I started seeing this guy in November, we were acquaintances and reconnected via online dating. At the end of February, we had an honest conversation and discovered that we were both still dating around. That brings me to my other philosophy, “men do what they want.” I’m surprised at how often we can forget commonsense things like that.
I mean you can – and will – come up with excuses and justifications, some of which are partially valid. Your next move is to tell him the truth: you’re looking for a boyfriend, not an occasional texting buddy, dinner companion, and sex partner. Oh, and by the way, don’t have that (or any other serious relationship) conversation via text. I hate spam as much as you do, therefore I will never sell, rent, or give away your email address.
If you like the guy, and no one better is around, stay in the NSA relationship but continue to date other men.
If you want him to be your bf, you need to have the talk as Evan suggests, but be prepared to be disappointed. I agree with evans golden advice.whenever i tell my spouse that i dont like the way he treats me with disregard or when i start talking seriously about how i demand for him to love me after cheating with so many women, he only says that im annoying. He has never (for  many years) treated me with kindness, or even complimented me in any way. As a guy, I just don’t agree with the philosophy about expecting the guy to initiate most of the conversation. Pfff…so if a relationship is defined in, say, 3 months, a grown up woman is expected to stay celibate for all of that time?
What struck me when I was reading Darlene’s letter is how two people can look at the same set of facts, and see something totally different, depending on their emotions.
Well, if she is still dating other guys then she should just continue to do that, as he hasn’t asked her to be his girlfriend. Believe it or not but there are actually a lot of different ways to discover why your ex boyfriend may be ignoring you.
In this article I am going to be helping you understand why your ex boyfriend is ignoring your numerous attempts to reach out and contact him. If you have read my site then you would know I am a big fan of texting to get an ex boyfriend back.
The main problem here is that if you are sending that many messages without any responses it makes you look totally desperate.
I want you to really notice here that in this example the other person is actually engaged in the messaging and that means it is ok to keep messaging them without seeming desperate or needy. The second really unattractive quality that women can display when texting too much is the fact that there is no chase involved.
I hope you read the section above because this one is almost exactly the same except you are dealing with calling instead of texting. I used to think I was alone in this but I soon learned that other guys are exactly like me.
Generally speaking, someone who is calling you a lot (back to back to back.) Has two types of news. Since you are an ex girlfriend of his I am betting that your call is going to be filled with emotion and bad news. Sadly I have personal experience with a girl calling too much and I can tell you there is nothing more unattractive and annoying.
Part of the problem that men have with women calling too much is that they know if they pick up the phone they are going to have to talk to a really emotional human being and while some men will get off on it most of us despise it.
Again, the one thing that all of this stuff (texting, calling, letters, emails) have in common is the fact that they are all actions taken out of desperation and que the Jaws music! Unfortunately, I don’t have much personal experience with ex girlfriends writing me too many letters or sending too many emails. In the section above I talked about some of the main reasons that an ex boyfriend would ignore his girlfriend (desperation, neediness that whole thing.) I am not going to lie to you, in 85% of the cases everything I discussed above is the main reason that he would want to ignore you. When men start ignoring you on purpose it is coming from a place of rage just because they know it will punish you. It is not something I am very proud of and I would handle that situation completely differently now but I wanted to prove to you that deep down all men are capable of something like that so it could be a reason that he is ignoring you. All I can tell you is that it is highly unlikely (but still likely) that your ex is ignoring you for this reason.
It might be possible that your ex boyfriend wants nothing to do with you anymore which is why he is ignoring you.
Anyways, the real warning sign that you can use to figure out if this is the reason your ex is ignoring you is to think back to your relationship and figure out the ways in which you wronged him.
Realistically, the only way I would NOT talk to an ex girlfriend is if she wronged me in a horrible way.
I can honestly say that in all my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I have never encountered a situation where an ex boyfriend never talks to an ex girlfriend again. When your ex finally does contact you he can contact you the good way, the bad way or the ugly way (see what I did there ?? .) I am going to take a moment to explore each one. The first step to getting your ex boyfriend to respond to you in a positive manner is to implement the no contact rule. The first thing I want you to realize is that the general texts that you are used to sending aren’t good enough. Actually, to be honest, I have never talked about this text before so this is the first time I have ever made it live. Take notice how I included an innocent but pleasant memory from a past relationship in this example. Now, once he does respond positively you have accomplished your mission and he isn’t ignoring you anymore! My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of. In the end of February , he decided to breakup with me saying that he wasnt sure and that he couldnt see any future on our relationship.I did the NC for 2 weeks , after that time, I texted him asking how he was and he replied after a day . I had been in a bumpy long distance relationship for about 3 years and a half, and last December I ask him to decide whether or not he wanted to continue our relationship. I’ve seen him each Thursday at a group event, when everyone leaves him and I have stayed in the parking lot for another 2 hours talking until 930pm.
Later i realized that my friends were having fights over my situation, almost all the circle became tense without me knowing what is going on!!! So what does it mean when your exboyfriend keeps on sending you texts, even after breaking up with you? Or can his texts be nothing more than he's making them out to be: innocent communications between two adults who once had a relationship? In short, he's trying to ride out the initial stages of your breakup with as little regret as possible.
These fast-forward techniques show you how to speed past the 'I don't want to talk to you' phase of the break up and get to the point where your ex is missing and thinking about you again.
So now you're sitting there, trying to be cool, but your ex boyfriend is suddenly texting you. When you text-message back and forth with your ex boyfriend, you're actually SLOWING DOWN the reconciliation process.
Even the most innocent communication via text message is like telling your exboyfriend "Hey, I'm still here!
Talk about battle plan!Breakup Reversed is a step-by-step, instantly downloadable guide to repairing any relationship in any break up situation. No matter what your current situation, these fast-working techniques are designed to win your boyfriend back by reversing his current emotional process. Unfortunately, one thing that I have never done is write about what men are thinking AFTER the no contact rule. In other words, what would your ex boyfriend be thinking after you had successfully performed the no contact rule on him? Since this is my chosen profession I feel the best thing for me to do is to stay up to date with the times.
But my search came up blank…Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
As you know, Ex Boyfriend Recovery and the no contact rule have become very closely associated with one another. That is because getting your ex boyfriend back can sometimes rely pretty heavily on the no contact rule.
So, as I explained above, this page is going to focus on what is going on in your exes mind after you implement the no contact rule. The Assumption- That you have successfully completed a 30 day no contact rule on your ex boyfriend. Well, a one week no contact rule isn’t going to have the same affect that a four week no contact rule will have.
In other words, what a man will think after a failed no contact rule will be different than what he is going to be thinking during a successful one and since we are all positive thinkers here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery we are going to just focus on the successful no contact rule.
Now, I know a lot of you reading this page probably haven’t even finished your no contact yet and that is ok. I am a man so you know for a fact that I can bring you some very valuable insight when it comes to what men are thinking before, during and after no contact.
In this section I am going to be talking about some of the thoughts that your ex boyfriend might potentially have after the no contact rule assuming that you completed a 30 day rule on him. I have pinpointed the top five things that he will be thinking and as always I will be covering each of these things in a very in-depth manner.
When I tell women who use the no contact rule on an ex that their ex probably thinks negative thoughts about them at one point after the no contact rule they always seem to get upset. But lets take a step back and really take a look at what is going on in your exes head and probably the best way to do that is to give you a real life example. When I was in college I was friends with this guy who was literally head over heels for this girl.
The more she ignored him the angrier he got and the angrier he got, the more he called her a bit*h. Here is the funniest part though, despite calling her all those names behind her back he was very persistent in trying to win her and eventually he did. The point I am trying to make here is that if anyone is angry at you ignoring them it is because they want to talk to you.
So, the fact that your ex could be calling you names because of the fact that you are ignoring him just really means he wants to be heard by you and hasn’t been given that chance yet.
Your ex boyfriend is probably going to wonder why you didn’t respond to him after the no contact rule has been completed.
I told you above that the no contact rule has been used on me in certain cases but never for an extended period of time like 30 days. Of course, it’s a total mindfu** for men when a woman does respond to them after a certain amount of time. If you end up getting a response like this from your ex boyfriend after the no contact rule has been completed then I would be extremely happy. By your ex saying that it means that he was extremely annoyed about the fact that you wouldn’t respond to him.
Look, I have been ignored before by a woman and let me tell you that it is extremely annoying to want nothing more to be heard when instead you are ignored. This is what most of the women on this site who employ the no contact rule are so afraid of.
Every year millions of Mustangs are made for consumers whereas only a certain amount of Lamborghinis are made. The most expensive Mustang ever sold at an auction was a 1.3 million dollar 1967 Shelby Mustang. Bottom line is that sometimes it isn’t a bad thing if your ex boyfriend thinks you are over him because it may mean that you have just evolved from a Mustang to a Lamborghini!
Lets turn our attention to the type of man who has a brain and realizes that you are probably playing some sort of game by not contacting him.
Now, I will admit that for you this is probably the worst type of ex boyfriend to have because he probably knows exactly what is going on. We are going to stick with our example here for a moment and say that you and I dated in the past. Yes, it absolutely would because I would hate to be ignored and it would increase your value. Eventually though, when time takes hold of the situation, men begin to mellow out and gain some perspective on the situation. They begin to think of all the little things they did wrong in a relationship and start to feel some extreme guilt. Now, to your knowledge he never cheated on you or anything that extreme but the way he would communicate with other women was very alarming to you and when you brought it up to him he became very defensive which of course started a fight.
In fact, this problem became so prevalent in your relationship that you two literally broke up over it. Ok, imagine for a moment that we are dating and I do the same thing to you as I described above, I flirt with other women in a very alarming manner. Now, lets say after the breakup you complete the no contact rule on me which of course is going to give me a lot of time to think. Because if someone is willing to flirt that heavy then that means the chances are higher that they might cheat in the future. So, by using the no contact rule on an ex boyfriend who was clearly in the wrong in your relationship with him will give him time to think and with that time can come guilt over what he has done or how he has wronged you.
Oh, and I forgot to mention that this guilt isn’t entirely exclusive just to the breakup reason. That means that close to 38,000 women have read about the no contact rule and a very high percentage of those women have actually tried it out on their ex boyfriends.
Well, it means that I have seen the no contact rule used a lot on ex boyfriends and have seen just about every reaction from them in the book. In this section I would like to talk about the five most popular reactions from an ex boyfriend after the no contact rule is implemented. I wanted to start off with this reaction because this is without a doubt one of the most common reactions that you are going to get from your ex after you use the no contact rule. Want me to let you in on a secret on how I would react if someone I cared about a lot used the no contact rule on me? During it’s use on me I would probably be extremely upset and angry with the person who used it on me. In fact, I would be so over the moon that I wouldn’t care that this person essentially ignored me for a month.


Everyone hates being ignored when they want nothing more than to be heard and that is essentially what the no contact rule does. He is going to resent that a little bit at first but eventually he is going to miss you so much it is going to trump that resenting emotion. Lets say that you and I previously dated and you broke up with me due to some stupid reason.
After some self reflection by you, you realize that you made a big mistake in breaking up with me. You become desperate to get me back so you end up going to the internet to search for advice. Yes, I miss you but I am also aware by ignoring me during the no contact rule you are playing a game and this sets off an alarm in my head.
In other words, when the time finally does come for us to communicate after the no contact rule I am going to be half in and half out when I respond to you. In my mind I am going to need something from you to prove that you still are interested in me because after all, you were the one who broke up with me and you were the one ignoring me during no contact.
Now, if you follow the advice I have laid out in this site you will give your ex that special something he needs to understand that you are still interested in him. It’s that if you find your ex responding positively after the no contact rule but you can also feel this distance in his responses then it is probably because he is looking for something more from you before he takes the risk of opening up to you. Your ex, who probably wants to talk to you, is ignored for 30 days and grows angry because he doesn’t get what he wants, to talk to you.
I almost look at men who are super angry after the no contact rule like toddlers who go to the store and throw a tantrum because their mommy or daddy won’t buy them the toy they wanted. In this particular instance it is important for you to understand that the underlying reason that your ex is angry with you after no contact is because he wanted to talk to you during the freeze out period and his ego can’t take being ignored. Now, you have been waiting a long time for this moment so most likely you are going to be extremely disappointed with that response but if you really break it down it’s not that bad of a response at all. My E-Book, The No Contact Rule Book teaches women that after the no contact rule they should actually reach out to their exes with a text message that is so interesting that is impossible for him not to respond.
Now, the question in play here is what could possibly be going on in your exes mind if he gives you this type of response? Generally speaking, if after no contact, your ex gives you this response it means he is either holding some type of resentment or anger over either the breakup or the no contact rule. Some men are very passive aggressive and will hold their anger in over the breakup and it can come out in the form of neutral responses. Rather than freaking out over a neutral response I would wait a day or two and then try again with another text. You use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend and then after NC, according to the instructions via Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO you send a text message and your ex doesn’t respond.
Of course, the world hasn’t ended yet as you wait yet another week and then try again.
Well, if your ex refuses to talk to you after the no contact rule I think there are a few things that you have to take a look at. Of course, when push comes to shove and you finally do end up texting your ex after the no contact rule he usually won’t be able to resist a response. So, while it is possible that he could hold so much resentment for you ignoring him that he won’t even respond to you at all it is unlikely.
What is the more likely truth is that your ex holds resentment over the breakup or the reason you broke up. For example, lets say you cheated on him with his best friend (totally not true but bear with me here.) If that happened to me, my significant other cheated on me with my best friend I would be so upset I would not be able to even talk to my significant other.
If your breakup reason hit him so hard emotionally it is entirely possible that he wont want to talk to you at all. I dont understand him now his words i never cal u ,never msg u while i m not disturbing him and when he know the truth. And also want to be with his new girl friend but when that girl knew about me she leave my boyfriend by saying you are not loyal to that girl who lives with you then she do not want any relation with him. When he came to know that she (his first ex)make me know everthing he cut every relation from her and now he is not in her touch. I’m still going on dates with others because I don’t want to rush into a relationship after how serious and heavy my last relationship was, and he said he hadn’t planned to be in anything serious when he met me and needs time to get there. We have a lot of fun, we get along great, we support each other, and we still have serious chemistry— but I really only feel this when we’re physically in each other’s presence.
And I feel as though my only negative, based on your guidelines for future boyfriends, is that he doesn’t contact me daily. A man who is into you calls, plans dates, keeps in touch in between, commits, and makes you feel valued as a girlfriend. Do you know how you’re going to react when he says he doesn’t want to be exclusive and likes it the way things are?
I was in a similar situation last year, we didn’t have a conversation but I wrote him a letter and then stepped out. If you know that for sure, and you really like the guy, it makes a lot of sense to wait for him to become your boyfriend when he is ready.
She describes what is happening between them as if there *is* some sort of relationship already, as if they have feelings and obligations towards one another, as if commitment has already been offered and it’s all down to her to make a decision. Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery I am sad to say that I see a lot of this (ex boyfriends ignoring their ex girlfriends) thus it would be an understatement to say that I am experienced at diving in to the male mind and dissecting it.
In the movie John Williams composed a score for Steven Spielberg that has gone on to become a classic. Anyways, any time women call, text or show up unannounced to their ex boyfriends house I picture that music playing. I really want you to understand this section so I am going to define common desperate actions that ex girlfriends take and look at them from a males perspective. A girl who has to message someone that much is displaying two qualities that are a turnoff to every human being on this planet.
It is like they hand you a cheat code and you lose all your interest after a certain amount of time.
So, the other big mistake that women make that can cause their ex boyfriend to want to ignore them is spamming his phone with calls. Not only will it creep me out on a level I have never known before but I am really not going to pick up a phone now.
You can tell all of that over the phone (and with a text you would have no clue.) I wanted to point this element out because I feel it adds to the fact that he may be ignoring you.
I think back and those experiences and just cringe because that is how uncomfortable they made me. He didn’t laugh to her face, he laughed behind her back and even showed me the letter making fun of some of the heartfelt words that she had said.
If they don’t get their way in a relationship (or even after one) they will find ways to manipulate you emotionally.
It was in my very first relationship ever and as you can imagine, that version of me was not a great guy. Women who wind up in situations like this have typically wronged their ex in horrific ways. Of course, I said that above but I failed to go into the actual ways in which women can wrong men. It is highly unlikely that your ex is going to drop off the face of the earth and never contact you again. An ugly response isn’t one where he just dismisses you it is one where he also disses you.
What if I told you that I have found a way that allows you to accomplish that while remaining in control?
The experts will tell you that you have to send interesting texts that will capture his attention. This is important because it will bring up nostalgic feelings in your ex and he can’t help but want to respond positively! Just a little information: in October last year he joined the military and we were unable to communicate until December when he had two weeks off for Christmas. The first month was amazing, spent tons of time together talked about a lot of life wants, goals, great chemistry. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago because he said he just didn’t feel the same way he did when we first started going out. She basically told me that most of the women who implement the no contact rule end up contacting their exes first after the no contact rule is over. Now, I will be the first to admit that no woman has ever done a 30 day no contact rule on me but I have been on the receiving end of a half day, day and three day no contact rule and let me tell you that it drove me absolutely crazy. Well, he ended up taking this girl on one date and he thought that the date went pretty well. So, she decided to get rid of him the only way she knew how without hurting his feelings, ignoring him. It makes you feel a little insignificant as a man and the more insignificant a man feels the more he will feel like he has to prove.
They are scared that if they use the no contact rule on their ex that he will think that they want nothing to do with him and I am not going to lie to you, some men will think that. In fact, it might even be a good thing because as I have pointed out so many times men love women who are a challenge. He probably knows that you are ignoring him on purpose so that he will miss you and ultimately want you to come back.
You see, when something very emotional happens (like a break up) we tend to think very angry thoughts. I can tell you right now that I would be very upset if I found my significant other was flirting with other men in this type of alarming manner. In fact, you may learn in the future after the no contact rule that your ex was feeling guilty over some fight that you thought was insignificant. Well, one of the most beautiful things about this website is the fact that I actually get to interact with thousands of women and hear how their attempt to get their ex back goes. However, after about a week or two I would start to calm down and think about the situation. Your internet search eventually lands you on this site and you learn about the no contact rule which you swiftly place into effect. Now, most women freak out when they get an angry response from an ex and they think their chances of winning him back are over completely.
How he responds to that message is going to dictate how positively, negatively or neutrally he views you. One of podcast chris says if a man said too many times a thing then it become an action.i am afraid of this.
We have a great connection & express our goal, dreams, and even have spoke about a future together.
Similar interests, serious physical attraction, and good, balanced and honest communication got us through the first month. I wasn’t going to let him have an easy way out after neglecting me with kids without financial support just so he could be selfishly happy. But if he has made it clear that he is seeing other people, and his actions show that he has only lukewarm interest in you…I feel so sorry for this girl.
I look at this and see a casual dating arrangement which, if it were happening in my life, I would barely give any thought or feeling to. Oh, and it also helps that I am a male myself so I kind of know what I am talking about ;). I want to give you a few steps going forward that you can implement to improve your chances of getting him to speak to you.
Men can sense desperation and your desperate activities are the equivalent to blood in the water for a shark.
Given a choice between someone texting too much vs someone calling too much I would always choose texting too much. Now, if she had tried a different approach she would have had him on his hands and knees begging for her back (I know my buddy, trust me it is possible.) However, she tried the desperate approach and this is what happens when you go full on desperate, you get laughed at behind your back.
Anyways, I didn’t like the way the relationship was going so I ended up ignoring my girlfriend for an entire day. Essentially how this works is that your ex boyfriend is using the no contact rule on you on purpose.
I have a buddy whose wife actually cheated on him eight different times with eight different men.
If a woman did any of the following things to me I would seriously consider cutting her out of my life. First off, remember way back when I talked about how desperate women are the number one turnoff that makes men ignore their exes? By essentially implementing a no contact rule you can get him to scramble for your approval instead. If you have successfully completed the no contact rule for thirty days then you are going to go on the offensive again but this time you are going to do it my way. Initially, when you send this text message out you aren’t going to get a positive response right off the bat.
If he does respond then you are going to take out a stopwatch or phone and wait between 30-60 minutes.
It is the equivalent to having an audience on the edge of their seat waiting to find out what happens next. The second month he became a little distant and shared he was afraid he was falling into the same pattern and wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. We met about a year ago when we started working together and I liked pretty much from the first time we talked and I’m thinking it was the same for him. Back in January, we stopped talking for a month which was the longest we hadn’t talked in two years. I do not know what to do, I want to talk to him but at the same time the whole situation I’m lost. I became messed up and finally my bf , after having a nice and quiet day staying in, and spending time with me, left the house and in 2 hours texted me and broke up!!!
For example, lets say that you were to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend for 30 days. There is just one problem, this is me we are talking about here and I run a website where I teach women how to get their exes back so I pretty much know every trick in the book. In fact, I think a case could be made that everyone who goes through a break up will think angry thoughts.
Of course, in order for your ex to feel this guilt you have to give him time in the form of the no contact rule. Eventually as the days and weeks go by I would just be hoping for any kind of reaction or response from the person using NC.


Now, the no contact has a pretty decent effect on me because it makes me miss you and I want nothing more than to have a conversation with you.
So, if after no contact he is still upset for the same reason that means that the intent to talk to you is still there. However, if you try reaching out 3-5 times to your ex and he responds either negatively or neutrally each of those times it is at this point you know that his anger, resentment or disappointment runs deep and he may need more time to deal with the situation. I even asked him if he didnt love me why one month ago he still asked me to have phone sex n so on. He sorry to me but next day he just block me again.(the situation i describe in begginning).he said to me dont tell anything to her that now i(he) know everything who did this?
I was in another state before moving back to Illinois but before I moved back we were broken up. However, he only initiates texts or sends emails every couple days and has slowed down on phone calls. Essentially, this is a person who texts multiple times, even though they don’t get a response. However, when I get too much attention from them (in the form of texting) it becomes a complete turnoff.
I understand that women are emotional by nature but when you show that much desperation, guys begin to get really scary thoughts.
Unfortunately, a lot of times what happens is when you get a girl who sends a lot of unanswered texts that leads to her calling way too much. One way that exes know they can get under your skin is to simply ignore you for a couple of days.
I didn’t do it because I needed a break or a refresh, which I think would be ok, I did it from a place of anger to punish my girlfriend. It is one of those rare cases where you kind of want him back and he kind of wants you back. So, this is one case where I am the exception to the rule and my insight kind of suffers because of it. I like to tell my visitors that any text you send him has to be so interesting that it would be impossible for him to ignore it. I was always honnest with him saying that I wanted a serious relayionship and that I wanted to have children. A few days later I texted asking him again how he was and since then he never replied , it has been nearly 4 weeks .
He had a girlfriend at the time but after about 3 months of knowing each other, he kissed me.
Before that happened I was always complaining about him not having enough time for me for months because of his job. Between weeks of solo travel, getting swamped with work, and going through multiple serious personal tragedies and losses, we still found time to go out on legitimate dates and dinners and eventually we became intimate. The day I got back he reached out and said he missed me, but the month flew by and we barely saw each other thanks to our hectic schedules.
I’m busy enough to not be waiting by my phone, but I’m not so self-assured that it doesn’t hurt me. As a result, women stay in dead-end relationships with men who don’t call them, commit to them, or talk about a future with them. Objectively, it would seem like this guy is not highly motivated to take you off the market and claim you for himself.
I took the liberty of locating a text gnat for you so you can better understand what I am talking about here.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes? However, if someone were to give me all the cheat codes to the game it no longer becomes as fun. Now, I do want to point out that this is essentially the same thing I recommend doing with the no contact rule. In the end, I think he was just confused about what he wanted and he stuck with his girlfriend.
I broke the ice sending him a picture of something i knew he liked and telling him i thought he might like it. During the past year we were on the rocks for almost like 40percent of time; and we lived in the same house.
Well, this woman was curious as to what was going on in the mind of a man AFTER the no contact rule had already be implemented. We spoke for about 2 weeks before deciding to meet up & I actually went out to see him. I didn’t hear from him, so I waited 3 more days and sent him another text, I know that he is pretty attached to his phone, so I know that he definitely read it. Objectively, it would seem like this guy is either not emotionally available to anyone, or that he simply doesn’t like you enough to be his exclusive girlfriend. But if a girl DOES go on date 2 with you, odds are she’s interested, at which point you just keep asking her out if you like her. Sure, it may be a little fun at first but eventually when the cheat codes make it that easy to complete I will lose interest. If you acted desperate your ex would have gotten into the routine of ignoring you because you were desperate. He helped me with a fundraiser I was putting on and was so helpful and supportive, over the summer we’d see each other or text every week. I tried not to be needy and I did good for a while but he never gives me answers to any of my questions and he rarely replies to me.
The once a week call would nor even reach 1 hour because he’s tired and had to work overtime. So after we have been apart for three months due to some administrative paper work that he needed to take care of, he came back to me so awkwardly, full of complexes and saying stuff from here and ther..
He then went back to sydney and lived in his family house, for the period of three months everything was okay, we kept missing each other, he got a job, and he even begged me to visit him soon but I couldnt cuz I was studying as well.
To be honest, I had already fallen for this guy but I wanted to be with someone who wanted me too. If I am in that kind of mood then trust me, you aren’t going to get me to talk on the phone.
When you do something like the no contact rule you really don’t want to ignore your ex boyfriend, you want to give him time to calm down and also improve yourself in the process. So, when you stop acting desperate he is going to perk his head up and try to sniff out the reason why you stopped being desperate.
The end of summer he dropped away and when I reached out he didn’t respond then at an event he ignored me all day. We started talking again and then slowly started flirting again (really, the attraction has always been mutual and there) and became pretty close.
Last week I ended up losing it and sent too many texts which led him to say that I’m cut off but I called 5 days later and he answered. I saw him a couple of weeks ago (by accident) and we exchanged a couple of words and he seemed friendly and interested in my life.
After 3 months apart things becoming more stressfull for him, he had to move out from the family house n it was difficult for him to find the house. You may still walk away empty-handed so to speak, but a calm, logical demeanor when you have the talk will gain you his respect, if nothing else. He received my letter, responded kindly, confirmed he wasn’t ready for a relationship and wished me well.
Sure she can initiate contact a bit more if she wants to but I don’t think it will change anything. I reached out One last time and he said he was leaving town for a month and to have a good rest of summer.
I called once everyday for three days and on the third day he just didn’t seem interested in calling so I lost it again and called many times.
The day after I texted him again just to see how he was and I was getting pretty neutral responses. That situation made me texted him and asked him if it could be possible to meet to catch up and he answered he is out of town and when he comes back he’ll be busy. Is it possible that I am taking your advice too far or is he disinterested and unavailable?
The way I see it she has two options – withdraw her feelings and expectations completely and enjoy it for the casual dating arrangement that it is. He told me he didn’t have an answer yet, and he said he would be able to talk to me in a month or so when he has a weekend off.
Fall came around and I needed closure so I wrote him an email sharing my thoughts and how I had feelings that whole time. I asked him if everything was okay with us and he told me that yes and that hes good but that he texted me on this day and never got a response so he wasn’t sure.
Or have a heart to heart conversation with him that will almost certainly end in disappointment. I asked me what situation we were in, and he said I wanted to take a break, so we were taking a break. A couple of days after I accidentally found out that he has a facebook account without my knowledge when I installed facebook messenger but when I asked him about it, he simply changed his account name and privacy setting. I kept listening and he confessed that he was worried and it is time for me to consider my future options to settle down, cuz of my age, and he is not ready to do so ( i never ever mentioned getting serrious even in future). I kept asking him what happend n cuz this is my first relationship I didnt know that it was normal for a guy to have little space when they re stress out.
A month passed by and he didn’t contact me, so I emailed him saying that I was done waiting for his answer that never came. We talked for maybe half the day but I feel like I was the one trying to keep the conversation alive.
Yet, after about 3 days of the break up I reached out to him, & we spoke about being friends but deep down I was not alright with that. Oh, I did that because he was constantly posting things on Facebook, so I knew he had free time.
He was going to move out on wednesday and at the same time in the morning he wanted to go and play football with his friends, I said its better not to play for today cuz im scared he would be tired. I called him about two days later, crying over the phone about how I want to be more than his friends.
Then I said sorry and brought up the facebook thing saying that he must be hiding something from me.
His reaction took me by surprise when he said he felt the same but was hurt about me breaking up with him & felt pushed away. After moving out to a new house, it was so difficult for me to be able to talk to him freely.
He got extremely upset when he found out she had a new boyfriend so I thought I should back off a little.
And two weeks after I sent him a message about something that remind me of him, and I asked him if this is really what he wanted. Then after 2 months he started to get so close to his girl best friend which is a close friend of mine, and she is 33!! Therefore, I went snooping on his Instagram (we do not not follow each other, but his page is public). He said that I didn’t make an effort and I never made a move on any of the hints he was giving me. This is the first time he hung up on me and after he said he wasnt happy, I was so sad and I lost my confidence. But once i brought the issue to my friend to help me realizing the situation by giving some time to me and take one step back so that i can understand my feelings for the whole situation( i have been under deppression for arround 6 months), i wanted to prevent complications by missjudging the stuff. He tried texting me later on Friday night after finding out his cheating behavior, yes I consider flirting as cheating, I ignored his message & he tried again but I ignored it. I was so worried about how he was feeling and giving him space that I never thought about voicing what I wanted. One week after moving out, he called me n said he was not ready to marry me, I tried to convince him it was only a cold feet. Nothing crazy, just the kind of upset you’d be when you find out someone you really wanted to be with is with someone else because you were too afraid to make a move. In that moment I decided to make my Instagram page public, posting pictures from a party I went to the other night, in hopes hat he would see them.
The next few day he said the same thing, then I told him to take it slowly if he wasnt ready. He told me that if I thought it was unfair that I should’ve done something about it and that I needed to be an adult and accept it. I just want to end this but I’m not sure if writing a break up letter would be the best thing to do. N he apologise after I got so angry, he said sorry for not able to pay enough attention and n he would try his best to pay more attention. I’ve went by work a couple of times and just tried to have a casual conversation and it was the worst. Then my birthday came, I asked him if he prepared anything to me, he said no sorry he had no time. What are my chances of getting him to stop playing games & for him to come back around the correct way? I helped him through a lot, was there listening to his problems, helped him get someone to talk to. Are we actually break up or taking a break cuz he said yes to give us chance but with annoyed tone, should I actually consider this as a break up or only giving space?
I think maybe part of it is that he still has feelings for me, that doesn’t go away after two weeks. The next day I asked him if he had sent the money, he said he went home so late n he said he cudnt but he wud send it tomorrow.
Wudnt that only give him chance to cheat n make me his plan B cuz he knows i love him soo much?
Then I got my period, I messaged him sooooo looonggg at that night, I said I was happy but sad at the same time cuz we were not like before. But I didn that cuz this is my first real relationship n we get too comfortable for each other..




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