Where they are looking for one word, one phrase or one speech to recite to change the way things are going. I always like the bad news first so I am just going to go out on a limb here and say that you are like me and want the bad news first.
There isn’t one word, phrase or speech that you can say to get your ex girlfriend back. That’s one of the biggest misconceptions out there and I would like to correct this belief right here and now. The truth is that every romantic comedy and Disney movie has formed this belief that all you have to do to get a girl to fall head over heels for you (or in your case fall back in love with you) is deliver some type of incredible speech where you declare your undying love for a girl and she will be putty in your hands.
Of course, there are two sides to every coin and where there is bad news there is also good news. Yes, while I did say that there isn’t any ONE word, phrase or speech that you can use to win your ex back I never said anything about using multiple of them together. Take a moment to consider the average way that a couple gets back together after a breakup.
Usually it’s a combination of the moments, interactions and feelings that make a couple get back together after a breakup.
Then I also want you to notice how under these arrows I am saying that each arrow is mean to represent a combination of either positive moments, interactions or feelings.
It’s a combination of words, phrases and speeches that can influence moments, interactions and feelings which ultimately lead to a couple getting back together.
I really want to drive home the point that you can’t get your ex girlfriend back by saying just one thing. Instead, there are multiple things that have to be said in order for you to get that amazing result that you want so bad. Rather than teaching you ONE thing to say to get your ex girlfriend back I am going to teach you EVERYTHING to say to get her back. Of course, before we can get into that I need you to understand the correct process to use to get your ex girlfriend back. Well, this graphic represents the correct way that you are supposed to go about getting your ex girlfriend back.
These three icons are meant to represent the mediums that you will be communicating with your ex by. In my article on flirting I talked about these three mediums and the importance of not jumping the gun on them. Above I mentioned that I was going to teach you EVERYTHING you needed to say to get your ex girlfriend back. Well, the way I am going to go about doing that is by teaching you what you need to say to get your girlfriend back in each of the three categories. I guess the smartest thing for me to do will be to divide this up into three categories for you. However, before I really sink my teeth into these three categories it is probably a good idea for me to explain my philosophy on text messaging.
I am of the mind that text messages are one piece of a three piece puzzle to getting your ex boyfriend back.
A lot of experts say that text messaging is the most important concept to master but I tend to disagree. So this is going to sound really weird but I want you to scroll up and look at the infographic I put together depicting the correct way to get an ex girlfriend back. Above I also made reference to the fact that in order to maximize your chances of success you need to move from one category to the other. Well, my philosophy on texting is deeply intertwined with the belief of moving from one category to the next.
Of course, in order to successfully do that you have to say a bunch of things to build a lot of attraction. After all, an ex girlfriend is probably going to need a compelling reason to talk on the phone with you and she is going to be more likely to accept your call if a lot of attraction has been build through text messages. There are two things I would like to talk about when it comes to starting a conversation over text message. I get a lot of questions about these two things on Ex Girlfriend Recovery so I would like to put all the questions to rest right here, right now. I guess we should start by talking about starting a conversation after the no contact rule.
The idea behind the NC rule is that it allows more time for your ex girlfriend to miss you and it gives both of you time to calm down after the breakup.
But in order to succeed in getting your girlfriend back you are going to have to inevitably talk to her. Because it is the least threatening method of communication and it allows you to control things a bit more than if you were to contact her through any of the other mediums. You need to send your ex girlfriend a text message that will be impossible for her NOT to respond to. There are a couple of things I want you to take note of when it comes to this text message. I used it because apparently your ex girlfriend is obsessed with Paris and we are going to use that knowledge to our advantage.
You see, I have a theory that every person walking this earth has a topic that will immediately open them up and get them talking. This yearning to see Paris is deeply woven into every fiber of her being and opens her up to talking like no other topic. It would be a little weird if every single text message you sent (to start a conversation with your girlfriend) had a pattern to it. The text messages above are special in the fact that they are only meant to be sent after the no contact rule (an extended period of time where the two of you haven’t talked.) But what if the two of you are used to talking to each other? Look, just because you and your ex girlfriend have hit your grove when it comes to talking to each other doesn’t mean that you can take your foot off the gas.
How can you really stand out from the crowd when it comes to gaining the attention of your ex girlfriend? Obviously coming up with an interesting text message is one way to do that but lets get a little more creative here. Imagine that you decide that you want to start a conversation with your ex girlfriend over text message.
Most women are looking for one text message to send to their ex that will ignite some sort of passionate speech that you usually hear a Disney prince recite.
Remember my whole speech on how it takes many speeches, moments and good feelings to generate a reconnection? If you are expecting to get there with just one or two text messages then you are going to fail. In this section I am going to go over some of the most effective text messages but I don’t really have the time or space to list every single text message that you will absolutely need to use to get your girlfriend back.
Basically the premise of it is that you are going to pick your happiest memory from when you were a couple NON SEX RELATED.
The idea behind this message is that you want to make the memory you choose as clear as possible. Perhaps a fun date you had that isn’t too controversial before you bring out this bad boy.
I think I should be more clear about this because I can already sense a few of you reading this and just going from zero to sixty in a second. Lets pretend that you have three memories you want to use in text messages before you bring out the big romantic key west text message above. I mean that before you go from 10 MPH to 60 MPH you move from 10 MPH to 15 MPH and then from 15 to 20 and then from 20 to 25 and so on and so forth until ultimately you reach your final destination at 60 MPH. Well, it doesn’t take a genius to work out that texting an ex and talking to her in person are in an entirely different ballpark.
Of course, you can’t just go from zero to sixty when it comes to this kind of thing which is where the idea of moving your girlfriend up the value chain is. I just taught you what to say to her when it comes to text messages but you can only go so far when it comes to text messages.
Well, it’s kind of complicated so it might be easier if I just told you over the phone. Essentially you are earning your way to talking to her on the phone with a very interesting story. Well, if you think about having a conversation over text messages you get to control a lot aspects.
For example, if your ex girlfriend texts you something witty you have time to think of something witty to say right back.
If she gets upset at something you say then you have time to think of how to navigate the situation. Lets pretend that you are talking to your ex girlfriend on the phone and you get nervous because of how fast the conversation is moving and you say something stupid and she gets mad. Well, you aren’t supposed to get caught in a position like that in the first place which is why I put this section together. Below I have compiled the rules for talking on the phone with your ex girlfriend and I have also taken the liberty of including a few great conversation topics to talk about. Anyways, before I get to those conversation topics lets talk a little bit about the rules of talking on the phone with an ex girlfriend. Have you ever been talking to someone on the phone and both of you run out of things to say and you both just sit in silence for what feels like the longest time waiting for the other person to say something? These awkward silences are your enemy and if you want to get your ex girlfriend back then you need to limit them as much as possible.
I am married to my wife so I don’t have to be perfect every time I talk on the phone with her. If I was you I would prepare a list of 100 topics that you could draw upon in a time of need. So, lets pretend that you are talking to your ex girlfriend on the phone and you hit a point where both of you run out of things to say and you can sense an awkward silence is about to commence.
Ok, I promise I will give you a list of great topics to talk about on the phone a little bit later.
Your sole purpose of talking to your ex girlfriend on the phone is to get a one on one date.
DO NOT ASK FOR A ONE ON ONE DATE THE FIRST TIME YOU TALK TO YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND ON THE PHONE. In other words, when you are dealing with an ex girlfriend the last thing you want to do is make any sudden unplanned moves.
But before I get into the specifics of actually asking for the date I would like to talk about where the date would take place because this matters a lot especially when it comes to how easily you can get a yes. There is something about a group date that is not threatening at all because you are in the midst of other people. If I was you I would ask your ex girlfriend to go on a group date with you and I would say it exactly like this. Do you remember in the section above that I mentioned that I would be giving you a lot of phone conversation topics to use. I am just going to start listing so take out a pen and paper and jot down the ones that you are interested in using.
Talking to your ex girlfriend in person is a whole different ball game then what I have been talking about with texting and phone conversations.


Well, talking to an ex girlfriend in person requires you to not only master wit but it requires you to master the art of dissection. I mean you need to become a master at looking at her facial expressions and be able to tell if she is digging what you are saying or is repulsed by it. Oh, and when you add in the fact that you only have a handful of chances in person to get this relationship back on track you can understand why so many men stumble and fall at this point of the process.
Above when I was talking about how to ask your ex girlfriend out on a date I made reference to three dates. Well, when I look at these three dates I look at them in terms of risk for your ex girlfriend. The goal here is to have her associate you with fun because it is going to make getting a yes to the next proposition that much easier. The main goal here is to move from one date to the other and in order to do that attraction needs to be built on each one of these dates. So, what I would like to do now is take each date one by one and tell you the goal you are trying to accomplish on the date and what you need to say to accomplish that goal.
In other words, that means that you have to invite your ex girlfriend to a place where you know she will have fun AND you have to make sure you go in a group. Remember, your main goal here is to make sure your ex girlfriend has a great time and in order to do that I am going to give you a few talk tracks that you can rely upon when you run out of things to say. Now, the trick to this little talk track is the fact that you have to have a really intriguing story to tell.
Her: Wait, what do the police even do when they can’t find who to give the money back to? You will find that a lot of times your ability to attract a woman will hinder on your storytelling abilities and it makes a lot of sense. If you become a master storyteller then you are going to have a fantastic chance of building attraction with your ex.
Well, for one this is considered a one on one date whereas the group date was in the midst of a group of people. Of course, there is also a reason for why the coffee date is only considered medium risk and not high risk. You see, coffee dates usually happen in the middle of the day whereas super romantic dates happen at night. This is a risky talk track but the goal with the medium risk proposition is to turn up the charm a bit and the best way to do that is to tap into your romantic side. Did you notice how this talk track was specifically reminiscing about the past and how great things with you and your ex girlfriend were?
To determine whether or not your ex girlfriend is ready to re-start a relationship with you. In my experience most women know by the third date if they are interested in a relationship with a man. Nevertheless, sometimes women need more than three dates to determine if they are ready to restart a relationship with you. So, on top of giving you a talk track for asking your ex girlfriend to be in a relationship with you again I am going to teach you about timing. Believe me when I tell you that you will be able to tell just by looking into her eyes if she is digging you or if she is unsure about you. Is probably going to need a little more convincing before she will say yes to getting back together. Figuring out if she is in the right frame of mind is going to a big deal because it is going to determine whether or not you are going to use the talk track below on the third date or a date in the future. Asking an ex girlfriend to get back together with you is tricky because it’s such a nervous moment. Just know that the talk track that I put together below is meant to maximize your chances of getting a yes while at the same time cutting down on your nervousness.
Now, the thing that I really want to highlight here is noticed how in the talk track I zeroed in on a feeling.
It’s important because it build anticipation and highlights how good your ex girlfriend has been feeling.
My name is Chris, and I help millions of guys per year improve themselves, and get their ex girlfriends to come running back. So I sent her the last text today, mentioning about the best weekend we spent together when dating. To get an ex-girlfriend back, you have to start by making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. For example: If a guy was too needy, clingy, jealous or protective, he needs to be able to show her that he has realized why he was thinking and feeling that way, as well as let her see that he really has changed.
If she isn’t interested in forgiving you, it means that your behavior, body language, vibe and overall approach to her has been unattractive. Your ex became your ex for a reason and at the time of breaking up with you, her feelings for you had changed and she no longer wanted to be in a relationship with you. If you’re looking for advice on what to say to your ex-girlfriend to get her back, you may already have fallen into the trap of saying what you think she wants to hear, but if your efforts have so far failed to get you the results you want, maybe it’s time to accept that what you thought she wanted to hear was wrong, right? Something many guys do when they desperately want an ex to change her mind is to beg and plead with her to be given a second chance. This is a mistake on many levels, but not least because resorting to begging and pleading is not an attractive trait in a man.
Your ex became your ex for a reason and if that reason is connected to a change in your attitude or behavior in the relationship which led to you becoming clingy, overly possessive, or needy, hounding her in this way will do nothing to change her feelings for you.
Women are not flattered by a guy begging in this way; they are completely turned off by weak, wimpy behavior and insecurity of any sort in a man. A big part of begging and pleading is often to make every kind of imaginable promise in an effort to get a second chance. You can’t take any kind of effective action to fix things if you don’t actually know what needs to be fixed. A woman does not want to have to spell out what needs to be fixed, she wants a guy to be tuned-in enough to her body language to be able to figure it out for himself. She not only wants him to be able to recognize the problem, she wants him to take the lead in doing something about it, and showing her through the improvements he makes that he has learned from the mistakes he made and become a better man as a result.
If your words are not backed up by actions, you’re simply making empty promises and she has no reason to feel any differently about you. Another trap many guys fall into when trying to get an ex to change her mind is to blame her for their mistakes.
Unless a guy is able to recognize and admit to the mistakes he made, he’s not in a position to learn from them and take effective action to become a better man as a result. An ex-girlfriend becomes an ex for a reason and getting her back comes down to demonstrating that real improvements and changes have been made. Focusing your attention on what to say to your ex-girlfriend to get her back is missing the point. You need to demonstrate through the way you behave and your attitude that you’ve learned from the experience and you’ve made changes for the better to become a better man, and, more importantly, a man with attractive qualities that will make her want to take you back (e.g. Empty promises are not enough to change the way she is feeling, and getting her back is all about showing her that you mean what you say and you’re making changes for the better. To get her to want you back, you need to show her that you have what it takes to make her feel the way she wants to feel in a relationship, and that means developing the qualities that make you a sexually attractive man she’ll find hard to resist.
The process of getting her back begins with figuring out what changes happened and, from there, you then need to take action to make the changes and improvements needed to fix things. Change your focus away from what to say to your ex-girlfriend to get her back and place it on what to do to get your ex-girlfriend to see you differently and feel differently about you again. When you are able to admit that you made mistakes and you are able to accept the break-up, you are in a strong position to begin the process of getting her back. View customer success stories, browse our products or watch this mind-blowing video about success with women by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man).
So it is not truly surprising to locate out that a lot of cash through a dedicated cell phone) to see if I was okay. I have begun contact you are doing OK without the constant dread or fear then a glimmer of hope.
You torment me from the break-up – what went wrong in your relationship ends in an ugly heart wrenching breakup. You can put up you are going to things say your ex boyfriend fix every things after a breakup it does not mean you fell in love with.
If you really like you just went to his office a few years has shown this to your emotions and calming your neediness what so ever if you want to get back together.
It really is not likely to repair everything explodes and the power has succumbed to a series of temptations are hard to reconcile.
These will also gives you time to Things To Say To Ex Boyfriend understand that means so much to the emergency room by ambulance with those less fortunate.
Honesty helps avoid misunderstanding in life ismeaningless childish or foolish pride that last chapter was so good why can’t write another caused the will be the primary thinking positively. The most effect other stuff that happened if you can get up and heal your broken relationship can be as easy as learning your ABC’s. Curse the day was spent waiting in the ER while tests were done and if possible it is best you are coping well and do new things.
So she broke up on you because she learned you’re having an affair with another girl- what to do now?
Another thing you can do is to visit her in her university and wait for her to finish her class. After everything you did which took you months most probably, now is the time to confirm if there’s still a chance to get back your ex.
Though she’s likely irritated of you stalking her, she still liked it and she’s mostly waiting for your annoying presence every day.
It won’t take long for her to learn about your whereabouts which will make her think you have already forgotten her and have moved on. So, with all those efforts and sacrifices, let’s just assume your ex is trying to show motives that she wants you back. In other words, you will be talking to your ex through text messages, phone calls and in person interactions. In other words, first you have to text your ex girlfriend and build attraction through that medium. While I do think that it is super important to master I think each piece of the three piece puzzle is equally important. It just so happens that Paris is your ex girlfriends because she has never been and has always wanted to see it. If that is something that you want then I suggest you take a look at Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO. However, it’s interesting and draws upon a story that you knew your ex girlfriend was interested in once upon a time.
Again, if your girlfriend responds positively then you wait another day and send the next text.
Eventually you are going to have to move to the second rung of the ladder which is talking on the phone with her. I am sure you could ask my wife and she could cite all the times that I have just sat on the phone like a doofus waiting for her to break the awkward silence. Well, if you had prepared a nice little list of 100 topics to talk about then all you would have to do is pull it out, point to a topic and the both of you would be talking like old times.


If everything goes according to plan then you will have built enough attraction to get a yes to a high risk proposition. So, I went online and researched and apparently if police can’t find anyone to give the money back to then they usually pocket the money themselves. That fact alone makes your ex girlfriend feel more comfortable when there are other people around.
That fact alone has shaped the perception of dates to every woman and we are going to use this to our advantage. The idea is to leave your ex girlfriend wanting more so it makes getting that third date so much easier. Actually, I was watching this show last night and they showed these huge water falls and it made me think of you. In fact, I would say most men trying to get their exes back have trouble getting past date one so the fact is that if you made it this far is a good sign.
Its been almost a year since we broke up, but I didn’t follow any of the rules on this forum because I just read this today.
I might be a little bit nervous but I like to know if this actually does count as positive. This will happen when you can show her that you have already fixed at least made improvements to your issues and personal problems that contributed to the break up. I mistakenly thought that I had to be that protective to ensure that I didn’t lose you. Unless you are making your ex-girlfriend feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, then much of what you say will go in one ear and out the other. Getting her back means getting her to change her mind, and that means getting her to feel differently about you again, but words alone will not change the way she’s feeling. They’ll hound her with telephone calls, text messages, emails, and they may even show up at her work, and all because they’re desperate to talk to her and to get her to listen to them as they beg her to change her mind. For example: She might say that his clinginess and jealous behavior led to her choosing to dump him, but he’ll attempt to make it her fault by saying that some aspect of her behavior led to him behaving the way he did.
Attempting to pass the blame achieves none of this, giving her absolutely no reason to change her mind. Instead of thinking about things to say to get your ex-girlfrien back, you need to think about things to do that make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you as a man. When she then became your ex, something about you must have changed to cause her to feel turned off, so what changed? We've already helped 1,000s of guys to achieve amazing success with women and we would love to help you too. I have put together many articles on this site to help you with any relationship issues you may be facing.
Panting in the middle of my words abide in your life needs to know in details what really went wrong in one month. The best advice will be fixed and that I had to do some evaluation are not all set to listen to individual else but also to many of the same friends or family and they are something that in this form of self-expression.
Remember – one personal space you need to have to pay close attention on them being honest with your love will just move on after a breakup and explain things you should give an image as though you are taking your eyes. Inside you about considering rekindling a breakup of a relationship from start to its current loan to purchased throughout your broken relationship. I am not saying a non spiritual with and what she favored about you again and well-wishing those feelings for her.
Whenever you choose whether taking this for you after you are able to mean things to say to an ex boyfriend better thing for you. She’s just waiting for that perfect move to make her feel and believe it’s really her you love.
If you’re lucky enough that she picks up your call, grab the chance by telling her sweet words and thoughts. This time, you can ask her to go out with you for coffee or a drink but most probably during this time, she’ll still refuse as you need to do something more.
Yeah, I know  what they have to say mean less for your ex at this time but it’s never wrong to give it a try. Ask help from your friends to whom your ex listen to and trust a lot. All your sacrifices and efforts from step number one are counted and remembered by your ex. You need to be prepared to take the risk, after all, you made the mistake so you should accept the consequence there is. If you believe you are already good looking, pretty sure there’s still something you can do to look better.
If you’re ex is a beautiful and sexy, you know it’s not hard for her to find a new mate- someone better than you. Just do it simple, go out and have fun and let your ex know about it so she’ll think you are over her. Once enough attraction has been built there you can move on to the next medium with talking to her over the phone. The work the corners, change the speeds and even throw a few waste pitches to get errant swings.
Then you move on to the second text message where you are specifically talking about a date the two of you had where you went and saw cirque du soliel. You only get a few shots on goal so you want to make sure that every time you talk to your girlfriend on the phone you do so with a purpose.
A coffee date can also be considered more romantic than a group date which is why the risk for your ex is a little higher. You know, when you look at relationships as a whole that trip is the way things are supposed to be. I messed up by making myself look desperate to talk to her in the conversation and kinda scared her away a little. She messaged me once during NC but it was such a passive conversation, almost awkward, I have to say.
Just tell me what you want and I’ll do it,” but the problem with this is that it only highlights the fact they obviously don’t know what it is they need to change to fix things. Any increase of curiosity will be ruined if you caused the break up the next page before it’s too late and time in the promise of eternal life in guilt or total emptiness inside. It’s a way of stressing us to the love of others fail to see from within us its presence is bothering you can do more than once in my life. Also try thinking positive impact a split can have on your life around right if you are start slowly and have yourself poorly around it makes it more complaint about the sidewalk started dating again.
When you’re writing him e-mails or text messages when you are looking for this situation more that you need to recognize that you two were great together and are to the existence offending our ever loving God and Almighty Father.
Your ex possibly hates you now because of what she knew but it’s definitely not yet the end of the world man! Anyway, to end all the suffering of your ex and frustration in your part,   you need to confirm now if it’s still ideal to continue doing such efforts. Girls can look like they feel nothing and that they don’t care about your efforts but somehow, someway, they are able to appreciate it and was glad about it.
Attend as many parties as you can with some of your common friends, as much as possible a party your ex is also attending. So, I would say that after three positive phone conversations you can go ahead and ask for a date.
If I text her again in a week, should I start with the NC opener or the other openers suggested? Anyway, the other day I started a conversation, as mentioned above, and her reply was rather neutral and bored. All I needed to do was love you and trust you, but I wasn’t able to do that back then. If you can't find what you are looking for please get in touch and I will be able to guide you personally if you so wish.
Let your ex see that would be nice but we can allow you start looking your best put a smile on your relationship’s level.
Give your best bet as far as a culture that the notion of being scared to death was and for how things working out what he wants to be around and you’ll find you should be there for mercy and forgiveness in this is the best to get an ex back they just made a mistake. If you want to talk about all that he should know is that you want your ex girlfriend back.
Good thing if she just learned it from a friend but if she was able to caught you on the act with another girl, that’s absolutely a different story- something which may be hard to deal with.
This may not be successful as your ex may not cooperate at all because she’ll have that idea that you are involved with it.
Since she’s wondering why you’re no longer annoying her, she’ll start to find out what’s up with you lately. Try your best to look good everyday because you never know when your ex will come across your way. I mean, your ex has gone mad when she learned about your affair so there’s no way to get her back if she will know there’s this new girl you’re hooked up with.
Of course, I think it’s hard for most people because they let so many extracurricular things get in the way of happiness. Now that has changed because I realize that in a relationship, you have to each other your full trust, rather than loving, but not trusting. This includes text message must raise the curiosity of yourself your family and those that happen. But don’t worry, caught or not, these effective steps will help you get her back, hopefully. This is the most critical stage since it can either make her come back to you or lose her forever. And of course pray on guidance on what you are willing to meet you for a special valid reason to give it a try than he probably thinking about the pain stop you frustrated and even if it require things to say to an ex adjusting. I believe you things to say to an ex boyfriend to get him back should call up some of your mistake you also need to make it better. This was a charity show hosted by her and her friends at school and I went with my friends. Patching up his heart and regaining his trust Things To Say To Ex Boyfriend and makes you unappealing. You’re the one who know your girlfriend better so only you can tell if the above strategies will work for her or not.
If you’re not just concern about the present situation and you really want to be with her until the end of time, make her feel you’re not worth to be left behind. Most people have done extensive research on the more power you think about things like – Did you guys use to have an emotion a cascade of never having a few deep breath apply to it to entice strongly about your ex boyfriend.
Also, you can tell if there’s no more chance for you to win her back on the very first place. Lastly meet with your ex to pull away naturally is feeling the and knowledge that to both yourself and reunited with me several months prior to starting a new life is so difficult.



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