Slideshare uses cookies to improve functionality and performance, and to provide you with relevant advertising. Using The No Contact Rule To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Dear Kurt: My boyfriend and I broke up a while back and I realize now that I really want him back but I don’t know how to get his attention without looking desperate. Using The No Contact Rule To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back ? No Text Messaging ? No Facebook ? No Twitter ? No Phone Calls ? No Messaging Through FriendsI think you get the picture.
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As stated above, it is basically an agreement with yourself that you are going to cut your ex out of your life for a certain period of time. So, we have already established that in order to do a NC (No Contact Rule) correctly you are going to have essentially cut your ex out of your life for a minimum of 30 days. You may find that as you embark on this essential 30 day freeze out from your ex that they may try to initiate contact with you. You didn’t think you were just going to sit around on the couch all day catching up on re-runs of Friends during this time did you? The smartest thing that you can do during NC is to improve yourself both mentally and physically.
Becoming the sexiest version of yourself is only half the battle when it comes to taking a positive step towards getting your ex back.
Prepare yourself for the fact that there is no guarantee that you will be getting your ex back. In this section we are going to study some of the major benefits to implementing a NC rule immediately after your breakup.
You might learn after some soul searching that you don’t want to get back with this person again. My name is Chris, and I help millions of women per year improve themselves, and get back with their ex boyfriends to finally have the life they dreamed of.
My boyfriend broke up with me 7 days ago today; we dated a year, and this was completely unexpected. I broke up in January, since that i tried to improve myself, I did NC rule but I broke it at 7th days because I saw him felt depressed, need motivation and so on.
Now, he is kinda cold and busy with something, he said he still cares of me but he didn’t contact me or something. You have to address this factors first, time and money to see each other for at least once a month and a plan to be together.. The truth is you have to have time and money to at least see each other once a month and a plan on when you would be together someday for a long distance relationship to work. I was with my boyfriend for 7 months, very very happy and lived together with him at his for 4 months, again very happily.
I’ve joined the gym, had my hair done, new wardrobe, going out with friends but none of this has made him contact me!
The 30-day no contact period might not work for me in my case, and I was wondering about exceptions. In three weeks, however, he will be moving (temporarily) half way across the world for work. Additionally, his mother’s sister is battling a disease that will likely kill her in the next month or so, and I really want to be there for him. When I look at breakups as a whole there seems to be one common theme that is consistent no matter the situation.
Basically you can name any negative emotion known to man and a break up probably can make you feel it.Want to Know EXACTLY How Likely You Are to Get Your ExBoyfriend Back, in Only 2 Minutes?
So, when you put any human being in a situation where they are feeling these emotions they are probably going to say and do things that they really don’t mean. To help women navigate their breakups and help them increase their chances of getting their ex boyfriends back.
Though I do like to keep things light here at EBR (Ex Boyfriend Recovery) since I have always found that laughter is the best medicine for healing a broken heart and your heart might be a little broken right now. So hey, I am more than happy to make a fool out of myself for your amusement if it turns that frown upside down.
The real reason you are here today is to figure out what your ex boyfriend means when he says something to you.
Wouldn’t it be cool if there was something that served as a cheat sheet for women that would help them decipher what their ex meant when he said something.
Seriously, ME, an actual guy is going to tell you what your ex boyfriend really means when he says things to you.
If you think of any to add then feel free to leave a comment in the comments section of this article and I will revisit this page sometime down the road and update it with new things you ladies are probably wondering about.
After all, there is a reason that they compare losing a job to going through a break up, it sucks. I always do my best to treat people with the utmost respect and I was raised to always respect women. So, when you take this into account I am relatively certain that your ex boyfriend doesn’t truly hate you.
And since you are associated with the pain he is feeling you are going to get blamed by association. This is horrible for me to admit but I was young so you have to realize the immature mentality I had. The important takeaway that I want you to take from this negative experience that I am sharing is that most men don’t mean it when they say they hate you. There are really two situations that spring to mind when I hear from a woman who is wondering if her boyfriend really means it when he tells her to never contact him again. In order to fully understand what an ex boyfriend really means when he says never talk to me again we must first understand exactly what these situations look like.
Lets pretend that I am your boyfriend and the two of us got into a massive fight over your cat.
So, we go back and forth over your cat and the fight starts to evolve as bad fights usually do. Well, your strategy for getting me back involves messaging me about 30 times a day and calling me about 10. Obviously I like the attention at first but then it gets to be a little too much and I begin to resent you for it. Eventually your efforts get so out of hand that I can’t stand to hear from you anymore. The thing that you really have to keep in mind here is the fact that your ex is saying this from a highly emotional state. Breakups have this funny ability to make even the nicest of people turn into angry lunatics. So, if you got caught in the crossfire of a heated breakup and your boyfriend said this to you then don’t take it personally. Besides, I can probably give you hundreds of examples where an ex boyfriend said this to an ex girlfriend and then HE ends up being the one that gets in contact with her. Now, if you are wondering what is going on in his mind to make him say this in the heat of the moment then look no further than the curious case of emotional states. Since we are looking specifically at him AFTER a fight you can bet good money on the fact that he was in a very negative emotional state and as a result he is going to say things that aren’t very logical. It looks specifically at a scenario where you (the ex girlfriend) goes a little crazy and contacts him too much. Notice how this girl, Cordelia, is sending waaaayyyyy too many messages to her ex boyfriend. In addition to sending a bunch of unanswered texts she is also calling her ex boyfriend up. Now, I did not have a relationship with this girl but the same principle is going to apply. The two of us went out on one date and after some thinking on my part I decided to inform her in a subtle way that I was not interested in her. Instead of just remaining friends she treated me like I was some sort of boyfriend that scorned her. Just to put this in perspective this wasn’t the first time something like this happened with this particular girl. I can’t hep it but every time I hear this I always immediately think of George from Seinfield. Too many women think that those exact five words have to be muttered to them for them to be eligible victims and that’s just not true.
By an ex saying this to you he is making you aware that he doesn’t have feelings for you anymore. It’s just harder to see since it is disguised cleverly around a lot of words but if you look hard enough (the bold parts) you will see it.
Lets move on to the fun part and dissect what your ex boyfriend really means if he gives you the Seinfeld excuse. If you really think about it an ex boyfriend who says that he never really loved you is probably doing so during a highly emotional moment.
This situation is very similar to situation number 1 when a boyfriend tells you to never talk to him again. In my opinion, if an ex boyfriend tells you that he never really loved you he is just doing so to hurt your feelings and doesn’t really mean it at all. Oh, and if you were the one that broke up with your ex boyfriend then it adds that extra little cherry on top.
From your ex boyfriends perspective you are the villain and what do men generally do when they come across a villain? Thousands of women come to this site every single day and every single day they freak out over stuff like this.
Heck, I wouldn’t even be shocked if you just scrolled straight down to this section and skipped all the others. So, rather than spend 500 words setting this up I am just going to get right down to the meat of this.
What if I were to tell you that your beloved Ex Boyfriend Recovery site is still a small fish in a big pond?
There are hundreds of so called experts out there that are trying to capitalize on your dollars. Now, that may be a scary thing for you to hear since the last thing you want is to be taken advantage of. If your ex boyfriend says that the two of you will never get back together again then I wouldn’t take it to heart because I have seen too much flip flopping in my time to buy into it completely. There are some that really do mean it when they say we are never getting back together again.
However, in my opinion I think them saying it is really a function of what was done to them in the relationship. I like assigning percentage values to situations based on how high the chances of success are for a reconnection. This percentage number is assigned based on my personal knowledge and experience seeing a lifetime worth of breakups. So, maybe a general breakup percentage starts at 30% but after using my strategies it gets bumped up to 50%. Instead of those situations starting at the general 30% mark they would start at the 10 – 20% marks respectively. It’s these extreme situations that have a low percentage of success that you have to watch out for.
Now, before I finish this article up finally I want to make sure that you fully grasp what I am telling you here. So, what it all boils down to is a function of how severe the damage during the relationship was to him. Marriage, children the whole nine yards but if he’s not ready to commit to you then he may use the line “I don’t want to hurt you again” especially if he’s expressed his feelings on the subject already. We could go on and on all day about ways he could hurt you but when it comes down to it it’s a way for him to remove himself from the relationship and look like the good guy.
You’ve been intimate on every level, emotionally and physically and he wants to be friends!?!? Perhaps he wants to stay friends to have the possibility of getting back together in the future? I am going to give you the low down on all of these unanswered questions and really bring you into the mind of a male. It can be a scary place… but the good news is I am going to walk you through it and give you guidance on what to do if he says he just wants to be friends. Think of it this way, he’s got you on the sidelines waiting around for him while he does whatever he wants. Put your calendar up in plain view where you will see it daily and circle the date that your no contact period is up. Not only will this distract you and give you something to focus on other than your ex, it will give you confidence. For example, when you finally go on that first date with your ex boyfriend walk in front of him since women typically walk in front of men on dates and look at a guy (who is not your ex.) The idea here is to make it look like this other guy is checking you out. Now, the important thing to understand here is that it’s obvious to this other man that I am looking at him. But lets get out of this fantasy world where I am a woman and come back to the real world where I am teaching you to become the ungettable girl. Overall, this situation is actually wonderful for a breakup because he’s thinking your going to be friends with him but little does he know he is getting the cold shoulder for a few weeks so he can reassess his decision and during this time your becoming a version of yourself that he have never met before. It’s a very similar situation to the “I never loved you” comment that I’ve mentioned before. You see, Bob and his ex were fighting over money which is one of the top reasons couples fight. Bob’s ex went bat shit crazy and started throwing his games around while yelling and crying. Something tells me your ex didn’t say it in this way, otherwise you probably wouldn’t be on this site.
But the light at the end of the tunnel is that what he really meant when he says he wishes he never met you is that he is very hurt by you. Oftentimes men don’t know how to express themselves as well as women do and so they resort to the easiest thing that comes to mind.
I’d be willing to bet your ex will regret or at least feel bad about things he says to you in the heat of the moment at some point. Before I go into the details of her situation I do want to say that often times I have no idea on whose question I am going to answer for the podcast. Other times I listen to each one very carefully one by one and pick out the situation that I think people would want to hear about the most. There was a lot of emotion in it and you could tell, just by listening that she wanted her ex boyfriend back. Welcome to the ex-boyfriend recovery podcast where we help you get your ex back and have the fairy tale ending you deserve! I asked him originally if when he got home, if I can have a month or so to work it out and not to give up on us. Hey, I wanted to take a moment and thank you Morgan for having the courage to tell your story. Today’s episode features a woman named Morgan who has a bit of a problem with her ex. But, so basically what this men could do to get their exes back as soon as possible and kind of the game plan I came up with, shortened the strategy that I teach on both website significantly but still the shortest strategy was 30 days.
Even as great as my advice may be and as many success stories as I have had over the last several years that I’ve been running these websites, even I can’t guarantee. Now, with that being said, if you’re willing to take a long approach, if you’re willing to accept, “Okay, I’m probably not going to get him back by 6 pm today but it doesn’t mean I’m out of the game. Now, that post a serious issue because one, she would never take me seriously as a suitor because I live in Texas and Pennsylvania is pretty much like 1700 miles away. So, I pretty much would be there alone the entire time and all we had was a desk with my computer on it to work and a TV and I remember literally just staring at the clock hoping it would be 5 pm or 6 pm and she would come home because it was sort of like being in jail for a little bit because I just didn’t know what to do with myself. I think just maybe, at his age, because he’s a lot younger than I was, I think maybe 5 or 6 years younger total of when I’ve ended up moving.
No contact rule is going to be essential for you but that’s pretty much essential for everyone but after that really everything follows the same strategy. Then the next step is building attraction through text messages and then next step is to build attraction  through phone calls or Skype or Facetime or video chats and then the third step is the in person dates. Well, if you don’t have a lot of money, you probably work at a job that doesn’t pay a lot and probably works you like a dog.
Now, if you knew a month ahead of time that you were going to meet you ex up at this certain date then the flights become a little bit more inexpensive which is kind of the strategy I would recommend for you to approach.
Now, let me tell you a little bit more about my personal experience with this method because I have actually done this method with my wife. Maybe you can try to set up kind of a critical mass of attraction through text messages and phone calls where you kind of have this unspoken agreement where you’re not going to talk to other people when you set up this date maybe a month in advance or something.
I had my wife’s family which now they are my real family because I married her but at that time it’s such a drastic difference because I didn’t have any friends besides my wife. So, getting the human element, hearing people talk about their exes and how much they want them back and how hurt they are by the break up. We hear from a woman who wishes to remain anonymous who has found herself in a bit of a pickle.
There’s—I think something like four free giveaways of content and pdf and I do the success story report where I took a lot of my successes and figured out exactly what made them successful.
I just want to take a moment and thank you for having the courage to put your situation out there. I can maybe buy into the thinking that he doesn’t know what he wants to do with his career. So, make sure when you implement the things I’m going to tell you about that you don’t do anything stupid like this because I’m not going to lie to you. That could be a contributing reason for the breakup but you hurt yourself when you told him that you slept with someone else because going forward now, he’s going to question everything you say. So, they know exactly what they have to do to get their ex back in their situation and I was writing I think what was like a hundred pages and I was super excited about this.
So, approaching this situation, basically if you’re going to deliver bad news to your ex boyfriend or if you’re going to bring up something negative, do it when he’s in a good mood.
Sometimes when people mess up on the no contact rule, they go back to square negative one because the no contact rule losses its effectiveness but you, since you really didn’t do the no contact rule that much, it’s not going to lose much effectiveness. Well, I mentioned that he’s going to be questioning you every single time you tell him something now because in the back of his mind, he’s still going to wonder if you slept with someone. Let things unfold naturally because you’ve already proven that he wants you back and I really think you have a great shot at getting him back. Not to put yourself in a position where he can look at you say, “She’s not trustworthy.” And that sometimes means not going out to a club or something with your friends if they’re going to take pictures, post it on Facebook. Alrighty… It’s time for another episode of “The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast!” Awesome, right?
I am currently in the process of writing a massive guide about going on dates with an ex boyfriend when I stumbled across this question from a woman who wants to remain anonymous.
Anonymous and her boyfriend have been broken up for a few months and she has done a phenomenal job of sticking to my advice.
Her ex boyfriend is currently in possession of a record that she wants back and her ex actually called her to set up a day where they can meet up and he can give it back. Welcome to the ex boyfriend recovery podcast where we help you get your ex back and have the fairy tale ending you deserve. Now, you may be asking yourself, “Well, how can this book be specific to my situation?” Because without a doubt, that was the number 1 complaint. And I am structuring the book in a certain way where it creates a game plan for you to follow and then based on your situation, it’s going to teach you how to alter that game plan to fit your needs perfectly-- long distance relationships for example. And I am structuring the book in a certain way where it creates a game plan for you to follow and then based on your situation, it’s going to teach you how to alter that game plan to fit your needs perfectly– long distance relationships for example. We’re trying to create this family atmosphere where we help everyone, where we get and respond to everyone but enough about that.
You know I was taking notes and my wife she was sitting right next to me and she stopped everything she was doing and she was listening as well which is kind of rare for her and then after you were done talking, she literally turns to me and goes, “I really like her voice. So, that’s when I knew for sure that I definitely had to feature your question on the podcast but anyways, you have done a pretty good job at advancing to the point you’re at currently.
I’m of the mind of the value chain where you have to start off slow and kind of slowly build up the attraction into a point where it boils over and he just can’t not be in a relationship with you. I’m actually writing a really good article coming up about this very kind of question that you asked, which is another reason why I picked your question because I’m literally writing an article about it and when you were asking about how to handle the date or what you do during a date, I just thought it was a perfect match for what I was already currently working on.
But it seems to me like you’ve already advanced to where you’ve locked down a date with your ex boyfriend.
So, when it comes to dating you shouldn’t operate under the assumption that it’s going to take one date to get your ex-boyfriend to agree to be back in a relationship with you. So, one of your big questions was should you ask him to hang out because you say he’s operating under the assumption that he’s just going to give you your record back and then that’s going to be it.
I’ve talked about this a lot throughout ex-boyfriend recovery and it’s sort of ending the conversation at the high point. My wife the other day, she sent me this really interesting email and specifically, she’s in charge of Youtube and she wanted to do a Youtube video on make up and dressing up clothes and everything like that.
It’s funny… I am currently in the process of writing a massive guide about going on dates with an ex boyfriend when I stumbled across this question from a woman who wants to remain anonymous.
You need to cut all communication with him or else he’ll never startto miss you.Does It Work?Hell yeah this works! So if you want a much clearer picture of how this all works I recommend you check that out.
Remember, your goal with a no contact period is not to become a jerk so there is no reason to use it that way. However, if you know for a fact that your ex became less attracted to you over the course of your relationship you can work to change that. In fact, you could make the argument that the mental side of things during the no contact period is even more important than the physical side.
Hopefully this section will make you realize the true importance of not talking to your ex for 30 days.


The no contact rule isn’t just a psychological tactic to getting your ex back it is also a way to ensure that you have time to properly heal. I am sure you have met one of these types of couples that break up every few months only to get back together again after a few weeks. We had very good times together, then out of no where last August (2015) I found out he was sleeping with another woman. There is no denying that we both still love each other very much and on my end (the eternal optimist), I still see hope.
We had another tiff a few days ago and now have made a strong promise to myself to start and maintain an NC period for 30 days and then go from there. I really do care for him and wanna make this work with him but considering he’s made no contact with me I feel like this is it and that it’s definitely over with no returns! He and I are about a 15 minute walk away from each other at the moment, and we might accidentally see one another throughout the NC period because we tend to frequent the same places (and for both of us, it’s almost a requirement we be there, although not at the same time). I dated my ex for almost a year (in may) I just recently broke up with him, although he was in agreement with it ( acted like he didn’t care much) I am a single mom, but successful in my career and make a decent amount of money, I am also a calendar model, lingerie model, and in graduate school with a full scholarship. Now, I know a high school relationship that happened close to ten years ago isn’t exactly going to bring earth shattering revelations but bear with me here as I try to make my point. Instead they are just projecting on how they feel about the situation they are currently in. So, to hear that your ex boyfriend could potentially be throwing all of that out the window is especially painful. So, when I start explaining what he really means when he says this to you I want to operate under the assumption that he is in a highly emotional situation. Those are the types of situations where an ex boyfriend could mean it if he says that he never wants to get back with you. Now, I remember the first time I watched him work his voodoo on a girl I was impressed but after a while it became clear that the girl he worked “said voodoo on” was way more attached to him than he was to her.
So, I am going to teach you a trick that I don’t think I have ever talked about on Ex Boyfriend Recovery before. This way you will not have any temptations or “accidents.” You will still have his number in two different spots so you won’t have to worry about never getting it back again. I am walking into a restaurant and since my ex is a gentlemen he holds the door open for me. So, even though I am technically the one who made the guy look at me, to my ex it looks like this guy is checking me out.
But Bob, being the genius he is, decides to bring up the whole video game debacle again and the two of them started arguing again! The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast is one of the most popular self help and sexuality podcasts found on the market today.
First he agreed but then changed his mind in things that we cannot be fixed because there was nothing wrong with our relationship. It just means I’m going to take a much different approach.” If you’re willing to accept that, I think I may have a game plan for you where you can be successful. So, my mindset at that time was a little bit more mature even though like I said, I was little naive and thought the move would be easy.
It could be millions of different reasons but what I personally think from drawing upon my own personal experience is he felt maybe a little uncomfortable in this new area and didn’t really quite have the guts to stick it out and set his roots his down and kind of normalize and it certainly takes some time to get there but you will get there eventually if you stick it out.
And I like to teach these three date method where you go on a smaller date then a medium date then on a romantic date but that’s where the long distance relationship strategy kind of alters a bit because getting a date with an ex who’s states away isn’t easy. Build up a critical mass of attraction in the texting phase and phone call phase and then when you have the critical mass built, I want you both to set a date and stick to the date where you go out and get plane tickets maybe a month away until where the plane tickets are affordable and you’re not paying—dropping $700 to a $1000 on a plane ticket for a weekend where you see your ex, where you’re not even guaranteed to get them back.
Ultimately getting him back is going to be contingent on getting either together in the same state or working out some sort of commitment where you have a deeper commitment like marriage or something but no matter how you slice or dice it, you’re going to have to get back on the same state so, maybe that means you have to be willing to move to him. I didn’t really know anyone again besides my wife and her family and I didn’t really have a support system to kind of fall back onto.
I really tried to provide as much personal experience in everything as I could to your situation but if you’re asking my professional opinion as a relationship consultant.
I wanted to thank you for taking the time to listen to me ramble on Morgan and all of you who are listening and listening to ramble on with Morgan, thank you so, so very much. It’s good for me to help me understand you better and as a result, hopefully I can just continue to give good advice to everyone who wants it. We have had a lot going on lately and I kind of neglected getting new content out there but I am going to work really hard to stay on schedule of posting one of these episodes a week. If this is your first serious boyfriend, I’m assuming you are his first serious girlfriend and at that age, if you’ve only experienced one person or you’ve only been in a relationship with one person.
That can be kind of a tough thing because society has kind of painted men into a corner where men are the providers. You had him in your hands, I don’t know what you were thinking with regards to trying to make him jealous or make him upset by telling him that you slept with someone else.
I know I’ve been kind of getting onto you and telling you what you did was not a smart way to approach it.
I think for him to even ask that question of you in the first place means he’s worried about it. Thus, she is wondering how to turn a meet up that's supposed to be about a record into a date where they can hang out. I kind of took a break last week, mostly focused on Youtube and creating videos because I really--I guess it’s fun to be on camera. I am actually in the process of rewriting my most popular book- Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro and this thing is going to be a behemoth. You know like, “The book created this nice little template for me to work in but it doesn’t speak directly to my situation.” I’m glad you asked that.
So, yeah, I’m super pump about it, you know we just finished writing a new book-- The No Contact Rule Book.
Thus, she is wondering how to turn a meet up that’s supposed to be about a record into a date where they can hang out. I kind of took a break last week, mostly focused on Youtube and creating videos because I really–I guess it’s fun to be on camera. So, yeah, I’m super pump about it, you know we just finished writing a new book– The No Contact Rule Book. When I am choosing questions to feature on the podcast, often times my wife whose desk is sitting right next to mind, listens to me listen to all voice mails and you’re particular question, when I was playing it, listening to it, I was interested in it. To me it looks like, you’re maybe rushing a little too fast but I’m not saying you shouldn’t go get your record or anything like that.
So, congratulations for that and I’m going to do everything in my power right now to help you on the date. So, I think a lot of my effort or focus is on helping those people at the beginning of the strategy but that doesn’t mean we should leave out the people who are the end of the strategy– dating. You know you go on what I like to call kind of a small date, the medium date and then large date or the romantic date and he still hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend again. I think if– I would always let my wife dress me because that’s how bad I am at dressing up. She sent me this really interesting email about what the clothing says about you and what the color of the clothing says about you. If you find yourself in these situations and ONLY IN THESE SITUATIONS you can break your no contact agreement but there is a certain way you have to act. While this situation may suck it certainly isn’t impossible to cut off a significant portion of your contact with them.
Well, by doing this you are going to have to start your NC period over again FROM THE VERY BEGINNING. This is a perfect time to improve yourself which is exactly what you are going to be doing during this time. When talking about physical changes during the NC period you should aim to become the sexiest version of yourself. By now you should realize that the NC rule is important even if you aren’t trying to get your ex back because it will force you to focus on the most important thing, YOU! Taking a break from your ex for a minimum of 30 days will give you time to calm down and think more rationally. It’s interesting, because it allows you to essentially turn the tables on them and gain control over the situation.
Someone who feels so strongly about their ex goes on the 30 day freeze out period and after the 30 days are up they realize that they have no desire to get back with this person again. We’ve been officially done since January, but have tried communicating a few times since then but seems to always end up in a fight. She is the only woman who has ever made me feel like a king…but unfortunately, she has also made me feel lower than anyone ever has.
I know she will try to contact me during that time, but given the situation, I’m not sure if I should respond or ignore her.
I wanted to help him but maybe my intentions was not go along with my actions, especially we are living too far away from each other. He said that there will be no commitment between the two of us unless i followed him back to Europe as he doesnt believe in LDR.
Last week we saw each other and I felt everything that I’ve done during the breakup like physical changes, being more mature, being a positive person seemed useless to getting my ex back. It also secures a backup girlfriend in case his “post you” dating escapades don’t work out. There are so many different ones out there, Island paradise calendars, pictures of Europe calendars, puppies, kittens, babies, hot air balloons etc.
If you’ve been with your ex for a long time the chances are pretty high that you are depending on him too much. I think it’s safe to say that if your ex has told you that he never loved you the cut from that would be very deep. It’s actually not the worst thing when a guy reacts emotionally like this because it means that he has feelings towards you. Seiter takes real life situations on one by one and provides valuable advice that have helped thousands of women find the peace (and success) they are striving for. If you could please give me any kind of advice before 6 o’ clock, that would be amazing but if that’s not. And we’re going to do everything we possibly can here in the ex recovery family to help you. So, I understand that this is may be hard for you to hear because I think everyone who can listen to this and everyone who can you know, hear your voice knows that you’re in a really emotional spot right now and I can just tell you really want him back. I’m just sort of the medium or the bridge between your mind and his mind and to what he may be thinking. So, the only way that we could make our relationship work is if I move to Pennsylvania and that’s what I ended up doing. I think I read somewhere that I don’t know, it takes like a year and a half to—maybe even like 3 years I read one time, to like settle down when you are in a new place.
And you know, my wife and I we weren’t married at that time but then we got married and we had a baby and our life turned out really, really incredible but it wasn’t easy that move.
Well, to be honest with you, I’ll just approach this like a long distance relationship breakup.
The in person meet ups are a much bigger deal when it comes to long distance relationships. You need to focus a lot of your time and effort into building attractions through those methods and then after you feel like you have built this critical mass of attraction, that’s when you push to meet up in either a neutral state or neutral place or you visit him or he visits you.
If you have a job, you have to be willing to maybe take a vacation day or if you don’t have a job that’s great but that brings up to the next point, you need money. We obviously were trying to meet up because we were in a relationship maybe 6 months before I moved in with her. You know, set up a date where you visit each other and you know—with a normal break up I often say well, the best way to do is there’s got to be three dates, the small date, the medium date and the romantic date. If he’s comfortable and you think you can undergo the physical and emotional stress of moving such a long distance and not knowing anyone and being alone in a certain extent, you’re going to have to try to take some of ‘those risks perhaps or you know it’s sort of a talk that you and your ex have to have when you get to that point but don’t ever talk about that until maybe you see him in person or you got him in the best possible mood you can possible get in and you’re far down the road in the ex recovery process. I think that’s a complete mistake because ultimatums never work and you are self imposing an ultimatum on you.
Got a little busy, we recently released a quiz on ex boyfriend recovery.  Basically, that defines what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back. I know a lot of women are scared to do that but I think the women who do end up having the courage and the women who are lucky enough to have their question picked on the podcast, get a lot of value out of what I say because I spend basically 20 minutes talking about that situation. You believe he’s going through a quarter life crises which I’m not quite sure I buy it all.
I know not necessarily anymore that women’s rights have done a lot for equality and things like that but if you look at the numbers men still earn more than women.
I mean I can understand why you did it because maybe you’re upset that he broke up with and you wanted to hurt him that way that he hurts you. I was telling people on the emails, I was telling people on the comments, I was telling people on Youtube, I was telling my wife about it, I was telling my dad about it.
Specifically if you should do the no contact rule in your situation and you seem like you’re really well read. Now, the biggest misconception about the no contact rule, that I found to be lately is a lot of people just use it to focus on their ex boyfriend but that’s not what it’s for. And there’s a lot of more interesting things going on but the podcast is still near and dear to my heart.
Today’s question comes from someone who wanted to remain anonymous but she has a real interesting question that I don’t think I’ve ever covered on the podcast before. I’m going to give you certainly tips on what to do during the date but I would say, after the date, focus on building more attraction before you see him again in person. You did the no contact rule which is phenomenal but where I think you fell down a little bit was the attraction building through texting and then after texting you have to transition to phone calls. So, when it comes to dating your ex, if I were to pick out one of the weakest parts about ex  boyfriend recovery, it’s the fact that we feature a ton of advice on the first parts of my overall strategy for getting an ex back, for parts like the no contact rule, parts like text messaging, parts like talking on the phone but we don’t really talk about dating a lot and what to do during the date. This process will take time which is why I like to teach what I like to call the three date method. Well, you just have to interest him, you’re right about being chill and not bringing up really bad memories or super emotional stuff.
Especially if there was cheating involved, you should definitely not talk about that but talk about something that’s going to interest them. If it was up to me, I would probably go everywhere in tennis clothes because they’re so comfortable but obviously, I can’t do that.
I’m sure you’ve seen this when it comes to like sales and advertising and how like yellow—you know like McDonald’s has red-yellow or something because it catches your eye and it makes you want to go in but when it comes to relationships, it’s really interesting in what the colors mean.
So, if you want him to look at you in a passionate way or you want him to be super into you, red is definitely what you want to wear.
Your aim now is to get him to that point by your actions and words.It’s Not Over YetWhen it comes time to get your ex boyfriend back there’s something that you need to keep inmind.
If you slipand drop him a tiny ‘how are you doing?’ text, then you’ve given the power during the breakupback to him. But no matter what I tell you in this article I know that there will be a certain percentage of you who struggle.
I personally don’t agree with either of those assessments but then again each broken relationship is different and will require unique individual time frames. In order for this process to work you need to prove that you can go 30 full days without relying on your ex for a conversation.
For example, if you let yourself go a little bit during the relationship then it would be wise to use your time getting in better physical shape.
Obviously the positive mental changes is going to cover mental aspects but it will also help you understand the importance of not falling off the map socially. With a month of free time away from your ex you can really get a lot done in the healing department. They are built by strong ones and the no contact period allows you the proper amount of time to start building that strong foundation again.
I went no contact for 3 days and he promised me that he would cut her off in order for me not to leave. Whether it’s for emotional stability or happiness you will have to show him that you can be happy on your own. We’re going to be talking about what to do if you find your ex boyfriend has become distant all of sudden.
If that’s too much notice, I understand but any help you could offer me would be so much appreciated.
So, I guess, this is going to be kind of a unique episode because I’m going to be bringing a lot of my own personal experience to it because I feel like I can relate to your ex boyfriend on some levels but first things first, let’s talk about the 6 o’clock deadline. You really care for him and like I said, we’re going to do everything we can to help you but the first thing that I want to try to encourage you to do is not rush this process. So, for your own peace of mind, just accept right now that he’s going to move back but that doesn’t mean that you’re helpless and that you can’t do anything about it.
Now, I was maybe a little bit young and naive when I moved because I had just started to come into some success with the websites.
So, what I’m thinking could have happened with your ex boyfriend is that he moved from Missouri, is what you said I believe, to Kansas and the transition was tough for him and maybe you were the one positive part of that move because it takes a while for a human being to kind of sit down under a roof and feel comfortable right? My wife is the only reason I probably got through it but your boyfriend on the other hand, maybe he just got scared a little bit.
You can just text them up and say, “Hey, you want a cup of coffee?”, “Sure, let’s go get a cup of coffee.” Well, you can’t really do that if you’re ex is a state away. Now, this poses a problem for a lot of people because I think a lot of the people, a lot of the women specifically who come to ex boyfriend recovery don’t exactly have a lot of money. I just felt like I was—just had my wife and that was it and it takes a while to build that stuff back up. I would say try to get him back, take the long game—if you’re trying to get him back, sorry. I really appreciate what you’ve done for my websites because without you these websites wouldn’t exist. Maybe you wanted to get some sort of validation from him that he cared for you in a deep level and you certainly got that but it really didn’t do anything to help  you with getting him back. Telling him or hurting him like this served no purpose for you other than just getting that validation but the fact that he was on a date with you, the fact that it only took a week of ignoring him to get on this date should have been validation enough that he’s still had feelings for you. Even if you tell him that you lied, even if you explained your reasons for lying, in the back of his mind, he’s not going to believe you. I was really excited about this thing because I really thought it was going to be revolutionary but back to the story, the particular day I was cleaning up my desktop and I happened to put the book that I was writing, the book that I spent a month and a half working on into the trash bin and then I clicked on the trash bin and then I erased it.
You lied to him about sleeping with someone else, why you did this, I think my personal belief is you were trying to find some sort of validation that he’s still loved you and maybe you thought this was the best way to bring it out, maybe you were just trying to hurt him. So, what I think you need to do before you enter the no contact rule is let him know that you were lying.
Yes, it is for making an ex miss you, it’s for healing an ex’s feelings emotionally, it’s for leveling you out emotionally and that’s—it’s really a two pronged approach in the fact that, yes, you are using it for your ex but you’re also using it for yourself. So, here I am again for another week and another episode of the ex boyfriend recovery podcast. I really took a lot of the people who complained about what the book didn’t have or what the book lacked in the past.
I don’t know when it’s going to be completed because I want to do a really good job for you but basically what’s going to happens is I have compiled a huge list of all the situations I’ve ever encountered through ex boyfriend recovery. So, anyways– two year relationship, ended basically in the “Girl’s-a-crazy-this-guy’s-a dumb” paradox thing. I’m not trying to say anything mean to you or put you down or anything like that but if I were to pick on something that maybe you didn’t do as well and you weren’t as descriptive as maybe you could have been but if there is one thing that I can kind of pick at that maybe you could have done a little bit better not relating to a date. As far as what to say, I think this podcast episode is too short to tell you exactly what to say on a date.
Now, if you listen to my strategies or read anything on my website, you know that I’m a big fan of slowly building up attraction and the same applies with dating. It just depends on—I know some men out there get really keyed up and they show up a lot earlier. A tv show is an example there that I just used but maybe he has a movie, maybe—I know Game of Thrones is coming out soon which is we’re super pumped for. But anyways, here’s some interesting things that I’ve learned and also that my wife can help you out because now my wife is working full time with the ex-recovery team and she’s specifically really good at things like make up and dressing things up. So, according to this, there are three types of colors that you want to wear on your first date.
The second one is perfect if there was cheating involved, specifically if you cheating and, that’s Blue. The most common mistake we as humans make when we’re trying to get someone backafter a breakup it to contact them incessantly because we think that they will move on without usovernight.
As your ex boyfriend looks around to find out how you are dealing with the breakup, he should see nothing and I guarantee that after a few weeks of this your ex boyfriend isdefinitely going to come searching for you.He will do it under the guise of “calling to see how you’re doing”, or probably he will make upsome lame excuse to stop by your house and pick up something that belongs to him.
Thus, this page is meant to teach you how to successfully implement the no contact rule so you can put yourself in the best position to get your ex back. However, you also need to remember that you are creating a new life of which they are separate from (or you need to appear to be creating one.) Again, keep any conversation simple, short and pleasant.
It can be especially hard when your heart is begging you to just pick up the phone and type a simple text message to your ex.
Not only are the health benefits immense to getting in good shape but it can legitimately be a step in the right direction to getting an ex boyfriend or girlfriend back. Nothing is going to get accomplished if the both of you are constantly a word away from getting into an argument.
The majority of the web sites specializing in BPD say to run as fast as you can from someone having that.
I was always there for him since he joined the Navy, supporting him, sending care packages so that he’d feel loved. Apart from occasional bickering in the last month due to him becoming complacent and uninterested at times etc everything was great.
That’s why I decided to start the nc rules again to preparing myself for the fact that I will never be getting your ex back. We’re going to be hearing from a woman name Morgan, who finds herself in a really interesting situation. I thought that was a great idea but when he got to Missouri, he started acting weird and distant. I don’t know what to do and I have until 6 o’clock tonight to find a way to influence him to not just leave and then at least hear me out. I know this podcast is geared towards women and women specifically on ex boyfriend recovery but ex boyfriend recovery isn’t the only website I own.
I know it’s hard but trying to get him back in 2 hours and convince him to stop his entire plan of moving back from Kansas to Missouri is going to be extremely difficult if not impossible.


So, maybe he latched onto you and you made him feel comfortable and then he went back to visit his parents and he felt their love and what it was like to be back home and you know he was thinking, “Man, this feels so great.” I don’t think it’s anything against you either Morgan. You know, the answer is—the reason I think he may have potentially pulled something like this is because of the uncomfortableness of moving this big life change blah blah blah… We already got all that. My wife and I just took a trip out to Florida to look for a house to buy and the trip to Florida was not inexpensive. It took me a good maybe two years before I felt like, “Okay, I feel like I’m kind of getting more at home here.” So, if you’re willing to take that kind of risk then I think you should maybe go full steam ahead with what I just tried to explain to you. I would say long distance relationships have the worst chance at success rates than some of the more general breakups just because of the distance can provide so many extra roadblocks to overcome.
One of the things I liked about Morgan’s message was the fact that she kind of got choked up there at the end. Not only is it a really cool quiz but you’re going to get so much value after you sign up for it. But I don’t want to get into any political debates on what men earn versus what women earn. I could definitely buy into the fact that he was struggling with this career or trying to figure out his life path or what he should do for a career. Believe it or not, even though what you did was stupid, I think it can serve a purpose for getting him back which I’ll cover in a second. You saw what I said about the no contact rule but how every time you do it after the first time it losses some effectiveness and that is certainly going to hold true but the good news for you is you really didn’t do it. Understand everything I teach about the value chain, about how you want to go from the no contact rule, to texting, to after you build attraction through texting, you move up to the phone calls then after you build attraction through the phone calls, you move up to the dates.
I jotted those notes down and basically everything that anyone ever complained about is going to be going in the book. So, I don’t forget but yeah, we’re really excited to add more products to fray and I have to say, thank you guys for being so accepting of the newest additions to the ex boyfriend recovery team. Build attraction with your ex through text messages and then of course build attraction through your ex through phone calls and eventually, once enough attraction has been build, the date should be easiest.
Of course I write about it in my products and everything like that but for whatever reason, I’ve just never covered that as much. I will give you a few pointers a little bit later but let’s talk about what kind of a template to work in because I always think people look better when they have an overall strategy. Imagine that you were about to go on a blind date with someone you’ve never met before and then on the blind date, that person asks you to marry him. Repeat it to where it’s every single date you go on from this point on after that third date is romantic and puts him in the mindset of wanting to ask you to be his girlfriend again but we’re getting way ahead. Baby blue in particular—I know from my sales experience that Baby Blue is the most trusted color but Blue in general shows that you’re trustworthy and that you’re secure essentially. However, the reality of the situation is much different than what we think and I’llshow you.Imagine that you were the one who broke it off with your ex boyfriend? This amount of time will give you and your ex enough breathing room to calm down and look at the situation more rationally.
Unfortunately, by breaking NC you are losing power and control over your relationship which at this stage is a very bad thing.
I suppose I had a false sense of security because I told him I was thinking about staying in NYC for another year while he was doing his business elsewhere. However, some provide tips and recommendations on how someone can be with a BPD person…I chose the latter. We used to work together and everyone has said how completely shocked they are because we were just so great together and he chased after me for months to be with me and the relationship was so great, everyone could see how much he doted on me.
I also told him that I was thankful for having him as a part of my life and has changed me into a better person.
Now, he is telling me that he is not sure that he is in love with me anymore and he is returning to Kansas solely to get his stuff. Now, if you don’t want to take the long game, I completely understand but that’s what I’m going to encourage you to do. I thought I would move maybe from my parent’s house to an apartment, to a house and you know but all within Texas.
I remember when we first moved into our apartment in Pennsylvania, we had no furniture and you know I worked from home and my wife at the time worked for an enterprise, a rental car company. You may have been the perfect girlfriend but still like I said moving that long of a distance or moving and going through this drastic life changes can be really difficult on any human being not just your boyfriend or not just men in general. That doesn’t necessarily apply when you’re talking about long distance relationships because and often times, especially if you’re states away, you almost get only one chance, one shot at goal. That long distance way of getting your ex back Morgan but if you’re asking my personal opinion, I think if you can’t handle the fact that you’ll probably end up having to be the one to move to him in the end, I think maybe it might be time to just let him go and not think about it anymore. Not that I’m like kind of a dick about it like I like seeing people cry, I don’t but it makes me realize how serious people are about getting their exes back because sometimes I get a little removed from that. Basically by through hearing other people’s situations and figuring out what advice that I give to them that you can use for your situations. I would think, “Ok, we’ll she’s telling me that and I can understand why she did that but what if she’s just lying about this as well?” I mean this is the kind of headwind that you’re going to have to overcome if you’re going to try to get this particular ex boyfriend back. You did it for  a week and then basically got him back and then fumbled it up before you really got him back. What kind of hobbies can you pick up?  What kind of things have you always wanted to do but you never did? Well, he’s already going to be very insecure about you or you telling him and lying to him about sleeping with someone else. Just sort of, kind of, if you imagine a graph, it’s sort of like the graph is constantly going up if the graph were to represent attraction of course. I think that’s partly due to my laziness but it’s also partly due to no one really wants to hear about it because where people mostly struggle is in the first parts of the strategy with the no contact rule.
Where I would have a date set up and I would show up maybe 30 minutes early because I was just nervous about it but my point here is you’re trying to go on small date and the goal of this date is to interest him and make him want another date with you.
Because when you have him on that hook, when you have him hooked and you leave, you are putting yourself in a position where he’s going to want to see you again. So, if you cheated or there was cheating involved, blue is definitely the color that you want to wear. You will always get really good and insightful information from my podcast specifically about ex’s or just relationships in general and also please if you haven’t, write a review. Dealing with your exboyfriend’s phone call correctly is an important part to winning him back.Read more on how to deal with your ex boyfriend’s phone callThe End ResultYour ex boyfriend is going to be blown away! This past Thursday I went to the gym and accidently found out he put HER ON OUR MEMBERSHIP ACCOUNT.
Knowing that he had used a dating website before we were together, I got paranoid and decided to look him up just to see if he was using it again. In fact, he sent me a massive care package with a love letter for Valentines Day so him completely shutting me off confused the hell out of me. So i didn’t speak to him picked up more hours at work to make up for his part of the bills. We want to get this episode out as soon as possible for Morgan, so she can get the advice that she needs to get her ex boyfriend back. I mean, I think on average this process can take between 45-60 days to get your ex back and for those who are listening who are just generally trying to get an ex back or just trying to get, I guess a boyfriend back in any situation you could think of. She was like a manager there and so she would go to work, probably like at 6 am every single day and then get back at 6 pm or 7 pm. So, if you’re looking for reasons for why he may have broke up with you and why he maybe thinks you guys want different things out of life, it could be that he just doesn’t feel comfortable. He is moving back to Missouri and you’re in Kansas, so you are basically, if you are going to try and get him back, it’s going to be like kind of a long distance relationship and as far as what to do with the long distance relationship. Well, I try to see her at least once every single month but that required planning on both our parts. You have to make your time with your ex as romantic as possible and you have to do a lot of things like leave him wanting more which is kind of a cool thing about long distance relationships.
You said you wanted to know about what the appropriate time was to hash things out with him. So, technically I think it’s going to lose a little bit of the effectiveness for your situation but not much. Seriously, you should go back into no contact rule and to the no contact rule even if you didn’t contact your ex but you didn’t make any personal strides, you should go back to the no contact rule. The first date should be real light, not threatening, but interesting enough to hold his attention to make him think about you. So, I went out and got someone who knows a lot about it, enough to get me to marry her, my wife. And then finally, if you feel like you want to look slimmer or you feel that like Red looks terrible on you, –these are my wife’s words, I’m just summarizing from the email here I have pulled up in front of me.
The last time we spoke I was trying to get to know what was wrong, trying to show my concerns yet he would only change the subject. So, on my other website, I actually ended up writing this really interesting article where I took kind of a mock situation where I was thinking, “Well, I’m constantly getting this questions about people who want to get their exes back as soon as possible.” And they rush through the entire process and more often than not, they fall flat on their faces. We needed to make sure that she could get time off and that you know, I guess I had the money to do it. I guess one of the biggest positives is a lot of the time that you get together in person is super romantic.
I’m not going to say it’s a great shot because I think him moving back to Kansas for you is not as likely and I don’t know how you feel about moving to Missouri and I feel like that’s a decision that you should come to on your own without any kind of prods or pushes from me. Not that my wife and I ever broke up but the long distance relationship itself is so difficult to manage that it feels like you’re going insane sometimes.
I’m thinking about, “Ok, if you do this, this and this it’s going to equal this.” But sometimes it’s good to get the human element. I wouldn't call it necessarily a newsletter but we completely revamped the emails that you get when you sign up for exboyfriend recovery.
I wouldn’t call it necessarily a newsletter but we completely revamped the emails that you get when you sign up for exboyfriend recovery.
We were kind of talking a while after the breakup and then I finally started no contact and within a week of us not speaking, he reached out to me asking if we could talk. You mentioned something about a quarter life crisis because he doesn’t know what he wants to do in a career which I’m not sure I buy a quarter life crisis thing. To be honest the appropriate time is when he’s in an incredible mood, when he is in such a good mood that you can basically tell him that you murdered someone and he won’t get upset with you.
So, I was feeling really good about myself and I think my wife, she took the baby to her parent’s house to give me some kind of space to work and some peace and quiet to work basically. Usually I’m very secure about the projects I work on or in a specific area of my desktop where I don’t touch them or they sat there and everything. The second date should take things up a notch and on the third date of course should take things up a notch and then ideally by that third date enough attraction has been built through both where he’s re-evaluating whether or not he wants you to be his girlfriend and he’ll ask you. We’re using Starbucks as an example because I’ve been to Starbucks and I’d know exactly how this can work. You’ll find he’ll text you more, he’ll think about you more, he’ll say nice things to you, he’ll say maybe I miss you and then you can go about setting up that second date; the medium date which I’m actually not going to talk about because I want to talk a little bit about what you should wear. I encourage you to write a review on Itunes for my podcast and that it’s going to do it for this week’s podcast of the exboyfriend recovery podcast episode. He has absolutely no idea what is going on because it’s the exact oppositeof what he expected.
But my sickness was much more then emotional pain, I found out later that afternoon that I’M PREGNANT. Finally, I said that I am not his enemy but his friend, and dont know if he takes me as somebody more that that anymore. So, I took this mock situation to try to figure out what someone could do to get their ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back, particularly their ex girlfriend since this was for the ex girlfriend recovery website. It takes time and commitment on your part and even then you’re not guaranteed to get an ex back because no one can guarantee you that.
It was actually extremely difficult to move and a lot of times, I wasn’t as happy as I wouldn’t have been, if I hadn’t have moved. So, yeah I think maybe that could have potentially be what’s going on here and why he’s wanting to move back home. So, if you—I guess what I’m trying to say is building this critical mass of attraction is essential but you know, if your ex is states away, then you’re going to have to catch  a last minute flight when you’re trying to ask for this date and last minute flights are typically notorious for being expensive. So, it wasn’t as much of an issue for me but she also had to come visit me and visit my parents.
I’m just trying to tell you what I think and what I think is, I think in the future if you are to get him back, I think you would have to be the one to move to him. I’m trying to give you a look at every single aspect of this situation and part of that is just me giving you my personal opinion on your chances.
When you do this quiz, you basically get this set of emails that basically defines to your situation what kind of chance you have. And since we’re trying to create this—basically this community where we help people who are trying to get their ex back. You told him that you slept with someone else to hurt him which obviously it did and you find yourself back at square one. I mean I know they have midlife crises but just to put this to perspective, he’s 26 and I’m 26. I mean there’s nothing scarier than living life without a plan or without a financial plan to back you up. And I did just that, I started working and I started particularly cleaning up my desktop.  I own an iMac and it’s really cluttered. But here’s the thing, I was in a great mood that day, so even though, it was a horrible loss which I have since started rewriting the book and that I think it’s even better now than it was but even though it was a horrible loss, I didn’t really feel that upset inside because I was in such a good mood. So, I really think you really have a great chance of almost—even though you’re at square one. For you to make a major mistake like telling him that you slept with someone just proves that you are not ready to get him back. Let’s say, it’s not a date, it’s just a hang out with one of your guy friends, Dave and you post a picture on Facebook and he comes across this. Light texting after no contact, although he is very reserved but responding and when our last conversation went right, I asked if he has still had my old records that I lent him and he does and he agreed to meet up and give it back but yeah.
So, once you get there early, go inside of Starbucks and then order a coffee or whatever the heck you want to order there, Frappucino, whatever.
My wife and I last night, we had an interesting discussion about the bachelor of all things and how the bachelor almost glorifies cheating and how it’s socially acceptable for the bachelor or even the bachelorette to cheat and how it’s such a way of process. He expected that you’d come running after him and that you’d beg him toleave the door to the relationship open a crack in case he wanted to reconcile?Well guess what. He told me nothing has come from the dating profile (and that it was more or less hurting his confidence). He answered to my message by saying that he should’ve stayed at the ship cause theres no point to going back to his room.
So, she had to have the money to do that and the time to do that but before we even met before, we met online through Facebook through friends. So, maybe he can be in his comfort zone but at the same time there’s drawbacks to that because you leave your friends and family. So, he’s essentially your high school sweetheart and I could factor into all of this in a second but first let me get to your situation. So, you’re big basic questions here are should you do the no contact rule again and what’s the appropriate time for you to hash things out regarding the issues in your previous relationship and what caused the breakup and things of that nature. So, I think I have a lot of great insight into what he’s thinking or he’s mindset and at 26 years old, I have not had a quarter life crisis though. And men really take that seriously, so I can buy into the fact that he feels a lot of stress about that but it’s not a quarter life crisis. So, just going forward, if I’m going to help you out, I need to know that you cannot do this again. That’s how important it is to focus on yourself and a lot of women obsess about the no contact rule. So, a lot of women think, “Ok, will getting my ex back, I have to wait ‘til he’s ready.” But that’s not always the case, sometimes he can be ready and you’re not ready. Well, all you’re going to be doing with that picture or that act is you’re going to be upsetting him to the point where he’s not going to want to be with you because he doesn’t feel like he can trust you. Part of the reason that I ended up not following the same suit as your boyfriend is that I really had a very deep commitment to my wife. So, we met online through Facebook through friends and we set up a day about two months in advance where we would meet and it was in Florida at her parent’s house and two months is pretty risky for someone you’ve never met but it’s sort of—it was that critical mass of attraction I was talking about.
I’m looking for all sort of lovey dovey adjectives I can think of but—critical mass of attraction maybe the best one. You leave your support system and you’re in this new strange place where you don’t really know anyone.
Everything that I’m trying to do is to help you obviously but sometimes I feel a little over robotic in the way that I think now. I can’t guarantee we do in 24 hours but usually within 2 days, we get to you and you get a response.
I put all of my work, all the pictures I do and any book I’m writing is on this desktop and  a few months ago I started rewriting ex boyfriend recovery pro which is kind of the flag ship product. I think maybe, we’re ready to get him back but you weren’t ready maturely wise to get him back. The name of game here is getting him back but at the same time, showing him that you are the most trustworthy person alive. Sit down at a Starbucks where there’s an open chair near you and then when he shows up, he will come inside Starbucks and then he will see you and then he’ll V-Line towards you and then you’re both sitting, he’ll give you your stuff and rather than asking, “Hey, let’s hang out after this.” You’ve already put him in this position where he’s going to hang out with you. You have put him out of his comfort zone,and made your ex boyfriend face the fact that he can’t play games with you at this moment. I feel like he’s definitely not a good choice for me since he can so easily walk away from my daughter and I but even with date offers from other people theres no one else that even compares to him in my mind.
In fact, I think we were engaged maybe within a month of moving in and I was just committed head over heels for this woman.
Enough attraction had been built to where we were willing to want to see each other and we set a date to see each other and stuck with the date and I kind of felt like we were dating before we met because we were both kind of committed to not hurting the other person’s feelings like I wouldn’t talk to any other girls at all while I was talking to her because I didn’t want to scare her off and she didn’t want to talk to any other men when she was talking to me because she, one,  didn’t want to scare me off and two, I was the one who had to buy the plane tickets to come see her and she would feel bad if she, I guess flirted or met someone else. I hate to use that one again but it builds a huge critical mass of attraction on both parties and then all of a sudden one of the people has to go home or both of the people have to go home. Maybe you do know his family but it’s still not the same as having your family there or having your own support systems or network of friends which is something that I learned myself. We’ve had the limits for some of our responses because I think over the Easter holiday, we had something like 400 unanswered emails.
And within two weeks, I kind of prematurely agree to meet with him and we did and it went well. I mean if you’ve ever gone to sleep deprivation with a new baby, you know what I’m talking about. You need to approach a situation where you bring up your previous relationship when he’s in an incredible mood.
Now, those are the three top recommended choices for what I think you should wear on the first date.
Because you want him to look at you in that passionate way again but if you want to maybe be more creative, wear Purple. It iseither he chooses to take you back (and hopes you will accept) or he risks losing you forever.If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, the first thing you need to do is to get his attentionagain.
And when I returned to NYC we started skyping every day for hours – sometimes 10+ hours a day. So, I felt like we were kind of in this relationship without being in a relationship yet when we were talking and I feel like that is maybe the best strategy for you Morgan. So, we fell a bit behind which is why I actually came in and started helping out my—some of the other members of the ex-recovery staff in answering some of the emails. However, we’ve been—he then asked me if I have been with anyone else since the breakup and I lied and I said yes, just to hurt him and it did. People are going to be more accepting of bad news when they’re in a good mood as opposed to bad news when they’re in a bad mood. I took a lot of the complaints I got from people who bought the book and I’m working them in to make sure their complaints get covered and no one ever has an issue.
Cutting off all contact will not only get his attention, but it gets him thinking about youagain as well and that’s exactly what you want.Now before you go I want to introduce you to someone who has helped thousands of people whohave been in your exact situation.
I don’t want to give you false hope because like I said, your chances, it can be as great as some other people’s chances perhaps but I will say, if you were you willing to put everything you have into this, you can get him back for sure.
All you had to do was just build up an attraction and get him back but now that you made this mistake, you had the added headwind of making him trust you because even though you didn’t sleep with someone, if he truly believes that which is like I said, he’s going to question everything, you still lied to him. His methods are slightly unorthodox but they really work andhe’s really keen on helping folks just like you.Meet T. Don’t obsess about anything relating to your situation and I promise things will go better for you.
Do I ask if we hang out for a little bit or you know, I’m definitely going to be very chill and nice and positive when I see him, not bring up any heavy memories. He was in the middle of exams (under a lot of stress and self-loathing) and as I suffer from anxiety, I had a bad attack which resulted in him kicking me out of his place the next morning. I know you say it’s less effective the more times you do it and also when is the appropriate time to kind of hash things out and talk about the issues that cause the breakup in the first place?
It does and it makes people not trust others.  So, kind of the big thing that you’re going to have to accomplish here is getting him to trust you again and the best way to do that is not to put yourself in a position where you’re around other guys.
Talk about something that you know will interest him and then end the date prematurely on purpose. Since Thursday, he has sent me 1 Facebook message (a movie trailer – we send links back and forth) but no comment attached. Make it to where—it’s not getting back into ways—I mean a lot of women try to get their exes back—the biggest mistake I see a lot of women trying to get their ex back too soon.
I felt so dumb and pathetic for continuing on with him after I found out about his profile but I tried my hardest to see if I could change his mind and get him to delete it without me actually asking (just hinting)… Anyway, what should I do? That you really didn’t sleep with someone and then after you’ve given that apology, you go into the no contact rule.



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Comments to «Using the no contact rule to get your ex back 2.0»

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