Read some great quotes about narcissist and narcissism for those who have been in a relationship with one. More break up quotes, sad love sayings and broken heart inspirations can be found at these websites: DailyBreakupInspirations, Tigress Luv Sad Breakup Quotes, and on our facebook pages! I do not mirror for him any longer, meaning, I do not reflect his moods back to him, I do not react to his rages (mostly, sometimes he does go too far and then I coldly and calmly point out that hes full of crap and here is the proof of why hes lying and then he changes his tune), and I do not let him make me his emotional puppet anymore. Now, for some people this will not solve your problems with the narcissist, indeed, I think this may actually end up being the spark that lights the fire under our divorce. Ironically, with my Narc, my using this behavior has resulted in the rather unexpected result of him backing off with the anger and rages. The second method of manipulating a narcissist is pretty much the exact opposite of the first. I would say this method is probably most dangerous for you, simply because it is in our nature to love our partner. So I am taking the more self protective route, and planning as quickly as I can to get my things together, my life in order, my finances set up, and documents in place, so that when this all boils over, I am ready. I realized the importance of putting passwords onto my utility accounts to keep him from shutting them off. I went through a similar situation and unfortunately I didn’t know enough about narcissism. Sounds just like an addict,you might want to consider that he could be also doing drugs because this is exactly how they act as well!!!Trust me I know! The concept of channeling a gray rock is brilliant, and the objective of being boring has given me something solid with which to work. How can you portray the boring grey rock method if you have constant contact with him due to children. I took all of those steps, escaped, lived a quiet peaceful solitary life for three years but, wrongly decided to return to the hell for the sake of maintaining my family.


Your story tells me you need to move way out of his sight , before he dose something very hurtful like throw your kids over a bridge or drown them in the car and believe me if you live in Australia victoria. In fact, I began by writing a several hundred word tirade about how the Narc is acting like the poor hurt puppy in this narcissistic relationship and how dare he, after all he’s done. And even as I have the strength, empathy, and forgiveness innate to my personality that make me a perfect target, these traits are actually a double edged sword. In fact, that is now his primary complaint about me, and what he’s whining to me about almost daily, that I don’t love him anymore and what can he do to make me love him again? He will probably go find someone else to adore him and then play the poor victim in our separation, saying I just stopped loving him and no matter what he tried, and he tried SO HARD, I would not give him another chance. And hopefully, then he will not fight me for a divorce, because honestly, who wants to live with someone who has no feelings? I was blindsided about my divorce and found out all of the destruction coming my way, WAY too late. Arguing escalates the situation, and agreeing doesn’t make them stop, so why humiliate yourself?
This is actually not their primary preference, they would prefer you adore them, though they do not deserve it, and defer to them in all things, including your thoughts and feelings. Obviously, he sees my tears, emotional outbursts, reactions to his anger, and attempts at making up (i.e.
And to go through your days being so two faced goes against everything we have inside us as authentic, deep feelers. I have some of his text messages to prove it (they ended up coming to my tablet as well as going out from his phone).
Accusing me of being a bad mom (when I’m not), threatening me to take me to court to try to get them, trying to harm them not illegally (get ears pierced) against my permission.
You must remember you are living with a damaged, compromised individual who has no conception of who he(she) is.


They believe they can tell you how to think and feel and control your reactions to life and themselves, and in that they confirms, in their own mind, their god-like status. So for me, I feel this is my best option and much easier to stomach than the other method, which I tried first, and was much to hard for me to deal with because I am simply not that good of an actress. Narcs are very attracted to empaths, and I think, from my own personal experience, that attempting to live so falsely, is highly damaging to our psyche.
I found my answer from others who have lived with Narcs longer than even I have, children of narcissistic parents (my heart goes out to you all! Do not forget, these actions are not based on logical thought processes, or even conscious thought processes, but on deeply embedded personality traits.
I can only conclude from this that he is (of course) feeding off my emotions because he is incapable of producing any real ones of his own. In addition, we have already been forced by this monster to live our lives in a total act to the outside world, telling our friends and family we are happy, when in reality we are desperately unhappy and have not been able to understand why, until we learned of narcissism. How do you stop reacting to someone when they threaten to go harm your infant by getting her ears pierced? On a primal level, they are not capable of seeing past their pain and will attach it to whatever target presents itself. He told me he would fight me tooth and nail to get custody of the kids, and I know he would. I will be taking my name off the accounts as soon as I can (so I cant be liable for overdrafts) and I have already established a separate deposit for my paycheck.



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