Honoring a person’s choice to stay in an abusive relationship is a relatively new concept to domestic violence social workers and other domestic abuse helpers.
Additionally, many of your closest friends and family members may distance themselves from you if you choose to stay. You are human; a delightfully imperfect person who can do the very best you know how to do in this instant.
You do not have to accept or absorb lies, even if the lie has a grain of truth to it (see Detaching from Verbal Abuse Hypnosis MP3). You hold God’s hand, even when you cannot feel it, but sometimes you must do something differently so He can help you in another way. I’m in a bad relationship he starts fighting with me over stupid stuff we been together 5 years I have been hurt alot since we moved in with each other.
I know you said you have no way of getting to a job, no money, … nothing that you need to provide for yourself. That said, it sounds like you could use some self-esteem rebuilding as you consider your options.
If he reports you and the physical violence continues, child protective services may take the children from both of you. You must get other people involved so you have a support system to remind you he’s an abusive person and you deserve better. You pander to females but when a REAL man comes along you bury your pathetic head in the sand !! IT HAPPENS Holly and YOU had better recognize it for what it is when two long married people – the woman is on copious meds – drinks too much and then does the guy DIRT and gets away with it !! My wife did that to me LONG before her pathetic lying post from early 2015- when she lied to police in June of 2014 and posts so long after- narcissist or WHAT ?? Mark, I removed your wifea€™s name from your comment, so Ia€™m wondering if the comment you mention called her out.
I can read, however, that you are willing to abuse someone you dona€™t even know over a comment that didna€™t deserve any of my headspace.
Please find a counselor who can help you with the pain your wife caused you and your anger issues.
I have been with my husband for 28 yrs and he has always been extremely jealous and controlling. I was NEVER asked squat when they came to our home to arrest me – no questions asked. It happens a LOT and proper investigations MUST be the order of the day because many, many women do this Holly.
My wife was wrecked in meds- had no real idea what she was doing and literally told one of our daughters in law that she never should have done it the very next day or shortly after that.
What say you lady – I’ve told the truth as a loving caring man and a sick old woman I loved dearly takes me down in one fell swoop !!??
It was posted 5 months before she did her dog and pony show for the police other than our home of 35 years and a 37 yr relationship including then over 33 yrs of marriage and you tell ME you’ll not respond ??!!
My woman- my wife- I gave every sinue of my soul to – yet you tell me I need help(LOL) !!
I could give better advice in a proverbial stupor than you have at now 71 yrs of age having done my all for a good woman beseiged by medications- making her brain fried with her refusal to go back to a neurologist and you give ME advice !! Tis to weep such as you these poor REAL cases of abused women go online looking for when REAL help is already available. Victims often have unexplained physical injuries Isolation is also a common sign that battering may be occurring in the home. If this image belongs to you or is your intellectual property, please submit a copyright notification instead of reporting it. We encourage users to report abusive images and help us moderate the content on We Heart It.


Let’s just roll with this for a while and see what we can do for our mental well-being when we choose to stay. You do not have magic powers that control your abuser’s words or actions and no combination of your words or behaviors will result in an end to the abuse. However, unlike healthy intimate relationships, your significant other uses your deepest secrets against you. Search words and phrases like verbal and emotional abuse, side effects of abuse, gaslighting, crazy-making and brainwashing. Its very important to leave that relation for the sake of your future for your children’s future.
Your first (and suggested) option is to leave the house where there’s a man who will choke and hit you. Call the police TODAY to find out what happens when there’s a domestic violence situation to see if they will take you to a safe house. When you’re there, tell him or her about the abuse and your feelings of low self-worth. Get a restraining order (they DO work 70% of the time, and without one, the cops can’t do as much for you).
You didn’t direct your life down this path, a monster tricked you and dragged you down it. Anti-depressants may help you see more clearly if the doctor diagnoses you with depression, anxiety or PTSD (abuse causes all three).
However, if he reports you and you tell DCFS that you need help escaping him, they’re likely to advise you on what to do.
You will have to enforce it by calling the police if he breaks the rules, but after a few nights in jail, he may come to understand.
WHY no comment ‘Holly’ regarding LIES women tell that get men arrested for something they never did ?? Let me just say, I can hear God telling me what I have to (also need to) but have to do; “get away from him now! If so, pack his things, tell him to leave, and then you leave and go to your friend’s house. Ia€™m sure there was enough of an investigation to determine you were the one who needed to leave that time. If she charged you with domestic violence and went through with it in court (which 50% of women do not), thata€™s when youa€™d get your investigation. YOU tellME Holly – what can a man of 70 yrs do when his wife is a bomb waiting to go off and she refuses to go back to a neurologist after a STROKE !!?? But please keep in mind that reporting images that are not abusive is against our terms of service and can get your account blocked.
The reasons you stay may sound like excuses to someone else, but don’t let anyone belittle your decision to stay. Additionally, you may not be the only one to die -your abuser could murder you and then your children and anyone else on the scene. On the other hand, you might find helpers who decide there’s nothing they can do for you if you do not leave the abuser. Abusers are unpredictable and you never know when you’re going to have to get away from them.
Learning a little bit each day about how your partner manipulates and controls you lessens their ability to do it. I know I got to get out but no where to go don’t make alot of money so how can i get a place scared me and my kids will be out on the street homeless idk what to do.
We have a 4 year old daughter and now that I had a plan to leave in motion I find out I’m 2 months pregnant. It took me some time to find work, real work, and then that didn’t pay all the bills.


Perhaps the judge would issue an ex parte, a restraining order that removes him from the house. We have a lot of history and i went through a year being depressed when he first started verbally abusing me. After talking to them once or after a few times, you may think it would be good to tell someone in your life. I love him and I know I should leave but I find it extremely hard and when I do try he says he will Change or he just runs off to other girls. Figuring out stuff on your own, making mistakes on your own, builds your self-esteem like nothing else. Jesus man, my husband tried to strangle me and because there were no bruises to show (yet) they couldna€™t remove him. I have my concerns about you, but as Ia€™m no therapist or doctor, Ia€™ll keep them to myself. He is also delusional he accuses me of cheating with all his friends the gas station guy anyone that walks past my work it’s all very crazy I am afraid of him even though he usually is not violent with me but I want to leave so bad And wen I try he usually threatens me or bullies me into staying the emotional abuse is so bad I have actually considered hurting myself to make it stop. If they’re in the battle with you, they may not be strong enough to pull you out if you change your mind and leave the relationship. Thinking through a safety plan during moments of peace will help you to think more swiftly and clearly during moments of danger. You increase the effects of abuse by only hearing your abuser’s opinions, so stay connected to the world outside your home.
He’s not going to kill himself, and if he threatens to do so after you leave, give him the suicide hotline number (or if you think he is serious, call the police so they can go check on him). If his name isn’t on the lease or mortgage, call the police and they will make him leave. Start calling local help agencies to see if there are shelters available and how you get into one. It also sounds like you could be suffering from caregiver’s fatigue, which a therapist could also help you with. You could be 70 years old and wondering how your spouse is managing to exceed life expectancy, them being so miserable and nasty and all (lots of people are doing this right now).
I moved back to our home town in 2015 to be close to my teen son and to provide live in health care for my young daughters paternal grandmother who suffers from alziemers. He calls new names in front of my children and had even said he hate them and call them stupid and dumb. He airways calls me stupid, bitch, dumbass, immature, disrespectful and other stuff and acts like he never does. It was fine at first but the family allows him come in and out as he pleases with his word he isn’t drinking. HOWEVER, when I left (or rather had him put out on a domestic violence ex parte restraining order), I was able to stay in the home for about 5 months. I certainly wasna€™t going to be there alone with my ex when the cops (and their handcuffs) left the premises. He mentally breaks me down and in the recent past when I said something defending myself he sat on top of me with his knee in my face choking me. He’s never hit me in front of my daughter but he has cussed me an belittled and trashed me where she can hear it. When we began dating I had a decent home, a nice car and a good job now I have no money, no transportation to help me sustain a job, no family that can help.



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