honest I can’t think of situation that screams “taking a mans freedom to have you away” more than this one.
If you broke up with your ex boyfriend when he didn’t want you to break up with him then you have definitely left him with the impression that you are a very rare commodity.
You will find that the more scarce you are the more attractive you will be to men in general. I mean, something tells me that you wouldn’t find a diamond so attractive if you go buy it for a dollar at the dollar store. Because a portion of the success stories that I had recorded didn’t give me much information. Not really deep enough for me to determine what that particular person did to succeed in getting their ex back, huh? So, if you were to ask my opinion on how many of the successes used the no contact rule I would put the number closer to 90%. You are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook or Google your ex for a specific period of time. Hell, all you have to do is visit one of my “no contact rule” pages to see just how many women are struggling with it. No, you care about the psychology behind why the no contact rule can make an ex boyfriend miss you, right?
The question = Chris, what is the number one mistake you see people making after a breakup. I mean, put yourself in your ex boyfriends shoes for a second assuming that you were bugging the hell out of him after a breakup with you.
Would you find it attractive if someone you didn’t have feelings for anymore was bugging you every five seconds trying to convince you to do something you didn’t want to do? Truthfully, I watch the movie at least once a year and you know what causes me to watch it?
By not giving your ex a chance to miss you, via the no contact rule, you are shooting yourself in the foot.
With psychological reactance in play, your Ex is secretly thinking, “I want what you say I can’t have. I have this theory that the harder you make it for him to get you back the more he will appreciate you when he has you. The harder you make it for him to get you back the more he is going to appreciate you once he gets you back. And the no contact rule can provide that difficulty for him to succeed in getting you back. Now, if you are confused as to what this is let me give you a quick history of social media. So, if you don’t know my wife she is in charge of our YouTube channel and our marketing experts. Well, one day she decided that we should be featured on “Ted Talks” so she started trying to network with some of the people over at “Ted Talks” and she managed to locate one of the person’s Facebook profiles.
So, rather than asking me to reach out directly she decided that since this person was a man it would be better if she reached out since she knows she is a very beautiful woman. Anyways, what do you think happened to her after she changed her profile picture on Facebook from our child to a sexy looking picture of her. I am going to teach you my two best methods for catching a mans attention via social media. Now, even though this picture isn’t bad it isn’t earth shatteringly amazing which is what I should be going for. This is the kind of picture that I want you to be posting to your social media profile as your profile picture.
So, I guess what I am saying is that you should hire a professional photographer to take your picture. Often times it’s the things that make us step outside our comfort zone that yield the best results.
But when I would spy on her Facebook profile and see that she wasn’t depressed it would drive me nuts.
Anyways, one trend that I began to notice with a lot of my success stories was the fact that the women who ended up succeeding were actually completely moved on from the break up and living successful lives. Anyways, I kept seeing this phenomenon pop up again and again so when I did an audit of my success stories last month I learned that a lot of women who had actually completely moved on from their exes were able to get him back. In this section we are going to look at a number of things that you can specifically do to make him miss you while in the midst of the Frank Sinatra Effect.
When it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back you have to accept the fact that there are a certain amount of factors that are completely out of your control.
I explained that she didn’t look like that back when I knew her but now that I saw this new and improved version I wanted her immediately. During the day of the date I had reached out to her to ask if we were still on (BIG MISTAKE) and got no response….
It was starting to become clear that I was going to get stood up if I went to the restaurant but I figured I would give it one more try.
If you were to ask me what I thought one of the biggest mistakes that I see women engaging in are I would definitely have to say that becoming to obsessed with their ex is at the top of the list. In order to truly “move on, without moving on” you can’t be too worried about what your ex is doing. I haven’t talked a lot about this yet because maybe I am trying to save something for my book. If you really want to make the most of the Frank Sinatra effect I am going to teach you an amazing strategy. Basically if you want to utilize the Frank Sinatra effect to the fullest I recommend that you try to maximize these three areas of your life. What you are trying to do here is find a perfect balance between your health, wealth and relationships. I am a guy and let me tell you that I do not find it attractive when someone, who after a breakup, sits on the couch all day and eats ice cream.
Here is the kicker though, a few days later when I logged on Facebook I found that she wasn’t quite as devastated as I thought. It probably won’t go over too well if he checks on your Facebook profile and sees you making out with three different guys. In this example I am going to show you a specific text message that is meant to make your ex a little jealous.
Well, if you step back and think about it getting another human being to actively pursue you romantically is not a simple feat. If you get your ex boyfriend to start chasing you does that mean you will eventually get him back? For now, I want to invite you to check out what the E-Book covers before you continue reading this guide. The first and most important lesson I can teach you about getting an ex boyfriend to chase you has to do with logical thinking. One thing I have come to learn about women is that they tend to be a little more relationship oriented than men.
Now, I will admit that I can’t speak for every single guy out there but what I am about to say holds true for almost every male I have ever known in my live. Now, I do want to clarify and say that there was NO alcohol that this girl had drank so all of this was just a part of how she was acting.
My feelings actually weren’t hurt when all this emotional craziness was happening from her. I turned to my buddy to see what he thought of the idea and the second I saw his face I knew… I knew I was going to have to endure more of this craziness at the mall.
When we arrived at the mall I did my best to distance myself from the overemotional blonde that I had spoken to at the dinner. Of course, the brunette that I was talking to was grabbing a few scarfs (it was winter) and trying them on. As a joke she thought it would be fun to YELL at the top of her lungs “HE’S STEALING THIS SCARF!!!
Mall security ended up coming to talk to us and I had to explain to them that she was joking.
Now that you have a better idea of how being too emotional can work against you lets apply that knowledge to your ex.
Probably THE biggest mistake that I see from women who have bough Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO is that when the time finally does come to initiate contact with their ex they are not thinking about things logically. Believe me I understand how hard it is to remove emotion from the equation when you are dealing with someone you care about beyond belief.
Removing emotion from the equation will be the single biggest challenge you will face when it comes to getting an ex boyfriend to chase you again.
However, if you are able to talk to an ex boyfriend without emotion then you are going to make great strides in your attempt to get him to chase you.
Relationships are usually based on an emotional connection that you establish with another human being. So, when you turn off your emotions in order to think logically about a situation how can you possibly re-attract someone?
After all, it is their emotional connection or feeling towards you that will cause them to chase you and in order to develop that connection with them you need to tap into your own emotions. You have decided that you want me back and you have worked really hard to remove emotion from the equation any time we communicate in text or in person. I guess we should hit the rewind button and start at the beginning because in order to figure out how you can get him to chase you again you need to understand a few basic concepts. More often than not I have found that a lot of the women who come to this site screw things up by thinking with their hearts instead of their heads (again, are you seeing the connection to logical thinking?) After a break up please don’t fall into the trap of becoming a text gnat. Another thing that I want to point out is that in the example I provided above what set the text gnat off was not getting a response from the person that they were texting.
A few hours into our first conversation I knew she was a text gnat but she was a new breed of text gnat.
Ultimate Text Gnat- Someone who sends long emotional texts in bunches, has a high ratio of messages sent and a short response time. Let me give you a little background because the content within the message here is kind of an important deal.
Turns out, I was at a party hosted by my friend where we were going to watch the latest UFC fight at the time. All of the examples I provided from my real life experience technically cannot be applied to your situation. So, knowing this you are in a situation where at one point you had your boyfriend right where you wanted him, chasing you. I have alluded to this in a lot of the previous pages on this site but I have never really taken the time to go in-depth, until now. So, when it comes to getting an ex to chase you again you can’t do what you did before for a couple of reasons.
Getting an ex boyfriend to chase you again will require patience, strategy and a bit of luck.
I know, I know it isn’t exactly the most exciting thing in the world to talk about but it is an important thing to grasp.
When you love someone so completely and that person leaves you it is like they take a part of you and you will do anything to get that part back. The only problem is that being emotional is usually the OPPOSITE way to get that part back.
One of the most interesting things about running a site that helps women is the fact that I meet a lot of people. Women who are older tend to be more patient because they grew up in a time where they had to be patient.
So, I urge you to go against the grain and actually complete your NC period without any slip ups! The second form of patience we need to talk about today is the kind that you need to have when you are IN contact with your ex. Being in no contact, like I talked about above, means you are currently in the no contact period with your ex boyfriend. Obviously, this section is going to focus on the block of time that you are IN contact with your ex. I would like to focus specifically on the biggest problem I see from women who are currently in contact with their exes, trying to force things. Lets say that you actually completed a 30 day no contact period without any slip ups and you are now in contact with your ex. Quality block texting is probably the single most important tactic you can use when you text ANYONE (not just your ex) to get them to chase you. Well, like anything this important it can be a little complicated to explain all at once so I have found that the very best way to make it understandable for you is to divide it up into two categories. The TV episode theory is the basis behind QBT (quality block texting) which is something I really preach in The Bible.
End each episode on a cliffhanger with the intent of making the audience tune in again next week.
You see, throughout this site, if you are an avid reader, you will notice that every once in a while I mention the importance of leaving your ex wanting more.
Now, imagine if you could use this type of feeling to get your ex chasing you, constantly wanting more.
In my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, I talk a lot about how you should text your ex boyfriend.
When you normally text someone (with the intent of having a conversation) you usually do so until one of you grows bored and stops talking to eachother. What I mean by that is what if I told you to divide up that straight line into certain time blocks where you focus on only QUALITY conversation instead of quantity? Whenever I talk to someone that I am interested in I always cut my conversations with them prematurely. 30EBR 006: How To Turn Friends With Benefits Into A Relationship152Introverted Ex Boyfriends Vs.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. I initiate a breakup before but he pull me back however a week later he told me he wanted a breakup simply because he has no feeling for me and he prefers to be alone than in a relationship.
No matter how i beg he wont budge and insist with the breakup at last I told him that i will give him 3 months to lead the kind of singlehood life he wants and i will not contact him at all and end of 90 days let me know if he really prefer singlehood life. I would want to know if NC still applies bcuz its stated to NC for 30days but i have promise not to contact him for 90 days? If NC does not, can you please advice or help me what are the other ways that i can get him back? Its has been 2 weeks since i last had the conversation of giving him 90 days to lead the kind of life he wants and wil,l not disturb him.
Today 03 May he text me in the morning stating weather was bad and ask me to take care which i have not responded. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 16 months (We celebrated every precious months!) At the beginning of our relationship, my friends warned me about his infamous dating history. Recently, I got in a big bank loans for my father sake, and had to work terribly hard to get the money.
Days later I asked him out for a proper answer (second mistake?), I was difficult because he didn’t want to face me, but he came. I pampered he so well and we were very compatible in sex, so I thought I’m still somewhere in his mind. So all of that makes me keep my hope… Since recently I in a bad mood and usually make him tired and stress like me, what if that’s just his temporary feeling for that girl? Yesterday I found out that he is now officially dating the new girl, after the break up just 2 weeks!!!
We were a good team, helped lots of people (yes, I am proud of us) and had some laugh together. First though, this page is obviously going to be about how to make your ex boyfriend commit. This begs the question, if you are trying to get your ex back will this guide even relate to you? A lot of people rely on me for advice so naturally I see what happens in a lot of relationships on a daily basis.
Of course, most of my audience are only interested in one thing, getting their ex boyfriend to commit to them. I guess the point I am trying to make is if you want EXACTLY what to do (and not just the big picture perspective) you should seriously consider checking out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-book.
Now, before I can give you any helpful advice I think it is important to look at your view of commitment versus his view of commitment. In other words, we are going to be taking a look at those official definitions right now :). Typically, one of the most annoying situations I encounter are those women who do everything right and still can’t get a guy to commit to them.
When I was doing research for this particular problem (when a guy says he wants to commit just not right this moment) I ran into a lot of angry women experts claiming that if a man says this it means he NEVER wants to commit to you. Why is it that some men have no problem committing to other women when they couldn’t commit to you? It must feel like a punch in the gut to watch someone you clearly have strong feelings for be with someone else when they refused to commit to you. This is a fun little topic that I cover exclusively in my PRO System but I figured I would give you a little tease here! Now, if we apply what we know about men wanting the bigger and better deal which girl do you think the majority of men in the bar will choose as the most attractive mate? Well, at one point you were the bigger and better deal (when you dated him.) However, now that the two of you are broken up you have some work to do to reclaim the bigger and better title. If you want to get a man to commit to you then you have work to do in the most unlikeliest of places, within yourself.
You see, if I were to look at a big picture of my life I could divide everything I do up into three categories. Every single important action (excluding free time) I take can be put into those three categories. Now, probably the most impressive insight I can bring to you here would have to do with how money can affect your mental health (which you will learn all about next.) Maybe this is more of a guy thing than a girl thing but I can tell you that men pride themselves on how much money they make. If a man who makes six figures a year walks into a room there is a certain confidence about him that is unexplainable. If a man who can’t even cover the rent on his apartment walks into the room there is a certain uneasiness about him.
Yes, romantic relationships are included here but there is more to this than the romantic partnerships in your life.
For example, the last time you got into a screaming match with your ex boyfriend the chances are high that it really hurt you emotionally.
In this case the person can become extremely lonely and their mental health can be compromised.
No doubt that is probably the weirdest title to a section that I have ever created but I promise that there is always a method to my madness. The question that you are probably wondering is how all of this stuff relates to you, your ex and how to make him to re-commit to you.
Take me for example, lets pretend for a moment that I was dating you and all three areas of my life were really firing on all cylinders. Throughout this page I talked a lot about how men usually only commit to women who they view as the bigger and better deal. Well, even though I don’t know you personally I can make a few assumptions about you. Now, I could be completely off here but something tells me that I am probably pretty close.
The number one thing that women on this site fail to grasp is that no guy wants to commit to you unless you get all three areas of your life back on track.
It’s no coincidence that the most emotional women who tend to fail at winning their exes back are the ones whose entire life is out of wack. The first piece of advice I can give you if you want to make your ex or any man for that matter commit to you is to make sure that each of the three major areas are back on track.
Before we can get to the good stuff about making any man commit to you there are a few things we have to get out of the way first. Since this page is designed for exes (but the material can be used for just about any man.) I feel the need to point out some of the challenges you will face if you attempt to get an ex to recommit to you. If you say one wrong thing that thing could stick with the person for the rest of their life.
Seriously, I remember a girl once told me that I tried too hard to make things work once and even to this day that has stuck with me. If you and your ex boyfriend had a bad breakup one of the problems that you are going to have to overcome is the sour taste left in his mouth. This can be a really tricky problem to overcome but it is my job to find the solution for you so here it is.
While it may be possible that he will look back to your relationship with fond memories something tells me that right at this moment that isn’t the case. Women who sense that their ex boyfriend is holding resentment towards them after a breakup will do everything they can to fix the situation as soon as possible.
In other words, the more you push to communicate with your ex boyfriend the more he may push you away.
Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is give him time to sort out his feelings which will take amazing discipline from you.
I mean, how in the word are you supposed to make anyone commit to you if they don’t have feelings for you anymore?
Usually what can make a man lose his feelings for you is something that you do that he deems as extremely unattractive.
So, what I would like to do now is talk about some of the behaviors that most men will see as unattractive.
First things first, if I dated someone and she was getting drunk every day, doing drugs or just a HUGE party animal I would lose feelings for her really fast. With that being said, if a girl I date is talking to a lot of guys (in person) all the time it is going to make me more paranoid than I need to be.
However, probably the most common thing that gets on my nerves is REALLY overemotional women.
If I am in a relationship and all I seem to be doing is helping a person feel better all the time I don’t see how that can benefit me at all?
How in the world do you make someone fall back in love with you if they fell out of love with you in the first place? Well, the first thing I think you need to do is identify the problem areas where you went wrong the first time around.
Now that is a complicated question and coincidentally it is also the next major section of this guide! Heck, I even talked about a few of the major problems that cause cause a man to freeze at the idea of commitment. In other words, they all talk about what you need to do to make a man commit to you but they never talk about HOW you are supposed to do it. Imagine if you could make your ex boyfriend or just an on again off again lover feel that about you?
I feel when you are in a situation with your ex or with a guy who you desperately want to commit to you, you revert back to this mode where your heart is on your sleeve and you let your feelings pour out. Are you starting to realize the difference between you and women who are successful at making guys feel something towards them? Why don’t we work to reignite his feelings for you and also create new feelings at the same time. Well, in my experience reigniting old feelings can be done through texting, calling, facebook, etc, etc. While creating new feelings can be done through those mediums it is so much easier to generate them if you see your man in person and experience something new. We are going to attack his commitment-phoebe personality with his feelings for you and we are going to do that through two ways.
Obviously what you are doing to try to get him to commit to you isn’t working so you are going to have to change things up. If you plan on writing a one word text or if you plan on being a bore on the phone then leave this page immediately. I think the best time to have a conversation like the one I am about to show you is in the middle of an existing texting conversation. That is how intriguing you have to make your first contact text message in a conversation like this. When I think back to my last relationship I can highlight the high point of the relationship exactly to the moment.
I don’t know how to explain it but it was like this light bulb went off in my head and I was filled with this feeling of happiness, excitement, contentment and seriousness. It was like the moment I began to realize for the first time in my life I felt completely comfortable with another human being. The point is that if you could send a text that can tap into deep feelings like the ones I gave above then you are really onto something. Well, I would actually recommend that you keep the conversation going for 2-3 more texts and then after that simply don’t respond to his texts.
This is getting to be pretty long so I want to take a moment to make sure everyone is still with me here.
Talking on the phone can be very tricky for one big reason, it requires you to think on your feet. When the two of you start having your conversation don’t think about saying a specific thing.
Eventually, when the nerves have calmed down and the two of you feel comfortable talking to each other I want you to start an old trip down memory lane. The point of a comment like this is to force him to recall whatever trip happened in Colorado (assuming it was an incredible trip.) This way he will associate the good feelings he gets from that memory to you. Don’t be afraid to push him by being more specific about things that happened on the trip. Without a doubt the hardest part about talking on the phone is the fact that when you really want to talk on the phone you don’t want to get off of it.
This is so hard to do because if things are going well your heart is going to want you to keep going but you can’t listen to it. Imagine if you could have a new experience with your ex on a date that would cause him to generate new feelings for you. If you can think of an experience that you and your ex haven’t already had together I would suggest doing it. If you have any ideas for new experiences feel free to leave them in the comments to not only get my thoughts on them but give other people ideas! Then the shit hit the fan, while I was at a concert a friend of mine came up to me and said my ex boyfriend wasnt a good guy that on good authority the ex has been texting another girl for the last month and showed me a picture… this friend did not know the details but just thought that i should know. Your suggestion of having me as an option down the line is especially interesting however, it also pisses me off.
I guess I just need some advice on how long should this go on, this hanging out without commitment?
As far as half contact, my plan was to be civil reply to his communication attempts (assuming he will make some) and play it cool if you will but avoid seeing him.
I don’t like waiting and hoping for something that may never happen… how do you deal with that? Essentially I try to take an outsiders view and look at Ex Boyfriend Recovery’s overall weaknesses. More specifically, how to make an ex boyfriend answer the phone and what to do once you are talking to him. If you are an avid reader of this site then you know that I am not a huge fan of calling an ex boyfriend right off the bat. Before I really dive in to the phone call stuff there is something I need to explain to you. I want you to stop for a moment and really think about how many decisions you made based on emotions today. So, the seemingly innocent decision to get in my car and drive to school can be traced all the way back to an emotion that I want to feel. While I realize a first grader could figure this out I would still like to take a moment to define what is considered a good feeling vs a bad one. The thing that I find most interesting about good feelings is the fact that we all tend to gravitate towards them. The whole point I am trying to make here is that no matter what we will always be drawn to things that make us feel good. Above I talked about how both men and women tend to gravitate to things that make them feel good.
Anyways, the feeling I felt after the verbal lashing from those football players shaped my perception of the weight room in high school.
When you are dealing with an ex boyfriend the task can seem impossible but I assure you that it’s not. Remember above when I was talking about all that “good feeling, bad feeling” stuff? As long as you can find a way to shape his perception and have more pros than cons then you have a really good shot at talking to him on the phone. That all depends on your ability to understand that calling an ex right off the bat is NOT a good idea. In fact, when I first started this site I used to believe that as long as you could think logically and push the right buttons you could make an ex boyfriend call you and eventually get him back. It was only through interacting with you and seeing different situations that I realized that I was wrong. You see, you need to find a perfect balance between logical thinking and emotional output if you want an ex boyfriend to call you or to pick up the phone when you call.
Not only does it have advantages for making an ex miss you but it allows you enough time to get in the logical mindset that you need to get an ex boyfriend to call you. A few sections ago I talked about a major concept that ties directly into making an ex boyfriend call you. Well, one of the main questions you were probably wondering was how you can get rid of some of the cons.
Now, before I talk to you about what you need to do specifically to get him to call I would like to take a look at the reasons why he WON’T call you.
Anyways, after talking with me she was feeling pretty down about her chances and then she said something that I found fascinating.
I remember when I was first trying to think of a word to describe how annoying it is to get text after text from someone you don’t want to hear from.


Seriously, I remember when I was a teenager walking with a group on a mountain trail and gnats started buzzing around everyone’s heads.
We have already established that an ex boyfriend is likely to run away from things that will give him bad feelings.
In this (made up) scenario your ex boyfriend now views you calling him as a con on the pros vs cons list?
Lets switch gears here and focus on those women who are trying to call their ex boyfriends.
First off, there is a specific way that you have to call your ex boyfriend to ensure maximum success.
It’s funny, out of all these mistakes this is the one I think I feel I have the most insight into because in a way I live it every single day. Your ex boyfriend may find it very annoying if you were to force him to do something that he doesn’t want to do.
Right off the bat I will tell you that I sense the person who is saying it is extremely desperate.
Any time anyone ever texts this to me I start freaking out and wracking my brain with everything that could have possibly gone wrong to cause the emergency.
Well, when it comes to relationships men don’t negotiate with women who give them ultimatums.
Funnily enough, you would probably do what I wanted so you could get your phone back but you would always hold the fact that I gave you an ultimatum against me. This is the part where I am going to give you in-depth instructions on how you can make an ex boyfriend potentially call you or pick up your calls.
I am assuming that getting an ex boyfriend to call you is just one little aspect of your overall goal which is probably to get him back. All of these concepts are going to tie into a deeper gameplan with one goal in mind, to make your ex want you so bad that he calls you. For one, it is really important for you to obtain that logical mindset that I keep talking about.
What I would like to do now is go into the specifics of the gameplan so you have a really good idea of what to do to make your ex boyfriend call you. I love it when you meet someone new and you are literally on the edge of your seat anticipating their next text.
There is something magical that happens when you actually build an emotional connection with the person you are texting.
If you ever get to know me really well then you would know that I am the type of person that needs to get my beauty sleep.
You see, at that time I was a senior in high school and I really wanted to see my girlfriend more than once a weekend. Seriously, if you were to walk into my room tomorrow at 5:30 in the morning and poured cold water on me I would still be sleeping. THAT is how you make him call you and you are going to do it through the least threatening way possible, through texting.
A guide that is supposed to be about phone calls and we are going to spend a huge chunk talking about texting.
In other words, you are going to get your ex used to associating you with good feelings before you talk on the phone so that when you do things will go extremely well.
Below I have compiled a lot of text messages that you should use to get your ex to associate you to good feelings.
If there is one thing I have learned about the women visiting my site throughout this past year it is that they want results fast. If your ex does respond positively to the first texting example that will give you the ability to use another texting example on this page. Now, if your ex does NOT respond positively to the first texting example then you need to take a step back and realize that he isn’t ready to build an emotional connection yet. That means YOU have to have the willpower to cut the conversation off right when it is starting to get good.
That will make him associate that good feeling with you since YOU were the one that gave it to him.
Another important thing that I would like to mention is that you shouldn’t continue the conversation too much longer after you send this initial text.
Because your ex is likely going to fish for more compliments and you want to leave him wanting more.
I love receiving messages from a girl that I am interested in and I am going to guess that your ex is the same way.
Another great message I received was a girl walking down a hotel hall just talking about what she did all day. One of the best video messages I received was a girl masterfully flirting by commenting on something I said. Do you remember when you read that get your ex boyfriend to call you guide on your phone or computer? This text message is all about making your ex boyfriend remember a good time the two of you had together. Lets move on and talk about the two types of phone calls you really want to receive or make! I would like to now turn our attention to the real reason this guide was created, phone calls. But really at the end of the day the main goal here is to get on the phone with your ex boyfriend so you can work on getting him back.
More specifically, have you ever gotten a phone call out of the blue from a guy you had feelings for?
Of course, if this type of phone call is done correctly it can be a very powerful way to get your ex boyfriend on the phone.
Leading Phone Call- A type of phone call where you lead him or warn him that you are going to call.
Up until this point we have been talking strictly about how to get an ex to call you (or to pick up your calls) but one thing I haven’t gone into is what you are supposed to do once you get them on the phone.
This is going to be the final section of the guide and arguably the most important one so make sure that you are paying attention. I have thought a lot about how to structure this category and I decided to start with two general ideas.
I have talked on the phone with a lot of people in my life so this is really something that I consider myself to be an expert on.
Of course, in order to control someone you have to really get them hooked into your conversation first.
I have never met any of these celebrities in real life and yet somehow I am fascinated by them. Of course, you don’t have to tell a Hugh Jackmanesque story to hook your ex into the conversation.
The Afterthought Effect- The emotional feeling your ex boyfriend is feeling towards you after he hangs up the phone from your phone call. This would be considered to be a negative AE and something that you need to avoid at all costs. A week or so later he calls to congratulate me on my new job, we chatted he smiled and laughed, I smiled and laughed. Before you even attempt to make your ex jealous lets talk a little about what you want your ultimate goal to be.
What I am going to do now is give you a brief overview of how to properly use jealousy and then I will talk about each aspect in-depth. The No Contact Rule- You are not allowed to contact your ex in any way after the breakup for a minimum of 30 days. Alright, now that you have an idea of what the no contact rule is I am going to talk a little bit about the things you can do during the no contact period that can will your ex jealous. I get a lot of emails every single day (random fact- I have 9 unanswered emails in my inbox just from today) and one of the most common mistakes I see from women is the fact that they don’t do anything at all during the no contact period.
Look, if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous I seriously want you to spend those 30 days NOT thinking about him. Disclaimer: Some of the things on this list WILL make you uncomfortable but I am not in the business of being nice for the sake of being nice I am trying to give you advice that will help make your ex jealous and hopefully put you in a position to where you can get him back.
If you are an avid reader of this site then you may be aware that I am very much in favor of going out on a date with someone new during the no contact period. Now, I am aware that you are looking for an exact step by step method for what you need to say to your ex but I am not going to get into that here because this page is supposed to only be about the ways you can make your ex jealous (I actually put together a guide about how you can use texting to get your ex back already.) What I will do is give you a few ground rules that you need to follow when contacting your ex.
Showing that you have control of the conversation is very important for a number of reasons. Well, luckily for you I have been on the receiving end of quite a few ungettable girls so I can tell you some of the tactics that they were able to use on me that proved to be pretty effective. There is a lot more to the story but as you can see she dominated the very first conversation we had. Bowing Out Of The Conversations By Not Responding- This is a pretty effective way to establish control. Since we are on the subject of texting lets talk a little about the most important type of text if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous, the jealousy texts. We are long distance which complicates things but we had a long talk the other night and agreed it’s best that we part ways. Been reading your advice since day 1 of the of a two year relationship break up 3 months ago. I was seeing someone since February but it never got serious he never asked me out we just slept together through the year.
Hi there i have a a few things i need help with been dating this guy i love n he says im his everything n he loves me we been dating since 2012 have a 2 year old son he was running his own busniss and reno a house which made alot of stress he has broke up with me 10 times never last more then a couple weeks sometimes even days bc we would disagree or he would take on more stuff rather than realzizing what a family needs not just his own. Hi Chris, so I came to this site because after 6 years together my boyfriend broke up with me and I was trying to do what other sites say to move on from the relationship by trying my best not to contact him and you know give myself time to mourn the relationship.
I can’t tell you how many times women have told this to me when talking about their ex boyfriends. In other words, if an ex boyfriend is acting like a jerk this guide is going to attempt to explain why.
You have to admit that it is a little comical but I feel there is a hint of truth to this view when it comes to jerk behavior.
We all have our individual views on how relationships should be treated but these individual views can sometimes make it hard to pin down exactly what a jerk is.
Societal jerk-like behavior includes things like cheating, saying hurtful things (that are uncalled for) and overreacting over ridiculous things.
Of course, this guide is unique in and of itself because it is not studying men as a whole.
Luckily, I am a man and I have also been an ex boyfriend who remembers almost all of the thoughts that went through my head during my past relationships. Now, I can’t give you all the gory details of my past because I have no interest in slandering an ex on the web. It is a thought that runs through every woman whose ex boyfriend has just been a jerk to her. Lets start with a common one for ex boyfriends, causing unnecessary fights after the breakup.
I wanted to start off with this behavior because it is likely that this is something you have experienced for yourself. When I say “causing fights after a breakup” am I just talking about the normal fight that may occur during the breakup talk? I once reacted like this after a breakup and I am about to lay some shocking knowledge down for you. Thus, I would find a way to fight with my ex even when she was just trying to be nice and check up on me. Looking back it was a really rotten and insecure thing to do but I actually don’t regret the experience.
I actually love talking about this particular type of behavior because it is going to really address one of your greatest fears, having your ex look at other women or go on the rebound after your relationship.
Well, during your relationship with your ex boyfriend were you constantly catching him check out other women? Many women will rally by your side if your ex does this and label him a jerk but I am not so sure that is the case. Yes, you heard me I don’t think your ex is a jerk if he was casually looking at other women during your relationship. The first thing I want to tackle here is that there is a difference between looking at other women casually and looking at them and aggressively pursuing them. Every boyfriend you have will hopefully have two eyes and he can’t help but notice the beautiful new intern. One of the things that I am most proud of about myself is the fact that I am loyal to a fault.
Deciphering if a boyfriend or ex boyfriend is a jerk will require you to study how they approach this very situation. If a beautiful woman is literally throwing herself at your boyfriend would he have the will power to put a stop to it? Furthermore, a man who is a jerk might even pursue a beautiful woman if shes not throwing herself at him.
You and your ex have just broken up and now he is off talking to ten other girls at the same time.
This is an interesting question because technically right now you and your ex boyfriend are broken up.
However, there is a way that a man can be a jerk when it comes to other women after your relationship ends. You found this website so I am just going to assume that you are interested in your ex boyfriend in some way shape or form. If your ex boyfriend is flaunting other women at you as a way to “stick it to you” did his time with you mean anything to him? I know that may be shocking to you when his actions seem to say otherwise but lets take a moment and look at things from his perspective. No matter how toxic the relationship a breakup usually hurts both parties involved in some way shape or form. Essentially an ex boyfriend who reacts this way will think the world has ended and not do anything to improve his situation.
Now, I don’t know your situation personally but if you are reading this particular section on this page then something tells me your boyfriend is not acting like this.
One reaction that men have to breakups is the fact that they look to fill the pain by talking to other people, other women in particular. I am not saying it is morally right but I figure if I opened up and told you a little about my experience it might make a few light bulbs go off for your situation.
Usually when women ask me about this situation I sternly tell them to read my rebound relationship page. I have read multiple stories from women who have gone absolutely crazy once their boyfriends have ignored them (all of them later regretted it.) I guess the point I am trying to make here is that pretty much everyone hates it when someone ignores them. So, if your ex boyfriend ignores you whenever you try to reach out to him does that make him a jerk? I think the answer to that question all boils down to how he approaches the initial ignoring. Of course, there are other times where I really want to hear from someone but instead I hear from you and at the moment I am not in the mood to talk to you because I want to talk to this other person. The fifth type of behavior that an ex boyfriend can display if he is being a jerk has to be lying.
Off the top of my head one specific lie that an ex boyfriend can tell really jumps out to me, why you broke up. I am usually careful about the way I word things on this site so I don’t paint myself in a corner that is impossible to get out of but I think right now right here I am going to paint myself in a corner. I know it is a total douche move by us guys but we want to lie to you about breaking up for a very specific reason. Now, the reason I used that particular example is because I know for a fact that you ARE good looking enough because at one point your ex boyfriend dated you. Out of all the behaviors that I have talked about on this page this one is by far the most despicable. I really debated if I wanted to even include this behavior in this guide because this is pretty dark stuff. Right now I am known as one of the top experts in helping women get their ex boyfriends back.
So, I guess the question you need to ask yourself is how can you tell if your ex boyfriend is a jerk that likes seeing you in pain? It is pretty much common sense that people say some really dumb things when they get angry. However, where I have a problem is when the person shows absolutely no remorse after they say the hurtful thing. An ex boyfriend who is a true jerk won’t show any remorse after he says his hurtful thing. I do hope I have given you some helpful insight into his mind and why he may be acting a certain way after your breakup. I also just wanted to take a moment to reflect on this past year (2013.) I wanted to thank all of you for reading, learning and communicating with me throughout 2013. From the bottom of my heart I want to thank you all and I promise I will keep doing my best to deliver the best content I possibly can. We were about to get married, and one day out of the blue, he sent a Whatsapp message to break up. The trip he was on, while we broke up, was also about 30 days, so I thought I would ask him for the car back when he came back.
Days pass, I remind him that when I left the house we shared where I live now (which is his) was left clean, with all payments made (by me) etc.
He responded that he was on a trip again, and that he could come back on February to give me my stuff back.
I mean, breakup a years long relationship via whatsapp, then not have any kind of discussion regarding living arrangements, taking the dog while I was away and expecting me to wait for two months to get my car back is sort of being a jerk, isn?t it? I know I?m supposed to be upbeat and have positive interactions, I haven?t been gnatting I?ve been polite, but how can I have positive interactions while he acts like this?
Even if I reinitiate No Contact, I need at least the car before that (It?s mine, I paid for it, I had it before I met him, it?s not like I?m stealing, I didn?t ask for any money even though I had invested a fair amount on his house either). I know my contact this time was not positive, and mostly failed, because nobody wants to give a car back, I guess. Hi Chris, my ex who I dated for 11 months has gotten back with his old ex girlfriend who cheated on him before and who he dated on and off freshmen and sophomore year about a week after I had broken up with him. I texted him telling him how disappointed I was in him and how much I felt like I hated him, I was angry when I said all those things but I never meant it.
Its completely awful right now, we dated and were perfectly happy for 11 months and friends for 5 and everything was wonderful I had never loved another person like I did him and he was such a sweetheart to me in everyway, I broke up with him over a stupid dispute with his parents who never like anyone who goes out with.
I have been praying for answers so can you give me advice be cause I don’t know what to do any more. I just found out that my ex, who dumped me while crying furiously and saying that he doesn’t want to lose me and so on, went out with our friends two days after the breakup (we were together for almost three years) and made out with a new girl in front of them all night. How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous- And Make Him Want is great image for your collection and this design is free to use with high definitions resolution. You will find that my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery is a lot different than the rest of my peers. I mean, just the other day I was doing research on a forum and I saw hundreds of women NOT getting answered.
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So, without further ado, I give you the method in which you should employ to make your ex miss you. Oh, and one thing we are really good about here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is answering people’s questions. Just ask Veronika Lukacs who conducted the study as part of her Media Studies Masters thesis, in which she looked at how many people have admitted to “Facebook Creeping” on an ex.
So, this basically tells us that even if you are married you may still think about your ex too much. He Can Break Up With You- Where your ex boyfriend actually is the one to initiate the break up.
You Can Break Up With Him- Where YOU actually are the one to initiate the break up with him. And for a man to cheat on you generally means that the wasn’t fully satisfied with the relationship. The no contact rule is without a doubt one of the most successful strategies for getting an ex back. If during that “period of time” you are contacted by your ex you are not allowed to respond. Behavioral freedoms vary in importance, with some being highly important because they deal with critical survival. In other words, the probability that your ex boyfriend is going to peek at your profile at some point post breakup is high.
In other words, if we want to get featured anywhere popular she is in charge of making that happen. You can potentially make your ex boyfriend one of those men and show him what he is missing out on by posting strategic pictures on your social media profiles. Here is my general rule of thumb, any picture that makes you look like you belong in a magazine is definitely the one you should have as your profile picture. Now, for those of you who don’t want to step outside the comfort zone and hire a photographer I have one piece of advice to you. I want this exact thing to unfold for you when your ex boyfriend snoops around your profile.
To me, teaching people to get back with their exes is my passion and in order for me to give people advice I need to understand the trends. However, when it comes to making him miss you there are a lot of things you can do that will improve your chances.
The plan was that we were going to meet there and we would probably go for a walk after that.
During your no contact period (which is when you should probably be in the Frank Sinatra mindset) make sure you don’t focus on your ex too much.
It is important to remember that the two of you broke up and while you may want him back you need to understand that rome was not built in a day and you won’t get him back in a day. She had posted pictures of her having fun with friends and basically having a really fun social life. Notice how in the example below you didn’t specify if your movie date was with a male or a female. It is actually pretty common knowledge among a lot of the women (and even some men) who visit this site. Yet, if you type in a simple Google search and try to find something that actually can help you understand the process behind making a man chase you, you probably aren’t going to find anything that is worth your time to read.
Granted, it is a very large part of the process but still, there is a lot more to recovering an ex than just getting him to chase you. So, if I talk to one of the women and find out that she can be a little too overemotional at times I would be less inclined to chase that woman. I usually hate going on these type of deals but my buddy begged me so I threw caution to the wind and decided to go for his sake.
One of the blondes was constantly casting looks over in my direction and saying stuff that I think was supposed to impress me. Instead, I remember thinking that a girl that acts like this is going to be unstable to date so in my eyes she became very ugly.
However, the Bro Code clearly states that you never leave a man behind so I sucked it up and decided to join the group excursion. Being able to talk to someone with logic instead of emotion gives you the ability to make smarter decisions and avoid common mistakes that I see every day here on the site. Using a logical mindset you should be able to identify certain factors or do certain things that can cause me to begin to re-develop an emotional connection. If you want someone to chase you that is how you have to view your interactions with that person. While there are times where a speedy response is required, in most cases I would say that a more measured response time is preferred. The text message example I used above is a vague account of what I remember from my conversation with the Facebook girl. This girl was attractive (from her Facebook photos) if she hadn’t been a text gnat I may have very well taken her on a date without her even asking. After all, the main point of this article is to get your EX chasing you and not someone you just met.
Too many times have I seen women make the mistake of immediately contacting their ex during a breakup only to fall in the text gnat trap I described above. Not only does it give your ex a chance to miss you but it also gives you a chance to get your head together.
It is the block of time after no contact where you are allowed to talk to your ex boyfriend.
Following my advice in the E-Book or on the how to get your ex back page you have successfully opened up the conversation. The first thing I would do would obviously be the NC rule and everything else I talk about in the E-Book and in this site. Once I have done that I would build rapport with you and then end the conversation prematurely.
It will end our conversation on a cliffhanger and open up a possibility of me contacting you later.
So, when I don’t get a date with someone I like I end up thinking a lot about what I could have done better to improve my chances. Then, 2 of his ex-girl friends also shown up and told me about their terrible memories with him. We did everything together, we overcame hardship together (mostly his), we introduced each other to our families (as Asian, this somehow indicates a very serious and long term relationship).
He used to ask me about our future, and if I wanted to marry him now or not (just 1 month before the break up, but back then I said not yet, and I extremely regret now). I believe that girl may never take care of him as good as I do, and he is the type who loves being taken care of. The time period between my texts and his texts (and vise versa) are at least 20 minutes, sometimes even 5 hours. The only way I can think of is by answering the next day, thus my time span would be pretty long. Around 3 weeks ago I found out he has been cheating on me when I was not around so I dumped him. Do you just miss him but he didn’t change but even so you want to try if he will change?
One of the most frustrating circumstances that I typically come across are the women who have done everything right and they STILL can’t get a guy to commit to them. While this site will always have an intense focus on exes this particular page can be extended to men in general.
My goal here is to make this the best resource that has ever existed when it comes to ex boyfriends. I mean, this is an essential part of getting an ex back so it is definitely an important piece of the puzzle. Yes, there will always be some men that won’t ever want to commit to you, that just goes with the territory, but I think there is some truth in the statement.
But you want to know what I think the most interesting part of him wanting to have the option of you down the road is? This definition revolves around what your ex (or any other non-committal guy) thinks about commitment. However, they only believe in it as long as they think the person they commit to is beneficial to them in some way. I am here to help you understand how to make your ex boyfriend commit to you and the best way to do that is to look inwards with self improvement. Before you can do anything YOU have to be in the right frame of mind and that is what this entire section is all about, getting you in the right frame of mind. I am not saying this to sound arrogant I am saying it because I have a very unique view on life.
In fact, if all of these three categories are fulfilled to their highest potential then I will truly be happy with myself and my life. The point is that if you don’t make enough money it can have an impact on your mental health and confidence. Now, since I have already told you that all three areas of your life blend together what will happen next can only be described as a domino effect. So, what we have here is a trifecta of badness in which all three categories can be put out of wack by just one bad thing happening. While there is a lot more to making a man commit to you this is one of the biggest steps you can take and I think you should start right now!
For example, after a really bad breakup you are probably going to be left with a really bad taste in your mouth.
Sure, there are men that just suddenly lose their feelings but these men are very rare and I would say most of the women reading this aren’t with a man like that. In fact, I would say, if anything, I should be more jealous because if a girl really wanted to she could crush my heart by cheating and I wouldn’t have the faintest idea because I am very trusting.
Now, I am all for a girl hanging out with a guy friend now and then but if a girl ends up spending more time with guy friends than with her actual boyfriend I would have a serious problem. In fact, a relationship like that is completely one sided and that really isn’t a relationship at all. I know women better than probably any man you have ever met before so I have an idea of what you ladies need to be happy in a relationship but don’t think I am any different from any other guy out there. Secondly, I want you to never make these types of errors again either in a renewed relationship with your ex boyfriend or a new relationship down the road.
That is how you make a man commit to you and that is what we are going to be covering here.
I also want to point out that if you use the examples I give below word for word then you aren’t going to do well. During your normal conversations with your ex if he is taking forever to respond to your texts then I wouldn’t recommend trying anything like this. The perfect way to start any serious conversation is with a statement that could potentially drive a man nuts if he doesn’t find out. Throughout that relationship I am guessing a lot of things happened that made the two of you feel good. So, we are going to leverage this fact by looking at his best experience in the relationship.
While I am extremely careful to separate my personal life from this site I can’t help but think of an extremely good example using one of my past relationships. I felt that any flaws I had were gone and I could just be myself and the feeling was liberating.
Either he is going to bite the bait and you are going to have one of those super long text conversations or he is going to give you a negative response. In other words, make him feel so much for you that he has no choice but to recommit to you. I have talked to people on the phone a lot in my life and I have found the best way to deal with any phone conversation is to remain upbeat and positive. If you go on a date and you are super nervous and you can’t think straight then that date will probably suck.
You really want to force him to remember an incredible memory and associate that memory with you. This causes a problem because part of the goal with talking on the phone is to leave a guy wanting more.
For example, if the two of you were going to have a 45 minute conversation on the phone then I would say you should cut your conversation short at 30 minutes so you can leave him wanting more.
Sure, you can watch it multiple times after you see it for the first time and enjoy it but generally speaking, nothing is going to trump that first time seeing it.
My ex and I split about a month ago he broke it off with me after I brought up ( several times during our 9 month relationship) that I wanted a deeper connection with him. After thinking about this and believing it I attempted to sever all ties with my ex boyfriend after multiple attempts from him to contact me the next day. I decided to just call it quits as he swore up and down and had valid explanations for all of the above accusations.
He texted back right away letting me know he was at the gym… he called and acted like nothing even happened.
What is this no contact backfires and he never contacts me… where is the line with no contact when he contacts me?
It is through these weaknesses that I can learn more about how to improve the site as a whole for you. While I am sure this is an inappropriate example nothing can illustrate my point better than it. Once that drug user uses that drug and gets the good feeling they don’t just stop there. This is especially true when it comes to relationships but before I go into that lets talk a little about bad feelings. The reason this is a major mistake is that right after a breakup there is no logical thinking. However, there is one aspect of NC that I really haven’t ever gone into, the stabilization effect.
Admittedly, after a breakup your cons are going to be a lot higher than your pros on your exes list.
Doing that is essentially the same thing as poking a bear, eventually the bear is going to explode but if you wait until the bear calms down he is going to be much more receptive of you. Look, I am going to make this really simple for you, the key to getting any guy to call you is to give him a reason worth calling. This particular woman really wanted to get her ex boyfriend back but there was just one problem, she made every mistake in the book. In fact, I have made so many mistakes in my own personal relationships that I sometimes wonder why my (now) ex significant others stayed with me as long as they did.
Gosh that was so annoying because no matter how many times you swatted at the gnats they just kept coming back for more. Unfortunately, the more you call or text when he doesn’t want you to the more likely it is that you are going to reinforce his decision of why you give him bad feelings. Every day I get women contacting me trying to force me to answer them and help them with their problem.
That is essentially what an ex boyfriend would feel if the above statement was said to him. Before I get started I do just want to say that everything from this section on is going to be very important so make sure that you are paying attention. Also, the act of entering into a no contact period alone can sometimes cause an ex boyfriend to call you.
However, at the same time you want an emotional mindset to bring out the good feelings that he associates with you. In fact, there have been times where I anticipate a text message so much that I get angry when I don’t receive a message as fast as I want it to come. It’s almost like everyone starts out with a very logical brain but the more and more you build an emotional connection with someone your brain becomes more and more emotional and the most ironic part of it all is that we love it when it happens. Instead, I want the phone call to be like old times, to help rebuild the emotional connection that you both used to cherish. If this is the situation you find yourself in DO NOT use the texting example in the same conversation you used the first example. That is completely ok it just means that you need to go back into no contact period for a while and give him more time. Yes, for the first time during this entire process you are going to talk about your feelings! Essentially, you are going to say something semi sweet, as I will demonstrate in the graphic below, but what you are really looking for here is to see if he says something sweet or semi sweet back.
It is through those text messages that you can tap into your ex boyfriends emotions and cause him to replace his bad feelings towards you with good ones.
But you also have to take into account the fact that most guys don’t call girls unless they like them in some shape or form.


It’s important for you to realize that with this type of phone call we are flipping the script.
However, if he makes up some excuse for why he can’t talk you then you need to hit the reset button and try again at a later date.
When I am interested in a girl there are two important things I do to keep them coming back for more. That means that you are going to dictate where the conversation goes and how long it will last. Now, I can’t guarantee that the tactics on this page will make him jealous because lets be honest, your boyfriend is a human being and most human beings are impossible to control. BUT I do feel it is important to mention that if you came here looking for a way to get your ex boyfriend back you aren’t going to find it. A married friend of mine once told me a little about the psychology behind a mans thinking and I happen to agree with him. If you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous for the sake of making him jealous then I don’t think this is the page for you. I want you to go down the checklist I am about to provide and address all of the things on it. In college, I began to notice a pattern between the girls I liked and the girls I didn’t like anymore. She basically has so much confidence that she reduces a guy into thinking that he can’t get her which really turns 85% of guys on. Remember, I am just going through my phone in the last six months and pulling out conversations with girls who I really really really liked. He was very genuine the whole time and did say that the cheating was an extremely drunken hook up (basically blackout) and he thought he could just leave it be and move past it, but it started to eat him alive when he found out my sister had gotten cheated on. It wasn’t the easiest relationship, we fought quite a bit due to his drinking and I have a habit of trying to make him jealous so I feel wanted. I said to him if he was him the guy in a certain place the day before that I had seen and that he looked good. My boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago and I have not had any contact with him, but I work with his mom and she and I last talked about him three nights ago (I don’t know if she repeated anything to him or not). Our chemistry is something else though and being with him feels so right but I don’t want to make bad decisions and not sure how to act now. We got into an argument and I told him how he dragged me into a game and that he never treated me right because he never asked me to be his girlfriend and thought that we were done because we both said really mean things to each other. I was doing great I was working out and hanging out with my friends, I didn’t really post many photos of myself going out but I did post really good pictures of myself and when I saw he would like them I would post more photos of things we use to do together like a tv show we watched together and foods he liked me to make. So, automatically that means that every little thing that an ex boyfriend does is going to be dissected and taken personally. Well, once again I am going to attempt to expand your knowledge on the male mind and dive into the reasoning behind these jerk-like acts that your ex boyfriend keeps engaging in. Sure, maybe two people can think very similarly but no one is going to think exactly 100% of what another human being is thinking. However, what I can give you access to is all of the thoughts that went through my head which is really want you want anyways, right? Doing so requires you to take a trip into the mind of a man and that is not always a fun place to be. Of course, you being the amazing person that you are you offer to remain friends with me and I angrily decline your offer. You know, the one where you and I dated and we both argued every time we talked after a breakup.
It has been about five years since that particular incident has occurred so I have had a lot of time to reflect on exactly what I was feeling. Even now when I look back at some of the mistakes I made I cringe and I feel like I was a completely different person. Sure, I was definitely in the wrong with how I acted during the breakup but it allowed me to truly be honest with myself and make some major changes in my life. While this may make relationships a lot easier (and put me out of a job) real life is different.
You show me the most loyal boyfriend on earth and I bet I am more loyal than him in a relationship. Sure, you are incredibly angry with the breakup and you have called him every mean name you can think of in your head but should he really be considered a jerk? Now, I want you to imagine for a moment that after your breakup your ex boyfriend starts meeting and talking to all these other beautiful women. This type of breakup reaction from an ex boyfriend usually means the chances of him wanting you back is going to be increase because lets be honest…. Now, I am a really nice guy so I didn’t look to date any of these girls because I knew it would be for the wrong reasons. So, since I felt really down I started looking for other sources outside of my own internal circle to tell me that they liked me and cared for me.
So, if he dates her and determines that the standard she sets is better than the standard you set then they will probably have a longer relationship than you might expect. Both of us verbalized that things would be different but despite the differences we both wanted to remain friends.
You need to assume that your ex boyfriend is lying to you about the real reason he broke up with you.
However, I figured if you understood the process that goes through a mans mind it could make a few light bulbs go off on why your ex may not be completely honest with you about stuff. After the breakup you decide that you don’t really want me back but you do want to remain friends.
We are automatically going to assume that you aren’t going to be on the best of terms with him.
I am all about forgiveness and I think it is important to understand that when emotions run high logic runs low. I think it is ok to make a mistake here and there, like an impulsive angry comment, but it is not ok to take pleasure in seeing how that comment can hurt someone. Usually I give these really long step by step instructions on how to do a certain thing or get your ex to react a certain way. It is my constant need to provide you with the best content in the world that has made this site great.
If you have any ideas on future guides or any questions about your jerk of a boyfriend ?? please comment in the comments section below. I asked him to move out in July, and we were supposed to try to fix the relationship, take things slow, have fun date nights and seek help for communication issues in the relationship. He was on a trip, and didn?t leave me his hotel number, so it?s not like I could call, but I believe he should?ve.
He said his mom would pick him up, and she took him while I was at work, and couldn?t really do much.
We both have family on another state (which is not where we lived together, and is not where he is working now) So I sent a text asking if he was visiting them for christmas, and politely asking for my stuff back. Am I supposed to just suck it in, and let him have the car parked in another state for months while I take the bus? I don?t want to just let him get his way and start being super nice, while he?s being such a jerk. I begged for him back the day after the breakup because I knew it was wrong and I was still fully in love with him.
His girlfriend texted me telling me to stop talking to him and that he was with her and not me for a reason and he isn’t going to come back so get over it. How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous- And Make Him Want is part of the popular collection wallpapers. So, that puts you in a pretty good place because many of you will find that it’s not going to take too much to get him to miss you. A few weeks ago I compiled all of my recorded success stories to try to determine any correlations that I could find between what the people who had actually won their exes back were doing that the people who were failing weren’t. Stephen Worchel (2004) suggested that these freedoms help define the individual’s self-identity.
But lets take a trip to fantasy land (your favorite place in the world) and say that you successfully get your ex back. I am saying that this tactic (getting in shape) will be beneficial to you in not only making your ex boyfriend miss you but it will be beneficial in helping you with future relationships (if you have them.) How effective is this tactic? You basically leave it up to your ex to assume if you went to see a romantic movie with a guy or a girl. Furthermore, when it comes to getting an ex boyfriend back it is the logical and less emotional woman who tends to win out in the end. Now, I am not denying the fact that being emotional can be a good thing in certain cases but it can really work against you if you are tying to get someone to chase you. Of course, if you are able to remove emotion from the equation you are presented with an interesting contradiction. Instead, she didn’t approach the situation un-emotionally and did nothing to make me WANT to chase her. Again, there may be certain cases where this is not true but I believe that in most cases it is. You ignore him if he contacts you and you aren’t allowed to reach out to him during the NC period. Of course, the reason most women who try NC and fail is because they simply don’t have any patience. If I am fortunate enough to find a good TV show that is worth watching I will binge watch all the seasons in about a week or two. What if I told you that there was a way you can text someone, be in control and keep things interesting. However, when the time comes for me to finally get in an actual conversation with you (and I want you to chase me) I am going to implement the QBT theory. Now, obviously a lot depends on the content of the messages I sent you but if I do a good job it can definitely work to my advantage.
You need to be logical in order to decide when you need to cut the conversation off and that can be really hard if you are establishing good rapport with your ex.
They had a crush on him, he let them in, took care for them, slept with them a few times, then suddenly broke up and forgot everything.
I still tried to come over his place at night to cook and clean things up, but his class ended really late so I couldn’t stay to see him (he is an 2D artist lecturer). Seemed like he tried to compensate me by buying me gifts, hold my hand, and ask me to hug him. As I know, he still have my photo as his lock screen and our photo in the home screen of his phone. I am aware that this is probably due to the fact that it is only a week after the NC and I have to be patient. But I didn’t know how to do it because he used to contact me all the time without me doing anything and now things have changed. There was a calm and relaxed atmosphere, he was on his laptop, I was reading, and we even said one or two words. That’s right, if you are single and are having trouble making a man commit (that is not your ex boyfriend) the stuff I talk about in this page can also extend to you!
Of course, as in-depth as this site is I am not always able to cover everything there is to cover.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
While I understand this can feel like a slap in the face I honestly don’t think you should get overly angry about it. So, he doesn’t want to commit to you right now, ok, well that means that YOU are going to have to become someone he HAS to commit to. The point is that sometimes the best solution to get what you want is to take a step back and remove yourself from the situation for a little bit.
In other words, what would a girl have to do (while dating me) for me to lose my feelings for her? Look, I am all for having a good time but there is a line that can be crossed and I honestly don’t know if I can trust someone with my heart who is drunk all the time.
Before I talk about anything I think it’s important to tell you about how important feelings are to make a guy commit. You think about it throughout the day and sometimes it is so prevalent that you can’t even concentrate on day to day activities. In other words, when I liked a girl I would just let the feelings pour out and trust me it creeped a lot of girls out. Wait until he is very responsive because this is as much about timing as it is about saying the right stuff.
Sure, a lot of stuff happened that made you feel bad too but we aren’t focusing on that.
Lets assume you follow the directions I gave above and you yielded a positive response to the deep memory you chose.
However, if you are super calm and you just focus on having fun the date has a good chance of  going well. If there are a lot of awkward silences then don’t be afraid to get in there and fill them. If he didn’t want to be with me and wants to play around he had his opportunity why not just let me think he cheated and not spend hours convincing me he didn’t?
After all, the main point of this site is to prepare you so that you have the best chance to get your ex boyfriend back. I know at times I can get a little bit wordy but I really want to push the importance of you reading this entire guide and not skipping a section. While I certainly do it for entertainment purposes I also do it because I know that if a show or movie is written well enough it is going to make me feel good. Anyways, I had a bad experience while I was there when some of the fitter football players made fun of my appearance. However, the main reason for that is the fact that emotions are heightened after something emotional happens (like a breakup.) Of course, with time that emotional headwind you are facing from him is going to lessen. Of course, it wasn’t until she stumbled across Ex Boyfriend Recovery that she realized that her behavior was not ideal. So, as you read the list of mistakes I am going to compile below I don’t want you to freak out if you have made one or all of them. That feeling of nagging can sometimes burden a man and unfortunately that burdening can lead to pain.
For now, I want to point out something incredibly annoying that women can sometimes do when they get desperate for an ex boyfriend to pick up their calls.
While I respond to every single person in the comments section of this site I no longer respond to emails (unless they have to do with the E-Book.) If I responded to every single person through email I would literally get nothing done. It is through your exes emotions that you will get him to call you or pick up your phone calls. More specifically, consistently hooking him into conversations that reinforce your good feeling vibes.
The reason I like this text message so much is that it gets your ex used to comparing you to a good feeling. So, I am going to recommend that you use this text message as a way to open the conversation. For example, you can pretend like you forgot something about the memory and are asking him to recount it for you. I do want you to tap into your emotions but I want you to be really conservative on how you display them. Instead of looking for a way to make HIM call you, you are going to take the reins and call him!
What if you and I were to talk on the phone and you did an amazing job of hooking me into a conversation. We recently just talked on the phone for the first time in a long time but instead of me being left with positive thoughts of you I was left with negative ones after we hung up.
With that being said, I have seen many of the tactics outlined on this page work for many of the women I communicate with. It goes like this, most men forget how good they have it when they have been dating or married for an extended period of time.
I don’t want to go into too much detail here about it because I have done multiple in-depth posts about it already like this one. I want you to take a moment and imagine how you have felt when, in your previous relationships you caught wind that your ex went out on a date with a new girl. Now, this tactic was risky and only really worked on me because I clearly had feelings for the girl. A couple of things to note: this girl was probably the most attractive girl I have ever met. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough and she would simply bow out of the conversations whenever she would like. So, many people have the opinion that cheating is cheating and is unforgivable, however now after talking to him I see he genuinely is hurt because he cried to me saying he missed his bestfriend, and he could not throw away our time together. He said to me that the guy was so good that he wasn’t him and that he was at home the day before.
Do you think I should start the no contact rule as of three nights ago in case he heard that I am still upset? The past time this summer i startrd hanging with griends other guys soon as he got wind he it was blow up my phone going to go to a counslor bevause he is un stable with always letting the stress get the best of him. So recently after almost 4 weeks of no contact, he sends me a text message saying he misses my cooking and my voice, even asked how the food came out and said my tacos were the best (the ones I posted pictures of). If he does something good that will benefit you it is likely that your heart is going to race with excitement.
Every time you attempt to talk to me I say something that sets you off and then you say something in return that really sets me off and before you know it we are both having a full fledged argument. However, I am a human male and I am not afraid to admit that I look at other women when I am in a relationship.
So, does it make him a jerk if he talks to other girls after the two of you aren’t together anymore?
In fact, it starts getting so ridiculous that you have a sneaking suspicion that he is talking to these other women as a way to upset you. However, I knew that if I got some type of interaction with the opposite sex and just got this feeling of being wanted by them it would make me feel better. The only way that your ex boyfriend will take another girlfriend is if he thinks that she beats the standard you set. Of course, if the standard the new girl sets is not anywhere close to yours then sooner or later he will come to his senses, trust me! For instance, after I advised a visitor here to enter into a no contact period with her boyfriend he got so crazy that he showed up in the middle of the night at 3 a.m. So, if you never ever hear from me again after you have tried multiple times to contact me then that would make me two things. You did a lot of things that hurt me and quite frankly you don’t deserve to talk to me again.
For example, if I have a pressing action I need to get done on this site then my attention isn’t really going to be fully with the person I was texting. You may have dated a real big jerk who gets off on seeing you in pain (see the next section) but generally speaking we don’t want to see you in pain.
Lets say that the two of you had a really bad breakup and he has a lot of anger and emotions at the moment. When I saw how hurt this person was after I said it I immediately felt horrible about myself and went on an apologizing rampage. Instead, this guide was all about understanding the complex person that is your ex boyfriend. But during the living appart period, he had no time to do any of theses things and was supper disrespectfull to me so I ended things. He told be that he did not want to be together with me since he was not in love with me anymore, but he told me that he still loved me. Here you can find some new design about How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous- And Make Him Want for your current screen resolution. It gives both of you a “cool off period” to calm down from the breakup, it gives you the opportunity to improve yourself during the “cool off period” and it raises the chances that he will miss you. Her active social life made me realize what I was missing out on and made me a little jealous and angry that she wasn’t as devastated. Of course, if you are going to use jealousy on your ex boyfriend it has to be done a specific way. For the next 30 minutes I talked to her trying to get a gauge on what she was like and then I noticed something…. Now, the thing to understand about text gnats is that it will be very difficult for you to get your ex boyfriend to chase you if he considers you to be one. That means that I have personally dealt with a lot of situations when it comes to exes and I can tell you that the no contact rule is the hardest thing for women to do. As I am sure you have already worked out younger women tend to end NC sooner than older ones. I WANT MORE!” It was a perfect cliffhanger because I had to wait an entire year to see the next installment and I never forgot that feeling.
However, if you can get a good conversation going that line can usually keep growing for a long time.
I am dividing my texts up into these segmented blocks of quality time where I control everything. In return, I also became everything he needed, supported him with everything I know and I can. But even before I used the NC (yes, I am one of those who still had contact with their ex and went NC after 3 months) I had to wait a long time before I got an answer. One of the others, who knows about how I feel, even asked me since when my ex and me are getting along so well again. I really miss him and want him back in my life could you please help me in how to get him back. Well, when I did I was greeted with two opposing definitions and it gave me an idea which I will explain a little bit later. If your ex asks you one question that catches you off guard and you say something wrong you could screw up your chances entirely. I have taken him to the airport picked him up, slept with him once over the last month (very early on when i thought we were just in a fight and things were going to go back to normal). Why after I acted like an absolutely mental case when thinking he did this not cut me off completely? I have been thinking a lot lately and have noticed one area where this site really lacks is when it comes to phone calls. The decision that I made to watch a TV show on my iPad is done with the end goal in mind, making me have a positive feeling. Your goal with every interaction you have with your ex boyfriend is to leave him wanting more. Doing this will give him a mental visual of the memory and hopefully bring up those good feelings from within. All I am saying is that you have to do a good job with the text messages in the section above for this to work. Add in the fact that I don’t like drama or confrontation and you have me sitting through one of the most boring dates of my life.
I was reading a relationship article about jealousy the other day from a pretty well known relationship coach. So, if you want to make him jealous to bring out his protective and romantic side then this is the right page for that.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? I am actually talking about it in this section because I believe that going out on a date (even if you have no intention of actually dating the person) is best to do during the no contact period.
Nevertheless, I was the one putting more effort into the conversation which meant she was in control.
Last week we had to see each other and ended up having a really fun time together and hooking up a few times, we both enjoyed our time together and I can tell he misses me, as I do him. I still have feelings for him but will posting a picture of my new friend and me help me or will he think that it’s finally over between us? I just want him to ask me to be his girlfriend, we went to elementary school together and we have great chemistry. And seen ancounslor was everything i wanted him to be than bam 4 months later same the thing back to his old selfish ways breaking up with me.
Essentially he is flaunting his interactions with the other girls at you as a way to get a rise out of you. However, as time goes on I say some very hurtful things to you that leave you crying every day. This anger within him is going to cause him to seek revenge by thinking of the most hurtful thing he can say to you. I understand what it is like to say some very regretful things through anger because I have been there. A lot of you comment about how insightful and helpful my guides are to you but the truth is that without you those guides wouldn’t exist. Until today, he was a complete jerk to me, he was still angry that i ended the relationship. I immediately started doing NC (I also bought your ebook for further guidance) and did not break it for 30 days.
5 months before we broke up I moved in at his moms place, due problems with my parents (atm I am 19 years old). I get the rebound thing, heck, I know that they were flirting while we we’re dating and that actually caused a lot of problems for us, so I get that maybe he really liked her more than me, but making out with a new girl in front of our close mutual friends and sleeping with her freaking two days after he dumped me and acted so miserable about it? You can download this as nice desktop wallpaper by right click and save as into your computer. Please do not be alarmed as I will just be mentioning it as a helpful reminder that the particular sections I will be talking about on this page will be covered, more in-depth, in the E-Book. You want results faster than they can come and your ex is slowly but surely being turned off by this. I want to talk about the actual having a conversation with him because this is where you can really make strides in forcing him to chase you.
When he ask me for official dating, I didn’t know that he was still somehow “unfinished” with the latest girl. He sad he loved me but the feeling stopped because I was so after the money and work, so busy that he didn’t see me as much, and I was always tired and doomed. Before be said goodbye, he admitted that he met a new girl (one of his students), and shift ALL of his feelings for her.
While some of us like to communicate the vast majority don’t like to vent about their feelings. It should be driving him nuts as he goes to bed and as he wakes it up it should be on his mind. She just cuddled up to me and it felt great to have another human being consciously just want to be there to cuddle with me.
I want both of you to get your teeth into the conversation and kind of get a feel for each other. Instead, you will just be reinforcing the emotional mindset that you probably already have. Seriously, if you have never seen this guy interviewed before stop what you are doing and go watch him.
His article basically went on to say that you should never use jealousy to try to get your ex back.
IF you are looking for in-depth details and step by step guides to getting an ex boyfriend or husband back I would like to point you towards Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-Book. Here is the kicker though, if a couple like the one I am describing (a man who is comfortable and not tending to his woman’s needs) go out to a bar and the woman starts flirting with other guys the dynamic will completely change. Sure, he will be angry and sad but I promise you at the end of the day he is going to question why he ever let you go. However, if she doesn’t challenge me, intellectually or emotionally, I will lose interest. Anyways, she dominated the conversation so much that I literally felt like I had no chance so I just gave up even though I really liked her.
Also, not that I think this is going to happen, but what if he contacts me before the NC period is up?
I just have to accept the fact that he doesn’t want me for a serious relationship only to sleep with once in a while because even for that I was the one initiating it. If you sprinkle in the fact that neither or you can truly control each other all sorts of wacky things can start to happen.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? Heck, if a beautiful woman came up to talk to me while I was in a relationship I wouldn’t shoo her away. Now, a normal ex boyfriend might apologize for hurting your feelings but I am not a normal ex boyfriend. It is through your constant need to understand the mind of a man that I have pushed myself to come up with the best content I can think of. Don't miss to check all from this kind of lovely popular desktop background by viewing the similar high definition wallpapers design below. However, I decided to trust him and believed that I was his true love, that I was different. We talked about our difficulties several times, and he seemed to be fine, realized his lack of caring and promised to notice me more. At late night, he text me and said that “It was right to meet you today”, “I think I am making a mistake”, “I know I’m making a mistake but I can’t stop it”, “it’s torturing me now” and all I said was remind him to take care and wish him all the best.
Let’s say you don’t do no contact, do you think his relationship with the new girl will not progress especially that they see each other always?
But before that happens you have to be emotionally prepared so, you won’t end up being needy in the relationship.
We understand each other really good, so a big family plus for me ?? ), some others and me were together from 7pm till 4 am.
The truth of the matter is that the amount of free information that actually works is a rare commodity but I think I have done a pretty good job of leading the way in that regard.
I have found that the rules I am about to describe are the most effective at making your ex a little jealous.
All is fair, so I knew he had started to talk to other girls and I did the same by testing the waters with other guys. It worked because a week later he started messaging me telling me he made a stupid drunken mistake again and that this isn’t what he wanted. Anyways, this girl had a very pretty face but I am not afraid to say that she was a little… chubby and for me it took away from her looks.
I know we won’t jump from NC to best friends, but his behaviour made me a bit anxious.
We had this talk before he went to university because we were about to get together and his current university is 2 hours away (but in the end we still became a couple. I ended it as I have been in an abusive relationship before and could see us heading that way. Every time I check my phone for a text message from my best friend I am still thinking of you.
If you use jealousy in a smart way it is almost guaranteed to bring up previous romantic feelings that your ex had for you. I still love my ex and want to be with him but I think he’s conflicted with his feelings. If this beautiful woman were to hit on me I would feel very flattered and maybe even blush a little bit. He started stressing and even though our relationship was solid and good-he broke up with me after he decided to go back for an advanced degree to become more employable.
After that I sent him a long message saying thank you, remind him to take care and asked a friend to deliver him his birthday present that I bought in advance (maybe first mistake). Take the better choice of choosing yourself and healing and gaining emotional independence instead of begging for him back.
He says he still loves me but in a way it has changed because when he looks at me he sees all the hurt he has caused me and the mistake he made and he doesn’t know if he can forgive himself. He decided to break up with me as soon as I got back from the funeral (talk about kicking someone when they are down). I broke up with my first boyfriend because I have felling for the second ex since he dated my best friend . I understand how a mans ego is tied up into his livelihood, but why I don’t understand why he has to go at this alone?
Yesterday was my birthday, I woke up early in the morning and text him to remind him about his birthday today (Yes, our birthday is consecutive, third mistake maybe, but it was our birthday so I was really confused). He seems like he is okay with me just being there and does not really care about me anymore” Yes, I noticed him looking at me pretty often and once he obviously tried to make me jealous. Skip forward to beginning of February (almost 9 months) we went on a vacation together in January which was good, but my attitude had been getting worse because I just couldn’t seem to get him to open up to me and talk about things that were bugging me. However, after agreeing to be friends, he found out other guys had been approaching me and he continued to get jealous and started yelling and saying mean things to me out of anger, saying I didn’t consider his feelings.
I said things for the sole purpose of just trying to make him jealous and I took it one step too far and he snapped. I just want to know if I have a chance at getting him back, and if so how do I go about it?
Considering things were wonderful before then, I didn’t want to let the whole relationship go, so I went into the 30 days of NC to give him space to think things over and to give me some time to heal and reconnect with myself.
He ignored me for 3 weeks before he finally admitted that his unemployed benefits had been exhausted. He didn’t confirm the break up and ignored me the whole day, didn’t even care if I could have kill myself (he knew me very well). The conversation was ok but not great, we seemed to still worry for each other, and he still has little feeling for me.
I would like to be with him again at some point as crazy as that sounds, and want to give the NC method a try.
So how do i follow no contact rule when every day i have to see him bc he pickings up our son from daycare dont nsg him in less its about daycare or are son.
Since I lived together with him I felt like I lost myself, all the things that I used to like about myself were gone, because I was afraid of losing him. Try to initiate contact after 30 days but make sure that you focused on yourself in that 30 days before you try to contact him. I sent him a message asking to get a few items I left at his house that I wanted back prior to winter break (we are both grad students). In the 3rd months there literally wasn’t even one evening that he stayed home with me. So I basically only saw him in the morning when saying goodbye because I had to go to school and at dinner. Finally, frustrated, I asked why he couldn’t be decent about this considering how cruelly he broke up with me.
After 3 months of living together I decided to move back to my mom, because I saw how living together was ruining the relationship.
Since then I tried the no contact method, after a few weeks I texted him asking about a movie that we watched together, hoping that he was going to miss me. We also texted and called once about some data that he still had on his computer that I wanted to get back. About two weeks ago when I asked about the data on his computer he said that he would email it to be and that he doesn’t want to see me. At this time my depression has gotten much better but this was really a trigger to fall back into it again.
I had planned seeing him to get my data a long time ago, I saw how this could be an opportunity to be friends and maybe get to getter again. Last night I decided to open up about how I still would want to hang out with him after I asked him if he was angry at me. He told me that the reason why he actually doesn’t want to hang out with me is because he still feels sexually attractive to me.
This morning he told me that he started drinking during the conversation and that it is not going to happen (either just hanging out or having sex, idk).
I told him that I would’t make it happen and that it was a disgusting and dickish thing say from him (that he wants to use me for sex).




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  1. eminem4ik writes:
    Her the opposite day (by txt) that I used number or contact other than.
  2. DodgeR writes:
    Will respond to escalation and conducts an interview and see the place she stands. She.